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About Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922 | View Entire Issue (Nov. 12, 1915)
TIIK REE: OMAHA, FHIDAY, XOYEMMIR 12, III 15. ! The Complaining Wife "A Fence Between Makes Love More Keen" By Nell Brinkley Copyright, WIS, International News Service. t By ELLA WHKKLKK WILCOX. Copyright. 1915, Btar Company. The woman who forever complain of her married lot. yet who goes on bearing It, la not entitled to sympathy or respect To live with a man as his wlfo, yet to bemoan the fact r r . 'i constantly, and to pour Into the near est ear a perpetual tale of disappoint ment and dissatis faction. Is both weak and immoral. So long as a wo man wears a man's name and lives under the same roof with him her dignity and self - respect should enforce her silence In regard to his fallings. It Is difficult to. under stand the type of woman who loves to pose as martyr to the extent of humiliating the man she has married by her criticisms of his shortcomings to others. Such a woman thinks only of herself, although she is certain to believe her life one of self-sacrifice add duty. . It Is a curious fact that many women wish to be thought unhappy and misunder stood. "What would you do if your life had not something in It that you wanted f asked restless and beautiful woman one day of & friend. "I would hunt about and see U I had not made a mistake," the friend replied. "And I would employ every spare hour In cultivating the very best possibilities in myself, until I became so occupied that life would grow interesting In spite of fate." The woman who posed as a starved soul had only herself to blame for her condition. She had ability in a half dosen directions which she had not used. She had beauty, which she was allowing to go to decay prematurely by self-indulgence, and was despondent through lack of proper exercise and lack of purpose. She was the wife of a man who loved her and was kind to her, the man she had deliberately chosen for a life com panion. Yet year after year Bhe had al lowed herself to think and talk of being misunderstood and mlsmated and dissat isfied, until she really believed herself to be all three. Such a woman needs a good rap from the knuckles of fate. She needs to learn what real unhappiness is,' and to be thrown upon the world for self-support and forced to develop her abilities. The woman who devotes four or five or six hours a day to some employment has lit tle time to muse on her own misfortunes. Let each wife who Imagines, herself misunderstood and mlsmated turn her at tention to self-improvement. Let her de velop come talent, take up some Indus try, enter a class for physical culture and center her faculties on making her self a woman beautiful In mind and bedy. If the husband is really unworthy and he proves absolutely unappreciatlve she will at least be making a better future for herself than by sitting down brooding over her unhappiness and growing old before her time. Nothing ages a woman like dicontented and morbid thoughts. The woman who keeps the wrinkles from her face and the fogs from her heart and the shadows from her mind need not fear being long neglected by fate. If Little, stout, right-hearted mamas who do not truly know what a wonderful gentleman a diplomat Is, or they would sit at his feet till they had stolen a bit of his knowledge, would do well to remem ber that! There Is a funny twist In every human thing even mammas, and they they are angels In all else that makes us "hanker" after the thing that everyone Is gently telling us Is not for us! And that same HtUe dweller makes us grow cold to that which everyone holds before our eyes and tells us Is splendid for ust A smooth lawn between with no stones or keeper will keep a young pair's eyes from each other summer-long. But let there be a great gray wall with no gate set ln eyes will seek eyes, a maid will stand on tiptoe to see what lies beyond, and a man will climb it to reach fhe flower he is forbidden! - Just so long as you frown too long and hard on the boy her heart sighs for, so long as you build your fence too high and difficult. Just so much more will they dream and linger; and so will the little' human thing, that urges us to climb and strive, drive them to scale your fence! NULL BRINKLEY. In-Shoots People to whom you talk may listen; they may even feign sympathy, but In the majority of cases they do this In or der to learn more about what should be your own family secrets. Yes, secrets. And by "secrets" Is meant nothing more than that It la nobody's business but your own. It Is por policy to go outside for sym pathy, for while you may be right in the position you take as to the Impositions placed upon you, you will quite likely be censured by those who hear the story. The more often you tell your story, and the gossips repeat It, the faster It goes and the more sensational It becomes, till after a half dozen have repeated It you would not recognise it as belonging to your life. Before you tell anything which you do not want generally known you should Stop to consider that in the majority of cases the person to whom you tell your troubles has a dear friend to whom he or she tells everything, and that friend has another dear friend to whom such things are confided. 1 fl! I Quickest, Surest Cough $ Remedy is omc- Made i Easily Prepared la a Few Mla- ates. Cheap bat VaequaZed V Why We Quarreled -:- . The Man's Side Some people are constantly annoyed from one year's end to the other with a persistent bronchial cough, which is whol ly unnecessary. Here is a home-made remedy that iteU rilit at the cause and will make you wonder what became of it. Get tVt ounces 1'inex (60 cents worth) from any druggist, pour into a pint bottle and nil the bottle with ( lain granulated SUffSr BVrun. Start taLinir it nt nnce. Gradually but surely you will notice the I pniegra min out and then disappear al together, thus ending a. cough that you never thought would end. it also loosens the dry, hoarse or tight cough and heals the inflammation in a painful coogh with remarkable rapidity. Ordinary coughs are conquered by it in 24 hours or le. Nothing better for bronchitis, winter coughs and bronchial aathina. This i'inex and Sugar Svrun mixture makes a full pint enough to last a family a long time at a cost of onlv 64 cents. Keeps perfectly and tastes pleas ant. Easily prepared, full directions with Pinex. Pinex is a special and highly concen trated compound of genuine Norway pine extract, rich in guaiacol, and is famous the world over for its ease, certainty and promptness in overcoming bad coughs, chest and throat colds. Get the genuine. Ask Tour druggist for 2H ounces Pinex," snd do not accept anything else. A guarantee of absoluta satisfaction, or money promptly refunded, goes with this preparation. The Pine o., Ft. Wayne, Ind. By VIRGINIA TERHUNE VAJ? DE WATER. Copyright, 1915, Star Company. My wife and I differ upon what we 9 consider points of honor. Since I have been married the thought has come to me often that women are more moral than men but are they as honorable? I am a physician and think that I know both sexes fairly well. I would trust my wife all over the world with my good name, secure In my knowledge that nobody could shake her allegiance to me.- But were I hav ing a confidential conversation in which my wife waa keenly interested 1 would not be sure that she would not listen to it If sho had the opportunity to do so without being seen. The first time this idea came to my mind was when I hud been talking with a man mho called . on me one evening. He had heard that my wife was not well, and. Just as he wss leaving said In the full, round tones he has never learned to modulate: "I hope that your wife will soon be better. There is nothing seriously wrong with her health, is there?" "Oh, no," I assured him. "Much of her Illness Is due to hysteria- There Is no organic trouble, and if 1 can only get her out of town for awhile and turn her thoughts from herself she will soon be all tight." Later, when I went Into the library, where my wife was lying on the couch reading, she greeted me coldly. "I am sorry," she said, "that you con sider roe neurotic and hterical. But It you do think this you might at least not tell your friends that all my dis comfort U purely imaginary." "You are misinterpreting what I Said," I corrected. Then I repeated as accu rately as 1 could my statement to my caller, adding that hysteria and nerves were very distressing things to have. "But 1 cannot understand," I said when I had finished my explanation, "bow you happened to hear what I was saying to someone down by tha front door." She colored faintly, then laughed. "The door was a little way ajar," she ex plained, "and when I heard my name mentioned I listened to find out what waa coming next." "Could you hear from your sofa?" I asked suspiciously. "No." she acknowledged. "I wsnt out Into the hall and listened ; so I heard every word. And other woman would have done the same," she defended her self, as she saw my grave look. "I hope not," I rejoined; and I knew that she did not like my saying this. The habit of thinking that the end justifies the means has grown upon her with the passing years. A few monthr ago It reached a climax that angered me. One of my patients Is a widow who has suffered Intensely with acute rheu matism, which has crippled her so badly that she walks with difficulty. She has not the money to hire an automobile or carriage, so I sometimes take her for a drive in my car. At first I told my wife of it, and she eapressed herself as glad that I had given the sufferer an outing. Yet when I repeated the kindness a few times she objected. , "It will cause gossip," she said, "if you take Mrs. Dana out so much." J paid no attention to the warning. As a physician I have a right to do that which will mean health to my patients. Then, one day, Edith told me that I was calling too often on Mrs. Dana. Again I said nothing. Soon after this I took my oldest daugh ter upon a round of calls with me for the child loves to go out In my car. I stopped at Mrs. Dana's horns, and when I returned to my auto I saw an unhappy look in the girl's eyes. "What's the matter?" I asaed. "Dad," she faltered. "I hate to be un derhanded but would you mind If I told mother that you have called here today?" I was surprised, and my face showed It, for .she added quickly: . "Oh. pleace don't be vexed-ut mother said that If you ever came bere when I was with you I wss surely to tell her. She made me promise to." That night I informed my wife what my opinions were of her conduct and for bade her to reprove the child for having betrayed the truth. "You are teaching her to be dishonor- Advice to the Lovelorn 'BY BJBATXXCB T AXXXAX ' The Engaged tilrl. Dear Miss Fairfax: My daughter has been engaged for seven months. Just after their engagement her friend left tor the south. They correspond. The other day she went on a mane, riding with a young man who she says is of Kond character. When die got home I told her it 'was not right of her to go out with other inen when she is en gaged. Was I right or wrong. MOTHER. You were right In principle. Your daughter should not accept attentions from other men during her fiancee's ab sence. But there is no harm in taking a little ride In a public conveyance If the man who accompanied your daughter knew of her engagement and merely of fered her a little entertainment in a friendly spirit. oafidenee. Dear Miss Fairfax: I am In love with a voung man ami I know my love Is re turned. However, he keeps ass ring ine thai 1 ran go where I plemse and he can do likewise. lo you think It Is berauae he never intends to have any serious thoughts with me? He has often spoken of marriage to me. WORKIUD. This man probably does you the honor to trust you. You ought to appreciate that and try to have the same confidence In him. A Urtil Rick. Dear Miss Fairfax: I have been a-oing about with a young man for two years. Now he is neglecting me and going out with another girl. He says he will never niarrv her. I love him very mu h and he loves me. He does not want me to Le angry at what he does, but tells me to have patience, for he will come back and be with me always. He sees ma about twice a week or more. AN ANXIOUS OTH.T. Are you willing to risk your happiuess with a man who is avowedly disloyal to you before marriage, and who la pursuing a course which it aeema to me must en danger another girl's happiness, too? Pa tience is all very well, but why be pa tient with disloyalty? What this man offers you does not seem to be good enough. I advise you to take a firm stand and demand that he choose now for once and all, but I am afraid you will not take my advice, since it means ths risk o, temporary unhappiness. Whea m Has is 111. 1 Dear MUs Fairfax: I am a young girl and deeply In lova with a man about niy age. Now this man does not know of my love for him, but ss he is very sick 1 thought I would write hint a short nr expressing my sorrow? Would '" proper! ANXIOUS By all means write to your friend un less, of course, he happens to be soma stranger with whom you Imagine yourself In love, But when a man Is 111 it Is al ways in good taste for a girl to express ner sympathy. Keep Yoar Promise. Dear Miss Fairfax: A month aao I promised a girl I would stop smoking mm, i w i. ia mere any way 1 ean recall such a foolish promise or get per mission to smoke occasionally when not in her presence. Is It advisable to try? A. C tx. The promise was not a foolish one and the girl Who persuaded you to maks it must be a sincere snd worth-while friend. I advise you to keep It, able," I protested. "You should be too big and honest to do such things." "I can't see where the harm lies," she said, after I had talked to her for a long while. "But If you think that It la unfair to the child. I won't ask her to do such a thing again." I knew she gave this promise only be cause of her strong sense of duty toward her little daughter. That ahe did not feel she had acted dishonorably I am sure, for the very next week I entered my office suddenly and found her reading an open letter I had left on my desk. "FMlthl" I exclaimed, shocked, "what right have you to read a thing, that Is addressed to me?" "I knew it was from Mrs. Dana!" she accused. "So I have a right to see it!" "ou have none!'1 I retorted. "Your honor ough to teach you that." "Honor!" she sneered. "You are a nice one to talk about honor when you get private letters from a woman letters yoa are not willing to show to your wife!" "That is merely a friendly letter," I declared truthfully. "But I do not con sider It honorable to show anybody a let ter written to me by one of my pa tients." Bhe sighed. "I don't believe I under stand your code of honor,' she said wearily. The more I think about It the more convinced am I that she does not. AN expert French chef can season food for a hundred different people so it E leases' the taste of each. 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