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HIE BEE: OMAHA, TUESDAY, APRIL 20, 1915. !1 m Mr mm m. d0 1 , Importance of "Don't" and "Must" in Child Culture By DOROTHY DIX. Th lttest exponent of the new high pressure, rapid-action method of child culture, which Is seared up to such speed that it entirely eliminates babyhood and childhood and In twelve short years turns a mewling In fant Into a. human e n c y c 1 oped I a, has propounded ten com niandments for mothers. Two of these sre: "Trou . shalt not mjt 'Don't unto they thy child. , " Remember never to say "Thou Must. " Probably the lady's recipe for raisins; up young pendants is i-orrcct. Probably, If yeu start with a babe in the cradle and de vote your time to stuffing it full to .burelinjr of polysyllables and facts at 4 j time when other children are still lisp- I Ing and looking for the man In the moon, instead of discoursing about the proba bilities of there being canals on Mars. Personally I am an unrrgenerate cave women" when' It comes to babies. I adore tliem when they are pink and soft and caddy, and I. think a 6-year-old who iiasn't jot a single piece of Information ironcealed about his person is the most entertaining human being on earth, and if I had a baby that I .couldn't rock to sleep, or who didn't . believe in Fanta Onus, or who didn't talk baby talk, I thould feel that I had been cheated out of the very best thing that life can give lo a woman. None of your little Solomons In the cradle for mine. And I ahould have a clear conscience about letting my baby be a baby, and my child be a little un taught child through all that beautiful town of life,' because I was brought up on a race horse farm, and I know what happens to the 2-year-olds that are raced too early. Also I have seen so many marvellously ". precocious children- who turned Into commonplace dull men and women. However, these .ba heterodox views, and I 'am not going to argue them with any expert child culturtet. but what I do want to call attention to aro- these two ;-6mmftnarnenta to mothers: - ; ( 2.1 - i jliou ahalt not say 'don't' unto, they .mm. -: "RerhemW -never ta say thou -must ' Wot y "don't" to a child. Notsay thou must" to a child, when one-half of life Is 'don't to us, and the other half Is "thou must." ' Why. that's the trouble with the world today.- .Mfcn and women have not had it ground luto their consciousness since their earliest childhood that their Inclination and desires must not govern their ac tions, and that they ar certain things that they must not do. and' other thing that they must da simply because one Is right and the other is wrong". There Is not a man In the penitentiary, there Is not a girl on the street," who are not there because their mothers failed to say to them often enough and lmpres lvely enough, "Don't do that" and you "Must do thlr other." It Is the mothers i w.io have said "don't" and "must" to! their children, and enforced them with a strong- hand, who have raised up the men bii'3 women who have done the big things lii, the wnfld. and 'who keep law and ordi-r in It, - You don't train the prlseflghter who Is going Into the rlntf to .battle for the i harnrluriHl'lp on lollypops, or by en couraging him to sit-around on silk cush ions, and tilling: him that his opponent win be dead easy and ho won't have to exext hlniself much to win the purse. On tbe contrary, you harden his muscles by eyery known method, and impress every ounce of -strength that's In him into his punch, or else he'll be beaten to pieces. Kxactly the same method applies to children. We foredoom them to failure, if we do not strengthen their moral muscles, ' and if we bring them up to believe that they can do whatever they tieaire, and leave undone the things that rfo lie! appeal to their tastes. And that is exactly what we would do If we failed to say -"don't" to them, or "must" to tliem. ...... I never hear a mother lying to a child ruout taking a dose of medicine, and tell ing him that It Isn't bitter when she knom It is. without feeling that she is a ! criminal. She is weakening the child by lust that much. She should say, "Cer tainly tlie medicine Is bitter, but you've got to take It. All your life-long you will have to take bitter medicine, and If you make a man worth while, you've got to larn to take your medicine, however blt tr without making faoea." ' Who are th men who are the drunk ards, the rogues, the gamblers, the spendthrifts, the ne'er-do-wells T ' Without exception they are the men who were not taught the don'ts of life at tholr mother's knee, and who did not have enough moral fibre Inbred In them to make them able to resist temptation. Who are the men who are failures In the world, the men who flit from occupa tion to occupation, and office to office, icauae ' when the thing they have un dertaken to do loses Its novelty, and set tl.: down to the hard, steady pull of every -day tell, they have not the grit and endurance to go on with It? It la those nien who have never been taught in their childhood "musts' of life. Who are the women who go running) hrnne to mother and the divorce court the minute the romance vanishes from mat rlmo'iy, and they find out that it meant telf-denial, and self-sacrifice, and work, and worry, and patience. Instead of just teing a billing aad cool nr. and flattery? It la the woman whoa mothers haven't aid "don't to them and "must" to them, hu hate never been taught that duty coeiie txfore Inclination. v'TJjn't". and ."must," these words are l'rd fsr too seldom on mothers' li.. ' If voii eboIUh them altogether we shall re vert to saverv, for all civilization is built uihjb "di-n'ts" and "musts " FT It- S T ... French Lick Spring Girl Society folk who Journey 'to French Lick Springs to take the waters are usu ally, .accompanied by several . pieces of baggage the contents ef which In the course of tin-e are unpacked and aired, on occasions of morning, afternoon or even ing; affairs of a more or less social na t,,r. - . - ' For example, an extremely charming frock appeared the other afternoon, worn by an extremely tall, good-looking young! woman hailing from New Tork. . About the hips the material was ad Justed In a series of very fine tucks to give a flat line thereabouts aad to pro vide the flaring tendency to the hem. About the latter there was placed a four Inch', band of dark blue velvet - ribbon. Read it Here See By speclsl arrangements for this pane a photo-drama corresponding to the in stallments of "Runaway Jane" may now be seen at the leading moving picture theatera. By arrangement with th Mu tual Film Corporation It is not only pos sible to read "Runaway June" eaolt week, but also afterward to see moving pictures Illustrating our story. Copyright. U16. by Serial Publicattii Corporation. SYAOi-ats June, th bride of Ned Waraer. Im pulsively leaves her husband en their honeymoon because ah begins to realise that aha must be dependent oa hlra for money. She deaire to be independent June Is pursued by Gilbert HI ye, a wealthy married man. She escapes from his clutches with difficulty. Ned searches distractedly for June, and, learning ef Hive's designs, vows vengeance on film. After many adventures June la rescued from liver pirates by Durban, an artist. She poses as ths "Spirit of th Marsh," is driven out by Mrs. Durban and Is kid naped by Blye and Cunningham. June escapes, tries sweatshop work and Is dls- Sossesned by her landlady. Blye finds une In her tenement home aad drive Cunningham away. FIFTEENTH EPISODE. "At last. My Lot)!" CHAPTER I.-(Continued. They all had to repeat it again and again before they could reach his daxed Intelligence. He had seen but two objects in all this huge room, crowded with Its moving picture machines. Its properties, its scenery, Its banks of strange lights, snd those two objects had been his runaway bride and Gilbert Blye. June! She stood now supported by her father and mother, her large, lustrous eyes turned apptallngly on Ned, waiting the moment when she dared approach him acaln-' "Don't you understand, Ned 7" aha fran tically cried. "Won't you understand? It's a motion picture play!" - Slowly he turned his glassy eye In her direction. He comprehended at last, but there waa no softening In his face, for there atill stood the dark, handsome Gil bert Blys. Ned mad a sudden lunge for his enemy,' but Officer Dowd, watching him narrowly, atopped him. "Tou have been with that man ever sine you left me!" savagely charged Ned, turning suddenly toward the trem bling June and shaking hi finger at her. In th studio above a scor of Indignant eyes turned on Ned Warner and there was a loud chorus ef protest as he pointed accusingly at his unhappy run away bride. ... "What do you mean?" demanded th cold stem voloe of Gilbert Blye, and he advanced, his black eyes glowing. "This girl has done no wrong!" They all talked at one, and they all talked indignantly at Ned Warnsr Tommy Thomas, the ahlte mustached Orln Cunningham, the round headed Ed- wards. Marie. Officer Dowd. Bubble and whoso rich cerulean hue was In marked contrast with the dainty, whit silk hos iery of l he wearer. The- blouse of this fetching frock showed the upper part made entirely of whit c,hlffon cloth and crossed over the shoulders by hand of th velvet rtbboa. which wore connected to th lower sec tion of the bodice, mad as the striped silk. Th sleeves of chiffon were short and finished with a soft CrtU, and the V neck likewise showed this soft, becoming garniture. With this gown waa worn a hat of gray totfal, faced wtth dark Mu satin and something of a sailor shape, though differing from th early models of that name, . It at the Movies. Iris Blethering and all th camera men and member ef th Blye Stock company. According to them June Warner was th weeteet and best little wife any man dared wish far end kf Ned Warner chose to criticise her In any way he weald have to answer to every person heps. In cluding; fat old black Aunt Dabby, who breasted straight up to him, waddling ' her voluminous self defiantly from aid to side. Looky hyah. you. Mr. Ned!" she flared, and Bouncer, who had been rush ing around the separaed bride and groom, stopped t bark ferociously up at Ned. "Alln't that Mane been with ouh honey ever sine she don com an' got her clothes? Ain't you got any gumption? Why. looky hyah. If you say a word about our Miss Junte I'll Jest about squash you!" Stern John Moor opened bis arms. "My daughter." he said, "com bora." Mother and daughter wept la each oth er's arms. CHAPTER II. "Ned!" It was a pathetic uttl figure which turned appealingly to scowling young man. Her big eyes were full of tears. "It was all a mistake, dear!" - She choked back her tears, and there was a tens silence, in which Ned Warner stood with cold eyes and folded arms, waiting "Oh. Ned, can't I make you see and understand?" And there was a piteous wlstfulness about her. "We were all sappy on that flay or our wedding, so happy as we started on oar honeymoon trip! And when we stood alone in the Pullman drawing room, surrounded by our whit-robblned luggage, there seemed to bo no cloud In our sky!" "Then why did you leave me?" Ned Warner's vole was harsh. "It waa th money I'' Her Up trembled. "Don't you remember when I missed my purse? The porter earn la Just than, and you gave him' dollar. When be went ut you gave ma $, and In Juat the same generous way you gtv It to th negro. Tb difference was $3." They were all atartled by the force ef th eamparisoB. Only Gilbert Blye smiled, and th smile did not escape Nsd. "Do you re room bar I cried and yu put my naed en your shoulder? Ton thought I waa tired, but I cried from humiliation. I felt Ilka a beggar. I realised that for th rest of my llf I would have to accept gifts of money from you. Then I dreamed about It. I dreamed that I was a ltou little beggar, always holding out sny palm for alma: that I was receiving pay for helng your wl'e. Just as mother paid Aunt Debby and Maria." Both Aunt eliby and Maria sniffed sympathetically. ti Cuntluued lumoriuw.) The Man and the Tiger & Look at These Skeleton and Bee How Like They Are MHM'Ha''-Ma'IIIIM-M-Mia-l-HiaaiM-t)L"sMn The anatomical likenoss Bonnier. The two illustrations By GARRETT P. 8EUY I8S. If you put the skeleton of a man and th skeleton of a tiger side by side, and bring the former down upon all fours, aa Prof. Bonnier has done In his book on "The Descent of Man," you get a start ling visual argument In favor of the evo lutionary theory of man's orlain from lor forma of life. Tiger snd man are both vertebrates, er back-boned animals. To the expert eye of ths anatomist many Important varia tions between them are visible, st a glance, but to the ordinary observer, look ing hastily, th likeness seems to far ex ceed the difference. Tb general plan Is the same. ' Back bone, linking the whole system of .bones together, like the keel of a ship; neck. sustaining the head; skull, enclosing the brain; four limbs, for locomotion and manipulation; a cage of rib-benes, to pro tect th lungs and other vital organs all these things are common, not only to the tiger and the man. but to many other forms of vetebrata animals. The tlkeneas goes still further, and Includes many phy siological functions, when we compare the various vertebrates that fall under the classification of mammals, or animals which nourish their young with their own milk. This Includes all warm-blooded quadrupeds; an astonishing circumstance In showing how vast la the circle of human relationship. When nature got ready to produce man sh evidently had all the necessary anatomical and physic iloglcaV plana, ma terials, and mechanisms . handy. In her workshop. She had no fundamental ex periment to try.- Legs, arms, lungs, head, vertebrae, ribs muscles, eyes, ear. swtvel-Jolnts, sockets, fingers, toe, stomachs and nerve, had all been tested and Btanardtsed, and ' sh had only ' t mak certain adjustments and varia tions In order to produce an Improvement on bar saonkey aad aneei-whtob ehe-had already started off on that particular road ef evolution which man waa to render s glorious. It really look as though man was the result of a sudden. happy thought. Natvr had been working; millions ef year with a very wonderful material, nervous tissue, which possessed prop erties which, on could almost Imagine, surprised natur herself. 6h dealt with It sometimes in a gin gerly way. as If ah war distrustful ot It When sh began to collect It In bat teriea. so to speak, It showed marvellous powers, gh hardly seamed to bav known what to do wtth It at first. One she put a nerve-battery In the middle of th long backbone ot the huge, lumbering monster called Stegosaurus, but left him with his head poorly furnished. It Iwaa no place for a brain, as she quickly dis covered. Then she put It where It be 'feSj-ft ,l!;,,il ty:iiliiiii'iii:iiii!j;!i!l! SttnHnmmmmiinniHiiimHfniniiiiiiii H " fl" 'HI!- !' i.-.i urn '.tiiiiiiHiiiisM jp. ? !!iiu ; hhM!H!!U J - Hi Si'.-.tfci'l llhWiHI!. i:Hi!ll,i.,J jY . t .. . '- II II till llilifii nil t- I , j' J flfilf : - f;-v: i-i Ii ' : jliii h"ii!!h!:-'Ji jkv -'" .:'''t-: i ' ' ii 111 ' MfiiMt 1 1 ' Hi tr --.vVv lHlir: ' ' 1 ' " ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' :.. . it it nitt i ft 1 1 1 1 lit 1 1 1 . i . i i y Mil.. . ihi I,-: -; -V, iii' ..:!!.' f 'l V , . r, - " r ' 1 ' ? p I" til' i t 1 ' ' - ' i 'Ii I ' 1 I ' I II 1 . ' i ti ii ni ii K ' ,'' Hill' Hill- i I - ' , I i I Until! " . "lis,"! i :t I 'h 1 III !h "..''v:'-'-:v..-v"l 'Mi 11 -' S V between man and the ticrr a here given are intended, in a measure, to prove his theory. longed in the skull of a four-limbed dlmbmg cmaturo, whose rapid advance convinced her ef the value of wits to an animal. The hint waa out. Henceforth man wa In the air of Invention. II waa sure te arrive. If w loo back at tb skeleton of th tiger and trio man, w see Just on vast and manifest difference between them, and that ! found In th head or skull. Th comparison la amailng. Low brutal ity sneak from on of those bony cages, snd high intelligence from th other. Tet the skeletal bones of th two creatures, excepting th skull, are so like la appear ance and In th functions they have to perform that. If you cut off th head and tall, you might think that It waa Hob son's choice as to which waa th better Th humsn characteristic are Im printed on the man' skeleton, but on can see that they era th result of habit aad adjustment Th man has learned, er been Impelled, to walk erect, and hla backbone has In consequence acquired; Advice to Lovelorn Certainly. Dear Miss Fstrfaxi X am In love with a young lady IT year of age. Although I love ber very much, I am afraid to stand talking with her, because my com panlona tease me about her. In which they call her all sort of names. hMl I give her up? IN DOUBT. If you will let your companions make tun of her, and tea you, you must gtv her up by all meana. Tour attitude proves you havaa't th courage t defend her. That Depends F1nce. Dear Miss Fairfax) I am a young man, 9 year of age, In lov with a girl two yeara younger then I am. I have pro posed to her, and she ba accepted me. Our parents agree to th match. Would It be all right for ua to get married? X. T. . If yeu are financially able to keep a wife, and th girl aad her parents are w illing, . there Is no reason why you should not marry thai I can see. . Doal Olv Hla Up. Dear Miss Fairfax: I am IS and have been going out with a young man sla months my senior. He has had a great habit of drinking. I have apoken to him and ha gave it up. A week age a friend of hie, mother of a family, lav a beer party, which ha attended after he left ma Now I am disgusted with him. I have been going with hlin for four years, and would hat to give him up, but I have given him th on ehanos, aad he has consumed that chance. U I Don't b so stern and unforgiving wtth a boy of It who love you and I prob When Johnny goes to ScEoSl Trouble takes a fresh grip on the household and : worry brings more wrinkles to mother's brow. The problem of getting the youngsters off to school is simple and easy if the mother knows Wedded Wheat the whole wheat cereal that is ready-cooked and ready-to-serve. One or more Biscuits, heated in the oven to restore crispness and served with hot milk, make a delicious, nourishing meal to play on, to study on, to grow on, arid builds robust, sturdy boys V-'lv-.v. remarkable eomnarifu-m hr Prof. different curvature than that ot the tlger'a Many of bis other bones and Jointings have been varied to suit his special need, but no logical wind ran escape the conclusion that hla anatomical structure was contrived for other animals long before he appeared, and that when he came he Ind to take up with the general plan t. 't already existed for all vertebra tea, which Is ' simply modified and worked over to give him a better fit Th only thing that underwent a sepa rat and altoget!ter novel develop ment was, anatomically, the .skull, and, phyaotoglcally, th brain The . whole central Idea of man as distinguished from the lower animals Is there. A question of overpowering and universal Interest remalna: Whan the gift of an almost infinitely superior brain was bo stowed upon th human apeelee, did an other and Incomparably greater gift ae. company It. vis; aa Independent spirit temporarily Inhabiting this superior body, but not subject to Its mortality? By Baatrkt Fairfax ably trying to eradicate his fault. If his drinking means drunkenness. It would be unwise te marry him. But If It means no mora than toollah eotf-iadulgence and yeu put him out of your llf without being patient and trying to help him overcome th sad habit, you may drive hint to th coasolatioa of th weakllng mora drink t Be patient Don't marry him. until he Is master ef himself. UaagTa with Theaa. Dear -Mis Fairfax: Am tl, but have never ever eome th tendency to blush ing and bashful neae, particularly In re gard to tb girls. My friends reem to enjoy making this a point of attack. What can I do? H. M Tell your friends you know you are bashful, and laugh with them. It noth ing to be ashamed 'ef. Tou will find yourself cured after a time. If. you meet many girl on a plane of . good com radeship you wilt seen get aver blushing. Da't Do It. Dear Mis Fairfax: Would M be proper to giv a man th first present? He was far away when my birthday was, and did not give me anything. He never men tioned anything about it, although he knew I bad a birthday. AJUICB. The custom of giving promiscuous pre. nts on every occasion la foolish, ex travagant and ahould b dtsootiraged. Bend him a birthday card, or a not of congratulation. and girls. Two Shreddetl Wbsskt Biscuits, hti..c . . tae; oven to restoro crupnoss, serred with hot milk or cretin make a complete, nourishing:, talisf jrin metJ at a total cost of fivo or six cents. Also delicious with fruit. TRISCUIT is the Shrodddd Wheat Wafer, eaten as a toast with butter or soft cheese, or as a substitute for white flour bread or crackers, - Made only by The Shredded Wheat Company, Niagara Falls, N. Y. Men and Women on Same Moral Plane By KM. A wnRFXEB VHLMtX. Copvrlght. ll Star Company. The oM, old anewton I present. Just whet is a man's .duty toward the girl who hea failed t keep his We of her : en Its pedestal. Here Is the situation I on ef many. also. Th man and the girl both leld4 to th re, I of the snes. The girl ' failed to keep her self-respect and the men failed to j keep his res put for her; the man ! has deserted her; he thinks she is no longer his Meal; that she dee not represent the wo man he wish to become the mother ef his children. -Just what ahould the man do under - unh circumstance is the question pro pounded. The girl still loves him. This la a Urge question snd Involve very msny other questions. If motherhood stares this girl In the face, there la hut en Just thing fer the man to do. He must protect his unborn child aad glv tt the right to hear his nme. even If h leaves th unloved mother at th church door. Although he may belters that th woman is ae much In fault as ha for th deplorable condition In which sh find herself. If he hss a spark of manhood In hla heart he mrisx realise that en her fall the . greater penalty. He must realise how desperate I th situation in th eyes of the world of aa unwodded mother. The child born under auch cir cumstances I el way branded. Iet him. at least, be man enough to glv the unfortunate woman the protec tion which lie In the aimpl prefix of "Mm" to ber nam; and let bmt five his child the small yet large benefit of knowing that the mother did wear this prefix at the time of It birth, even though , he never -sees mother or child afterward. ... Th modem girl Is seMem s Innocent In mind and thought that she falls from her pedestal ' through tgnoranos. "Our dally papers. Our moving picture shows, bur police court report, our conversation In the home, all are of a nature to In form th growing yeang mind on th sub ject of sex relations. ' Men know thli and they accordingly beltev that the girt who falls Is awtis of what sh Is doteg. But th mere knowledge of the relations doe not protect a girl from danger. ' H I only when her mother er wise guar dians hav taken her tat their confi dence snd made her understand thi saerednees ot the body, the sarredncs of demonstrations of affection and t'i holiness which Is attached to wifehood and motherhooJ that the girl hi abso lutely protected from those temptation which come within and from without. Men have been taught since the begin ning of history that all kind of Im purities af conduct ran be indulged l by them- without unfitting men to be worthy huaband and fathers. They have been taught at th m time that a woman must go spotless to her husband In order to be worthy ot occupying the position of his wife and th mother of hla children. . A greet change . ha com 'over the thinking world on these subject in th last scor of year.;' Imrai aad dlaeo Jute men tfr not a popular with women as they one were; aad ttv girl who has mad a mis -stop m given a better aaao for reformatio aad reloetateaieTSt so cially than ever before. Many-roe) have married gtrla wheea descent from the pedestal ef vtrtu they have paused, and found them worthy wtve aad mothers oar afterward.. ' i,- i-r v k; t -' " ' it . t sU ?-l-Wis