PART TWO
SOCIETY
PAGES ONE TO FOUR
The Omaha Sunday Bee
PAST TWO
SOCIETY
PAGES ONE TO FOUR
VOL. XLVI NO. 6.
OMAHA, SUNDAY MORNING, JULY 23, 1918.
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Queen and Princesses Ride with1 Aborigines
CLUBDOM
Calendar of Club Doings
Tuesday;
Business Women's council, court house, 11 to 2
p. tn.
Society of American Widows, 206 Crounse
building, 1:30 p. m.
U. S. Grant Woman's Relief corps, picnic-supper
at Miller park, 6 p. m.
Wednesday
Woman's Christian Temperance union, Omaha
branch, Mrs. W. E. Callfass, hostess, 2:30
W,. m.
Oman's Christian Temperance union, Frances
Willard branch; Mrs. J. A. Dalzell, hostess,
' 2 p. m. I
Thursday
Society of American Widows, Crounse block,
7:30 p. m.
THERE is a general impression abroad that
club women devote themselves to the study
of poetry, art, music, classical literature
and other ornamental furnishings of the
futilely feminine mind," writes Corra Har
ris, a well-known noveltist and writer of
feminist articles, in a recent issue of the Saturday
Evening Post.
"And it is a fact that for years they were sadly
involved in the Encyclopaedia Britannica, digging up
material for club papers; and they reveled like deaf-and-dumb
idiots among the poets. But, again, it is
easy to understand if you are willing to be honest.
When women start they always start at the mystical
top, somewhere in the poetic region of illusions, and
work down to the dingy facts of everyday life. They
have a mind like Saturn, with luminous rings round
it. But this is not a deformity. It is a lack of for
mity, if I may be permitted to clip a word.
"Saturn will be a fine planet some day if it keeps
on cooling and revolving, and women will have good
I substantial minds some day if they keep on think
ing. You will always find them frailing fruit off the
forbidden Tree of Knowledge, as you will always
find men feeding on it, as Adam did in the begining.
Even now, if you ask me, I say the average woman
has more knowledge and more breadth of vision
along humanitarian lines thanthe average man. In
order to be humane a man must specialize in the
humanities; but a woman is born that way, endowed
with pity and compassion."
Mrs. Harris ateended the biennial convention of
the General Federation of Women's clubs in New
York City and has some pertinent observations to
make with regard to it.
"Club women are devoted students of parliamen
tary law," says the celebrated writer, "but they em
ploy it too often and too literally, like illiterate peo
ple trying to learn what literature is by studying the
v best writers and speakers, and never daring to use
their own judgment apart from the printed canons
of this art. So, too much energy of the convention
went into the effort to preserve all the rules and
regulations of the organization to the very letter -of
parliamentary law.
. "Women are, about the practice of parliamentary
rules, as a little girl is about practicing her scales on
the piano when she takes her first music lessons.
She counts her one-two-threcfour carefully, and
comet down hard on the four, and she loses the
rhythm of the thing, because she has not yet got
the use of her fingers. But give her time and eh
may become an accomplished musician. So these
'women who thump out their rules and regulations
so awkwardly and conscientiously are taking the
right method to become a good governing force."
Mrs. Harris ascribes the faithfulness with which
the club women adhered to the convention program
to woman's strong sense of duty. .
"On the night of the formal opening of the con
vention these women demonstrated their sense of
duty. They all came delegates, alternates, visitors,
presidents and officers twenty thousand of them.
They were serious about the performance of this
duty. No theaters or-Broadway lights for them!
"At the door of the convention hall every woman
was required to remove her hat, which was a hard
ship. When you consider how much money 20,000
women had spent for hats, they might have been
permitted to wear them as far as the seats, which is
the usual custcjtn.
"It was a good time to observe the character and '
quality of the convention. Most of the women had
gray hair and young eyes. Most of them were well
dressed. Useful women can look very handsome in
their convention clothes. And they all had that ex
perienced expression of long patience peculiar to
gray-haired women, complemented by a kind of
weakness-to-know-more look, peculiar to women
who wish to do right, but in any case to dol
"The federations of the northern and western
states are actively engaged in teaching foreign-born
children and their parents the American standardi
of life, sanitation and domestic economics. The Ne
braska women have a portable school, which they
send to communities in need of it. The Dakota
women have concentrated upon efforts to lighten the
drudgery of farmers' wives.' Seven thousand women
in Oklahoma are educating teachers. They sent
thirty-eight into the schools of that state last year.
The Arkansas women have organized 11,000 college
girls into an active domestic-educational force, de
voted to service in rural communities. The Wiscon
sin clubs specialize upon the health of children, free
clinics for babies, and eugenics. Illinois has more
, women in its clubs than there are soldiers in the
wgular United States army. Ten thousand of these
;ire giving all their time to social service.
The New England clubs are engaged . in
crery kind of service by which the immigrant is pro
iccted as an immigrant, and by which he is developed
into an American citizen. The New Hampshire clubs
have o fund ior educating teachers, who, instead of
returning (he moriey spent, pledge themselves to
teach ior two years among immigrant! or in rural
c-mmun:l:ca. ' N
'Kentucky, Georgia and-the 'Carolina women are
conducting and financing 'moonlight' schools for
illiterates. This is the name given any group of
illiterate men and women in a rurnl community who
KMlief at the end of the day to leirn their A 1! C's.
The t.:nbitton of these club women is to wipe out
illiteracy in the south by the end of 1920. The clubs
of (jcorgi:i are educating eighty-six mountain b,vs
ind Kirls in an industrial school jwntd and supported
by the state federation.
"In addition tj these activities there were reports
'torn five ilcparlinent of vocational training, where
the club women united with every possible means
to lit girls for business life, as nurses, sileswomrn,
stenographers everything but cooks, laundresses
and housemaids which is queer when one considers
tiie growing problem of domestic service. It is an
other rase where they miss their cu. and become in
volved in the farther-from-home things first The
"handling of servants and the training of servants
lire such immediate needs that they shrink from
them, for that means a revolution in the character of
the women who have servants; and, like other peo
ple, women prefer to revolutionize other people and
conditions not themselves.
"There was not a single report from a Browning
club, not a word about the Maeterlinck bee culture
in mysticism. Nobody, it seems, has been studying
the origin of Shakespeare's plays."
Miss Marian Howe and Attendant Lead Proces
sion Formed by Wild West Indians and Cowboys
Amid the Plaudits of the Crowd and Unfeigned
Homage of the Big Sioux Chiefs Then Present
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MARIAN TOWLE, MARY MEGEATH, FLORENCE NEVILLE, ANNE GIFFORD, MARIAN HOWE
HEAP PRETTY MAIDENS," thought the
Indian chiefs and their squaws when they
beheld the Ak-Sar-Beh queen, Miss Mar
ian Howe, and her attendants, Miss Mary
Megeath, Miss Anne Gifford, Miss Flor
ence Neville and Miss Marian Towle,
leading the parade at the frontier days' show on
Thursday. ,
Cowboys and western plainsmen, too, nodded
approval at the graceful manner in which the Oma
ha young women sat their mounts. "A body'd think
those girls were brought up on a ranch, they ride
so well," said Charley Irwin, head of the whole
show. ' '
And the spectators? Well, they just applauded
and cheered and otherwise expressed their delight
when the nattily-attired young horsewomen hove
into view.
Many summers spent in the west and long rides
through Estes and Yellowstone National parks have
contributed toward the masterly manner in which
these young women manage their animals.
Miss Neville, too, is of the same family as the
North Platte Nevilles are. While a guest in North
Platte, Miss Florence has spent a great deal of time
at Cody ranch, the home of the veteran plainsman,
Buffalo Bill. The atmosphere of the wild west
show, therefore, was quite familiar to Miss Ne
ville indeed.
The young women are one in stating how much
they enjoyed their experience. "It was great fun,"
they say.
Queen Marian has one regret, however, and that
is that the big Sioux chief whom she was greeting
when the cameras clicked wasn't able to talk to her.
She was ever so eager to converse with him, but
he couldn't speak a word of English.
"Some of the Indians looked at us in a friendly
manner, even if they couldn't speak to us, but some
of them weren't even friendly," laughed Miss Ne
ville. The Omaha young women met Miss Frances
Irwin and Louise Mulhall, the star horsewomen of
the show, and expressed great admiration for their
horsemanship.
Good Manners Not Insincerity, but a Law of Kindness
BY DOROTHY DIX.
Not long ago I wrote an article for this column
in which I spoke with enthusiasm of the school. for
manners that the University of New York is going
to inaugurate. A man reader takes exception to my
views. He writes:
"I disapprove highly of all the etiquette, because
etiquette robs us of sincerity.
"If you go into a room and find people there
who are not of the slightest interest to you, why
should you hypocritically be sympathetic to their
troubles, and rejoice in their happiness, when in
reality you do not care whether they live or die?
Yet etiquette requires you to do that.
- "Etiquette will stop you from telling a man that
he is a liar, or a woman that she is old and ugly.
"Etiquette prescribes that you smile when you
have not. the slightest desire to do so.
"Etiquette forces you to do that which you would
not desire to do,, and to leave undone that which
you wish to do.
"What is the good of etiquette?"
Etiquette is simply one of the rules of the game.
When human beings rose above beasts who were
continually at each other's throats and decided to
live together in peace and harmony, they found out
that they would have to agree upon certain things
that they could do, and couldn't do, and that every
one must respect these unwritten laws because it
made things pleasanter for everybody.
Out of this grew what we call the conventions of
society and etiquette, and, foolish and arbitrary
as they sometimes seem, they invariably rest upon
some human need and represent the accumulated ex
perience of centuries of man's dealing with man,
and the best way to do it.
Moreover, etiquette is nothing more nor less than
the Golden Rule dressed up in party clothes and
with a flower in its buttonhole. It teachers us to
treat others as we would like to have others treat
us. It makes us respect other people's privacy and
susceptibilities as we would like to have them re
spect ours.
You can have no better illustration of the happy
working out of etiquette than in the very instances
cited by my correspondent. He asks scornfully why
he should appear to sympathize with the joys and
sorrows of people for whom he cares nothing.
Doubtless this man never takes the trouble to
write a note of condolence when there is a death in
the family of some acquaintance, or telephone a con
gratulation when some good luck comes the way of
a neighbor.
' Yet how would he feel if, when he entered a
room, nobody greeted him with a pleasant and cor
dial word because no one happened to be vitally in
terested in him? Would he not be cut to the heart
if his wife or child lay dead and no human being
spoke a word of sympathy to him? Would not the
Summer Fancies
Hooded coats have linings of silk striped like
peppermint candy. The hood turns completely in
side out to show its lining.
A simple full bodice is finished around the bottom
with three tiny ruffles, the ruffles also appearing at
the bottom of the sleeves.
A novel addition to the wardrobe is the tailored
basque of white satin. It may be worn with a skirt
of black tulle.
There is no prettier hat for the little girl than
the simple drooping leghorn trimmed with flowers or
a graceful bow.
Flowered cretonne is being used for summer
frocks and generally they are topped with a coat of
plain color.
A new skirt is called the zone-cut because it con
sists of a series of widening circles stitched each to.
the zone' above.
Cotton voile and the old-fashioned etamine are
being used more and more for summer frocks.
The new serges are not rough, but fine and thin;
they can be shirred or pleated without being bulky.
Quaint posies of blossoms and brambles are
charmingly tucked into soft neck ruffles of tulle.
Smocks and a serge skirt will make a very pretty
and economical outfit for spring school days.
' , DeP pleatings are seen on the necks, sleeves and
draperies of some of the new frocks.
Little girls' coats are made crisp and spring like
with collars and cuffs of white linen
happiness of his success be dimmed if not a man put
out a hand and said: "Good for you, old chap; I'm
awfully gild for you?"
My correspondent says that etiquette forces us
to listen with an affectation of interest to tedious
conversationalists, and laugh over jokes that we
cut our teeth on in our cradles. Let us thank heaven
that it docs. Precious few of us are such spellbind
ers that we can hold an audience on the intrinsic
thrillingness of our discourse, nor are we brilliant
enough humorists to provoke with our wit the ready
laugh that etiquette hands us.
Yet which one of us would enjoy a listener who
frankly yawned when he was bored, or felt called
upon to tell us that he had heard our cherisHed best
story a million times before?
And if etiquette prevents us from enjoying the
sacred joy of telling a man that he lies or a woman
that the least observing one can see that she is ten
years older than she pretends to be, and that any
body can tell that her complexion and her hair are
only hers by right of purchase, is it not as broad as
it is long, for it keeps other people from saying the
same brutal things to us?
As for etiquette being the mother of insincerity,
that is nonsense. There is more to praise than to
blame, more to admire than to criticize, more to
like than to hate in the world. Why is it not as
honest to speak of a person's good qualities as his
bad qualities?
Why isn't it as sincere to turn a cherry, bright
face upon the people at your breakfast table and in
your office as it is to gpouch in gloom? And as for
sympathzing with the joys and sorrows of those
about us, even if we don't know them very well and
are not particularly attached to them, surely that is
just the throb of a common humanity that makes
us all kin.
At its worst, ettiquette is merely assuming the
virtue of consideration of others by those who have
it not, and that is better than the brutality of the
savage, who goes his own way unmindful of the
rights of others. -
When we all get to be angels, altruistically in
tent on prompting each other's happiness, we can do
without etiquette; but until that time arrives blessed
be good manners, that make it bad form for us to
step on each other's toes and do and say things we
are prompted to do. .
SOCIETY
Social Calendar ' ; J
Monday
Luncheon at Field club for Miss Clara Louise
Wright of Chicago, Miss Gertrude Porter,
hostess.
Jewish Women's Relief society, Synagogue at
Nineteenth and Burt streets.
Farewell party for Mrs. W. O. Henry given
at First Presbyterian parish house. '
Women's State Golf tournament at the Field
club.
Afternoon tea for Miss Amy Glaser of St
Louis. Miss Mildred Rubel, hostess.
Luncheon at University club for Mr. George
Post of New York, Misses Marion and Naomi
Towle, hostesses. 1
Tuesday
Dinner-dances at Happy Hollow, Seymour Lake
and Carter Lake clubs. -
Matinee dansant at Happy Hollow club.
Women's luncheon at Carter Lake club.
Bridge tournament at Field club.
Dinner at Happy Hollow for Miss Elizabeth
Jones of Chicago, given by Mr. Dwight
Evans. -
Luncheon at Happy Hollow club for Miss Mar
' jorie Wilkins of Des Moines, Miss Helen
Streight and Miss Katherine Gould, hostesses.
Bridge for Miss Mildred Rubel and Miss Amy
Glaser of St. Louis, Miss Jessie Rosenstock,
hostess.
Wednesday
Dinner-dances at Country and Field clubs, t ,
Kensington and matinee dansant at Carter Lake
club. '
Golf luncheon at Field club.
Afternoon affair for Miss Mildred Rubel and
Miss Amy Glaser of St. Louis given by Mrs.
J. B. Kati and Mrs, Herbert' Arnstein.
Original Cooking club at Country club, Mrs.
Ward Burgess, hostess.
Thursday . -
Women's luncheon at Carter Lake club.
Hayes-Soay wedding at Atlantic City.
Friday ''
Dinner-dance at Seymour Lake club.
Les Amies Whist club at the Cricket room,
Mrs. H. L. Buckles, hostess.
Saturday
Dinner-dances at Country, Field."Happy Hol
low, Carter Lake and Seymour Lake Country
clubs.
Women's luncheon at Carter Lake.
GOLF is spelled in big letters for women. en
thusiasts of the great sport, for on Monday
the state championship tournament for
women golfers opens. Field club links,
where the tourney will be played off, was
, alive with golfers every day and all day
of the sweltering last two weeks, for the women
were out practicing.
Each of the six clubs, which are included in the
Omaha association of women golfers, expects that
its champion will carry off the winner's cup, but
there are out-of-town aspirers to the championship
cup who are a host to be reckoned with also. .
The Country club stars are Mrs. C T. Stewart, .
2d., present champion, and Mrs. E. H. Sprague,
with whose name "golf" is indissolubly linked. (We
didn't think we were such a punster I)
Field club has a bevy of stars, Mrs. Walter Sil
ver, Mrs. Allan Parmer, Mrs. J. W. Tillson among
them. Mrs. Karl Lininger, Mrs. Howard Goodrich
and Mrs. W. E. Shafer represent Happy Hollow; and
the Prettiest Mile Golf club has a representation
which includes Mrs. Fred Craine, Mrs. C. S. Rain
bolt, Mrs. Glenn Smith, Mrs. C. J. Ziebarth and Mrs.
C. W. Dresher.
Miss Mabel Melcher is the Seymour Lake Coun
try club champion, and Mrs. L. M. Lord, president
of the Omaha Woman's Golf association, the hostess
organization, and Mrs. Dean Ringer, also play from
the same club. Mrs. Felix Despecher is the promi
nent star of the Council Bluffs Rowing association.
Formation of a state organization is one of the
things contemplated for Wednesday at the big golf
luncheon.
' We almost forgot to tell about the prizes. They
are going to be many and beautiful, according to the
committee in charge, Mrs. Lord, Mrs; Parmer and
Mrs. Silver. , .
This is strictly entre nous.' I am led to believe)
that divers pairs of silk hose and gloves are going
to change hands when the various winners are an
nounced. No, I didn't think women would bet, either, but
then If the sweet things are going to go to
wrestling matches in such numbers as to the most
exclusive society function, it looks as if they are go
ing to be real sportsmen.
Last night the Country club was a merry place.
Forty young people in Mr. Herbert Davis" party for
his Cornell college classmate, Mr. George B. Post
of New York City, greatly enhanced the gaiety of
the usual week-end dinner-dance. Mr. Post and Mr.
Wallace Shephard of Omaha made the trip from the
east in Mr. Post's car, stopping in Des Moines to
bring with them Miss Marjorie Wilkins. Miss Clara
Louise Wright of Chicago, a schoolmate of Miss
Gertrude Porter at "The Castle," has also arrived.
These young people will furnish the inspiration for
a round of luncheons, dinner-dances and picnics
such affairs that not only bring them enjoyment, but
delight the hearts of the staid elders who look on.
Prenuptial affairs for Miss Mildred Rubel, who '
will be married Monday, July 31, to Mr. Edwin
Vaughan Glaser of St. Louis, and for Miss Rubel's -
?:uest, Miss Amy Glaser, herself a bride of the near
uture, also occupy the social calendar this week.
Miss Glaser arrived this morning and will meet some .
of the Omaha girls at an informal tea at Miss Rubel's
tomorrow afternoon. Miss Jessie Rosenstock gives
a bridge for them Tuesday, and on Wednesday the
bride's sister, Mrs. Jay B. Katz, and Mrs. Herbert
Arnstein will entertain for the two brides-to-be.
The mid-summer exodus is on. Each departing
train bears hosts of Omahans seeking cooler
climes. The nearby lakes, Okoboji in special; those
farther north in Wisconsin and Minnesota and far
off Atlantic City, Wianno and other points along the
New England coast attract many from our swel
tering midst.
Estes Park, Long's Peak Inn, Enos Mills' place,
Yellowstone National park and nearer Colorado
points prove an irresistible lure for others, espe
cially those who are fond of horseback riding and
other features of western life. The numerous
ranches and lodges in which this country abound'
Motoring trips, too, find favor with summer trav
elers now that good roads have become a reality in
stead of an ungratif ied desire. To motor to one's
summer sojourning place is now quite the thing and
decidedly enjoyable at that. . A cross-country drive
even does not awaken any qualms. It's a great
lark, say Mr. Wallace Shepard and Mr. George Post
of New York, who arrived yesterday after making
the trip from New York. ! ,
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