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I THK; DEE: OMAHA, NATTKPAY, TnHKfAKY .'). liilfi. 11 re v Wpmag'TyorA; -.'- Fashions -:- ffeaftft ffiwte -:- Household Topics Dealing With the Outlawed Grudge Br ADA PATTKRSOV. "I've Just had a new experience." said ft woman I know. "I have forgiven somebody." Shs didn't mean it quite literally. Few weigh their statements aa carefully aa they do their sugar or coffee or flour. If they did there would be fewer troubles In the world, fewer heart aches. The number of tragedies would be reduced. What she meant, aa I waa later to learn, was this. She had been summoned to the eldt bed of a woman whom for years ahe had disliked. The woman had been unfair to her, had been unkind. It we are ever warranted In departing so far from the doctrine of our Sunday school days aa to hold resentments, the woman who told me of her "novel" experience, had reason for her resentment. But the years had rone In their steady, relentless march. They had done their inevitable work. They had wrought change. The woman who had been un fair, unkind, met one reverse after an other. Poor, crippled. Ill, she sent for the woman whom In prosperous times she had wronged and asked her to for give her. "Bhe waa ' so helpless and wretched that . I said to her, 'Let us forgive all but the present," " said the woman who told me the story, which was a degreo of forgiveness all, perhsps, that we might expect from the circumstances. Then she spoke a big truth. "After alt. It waa fifteen years ago that she served me that mean trick. Even grudges are outlawed by time." True, mightily true, that Is. To be outlawed. In legal sense, is to be deprived of the benefit or protection of the law. Debts are outlawed after a period,. In New Tork state that debt upon which no payment has been made In six years is no longer a dobt. It haa been cancelled by time. The law as suraea that If anyone owed you a debt and you had been a creditor so lan guished that you had secured no part of It In six years, you didn't deserve to be paid. Marriage can he outlawed by time. If John Smith vanished in !!. it Is ae mimed m -- mat. unincs irom him being- lacking, he Is dead. And Mfc-s. John Smith has a rlgh to marry again. if Enoch Arden was gone for ten years it would do him no good whatever to come snooping around his successor's nome. lie was an outlawed spouse: Matrimony,' speaking the law, had slain him. If time outlaws debts and husbands, it should outlaw grudges. The affront of fered ua six years ago is no longer- a liv ing thing. . It is 'dead, slain By time. That wrong of ten year. ago Is dead, as dead as the vanished husband who ha, no right-to maintain against his suc cessor! Prudence says: "But character repeats Itself'. A man'a acts show the trend of Ms character. What he has done at one time he may repeat. . Beware! That worldly wisdom. It Is common sense! Nevertheless, char actor can iha'nge 'Often under" the dlr rectlon of" . strong will and of' altered standard., tl does,. . We may review the follies of btheir years with shanie, recall its sins with, disgust and repentance! t ui h change may be taking place in. your enemy. May' have taken place! While It is the part of prudence to remember that a wrong' was done, and guard against Ua repetition', there la a time, too, to aay ua the woman did, to her pros trate, perhaps, dying enemy: "Time- iutlaws .grudge. I,et us forget everything, but the present." Caution is: a godly, nnallty In the warfare of life. But it Is well. too. ti remtmeer inai mere cornea a Biaie cu utter helplessness, or the veriest poverty. to our enemy, to ourselves, u ts ueatn nd the - preparation for that tinio is peace! Above my desk are the words -of oif who haa gone: "There ln't time enough for bitterness. The end comes too soon." And one still wiser wrote: "In a world where death is, there Is no room for hate!" ' ' .' Advice to. Lovelorn By Beatrice. Fairfax Von Mo-t Be Brave. Pear Miss Fairfax: I am 2. and was married when !. My huptmiid hns proved most contemptible. He Is now in a for eign land, has not conrriblted to my sup port for three years and only OLv-aHionall V writes. Despite this fact, I am daily writ ing him letters, appealing to him to re turn. My letters are either unanswered or else my pleas ignored. Hlnce he has gone my life has been dreary. I cannot concentrate my mind on my work. I bo came so discouraged that 1 was compelled to give it up. I am at a loss to know what to do. I am attractive ami have done everything in my power to hold him. I cannot understand his indifference. My dear Miaa Fnirfax. I toel that there are other women In my terrible position. Won't, you kindly advlve me what to do? A . DHSPONDKXT OIRU I am sure your own Inner consciousness siting and striving to win back the love VI HI. ,, mi, -nil hub ufiwrifu UU will wreck your health and happiness. You nv.v-1 hiu ma.!. iuur nusuauu is ine most contemptible of men." The fact that you can call him so bitter a name proves that your love for him is waning. Evidently your respect for him is gone, and so will your own self-respect unluss you make a definite stand against the cruel fascina tion that still holds you to an undeserv ing wretch. Your sterngth of will must determine your salvation. Make up your mind to take a definite stand and put thl man out of your life. Write and tell him that your patience is at an end and then force yourself Into work and use equal strength to hold your mind centered absolutely on success . In the line you choose. It Shaala tup Iniaaedlatlr. Dear Miss Fairfax: Do vou believe a married man 9s n 1-e slncore in his love for a woman not his wife? A divorce oannot be obtained, as he hasn't any ? round. Phou'd an offair this flop' am still young. We both love earn other dearly, -end to or.-uk our friend ship would make us both very un happy. . . C. A man who sincerely loves a girl will not put , her In a p.- sltion where the world can ludtfe her harshly. And when married man la seen about with oung girl constantly her reputation suf fers cruelly. An affair like thl. should top t once. You will get over Ions- In fnr fha mn mith mrhtm thlnb you are On love far more quickly than- you ajt recover from the harm that will tee dona your repuUUlon ff you continue foiny ebeut with bun. Narcisse! e 1 e Hy KELT, BMNKLEY Copyright. WIS, Intern'!. News Service ... That Isn't her name a girl I know who li very like other girls In that she does tot go by ' her real name; it is never to herself or the peo-, pie who know her Narcisse, the feminine of ' Narcissus. But I and Jack and Jill' know that her secret name is really that! ' Narcissus was the lovely boy the Young Greek God . who found his face one day by chance reflected in a still woodland pool, and, enamored of Its sur prising beauty, bung all day and many days after above the image In the water, worshipping, dreaming, lost in his own beauty, until one day he drooped and died he had been there so long; and some one remembered the story' and' told it to some one else and It is Just as plain as the nose on your face clear down to us! Well this 1s Narcisse! Are you maybe pos-, sensed of the secret name Narcisse? Do you dream all day on your own face and the wonders that you are made of? Do you dream on you' yourself and the perfect arch of brows that de- scended from your great-grandmother, and the white breadth of your forehead and the gold of the curls that lie on it? Sometimes It is good to remember that we "are fearfully and wonder fully made" (how much more if we are beauti ful!) .. ' ' , It is good sometimes to search your face closely for the soul lies behind but that's not lingering above your image until for lack of ths bread of. self-forgetful ness, like the beautiful Greek boy, you droop and die. Dend above your mirror, all you will, Narcisse , bat keep the dreams out of youY eyes while you gaze search your eyes for things'other than color ask the pretty face that looks back a few alert, plain questions, and beg that it answer back in truth. "Have I good stuff behind my curls? "Do my eyes lie or look straight and true? "Do L 'cut dates' one for another that 'comes later and is more fun and fib with a deft tongue? 1 "Do I smile at strangers and go softly- and shout at ray own mother at home? . "Do I borrow small bits from my friends and forget to pay back? , "Do I see lovely things around me often enough and- forget to snort and snarl?" You didn't knbw a pretty girl could snort and snarl, did you? but she can! ' Put your face close, Narcisse, alias Babetts, ' and cross-queetlon the eyes that look so bluely back. It's good for the sould. .', T: Y '. NELL BMNKLEY. The Treatment ot Cancer The Baby and Its Relatives "How beautiful for you to have your mother with you now that you have two babies!" I remember saying once to a young married friend of mine. Fhe stared t me curiously and did not reply. I had a feeling that somehow I had said the wrong thing, though for years I did not find out why. Presumably, at the advent of the first new baby, the parents' relatives are In valuable assistants, whether they live In the house or merely eome to dinner on Sundays. In plain, cold fact they are often the greatest hindrance a young mother haa to contend with in the proper adjustment of her home to the new baby. The dullest Imagination can picture the Inevitable conflict of opinion and prac tice between the daughter or daughter-in-law and the woman whose family haa reached maturity. The methods of the latter appear to be fully Justified by results. The former has no speclflo war rant for the stand she endeavors to take. except the printed book of rules which have been urged upon her by doctor and nurse. She has to grope her way toward skillful baby management, watching anxiously, trying each step of the way. buoyed up only by the conviction that science snd hospital regime advocate the newer way. Physically she Is not quite herself for some months. No matter how strong her will or how unshakable her determination, a persistant mnther-In-law will either ultimately succeed In Interfering with her schedule or cause her untold Irritation and agony of mind In the meantime, I use "mother-in-law" advisedly. A daughter with her own parent has more chance of carrying her point than with her husband's mother. In the first place she has been used to managing mother;" In the second, a slight element Of placating, or deferring to, one's husband's mother, Is unavoid able. Ena It. Wharton In Mother's Ma gaslne. . . An Editorial for Women An Agreeable Personality Mr nonoTiiY ii. ' If I could give Just one piece of advli to any boy or girl starting out In life It would be this: t'ultlvate a pleasing personality. Avoid acquiring tecullarltles and prejudices. Learn how to innke yourself agreeable to thosn with whom you are thrown In con tact. Believe me. the gentle are of knowing how to rub the fur the right way, so that people will purr under your hand Instead ot wanting to scratch and bite you, is an accomplishment that Is like money In tho bank to any young person, and that will carry him or her farther toward success than any other one quality. For people will do things for us because they like us that they will not do for us because It Is our right. Success or failure In life, happiness or misery. Is determined by an agreeable personality far ofteher than we realise. I know a woman who Is a cracker jack stenographer. She la highly edu cated, her spelling Is always above re proach, her punctuation perfect. In addi tion she Is faithful, reliable and indus trious, but she's eternally out of a Job because she ts about aa pleasant to have around an office as a porcupine. She cannot refrain from correcting her employer's every slip of granimer, and from making all aorta of sharp, cutting, sarcastic speeches, and as the result any man would rather put up with less competent work from some girl who was amiable and agreeablo to have about. Nor is thin tn Isolated case, cr a pe culiarity confined to the feminine sex. Every day you will hear employers say ing, "Oh, Jona ia a good worker, and fine bookkeeper, or clerk, or salesman, but he's so orouchy,' or high-tempered, or quarrelsome that I Just would n t worry with him any longer, and I let him go," ' And on the other hand the ability to get along with people, and to make one self agreeable keops many an Indifferent man and woman In their Jobs, The thing that sends the figures up on a pay en velope Is the nonuiarlty of the clerk. It's when Mrs. Smith and Mr. Jones asked to be waited on by some particular sales man or woman that the salespeople heglSi to be of value to their employers. The thing that makes matrimony a eu cefs or failure Is also an agreeable per sonallty. A man may have a thousand weak nesses, but If he Is tender and affection ate, and bright and cheery, his wife and children will love him and he hsppy, and a woman may be as full of faults as an egg Is of meat, and If she la sweet tem pered and warm-hearted, and gay und tender, her family will adore her. Whenever you tee Old people who are kindly and gentle and tolerant you will find that youth Is only too glad to pay reverenre and ettrntlon to them. Tea most popular person that I know, the nns most deluged with Invitations, Is an od man who has nothing to give to those he visits but the charm of hla aoctety snd the garnered wladcm of his many yesrs. And so I would say to every girl snd boy starting out In life that the most Im portant lesson liiey can possibly learn Is how to get along with people, how to soy and do the agreenlle and tactful things, how to acquire the fine art of making friends Instead of enemies. And the se cret of It all Is to treat other people es you would like to he treated yourself, to say to other people the kind of things you would enj.iv hearing yourself, and to follow the photographer's rule, "tn look pleasant." Household Suggestions Steep used tea leaves for "twenty min utes Jn a pail, then strain and use tho liquid for cleaning paint, oilcloth, mirrors and similar things. If new boots or shoes will nut polish, rub over with half a lemon, and leave , till thoroughly dry. Apply this once or twloe If necessary. When a wax candle Is too large large for the holder, the end should be held In hot water until It la soft. It ran then ' be pressed Into ahape to fit the hole and there will be no waste of wax, aa In the case of shaving slices off the end of a ' candle. Grand Priie, Panama-Pacific Exposition, Stn Francisco, 1915 Grand Prize, Panama-California Exposition, San Diego, 1915 TTft oaf 9 cers Breakfast Cocoa The Food Drink Without a Fault Made of high-grade cocoa beans, skilfully blended and manufactured by a perfect . mechanical process, without the Use of chemicals; it is absolutely pure and whole some, and its flavor is delicious," the natural flavor of tho cocoa bean. The genuine hears this trade-mark, and is made only ly Walter Baker & Co. Ltd. DORCHESTErf, MASS. a... u. s. rr. off. Established 1780 4 k P II EPA El E P 11 E 8 8 b0Pr es?irlt, vi fs o n's Vakhwcrd ' "Preparedness for Health Defense" IS THE MOTTO OF Sherman & cConnell Drug 60. (OUR FOUR STORES ARE MEDICAL AMMUNITION DEPOTS) ATTEND OUR SATURDAY SALES PROMPT SERVICE. FREE DELIVERY Hr WOOD III T ll0, M. II. PART I. For the fure of citnotr, :ikh has scaped early litrrlion and ivachd n :alrly advamed development there Is still hope. l?ut here, as elsewhere, srx-od, i i the sense of sr road. Is the essence of con tract. The main question to be conslderrd ia not ao much the slae, or palnfulness, or even the extent of the 1,-rowth except In ihe most deplorably advanced states hut how many of the seed or .pore cells hnve been formed and how far they have traveled lr, the body along tho 11 hp. of the lymphatics and of the bloud vessels. This Is what makes some of our great est puszles and our most pitiful dmni polmnents. One comparatively smill and almost painless growth may have run to seed early and scattred Its spores half ever' the body, and Its removal will do no good whatever in the log run. While another huge, ragged, ulcerated mass, causing agonies of pain, may have, so to speak, turned Its clawa Inward, dis charging Us snores Into Its own Interior, i.nd Its removal with an Inch or two of sound tissue on all aides and a careful cleaning up of the lymphatic chains in the neighborhood may result in a perma nent cure. However, these Incalculable cases are lh the minority. And while, of course, there Is no dlsesse In which mors de pends upon the Individual circumstances of the particular growth. It may be said very crudely and broadly that If the growth Is no more than two Inches In diameter, ai.d has not caused enlarge ment or thickening of the lymphatic chains for more than two or three Inches beyond Its border, and the latter are readily accessible for removal, the chanrea are decidedly favorable for a successful operation. ' It Is of course obvious that the removal of a clear and well developed cancer mut Include not merely the tumor Inself, but a sufficiently large margin of healthy tissue upon all three sides of It to Include any seed cells which may have migrated out Into the tissues around; and also a careful examination and. If neceexary. removal of the lymphatic chains and lymph glands which surround It, or drain the area. The propects of successful removal, of courae, vary conaiderable with the poai t'on and the kind of cancrr. Rpeaking agsin broadly and on an average, cancer of the Hp and tongue. If the fissure or ulcer be leex than an Inch In extent, and Ihe glands of the floor of the mouth and of the neck are not Involved, has about 75 per cent prospects of success that Is. about three to one. Cancer of the breast, wher the lump In-Shoots And whiskers cover a . multitude of sloping chins. And distance lends enchantment to love at first alght. When work seems like play It Is s sham to take the money. . To win applause a good actor must have an Intelligent audience. la the matter' of rapid increase, graft germs have aU ether breads beaten to a standstill. Is ho bigger than a pigeon's egg, haa a slightly better prospect, running as high as 0 to 86 per cent, or nearly five to one in fnvor of no return. Cancer of the uterus or rectum, both of mhlch escape early detection and spread up the lymphatics mors easily, has a leas encouraging prospect, scarcely more than 30 per rent, or one chano In three, while cancer of the stomach. Intestines or liver haa not much more than a 10 to 20 per cent chance of suc cessful removal. It. Miould. however, he borne In mind that operations sre often Justifiable even In well advanced cases of cancer, not merely as taking the only chano for aavlnu the puttent's life, even though th.it tie a slender one, but also for the sake of relieving pain snd making tha future cotirse of the dlsesse more tolera ble. The reason for this Is that cancers on or near the surface of the body, where most primary cancers begin, are usually painful, often excruciatingly so. In the earlier stages; while, on the other hand, secondary or daughter cancers, forming from seed cells floated Into the Interne i organs, such as the liver, the lung, t'.i kidney, or even the heart and th bnin, are, for the most part, comparatively painless, certainly much less painful than the original or aurface growth. Of course, there are many exceptions to the rule, but, broadly speaking, com pute removal of the original growth Is likely to greatly reduce the later suffer ings of ths patient, even If It should not provs a cure. Bo that, broadly speaking, every can cer, except those not found until tbe last snd most desperate stages, should t given ths benefit of removal by opera tion at least one. Shoulder Braces snd Trusses For Dors and Girls and Men and Women. We sell one-half loxn kinds Shoulder Braces and 40 or 60 kinds of Trusses and Supporters. W have experienced men and women fitters, some of whom have done this work for us for 16 years. Private Fitting Room. Standard Medicines ' At Deeply Cut Prices 79c 12c 19c 34c 34c 84c 69c 59c 29c 14c 64c 64c ;34c Dromo BelUer, 10. 30e "d 25c Carter's Lit tle Liver Pills. . Genuine Castoria, 35c kind 60c Doan's Kidney Pills Father John's Medicine Fellow's Syrup for Horllck's Malted 'Milk, 30t and. Llsterlne. 12f lOt. 39 and 60c Pape's Dlapepuln 26c Packer's Tar Soap $1 Pinkham's Compound .... Bal Hepatlra, 10c. 34 and 60c 8cott's Emul slon Fio8 -Toilet Supplies At Sharply Reduced Prices. 14c Br Girl 29c Talcum, 12c ouraud's 98c s u r e a 69c 29c 29c 6c 15c 15c 25c Danderine we sell for 60c Lee's Flower Perfume, per ounce , 25c Mennen's 4 kinds, per can $1.60 Felix Gouraud's Oriental Cream for PI vers-French A i u r a Extract, per ounce 50c Rlcksocker's Toilet Cream . . . 60c Yale's Hair Tonic for Red CroHS Hand Cleanor, large can Satur day for , Witch Haxel, large bottle . . . Wood Alcohol, large bottle . . . Hair and Cork Insoles, per pair, 10c Hlnkle Tablets, 100 for 100 Blaud's Iron Tonic Pills 2 doren Aspirin or Capsules, for 100 2-graln Pure Quinine ,T: 39 c Crude Carbolic Acid, for disinfectant; QC large bottle .... e3C 19c 29c Tablets 35c Mr. Smoker! 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