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r 8 TIIK HKK: OMAHA, MONDAY. XOVKMHKH 15. 1015. 5 The Bees Home Magazine Pa SBtP Children Who Never Grow Up The Better We Can Care for Our Little Ones the Fewer of Them Will Turn Into Criminals. The Mystery of Petra Woman- and Her Money . Folly of Marrying a Man Who Considers that What's His Wife 's is His and What's His is His Own. ge PSj!''eSSSWSSSaSSBBSBBSSBSSBBSSBI 1 1 Fjr Wood Itntrhlnnnn, A. M., M. D. The Worid'i Rest Known Writer on Medical Subjects. vTa have a faculty for overlooking plain and obTtoua farts which amounts almost to genius. Tart of this la due to our methods of education, both scholastic and religious, which gives us tha theory of Ufa first and tha facta afterward If at all. Hence otir constant endeavor la to make Use facta of our experience of Ufa about a fit In with the theories that have been ! rilled Into us. Any facta that don't fit In with tha theories are Ignored In po ll ta society, and so, of course, they don't xist. On of these dogmas, which was laid down aires ago In that era of Ignorance and cruelty and slaughter which we usually refer to tha rood old days, waa that all men are absolutely and equally responsible for their conduct and. If they are not food, can be made so by Banishment and cruelty. Upon that pure assumption Is based our whole unspeak abla system of criminal law and so called Justice. Whatever tha cause, tha painful fact remains that, up to, a bare third of a century ago, the universal rule of the law and tha courts In dealing with the offender was. If any man broke tha law, punish him; If ha repeated tha offense, punish blm again and keep on punishing with Increasing severity as long as the ffenss or he offender lasted, without ever for a moment stopping to look at, so to apeak, Its raw material and con alder carefully what manner of men It was who were thus being punished and Imprisoned. fAbout thirty-five years ago, under the lead of tha nobla and gifted, but erratic, Iiombroso, an attempt was mads for the first time In human history to quietly and dispassionately alt down and study the habitual criminal, tha chronic of fender, tha actual population of our pris ons and penitentiaries. Unfortunately, tha first start was made along mistaken lines; that la to say, upon anatomical differences which distin guished tha criminal from tha normal man, setting up a so-called criminal type, which could not ba supported. , But two things quickly stood out un mistakably and clearly. First, thst the heavy majority of all our prison popu lations on both sides of tha Atlantic con sisted of what Is technically known a i "repeaters" or recidivists. That ia to ( ay, AO to 10 per cent of them hsd been J The Weariness of Waiting l Br BEATRICE FAIRFAX. Nothing at all In the world Is more likely to defeat Ita own object than hurry. From the enthusiasm that Inspires you te do to the over-enthusiasm that Insists on action at once, prepared or no. Is Just a tiny step. There Is an old proverb that says, "What one wishes for seems at the door." If you wish hard enough you may often feel that you hear the knock of your de deslre. But when you open he door there la nothing there. The' old story of the boy who cried "Wolf!" when there waa no wolf and who perished miserably when the wolf came, Illustrate this fairly welL The danger for which we watch with actual Impatience) becomes negligible through familiarity and when It comes we have no protection against It HT . h. 1 L. . , mist as the Indulgence In unfounded hopes that prove wrong. Nothing makes a per con so criminally careless of danger aa watching fearfully for accidents that need never hare been expected, and so WOLIANIN ; BAD CONDITION Restored To Health by Lyclia E. FinkH&m' Vegeta ble Compound. Montpellef, Vt "Ws hare great faith ia your remedies. I waa very Ir- i regular and wn tired and sleepy all the time, would have cold chills, and my hands and feet would bloat. My stomach bothered me, I had pain in my side and a bad headache most of tha time. Lydia E. rinkham's Vege table Compound has dons me lots of rood and I now feel fine. I am regular, my stomach is better and my pains have all left ma. You can use my name If you like, I am proud of what your reme dies bar dona for me." Mr. 11 art CavtuiB, 21 lUJge St, Montpelier, VC An llonest Dependable Medicine It must be admitted by every fair minded, intelligent person, that a medi cine could not live and grow in popularity for nearly forty years, and to-day Sold record for thousands upon thousands tif actual cures, as has Lydia EL rink Lam's Vegetable Compound, without possessing great virtus and actual worth. Buch medicines must be looked cpon and termed both standard and (kpendabls by every thinking person. If jYju have the slightest doubt that Lydia 11 rink ham's Vegeta ble Compound will help you,w rito to Lydia CPinkbamMedlclneCo. (confidential) Lynn, 3Iasa.,forad vice. Your letter will be opened, read and answered by a woman, tn-l Ltll In strict confidence. , criminals by life-long habit, alnce boy hood and even early childhood. Second, that while no clear-cut crimi nal physiognomy or criminal bodily type could be made out, tha prisoners, aa a mass, wherever simply weighed and measured . In sufficient numbers, were from ona and a half to three Inches shorter In stature, from fifteen to thirty pounds under weight, and had less than two-thirds of the cheat expansion of the sveraga of the community from which they were taken. In other words, nesrly two-thirds of our criminals "did wrong" as constantly, as instinctively and as persistently as nine-tenths of their fellows outside of tne prison walla "did right"; and tnese wrongdoers were under-elsed. under weight, narrow chested, stupid and a markedly Inferior physically and men tally to tha right-doers as they were morally. But here the matter hung In tha air for soma time. Tha findings, though In teresting, had no "bite" to them and car tied little definite conviction. Possibly habitual criminals and fre quent offenders wera under-eused and narrow-chested 'and'anaemlo and fear fully subject to tuberculosis; but might not much of this be dua to their vicious and Ill-regulated habits of - life, their drunkenness, tha gross sexual vlcea, tha Irregular hours they kept and the wretched slums and dens In which they harbored ad lay hidden from tha police T Even If they wera under-slsed and under-welght, so wera soma of tha great est men In history; and a moment' glance up and down our home streets would show us scores of men below the minimum height and chest-girth for army recruits, yet who wera. earning a good living and playing a useful and honorable part In their circle and In tha community. Just tha mere fact of a man being under-slsed and slack-muacled Is no explanation of or excuse for his being a criminal. However, we drew one useful, If not wholly logical, conclusion from the facts, and that was: That If criminality and stunted growth and narrow-chested and consumptive tendencies go hand In hand, tlen the better we can feed and house and care for alt our children, especially those in the alums and the back alleys, the fewer of thorn will turn Into crimi nals. blinding himself to the approach of real trouble. . Waiting Is one of the most trying ex periences In all the world. There la no trial that puts stability of character to a more terrible teat. Have you ever waited for a letter that meant Ufa or death, love er Indifference to youT You know the postman Is due at In the morning. You wait at 7 and wonder how you will gat through the two long hours until he comes. Somehow bathing and dressing, eating your break fast and doing the tasks of the day bridge over the time until quarter be fore I. Then you station yourself at the win dow and watch for the first glimpse of the longed-for messenger's gray suit. Suddenly you see him far down the street. Closer and closer he cornea, weaving his path la and out of door ways. With beating heart you wait, agonisingly wondering aa he comes closer and closer whether be brings what you long for. - lie - seems to have a tremendous mall to distribute and to do it slowly and with tortolse-llke progress. Now he Is at the door neat to your own. He passes your house and goes to the neat You must watt bravely for the noon mall, and the next, perhaps. The latter you long for may coma tomorrow. And no blow It deals can hurt you more than did the agony of waiting for what It would tall you. "The Impatient man believes that tha stars fight agalnat him," says an old proverb. And the only bad luck In all tha world Is the bad luck to be weak enough to beliav In luck. Luck and chance have very little to do with the perioda during which one waits. ' You wait for a letter because the per son who sent It didn't get It off In time. That has nothing to do with luck, but depends entirely upon your human rela tionship with that person and how unsel fishly and considerately he thinks of you. To highly sensitive souls who are ner vous and Imaginative, waiting always muat be a certain strain, but they can control that strain and not let It spell agony. Because a loved one who said ha was coming at I has not arrived at t duas not mean ha haa been murdered by bandits or Is never coming at all. It probably Indicates nothing mode trem endous than that he started late, or waa delayed by soma trifling circumstance. When you have conquered your own Im patience so that you ran endure impotent waiting calmly, you have dune much to assure yourself of a peaceiul Ufa. It la chiefly women who indulge in tormenta of agony when waiting. Most men know enough to Ml In periods of waiting with soma activity, so that their minds shall not anxl usly dwell on speculating how soon the lookad-for event wl'l occur. A book or a bit of sewing will often serve to tide over a period of waiting. Korea youaelf to concentrate on some thing other than the thing toward which you are looking. If it cornea it will find you calmly waiting to receive it, and If It falln to come your conserved energy will train you to go on walling. In-Shoots We can forgive and still be suspicious. Scatter sunshine and you will also en joy U rays. Remember that a vigorous howl will always attract more attention than a feeble whins ' -v- - - - By GARRETT F. SEUVISfl. The strangest city In the world Is Tetra, cut out of solid rock In a lonesome moun tain valley in the Arabian desert. Once a rich city. It Is now an abandoned ruin. It Is so old that its origin is lost ti history, but it was well known In early Bible times when the Kdomltes Inhabited It. and about a century after the be ginning of the Christian era It was con quered by the Romans. But a few cen turies later It was abandoned by civilisa tion and for 1,600 years It lay forgotten by the world until the traveler Uurck. hardt rediscovered It In 181X Ho Inaccessible la Its situation, ali.liough it onoe lay on a trade route, that not mora than fifty travelers are known to have visited It since Burckhardt's time. The lateat of these Is Donald Mclelsh. the Scotchman, who was there last Juno, and the photograph shows some of the wonderful sights he saw In this unique elty of civilised troglodytes. Ks romancer ever conceived such a plaoa. All around are barren mountains, rocky, wild and trsokless. Beyond the mountains stretches the desert. A sav age glen deepens Into a long, nsrrow gorge, with perpendicular walls 100 or 200 feet In height. Following this ravine for two miles, the adventurous traveler sud denly finds himself at a kind of gateway In the rocks, like the entrance to a Roman amphitheater. Here he la confronted by a temple cut In the rock, with the most exquisite Cor inthian columns, and entering the door way he finds tilmself In the heart of the hill, surrounded by subterranean architec ture of the most elaborate beauty of form and workmanship. This is the so-called khaeneh, or treasury, supposed ta have been built by the Roman Emperor Had rian. Who visited Petra In the year 1SI A. D. Although called a treasury, it was a temple devoted to Isls. No descrip tion of this strange building has ever ex celled that given by Stephens, the first American traveler to see It: "The whole temple, its columns, orna ments, porticoes and porches are out out from and form a part of the solid rock; and this rock, at tha foot of which the temple stands like a mere print, towers several hundred feet above. Its face cut smooth up to the very summit and the top remaining wild and, misshapen, as Stage Star Warns Frivolous Girls I- By ELLA WHEELER WILCOX. Copyright, 1915, Star Company. . In one of the many stock companies of America in a college town the leading man a few eeasona sgo chancel to ba a very good looking young bened ct, with a wife and two .. children, who re ceived the devotion of his heart. The handsome a e t o r made no secret of this fact, and waa alwaya talking of hla family when oDDortunltv n r e- j sented. Yet this 1 did not prevent him from becoming a matinee Id '1 and the recipient of innumerable I e t- tera from infatuat ed girls and wo men. 1 The young man at first ignored these letters; he then tried returning some of them, requesting the writers to discontinue son.llng him such missives, but tha lettera Increases la spits of all bis efforts, .hen ona afternoon ha stepped in front of the footllghta and addressed a crowded house. He stated that he was so annoyed by these letters that he should be obliged to publish the namea of the wrltere anleaa there waa a cessation of the romantic folly. "I am a married man, he said, "and my wife and children are foremost in my heart I have no desire for any romantic Intrigues, and unless these totters are ': .,"r? II. Sea1 - - - "2.. r, rS,. - .If i. . i. hi , n .min.is.- J!:L C,"Ui. J ' m m L . ' 4 The Famous Tomb of Three Stories and the Sacrificial Altar on the Mount of Obelisks. nature made It. Neither the Coliseum at Rone, grand and Interesting as It Is, nor the ruins of the Acropolis at Athene, nor the Pyramids, nor the mlffhty temples of the Nile, are so often present to my memory." But this ia only on introduction to tha marvels behind. The gorge opens out into' a narrow valley somo three miles ia circumference, everywhere sunk deep beneath the enclosing mountains,' and the walls of this 'valley are filled with the remains of other rockcut temples, tombs and dwelling places. In one place are the remains of an. open-air theater. Some of the structures, cut in the face of the rock, are sevral stories In height, while their architectural details excite the wondering admiration of the beholder. Of course they gain Immensely In tha eyes of tlio surprised visitor by their sit uation and ty the sir of total abandon ment which surrounds them. They are at various heights above the floor of the valley and the uplifting of the eyes turned discontinued the names of the writers will be given to the public." A letter haa just been received from an actor, who seems to have a very high ideal regarding young girls, and a very generous desire to save them from folly. He says; "In the course of a season's en gagement I come In contact with many youag girls of a most tender age ana beyond reproach; others wild, but not wicked, and some just standing on the brink and ready for that terrible plunge which means the beglnrdng of tha end of youch and attractiveness, and hap piness. "There is no aeed to say that often times the actor Is burdened with accusa tions which might more fitly be borne by the young sons of fine tamllWs and their nature fathers, who play truant from tha monotony of home life. Often I have seen young girls taken aside back of the stase and warned by members of the company to beware of respected business men, who were waiting in their cars to convey them to late suppers. "My blood baa boiled when I have seen these men. who stood high socially, and a ho are trusted at home, leading these young girls sstray. Girls are good listeners, and cweetness and sentiment lead easily Into folly and sin. "There must be some way to bring influence to bear upon such girls and cause , them ta realise the danger of their situation." The writer of the above letter suggested the publ'cathui of verse and prose which would Interest such girls, and, at tha same time, warn them. His own letter ought to servo as a warning. It breathes the attitude of a large majority of the best theatrical (ben, actors and i-'". k . . kJW ii i i. f VJ - J"''" r' f44"44!'.. I to study them adds to the Impression of lonely majesty which they make upon them. It Is rare to meet any human being In the place. Sometimes a few Arabs are seen, but at night the voices of wolves, hyenas, owls and jackals may be heard, and . occasionally one of these animals may be surprised lurking in the dark In terior of an open tomb. Large venomous serpents are also sometimes met with. It la not surprising that some visitors have applied to Petra, which has been supposed to be the Selah of the Bible, the curses uttered by the Hebrew proph ets against the land of Idumea, such as these: "And thorns shall come up In her palaces, nottles and brambles In the fort resses thereof,, and It shall be a hab itation for dragons and a court for owls," or "Oh,' thou that dwellest In the clefts of the rocks, that holdest tha height, of the hill, though thou shouldst make thy nest as high as the eagles. I . will bring theo down from thence, ealth the Lord," agers. In the country. - So much do these men see of the frivolity, the silliness, the weakness and the wickedness in human nature that they do all they can to save girls from folly, and their love for purity and virtue In woman amounts to rever ence. .... A theatrical man, who haa risen from the ranks, and who haa . achieved great financial success in his chosen field, spoke on this subject recently to the writer with Intense feeling. He Is the father of a little girt only a few years old, but ba says It is his intention to gfve that r'H, by the time she Is a dosen years old. a if! knowledge of the dangers which .uait her In life, and to make her under stand the high estimate which all good men place on modesty and virtue. He means that she shall learn very ear'y the seejiiy side of Immodesty and boldness, and that she shall never be tempted to lose her self-respect through Ignorance. If there were more fathers and mothers of this order there would be fewer girls Inaklng themselves ridiculous by pursuing actora, married or sing la. Do You Know That The old-time "minuet" derives Its name from . the Latin "mlnistus" referring to the short steps peculiar to this dance. More than a hundred eggs have been found in one alligator.- They are eaten tn the West India Inlands and on the west coast of Africa. They resemble l: shape a hen's egg, and have much the muu Use, but are larger. By DOROTHY DIX A young man writes me that he Is go ing to be married to a gi.l who has a few thousand dollars, and that he has aemanded that the young woman turn over her little for tune to him on their wedding day. He says he doesn't care for the money Itself, because he has plenty, but that he doesn't want his wife to have any money of her own, be cause. If she does, she can buy things without asking his permission, and that would never do. Doun't vt hat sentiment so u n d like Hark from the TombT Isn't It an echo from the far, dim past? I didn't suppose there wss a man left in the world that held to this antiquated notion concerning a woman's Inability to handle a dollar even her own dollar without giving an account of It to her husband. And I am more than a mated that a woman of this day and generation can be found who la willing to marry a man who frankly avowa such p re-Adamite views. Any man who wants to rob his wife of her little Inheritance and who thinks It dreadful for her to have a cent of her own to spend, or to buy her a choco late soda without asking his kind per mission, will make one of the tightwad, tyrannical husbands who send a woman to the grave, or Reno, according to the amount of spirit and backbone she has. I wonder. In a case like this, how tha man would like It If the situation were reversed, and the woman should demand that he turn over to her all of his prop erty, so that he would have to come to her every time he wanted a dollar, and explain what he wanted to do with It. How would he enjoy having to hem and haw and double and shuffle every morning trying to screw his courage up to the point of asking his wife for car fareT How would he like It if every time he wanted a new suit or hat, he had to have either a stand-up fight to get the money from his wife, or else cajole and Jolly it out of her by a lot of lying flat-' tertea that degraded him In his own sightT Suppose he had some relatives a poor sick old mother, for instance that he yearned to help, whom ne was willing even to deny himself to help, but he could never send her even so much as a five-dollar bill because his wife held the purse strings, and he had not a penny of his own? He would find such a situation Intoler able . He would say that no man can maintain his self-respect and be finan cially dependent on anybody else. He would feet that he would rather die than go to even the most generous Advice to -ax JsJSATmrcrB Are Yoa Mercenary t Dear Miss Fairfax: I am a Klrl of 10 and engaged to a man of 23. Have met through business, aa we are both em ployed In the aame place. We are very fond of each other, and he claims I am dearer to htm than his sisters and brothers. Now, Miss Fairfax, the ques tion Is this: My friend took out a Ufa Policy, making his brothers and sister, who are all married, his bewfioUrles, as hla parents are dead. Don't you think he ought to make me hla beneficiary T S. J. Tour .letter sounds as If you were very mercenary In your attitude toward tha man you love. Aren't you a little bit ashamed to be sitting and figuring on what would become of his estate If the man you love were to die? The widow Is legally entitled to one-third of her husband's estate. In the matter of a fiancee It would be natural for a man to make some provision for the girl he loves, but I think it would disgust him If she Insisted on this as a right. Consider Tale Serlo.sl,. Desr Miss Fairfax: T am a girl of 'S snd love a man 4. Now, my fain lv thtnka he 1 too old for me to marrv but I love this man dearlv. So, in aMto of parental objection, should I marry him? PRIRCILUA. The difference In your ages Is so great that the difference In your tastes and Interests must also be very great. You ase really only a child and the man you love is middle-aged probably at least as old as your father. Under the circum MO 4--- ? Res cle TMj ssT J 4 ". father every time he needed money, and as for taking it from one who gave It grudgingly, and berated him for his ex travagance as he doled out every nickel, why exery drop of blood in him wou! 1 rise In furious protest. Yet that is what this man Is calmly proposing to Inflict on the woman ha thinks he loves, and Is go ng to 'majrry. His idea is. of course, that women n1 mere chattels with no normal instincts of self-respect or dignity that a husband Is bound vo take into consideration. He thinks that a woman would Just as soon be a beggar as anything else, and that she rather enjoys abasing herself before her lord and master, and taking with Rrat tud such alms as he la gracious enough to bestow upon her as a toke: of his generosity, and not at all In con sideration of her performing the mult! tudlnous duties of wife, and mother, and housekeeper, and social secretary. Well. If he or any other man take that view of the matter, he la makins; the mistake of his life. Women long for financial Independence Just as much rt men do. They abhor mendicancy .1un as much as men do. They resent, wit i their whole souls, the fact that th Job of the housewife, which Is the hardest work and the longest hours of any labr In the world. I. not even listed amonT gainful occupations, and carries with it no pay envelope. The ono complaint that you hear mor than any other among married women U that they have never a dollar of their own that they can nnj .u.i , " - uicir i miry dictates. The one thing that makes every e-n neonate aoout getting mar ried Is giving up her own pocketbook. The thing that does most to promote Peace and happiness lfl ft 11 fM I SaknU S) the man to rise to the supernal heights Juuc" ana uoerallty and give his wife a definite itnw.n. v . o i. ncrseii ana the housekeeping, instead of having to corascrewed out of him bv the penny. It's bad enough, goodness knows, for the man to arroarata tn him. .if .v.. iu. to handle every cent of the family In come when It'a his own money, but It's Klg-antio nerve for him to assume the right to his wife's property. Of one thing every woman may be certain, and that ta that the right sort of a husband will not want to rob her of her money, and from th wm.i she would best protect herself by hold ing onto her own, for a pocketbook Is an ever present help in every time of trouble, domtstla or otherwise. Also even a hus band treats a wife who Is financially In dependent of him with the respect that we all show to l hose who have money. A wise old banker once said, cynically, that he was perfectly certain that his daughters would all be tenderly cherished by their husbands, and when asked his grounds for this ftilth in matrimony, he replied! "I have settled $230,000 on each one of my girls, so their husbands can't touch It, and the Income on that wl'l make any man polite to 'any woman who has It." the Lovelorn taoutax - stances you must consider the matter very seriously and weigh your own feel ings, their likelihood to be permanent, the feelings of the man who cares f if you and the opinion of your paren s. On general principles I dsapprje o' such a match but how can a stranger play Providence and settle a quesUo i like this with no personal Knowledge of the people concerned ? Consider This Carefully. Dear Miss Fairfax-: I am JS and llvi in: at home with my father and brothers and keening house. My fiance thinks we should live alone, and I Insist that my folks snd I take a house toite'hrr ft I do not like to leave my father. What would you advle us to d? MAROARKT R. It would be far wiser for you to have a home of your own after marrlaee. Marriage means setting up a homo an 1 establishing a family. If your father and brothers can afford to have a house keeper, I think It would be far wiser for you to have a separate home. D not Insist on anything that may wreck your marriage. If you llvo with your father and brothers you may slight yiur duties aa a wife. Don't Insist any cours to which your fiance objects but try Instead to work out a solution which will give you the best possible chance t make your marriage happy and which will not be unfair to your father. 1 oap If yon want s clear, fresh, glowing complexion, use Resinol Soap at' least once a day. Work a warm,' creamy lather of It well into the pores, then rinse the face with plenty of cold water. It docs not take many days of such regular care with Resinol Soap to show an improvement, because the Resinol medication soothes and refresh! the skin, while the pure soap, free of alkali, is cleansing h. WW Iks skaj ia la a vsry atcUcteo. coo, tioo, with BiBpIca, bUckhesds. rsdncM er rtMishnaa. sprcaS aa Just s liuW Km not Oim MM lor te or iltcsa aunuus bciors u.inj fcUBol Suss. kwnol Sus Is aot srtiCcially c.i!.f-l. Itv rick browa bta saurslr u tn tU l...u.l BMdicstioa it coattins. Twcntv-r cats It all drimrui snd dealer in u.uct ;xjc. Tat s trial tiza nks, rut ta lpt. 4-P, f - I tUliuBuia. 34.