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The Complaining
Wife
"A Fence Between Makes Love More Keen"
By Nell Brinkley
Copyright, WIS, International News Service.
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By ELLA WHKKLKK WILCOX.
Copyright. 1915, Btar Company.
The woman who forever complain of
her married lot. yet who goes on bearing
It, la not entitled to sympathy or respect
To live with a man as his wlfo, yet to
bemoan the fact
r
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constantly, and to
pour Into the near
est ear a perpetual
tale of disappoint
ment and dissatis
faction. Is both
weak and immoral.
So long as a wo
man wears a
man's name and
lives under the
same roof with
him her dignity
and self - respect
should enforce her
silence In regard to
his fallings. It Is
difficult to. under
stand the type of
woman who loves to pose as martyr to
the extent of humiliating the man she
has married by her criticisms of his
shortcomings to others.
Such a woman thinks only of herself,
although she is certain to believe her life
one of self-sacrifice add duty.
. It Is a curious fact that many women
wish to be thought unhappy and misunder
stood. "What would you do if your life had
not something in It that you wanted f
asked restless and beautiful woman
one day of & friend.
"I would hunt about and see U I had
not made a mistake," the friend replied.
"And I would employ every spare hour
In cultivating the very best possibilities
in myself, until I became so occupied
that life would grow interesting In spite
of fate."
The woman who posed as a starved
soul had only herself to blame for her
condition. She had ability in a half
dosen directions which she had not used.
She had beauty, which she was allowing
to go to decay prematurely by self-indulgence,
and was despondent through lack
of proper exercise and lack of purpose.
She was the wife of a man who loved
her and was kind to her, the man she
had deliberately chosen for a life com
panion. Yet year after year Bhe had al
lowed herself to think and talk of being
misunderstood and mlsmated and dissat
isfied, until she really believed herself to
be all three.
Such a woman needs a good rap from
the knuckles of fate. She needs to learn
what real unhappiness is,' and to be
thrown upon the world for self-support
and forced to develop her abilities. The
woman who devotes four or five or six
hours a day to some employment has lit
tle time to muse on her own misfortunes.
Let each wife who Imagines, herself
misunderstood and mlsmated turn her at
tention to self-improvement. Let her de
velop come talent, take up some Indus
try, enter a class for physical culture
and center her faculties on making her
self a woman beautiful In mind and bedy.
If the husband is really unworthy and
he proves absolutely unappreciatlve she
will at least be making a better future
for herself than by sitting down brooding
over her unhappiness and growing old
before her time.
Nothing ages a woman like dicontented
and morbid thoughts. The woman who
keeps the wrinkles from her face and the
fogs from her heart and the shadows
from her mind need not fear being long
neglected by fate.
If
Little, stout, right-hearted mamas who do not truly know what
a wonderful gentleman a diplomat Is, or they would sit at his feet
till they had stolen a bit of his knowledge, would do well to remem
ber that! There Is a funny twist In every human thing even
mammas, and they they are angels In all else that makes us
"hanker" after the thing that everyone Is gently telling us Is not
for us! And that same HtUe dweller makes us grow cold to that
which everyone holds before our eyes and tells us Is splendid for ust
A smooth lawn between with no stones or keeper will keep a young
pair's eyes from each other summer-long. But let there be a great
gray wall with no gate set ln eyes will seek eyes, a maid will stand
on tiptoe to see what lies beyond, and a man will climb it to reach
fhe flower he is forbidden! -
Just so long as you frown too long and hard on the boy her heart
sighs for, so long as you build your fence too high and difficult. Just
so much more will they dream and linger; and so will the little'
human thing, that urges us to climb and strive, drive them to scale
your fence! NULL BRINKLEY.
In-Shoots
People to whom you talk may listen;
they may even feign sympathy, but In
the majority of cases they do this In or
der to learn more about what should be
your own family secrets. Yes, secrets.
And by "secrets" Is meant nothing more
than that It la nobody's business but
your own.
It Is por policy to go outside for sym
pathy, for while you may be right in the
position you take as to the Impositions
placed upon you, you will quite likely
be censured by those who hear the story.
The more often you tell your story, and
the gossips repeat It, the faster It goes
and the more sensational It becomes, till
after a half dozen have repeated It you
would not recognise it as belonging to
your life.
Before you tell anything which you do
not want generally known you should
Stop to consider that in the majority of
cases the person to whom you tell your
troubles has a dear friend to whom he
or she tells everything, and that friend
has another dear friend to whom such
things are confided.
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My wife and I differ upon what we
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consider points of honor.
Since I have been married the thought
has come to me often that women are
more moral than men but are they as
honorable? I am a physician and think
that I know both sexes fairly well.
I would trust my wife all over the
world with my good name, secure In
my knowledge that nobody could shake
her allegiance to me.- But were I hav
ing a confidential conversation in which
my wife waa keenly interested 1 would
not be sure that she would not listen to
it If sho had the opportunity to do so
without being seen.
The first time this idea came to my
mind was when I hud been talking with
a man mho called . on me one evening.
He had heard that my wife was not
well, and. Just as he wss leaving said
In the full, round tones he has never
learned to modulate:
"I hope that your wife will soon be
better. There is nothing seriously wrong
with her health, is there?"
"Oh, no," I assured him. "Much of her
Illness Is due to hysteria- There Is no
organic trouble, and if 1 can only get
her out of town for awhile and turn
her thoughts from herself she will soon
be all tight."
Later, when I went Into the library,
where my wife was lying on the couch
reading, she greeted me coldly.
"I am sorry," she said, "that you con
sider roe neurotic and hterical. But It
you do think this you might at least
not tell your friends that all my dis
comfort U purely imaginary."
"You are misinterpreting what I Said,"
I corrected. Then I repeated as accu
rately as 1 could my statement to my
caller, adding that hysteria and nerves
were very distressing things to have.
"But 1 cannot understand," I said
when I had finished my explanation,
"bow you happened to hear what I was
saying to someone down by tha front
door."
She colored faintly, then laughed. "The
door was a little way ajar," she ex
plained, "and when I heard my name
mentioned I listened to find out what
waa coming next."
"Could you hear from your sofa?" I
asked suspiciously.
"No." she acknowledged. "I wsnt out
Into the hall and listened ; so I heard
every word. And other woman would
have done the same," she defended her
self, as she saw my grave look.
"I hope not," I rejoined; and I knew
that she did not like my saying this.
The habit of thinking that the end
justifies the means has grown upon her
with the passing years. A few monthr
ago It reached a climax that angered me.
One of my patients Is a widow who
has suffered Intensely with acute rheu
matism, which has crippled her so badly
that she walks with difficulty. She has
not the money to hire an automobile or
carriage, so I sometimes take her for a
drive in my car. At first I told my wife
of it, and she eapressed herself as glad
that I had given the sufferer an outing.
Yet when I repeated the kindness a few
times she objected. ,
"It will cause gossip," she said, "if you
take Mrs. Dana out so much."
J paid no attention to the warning. As
a physician I have a right to do that
which will mean health to my patients.
Then, one day, Edith told me that I was
calling too often on Mrs. Dana. Again I
said nothing.
Soon after this I took my oldest daugh
ter upon a round of calls with me for
the child loves to go out In my car. I
stopped at Mrs. Dana's horns, and when
I returned to my auto I saw an unhappy
look in the girl's eyes.
"What's the matter?" I asaed.
"Dad," she faltered. "I hate to be un
derhanded but would you mind If I told
mother that you have called here today?"
I was surprised, and my face showed It,
for .she added quickly:
. "Oh. pleace don't be vexed-ut mother
said that If you ever came bere when I
was with you I wss surely to tell her.
She made me promise to."
That night I informed my wife what
my opinions were of her conduct and for
bade her to reprove the child for having
betrayed the truth.
"You are teaching her to be dishonor-
Advice to the Lovelorn
'BY BJBATXXCB T AXXXAX '
The Engaged tilrl.
Dear Miss Fairfax: My daughter has
been engaged for seven months. Just
after their engagement her friend left
tor the south. They correspond. The
other day she went on a mane, riding
with a young man who she says is of
Kond character. When die got home I
told her it 'was not right of her to go
out with other inen when she is en
gaged. Was I right or wrong.
MOTHER.
You were right In principle. Your
daughter should not accept attentions
from other men during her fiancee's ab
sence. But there is no harm in taking a
little ride In a public conveyance If the
man who accompanied your daughter
knew of her engagement and merely of
fered her a little entertainment in a
friendly spirit.
oafidenee.
Dear Miss Fairfax: I am In love with
a voung man ami I know my love Is re
turned. However, he keeps ass ring ine
thai 1 ran go where I plemse and he can
do likewise. lo you think It Is berauae
he never intends to have any serious
thoughts with me? He has often spoken
of marriage to me. WORKIUD.
This man probably does you the honor
to trust you. You ought to appreciate
that and try to have the same confidence
In him.
A Urtil Rick.
Dear Miss Fairfax: I have been a-oing
about with a young man for two years.
Now he is neglecting me and going out
with another girl. He says he will never
niarrv her. I love him very mu h and
he loves me. He does not want me to Le
angry at what he does, but tells me to
have patience, for he will come back and
be with me always. He sees ma about
twice a week or more.
AN ANXIOUS OTH.T.
Are you willing to risk your happiuess
with a man who is avowedly disloyal to
you before marriage, and who la pursuing
a course which it aeema to me must en
danger another girl's happiness, too? Pa
tience is all very well, but why be pa
tient with disloyalty? What this man
offers you does not seem to be good
enough. I advise you to take a firm
stand and demand that he choose now for
once and all, but I am afraid you will
not take my advice, since it means ths
risk o, temporary unhappiness.
Whea m Has is 111. 1
Dear MUs Fairfax: I am a young girl
and deeply In lova with a man about
niy age. Now this man does not know
of my love for him, but ss he is very
sick 1 thought I would write hint a short
nr expressing my sorrow? Would
'" proper! ANXIOUS
By all means write to your friend un
less, of course, he happens to be soma
stranger with whom you Imagine yourself
In love, But when a man Is 111 it Is al
ways in good taste for a girl to express
ner sympathy.
Keep Yoar Promise.
Dear Miss Fairfax: A month aao I
promised a girl I would stop smoking
mm, i w i. ia mere any way 1 ean
recall such a foolish promise or get per
mission to smoke occasionally when not
in her presence. Is It advisable to try?
A. C tx.
The promise was not a foolish one and
the girl Who persuaded you to maks it
must be a sincere snd worth-while friend.
I advise you to keep It,
able," I protested. "You should be too
big and honest to do such things."
"I can't see where the harm lies," she
said, after I had talked to her for a
long while. "But If you think that It la
unfair to the child. I won't ask her to do
such a thing again."
I knew she gave this promise only be
cause of her strong sense of duty toward
her little daughter.
That ahe did not feel she had acted
dishonorably I am sure, for the very
next week I entered my office suddenly
and found her reading an open letter I
had left on my desk.
"FMlthl" I exclaimed, shocked, "what
right have you to read a thing, that Is
addressed to me?"
"I knew it was from Mrs. Dana!" she
accused. "So I have a right to see it!"
"ou have none!'1 I retorted. "Your
honor ough to teach you that."
"Honor!" she sneered. "You are a nice
one to talk about honor when you get
private letters from a woman letters yoa
are not willing to show to your wife!"
"That is merely a friendly letter," I
declared truthfully. "But I do not con
sider It honorable to show anybody a let
ter written to me by one of my pa
tients." Bhe sighed. "I don't believe I under
stand your code of honor,' she said
wearily.
The more I think about It the more
convinced am I that she does not.
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