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About Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922 | View Entire Issue (Oct. 2, 1915)
r rr ----------------- tome iviaazitie Pae I A Few Latest Models in Smart Styles from Paris MgTT! ) Why We Quarreled-' lijr Vlrglnl Terhnn Van do M'ur. thins," he letnrned, "because you do not know life as we men know ft" z -- c v V .v;f-" ma it." . i i ; e . hi M s s SI J tf: : I V 1- A .A- V V . ... .NV' 1 VVr-N. rT iiii1 . J ... ..V '' ' ? ' ' i V s '''V 1 I-:'1: --"v l L Before hlg opening M. Worth gave this charming model from his collection to be sketched for Harper's Bazaar. It is made of prune-colored silk, with its prin cess waistline an Inch above the normal, and offers an other proof that we have many styles from which to choose this season. The tendency of Bullos marks this suit of royal pur ple velvet with braid embroidery of vest and Inside col lar repeated on the sleeve where It Joins just below the shoulder. Black fox is used in trimming, and with the suit la worn a Lewis hat of velvet trimed with ostrich plumes. Pierre Bullos Joins black broadcloth to bin faille In a suit which Is heavily embroidered In black silk braid. Kolinsky fur trims the collar and outlines the large scallops of the short Jacket. A hat of black statin from Suzanne Talbot completes a costume that need fear no rival In smartness. Salve of Appreciation is Greatest Cure-All By DOROTHY D1X. Do you know what would do more to greaao the wheels of life, and make them run smoothly than anything else In the world T Just a little Judi cious application of the salve of appre ciation. A p p reclation Is the mtilo that takes the weariness out of toll, the bit terness out of sacri fice, and that makes all of our striving worth while. It put fresh cour age In our souls, new hope In our hearts, more fftreng-th In our arms. It Is fame. It Is achievement, it la .ruccese. It rpans the most sordid lite with a rainbow of jrlory. Appreciation is the answer to half of the conunrums over whl-i phlloaophera an sclendtlsts puzzle their trains In vain. And just because It Is no simple, so eay, and so cheap, they will have none of It. It's the great cure-all for so many ills, and the pity of It is that with the remedy in our hands, so frw of us have sense enough to use It. If you are an employer and want to opeed up the euple who work for you, and make th(-m give you better service, just try showing a little appreciation of good work an loyalty, and faithfulness. Of course, that lan't the orthodox manner in which an employer usually behave. The prevaillnx Idea la that the boss should have an eagle eye out for every fault In his employes, and be as blind as a bat to their virtuus. If Smith and Brown are five minutes late dock them for It, or read the riot act to them. If they work overtime in a rush, say noth ing about it. Just take that for granted. If little Miss Fmith makes one blunder in a letter, scold her for it, but be mum as the grave about the ninety and nine times that aha Is letter .perfect. If there's anything that wiU take the aplrtt out of a man and make him feel that it doesn't nuke any difference whether he turns out a mediocre Job, or one that Is superlative. It Is to have the perfect assurance that there'll never be any commendation of his work or Indica tion of appreciation given by those In authority. It kills pride In one's occu pation. It puts the brakes on energy and ambition to know that there are to be no medals and blue ribbons for us no mat ter what our achievement. On the other hand. It is a spur In our side to know that our toil does not go un regarded, and that somebody understands and appreciates our efforts to do our best. Why, I have seen a gray haired, stoop shouldered old bookkeeper straighten up, and look as If he had had his wages doubled at Just a word of praise fbr hia accuracy from his employer. And I have seen the tired, wan look slip from a weary shop girl's face at a customer's courteous thanks to her for the trouble she had taken with trying to pleaae her. Appreciation is the one and only solu tion of tbe domestic problem, and the only antidote for divorce that will work. Why do men roam away from home and seek affinities. Not because any man believes his ttappinesa la to be found in leading the double life. He knows bet ter. Not because his is beauty mad and seeking a younger and fairer face. Most of the affinities I've ever beheld and I've seen dozens of them weren't half Household Hints Tarsley rubbed on nettlerash will cure It Alum, a tablespoonful, powdered, will purify cistern water. Almonds contain nearly (0 per cent of highly digestible fat Bread, stale, can be made new by be ing steamed. ' Hausages will not burst If rolled 'n flour before frying. T'sing sour m lk as a lotion will pre vent the face see.lng from unburn. To extinguish a chimney on fire, take a large handful of sulphur and throw It into the fire. When tbe sulphurous fumes ascend they will at once put out the fire. An easy way to peel peaches Is to place them in a drainer and dip them Into boiling water and then Into cold This enables you to strip off tbe akin without waste. After taking off a pair of gloves, kid or otherwise, straighten out each finger and smooth out the gloves be fore putting away. ' To roll them Into a ball shortens their lives considerably. To keep cheese fresh, cut off a small pleca and plaoe the remainder la a oool safe. Spread a small film of butter over the cut part and cover It with a clean cloth. This will prevent that hard cracked condition, which ruins the beat of cheese. as gwod looking or attractive as the wives who had been deserted for them. No. The real reason the average man who wanders afar off after an affinity does so because he gets no appreciation at home, and what he's out on a still hunt for la not love, nor excitement, but appreciation. The poor fellow la tired of tolling like a dray horse from morning till night for a wife who takes every thing she can get out of him without ever once making a noise that sounds even remotely like gratitude, or giving any Indication that she thinks that there Is anything fine, or noble about him, or that she's lucky to have gotten him. The man doesn't mind work. He doesn't begrudge his family one single luxury that he bestows upon them, but what gets upon hia nerves Is that his family takes it all as a matter of course, and seem to think It no more than he should do to slave himself to death for them. That's what makes father grouchy and surly around home, and It could all be so easily changed If only the wife and children would tell htm dally and hourly how much they admire him, how much they appreciate him and how grateful they are fur his sacrifices. Belleve me, many a tired business man would weep for joy If he got even so much aa a pat on the head from his fam ily by way of appreciation, auch as they bestow on the faithful old carriage nag. It's the lack of appreciation that makes so many women discontented and fret ful, and disgruntled with home life. And you can't blame them. It la discourag ing to spend your life cooking dinners for a man who gobbles them down with out ever apparently noticing whether they are good or bad. It is discouraging to pinch, and pinch, and economize for a man who kicks about the bills, any way. It is discouraging to try to keep yourself looking nice for a man who never takes a second glance at you. No wonder women get to the place where they ask themselves: "What's the user and begin to hunt up time tables to Reno. But they wouldn't If their husbands would show them any appreciation. There Isn't a woman living who wouldn't gladly work her fingers to tbe bone, and pinch the very buffalo off a nickel In getting the most out of It If her hus band would only tell her bow much he admired her; and what a grand little manager ha thought she was. There Isn't a saerlflca of domestic life that appreciation wouldn't aweetan, Thsre Isn't a jar that couldn't be avoided by Its use. The difference between a happily married couple and an unhappily married one la that one show their ap preciation of each other during life, and the other wait to put it m their tombstones. How Jealousy Impedes Reforms (Copyright, 11$, by Star Company.) My husband and I have quarrels about his ideas with regard to the equal or unequal standard, and Ms belief that he may say and do thtnss which. It I did, would be Indiscreet. He claims that 1 shoutd avoid all appearance of evil. In this he Is rUlit, hut If I should do this, so should he. For Instance, he Is particular aa to the kind of woman with whom 1 am acquainted. If there has been a breath of scanilal about anybody I meet. I must avoid her or dlfrlease Joseph. lt winter we met a pretty and bright little actress. From alt that I could ob serve she was as good as she was pretty. Her husband was an agreeable chap who let her do much aa she pleased. I liked them both. But one evening this woman told in an amusing story, which was rather risque, and I made the mistake of re peating it to my husband. I also ex plained that she had no evil thought in telling this tale, but that she was prob ably In the habit of talking quite freely to the reople In her set "She meant no harm," I added, "for she told this In the preeenoe of her hus band. He laughed at It." My husband frownsd slightly. "I do not Ilka you to associate with women who talk like that nor with men who laugh at their jokes," he said. Yet the very next time that he and I chanced to he company with this cou ple. I saw my lord and master chatting a-nlly with the wife, and laughing up roariously at some of her speeches When we were alone together, I mentioned this fact "Tou sea that she hi very entertaining," T said. "She Is amusing, certainly," he replied, "but she Is also given to making re marks of doubtful propriety. I don't want you to be at all Intimate with her." Then hs told ma of a Jest that she had made. "That was probably what you were laughing at when I saw you with her," I remarked. "It probably was." he affirmed. 'But T do not like to hear women say such things." "Then." I accused, "why do jrwd en courage them to ray them? It's not fair for you men to egg women cn, laugh at their indiscreet speeches, and then warn your wives away from them." "We men have a right and a duty to guard our. wives," my husband reminded me. "And not to guard other women V I asked. "Certainly not. That Is thai other wo man's business." "It Is unjust to applaud In a woman that WhVnh you condemn behind her back." I insisted. "Ton women do net understand these 'Good Is good, and bad Is had," I as serted. w "Kor a woman yes. But not for man," he rejoined. It Is the same way about his criticism of women's dress. He wants me to drens In the moat conservative style. He de clare that ho hntes false hair, powder and rougi. Ho will not even permit me to have my hair waved with hot Irons. "If the Iird h.id meant you to hav ourls he would hnve Rh-cn you curly hair," he remarked upon one occasion. . "And. by tho wav, I do not want you to wear any of the extremely decollct" dresses that are now In fashion." This was when we were discussing a dance to which we' had Wen Invited. I had spoken of the kind of gown I wanted to wear and had proposed havlne my hair dressed for the affair. I had not ben to a dance since my marrlajro. two years ago. and I was quite, excited at the prospect Of course, I dressed as my hiwband de mandedwearing a waist cut In a modest V In the front and back, and with my un curled hair wound In a plain twist. As I glanced in the mirror snd noted , my pa'e face I remembered how my hus band hated powder and rouge, and com forted myself with the thought that In his eyes 1 would be lovely. Yet when he was Introduced to women wearing low gowns and unnatural curl. and with arms snd necks glarlnaly whlt and cheeks auspiciously pink, he neemnl to enjoy them. I contrasted the looks of every woman present with my own ik -mure appearance. "I look dreadfully plain." I told mv husband In an aside. "You look very natural." he assure-! me. "You look aa I waht my wife t.i lock." "By the way, did you notice that woman who Just came in? She's a stunner. Ian t she? One of tha fellows has promised to Introduce me." "I had to acknowledge that she was Indeed "a alunner," yet I remarked to mv husband that It was more art ths nature that mado her handsome. "Pon't be spiteful I" Joseph admonished I-Atar I tried one of the new waltsos With the husband of this "stunner." As It ended my huBband drew me to on aide. "I wish you would not danc with a man you scarcely know," ha said, i I didn't like to see you with that chap s arm about you." "But you were dancing with his wlfo," I retorted. "That's quit different" h replied. "A . man can do that kind of thing." "And this woman means to do the samel" I exclaimed, angered by his tone and manner. "And when I come to an other dance Z shall dress as other women do." Then." hs said with a finality that made me know he meant it "we will, coma to no mora dances." And, being his wife and a good woman, I had to submit hi-.: 1 s It " '.. By ELLA WIIRELEU WILCOX. (Copyright Ulb. Btar Co.) Tbe people to whom the Christian world sends missionaries are asrtonbrtied and puszled to find the various sects of these followers of Christ quarreling among themselves the high church with the low church, the Protest ants with the Roman Catholics, the Liber als with the Meth od Urt. Th various theosophlcsl centers are at war with on another. ,The residents of Japan are partiou- flarly curious re garding those quar rels, as they are educated. In their land, to think ail quarreling in a fam ily an evidence of bad breeding and they are educated by th missionaries to think Christians are of on family. In Japan the two religious denomina tions are the Buddhists and th Shin to. Their temple quite frequently are side by side, and Indeed, almost svery Buddhist tempi has a Bhlnto "annex," so to speak, and there 1 a very amicable feeling between tha two sects. The Bhlnto people worship ancestors and date their origin back to th Sun Goddess, who Is their ideal of a divine being- Almost the only principle Included in thU worship is on which gives utter ance to the sentiment, "Never must w caus sham to our ancestors; It la our duty to glvs honor to our ancestors." Yet alas! many of th believers In Shinto do things which must cause sham to their ancestors, just aa many Chris tians (by faith), do things which must reflect upon their dear Christ and bring discredit on their creed, and as mr.ny Bud dhists go contrary to the teaching of their lrd; hut ths quarrelsome spirit of ths Christians among thsmeelve is a continual subject of criticism In the Orient Envy and Jealouar were severely con demned by Christ yet Ills followers seem to indulge these unholy emotions with out acknowledging them by their ugly name a In religion. In phllantrophy and In all kinds of reforms and societies or-s-anlsed for th betterment of tbe race ws find these devils of Jealousy and envy showing their hideous faces. Tha Society for th Prevention of Cruelty to Animals Is often at swords' points with the Humane society In the same town. Bo bitter has been th an tagonism that it has bean known to oraat neighbor enmities and break Up old friendships. The Sunshine societies snd the King's Daughters, both formed to help and brighten the lives of th un fortunate, are not Infrequently engaged in a war Ilk unto th War of the Rose; and th vital forces which should he conserved for the high purpose of the organization are wasted In petty and Ignoble bickerings and quarrels, all re sulting from Jealousy. Such a condition of things must make ths angels ween. It Is Impossible for one who has ths real good of humanity at heart, the real sentiment of sympathy for ani mals and th real desire to evangelize the world uppermost In the mind to feel Jealousy or Intolerance of any other ef fort In th sam Una. II who doe not feel enmity or even lacks the spirit of love for other workers In th sam field Is only seeking self, glory. H deceives himself If h Imagines he Is an earnest philanthropist or reformer. He Is only a politician In disguise. It on wanta to lessen th cruelty In th world toward children and animals, why not feel heart and soul in sympathy with every society or organisation that Is working toward that goal? He who really wants to brighten the lives of "shut-Ins" and give comfort to the sick and poor will Instinctively say "Ood bless you" to every other worker in similar fields. She who Is a King's daughter In very spirit will bless the Sunshlner, and unless this feeling drives out any possible in trusive thought of jealousy toward other organizations there Is not. the spirit of Ood or unselfish love of humanity or sincere sympathy for animals In the heart, There Is only a desire for self-aggran-dUament and an ambition very like unto the ambition of a polUolan to s&oceed in some cherished aim. For jealousy Is of the devil, and can have no place in religion or philanthropy. In-Shoots Sympathy seldom heals th wounds of the underdog. When th heart la young th face sel dom grows old rapidly. There may be plenty of room at th top, but the rent Is always sleep. Soma wives can heupeck so sweetly that a fellow does not realize It. Somehow the market always seems to be open fur the other fellow's Ideas. Alone in the City Where Should She Go? ' Where Find a Room? Every Mother realizes tlio danger that confronts a yowng girl coining to a big city alone. Dangers lurk, at every side, evils tliat masquerade as virtues, false friends who are tho worst of foes, and innocent pastime which in reality are tho vilest prac tices. Too much care cannot be taken. If you are a Mother having a daughter about to come to the city to go to school or college, or to work, Safeguard her as much as you can. Look to THE BEE to offer snggoE , tions regarding tho most reliable boarding and rooming houses at which sho may stop. Or, if you are a young lady com ing here to fctudy or to seek employ ment, come to THE EEE for assist ance in finding a good place to live. On file in The Bee offices i3 a list of reliable places where excellent boarding or rooming facilities are to be found. ' You can trust, THE OMAHA BEE i Room 104 Bee Building