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No Other Place
Above Thy Home
"The Little Gods of the Household
" ' Are Jealous Gods."
By DOROTHY D1X
This, the ninth commandment of mat
rimony: Thou shalt exalt no other place above
thjr home; neither thy business office
nor thy bridge table, nor any cause shalt
thou put before thy home, not neglect
thy home for it.
If the true co-respondent were named
In the majority of divorce nults, it woulJ
not be the same blond-haired e ren, or
some romantic
loi '.ing Lothario.
It would be busi
ness, or society, or
the uplift move
ment. These are re
sponsible for the
breaking up of
more homes than
the whole bunch
of wayward im
pulses and fickle
fancies and
straying pas
sions. We Ameri
cans are not by
nature a romantic
and a sentimental
people. Ideals ap
peal 'to ua more than Individuals, and
when we make fools of ourselves, and
hash of our lives. It is oftener over a
thing than it la a person.
Thus It happens that when the average
American man neglects Ma wife and
leaves her to go her own gait alone;
when he is so little acquainted with his
children that they think of him as that
man who comes here every Sunday, and
when he has to consult his address book
to see where he lives, i'. Is not because
some other woman has stolen his affec
tions away from their legitimate owner.
He still thinks when he stops to think
of her at all-that his wife Is the one
woman In the world. He theoretically
adores his children, and he spends money
lavishly on his home, but these are not
the real Interests
of his life. The
thing of his pas-'
slonate preoccupa
tion, that he thinks
of by day and
dreams of by night,
that hi.s every hope
and ambition cen
ters around; the
things that makes
his pulses thrill, or
sends a chill to
the marrow of his
bones, Is business.
. It is the hus
bands absorption
in business that marks the beginning of
the parting of the ways of most couples.
The man gives his real Interest, his real
enthusiasm to his work, and not to his
home. He hurries through his breakfast
with the paper propped up before him so
that he can read the stock market report,
and if his wife tries to talk to him he mum
bles an Incoherent reply that shows ho
hasn't heard a word she said. As soon
as he has gulped his coffee and eggs he
joyously rushes for the car and is swal
lowed up In an alien world from hers.
;When be returns at night he is too
tired out to want to go out with her to
any place of amusement; too tired even
Be Mistress of Your Nerves to Be Beautiful
Bj MME. UNA CAVALIERI
(The Most Famous Living Beauty.)
Realizing as I long ago did that the ex
tremely nervous woman cannot be beau
mistress of my nerves. I studied the sub
ject chiefly by noting the effect of a cer
tain regimen upon my nervous system
and leaving out that which I found was
of bad effect and cultivating that which
was good.
I observed that when I was acutely
conscious of my nerves I was in one of
two otates. Either I was su.'fertng from
the state of netvoue irritation or nervous
exhaustion. One state wis ts bad as the
other. It was not in degrees of misery,
but in symptoms they differed.
Nervous irritation caused me to be
ANY WOMAN CAN
SAVE $5 AN HOUR
Put gasoline and solvit In
Vash boiler and dry clean)
everything.
Ever dry clean at home? Well, It's
o easy, inexpensive and the results so
pleasing you'll be surprised. Any
woman can clean and renew the bright
ness of ribbons, silks, satins, laces,
yokes, silk shirtwaists, kid gloves and
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suits, caps, swtss. lawn, oruandy and
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Oet two ounces of solvit at any drug
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line where it quickly dissolves. Then
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little and out they come loo'inr m
bright and fresh as new. Tou will find
nothing fades, shrinks or wrinkles, re
quiring no pressing.
Any woman can do five dollars' worth
of homo dry cleaning in a few moiiint
and you can't make a mistake. Tour
grocer or any garage will supply the
gasoline and the drug store will sell yon
two ounces of solvit which Is simply
gssollne soap. Then a wash boiler or
large dish psn completes your dry-clean-tog
outfit. Advertisement,
to talk. He never has time to go off on
little .'.aunts with her, and when he does
takes his pleasure he wants to take it
with other men with whom he can con
verse on the only topics In which he
Is interested.
Sometimes a
woman Rre mtfl
after sor.loty, and
drafts her husbsnJ
down into poverty
by t mn to k.cp
up with people who
are better off than
she Is. Instead of
her homo being a
spot of peace and
rest for husband
and children, she
makes of it a
place of walling
and discontent be
cause she cannot -have
the things she wants. Sometimes
she even starves the family that she may
give smart entertainments.
Such a woman wrecks her home be
cause she never makes it a place to come
to Joyfully or to stay In contentedly. Her
IdrRl of happiness Is to get away from
home to restaurants, to cabarets, to sum
mer resorts and winter resorts, wherever
the excitement is most fast and furious,
and the pace most killing. She has no
time to have babies, no leisure to raise
children, never a minute to do anything
so dull and deadly as to try to entertain
a husband and make him comfortable.
Her Ideal of life Is camprlsed In try
ing to know tho people who don't want
to know her, in seeing her name In tho
society columns of newspapers, and hav
ing a hat that cost more than she can
afford. Her con
ception of home Is
a hotel suite and
a Pomeranian dog
and It Is no mar
vel that she so of
ten spends the sea
son at Reno.
Another woman
who is a home
wrecker, albeit un
intentionally, is the
woman who gets
interested In the
church or the mis
alonary Eociety, or '
some cause that
she leaves her home run Itself, while she
tries to run the universe. She works hr
fingers to the bone making flannel petti
coats for the Hottentots while her own
children's stockings need darning,
She lets her own servants steal and
waste; while she lectures on political
economy. She drives her own husband to
drink crusading for total prohibition. She
knows everything except the one vital
fact that the most Important work any
woman can do Is taking care of her own
man and children, and fulfilling the duties
she has taken upon herself.
The trouble with both men and women
Is that they do not rellse that the little
gods of the hearthstone are jealous gods
and that if you fout them they fly out
of the window. This is why it Is so Im
portant to remember the ninth command
ment of matrimony: Thou shalt exalt no
other place above thy home; neither thy
business office nor thy bridge table, nor
any cause shalt thou put before thy home,
nor neglect thy home for It
overactive, to refrain fro:n rest because
rest was impossible. It was such a state
as the exhlllratlon of Intoxication. Ner
vous exhaustion, on the other hand, is
an extreme and continued fatigue, with
a tendency to melancholy.
These states write different characters
In the face, but both are expert facial
handwrlters. Nervous Irritation causes
the eyes to be strained. It causes a faint
but perceptible twitching about the lips
and eyes. Frequently I have noticed that
in this state the face is mottled with
bright red spots, showing that the ever
charged nervous system has reacted upon
the circulation.
Nervous exhauwtlon produces the lines
of discontent and despair. It ploughs
dep furrows from nostrils to lips. It
etches perpendicular lines between the
eyes. The Hps are pale and the cheeks
bloodless.
When a woman has reached this sad
state, every effort exhausts her. She
loses her appetite. She sleeps fitfully or
not at all. She Is In a vague but painful
state of apprehension. Friends and occu
pations or amusements bore her. She Is
tired of the world, tired of life. It Is much
to be regretted If one reaches this state.
It Is the open door to suicide.
The cause In each case is the same. The
sufferer has msde an overdraft upon her
energy, an act as foolish and with results
as serious as to make an overdraft upon
a bank.
On the other hand. If I am of irritable
temper, if I am over-lnter.se in my pleas
ures or my pains- If I talk too much and
needlessly, if I oxagRvrate when I talk.
If trifles asmime more than their true
proportion in my life, then I know that
I have reached the stage of nervous Irri
tation. If by draining your vitality either of
these stages of nervousness has been
reached, you should address yourself at
once to a cure. Of course. It were far bet
ter to prevent nervousness But if this
has not been done, by simple living and
vigilant self-control, then not a moment
should be wasted.
If you are in that fever-ilk condition
that betokens nervous irritation; If your
; eyes are too high. If your fsce too vividly
j expressive; If your voice Is of too high
pitch, your tones too sharp, you must
remove the cause of this concert pitch of
the body.
Don't talk about your aliments nor per
mit others to talk to you about them.
Over-sympathy Is worse then none. For
over-sympathy makes you sorry for
yourself, and there Is no more depleting
stats of mind than this.
i Know a Girl There!" &
"She taught me to say New O-le-ans 'stead of New Urleenit
' She proved that there- was something as warmly white, with a touch
of gold nd violet in the shadows of Us petals, as sweet and as trop
ical as thd l&arnolla and lovelier still! And when I went away
she aald, In her soft, mild drawl, "I'm mahghty so'y to see you-all
go 'war." There are no high-lights In the southern girl. She is all
mellowness, softness and dusk. Her eyes can be gay, but they never
lose the velvet softness of a southern night. All things that whisper
out of the word "South" she is made of. Jessamine flower, and yel-
"Why We Quarreled
By VIRGINIA TERHUNE
UK WATER.
VAN
Copyright, IBIS, by Star Company.
When I was a child young girls were
not allowed the freedom which is theirs
now. And they were far gentler and less
arrogant than is the young person of
today.
My daughters are twins 1 years old.
I insist that they are still children and
should be treated as such. They should
have the Innocuous pleasures suited to
their age.
"And what are those pleasures?" my
wife asked me once when I made this
statement.
"Candy pulls, simple games like domi
noes and checkers, walking or driving
parties and picnics always In the day
time, and always with a mature chaperon
along. That's the way my sisters were
trained. And you were brought up In
the same way," I supplemented, remem
bering suddenly how strict Irene's mother
was with her.
My wife laughed as I enumerated the
various amusements I considoreJ proper.
"Imagine a modern, up-to-date girl
satisfied with that kind of entertain
ment!" she jeered. "Why, they outgrow
dominoes and checkers by the time they
are 10 years old. Walking and riding
parties have gone out of fashion. As to
picnics, they are well enough In their
proper season, but they are very elabor
ate affairs nowadays, and are only possi
ble In summer, at any rate. Even In your
day picnics were not given In mid-winter,
my dar."
I saw that she thought my contentions
ridiculous and It vexed me.
"Tou may sneer if you like." 1 said,
"but I do not consider the parties our
nrl attend the proper things at their
age.-
yt you sent them to dancing school."
she reminded me. ' "Did yoa not expect
them to sttend dances later?"
"Certainly," I replied, 'simple, sane
dances such as w had when we were
young."
"Times have changed, dear," she said
...
gently, "and we must change, with
them."
I thought that perhaps she had at
last reached my viewpoint, since she
spoke so calmly, and I kissed her and
said nothing more. I hoped that there
would be no further cause for such dis
putes. They had become more and more
frequent with each passing year.
But her manner meant only a desire to
conciliate me. Kven then she had in her
mind a plan for the children, and desired
my acquiescence. It wss for a luncheon
party of eight girls at a fasnlonabie
restaurant, followed by a box party at
the matinee, and, after dinner, a little
dance at our house In the evening.
"It is Christmas week," she told me,
"and I want the children to have a good
time."
"Out," I protested, "the program those
girls have arranged would tire a woman
of the world. It is outrageous."
"Young people can stand a good deal
Self Control
ny ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.
I saw an angel with majestic mien
And radiant brow, and smile divinely sweet,
Strong human passions writhed beneath his feet;
There, too, expired those coward faults which screen
Themselves behind inheritance, and lean
On dead men for their strength and think It meet
All, all lay prostrate, owning their defeat.
Then to the spirit with eyes serene
I cried aloud, in wonder and in awe:
"O mighty one, who are thou that thy glance
Can circumvent heredity cheat chance,
And conquer nature? What thine occult law? .
Art thou Incarnate Force the over-soul?"
The angel answered: "I am Self-Control."
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low rose, slow-flowing water, and pine woods, blue bonnets (water
hyacinths), the mocking bird, magnolias and the golden moon of the
South, the deep-throated crooning of the songs they sing there, the
memories of the old South, the gallantry that still lives there, the
languor. She is the South.
' Her skin is warmly white; her eyes and hair, if ahe la Creole,
shadowy copper; she Is as sweet as a sun-warmed grape.
And nowhere is there girl or woman who understands and is as
kind to "Adam" as the Southern Eve. NELL BRINKLEY.
iti.
No. 7 The Man's Side The Puritanical Husband
Tells of His Battle Over His Daughters, : : :
of fun," she said smilingly. "And Gladys
and Hasel have set their hearts on hav
ing the gayest affair given by any of
their set this season."
"It will cost a great deal," I ventured.
My wife has her own income and 1
could not use expense as my strongest
wespon.
"I will defray half tna expense," she
said sternly, "If you wish me to."
"Tou know I don't grudge a cent for
anything that wilt make my children
happy," I reproved. "That Is, if It Is
also good for them. But you are making
fashionable women of little girls."
We argued hotly, and, as Gladys en
tered the room during our altercation,
I knew I was put in the wrong In the
eyes of my own daughter. At last I ap
pealed to the child.
"Gladys," I asked, "wouldn't you and
Ilaiel rather have a simpler affair than
this one you are planning?"
''Indeed we wouldn't," she answered.
NeUBrinklcy
Copyright, Mil, Intern'! Ntwt ftrv1c.
"All the girls are giving stutnnlng holi
day parties, and ws mean to beat them
all."
"What a false standard you are fo
lowing!" I exclaimed. "I am surprised
that you should allow It," I added, turn
ing again to my wife.
To my distress, Gladys burst Into tears.
"It Isn't fair to scold mother when shs
Is trying to mske us happy!" shs sob
bed. "It Isn't fair!"
"There, there, dear!" sobbed the
mother. "Father doesn't understand
tiut mother does!"
I resolved to try to understand the sit
uation. I know my wife is devoted to
her children snd that shs is a good
woman. Perhaps, I told myself, I was
narrow and old-fogey, as ray wlfs often
suggested.
Yet when, on the night of the danos in
our drawing room, I stood at ens aids
and watched my daughters, my heart
turned sick within me. The modern
dances seemed to ma suggestive; the
dresses worn by ths girls immodest. I
sought out my wife where she stood In
the shadow of ths bay window, gaging
with smiling eyes at the dancers.
"Isn't it all pretty?" she appealed as I
came up.
"Its disgusting!" I burst forth. In
dignantly. "I tell you I can't stand this
kind of thing! It Is bad enough to see a
married woman who Is able to take ears
of herself, gliding about in the tight
clutch of a man but it Is shameful to
allow one's daughter to danoe such
dances in such a way!"
She looked at me aghast. "I would
not," shs said slowly and accusingly,
"have such an svtl Imagination as yours
for all ths money tn the world. What
you have Just said Is an Insult to your
wlfs and daughters."
I cannot piove that It was not, for all
the girls In the fashionable set danos and
dress In ths same styls.
But I often wonder If all husbands and
wlvss In that set quarrel as do my wife
and I about the freedom allowed the up-to-date
young girl.
Can You Afford It?
ny UKATHICK FAIRFAX.
We all know that we aro living In ar
extravagant age. Most of us d not
recognise the fact that we are very
strong "contributing causes" to tho n-
i travasanre of our age.
I As a matter ef fact, we cultivate nil
sorts of expensive and luxurious ttal I s
and live on the scale suited to the menu
of the nun one moo higher up in oi.r
financial world. To say "I can't aff.'
It" seems to most of us to be a sIk'i '
lncmrtrncc or even of failure.
As a matter of fact, bravely lo t n '
edge that a thing la beyond your mein
and that you don't propose to squander
your earnings is a very fine thin to d
It carries with It sincerity and a fesrlees
Indifference to snobbery and false values
of what makes life worth while.
The most pathetlo part atiout extrava
gance Is that it so seldom bus us any
thing we really wsnt. llo many of the
people you see In gay cafes at midnight
are getting their moneys worth out of.
being there? Lights, music, exuberant
people all about to how many people are
these really essentials of enjoyment?
Most of us enjoy a "cold snack" out
of the tea box In the cosy atmosphere of
home with a consciousness that we aren't
living extravagantly far better than the
little flurry In high living that brings us
a five-dollar check and the necessity of
lunching on a glasa of milk and a sand
wich for a week to come.
False pride about money matters Is un
utterably silly. We ought to do what w
can afford to do with a graclousness that
makes offering someone our simple home
hospitality truly royal. We ought never
strive after effects that defeat them
selves Just because of our conscious striv
ing. There are various sorts of extravagance
lavish spending of emotion where It
Is not appreciated, a foolish wasting of
one's self in lata hours and social gaieties
that bring nothing real or vital Into one's
life all forms of wasta that mean an out
lay which does not repay Itself are in
efficient and extravagant.
A very brilliant woman who has msde
for herself e plaos In the world recently
Bald to met "I allow myself two even
ings a week during which I keep late
hours and play as exuberantly as I like,
can't afford to waste my energies li
long evenings of jollification that get mo
nowhere. I have to save myself up so
that I may make my days count. An I
If I spent my nights foolishly they
wouldn't"
So much for wasted energy. Wasted
emotion la just as absurd. All the "i
can't live without him" girls who shrill,
madly for the return of a lover whonj
affection was selfish and who never
them more than n few joyous rv'tn'
to offset hours of pelt ntul silo re
ing crlmlnst'y e trivy'nr I 'i I l"
feellngsilf In- -'
ineuo enoug I !i . t u
sclously one "it '
'I'V-
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was not wan? -u. t' h,
mors?
None of t i
come on thl rtv f
because the r -t n: f r
bllng after tl-e i i-. ,
mlt oursolvr l r
1 II 'tc
means do not in l.v
"I can't af.'orj U li u sp'endld sen
fence to loarn lo tny. it gives you the
power bravely to defy the encroachment
of false standards. It helps you find a
sturdy Independence that will make you
more snd more truly yourself. Bet your
own standard of living according to your
means, mental, financial and spiritual.
Tou oan afford to do nothing else.
Do You Know That
An experiment wss ones mads to see
how fast a bee could fly. The hlvs was
attached to ths roof of a train, which at
tained a speed of thirty miles an hour
before tbs bee was left behind.
Among the curious things on notices
on arriving at Moscow Is ths entire ab
sence of whips among drivers of cabs,
carriages and all sorts of vehicles. There
Is a taw prohibiting their use.
The fruit of ths umganu-tre of South
Africa, yields a stong Intoxicating drink.
Eiepnants are said to be very fond of It.
becoming quite tipsy, staggering about.
piaymg antics, screaming so as to be
heard a mile, and sometimes havins tre
mendous fights.
To- test ths penetration of rifle shots.
snow walls six feet six Inches thick were
erected in Aurillao, Franc. Rifles were
fired at a dlstanoe of fifty-five yards. In
each ease ths ball wss stopped at a pen-
ciruon oi nv and a half feet
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i
0. I. Wood Says That Tanlac
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Results.
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"I have been a sufferer from stomach
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my digestion was very ' poor and I did
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from my food. My sleep wss also af
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for hours st a time.
'"Tanlac was very highly recommended
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After taking only part of the first bot
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and my digestion Is now perfect and I
can again sleep better at nights. I d
not hesitate to recommend Teniae."
Hundreds of people have told of th
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MoConnell Drug Company, . ltkh end
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