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Ella Wheeler
Wilcox on
Advice to School Girl
About Her Studies
and Her Atti
tude to Her
Teacher
By ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.
Copyright, 1913,
by American-Journal Examiner.
To a School Girl: You tell mc you hate
Latin, and ask me If I think you should
spend so much time on a dead language
when thcro Is not time enough for all
tho things you Ions
to study.
My Ideas of cdu
catioji for gira co
not coincide with
thai- ot many peo- '
pie.
Had' I a daugh
ter, I should begin
la make her a lin
guist as soon as
she could talk; and
her schools would
be selected for that
purpose In tho
main..
It is all very well
to say wo can
travel the world
over with only tho
English language In our brains and on
our tongue's end, but I assuro you, my
dear girl, travel is Intensified in pleasure
and profit 10 per cent by every language
wo know.
Bosldes this, familiarity with other
languages gives a woman numberless
opportunities for enjoyment, for useful
ness and for shining as a planet amonc
stars.
If you are looking forward to a social
career, nothing can be more valuuble to
you than acquaintance with languages;
and if you a,ro expecting to bo self-supporting
you will find a linguist who reads
and writes two languages besides English
has many" more desirable chances for
gaining a good salary than one who
knows only English.
Therefore, I would ad.'lse you to apply
yourself to your Latin earnestly; and
then It will bo less of a labor to acquire
the French, Spanish, Italian and Ger
manone or all of them. Hut unless you
mean .to study some language 1 see no
benefit In -your giving time to Latin.
He thorough In English, and study its
niceties.
Do not be stilted or pedantic; but no
matter what sort of slang and coarse
ness your associates may Indulge in and
think It "smart." In tho American way
of applying that word, avoid all loose and
sloppy language aB you would avoid
soiled clothing.'
The rarity of good English (or good
American), among our high school and
college graduates Is shocking and hu
miliating to ono who takes pride In be
ing an American.
The rarity of well placed voices is
equally shocking and ear-bruising.
An Important part of your education
should be In learning how to use your
vocal organs In speaking.
It Is being taught by specialists today;
and you should consider it an Imperative
duty to begin now In this course.
Find time Saturday, each week, if you
have no other free hour, and get the
rudiments of voice placing, before you
forni bad habits of speaking with a
nasal, or a throaty, or a heady voice.
An agreeable speaking voice Is one of
the greatest charms you can cultivate.
In your association with other girls
you would feel deeply hurt If any one
accused you of being common In your
looks or actions. Then avoid the com
monest qualities possible In a human be
ing Jealousies and gossip.
Teach yourself to praise freely and
criticize rarely; and when you have a
criticism to make, make It only to one
whom you feel can be helped by your
words to overcome a tm It never be
hind the back of the offender.
Learn to sympathize with your school
mates In their trials, but also learn what
.Is. harder still to rejoice with them when
they surpass you In any achievements, or
win any prlxes for which you may bo
seeking.
Root out envy and Jealousy from your
nature, and know In so doing you will
make yourself more lovable and more ad
mired than by attaining the highest
school honors
Character building Is a greater work
r-v a
Father
oh! int That OANCrr
IT'S m.u the ra;e in
ociett to hve a
nonhex for afct-"
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I Precaution Against Lightning
By GAKHETT I'. KEHVISS.
A ludy writes me that sho nurrowly
escaped being struck by lightning some
years ago, and now she Is in mortal ter
ror every time the season for thunder
storms approaches.
and she wishes to
know what pre
cautions one ought
to tako In order to
avoid danger from
this source.
At the same time
a man writes that
he unl hln family
like to spend the
hot months In the
country nenr a
Bmall body of
water, but, having
heard that water
attracts lightning.
they are nervous about It. nnd much of
their summer pleasure Is destroyed by
fear of thunderstorms
Everybody know? people wh rare ut
most paralyzed whenever ii thunderstorm
Is raging about them, and since the sea
son of such storms Is not far off, and
Does Marriage Bore You?
By DOBOTHV DIX.
Why Is It that men find matrimony
more of a bore than women do? They
do, you know.
The woods, to say
streets, are full of
wife deserters,
while you hardly
ever hear of a
woman who de
serts her husband
and children.
It Is the men
who find domes
ticity so dull that
they forsake their
fireside of an even
ing for the club or
corner saloon. 1
It Is the woman
who read up on
politics and baso
ball so that they
may be able to
talk Intelligently
nothing of tho city
X
and Interestingly
to their husbands. No man ever posts
himself up on the fashions so that he
can hold a heart to heart conversation
on draped skirts nnd wired collars and
Interrogation point feathers with his
wife.
It Is women who live In deadly fear
that their husbands will get tired of
them and run off after somo straight
fronted young girl when they get fat
and forty. You never observe any man
worrying over the danger of his wlfo
getting weary of him because he's gotten
middle aged and bald-headed and bny
wlndowed. It's men that yawn their heads off after'
dinner if they stay at home, nnd who
either lie down and gn to sleep qn the
couch or doze over their newspapers.
Why Is this? Are women more stupid
than men? Aro they less entertaining
conversationalists? Ar- they personully
less attractive than men?
Perish the thought. ftlll. the truth
remains that the feminine constitution
appears to stand the wear and tear of
matrimony better than the masculine one
than brain building.
He ready to share your best friends
with others, and do not be ona ot those
exacting and unreasonable girls who
wants no one to love or be loved by her
friends but herself.
In every community and school such
types are common, and It always savors
of prettlness and lack of broad, und noble
qualities. Just as each flower In the gar
den has Its place, so each friend and
acquaintance has n place; nnd no one
should crowd another.
He helpful wherever you can, and b
appreciative of tho. hard work your
teachers have done and are doing to fill
their positions. Teaching Is one of the
most trying and nerve-taxing of occu
pations; and If you show consideration,
affection and courtesy to your teachers'
It helps to lessen their troubles and. gives
zest to their laborr
Even as a pupil, remember, you have
something to give as well as something
to receive. .
THE BEE: OMATTA, SATnrDAY'APKTL
Jme jaazi ig p)a
- POT
ALU RkJHT I
there is Ho way known to sclenco of pre
venting their occurrence, It is worth
while to recall some .of the facts that
have -been lenrned' about ' them.
A flash, a bolt of lightning Is simply n
discharge of electricity, resembling that
which may be produced, on a small scale,
by accumulating a charge on the con
ductor of uu electric machine, nml then
bringing some object nenr. to which the
electricity will leap like a crackling
thread of flame.
In the ens" of lightning the place of
the charged conductor Is taken by nn
electrified cloud, and the earth beneath
serves as the object which "draws Its
flr- "
Hut tho strength of the dlschnrgc de
pends upon the density of the charge
,on tho conductor. Tho charge resides
, upon tho surface, and If more and moro
electrification Is given to the same con
ductor the density Increases until tho
stmln upon tho surrounding air becomes
so great that It can no Idnger be borne,
nnd then a discharge takes place through
the air, which Instantly relieves the
strain by lowering tho pressure.
Now, on a thunder cloud, which Is
does. Yet matrimony Is harder upon tin
women than It Is upon men, and the wife
Is called upon to make a thousand sacri
fices where tho husband has to make but
one.
No other work on earth Is so monoton
ous rs housework, tho constant doing
over of small tasks that liavo to be done
1 (again tho next minute, nnd that show no
i tangible result. The housewife cannot
point to the dinners she has cooked and
j her family have eaten; the clothes she
I has wnshed and mended, and they have
'soiled and torn again; the floors sho has
swept, and that have been littered the
next hour, as the result of 4 her labor.
Women, too, nre more grateful for kind
ness from their husbands than husbands
are for attentions from their wives. A
woman with a really appreciative hus
band goes about beating upon cymbals
and calling on her friends to observe how
blessed she Is, whereas a man takes
everything that a good wife does for
him as no more than his due.
The average wife has the longest hours
of any worker In tho world, the smallest
amount of outside diversion nnd the least
pav, and yet she finds matrimony not
only endurable, but a blessed estate,
while the one best bet Is that the average
I indti Knanria Viln limn wnndprlncf what
made htm fool enough to saddle himself I
i
with a wife.
In the discussion of this subject that
has been going on, hundreds of letters
have been received from both men an 1
women. Almost every letter written by
a man says emphatlcully that matrimony
Is a bore, and that a man Is a fool to get
married, while tho women's letters are
a "paean of praise of the happiness of
wedlock.
Here are samplei of the opinions of
men on the question.
A man who signs himself A. W. writes:
"Is matrimony n bore? It certainly Is,
If lifter a hurd day's work the husband
comes home to a complaining wife In
stead of to a home where he can rest.
A woman knows (or If she doesn't she
ought to) that after she Is married she Is
bound to have trouble. Now, then, she
ought to marry with the resolve that she
will bear her matrimonial worries the
best she can without adding them to her
husband's. It a man la In business for
himself he has business troubles; If he
Ih a laborer he has a hard time keeping
his Job from a younger man. All men
have enough troubles without having
their wives' worries. In short. It Is
enough for a man to support his family
without his wife making life a bore to
htm by ceaseless complaining. It's the
wife's fault that matrimony is dull."
Another man writes:
"Of course, matrimony Is dull. It's
worse than dull, It's purgatory. I am
a hard-working man, and after trouble
after trouble during the course of tho
day I come home to a dissatisfied wife,
only to be badgered by her fault-finding
and nagging. I stand by my marriage
vows for better of worse, and were it
not for the fact 'that I have two children
believe her tongue would drive me In
saiie. What Is life with a woman of this
sort, who nags all the time, no matter
how hard I try to please hsr? When I
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composed of billions upon billions of
minute particles of vapor, each of which
hus contributed Its electrical charge , to
the common stock, "the density, or po
tential, becomes enonnous; and, when tho
discharge takes place, the flash may ex
tend several miles through thfe air.
The small discharge from nn electrical
machine will burn particles of dust, or
demolish minute objects. H will nlso
produce a severe shock In the human
body. Hut the gigantic discharge from
a thunder cloud will Instantly kill men
nnd larger animals, tear off tho branches
or rend the trunks of great trees, hurl
down chimneys nnd towers, destroy roofs,
melt lion rods nnd chains, and set flro
to buildings nnd haystacks.
It was not until Franklin invented the
lightning rod that men knew any way to
ward off tho strokes of lightning. The
lightning lod does Its work by providing
an easy road for tho electric discharge.
When properly constructed It may even
prevent too great nn accumulation of
potential In the clouds nbovo by gradu
ally drawing off their electric charge.
According to Prof. G. F. Barker, Rn
effectlvo way to protect an ordinary
JJ
come home at night very seldom are my
meals ready sometimes I havo to wait
nn hour or two for my dinner. I cannot
stand this, and though I dearly love my I
two little children I am thinking o'
leaving home arid going to some distant
land."
And here's nnother man who escapM
marrying when he wns In IiIh salad
days, and who Is offering up thanks for
his luck. Ho snys:
"I know from my own experience that
If I had married nt Myeors, when I had
a bad cose nf 'puppy love,' I would not
be In tho clrcuniRtancos that I now am.
Hod I mm-rled this girl In my boyhood
days I would have been burdened with a
family and compelled to keep my nose
to tho grlndstono to make both ends
meet. Instead of that, by staying single
I was able to save a llttlo money, and
when opportunity came my way to take
advantage of It and mako nn Investment
that hns made my fortune.
What do the readers of Tho Hee think T
Oo they think that matrimony Is a bore,
nnd that men tire of It quicker than
women do? And If so, why?
On Bad Habit of Apologizing Too Much
By VIKGINIA TEBHUNE VAN DEBATER.
The apology has become a nuisance.
This may sound brutal, but It Is true.
Not tho humble apotogy which the
wrongdoer makes to tho person he has
wronged. That Is dignified nnd to be re
spected. But the needless apology with
which we are all familiar has become a
nuisance.
"I don't like to take a meal In Mrs.
Blank's house," said a woman the other
day, "for she npologlzes for everything
Mie rets before one. It Is, 'I am afraid
there is too much salt In this soup,' or
'Oh, dear, this meat Is tough! I nm so
sorry: or, My. dear, tins is a very plain
dinner. I hope you will pardon me for
having such a simple meal tonight.'
And all tho time everything Is us tilro
as It can be, mid the only things I can
not excuse aro her excuses.
A woman who does not apologize ex
cept when courtesy and common sonae
demand it gave a dinner on tho evening
of the day that a new cook had been
Installed In her kitchen. To her secret
dismay the strawberrles-the first of tho
reason wer brought to the table heaped
In the center 'of a' platter plentifully
garnished with parsley.
"What did you say?" asked tho friend
to whom the hostess mentioned the In
cident the followlng'daj. y
"Bay? Nothing) .1 had .a right to garnish-
my strawberries' with anything I
chose. I let my guests suppose It was
an Innovation a new thing In decorations
If they thought anything at all about
It. I certainly did not call attention to
my cook's mistake."
.She' was a wine woman. The habit of
apology, If perslited In, affects one's
self-confidence, for one' at last ussumes
a deprecatory attitude about herself and
her possessions, She Tears that she
"doesn't look just right"' .when iutjgoes
10, 1013.
Drawn for The
Indoors is the Safest Place Skua All
Trees, Wire
houso from lightning Is to run gal
vanized Iron telegraph wire "up nil the
corners, nlong nil the ridges nnd eaves,
and over all the chimneys, taking theso
wires down to earth In several places,
and at each place burying a load of coko
around tho wire In order to establish
an efficient connection with tho ground."
Theso wires should terminate above In
sharp points, elevated several feet. The
'Object of all this Is to furnish rendy ways
for the electricity to travel between the
clouds and the earth. Travel It, will,
somehow, If It takes a fnncy lo go In
that direction, nnd If the way Is nut
open It will open It by force. Hut It will
usually follow an Iron wire. If It has no
sharp turns, as obediently as a led child.
Thcro Is danger,' however, In being near
a lightning rod when a discharge tokos
placo through It, because the human body
(s a fairly good conductor, and nn over
flow current from the wire would bo apt
to leap to It.
As to personal protection, without re
gard to lightning rods, tho safest place
In a thunderstorm Is In a house. Keep
tho doors nnd windows closed. Avoid
the neighborhood of stoves, chimneys and
fireplaces, especially If n fire Is burning'
Concentrated Wealth
By 1)11. C. H. I'ANKIIUltST.
Shortly after tho celebrntlon of tho
late Cyrus Field's golden wedding I hap
pened to meet him somewhere downtown
and our conversation naturally turned
the public
event which had
Just transpired,
und which had
meant so much to
him, especially be
cause of the large
number of cable
grams which he re
ceived from notable
people in Englund
congratulating him
on his success In
laying tho first
oceanic cable.
He whnt on to
speak of the ob
stacles which he
had encountered In
the course of that
achievement. tho
money which ahd
largo
been
amount
required
of
In
order to carry It through, and wound up
with tho emphatic declaration that It
-.JJ
abroad; she feels that her own home
Is not as handsome, as her neighbor's
house, and Intimates as much; she at last
gets to the point whero she Is content
with nothing that belongs to her. And
all the while her long-suffering friends
pat her figuratively speaking on th?
back and try to reassure her.
"Do not apologize," advised a wise man,
"unless you have been guilty of actual
wrongdoing. It lowers your self-respect."
Not long ugo I heard a woman say of
a piece of work Into which sho had put
her best efforts:
"Therel That Is done oh well as I can
do It. It may not be as excellent as
somebody else could have made It. but I
know It Is as good a thing as I am cap
able of nt present. So I offer no apolo
gies for It."
Was that not tlin sane and honest stand
to take, and was It not more pleasant to
her hearers than to have her deprecate
that she hud done "so poorly?" When
ono has performed any task to the best
of one's ability there Is no reason why
one should not acknowledge the truth.
It ono Is nt heart and In effort sincere,
he need not be ashamed. After all,
nothing Is really contemptible except af
fectation and sham.
An attitude of self-npproclutlon Is en
tirely compatible with true modesty A
man need not be conceited to be award
that he ha done well.
A great artist was exhibiting a painting
he had Just completed.
"That is a beautiful picture!" exclaimed
a friend to hlin,
"I know It, und I love It," was the
painter's naive rejoinder
"What a l retty dress tlmt Is you have
onl" said ono woman to unothcr.
Bee by George
CArt.i I'M
TRAINING 'IM
IP HE COME. IN
WITH THE CROWLER
Juai tHAKqE IT
Fences and Umbrellas
In them. Itrinaln In the center of tho
room. On not carry largo metallic ob
jects In tho hands, and keep away from
such objects In a room.
Franklin, who knew as much about
lightning aH any man that ever lived,
advised sitting In a chair, In tho mlddlo
of the room, nnd putting the feet up In
nnother choir. Hut tho best protection
of nil, according to him, is to have "a
hummock, or swinging bed, suspended by
silk cords, equally distant from the walls
on every side, from the, celling and floor."
If you nre enught In a thunderstorm
In tho open, do not carry an umbrella,
nnd do not tako shelter under a lonely
tree, or a smnll group of trees. Keep
away from wlro fences. Many cattln
havo been killed by lightning striking,
or following, such fences.
There Is moro danger, nenr a body of
water than In the midst nf dry land, but
by keeping Indoors one may feel scours
even on tto shorn of a lake or river.
Statistics In nil countries show that
the number of meil killed by lightning Is
far greater than tho riuinb'or of women,
nnd tHe reason undoubtedly Is that the
latter nre less apt to he raught out of
doors by a storm.
takes a great deal of money to accomplish
Inrgo results and that even then the un
dertaking will be a failure unless tho
large money In at the disposal of a sin
gle mind nnd is principally the contents
of one man's purse, and not an accumu
lation of pennies collected by passing
around the hat among a crowd of the
linpecunlouB,
Thero Is nmong us n rather widely pre
vailing feeling of antagonism toward
thoso who aro Immensely rich, and that
feeling Is very often thoroughly Justified.
It Is Justified when their wealth hns
been accumulated by dlshononiblo means
and Is the sum total of whnt hns been
overbearingly extracted from the pockets
nf thoso having smnll holdings,
It Is justified also when tho money
which has been accumulated whatever
the process of accumulation, honest or
dishonest is employed nnd expended In
accordance with the unchristian principle
that a man may do what he will with his
own.
Hut the feeling of antagonism Is not
Justified on any such ground as that n
man hns wealth and n vast amount of
It, for we never should have reached our
present stno of civilization If we had not
had such men and a great many of them.
Cyrus Field was right.
His doctrlno Is guaranteed by his own
achievement
He made It possible for people to talk
to each other across the sea without their
communication being subject to the de
lay of going by sailing vessel or steamer.
He was ablo to do It by means of the
concentration of capital, subject to his
own disposal and mode of expenditure.
If a man wants to go west he Is no
longer obliged to go on foot or to be
transported In an emigrant caravan. The
reason why such tedious method of travel
has ceased to be necessary Is that cer
tain aggressive pioneers have hal the
control of enough monoy to track tho
continent with Iron roadways and equip
them with steam carriages.
We are all of us every day enjoying
advantages that have been put within
our reach by men that were Immensely
wealthy. If we aro of a Jealous dlsposl
tlon It mav make us uncomfortable to
realize how dependent we are upon what
has been done for us by those who ore
Infinitely more favorably circumstanced
than we. If so, the best thing we can do
Is to get over our Jealousy and not con
vert our blessings Into curses by being
soured by the way In which our bless
ings, many of them, havo come to us.
We ought rather to bo grateful that
there arc so many In the world who have
honestly acquired largo money and whu
are making so considerable a port of It
accrue to public advantage.
Were we all of us to throw out entire
propel ty Into ono huge molting pot and
then dlvldo up per capita, everything In
the shape of progress would be Instantly
suspended and the suspension would bo
continued till some propresslve spirits
were ablo to rise nbove the dead level pf
financial equality and set the wheels o
progress to rolling again.
There Is nothing In the foregoing that
contradicts the fact that concetntrntlon
of capital may work to- public dlsad
vnrtate but that Is tnat whatever Is
good in th,t use may become bad. la tho
abuse.
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1 The Fuel of Love
By BEATRICE FA1KFAX
Love's n fire that needs renewal
Of fresh beauty for Its fuel;
love's wliuc moults when caned and cap.
tured.
Only free ho soars enraptured.
Thomas Campbell.
The question Is asked many times, 'lit
a long engagement fnlr to the Irl?"
It oertalnly Is not. An engagement of
more than a year's duration Is as trylnn
on love ns six months of married lllo, and
moro fatal.
A man and his wife In such a short
tlmo ns six months accumulate a com
munity of Interests. They have a home,
ami the homo Instinct la the greatest
anchor love knows. There Is tho hor
of a family, tho tie of their early wedded,
happiness; every self-denial the glrl-wUo
makes has Its reward In somcthlnc tan
gible. If she Is disappointed she conceals It
In her pride. She wan wooed and won,
and Is married to (ho man sho loved.
These facts stand out ns If written In a
splash of gold with which she yoUid
cover every disappointment;
Tho engaged girl has nothing to .sus
tain her. In tho wotting- pcrlpd of a Jong
engagement but lovq nnd-rhope, sturdy
offsprings' of her roriinhce n,'t the Degln
nlng, but they soon, begin to weaken.
Tho days of their courtship wrc so
Ideal neither tho man nor the woman
sees a reason why they should not cor
tlnue, and they become engaged with no
Immediate prospect of marrying.
At first tho senso of proprietorship,
which an engagement gives thq man. tho
joy of knowing that she Is his, without
tho tormenting thought of paying for
her material wants, makes his happiness
complete, Ho spends hie ovenlngs with
her. nnd his little bank account grows.
On her part, with that longing for a
homo which dominates every good girl,
she works feverishly on dainty llttlo
household accessories, putting in tiny
little stitches with a prayer of thanks
giving that sho has tho privilege.
These she puts In what girls call a
"hope box," and sho begins to take more
pride In her "hope box" than In her per
sonal appearance.
She loves him all tho moro when, ho
does without a new suit that he may add
to his fund for their home; womanlike,
sho takes It for granted that ho loves
her Just as much In last year's hat,
knowing that the prlco of a new hat hfia
Increased her store of household linen,
The economy never grows Irksome jto
her, for the reason that woman's lov
grows on Its opportunities for sacrifice
and service, but It palls him. Ho is
neither married and enjoying a horqe,
nor Is he a freo young man, at liberty
to como nnd go and spend a dollar bu
ho chooses. a
It Is easy for a man to make of himself
a martyr. He begins to regard himself
as cleglble to the rewards of the early
christians because he gives up a ball
game or a theater that his cooking stoyo
fund may grow.
He feels sorry for himself, and tho
first twinge of self-pity a lover feels Is
tho first of many stabs at the heart bf
the girl he loves.
Ho occoslonally strays. The evenings
when he Is not with her aro no longer
his most weary hours; they have becomo
his evenings off. He flirts here and then
and the engagement of which he was
at first so proud becomes something to
conceal because of the hampering Inllu
ence It would have on his relations with
other girls.
The girl, with her head bent a little
lower over her embroidering and lieni
stltchlng, continues to take such Joy In
anticipation of their future she doesn't
sue that the face of the future has
changed. Sho has grown older and is
losing the freshness of youth. When ho
takes her out ho Is conscious that she
Isn't as smartly attired as other girls,
Man-like, he doesn't see the sacrlflcet ho
sees only the effect.
"Inve's a flro that needs renewal of
fresh beauty for Its ftfel." She has neg
lected tho renewing of fuel In her cer
tainly that his love was lasting, and
realizes her folly only when the ashes
are dead and cold,
The tie that binds a man to an en
gagement of marriage Is as fragile as
gossamer, and when It Is broken It leaves
him with no scars.
A girl Is bound by a tie which her love
makes a cable. To the end of her days
she will bear on her heart markB of this
pulnfui lesson In man's fallibility when
that engagement Is broken.
lift of Wisdom,
Instinct is not always Infallible
early robbln -sometimes wishes It
waited awhile.
The
had
It Is natural for the physician who
treats the rich to mix fees and symptoms
In his speculation.
Castles built In the ulr are much mora
accessible now that the ueropjfcno roa4
has been successfully opened up. Judjft,
