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Live Not With Thy In-Laws
Says Marriage Decalogue Fourth Commandment Warns
Against One of Most Potent Sources of Domestic Discord.
Paris Autumn Styles
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By DunoTuv mx.
This la the fourth commandment ot
matrtmony:
Thou shalt not abide In the house wltl
thy In-lawa, for therein Heth trouble an
dimension.
According to the
statistics compiled by
the court of dome s
1 1 e relations, the
mother-in-law Is the
most potent so'jie of
domestic dlncoro, and
the first aid to di
vorce. '
Sometimes It Is the
wife's mother who
breaks up a home.
Sometimes it Is the
husband's mot her,
but the concensus Of
experience shows
that either lady is a
trouble breeder, and
that any household Is
due to run up the
storm signal when she arrives In It.
Ot course this should not be thus.
Every mother should cherish her newly
acquired child as her own, and every
bride and groom should love and honor
their new mother. Only they don't. There
seems to be some sinister psychic influ
ence that makes the mere fact of people
beoomlng tn-lawa to each other bring
out all the latent meanness and oussed
ness In their natures as hot poultice
brings out the measles.
Women who are tender and kind and
sympathetic to alt the rest of the world
are guilty of Incredible cruelty to their
mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law.
Generous women who deny themselves
new hats to send flannel , petticoats to
the Hottentots begrudge their old moth
er-in-law a bite to eat and a seat by the
fireside. Noble women, who would scorn
doing any Other sort of underhanded ac-
A Woman's
Influence
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.
"Dear Miss Tfclrfax j What do ou think
of a glrf who J. engaged to a ian she
doesn't love, but yuo koowK it hor lnflu
eisce is taken away from-him hi wVl
amount to nothing? Phe-folt It her duty
to promiso to marry this man. after keep
ing company with him for some time.
The man loves the girl very much and
vows she will never regret rnarrylng him.
He is not a bad man in any way, but
would be weak if hi had the opportunity.
"PEIU'UIXED."
A woman's Irfluence is a wonderful
Ihlng for good or ovil and Perplexed
raltes a fine point In her letter. Cut
marriage without love never yet led: to
happiness.
The woman who marries a man either
to reform him from evil waya Into which
he has fallen In the past or to save
him from falling Into evil ways In the
future, must have Infinite love, patience
and sympathetic understanding to bring
to her task. But the greatest of thee Is
love, for 'It will animate and vltallw all
the other Qualities. . , ,
A woman's Influence Is es great for svll
as for good. And a wlfe-woarled of
standing between her husband and temp
tation, and Wnglng for a strong man on
whom to lean instead of a weakling de.
pendent on her-might easily become a
bitter and depressed woman, who would
utterly fall as influence and inspiration,
The task of acting as mentor -to any
human soul Is , a grave one and not to
, be undertaken lightly. No woman can
keep a man from evil unless she Is a
vital power for good. And any woman
would tire of acting as a man's guide
. and conscience unless she had a very
tender love for him. Not a wild pas
slon, for weak men do not Inspire surg
Ing emotions, but a sweet, tender affec
tlon must the woman bring to her task
who marries a man to save him from
hla own weakners.
If a woman really fee's that without
her Influence a man will amount to noth
ing, her responsibility Is great. But
perhaps even with her Influence he will
be a characterless parasite!
It Is possible that the salutory Influ
ence of being .compelled to think for
himself would to good for a weak man
such as Perplexed describes. Perhaps
the disappointment of losing the ' girl
on whom he depends would make a real
man of hlro.
The man whom a woman can Influence
strongly for good seldom has a pressing
need of her Influence. In " moot coses
the good In his nature that responds to
her would be strong enough to flcht Its
own way to tho surface of his life.
If Perplexed does not love thj man who
Ifans on her she will do him by far the
graver Injustice in marrying him and .Hi
appointing him all through life tl an In
forcing him quickly to take tho bitter
tonio of losing the girl ho love because
he is not rnan emiiKh to hold her.
Because a man whines "I nacd you," a
women In misplaced kind noes may marry
him, and all through 11,'e tinth of Ihem
will be deprived of the red cunira.Uahlp
and love cf true marriige.
A man must win love, not whine for It
like a beggar.
Don't make a pauper of ypur lover by
giving him love becaure he begs for it.
Make him earn your love y piovln his
strength.
If to win his love a man will not ftfiht
life and himself bravely he will always
be a weakling.
The answer to Perplexed is twofold and
applies to all women.
Don't marry a man you cannot love.
Don't believe that a man will amount
to anything with yeu as his wife unless
be tries to amount to something in ordor
o win you.
.--r;.iwi-
tlon, condescend to snoop and spy on
their dnughtere-ln-law and sons-in-law.
and to steaming open letters and listening
:t keyholes.
Mon who are the pink of courtesy and
ivslry to all other women Irf the world
.iow a brutal disregard of even the oom-
! iron courtesies of life to their mothcrs-
ln-lnw.- j
And r it goes, and so It always wl'l go
as long aj human nature is In Its pienont :
unrrge.icrito state, for the in-law propo-
sltlon crystallises Into corcrete forr.i our '
three most pronounced weaknesses. These '
aro tyranny, Jealousy and selfishness snd I
they t'et In their perfect work when we j
are hrought Into Intimate contact with
our In-laws.
There is, to btiKln with, the hitter strug
gle between the bumptious young hus
band or wife and the conceited old woman
about how the houso shall be run. and
who shall run It. Then there Is the un
dying Jealousy of husband and wife of
the ither'a mother, nnd the bitterer Joal
ousy of tho mother who has seen her
place in a child's affection taken by an
other, and (in Idolised son or da.shter
going blithely off v,iih : stranger and
actually being happy with him or her.
Above all, thero is selfthnera, the sel
fiMine9 of the man who feci that no hna
a .right to monopolise his wife's every
though! and Interest; the selfishness of
the wife who feels herstlf defrauded if
her husband gives a dollar of his money
or an hour of Ills time to the mother
who bore him, and tho selfishness of the
mother wno believes that her ron-ln-law
should work hlmsalf to duath to supply
her daughter with luxuries, and tot the
mother who believes that her son's wjfo
should be contented to bo merely a do
mestic elave and not ask for any gew
gaws. It is especially important that ft bride
and groom should start housekeeping
alone, without the presence of any third
party. The first year of married life is
Inevitably a time of adjustment, in which
there !s bound to be much friction. If
left to themselves, a young couple will
fight their differences out to a flnlsln
Then the bride will weep and the bride
groom call himeclf a brute, and they will
kiss and make up and love none the
less for thoir quarrel. But It Is another
story when the bride's mother is in the
house, and eggs the wife on to rebellion,
and tells hor what a persecuted martyr
she is, or when the brldogroom's mother
urges her son to stand firm and not let
his wife henpeck him.
Many a mother-in-law also lays the
Axe to the foundation of a home when
she feels It her duty to call her son's at
tention continually to his wife's faults, or
when she rouses suspicion in a 'youmr'
wife's breast ty harping on how strange it
is mat her husband didn't come home tr
ainner soma night, and wondering If his
pretty stenographer had anything to do
with It.
Therefore, lay well to heart the fourth j
commandment of matrimony: Thou shalt'
hot abide' In the house with thy In-laws, j
for therein lieth trouble and dissension! ;
for In ninety-nine cases out of a hundroi
domestic felicity Increases In direct ratio
10 me instance from your In-laws.
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year have been keeping company wltn a
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Owing to this disagreement I left homo,
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The Prlie-W'innlng Peauty Model.
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ot her beauty until she has learned to
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