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About Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922 | View Entire Issue (Jan. 19, 1916)
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Copyright. lhi. lutein I News Service.
By Nell Brinkley
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How to Make and Keep Friends:
Royal Scent for Everyone's Uses
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now want to Fay something about the
art of friendship, how t ptactlce friend
ship and how to guard against thi Inea
cf It; for there la an art In friendship
which une mint learn. pemon rmmt
cultivate hi feeling an. I hla ahtllty to
understand ami learn.
Nlctgsc'he t-sys: "One must learn to
love, iniiKt learn to he pood from early
youth. If our education ami fate do not
t;lve ua opportuidllea to exercise these
feeling, our soul dries up and even grows
Mind to all the tender Inventions of lov
The first art la to know how to choose
one'a friends. First of all they must re
semble us somewhat, hut, among all those
who resemble u we must, as N let ruelie
ae, select only those who worn The,
Idle man Is a friend only of your Idleness
and la Jealous of your work; he can never
be a true friend.
One must be on guard not only aiilii-it
the false friend, but also aiialnst the
superficial friends, the apparent friends,
against thoe who are good only hern US'
of their ignorance. Manv people show n
a certain Kind of sympathy, and speak
of us In kind terms only hernoe they
do not know u. ami to make ourselves
known to tliem would mean not to g:in
their affection hut to lose their sm
pathy. We often meet with a sympathy wo
do not understand." Nletrsche says, "hut
when we learn to understand II. tt of
fends us because It shows we have not
been tsken seriously."
You must seek the one who resemhlesj
you, who knows you. and who lovea you
n little, even If be knowa. then If he
romes to know yon better It Is- possible
that ho may tove you more.
Although friendship la. In principle, a
fight from solitude, you must be on your
guard n gainst him who seeks yon only
to escape solitude. Nletrseho expresses It
In a pnrc-doxleal manner, which, however.
Is not without Justice.
"My friend Is always the third person.
T am always two, I alwsya converse with
myself, and my friend la the third person
who alwaya Interrupts, not our aolltude,
but our conversation. He la the cork
float wnlih prevents the lead of .our con
versation with ourselves from losing Itself
In the depths, fiom rolling Into the abyss.
The third mtint alwaya ho hostile whan
he cornea. Como at least as my enemy,
saya the tired hermit.
But the third must not come simply
because he desires to escape solitude,
(inn goes to his neighbor because he
seeks himself, which mav be good, the
other because he wants to forget him
self Learn to know one from the
When the choice of a friend bus been
made, as far as such a choice la possi
ble, on must be careful as to how von
approach him. HIhs Is reported to have
said "t.ove as you rxpeci to hate some
day." This Is rather harsh, and It
aroused the eng.T of Clrero. hut It Is
hist and proper, nt least during the be
ginning of a friendship Flaubert never
understood the satiis of Port Itoynl, who
aid "monsieur" to one another until
the end of their lives Itenau approved
of them very heartily and clte.l his
friendship with llcrlhelot, which was
nearly wholly Intellectual. and never
grew familiar, as the model friendship.
Prferrtioo Is ii firm, nay, even a pnrt of
respect, as even Cicero admits when he
ravs. 'They fed towards each other
not only deference ami friendship cinfwy
not only deference and tenderness.- hut
respect i Verehunturi. and he who kIvos
up tlie respect I erecundlnivi) deprives
friendship of hla chief ornament."
Kllminato from Hiss' sentence Its sa
tire mill It means only this due tuns?
act towards one's friend, nt least for a
long lime, as If one expected to litre:
him some dny as a 1,'gnl hut firm mixer,
sary. You inuM respect In hint the In
dependence which may some time turn
Nletsche Is of the same opinion when
he says; "You should have iv.lhlng to
do with people who do not respect your
When the friendship has grown as
strong aa It can possihlv be between
two peraons, one must let It take Ita
natural course, and follow Ita own In
rllnatlnns. On thla point the difference
between friendship and love la ao great
that It is often agld. though the same
Is not true, that they are contrasts.
They arec ontrasta only In some of their
l.nxe needs lo.be crested anew con
tinually. If In Its origin It Is the most
sixiiilaneoiis of sentiments. It lives on tha
desire to love during lis whole existenoa.
It demands that you will and you per
sist. If the loving man or Woman doeg
not endeavor to revive In the heart of
the beloved, thea mall, greedy and flick
ering flame, love does not die, hut It
develops a tendency to go baca to Ita
rirst days and live on Its memoriea, anrt
In so doing It exhausts Itself, aa memor
ies are not Inexhaustible, hut alwaya.
grow fainter, and at last love languishes;
from the lack of nourishment.
Although friendship, aa long aa It la
feeble, needs the same support. It growa
after It haa become strong, of Its own
accord, for It has far more than love
the character of a habit. lnve Is a rap
ture of the heart, while, friendship la the
habit of the heart and mind, of feeling
The Coming Baby!
Tew puglllsta can aland the knockout
blowa given by the gentle sporting edi
tors. Where the household is ruled by love
and kindness It Is difficult to tell who la
SVmte people would never he good If
they were not persuaded that religion la
tt Is ll right for a man to resign from
a riO.ooo job. nut If he la getting 12 a
day ha had better stick.
Nothing else ran go completely endear
un to the present and the future as tha
rtpected arrlrgl of a
baby. But In the mean
time the comfort of
tha mother la of yggt
Importance. Tbera la a
plendld externa! rem
edy known aa "Mot In
cr'a Friend" which ex
erta -a wonderful lafltf
nee upon Um expand
Ing muscles. They has
coin mora pliant
gtretch without undue
pain, make tha perlodl
one of pleasant antic
IpaUon Instead or apt
prehension. In a aerlea of splendid letter
from all orer the country mot hen tell of the
great help "Mother'! friend" was to tbenv
Kren grandmothers tell tha wonderful rtorji
to their own daughters about to enter the
atate of motherhood. Get a bottle of "Motht
rr'a Friend" today of your nearest druggist,
t'se thla splendid help with your own Mod)
guided by your own mind. For a free book
of Interest and Importance, to all moUeri
write to Praiitield Regulator Co 401 Laaiai
Illdg Atlanta, Ca, It relates tha persona
experiences of many happy mothers. It tells
many things that all women should tw fas
miliar with; It Is at one guide and a,
Inspiration. Writs for this book.
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"Clear and cold," grumbled Danny, the small, disgruntled god,
peering at the thermometer with a cold eye. "Clear and cold; re
markably frosty, in fact, and growing more bitter at every beat of
the heart in my breast, lcicylea gather on my strawberry-hued
nose: they overhang my cold.oleeks and Jab my baby Bkln at every
numb bite. My eye srowg fiphy; my lashes gather a crafting rime;
my body turns slowly a delicate orchid hue; my ears ligle as with a
thousand colored stars. The stars crackle with the bursting cold,
and tho lake of the 6k y freer.es fast around them. B-l-1-1-1! Oo Gee!
For my lovers have quarreled! They don't drink their riot
.coffee and eat the grateful roll, but I do mine, and while I feast 1
hope for milder weather. NELL URINKLEY.
Readjusting the Home
After the Baby Comes
Jt Is the first baby that causes tho
greatest amount of anxiety. Kvery
mother of a partly grown family will
admit that she expended mors time and
worry and effort over baby number one
than over any of the others, and aha
will confess to more household con
fusion, unsatisfactory meals and ooiih
plicated family situations during her
first baby's infancy than have marked
her management either before or after.
There were a good many things that
might have been told mo when I was
expecting my first little one, but aomo--how
nobody ever thought .of telling
them. Nobody suggeated that the first
thing I would have to do after the de-
jrture of my nurse would be to sys
tematise my household activities from
marketing down to bedmaklng.
My appeal to the young mother Is,
'f.eafn to save yourself." Her strengt'i
is needed, not only for baby's proper
nourishment, but for the adjustment of
the home to the new conditions, for
giving some time and attention to the
baby's father who perhaps has been
pushed Into the background. Conse
quently after advising the porch or bal
cony or some form of partial outing that
dos not Involve tramping the streets. 1
would suggest that the mother begin
early to train her baby to sleep by her
self out-of-doors, both winter and sum
mer, and to play contentdly when he- Is
awake. Khe will find this the first big
step toward her own emancipation.
Raby's requirements come at regular
Intervals all day and apparently upwt
all system In the housework. But Just
try sitting down with pencil and paper
to write out a workftur schedule fcr the
wsklng hours, and you will be aston
ished to find how easily you can ar
range the dally tasks, provided you arc
reasonably willing to shift work to unac
customed hours of the day. Front time
to time baby's schedule changes, and
you must change wlh it. Feedings are
further apart, and he takes oi.e nap in
t afternoon instead of two during the
lay. roeslbly you have always done, the
sweeping and dirty work In the morn
ing; of course one would much prefer. It
ao. but If you can rest while baby sleeps
and then get up refreshed, to put . the
living room In order after luncheon.
Isn't that better than whirling through
task after task till every muscle
weary and every nerve aqulver?
There la a wide difference between
altering one'a system and having no sys
tem, at all- There Is also a more or less
unconsidered distinction between extravi
gunt spenrting and the necessary Invest
ments a mother can make. I used to
find that sewing, or the effort to do It,
when I was tsklng care of my first baby,
whs about the last straw.. It made me
excessively nervous and gave baby the
colic. It would have been much better
to have bought a few more practical,
ready-made giirments, for myself and
baby, and conecr-ved my eneigy.
if every expectant mother would de
vote a certain proportion of her dream
ing time to studying a good cookbook,
alio would reap untold advantago for her
self. I do not mean that she study It
In order to learn newer or fancier cook
ing, but to compile a list of dishes and
menus that represent variety, but a mini
mum. of. work in their preparation., let
her practice on caaerole rooking and the
fireless cooker. When baby's bottles arc
being sterilized she can get most of her
dinner out of the way if she haa these
household helpers, and when o'clock
comes she need not be struggling over
the kitchen fire. , Many meats and pud
dings can be prepared early in the dish
which finally goes to tahle and simply
reheated at dinner time.
We used dollies to avoid large table
cloths, and often paier napkins, and tho
children wore both aprons and rubber
bibs at the table. Our of doors the
wore barefoot sandals, their rompers and
play-aprons were made of seersucktr,
their overalls of khaki. I had some crepe
and seersucker dresses, rlplette under
wear and wash-silk waists for myself. We
used small, rough Turkish towels which
required no Ironing Elna It. Wharton In
February Mother s Magailne.
Advice to Lovelorn
By Beatrice Fairfax
Lack of Consideration.
Dear Miss Fairfax:' I have been going
about with a girl In my home town for
a couple of years. I love her more than
anyone in the world and I know she
loves me. I.sst summer another chap
took a few walks with her and when he
went home, she corresponded with him.
When I arrived home aha showed me
the letters she had received from thla
young man. 1 objected and ahe tore hla
letters and pictures up and wrote again,
roqucHting him not to write again.
Then I wrote to the young man and
told him what became -of his pictures.
Instead of getting angry my sweetheart
told me that although she still loved me
she had lost all confidence In me. I am
heart broken. Can you tell me how to
regain her confidence? ,11CK,
(.if course you know that your action
showed a sad lack of 'faith and trust In
your sweetheart. Tou have made her bit
tee by. your underhanded action. In. .going
over her. However. If she atlll loves you
and you are patient, you are likely to win
HIS PAET IN THE QUARREL
The magistrate was examining a wit
ness, to whom ha remarked:
"You admit you overheard the quar
rcl lietween the defendant and his wife?"
"Yis. or. I do," stoutly maintained
the witness ,
"Tell the court, If you can. what he
seemed to be doing."
"He seemed to be d."in' the Hxtciiin'."
When you have a bilious at
tack, or when you feel illness
coming on promptly move the
bowels, start the liver working
and put your entire digejtive
system in good shape with a
dose or two of the time-tested
You will welcome the quick
relief and often ward off a
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are carefully compounded from
vegetable products mild,
harmless, and not habit-forming.
Buy a box now. You
don't know when you may need
Beecham's Pills. A reliable
family remedy that always
largest Sale ml Amw M4icia as tea WarlaV
NEW SILK DRESSES For
Af ternooir and Dinner Wear
"Not in many seasont have women' t dresses so combined the quality of
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Taffetas, Gros do Londrc, and .Char
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French Blue, Navy, Pearl Gray, Heseda
The new basque effects, the new side
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the pretty metal embroideries and laces
and the many new shapes in sleeves.
Prices Range at
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Our SEMI-ANNUAL CLEARANCE SALE
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