THE BEE: OMAHA. FRIDAY, JANUARY 24, 1919.
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b4 all ando4 la Hi clrtla, wrapt up la tha lap al
ihla iafiaita aatura. Wa can aa mara to ncwyti from
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11 la hard work, aarty btfun and parsarvad la and
conaciantloualy carried aut, that la tha foundatioa at all
(raat work, whathcr in literature, philsaophy or aclenca,
ar in doing good ta all tha world In any poaalbla way.
UOttuJaaaiJaalISLa
SOCIETY
You May Dance and You
May Sup for Sweet
Charity's Sake .
You may dance and you may up
at the'Blackstone February 4, for
sweet charity's sake for a most de
lightful sapper dance is to be given
by the members of the social serv
ice committee of the Y. W. C. A.
Every dollar received for this eve
ning's entertainment will be used to
purchase materials, for the Y. W. C.
A. girls, to make into layettes', sur
gical dressings, and other necessi
ties for the Salvation Army Rescue
home.
Diiriiipr the past year various clubs
of the Y. V. C. A., composed of
business girls who work all day,
have devoted, one or more nights a
week to work for charity. They
have been giving their time to the
Red Cross but now that they have
finished their "quota", these girls
have- decided to continue their
work for charity. After a thorough
investigation they decided to help
the Salvation Army Rescue home
because, of the ..wonderful, work that
body is trying to do.
But the girls need materials and
it is for the purpose of purchasing
the necessary equipment that a num
ber of prominent society matrons,
who qompose the social service com
mittee, of the Y. W. C. A., have
planned this supper-dance.
Matrons in charge of the affair, in
cluding Mrs. Henry Wyman, chair
man, with Mrs. Ronald Paterson,
Mrs. Gurdon V. Wattles, Mrs.
Charles U. Brown, Mrsi Harley
Moorhrad and Mrs. Henry Pier
pontt assisting. ( .
All other engagements will be can
celed for this supper-dance, which
promises to be the most popular of
benefit affairs.
Humane Society to Have
Annual Meeting and
r Dinner Thursday
The annual ' meeting and dinner
of ' the Nebraska Humane society
will be held this evening at the First
Presbyterian church,-Thirty-nrst and
Far nam. streets at. 6:15. o'clock.
The program promises to be a
very live one. and members of the
society and those interested in the
humane work being done in the city
arc urged to be present. A chicken
pic. plate .dinner will be served by
the' ladies of the church.
After the dinner toasts will be
eivcii by. the new executive secre
tary. W. W. Bradley; Pean Ringer,
York City, field director of the
York City, fifield director of . the
American Red Star society. Mr. M.
A. Hall will act as toastmaster.
Dr. and Mrs. McMartin Entertain.
Dr. and Mrs. Charles McMartin
will entertain at dinner at the Ath
letic club Saturday evening, followed
by a theater party at the Boyd. The
honor guests will be Mr. and Mrs.
L. K. Moore of Dunlap, la., who
have taken a house in Dundee for
the winter. - The other guests will ,
be Mr. and Mrs. F. S. Martin. -
' Club Meetings.
War Mothers of America, wives,
s sters and mothers will meet Friday
evening at 8 o'clock at the city hall.
Mrs. A. C. Kugel . will , enterain
the Ladies Guild at. St. Mathias
church at her home Friday after
Jioon, ; '
Heart Beats
. By A. K.
The Union station .was crowd
ed with
Soldier boys
On their way home
' From wicked war
And there, waa on
Big husky, brave
Fellow who had withstood
Shock of shells and
Muddy trenches
But while he saw
His comrads lying
Dead, around his feet
He thanked his God for
Many things
His health his luck
His courage and above all for
The greatest blessing
Which kept him strong
And hopeful
And determined his wife.
His thoughts flitted back
Every little while
To the bride of four
Months across the ocean
And the trip home
Was worse than battle for , .
He counted the minutes
Between him and his bride
And finally he reached
The Union station .
With a hundred others
And he was paged,
When the boy
Located him there was
A telegram addressed to the
Brave fighter and young
Husband. .
He read the message and
Read it again and then handed
It to a Red Cross canteen
Worker who helps make the
Returning boys comfortable
And he asked:.
"Does that say 'dead?'." and
The Canteen worker had to tell
Hinj that his young wife had .
Just died of influenza.
The man turned pale and reeled
And tumbled iii a heap and
The canteen porkers put him On
A hospitSl bed in the station
And tried to comfort him .
This man who had fought
Fearlessly and bravely while
He thought there was someone
At home to welcome his return
Succumbed completely to
A little word that means more'
Than a cannon ball or a "
Bayonet
.To. a man who loves .
She was DEAD I t
Mrs. Ward Burgess is De
voting Much Time to
Elephant Sale
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tfrs. Ward Burgess
. Mrs. Ward Burgess is one of the
busiest women in town. She has
just closed her house in Washington
and is trying to accumulate leisure
in which to open her home in Oma
ha. At present she is running an
art exhibit in the ball room of the
Fontenelle hotel, and is one of the
most active directors in the Whijte
Elephant sale to be held at the
Auditorium January 30, 31 and Feb
ruary 1st.
Mrs. N. P. Dodge jr.,' chairman of
the children's booths at the White
Elephant sale, and ' Mrs. William
Hill Clark, vice chairman, are mak
ing a special appeal for children's
clothing. Last year the booth was
especially popula Long before the
doors were open in the mornings
great crowds of women from the
poorer districts were waiting out
side. " No garment seemed too"ol"d
or worn for them to waivt. Mrs.
Clark asks that friends who will
give, call her at Harney 1463, and
she will gladly sjop for bundles.
Some Music, We Might Say.
The music critic of the Kankakee
(111.) 'Republican" helps brighten
the new year with the "following:
"Miss Lewis was more than ever a
human songbird last evening. Her
selections-. were various, but all
brought forth that clear, liquid-like
head tone that ' rose forth after vi
brating through the producer to a
weet nothingness high above her
hesd.";.. .
Queen Mother Alexandra is a de
voted lover of animals, which prob
ib'y accounts for the frequency with
which she has been photographed
with her dogs or horses.
One Roof, One Family, is a Rule
Seldom Broken With Good Results
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.
One more tale has come to me of
a young married pair who took the
risk of starting life with parents-in-law.
-
And an unwise risk it pjoved to
be, in this, as in so many other un
happy cases. . For it is a sad littlei
story that is told by a sympathetic
friend of the young wife.
Over and over again one won
ders at the eager, kindly, stupid and
altogether masculine blindness that
leads a , young bridegroom whose
mother is loath to part with him, to
insist that his bride shall come to
live under the same roof with his
parents.
. Here's the supremely happy ar
rangement for everybody, he cheer
fully tells himself.' A lonely father
cheered up, a slightly jealous mother
pacified, and bride allowed to begin
married. life without a responsibility
worth mentioning. How could there
possibly be a more sensible and sat
isfactory sort of co-operation 1
' And the 'bride, of course, keeps
her disappointments and misgiv
ings to herself. They would hurt
somebody's feelings if she expressed
them. Her wise young- husband is
probably right after all. And it
won't matter if for a time she can't
have her own "things" about her,
and her own friends. It won't mat
ter that she can't have her husband
to herself, and that they can't pursue
the deliciously awkward experiments
of their early married life without
the constant presence of critical
lookers-on. Or rather it will matter.
h What Ycu NccdDon't Cry!
If you, mother, had ta swallow the awfufdoMhr
Think back to your childhood daysUgh!
V Gveyour children Cascarets instead. Cascarets
taste like candy. Every child loves to take a
Cascaret. Besides Cascarets act better on tha
little liver and bowels when the child is bilious;
constipated, feverish and sick. ' Cascarets ar
delightful harmless cheap 1
1
-Ji 10 cent box cf Cascarets, the pleasant candy cathartic, contain
s and dosr-s for children ajed one year oid and upwards. When
c-j's torue turns white, breath feverish, stomach sour, there i
! "r to "work" the nasty bile, siirinst food and con:t;patior
; ' cV.!ds ysieraT (Dive Cascarets. teen never worry.
but she'll pretend it doesn't. She'll
be, in short, the victim.
And as -to the working out of such
a project, the letter I've already
spoken of furnishes the details. In
this household, the ypung husband
meets most of the expense and the
young wife does most of the house
work. The letter goes on:
"The mother-in-law seems to keep
the poor girl in hot water all the
time. Last spring the wife lost her
baby before it was time tor its
birth, after one of the nervous at
tacks she has been having. The
mother-in-law acts as if she could
hardly stand the wife around, yet
insists that the husband stay "and
help support the parents. ,
"To.be just, the wife is rather
high-strung from being ilh, but the
mother-in-law is very conceited and
headstrong, and runs to her son
with all kinds of tales she imagines
she has ground for. And, of course,
the wife, out of love, and not want
ing to make it any harder for her
husband, says nothing, but gets
thinner and more unstrung all the
time. :
"Some blame may be laid to this
girl for-not standing up for her
rights, yet anything she. said or
('rid would be twisted and turned to
make it appear. against her."
I wish I felt sure that the young
husband in this case will come to
see the family situation as it is,
and insist that his wife have her
own home and freedom.
But he's probably a nice, be
wildered, altogether dense young
man, who will keep on balancing
his wife's side of the case against
his mother's and imagining it's his
duty to remain neutral. The kind
est husband in the world can't al
ways see his way out after he has
let himself become the blindfolded
center of a domestic tangle of love
and jealousy and unfairness.
Hints for Young Lovers.
But it's the kind of story that I
wish young people who aren't mar
ried yet, the blissfully engaged ones,
who believe that perfect happiness
is" only a lap ahead of them, would
consider carefully.
- Perhaps marriage is going to be
sweet and serene and successful for
all of them. But none of them can
be sure that at any moment there
won't come some turn in family af
fairs which will seem to suggest
that they sacrifice that freedom
they've dreamed of. Somebody has
died or somebody is out of a job or
somebody is lonely, or somebody is
poor. And in any case, somebody
wants to sap their youth and hope
and health and happiness.
It really isn't fair.
It may be necessary, I know. And
in such a case, the newly wedded
ought to make their sacrifice gay
heartedly. But usually it isn't necessary. It's
merely expedient or economical. It's
the plan of somebody who is timid
or prudent. I'm sure it's scarcely,
ever prompted by real wisdom.
And if the older generation were
as wise as they believe themselves
to be, they would ' protect young
lovers from risking their married
happiness in family co-operation.
Co-operation is an excellent prin
ciple. I believe in applying it to
almost every department of life. But
it ought to be practiced by people
who are on the same footing. And
the trouble with these family experi
ments is that the older woman and
the younger are not on the same
footing. The older one dominates.
And the younger one suffers. And
so a continual struggle goes on that
makes everybody miserable, and that
ruins forever, perhaps, the marriage
that has been so inauspiciously be
gun, '
Room for Newlyweds.
A newly married pair need room
to make their mistakes in. They
need privacy to be foolish in. They
need time and opportunity to talk
No Rest for Women of
World Until Girls of.
World Are Safe
About SO women workers in the
blue triangle campaign gathered in
the club rooms of the V. W. C. A.
Wednesday, noon at a delightful
luncheon for the discussion of plans
for the campaign. Mrs. Grace Ghol
son, director general of the blue tri
angle campaign in the north central
states, gave an address concerning
the need of association work. Mrs.
Gholson said that campaigning was
becoming her favorite sport, and her
reasons, because it brought her so
closely in touch with the personnel
of different cities that she soon
learned who were the generous peo
ple, who iwere courteous and who
were kind, as well as those of
diametrically opposed natures. The
ringing note of Mrs. Gholson's talk
is summed up in the sentence which
brought the minds of those present
seriously to face their tasks: "There
is no rest for the women of 'he
world untiHhe girls of the world are
safe." This answered forcefully those
who have sought to escape from the
tasks of reconstruction because they
wished to rest. Mrs. Gholson con
tinued: "The two most precious
words born in the war were 'Carry
on! and we must make them survive.
If you have any doubts about the
work that lies ahead of us, consider
these few things that have been tak-J
en up-by the national and held
boards: The work in Utah, where
the natives refuse to support our
Christian work; work with the girls
along the border, which Mexico will
not support; a new camp for tuber
cular girls which is being estab
lished in Arizona; inaugurating the
work in Hawaii, and among the
movie and legitimate actresses. Men
prominent in the business world are
telling us that if we cannot sustain
our regular work at the altitude it
reached durincr the war. it will fall
back 10 years, and this is true, for inJ
answering the call to arms which
came fromour government, we ad
vanced 10 years in the work. And
this immense program which was
begun in those strenuous days must
be maintainedAs for the $15,000,000
which was raised in .the United
War Work campaign this fall, that
money was pledged for war work
only, and there is plenty of use left
for it."
Mrs. G. F. Gilmore, president of
the local association, made a . few re
marks and Miss Ada Heaton was in
troduced, the state director for the
campaign. .
Handkerchief Linen Gown
fogether about the multitude of new
problems that they've undertaken,
and that it's such happiness to tackle,
blunderingly, hand in hand.
'They have really to get acquaint
ed with each other. They have to
study each other's temperaments
and habits. And they can't manage
it with lookers-on.
If you're a mother with a mar
riageable son, make up your mind,
when he finds that perfect girl he's
looking for, to let him go away
from you. You can't share him be
tween you. It won't work. Don't
be a short-range mother-in-law.
They're responsible for a vast
amount of unnecessary unhappiness.
Mothers-in-law who keep at a tact
ful distance are the ones who have
the reward of being loved, 1
Let the bride and bridegroom in
your family draw about themselves
a magic circle. And in the interests
of love, of harmony, of successful
marriage, see that you remain out
side. Upon getting our fur overcoat out
of the closet we find that the moths
had a happy and prosperous 1918.
If'
HUM
Advice to the Lovelorn
Join the Friends of the Beatrice Fairfax Column, Who Are
Glad to See Letters from Other Readers in Print.
Friday We Will Discuss Rouged Girls.
-By BEATRICE FAIRFAX
By GERTRUDE ,BiRESFORD
Handkerchief linen will find many
chances to look its loveliest at winter
resorts. Charming morning frocks
are developed in this material in
shades of pink, rose, ochre, lavender
and pale buff. A dainty model of
pink handkerchief linen trimmed in
scallops bound in white linen is
simply made in a kimono waist and
three flounce skirt. The upper
flounce includes a belt and slashed
buttonholes. The belt is of white
suede. The lovely hat worn with
this gown is made of heavy pink
linen and is trimmed with pink lin
en flowers bound with pink. This
costume will be lovely all summer
and is a safe model to follow for
early spring sewing.
For Mr. Marcosson.
. A luncheon will be given at the
Fontenelle Friday for Isaac F. Mar
cosson, journalist, "who will speak
in the ball room Friday" afternoon,
under the auspices of the fine arts
society. A number of newspaper
men will be asked to meet Mr. Marcosson.
Mrs. Mary M. Lilly, one of the
first women to sit in the New York
legislature, has introduced bills to
abolish capital punishment and to
extend the jurisidiction qf the chil
dren's courts to minors up to 18
years of age instead of 16.
They Are Hopeless.
' Dear Miss Fairfax. Omaha Bee:
We have come for your advice. We
are two young boys at the ages of J 8
and 19. We are awful good looking
and also like the girls very much,
but are kind of bashful in keeping
company with them. Could you
tell us how we should act to turn
the girls onto our attentioh, for we
would like to have good steady girls,
as we thjnk we are growing of ago
soon, have also a very good nature.
Do not play cards or go bumming
around at nights like some of our
boy friends do. We know the girlg
all like us, but we can never fall in
love with either one of us.- Could
you tell us what would be right for
us to do?
Is it proper for young boys to
go out bumming nights? We think
we don't have any girl friends be
cause we don't go out at night, but
anyhow, it wouldn't be of no use,
because there aren't no pretty girls
in our neighborhood, not the .kind
we would like. Now, Miss Fairfax,
do you think we are right?
, Please, Miss Fairfax, give u your
best advice how we could manage to
fall in love with some nice young
girls.
That's what we are after nowa
days, gwhen the wir Is over "over
there."
And also we two would like you to
tell us whether it is proper to go and
dance with a girl with whom wo
have not been acquainted?
Could you also tell us if It is
proper to take a girl around her
neck while taking her home from
the dance? We don't mind to kiss
her, only to take her around the
neck, just to show them the real
love. Hope to see this in print.
Thanking you In advance.
PRETTY AND MUSTARD.
It is not proper for young boys,
or, old boys either, to go out bum
ming at night. I am sorry there are
no pretty girls In your neighborhood
for I have none to send you. , I have
no recipe for falling In love sorry
again. Certainly it is not proper to
take a strange girl to a dance. The
last part of your letter is ao ridic
ulous that I shall not bother to an
swer.
Dandruff n'Everythlng.
Dear Miss Fairfax, Omaha Bee
As I am a daily reader of your col
umns I decided to come to you for
advice.
What would remove dandruff
from the hair? What would atop
thp hair falling out, and what would
bring faded hair back to its color?
What age is the best for a girl to
get married?
Is it all right for a girl to invite
her boy friend to visit her?
Hoping to see my letter soon In
print, BLUE EYES.
Consult your beauty specialist
with regard to your hair. The best
age for a girl to marry la from 20 to
90, or whenever ehe has the best
chance. I see no harm in inviting
your boy friend to visit you.
Letter of Condolence.
Miss Fairfax, Omaha Bee: Is It
necessary to answer a letter of con
dolence, and how soon after, re.
ceiving it? Thanking you in ad.
va'nce for your advice, A READER.
It is not necessary to answer a let
ter of condolence, but it is courteous
and customary.
Crazy Husband.
Dear Miss Fairfax, Omaha Bee
I am a married woman and my hus-
-oand is a little batty in the upper
Btory, ana ne imagines he is the
wealthiest and wisest man on earth.
Obey That Impulse
Come spend a few moments in
our show room. It is beautifully
decorated. EverythingTn keep-
ing with the unusual display of
Cadillac models. You will enjoy
it and we shall feel honored to
have you visit our display. , Do it
today before the matinee or
after tea.
Music in the Evening.
Jones-Hansen-Cadillac Co.
Cadillac Building, Farnam at 26th Omaha
C A D I L- L. A C
I have almost given up. What would
you do in this case quit or just
drudge It out to the end?
JV READER, Albion, Neb.
This Is too much for me. Ask your
neighbors to solve your problem.
Good Gracious!
Dear Miss Fairfax, Omaha Bee: I
am in the ninth grade at high
school and I am quite fond of a boy
in the eighth grade at the same
school. I have red, curly hair and
am quite attractive, but I don't seem
Personals
Mrs. Harry Tukey, who recently
underwent an operation, is improv
ing. '
Mr. and Mrs. George Bernard
Prinz left Wednesday evening for
New York. ,
Mr. Edwin Doerr, Chicago, ar
rived Thursday morning to attend
the wedding of Miss Gertrude Por
ter and Mr. Robert Edwards.
Corp. Howard VV. De Lamatre of
the 60th balloon company, who lias
been stationed at Fort Crook, has
received his honorable discharge
from the army.
Judge and Mrs. Benjamin Baker
have returned from Palm Beach and
will be at the Blackstone for the re
mainder of the winter.
Omahans who are registered at
the Elms hotel at Excelsior Springs
include: Mr. F. G. Kellogg, Mr.
Stockton Heth, Mrs. P. T. Mc
Grath and Mr. Elmer A. Cope.
to be able to win hla affections.' 4
am 16 years of age and he la three
years younger, but as I am small fos
my age we are taken to be about th
same age. I have a Studebaker.
Would it be proper for me to take
him home when I see him walking?
Could you tell me hcrw to win his
love? Please nwer this letter, at
I am In earnest about this love af
fair. Will you put my letter and
answer in Monday night's paper?
Thanking you a thousand times In
advance, very sincerely. C. O. N.
Railway Engineers.
Dear Miss Fairfax, Omaha Bee.
Kindly advise what division the 64th
regiment of railway engineers la in.
Thanking you in advance, I am,
"INTERESTED," Valley, Neb.
I haven't the least idea. Write t
the War department, Washington,
D. C. . i
Whynot Drink
the Best?
Whynot?
'AVIII6S
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'Baking Pff
CHICAGO
I
The value of bak
ing powder is based on its
leavening strength. You
can't judge it by the size
of the can or by the amount
you get for your money. You
must estimate it by the amount
of baking powder used in each
baking and the results you get
L3
yyy
is the greatest value ever
offered in Baking Powder it
has greater raising "force!' it goes
further than most of the other
-brands. You use only a rounded or
heaping teaspoonful where others
call for two teaspoonful3 or more.
But Baking Powder is not
' all you'll save when using Calu
met You save baking materials.
Calumet never fails. The last level
teaspoonful i3 as powerful as the
first Calumet is perfectly manu
factured keeps perfectly and is
moderate in price. , . .
Tai nit niei jn bsy It Tea save visa yeaix ft
One trial will satisfy you of these
facts and demonstrate beyond doubt that
"Calumet spells economy.'
Your grocer sells it on a guarantee
of money back if you axe not pleased with
results.
Calumet contains only such Ingredients as
have been approved officially by the U. S.
Food Authorities.
HIGHEST SwjutDs
1R Dasliot Stores 5ER
Friday in all our Omaha and Council Bluffs
Stores we will sell
PORK CHOPS or PORK ROASTS,
per lb. 27c
These loins average about 7 lbs. and cut up
nice and lean.
ALSO
SNIDER'S CATSUP, Regular 35c
size bottle .25c
This catsup is new goods, none finer made.
Our regular, price is 31c. No dealers supplied at
this price. , ..
The above items are for Friday only, and each
store has a limited amount.
R Casket Stores fR
U. S. License G28403. Headquarters Omaha, Neb.