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THE COU?v... 11 WOMAN AND THE HOME. It Jurblng the whole nutioo, and which is, - .u, louirectiy reaponsible for mnny b the fixed conviction of the newB. h-L1?9 "pt!n tho Pnrt ot e paper man that no woman can write ed- ,hM i . prper HddreBB horlally fnr any appreciable length of TnlT "' u time without inquiring anziouely of her w, .,.? " " C"! W0,nan bflB Krown 7 readers. "Whither an, we dr.fting?" mOmXJ? luotmy nB" L28t the feminine character of this de- SI1. '" d" ttl1 oedingly vain, parfuent should be called in question h7r bravado a T ? BOd CaPablli,y it may bo beat to submit the question hor infW " "- r" '"" ""' y! raa' ithniit further deljv. Wo ink thpn .L, ---.... ouo iB miBireta in her indeed powerful. will, alarm: "Whither are we AilUog!" pTesTZ. r!n ' ""f .,h0 'l"" Wh""yf And in ..kb thia inquiry w. reUr to Z". "h?' .'.." ' " tbo American woman. She is the moat petted, flattered, and indulged of creatures, fctking her as a class. Mux O'Rell used to say that, could he choose bis. role, it would be that of an American woman. He con sidered that ehe gave less and received more than auy human being on the fbce of tho earth, No'doubt he suspected her of happiness. But he saw only eu- perficially. As a matter of fact, no women in the world are so restlets, bo dissatisfied with their relations to the world, and so impatient of their responsibilities- where those responsibilities are of a domestic character as Ameri can women. The contented wife is an anomaly. The reason appears to be that the American woman has not the right degree of liberty.. She has too much and too little. She accepts her position as a nonproducer in the houst hold, expoc s her housework and her sawing to be done for her, is given lib erty to go wbera she pleases and to do what ehe pleases, and then Ib annoy ed if now and then the hard worked hu6bat.d, irritated at this situation, for which he himself is largely responsible! vents upon tier, unjustly, bis dissatisfac tion with the unbalanced state of affairs. Meantime the woman, college bred, a buyer of books, a club woman, a musi cian, goes from knowledge to knowledge rtfhoB and cultivates her mind and her taste till ehe discovers herself to b) lone'y in such a raritied atmosphere, and makes bitter complaint because her husband has not followed her to these pleasing heights. A man is considered pusillanimous who ko'ts down upon the wifd ot his jouth because by some chance she has not grown intellectually, as he hsB; and if he leaves her, pleading uocongeniality, she is much commiserated and he is held in contempt. , But unfortunately society n foolishly sentimental over the woman who, outgrowing ber husbiud in rt-flae-luent and mental grasp, finds herself with an uurespon-ive companion and seeks other society than his. men, Is mt this signally unfair? If the .light vanity.of the lovjr ip supplanted husband.is.ap.regarded, ii not the wife by the much deeper passion, pride of in honor bound to cling to the man to family, involving, as this does, a wealth whom she has made her m irriage vows, of idealism, even though be may not bo intellectual ly sympathetic? America, having pass ed its Hrst stage of civilizition and sub dued the wild, is now on its knee's be fore culture. It has apotheqsiz dedu :a s tion. It makes the serious mistake, of A CStl We need not fear to assert and to in sist that were American women to have more children their discontent would largely disappear. What is more, it Iwould be for the undeniable good of this (country it the cultivated women would consent to do their share of child-bear-icg.inJ nit leave the g eiier part o' tbifl tr fl't to the Russian Jews and tue poor I alian immigrants As it is, in addition to all her other troubles, this country la at the necessity of forever lift- tion to her hard-driven slavep. tlm 1.1 t i . mo narueBt-working men in all tbo world, tho most prodigal and generous? la not her attitude toward them becom ing snpercilioup, and this in spite of tho fact that ehe refuses to perform her fun damental duty aa a woman? For it is re'uarkiblethat in spite (fall her Lowly acquired knowledge of philosophy and theglibmaunerin which she voices it, the American woman among the upper classes refuses to recognizi the primor- ' uiai mw or ner being, will not admit what her prime function is or in what manner she is most useful to the state. In short, she n fuses to boar children She has theorif s about tho child born under perfect conditions, and she never attiins these conditions. (Her theories it may be suggested, are wrong, for the human soul is.al-vaya and ultimately a mystery, and some of the finest of hu man creatures have been born under conditions that hygiene and religion, philosophy and common souse would pronounce unfortunate.) Novaminand woman may be dis tinctly uncongenial, and yet find an ex hHuatlens dource of happiuess and an endlepa fund of conversation in their childr.n. Though they have natures with a divergent trend, yet they will uaite in working for the children; though they have different ideas of amusement, yet they will each Hud delight in giving pleasure to tbe children. They will forget themselves and become absorbed in their little oies. Personal psychology will no longer be of absorbing interest; they will prefer the foolish wisdom of the bojs and girls. TbeEetdorable in anities will entertain thorn more than the drama or than poetry or music. Selflshntss in tbe parent attains so fine a quality that it becomea a virtue. Nor is the feeling ot the man the same to ward tbe mo:her of his children that it was toward bia bride. She appears to him sanctified by ber sufferings and ber ceasiJesB self-denial. He overlooks her faults. He can even forgive her for not being beautiful. A strong piide of a primordial sort comes to him, and the Bj ins Makes THE BURLINGTON the short est line from foincoln to Denver. 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SEND PIPTEEN CENTS to show your good faith, and wcMl send you a copy FREE, with all charges prepaid. ,M0NT60MEnY WARD & to.mggrn I Al the news without prejudice; w 4-. JlS':" ; mating indiviJunb by their Loik- larniog. It ia well t) r. member that there may be many points of congenial ity between persons who arj far apart in their bookish knowledge and in their liooncBs of their ttete. Marr'aue is a fiacramont, not nlyceum f jr the debt- lug tho bulk of the population up from The D63t general reading; "tig of ubstract questions ( The relation- low sources, and eodleesly propagaticg 6liip is one BV.ggestod 't.y in?t'nct,-one the seeds of patriotiein iu haru ground; rjne l)est marK&t reports; which ought to b suatuined and en- for it ia tbe foreigners who give the lred from a senro of duty. This duty work 10 tbe censua-takr. GrQat paper Qf tue Qreat West. 8 not alone to tho persons involved in . It is agreat pain to ap American wo- .-"-J10 ulDau x avat- . w" yt-oai' ooi'i ho cpntract. 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