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By ELBERT
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but It should not
L Friendship In noble,
exclusive.
No two person of the same se can
ompUment each other, neitner can they
trig uplift or
uneflt one, an
ther. TV' shetild hnve
any friends or
lone.
When two men
Sin to "tell each
ther everything,"
bey are hiking for
enlllty. There
oust be a bit of
fell defined re
(rrve. We ar.' told
hat In matter
ulid steel. lor 1n
lance the. mole
cules never touch.
I hey never surren
er their IndlVM
lality. We arc all
llvlne molecules. -
nd our personality should not be aban
toned. Fe yourself, let no man be neoea
ry to you your friend will think more
t you If you keep him at a little (Us
ance. "
Friendship, llkerdit. Is hlBhest where
Is not used. . . '
)l can understand how a strong man
lay have a greet and abiding- affection
r a thousand other men. aad call them
l by num.. but how h ran regard any
lie of these men much closer than an
ther and preserve his mental balance, I
n ot krxrw.
jljt a man coma close enough and he'll
jMvh you like a drowning; person, and
fvwn you' both go.
In a iTose and exclusive friendship
bch person partakes of the other'
leaknesset.
Jin shops and factories It happens con
lantly that jren will have their chums.
fThese men relate to each other their
foubles they keep nothing back they
mnathize . .with each other, they mu
ally condole.
Their friendship I exclusive, and oth-
fi see that it is.
JJealoinry creeps In, suspicion awakens.
site crouches around the corner, and
ese men combine In mutual dislike for
rrtafn things and persons.
They foment each other, and their aym-
lathy dilutes sanity by recognizing fan-
Mysteries of
1 By PAOL LOMBROSO.
To the ettperftttet observer the omproa
Ion of the majority of every day women
hat aurtoiftwr Jilm- Ta , rr (a, mKV fchiv
bncetve rathej ptsatraiatic -of Hr-oqisn.ia
What does he sea? Young, pretty,
qucttifch girl; wise in the matter of
ess, hungry for admiration, shy and
perficlal, always cn the outlook fqr a
usband.
I Ha aeea young women wife are tyran
Ital aad distrustful if they arc adored,
F natural aad pretentious if they believe
ey ara gifted, taken up ..with petty
andala and gossips, interested mostly in
opping, calling. 5 o'clock teas and au
orltles on the rules of etiquette. He
so sees good housewives, mothers.
ivaa, good-hearted, but narrow-minded,
xioua for their husbands to be deoor-
ed. Infatuated with their children and'
lievlng it not to be a crime to humor
em In their smallest whims. Slaves to
elr embroideries and knitting, upset and
i despair it the cook happens to waste a
ttla butter.
.Such la the averags woman an elegant,
raoeful. conventional doll on every point,
istifying the expression "the weaker
fx." But thla Is only apparent, for It Is
ist In thla kind of. -woman that I have
jund the purest, greatest, strongest and
lost Indomitable force; it Is this kind of
'oman that can show firmness and
surage, dignity and sense of Justice, self
enial, feeling of duty, and who In an
mergency can fight to the bitter and.
The contrast between tha commonplace
f woman's everyday life, and her ca
aclty for mora strength In a decisive
loment Is Indeed wonderful and striking.
Hera it an essential point where tha
loral strength of woman dlffera from
ten. A morally strong man Is strong as
( result of instinct, or education, and he
mains so whether his life is happy or
ull of suffering, but tha men who are
trong not only physically, but morally
re more rare than one ahould think.
.Woman, on the other hand, allows her
(oral st engih to remain dormant, while
er life Is plaxid, happy and normal. But
(hen tfce necessity arises when poverty.
alamltles or sickness overtake her
mily It acts upon her lika magic. It
not only one woman, it Is all. the most
cmmonnlaee, the gentlest, the sweetest,
rho, suddenly without any warning, with
lit preparation, unhesitatingly are ready
devote themselves, sacrifice themselves.
Ireless, fearless, humble and ardent.
pstalned by an Interior fire, which Is
uddenly Ignited and does not go out.
Tha most simple, most frivolous woman
Jes at the bottom of her soul a spark of
rroism which neither she herself nor
ti y body eli-e suspects, which she- never
horns if her life runs its normal course,
tit which springs into evidence and man
ests Itself by actions of devotion and
tlf-acrlfice. If fate strikes a orutl blow
gainst her. or those whom she - loves.
ien she does not wince, she does not
emplaln. nor give way to useless despair.
it rushes into the breach. The woman
ho hesitates to put her feet into cold,
Jactd water throws herself into the
rnlsof the roaring, surging maelMrom.
I can give you one striking Instance.
lady' whom I knew personally had
een married eighteen years to a very
Ich, cynical depraved banker, who neg
"cted her and abused her so cruelly that
everal time she was on the point of
sking for a divorce. Then came a fl
anlal scsndal; the banker was ruined,
rrested, found guilty of a fraud, and
rntenred to several years linpriwuiment.
Chen this abused wife st.w her husband
rushed and condemned to prison, she
rgot the reasons she had to hate him.
ad, although she could not love him,
ic waa the only on who remained faith
it to him. For two years she regularly
ought him a basket of luncheon she
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Friendships
cled troubles an ft making them real.
Things get out of focus, and the sense of li
values is lost.
By thinking some one is an enemy, you
evolve him into one.
Soon others are involved, and we have
a clique.
A clique develops Into a faction, and a
faction Into a feud, and soon we have a
mob. which In a blind, stupid. Insane,
crasy. rampine, roaring mass that has
lost the rudder. In a mob there are no
Individuals all are of one mind, and in
dependent thought Is gone.
A feud Is founded on nothing It is a
mistake a fool Idea fanned Into flame by
a fool friend.
Every man who has had anything to
do with communal life has noticed that i
the clique is the disintegrating bacllus.
The clique has its rise always In the ex
clusive friendship of two or three per
sons of the same sex. who tell each
other all unkind things that are said of
each other "so he on your guar,!.':
Respect all men and try to find the
good in all. To assoilute only with the
sociable, the witty, the wise, the brilliant,
la a blunder-go among the plain, the
stupid, the uneducated, and exercise your
own wit and wisdom.
You grow by glvlng-havc no favorites
you hold your frend as much hy keep
ing away from him as you do by follow
ing after him.
Hcvere him yes. but let space inter
vene. Be a divine molecule.
Be yourself and give your Mend a
chanr. to be himself. Thus do you bene
fit him, and In benefiting him you bene
fit yourself.
The finest friendships are between
those, who can do without each other.
The beautiful dream of socialism,
when each shall work for the good of
II. will never como about until M per
cent of the adults shall abandon all ex
elusive friendships.
Ontil that- day arrives we will have
clique and denominatlons-whlch are
cliques grown big-factions, feuds and
occasional mobs.
ro not lean on any one. and let no
one lean on you. The ideal society will
be mado up of Ideal Individuals.
Bo a man and be a friend to everybody.
when the Master admonished Ilia dis
ciples to love their enemies. Ho had In
mind the truth that an exclusive love is
a mistake love dies when It Is monop
olised it grows by. giving.
Woman's Soul
had prepared with her two hands, wait
ing her turn -In the long row of waiting
persons, exposed to the humiliating and
impudent remark of . the gendarmes. '
a When Aar -JjuabanAvwa - tit"- hf
penUentlftTy, she pinched, starved, and
eaveo irv oroer to no able to send him
books, flowers and fruit to his prison
cell.
Here is another case. It was "also a
woman whom I knew intimately. She Is
dead now, but whlto she was alive she
waa known as a rather disagreeable per
son. While she was prosperous, she was
tyrannical and Jealous of ' her husband,
unkind to her children, miserly,. cruel to
her servants, haughty toward her ac
quaintances, and more than condescend
ing toward those whom ahe considered
her Inferiors. Her husband lost his for
tune and they were without any means
of existence. She then took up her for
gotten studies, applied for a position as
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Victrola VI, $25
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The following Omaha and Council
Bluffs dealers carry complete lines
of Victor Victrola, and all the late
Victor Records as fast as issued.
You are cordially invited to inspect
the stocks at any of these estab
lishments. Schmoller & liidier
PIANO COMPANY"
1311-1313 Farnam St. Omaha, Neb.
Hear the .Newest Record In Our Newly Keuixlele
&ound-lroo Demonstrating Itouina on the Main 1'loor.
Corner 15th and H
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The Latest in Paris Modes
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A Princess model of nary blue taffeta, with
pinked rurbing outlining the eklrt, tasb In the
back and white linen collar and cuffs. Fans of
foliage trim a coral soutache straw.
a teacher, and got on at an annual sal
ary of 1,600 franca, and on this she sup
ported her ' husband and children. She
became tha most devoted of wive and
mothers changed her character entirely.
From morose she became gay, though
she now had to work late and early and
she tried In no way to .pose as a victim
of unfortunate circumstance She did
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this for fifteen years until - her death,
while her husband made no effort what
ever to get on his feet again, but simply
sat down with Idle hands' cursing his ill
luck, and grumbling at the meager fare
her salary provided. This Is one of the
most aallent characteristics of woman's
moral strength. She find a "raison
d'etre" in her devotion and self-sacrifice.
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steps with
Victrola.
Victrolas Sold by
A. MOSPE CO.,
1513-15 Douglas Street, Omaha, and
407 West Broadway, - Council Bluffs, la.
Swids Stoires
Talking Machine Department
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To a full skirt and flaring Jacket and green
check, buttons are added; belt and collar of oil
cloth. The Chinese hat is In green Milan and
black satin.
She goes up Into her part and shuts her
ears to any outside voice. A man Is
hardly ever ' thua able to consecrate his
while life to one person, one Individual. I
do not mean to say that ha la not capable
of 'the same seal, the same sacrifices,
but he Is eminently social and his devo
tion Is more apt to be to a cause than to
an Individual.
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The Fox Trot, Cattle Pol
ka, and all the other new
dance all played loud and
clear and in perfect time.
There are Victors and
Victrolas in great variety
of styles from $10 to $250
all Victor dealers.
Victor Talking
Caunden,
Dancing is the
.i I'rartlcrd TnIr it in the lni
By BKATRM'K FAIRFAX.
Recently a young man who found him
self worn out from th exacting work of
being secretary to s. big corporation,
went to one of New York's rleverest
specialists to be, as he put It. "built
up."
The doctor looked the young business
man over thoroughly and announced that
h waa suffering from nothing in the
world but lack of exercise. "Tou need at
least three hours of strenuous exercise a
day," said he.
"Put doctor, how am I going to get
three hours' exercise? My work keeps
me at my desk from ! to ;30, with a
possible hour out for lunch. Precious
little ehance for fresh air in tnat six
day a week schedule."
"I'm not Insisting on sunshme and
fresh air." replied the phvdelaii. "I told
you to exercise. lo !t at night lo It
In an attractive environment with music
snd laughter and pleasant rompanlon
to spur you on. Psnce."
And thla great specialist advocated a
course which Is coming more an.l more
lo be respected by physicians and lay
men. Panee. There I no more healthful,
stimulating and altogether pleasant exer
cise In all the list of hody builders.
Have you never wondered why the
.lancing erase ewept the country o
broadly and gathered In cltlsens from
17 to 70?
The best way to figure the thing out Is
to dance a full four-minute phonograph
record to the stsps of the old-fashioned
waits or two-step. Jtepeat the same atep
over and over with ho change in tempo i
or accent for four minutes. At the end
of that time you have had a period of
strenuous exercise, anil unless you are
young and In the prime of condition,
you are likely to lie rod-faced, panting,
excessively warm and much too worn out
to look forward to the next waits or
two-step with any enthusiasm.
Here Is the answer a to why the danc
ing of our early youtn wa never as
popular as that of the present decade.
The waits and two-step were "too much
like work" to become popular for parents
and grandparents, aa well as lusty young
children. They were good exerclso, but
ou couldn't use them to put yourself
In condition; you had to be In condition
before you could venture Into these
over-strenuous whirls.
The dancing of the present day per
mits combinations of strrs, changes of
positions, variations from half time to
double quick, glides and walks which
combine into whole In which eaeh new
position you rest and readjust yourself
from the last Tha followers of the new
dance may begin With simplo steps
which are pleasing and enjoyable and
exercise themselves gradually back into
a condition of health or forward Into a
condition at strength, where the most
strenuous dip and evolution ara pos
sible. The new dancing i autf-adjustiag. Tou
fit it to your desires, to your lung ca
pacity, to your ability to keep cool, and
to the nlmblenea of your feet. Each
personality may be fitted. Bo grand
father and grandson both rise Joyfully
to the measure fo fox trot, canter waits
or one-step, and, to tha aelf-same tune,
dance Joyously according to their con
ception of how to "tako a step."
"Everybody's doing it" does not quite
explain the new dance and Its popularity.
Everybody can do It this la tha main
reason for the spread of the erase and
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i;ffKllTe Roa1 to (.oo1 Health
there are
several very good minor-
causes.
We all tire eaMly of the Same thing
over and over again. There ! no
monotony to the new danclnc. Th
music to whih It is performed lias a
swing and syncopated ratchlnesa that
fslrly express the mcod and tem
perament of our nation and gen
eration. Rhythm Is a very natural expression of
feeling. Out of rhythm grew poetry and
music. Primitive peoples, when they meet
lor Joyous festivals, swayed naturally to
their own chanting.
Pnnrlng la a splendidly perfected ex
pression of rythm. But when dancing
was a hard and fast ono-two. one-two.
one-two. It did pot allow the Individual
much chance for self-expression
The man who comes out of hia office at
8 o'clock and who fairly riraga his feet
along ns he set out mechanically to
"walk home through the park" for the
sptendlu exen le It affords, misses any
thing splendid In the exercise lie takes
beciuxe he thinks he ought to. There Is
no Joy. no uplift In the sodden way he-
drags h'niself along or lashes himself
to proceed on the balls of his feet per
forming dull and uninteresting deep
breathing exercise the while.
Exercise to pertorni Its functions In the
way that Is best for lhe hody, ought to
bo crl.p and Joyous; It ought to fill the
mind. "The tired buslnesa man" who
takes his exercise at walking, at driving
home lit his motor car, or wh some
mechanical exerciser, may get fresh air
or movement or both. But all the while
lie I probably going over his business
problems and missing the relaxation of
tired nerves i.nd stimulation of feelinii
which would make his exeTises worth
while.
The man who can go out early In th'
morning and ride horseback or hve n
good game of tennis or can follow a golf
ball over the undulating links for hours
is getting splendid exercise.
But for the .avoragn business man who
hasn't a chance at the outdoor world, ex
cept on Sundays or at vacation time, the
dance Prase Is n bleslng. The lsxy so
ciety woman whoso most violent form of
exercise, has hitherto been to let her
maaseiise worl: at flabby tissues, now
rises to the occasion and Joyfully whirl
In the dance. Men and women who
though themselves too old for active en
joyment, find youth and light hearts ris
ing up from thlr own trlppipg feet.
The doctor who advises the young busl
nesa man of f replied nerve waa wise In
his day and generation.
Exactly what will this tired man find
In dancing? First, hi one chance of ex-,
erclse. Second, his one chance of relaxa
tion and furgetfulness of all his business
problems together with stimulation of,
stagnant blood and outworn muscles.
Then Joy and pleasant companionship.
And finally from the music, the lights,
the laughtnr and the gayety alt about him
an Invitation and an Incentive to youth
and gayety In hi own heart which will'
renew his for the grind of the next busi
ness day.
Dancing In moderation and with ssnlty;
Is probably the most healthful as well as'
tha most pleasant, form of exercise. And
dancing Is within the reach of all rich
and poor, youiiK and old.
Regard It on the high plane where It
is meant to be, a sane, healthy, pleasant
exercise. Remember that once It wa
held In such high repute that It was a
religious rite. Keapect It aa a fine chance
for muscles and lung and heart Then
this splendid chance for self-expression
will be kept on the high place Its health
giving qualities and Joy-promoting ability
deserve.
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