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Before hlg opening M. Worth gave this charming
model from his collection to be sketched for Harper's
Bazaar. It is made of prune-colored silk, with its prin
cess waistline an Inch above the normal, and offers an
other proof that we have many styles from which to
choose this season.
The tendency of Bullos marks this suit of royal pur
ple velvet with braid embroidery of vest and Inside col
lar repeated on the sleeve where It Joins just below the
shoulder. Black fox is used in trimming, and with the
suit la worn a Lewis hat of velvet trimed with ostrich
Pierre Bullos Joins black broadcloth to bin faille In
a suit which Is heavily embroidered In black silk braid.
Kolinsky fur trims the collar and outlines the large
scallops of the short Jacket. A hat of black statin from
Suzanne Talbot completes a costume that need fear no
rival In smartness.
Salve of Appreciation is Greatest Cure-All
By DOROTHY D1X.
Do you know what would do more to
greaao the wheels of life, and make them
run smoothly than anything else In the
Just a little Judi
cious application of
the salve of appre
ciation. A p p reclation Is
the mtilo that
takes the weariness
out of toll, the bit
terness out of sacri
fice, and that makes
all of our striving
worth while. It
put fresh cour
age In our souls,
new hope In our
fftreng-th In our
arms. It Is fame.
It Is achievement, it
la .ruccese. It rpans
the most sordid lite
with a rainbow of jrlory.
Appreciation is the answer to half of
the conunrums over whl-i phlloaophera
an sclendtlsts puzzle their trains In vain.
And just because It Is no simple, so eay,
and so cheap, they will have none of It.
It's the great cure-all for so many ills,
and the pity of It is that with the remedy
in our hands, so frw of us have sense
enough to use It.
If you are an employer and want to
opeed up the euple who work for you,
and make th(-m give you better service,
just try showing a little appreciation of
good work an loyalty, and faithfulness.
Of course, that lan't the orthodox manner
in which an employer usually behave.
The prevaillnx Idea la that the boss
should have an eagle eye out for every
fault In his employes, and be as blind
as a bat to their virtuus. If Smith and
Brown are five minutes late dock them
for It, or read the riot act to them. If
they work overtime in a rush, say noth
ing about it. Just take that for granted.
If little Miss Fmith makes one blunder
in a letter, scold her for it, but be mum
as the grave about the ninety and nine
times that aha Is letter .perfect.
If there's anything that wiU take the
aplrtt out of a man and make him feel
that it doesn't nuke any difference
whether he turns out a mediocre Job, or
one that Is superlative. It Is to have the
perfect assurance that there'll never be
any commendation of his work or Indica
tion of appreciation given by those In
authority. It kills pride In one's occu
pation. It puts the brakes on energy and
ambition to know that there are to be no
medals and blue ribbons for us no mat
ter what our achievement.
On the other hand. It is a spur In our
side to know that our toil does not go un
regarded, and that somebody understands
and appreciates our efforts to do our
best. Why, I have seen a gray haired,
stoop shouldered old bookkeeper
straighten up, and look as If he had had
his wages doubled at Just a word of praise
fbr hia accuracy from his employer. And
I have seen the tired, wan look slip from
a weary shop girl's face at a customer's
courteous thanks to her for the trouble
she had taken with trying to pleaae her.
Appreciation is the one and only solu
tion of tbe domestic problem, and the
only antidote for divorce that will work.
Why do men roam away from home and
seek affinities. Not because any man
believes his ttappinesa la to be found in
leading the double life. He knows bet
ter. Not because his is beauty mad and
seeking a younger and fairer face. Most
of the affinities I've ever beheld and
I've seen dozens of them weren't half
Tarsley rubbed on nettlerash will cure It
Alum, a tablespoonful, powdered, will
purify cistern water.
Almonds contain nearly (0 per cent of
highly digestible fat
Bread, stale, can be made new by be
ing steamed. '
Hausages will not burst If rolled 'n
flour before frying.
T'sing sour m lk as a lotion will pre
vent the face see.lng from unburn.
To extinguish a chimney on fire, take
a large handful of sulphur and throw It
into the fire. When tbe sulphurous
fumes ascend they will at once put out
An easy way to peel peaches Is to
place them in a drainer and dip them
Into boiling water and then Into cold
This enables you to strip off tbe akin
After taking off a pair of gloves,
kid or otherwise, straighten out each
finger and smooth out the gloves be
fore putting away. ' To roll them Into
a ball shortens their lives considerably.
To keep cheese fresh, cut off a small
pleca and plaoe the remainder la a oool
safe. Spread a small film of butter over
the cut part and cover It with a clean
cloth. This will prevent that hard
cracked condition, which ruins the beat of
as gwod looking or attractive as the wives
who had been deserted for them.
No. The real reason the average man
who wanders afar off after an affinity
does so because he gets no appreciation
at home, and what he's out on a still
hunt for la not love, nor excitement, but
appreciation. The poor fellow la tired of
tolling like a dray horse from morning
till night for a wife who takes every
thing she can get out of him without
ever once making a noise that sounds
even remotely like gratitude, or giving
any Indication that she thinks that there
Is anything fine, or noble about him, or
that she's lucky to have gotten him.
The man doesn't mind work. He
doesn't begrudge his family one single
luxury that he bestows upon them, but
what gets upon hia nerves Is that his
family takes it all as a matter of course,
and seem to think It no more than he
should do to slave himself to death for
them. That's what makes father
grouchy and surly around home, and
It could all be so easily changed If only
the wife and children would tell htm
dally and hourly how much they admire
him, how much they appreciate him and
how grateful they are fur his sacrifices.
Belleve me, many a tired business man
would weep for joy If he got even so
much aa a pat on the head from his fam
ily by way of appreciation, auch as they
bestow on the faithful old carriage nag.
It's the lack of appreciation that makes
so many women discontented and fret
ful, and disgruntled with home life. And
you can't blame them. It la discourag
ing to spend your life cooking dinners
for a man who gobbles them down with
out ever apparently noticing whether
they are good or bad. It is discouraging
to pinch, and pinch, and economize for
a man who kicks about the bills, any
way. It is discouraging to try to keep
yourself looking nice for a man who
never takes a second glance at you. No
wonder women get to the place where
they ask themselves: "What's the user
and begin to hunt up time tables to
But they wouldn't If their husbands
would show them any appreciation.
There Isn't a woman living who wouldn't
gladly work her fingers to tbe bone, and
pinch the very buffalo off a nickel In
getting the most out of It If her hus
band would only tell her bow much he
admired her; and what a grand little
manager ha thought she was.
There Isn't a saerlflca of domestic life
that appreciation wouldn't aweetan,
Thsre Isn't a jar that couldn't be avoided
by Its use. The difference between a
happily married couple and an unhappily
married one la that one show their ap
preciation of each other during life, and
the other wait to put it m their tombstones.
How Jealousy Impedes Reforms
(Copyright, 11$, by Star Company.)
My husband and I have quarrels about
his ideas with regard to the equal or
unequal standard, and Ms belief that
he may say and do thtnss which. It I
did, would be Indiscreet. He claims that
1 shoutd avoid all appearance of evil.
In this he Is rUlit, hut If I should do
this, so should he.
For Instance, he Is particular aa to
the kind of woman with whom 1 am
acquainted. If there has been a breath
of scanilal about anybody I meet. I must
avoid her or dlfrlease Joseph.
lt winter we met a pretty and bright
little actress. From alt that I could ob
serve she was as good as she was pretty.
Her husband was an agreeable chap who
let her do much aa she pleased. I liked
But one evening this woman told in
an amusing story, which was rather
risque, and I made the mistake of re
peating it to my husband. I also ex
plained that she had no evil thought in
telling this tale, but that she was prob
ably In the habit of talking quite freely
to the reople In her set
"She meant no harm," I added, "for
she told this In the preeenoe of her hus
band. He laughed at It."
My husband frownsd slightly.
"I do not Ilka you to associate with
women who talk like that nor with men
who laugh at their jokes," he said.
Yet the very next time that he and I
chanced to he company with this cou
ple. I saw my lord and master chatting
a-nlly with the wife, and laughing up
roariously at some of her speeches When
we were alone together, I mentioned this
"Tou sea that she hi very entertaining,"
"She Is amusing, certainly," he replied,
"but she Is also given to making re
marks of doubtful propriety. I don't
want you to be at all Intimate with
Then hs told ma of a Jest that she had
"That was probably what you were
laughing at when I saw you with her," I
"It probably was." he affirmed. 'But
T do not like to hear women say such
"Then." I accused, "why do jrwd en
courage them to ray them? It's not fair
for you men to egg women cn, laugh
at their indiscreet speeches, and then
warn your wives away from them."
"We men have a right and a duty to
guard our. wives," my husband reminded
"And not to guard other women V I
"Certainly not. That Is thai other wo
"It Is unjust to applaud In a woman
that WhVnh you condemn behind her
back." I insisted.
"Ton women do net understand these
'Good Is good, and bad Is had," I as
"Kor a woman yes. But not for
man," he rejoined.
It Is the same way about his criticism
of women's dress. He wants me to drens
In the moat conservative style. He de
clare that ho hntes false hair, powder
and rougi. Ho will not even permit me
to have my hair waved with hot Irons.
"If the Iird h.id meant you to hav
ourls he would hnve Rh-cn you curly
hair," he remarked upon one occasion. .
"And. by tho wav, I do not want you to
wear any of the extremely decollct"
dresses that are now In fashion."
This was when we were discussing a
dance to which we' had Wen Invited.
I had spoken of the kind of gown I
wanted to wear and had proposed havlne
my hair dressed for the affair. I had
not ben to a dance since my marrlajro.
two years ago. and I was quite, excited
at the prospect
Of course, I dressed as my hiwband de
mandedwearing a waist cut In a modest
V In the front and back, and with my un
curled hair wound In a plain twist.
As I glanced in the mirror snd noted ,
my pa'e face I remembered how my hus
band hated powder and rouge, and com
forted myself with the thought that In
his eyes 1 would be lovely.
Yet when he was Introduced to women
wearing low gowns and unnatural curl.
and with arms snd necks glarlnaly whlt
and cheeks auspiciously pink, he neemnl
to enjoy them. I contrasted the looks of
every woman present with my own ik -mure
"I look dreadfully plain." I told mv
husband In an aside.
"You look very natural." he assure-!
me. "You look aa I waht my wife t.i
"By the way, did you notice that woman
who Just came in? She's a stunner. Ian t
she? One of tha fellows has promised to
"I had to acknowledge that she was
Indeed "a alunner," yet I remarked to mv
husband that It was more art ths nature
that mado her handsome.
"Pon't be spiteful I" Joseph admonished
I-Atar I tried one of the new waltsos
With the husband of this "stunner." As It
ended my huBband drew me to on aide.
"I wish you would not danc with a
man you scarcely know," ha said, i I
didn't like to see you with that chap s
arm about you."
"But you were dancing with his wlfo,"
"That's quit different" h replied. "A .
man can do that kind of thing."
"And this woman means to do the
samel" I exclaimed, angered by his tone
and manner. "And when I come to an
other dance Z shall dress as other women
Then." hs said with a finality that
made me know he meant it "we will,
coma to no mora dances."
And, being his wife and a good woman,
I had to submit
It " '..
By ELLA WIIRELEU WILCOX.
(Copyright Ulb. Btar Co.)
Tbe people to whom the Christian
world sends missionaries are asrtonbrtied
and puszled to find the various sects of
these followers of Christ quarreling among
themselves the high
church with the low
church, the Protest
ants with the Roman
Catholics, the Liber
als with the Meth
od Urt. Th various
are at war with
,The residents of
Japan are partiou-
flarly curious re
garding those quar
rels, as they are
educated. In their
land, to think ail
quarreling in a fam
ily an evidence of
bad breeding and
they are educated by th missionaries
to think Christians are of on family.
In Japan the two religious denomina
tions are the Buddhists and th Shin
to. Their temple quite frequently are
side by side, and Indeed, almost svery
Buddhist tempi has a Bhlnto "annex,"
so to speak, and there 1 a very amicable
feeling between tha two sects.
The Bhlnto people worship ancestors
and date their origin back to th Sun
Goddess, who Is their ideal of a divine
being- Almost the only principle Included
in thU worship is on which gives utter
ance to the sentiment, "Never must w
caus sham to our ancestors; It la our
duty to glvs honor to our ancestors."
Yet alas! many of th believers In
Shinto do things which must cause sham
to their ancestors, just aa many Chris
tians (by faith), do things which must
reflect upon their dear Christ and bring
discredit on their creed, and as mr.ny Bud
dhists go contrary to the teaching of
their lrd; hut ths quarrelsome spirit of
ths Christians among thsmeelve is a
continual subject of criticism In the
Envy and Jealouar were severely con
demned by Christ yet Ills followers seem
to indulge these unholy emotions with
out acknowledging them by their ugly
name a In religion. In phllantrophy and
In all kinds of reforms and societies or-s-anlsed
for th betterment of tbe race ws
find these devils of Jealousy and envy
showing their hideous faces.
Tha Society for th Prevention of
Cruelty to Animals Is often at swords'
points with the Humane society In the
same town. Bo bitter has been th an
tagonism that it has bean known to
oraat neighbor enmities and break Up
old friendships. The Sunshine societies
snd the King's Daughters, both formed
to help and brighten the lives of th un
fortunate, are not Infrequently engaged
in a war Ilk unto th War of the Rose;
and th vital forces which should he
conserved for the high purpose of the
organization are wasted In petty and
Ignoble bickerings and quarrels, all re
sulting from Jealousy.
Such a condition of things must make
ths angels ween.
It Is Impossible for one who has ths
real good of humanity at heart, the
real sentiment of sympathy for ani
mals and th real desire to evangelize
the world uppermost In the mind to feel
Jealousy or Intolerance of any other ef
fort In th sam Una.
II who doe not feel enmity or even
lacks the spirit of love for other workers
In th sam field Is only seeking self,
H deceives himself If h Imagines he
Is an earnest philanthropist or reformer.
He Is only a politician In disguise.
It on wanta to lessen th cruelty In
th world toward children and animals,
why not feel heart and soul in sympathy
with every society or organisation that
Is working toward that goal?
He who really wants to brighten the
lives of "shut-Ins" and give comfort to
the sick and poor will Instinctively say
"Ood bless you" to every other worker
in similar fields.
She who Is a King's daughter In very
spirit will bless the Sunshlner, and unless
this feeling drives out any possible in
trusive thought of jealousy toward other
organizations there Is not. the spirit of
Ood or unselfish love of humanity or
sincere sympathy for animals In the
There Is only a desire for self-aggran-dUament
and an ambition very like unto
the ambition of a polUolan to s&oceed
in some cherished aim.
For jealousy Is of the devil, and can
have no place in religion or philanthropy.
Sympathy seldom heals th wounds of
When th heart la young th face sel
dom grows old rapidly.
There may be plenty of room at th
top, but the rent Is always sleep.
Soma wives can heupeck so sweetly
that a fellow does not realize It.
Somehow the market always seems to
be open fur the other fellow's Ideas.
Alone in the City
Where Should She Go?
' Where Find a Room?
Every Mother realizes tlio danger that confronts a
yowng girl coining to a big city alone. Dangers lurk, at
every side, evils tliat masquerade as
virtues, false friends who are tho
worst of foes, and innocent pastime
which in reality are tho vilest prac
tices. Too much care cannot be
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