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The Marriage Vow
WHY SOME WOMEN AVOID CUPID
BY MISS DORA
Many women will not imm-y be
cause they prefer to keep tlu-ir indi
viduality ns they cannot If they wed.
They do not care to change their en
tire scheme of living to suit some
man. They are selllhh? Perhaps, but
at least they make no one else the
victim of their fault.
The law in uiauy states so discrim
inates against woman that it Is an
argument against marrying to those
w ho know anything about it. The man,
generous fellow, says at his wedding,
"with all my worldly goods 1 thee
endow," and the wife who believes it
finds to her surprise that so far from
being the recipient of all his worldly
goods he owns even the garments she
wears. The woman who sees her, as
sistant's sulary drawn by the worth
less husband with whom she will not
live, but who can live cm her earn
ings, is not likely to think well of a
condition which permits the injustice;
she who reads of a child w illed away
from its mother for no better reason
than the malice of an angry husband
Is likely to deliberate a little, for if
nature teaches anything or proves
anything, it is that tho child is the
mother's. When the law gives chil
dren to their mothers It w ill do much
to make women wish to marry and to
become mothers. It may seem doubt
ful If these points In tho law would
keep any woman from marrying, but
It Is true that woman loves her
freedom, perhaps the more that it is
so new to her. She realizes ai no
man can the blessings which have
been his for ages to work as he will
and climb where daring leads, and she
long3 to work, too, and to climb, to
make herself something to the big
world. Sho loveB the possibility of
this power so well that she will not
resign it for an unworthy claimant.
The man who turns an earnest woman
from the delights of congenial work
and independence must be a man
whom she loves moro than she does
herself. No Imitation man attracts
her, for she counts the cost before
she owns hlra "lord and master," and
ln! spite of all the talk about the In
dependent woman and how sho has
changed from tho "clinging vino" va
riety she is like her of all bygono
days in that she never does love until
her heart tells her hero is he who Is
lord over her.
Women have so long been forgiving
BY MRS. VIRGINIA
All the sentiment In the world does
not mask the fact that marriage is a
Nor does the marriage state lose one
lota of its solemnity and beauty by be
ing a business contract instead of a
mere gilden thread of very fragile and
fraglble love vows.
For only by following out the con
tract Idea and the partnership clause
therein implied can marital happiness
be made certain and permanent.
Sentiment In married life Is very
beautiful. Without it such life Is like
song-words without music. Hut when
sentiment Ignores businesslike man
agement of domestic life it lapses
from sentiment (which, is the essence
of love) Into sentimentality (whose
first letter Is Its only connecting bond
True marriage should be a Joint
partnership in which "the party of the
first part" and "the party of the sec
ond part" should (as In regular busi
ness firms) bo permitted to do as he
or she pleases, allowing to the other
member of the firm the same priv
ilege; so long as neither does any-
(, thing to endanger that firm's strength
" " and integrity.
Two men who enter business part
nership do not quarrel daily as to
which shall rule. There is no quoa
' tion of superiority or mnstery. There
. Is equality, and the harmony that
nothing but equality can bring. Nag
ging, too, is a conspicuously absent
quantity in the equation. Were two
men to plunge into endless disputes
as to which was really the ruler, and
were they to seek to win each point
by. nagging, such a firm might, with
rare good luck, endure for "one con
Yet husband and wife who resort to
the same unpleasant tactics are ex
pected to remain ns one until "death
them do part."
If two people truly love each other
mera difference of opinion on a few
er on many subjects is no bar to hap
piness. The little differences of opin
ion amount to no real difference, and
sjrtln a tactful band at the helm It Is
aajr to ateer around the rocks. These
are, after all, usually nothing
or formidable than pebble. '
It It bard to understand w hy the
y fathers did not enlarge the list
tereo deadly sins to eight, In order
Include nagging. Perhaps because
esample of Samson's fall through
iacb Barring was then so much
Ether In people's minds as to render
leparate warning on the subject
a necessary than now. It Is a sin
tjlat brings Its own punishment. Note
Kipling's warning to his conn; ry men,
to man's infidelities that It may be
surprising to be told that they have
kept women from marrying, yet the
statement is true. There are women
who have what is called instinctive
virtue and who have no comprehen
sion and can have none of the average
man's point of view. To such a one
it is monstrous that a man can be un
true to her before marriage ns after.
She knows no nason why he more
than he should seek illicit pleasures.
There are always in womanly
women two motives in marriage)
strong within them, and it Is often an
actual pain to act counter to them.
First of all Is. the dt'Hirc for children.
After a woman has reached 30, unless
she is a shallow creature she regrets
that she does not know motherhood.
A French woman once snld to the
writer: "Of course, marriage is a
necessary evil. Women don't expect
to be happy with their husbands, but
then there are the children, and one
lives again in them, and has joy even
with the sorrow of years;" and the
woman who Is childless loses all this,
Then nnother inducement to the
self supporting woman toward matri
mony is the desire to belong to some
body. It Is not. that she wants a home
of her own she has It as the fruit
of her labors and tho Independence
for .w hich she pays the price; It Is not
even for the sake of man's society.
These two Influences within woman
kind light for man, and either or both
is often stronger than her pleasure
in her work, her love of Independence,
and all the reasons combined which
keep her single. Then weigh the bal
ance yet more with a man whom she
admires, honors and loves, and there
is but one. reason why woman does
notmarry she can not. Therefore,
If man wishes the data concerning
matrimony and educated women to
change he has simply to make him
self, the man whom a woman or mind,
heart and character will desire, and
surely jtjs i better to be chosen as a
fine type 6r higher' manhood than as
the payer of'tlUs'. The man, not his
money, is the compliment such a
woman pays him when she ceases to
be the woman who does not wish to
marry. Let there be more men of that
stamp and the woman will be un
known who does not wish to marry.
(CVpyritflit, liy Joseph II. Uiwl'S.)
VAN DE WATER
who are prone to nag and worry the
For tlm Christian riles
And tlie Aryan smiles,
Ami It wearetri tha Christ Inn dnwn.
Far more doth It wear down both
nagger" and naggee in the married
Another rock whereon many a good
ly marital nartnershin has come to
grief Is the subject of money. 1 truly
believe that tho greatest drawback to
married happiness between nersona
who love and trust each other is lack
There is still another phase of mar
ried life wherein wife and husband
might profitably take a lesson from
business men: When two men have
formed a partnership neither inquires
into such details of the other's past as
the latter would fain lenve buried.
Nor does either seek to regulate the
personal actions of the other.
It is in like manner a great mistake,
I think, for a woman to insist on
knowing just where her husband hns
been, w hy he did not reach homo at a
certain hour and what acquaintance
ships he has formed. I think a hus
band should allow his wife In all
things (so far aft her sex will permit)
the same liberty of action he expects
her to allow him. If he spends money
foolishly, has clubs and other recrea
tions, he should allow her to have her
clubs, friends, teas, etc., and should
permit her to sjiend money for any
feminine equivalent of the liquor or
tobacco on which his own surplus
pocket money is wasted.
I do not believe that If the average
woman saw her husband was willing
for her to have the same liberty ns he
himself demands, she would, ns a rule,
complain or scold as often as she does
under other conditions. If a woman
Insists on being unreasonable and on
complaining when the husband who
gives her her own way takes his way
In return she must expect that ho will
do as he pleases and not tell her.
That Is the Invariable result of fault
finding and criticism.
(Copyright, by Jowph B. Bowles.)
Hat 22 Children in 27 Yeara.
fikowhegan, Me. Announcement
has been made that a daughter was
born to Mr. and Mrs. Charles Dickey
of Canaan, which Is the twenty-second
child born to them In 2" years.
Mrs. Dickey wan married when she
was H years of age, and Mr. Dickey
was only a few years her senior.
Main Things in a City.
Among the main things In a city are
those connected with the waterworks
NEW AMD INTERESTING GAME
Pennsylvania Man Invent Paatime
That It Highly Entertaining
A rennsTlvHiiln man has recently
Invented a new and interesting game
Which will doubtless afford much en
tertainment to botli old and young.
The game consists of a table with an
inclined bed and compartments at the
upper cud. Above this is a back
piece to which a series of pockets are
hung, each pocket having a different
number. Screens project from tho
aid ee and over the top. The object of
Highest Score Wint.
the fame Is to. bounce halls on the
bed of the table and into the pockets,
the..fiim, of course, being to get Into
the pockets w ith the highest numbers,
as the highest score wins. Hslls that
miss the pockets and roll back to the
foot of (lie table may be replayed, but
those that go into the center compart
ments cost the player a forfeit. When
proficiency in the game is acquired It
may be varied by making a certain
odd score the winning score, lo reach
which it will he necessary to ilirre.
the balls with accuracy into the exac!
WONDERMENT GAME AMUSING
If Players Are Skillful There It No
' Need for Trick to Be
It Is necessary that only two of the
party should have a knowledge of this
game, and then real "wonderment" Is
sure to be the result.
The two players agree that a certain
word shall be regurded as a signal
word. As nn illustration, imagine
this word to be "and."
One of the players asserts his be
lief that he Is gifted with second
sight, and states that he is able,
through a closed door, lo name any
article touched by any person in sym
pathy with him, notwithstanding
thnt the same person may attempt to
mystify him by mentioning a lot of
other articles. He then chooses his
confederate as being one with whom
he may be In sympathy, and goes out
The plsyer In tho room then pro
ceeds to call out, perhaps as follows:
Table, hearthrug, piano, footstool
and chair, lamp, Inkstand. He then
places his hand on the back of a
chair and asks: "What am I touching
now?" The answer will, of course be
"chair," because the signal word
"and" came immediately before that
If the players are skillful there is
no need for the trick to be discov
Truth is the root, hut human svra
pathy Is the flower of practical life.
Plenty of Blrdt.
If. we allow six Inches, the measure
of the English sparrow of our streets,
to be the average length of a migra
tory bird, then, this mighty host. If we
could arrange Its restless, flitting
members in a quiet, orderly manner,
like soldiers on parade, would make
a line t,ti!)0,!iO: miles long. This
earth is much too small for such a
line. We might arrange our birds in
326 lines ntid each one would extend
from the north pole to the south pole
along the whole length of North and
South . America. If we arranged the
birds at, Hie Equator they would circle
theVohe lt;:i times.
' Net Ball.
This is a sort, of tennis, but the
jackets are replaced hy net pockets
stretched on two sticks with elastic
and fastened to two slicks across the
ends. Two players stand at a good
distance away from each other, and,
drawing the sticks suddenly apart, the
ball, which Is In the pocket. Is tossed
forward over the net. Points are
counted as In tennis, but the ball must
never tmich the ground. It must al
ways W caught on the fly.
(Holland's Famous Bird.
The stork is treated with great and
lingular respect in the Netherlands.
These strange birds may be seen
here and there, almost everywhere In
the south, but I do not remember see
ing any in the north. The house se
eded by the stork for a nesting place
considered fortunate, and very ape
:1a! facilities are provided by the
louseholders to enable It to build a
lest comfortably. At The Hague
nat y of thine birds are maintained
tt i iiMlc txpecse. ibe first that I
f!nllii-ii-Trnt ! tinllop-n-Trot!
Here wr go rlrtlliK iiwhv.
Gxl lni-H-Trut ! ( Inllop-u-Trnt !
1M ' Wlmt n nice, mime to iihiy!
Wee Willie Winkle. In rompers of Mile,
Cn I'M Pantile Cray takes a rlile:
I'll l'ie tn huve stirh n tine Imr.xe
Ar.l siw h . itn-ttv Miip rompers beside.
Giilli.i a-'I'rot! I inllop-n-Trot !
Oft tn n country so Krand!
CSul lop-a -Trnl! (inllop-H-Trot!
A i Mini; to sttn l lliiliy Intnl.
- MnrK'irrt J. Mays.
AMUSING GAME "LA FUNDA"
New Pastime Taket Parit by Storm,
and Will Undoubtedly Spread
to Other Countries
The resurrection of the ancient
game of dlabolo occurred In Tai ls and
spread Hll over the world, being ex
ceedingly popular for a couple of sea-
New Ball-Tossing Game.
sons. A new game known as La
Funda has now taken Paris by storm,
acd In all probability It will spread tu
other countries as did dlabolo, says
Popular Mechanics. It consists ot
throwing a ball with the net shown In
the illustration and catching it as it
comes down. The ball can he thrown
to a considerable height and to catch
it as it falls the player must be very
A Lost Opportunity.
Small boys are not always as sym
pathetic as their relatives wish, says
tho Youth's Companion, but, on the
other hand, they tire seldom as heart
less as they sometimes appear,
' Why are you crying so. Tommy?"
Inquired one of the boy's aunts, who
found her small nephew seated on
the doorstep lifting up his voice !n
"The b-baby fell ddownstalrs!"
Oh, that's too bad." said the aunt,
stepping over him and opening the
door. "I do hope the little dear
wasn't much hurt!"
S she's only hurt a little!" wailed
Tommy. "H-but Dorothy s-saw her
fall, while I'd gone to the g-grocery!
I never s-see anything!"
He Was Yiddish.
Mosie was n typnoid convalescent.
He had been in the hospital seven
weeks, but in all that time no one
had succeeded in winning even tho
faintest smile from tho little fellow,
says Everybody's Magazine. Perhaps
the sorrows of Russia were still too
viid a memory.
And then one day the nurse tickled
hint playfully under the chin, lie
looked up wll.li a pitiful little smile.
-Oh, so you're ticklish," said the
' No, tna'aiti." Iip replied, the smile
In.-tantly vanishing, "I'm Yiddish."
The Minister's Cat.
This game is very similar to that of
"I love my love." Kaeh of the play
ers must describe the minister' cat,
going right through the alphabet to
dn so. "The minister's cat Is an angry
cat," says one: "an anxious cat," bmvs
another, und so 5Ti until everyone has
used an adjective beginning with "a."
Then they take the "hs." "The min
1st it's cat is a big cat," and so on.
The leader of the game must see
thai no one hctitates for a word. It
anyone should take longer than a hall
minute he must pay a forfeit.
saw wa from a window of the railway
train as we were crossing the "Hoi
landsdiep," when a chimney-toy came
into view on which were two of the
long-legged creatures, preening them
sehes, their nest, an unsightly bun
die of sticks and straws, littering the
housetop. The Chautauquan.
But Every One Makes Them.
Cheerful Ass (Inspecting photo
graphs In room of casual acquaintance)-
That's a good looking girl. Not
your tlsttr, is she? Yale Record.
"'. i ,'.iWJ"li
It U a common occurrence nowa
days to hear a man remark with dis
gust: lt is impossible to have good
painting dotio these days; either the
paint Is not good or there are no good
pnintcis." Tills, however, Is not true.
There Is good paint, and there are
good painters, lint tho question is,
bringing them together.
One cannot expect a satisfactory
painting Job without pure white lead.
There Is a way to make sure you are
getting pure whlto lead without test
ing It. Soo that the keg bears Na
tional Lead Company's famous Dutch
Boy Painter trademark, which Is a
positive guarantee of purity. However,
anyone can test white lead. National
Lead Company, 1902 Trinity llldg.,
New York City, will send you a lend
tester and painter's outfit, consisting
of book of color schemes, specifica
tions, etc., upon request.
Puzzle for the Girls.
Every Instructor at Chautauqua Is
required to till out -a paper answer
ing ft number of necessary and un
necessary questions. One year there
was a remarkably handsome mule
member of the faculty In whom all
the girl students wero much Interest
ed. "Is he married or uniiiun ltl?"
became an all-absorbing question.
Flnnlly Borne of them had the courage
to approach tho college secretary and
ask if the files might be looked over.
And there the handsome professor, an
ttclpatlug some such investigation had
recorded his matrimonial pretensions
ns follows: "Married or sltitlo?
Laundry work at home would be
much more satisfactory If tho right
Starch were used. In order to get the
desired stlffnsss, it is usually neces
sary to use so much starch that tho
beauty and fineness of tho fabric Is
hidden behind a paste of varying
thickness, which not only destroys the
appearance, but also affects tho wear
ing quality of tho goods. This trou
ble can bo entirely overcome by using
Defiance Starch, ns it can be applied
much more thinly because of Its great
er strength than other makes.
"Ilcfore ho went fishing," said the
town storyteller, he swallowed
'bout a pint an' half of snakebite rem
edy, an' of course you know what that
1st Well, after the snake bit him.
the reptile cut all sorts o' capers, kaze
the remedy went straight to its head.
Last thing It tried to do wua to swal
ler its tail, an' It got itself in tho form
of a hoop, on' I'm a liar ef the chil
dren didn't roll It around all day!"
Stats o? Onto Citt or Torino, 1
I.IC4.H Coi.mt. f
Fravi J. Ciirrr mnkif OMh thnt h to wnlnf !
rwrlncr of tlm Ilrm ot K J. cm M r A Co., ilnl m i
buiinc.ia In tlm Oty of Inlnlu. I omily ivnd Hiulii
ainriwuiii, ami thnt kihI firm Mill pay tlm mim nl
oNt; llt'NIHtl l) iHil.t.AIM t' r cueh iiml rry
ciimi of catahhii that CAiiuut bu curvii by tlm um u(
UALL'lt L'ATAUKII Ct ill.
FRANK 3. rilUNTY.
Nwnm to before me unil iilwrntiril In uiy urtwnoe,
Uiia tUi day uf 1-it-iuiilxr, A. U.. isdu.
I "" l A. W. (il.F.ASON.
1 I Notary Pi bi ic.
Hull's Catarrh Ciirt li tftfern tntrrnallr anil aru
dlri-clly uNin Die IiIimhI ami oiurnuj eurtacea uf U.
lyeUtn. bvnd fur trittmnnliiifl. fn
K.J. CHUNK A CO., Toledo. O
Mil by nil PniKulsM. 7!c.
Take liall't i aiuliy I'Ula tor coiuilpetkia.
Two Kinds of Service.
Soldierly Looking Man I've upent
15 years of my life in the service of
Low -Browed Individual So have I.
What were you In for?"
If Your Eyes Bother You
rt hox of ri-ITTlT'S KYK S.W.VK. old
relinhle, most nr,roiful eve irinoily iimiIp.
All druggists or Howard Hi oh., BulF-iio, N. V.
It may gut ko uome time that a man
who attends to his own husineBS will
be called eccentric Dallas News.
TTnmlinn Wizard Oil in over fifty yenrs
old nnd, like tin old friend, it enn he ile-
5 ended upon juet us purely nn the futility
octor who may be milei away.
Do Cod's will as he makes it known
to-day, and to-morrow will take care
wiir srKi rn from a roi.i
wht4 a fi-w dropmif IVrry Jiuvls' I'nlnkiHi-r tnkfB
f mmiitly In aonip tint water or milk ril piovvut ill
P.lm tree prosperity does not de
pend upon weather or climate.
Ira. Wlimlonr'i Hootlilni; Hyrnp.
Tnr rhlltln-Q ti'rthlnif , ftufirni the puma, rtlu-p In
flamuiiilluu, atlajn l'lQ, curue wind oiitu. : a bouie.
The shadow of a trouble Is often
blacker than tho trouble Itself.
Theie are imitation, don't be fooled.
There in no RuliKtitute! Tell the dealer you
wain uwii einsin winner cig.kr.
No man can pray right while be
Dies not take into consideration this
ei hoppmcss womanly health.
The woman who nelectJ her health is rcglcctinii. the
very foundation of ell ood fortune. For without health
love loses its lustre and gold ii but dross. ': . -
Womanly health when lost or impaired may generally be
regained by the use of Dr. Pierce's l avorito Prescription.
Tlila PrtBcrlptlon has, for over 10 years,
been curing delicate, weak, paln-wracktd "
women, by tho hundreds ot thousands .
' and this too In the privacy ot their homes
without their hattoi to submit to Indelh
cats queatlonlnHa and offensively repatf ,
Sick women ere invited to consult Dr.
All correspondence held as sacredly confidential. Addrese World's Dispenser
Medical Association, R. V. Pierce, M. D., President, Buffalo, N. Y.
V??8.1 G"BAT "-v Doctor Book, The People'! Common Sens
Medical Adviser, newly revised np-to-daie edicion-1000 paei, answers in
J!,,i t 01 J'0"'? J"eiont which every woman, single or married,
ought to know about, bent frtr, in plain wrapper to any addrea. on receipt ol
Zl one-cent stamps to cover mailing only, ot in cloth bindiog for 31 stamp.
SmrefrirE and pnetttve
Cured by LydiaO.Pinkliam's
Taw Paiv. Mich. "I suffered tnrrl.
bly from female Ills,
mation and conges-
tion, for several
years. .My doctor
said there, was no
hope for mo hut an
operation. I began
taking l.ydki E.
Mo Compound, and
1 ran now Ray I am
a v eil woman."
Another Operation Avoided.
Chicago, 111. "1 want women to
know what that wonderful medicine,
Lydia K. l'iiikham'a Vegetable. Com
jxiund, hasiloito for mo. Two of the
iCbt doctors in Chicago said I would
die if I did not havo an operation, and'
1 never thought of seeing a well day
again. I had a small tumor and female
troubles so thnt 1 suilered day and
night. A friend recommended Lydia
K. l'inkham's Ve-jrctablo Compound,
and it made mo a well woman." Mrs,
Alvkna. Ki'KKLiN-a, II Laugdon St,
Lydia K. l'inkham's Vofrrtablo Com-
fouiid, mado from roots and lierbs.
ias proved to bo the most successful
remedy for curing tho worst forms o
female Ills, including displacements,
inflammation, fibroid tumors, irregu
lariticB, periodic pains, backache, bear-ing-down
feeling, flatulency, indiges
tion, and nervous prostration. It costs
but a trillo to try it. and the result)
ban been worth millions to manj
30 ft. Bowels-
Bicgcst orcan of tho body tha
bowels and the most import.int
It's got to be looked after neglect
means suffering and years ol
misery.' CASCARETS help
nature keep every part of yonr
bowels clean and strong then
they act right means health to
your whole body. , wi
CASCARHT3 jocnhoi for wrk' trMt-
tnctit. All rtniRBixts. IliRcst iicllrr is
the world Williou bu&cl a month.
22,oco acres of irrigated Government Land
in Ai'kuii'as Valley, Colorado, will be
thrown open for settlement October ai. 1909,
under the Carey Act. Opportunity to get
an irrigated farm at low cost on easy pay
ments. Only Uiort residence required.
Scud fr book living full information.
Two Bultes Irrigation and Reservoir Comparf
in the purchase of
t is an atnoluto
?;uar;wtte of pur.
ty and quality.
For your own
that it 19 on the side of
every keg oi white lead
mncmi UHD eoUT
190 Trimly lulloini. Ira Tart
Just Lather acd Shave
NO STROPPING NO HONING
M&m lip and '
LF$!w B Bty straw
SistCactCiltl'aCt., till Md Viae til., tn Ifo.ut. Inn
InitlniF. Uf. llm,)i.lr-. HlKl
uM lelwvuus. bent rauita,
W. N. U OMAHA
one essential to worn-
Pire hv Utr t,..
rink Eye, EpUootU
& Catarrhal Feve
prevenllr, no matter how eorurl at any ao ar Inreried r
mm n Mm
m ar tUP MB m V IfiB tf 1
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