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Matrimony is
Full of Bills
Be Rur to Have tho Price.
Nothing Bo Quickly Wakes
Oonplc from love'g Dream ns
the Hound of the Collector Ham
mering at the rYont loor
Pin Money Frocks
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Why We Quarrelled &
No. 3 The Husband's Side He Tells of the
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By DOROTHY DIX. . ,
Thl Is the third commandment of mat
rimony: Thou shalt not marry until thou hast
the price thereof In thy pocket for, lo,
matrimony is full
of bills.
The two greatest
promoters of di
vorce are the In
dividual who first
hold out the al
luring theory that
"love ts enough,"
and hit twin
brother In Iniquity
who laid down the
proposition that
two can live as
cheaply as one.
Millions of guile
" leas young couples
have married on
this platform only
to find that it col
lapsed 'under the
weight of actual experience. They fondly
believed that love was enough, and that,
if you were united to the Idol of your
soul, In- some miraculous way Cupid
would feed you as the ravens did tha
prophets of old, and that, anyway, you
would exist in some sort of a seventh
heaven where you would be Indifferent
to suoh sordid things as food, . and
clothes, and shelter. .
But, to their, amatement, they found
out that after marriage they were Just
as hungry three times a day as they were
before; ana they took' Just the same In
terest in clothes, and found plumbing,'
and a good hathtub and elevator service
Just as necessary to. their bodily com
fort as In their bachelor days.
Moreover, family life Isn't a sum In
simple addition, j It's generally compound
addition, and One and one in matrimony
don't make two, but an Indefinite num
ber whose cost no man can guess before
hand.
These sordid and disillusioning con
siderations are a blight to ronrwnce, but
they are certainties that have to be
faced. Matrimony has to be properly
financed In order to be a success, for
nothing so soon and so effectually wakes
a man and woman up from love's young
dream as the sound of the bill collector
hammering on the door.
It Is a sad truth, but It is the truth,
nevertheless, that our bodies have lo be
comfortable before we have any spiritual
uplift. No man Whose stomach is cry
ing out for good food aver stops to. think
of the state of his heart. No woman who
is worn out with coeklng, and washing
and sewing, and "niirslrig" fretful babies,
has got a romantic thrill loft In hor sys
tem. She would rather have a 15 bill
to hire' a-maid -with .than a ton of death
less luve lyrics addressed to her eyes
Nine-tenths of domestic happiness has
Its root In the money Question. A young
couple marry before they have the 'price
cf a wedding ring, and the expenses Jt en
tails. The man flnda that he hr.s sold
himself Into bondage to grocers; and
butchers and dry goods merchants and
doctors.
Work as hard as he may, he can never ,
satisfy the unending calls upon his pay j
envelop. He has no chance to get ahead, I
no possibility of enjoying himself, or
doing anything but the dally task to
which he la driven by his family neces
sltlea, ,.--
No wonder he ' gets discouraged, dls
grunted, grouchy and that he onmcs to
see in his wife nothing but the millstone
about his neck.
The woman finds that marriage has
turned her Into a domestic slave whoso
whole life Is passed In the endless round
of cooking and sewing,' and scrubbing
and washing, and tending sickly babies,
and practising pinching economies. 6he
becomes disillusioned, even about herself,
because she knows that hard work and
privations, and the lack of pretty clothes
and luxuries are fatal to a woman's
looks and charms.
Rightly or wrongly wo have formed
habits on whose gratification depends
our happiness. The .man accustomed to
good food starves on course food, the man
accustomed to daily baths is uncomfort
able without them. The man who ha
, lived In a pleasant neighborhood, among
cultivated people. Is miserable In a
squalid tenement, with uneducated, unre
fined, unwashed humanity about him.
The woman daintily reared, and accus
tomed to all the elegancies of society, i
wretched If deprived of the softness of
life.
,The moral of all of this Is that no man
should marry until he la able to properly
finance matrimony, and has enough
money on hand to be reasonably sure of
being able to live approximately in the
same way In which he has been ac
customed to live. Ahovo all, he should
not marry until he has monoy enough to
be sure that he will not bo hounded by
the spectre of debt that eats the very
heart out of man .and paralyses his
energy and ambition.
No man should sot up a yacht, an
automobile, "or a wife-thcy all . cost
about the aame until he has the price.
Therefore, bear In mind the third com
mandment of mutrlmony. which Is: Thou,
ahalt not merry until thou huct the price
thereof, for lo. matrimony Is full of bills.
Plaid serge la here suggested for. a simple
morning dress, but homespun or any other ma
terial would do as well. The collar, cuffs and
belt should be made of plain cloth in a contrasting
color. '
Simplicity Is the hall-mark of this suit that,
with its flare of coat and fullness of skirt, will
hold its own among the season's more elaborate
models.
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"The idea," she cried, "of a man expecting a woman to make up by hia society for all the
fun he wants her to Iofc."
By VIRGINIA TICHHl'MC VAN
Dti WATtill.
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It Is strange thit pnnplo who ugron In
the essentials rhou.il quam 1 uliout rUi-h
a nonessential as society. Vet this Is
what my wife and 1 did.
Molly lived l:i- a ruu.i.ry U.vn 'iu il
our marriage. When sho came to Now
York as my wife nhe was l'.il.mitd ij
the gayoty and the scn;ol-n.i whirl Unit
mean less than nothing to me. (-he Is
charming, and my friends called on her
and immediately "took her up," as Ins
saying goes.
Molly Informed me that it v,aa our duty
to return the calls l.imle upon us. This
I agreed to, thinking that whon this post
honeymoon tusk was peifoiiuod we might
rest In peace in our little home and ouch
other's companionship. But Molly had
no such Idea. Instead, she Insisted on
entertaining all who entertained us. This
meant that that we gave a series of din
ners that cost more than we could af
ford. At last I set my foot down hard.
'fee here," I said, "I am not a sorlety
bud, and I decline to be one. I will not
pay for any more of these fool dinners
such as he have been giving for this last
two months."
"But," she protested, "everybody gives
them."
'Then let us have the charm of origin
ality," I proposed. "Let us cut out the
dinners."
'What shall we have Instead?" she
asked, her eyes lighting at the thought
of some new form of entertainment. Her
faoe fell at my answer:
'We'll give nothing. At least I won't.
And as I have not an unlimited Income,
you'd better decide to let the other fel
lows do the entertaining for the rest of
this year."
"In other words," she retorted, "we'll
be spongers and grafters!"
'Nothing of the sort!'' I contradicted.
"These people entertained us; we re
turned the compliment. Now let tha thing
drop. The game's played."
"Then,' she said, "am I to say shut up
In the house all the time and be lonely
and stupid and bored to death T"
It did seem a bit hard, and I saw that
It did. ISo I modified my statement some
whnt. "No," I said, "but If you must go to
affairs, let them be the things that coma
off In the day time, not at night. There
are plenty of lunches and afternoon teas,
If you like that kind of thing.'
flhe followed my proposal with a vim
that surprised me. If she did net receive
an invitation to lunch, she asked soma
friend to go to a restaurant with her. I
held my peace for a while, then I re
minded hor that it coat more to eat at
a restaurant than at home.
"Blnce you must have some kind of
social gayety," I suggested, "do make It
oine afternoon affair that doea not
necessitate the prloe of an elaborate
meal."
Tre follswlng week she announced that
sho had docided to Join a bridge club.
"That will be something pleasant for
the afternoon," she remarked, "and it will
not mean that I have to pay for a lunoh
eon or for any other meal."
This sounded good to me, and I con
gratulated myself i hat, navlng run the
gamut of gayety, Molly would now be
satisfied with devoting an afternoon or
two of each week t her frlendj and
caids.
I was doomed to spot (3 y disappointment,
when the bridge club was well under
way I counted four afternoons out of the
six woi klng days when I reached home to
find my wlfo ibscnt until dinner time.
Kuch time I spoke a gentle reproof, but;
It produced no effect.
I tried to be patient, but at the end of
a month 1 could control my Indignation
no longer.
It was a cold and snowy evening, and
I had had a hard day at the office. I
reached home at a quarter of 7, and as
1 entered my apartment I called my
wife.
Tha negro maid replied from the
kitchen door: "Fhe ain't in yet. Dinner's
ready, too, but I 'spec' she'll be home
right aoon."
I waited until twenty minutes past T.
Then, as our regular dinner hour waa
7, I told tha maid to watt no longer. I
seated myself at tha table, and had fin
ished my soup when Molly entered hur
riedly, "Oh, I'm glad you began without me,"
ha said. "I'll be ready in a minute."
"What detained your' I asked sternly
when she had returned to the dining
room after laying aside hat and wraps.
"we played late, and tna street ear
cam,e up slowly on account of the anew,"
ha explained.
"When did you start uptown?" I
queried.
Molly la truthful, and aha answered
frankly, "At a quarter of T."
"And you expected to ride that die-,
tanoa on a surface car In fifteen min
utes?" I asked.
Bhe flushed angrily. "Would you have
ma leave before tha other woman did
and thus break up tha game?" she de
manded. "Tea." I declared. "I would! And If
bridge means neglect of your husband
and home, you will give It up."
"I won't!" she exclaimed. "We may ns
well have an understanding here and
now, Tou have stopped every other
amusement I have, and I mean to have
a little fun. I declare" her eyes flush
ing "tha Idea of any man expeotlng to
make up to a woman by his society for
all tha fun ha wants her to lose I
"Wlvea have a right to do aa they please,
Just ea much as husbands have. Soma
wives may submit to unreasonable rules
and regulations, but I don't mean to!'
Tou may as well resign yourself to that
fact."
I have not resigned myself to the fact,
but I have to accept It or lose my wife-
By DR. CHARLES H. PARKHURST
One of the essentials to success In our
work, whatever that work may be. Is ti
know how to concentrate our powers
upon the object Immediately In hand. It
Is narrated of Na
poleon, whose abtl-
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Ity In this particu
lar waa most mar
velous, that It was
as though his mind
were made up of a
aeries of compart
ments, any one of
which he could open
at will, and keep all
the rest closed, and
do all of his work,
and exercise all of
his energy in that
one single compart
ment. He had so trained
himself that having
a single object
which he wanted to
attain, he could act as though that were
the one exclusive object In all the world
that he had any concern for. and simply
focus himself upon It, and forget for
the time being that there was anything
else anywhere that ho had any lnteieit
In.
The entire man, therefore, In all nls
tuperb outfit of wisdom and determina
tion bora entirely upon one point. Then
when that waa accomplished he could
close up that compartment and put hlm
elt In some other one, and In that way
always have all that there was In him
invested in the pursuit of but a single
aim. t..
Wa know that If tha quarryman wants
to break Into a ledge of rock it Is not
done by indiscriminately flying at the
ledge with a sledge hammer, but by set
ting up a drill at a particular spot and
concentrating his muscle at that spot.
He gathers at that drill not more than
an Inch in diameter all that there la in
htm In the shape of raw strength, and
the drill goea In, the hole la charged
and the rorks fly. That Is a common
place kind of Illustration. No sensible
man would think of breaking up a ledge
by any other process.
In order to run a locomotive, steam
la produced, but kept In confinement,
so that Its force cannot expend Itself
la every direction, but only at tha one J
special point of pressure upon the piston
rod. A boiler liberally perforated with
points of leakage would mean no motion
at the driving wheel. So that Napoleon,
although occupied upon a different Una
of work, nevertheless won his success
by the use of the same principle aa Is
availed of by the quarryman and tha
locomotive engineer.
There Is nothing in this principle that
needs prevent a person from having a
great many things upon his mind. Most
people that count for much In tha com
munity do have, but harm and a spend
thrift use of personal power begins only
when they attempt to have a good many
things on their mind at one and the same
time with their thoughts and efforts
Moving In different directions at the aame
moment, which prevents successful move
ment In any direction and Involves a
wasteful expenditure of energy.
People who-are burdened and anxious
cannot do good work unless they have
the grace to forget their burden and ex
tinguish their anxiety. Nor can we uc-
ceasHilly Invest ourselves In a variety of
enterprises, unless we keep them, llko
Napoleon, In compartments so essentially
distinct from each other that the Idle
compartments will know nothing about
what is going on in tha busy one.
If a man with all the varied genius
of Napoleon was obliged, in order t.o
succeed, to put the undivided whole of
In-Shoots
Charity as a rule varnUhes too much
cussedness in this wicked world.
The horn of plenty always seems to
turn the small edge In the dircctlun of a
lot of us.
After a man has sworn off, the oppor
tunities to get free drinks always seem
to Increase.
If you can succeed In one rut do not
imagine that you can run the business
of the whole universe.
Wben wa sea a 6-year-old boy suffering
with long curia in hot weather It la proof
that mamma's mental cogs need adjust.
Inc.
himself Into tha one particular purpose
of which he was at tha moment In pur
suit, how much more rigidly Is that prin
ciple applicable to the great majority of
people, who either have no genius or one
of exceedingly limited proportions. That,
I might remark In closing, Is tha seorat
of the difficulty that soma of us have In
soundly sleeping at night; wa close that
windows when we go to bed and lock tha
doors, but omit to shut some one or mora
of those Inner compartments in which
tha mind does Its day's work so that,
divided In two between sleeping and
thinking, we neither aleep to much
effect nor think thoughta that show
themselves to be worth anything after
wa have become fully awake.
It doos not follow from being Inter
ns ted in a newspaper article or in a pub
lic address that one Is thereby actually
benefited. Readiness to ba Interested la
one thing, wa are all of us that. Dis
position to ba Instructed and to have our
views modified and replaced by other
viewa 1 something different, and that la
what very twm of us ara.
We oommenw to read an article and
read till wa encounter an Idea that Is
foreign to our way nt thinking and then
either skip to some other column or be
gin fortifying ourselves against tha dis
tasteful notion that seeks to Impose
I Itself upon us. Wa read newspapers and
I magazines and listen to speeches and
sermons with a view of finding In them
an expression of what we ourselves think.
Just es a handsome face turns to the
mirror In order to enjoy tha reflection
that' the mirror throws back.
Ho that when In tho course of our
reading we encounter an expression that
exactly fits our own mind wa pat our
selves with the observation, expressed or
unexpressed, that "that Is exactly my
idea," or, If It Is an expression that
strlkra back at ua In a way to challenge
our mode of thinking wa evade tha chal
lenge by assuming that the writer dues
not altogether understand what It Is that
he la writing or discoursing about
Still writers keep on writing and ora
tors continue to orata, but with an un-
aerstone or wonderment in their own
minds as to whether their moat success
ful writing does anything more than to
afford their readers intellectual enter
tainment and thetr most sincere preach
ing anything more than to give momen
tary occupation to thalr bearers' athlcaj
propensities,
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