THE IEK; OMAHA, MONDAY, JANUARY 11, 1915.
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Mistakes Made
by Women
Boast of Success in Win
ning Hearts and Getting
Proposals One of Gravest
Errors Possible Girls
Who Appear Blase Lower
Themselves : : : :
The Poetry of the Dance as Exemplified by Mrs. Vernon Castle
In "Watch Your Step" Mrs. Castle Wears Gowos of Surpassing Originality, Designed Exclusively for Her By Lady Duff-Gordon (Lucile) Personally
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r.r ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.
Copyright. 1915. Btr Company.
No greater mistake ran be made with
mrn tlian for a womun to boast of hrr
aucree In winning heart and proposal.
It wm Impnaelble that a woman pos
sessed of one ray
of rommnn eenee
er a particle of
breeding- could do
such a thins; yet it
Ij not unusual to
hear a young Jady
relating her con
quest to a group
' admirers, and
laughing over the
susceptibility o f
mankind. Though
they may laugh
with he, they ure
sure to laugh about
her among them
mIvm When her
bark la turned.
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us iir -Vl sin,
It la always a
mistake for a woman to be led Into
lowering her ldl because aome man
alie loves and admires urges her to tep
down. He Invariably curse her If h
doe, while if ahe turns and pae above
him aha hears hla benediction, and eight
times out of ten he follows her.
It Is a mistake for a young lady to
talk to a man as if she werebla and
widely experienced In all human emo
tions, frailties and faults. Many Innocent
and inexperienced girls adopt this man
ner, thinking It will render them fascin
ating in the ryes of mon.
Men are not analytic or doep-mlnded
enoUKh In regard to our aex to realise
that a girl who ha drunk too deeply of
the waters of knowledge doe not talk
of it. Men take us for what we seam,
not for what we are. The most hardened
inondalne who weara a mask of frank
Innocence fare better with them than
the good, sweet-hearted girt who puts
on blase airs, and pretends to be a little
wlrked. Men Judge' by appearance far
more than women do. Except In oases
where women are rivals, they are leee
liable to condemn one another ' for a
light lapse of speech or conduct than
men are to condemn us. j
Another mistake which women some- J
time make la to ask any favor of a;
man which will put him to the least ex-
iwnse. No matter how pressing are the
circumstances, she should, never take the :
liberty unless he Is a near relative. In j
the various circles of American society, j
where it is the custom of young men to
escort young lad lea to theaters ana oinor
places of entertainment. It 1 a mistake
for a young lady to voluntarily expatiate
upon her fondness for the theater or the
concert in Ms presence.
11 Is a mistake for a young woman to
correct or scold her parents tn the pros
noe of men, Imagining they wUI admire
her culture or courage or Imagining that
xhey will not notlo It A wealthy and
accomplished girl at on of our noted
1 seashore resorts was severe'y criticised
and condemned by group of men be
cauae one of them had heard bar apeak
unkindly to her mother.
It la a mistake for a woman (wife,
mother, alster or sweetheart) to make
plana for the dispoeal of all a man's
spare hours, and then expect him to
enjoy hlmaelf.
It is a mistake for a woman to try to
prove to men her great knowledge and
superior Intellect. They enjoy an Intel
lectual woman when they discover her
brightness themselves, but they do not
like to have her tone her brains and
learning upon them.
But It la Just as great a mlatake to as
sume an air of Inaipldlty and expect a
man to think It charming. Men are ex
acting In'tbeir demands. Too much or
too little brain in a woman Is equally of
fensive to them. A '
it la the mistake of a lifetime to accord
a man any liberty and expect him to keep
the matter a secret, while me excep
tional man may maintain alienee on the
actions of a young girl whom he be
lieves unsophisticated, the average man
(In the highest the same as In the lowest
walks of life) bouts of his successes
with foolish women, and the rendexvou.
the letter, the embrace or the eouvenlr
which ahe haa given him. thinking It will
never be known to othera. Is shortly the
matter of gossip among a doaen people.
Women hide their secrets far better
than men do. They fear the censure of
the world too much to share their mis
takes with confidantes. But men are tn--variably
vain and proud of their , con
QUeata, and relate their . achievements
with the fair sex to one or two admiring
friends. They seldom use names, but let
the Incidents ones be told It Is an easy
matter to d let-over the personages If one
U at all curious to do so.
It Is the worst mistake of all for a
'oma.n to think she can make no mla
take. The moment aurh a conviction
enters her head she Is on the highway
to some grand blunder whereby she will
wound, disgust or antagonise the man
she moat cares for. Eternal watchful
neas, never falling caution, perpetual tact
and equal quantities of pride and hu
mility are necessary ingredients in the
behavior a woman rtveda to use with
men. This should be garnished with good
sense, flavored with coquetry, and aervrd
with good nature. And even then we
will be liable to niaks eome false steps.
Do You Know That
When a young woman of the Philip
pines marries, her husband' nam la
added to her maiden name. If she be
comes a wMow the husband's name I
jis-arde4.
Kor six yes re Irotn U44 te iuXV-Bou-otM
as aa Kr.glUh posaesalon, and the
bnii.li elcmeat In the town was large
and influential before the crow-channel
1'lcseure eteann is made It , the beat
known tot In France te the piejurity of
i-Ualuh jkasuro suckers.
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Thl brocaded eown U of heavy silver gray and blue silk, trimmed
with blue and ray fox. The muff is of blue fox, lined with green, and
the hat is of the same color, gray, as the gown, trimmed with mauve. The
rleeves are very shapeless tvbes of gray blue chiffon, trimmed with fur.
To the right is another view of the same gown, showing It laced up front
and side with fold green shot mescaline.
Broad Horizons
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.
vVhen your eyes are very tired from
close application to reading or writing
or sewing, have you ever tried resting
them by looking out of the window far
away to the hortion? There Is nothing
more soothing to tired vision than this
readjustment of focus In the lenses of
the eyes. ,
Most of us tire our minds by keeping
them focused on the little things that tie
close at hand. And It Is this narrow
nesa of vision that cuts down our live
Into tiresome slice that are mere seg
ments of the green circle each of u
ought to have for her world. Close at
hand lie the Immediate questions of mak
ing a living, finding a little pleasure In
life, clothing one' self, getting three
meals a day and making friendships. The
sum of these small Interests amounts to
"getting" through the day somehow."
The little round of dally taak. If those
tasks center closely about you. Is Just as
tiring to mind and heart and spirit as Is
a steady appl'ratlon to sewing to the
eyes.
A you rest your tired eyes by taking
them from the work on which they have
leen focused, rest your tired spirit - by
giving It a broad horlson Instead of Keep
ing It on the central point of the circle
where you Mand.
A narrow liurlson with a small radius
of Interest to measure the circle of life
Is one of the failings of which women
are more often
causes, and Is i
giilKjr than men. It
torn ntiui k.
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Any Interest that takes a woman "out
of herself" Is a wholesome one for her.
Actually, to go out Into the park and feed
the siulrrela might be a sufficiently
unusual benevolent proceeding for a
aelflih and self -centered person to mark
the beginning of real charitable enter
prise. feeding the squirrels St leant makes
your circle a tlr.y Jot broader than merely
clothing your self "like the lilies of the
field." and though It Is ttot to be com
pared with looking after a poor family
for the winter, at least It points In that
ji tree Hon.
Every skep you take along the radius
of a new circle that broadens out toward
"ding for others" gives you at the cir
cumference of that circle a constantly
widening horlson.
Pr a Jaded and world-weary spirit, for
a modern attack of "nervea," for all all
menU of the tpe that generally lead
toward a rest cure and a sanitarium,
try a "rest cure" of a new sort, dive
your mind the restful, euoriilng influence
of taking Its vision off the concentrated
work and play that lie close pecked
around you own being.
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Advice -to Lovelorn f
i r By BBATKICa TAXarAX 1
," Don't Deceive Her.
Iar Mlsa Fslrfajt, I am ".1 and I hace
been away from my parent a nnd relutlves
for the luat two. yeara. 1 never receive
any newa from any of them except
check 1 roceive evrry two month from
iny lainer. provided 1 stay away. -
aooui rive months ago 1 met a younir
kiii iu wnurn & ani' now enWMneo. fc'nmi
I the day 1 met her to this day both she
una ner ramuy. with whom 1 am on very
ioi , mum i am ainne in the
worm, wmiuui parents or relative. Now,
uo ou think I would be doing her an
injustice u i married nr without telltnti
win iruin oi my pasi lire? At the
piesent time I can give her a reasonably
tonuort.ibly home, absolutely independ
ent from what I am recelvlnaj from mv
fther, a I have a position paying ma
t-7 a week, and also my habit of a few
ear Mo are a thing of the rt; alao
also a thing she never knew. I dare any,
I am en entirely new person from what
I waa three year ago. P. D. VAN D.
The first step you ahould take 1 to
seek a reconciliation with the family you
once shamed. Think how proud they will
be that the "black sheep" ha been re
claimed, ha mad good and la working
seriously toward a fin future. The
reconciliation will complete your suocees,
wheg you have taken one other atep.
ton't start your married life with a lie
between you and your sweetheart tell
her of your estrangement from your
family, but try to aUd to that the happy
tidings that you have won their forgive-
ns.
An KBsaaTeaneat
Dear Miss Kalrfex!
Rceepttoa.
Kindly let
"w correct or most appropriate style
'0,.."M r fiancee and fiancee wlie
mill ra va In n I.mIi n . a ...
vu m uuiiu.; .iter
noon, I to I o'clock; also proper style of
drees for brother and alater of the en
gaged couple on that occasion.
ALICB J.
At any afternoon reception the mea
wear correct afternoon dress frock coat
and gray trousers. But the bride and
her assistants at aa engagement recep
tion generally wear light colored evening
owns.
A Boy'a Lave.
near MUa Fairfax: About three years
sao I met a young girl who is two years
my Junior. I ara & yeara old. A year
no my busincaa made me leave town.
KuiiiiK tlie summer I unit heme for m
vacation.
In two years time I will be earning a
snUry that lll enable roe to marry
Tills Is the onlv gtii I ever loved. But
during- the lam three montha I have re.
ceird only six lean at Intervale of two
vl.a mi 'art.
I save the ulrl a ring when I was horn
dining . the lininirr. auJ said we could be
mail id in June, iid. TATHICK.
A boy of years ought not to be en
tering into an engagement to marry,
lxin l worry over fancied ugot ou the
lert of this girt It her friendship last
until you are ready to marry, and you
still feel you luv her then, wejl and
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; , Tbl omn of yellow chiffon Is banded with pale blue
and bright gren ruchlng and garlanded with flowers ot all
col u or. The strap on the shoulder Is 1 of diamonds and
ierl. ,The little bodice is of pale blue. satin. -
Fleah-colored silk stockings and satin slippers are worn
with both gowns.- . . .
good. But I think - yon are mistaken a
mere longrop formal lection for geuulne
love. Just let Ihe matter adjust itself,
and don't make o(irslf unhappy If you
drift apart. Between the years when you
36 and 30 yeara old you will be better
able to choose your real mate
It ia Net Heawrakte.
pear Mlae Fairfax: Ie it honorable for
a man to try to make love to an engaged
glriT The girl la a wonderful person,
about Ha. I am an average man. 11. My
rival is In thu same social and financial
poaiilou as 1 am. All three of us work
la the same otilce. I? lie cared for me be
tore ahe iihH him. but he ia a fine fellow
and won her luve quickly. 1 kive her
mure than mi y body iu this world. Now
that she Is enaed. would It be honora
ble for in to attempt to win her love?
We meet doaena of times daily. How
ought 1 act? R 8.
It 1 moat dishonorable for a maa to
try te make love to a girl who la en
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EKirt
gaged. Pince ahe. knew, you flrat and.
had not given you her love at the tune ',
the man for whom ahe carea came into i
her. life. It was either because you had 1
failed to try to win her then, or because
you had tried and failed, it would be
perfectly Inexcusable for you to attempt
to win her now. Probably you would
suoceed in estranging both of your friends
If you made the attempt.
Cearteay Between Man ana Woaaaa.
Hear Miss Fairfax: I am a. girl of !0
and have been out with a oung man. but
when he leaves m he d'wa not make an
other appointment, although sometimes
we meet accidentally, and he then aska
me to the theatrr. Would it be protnjr
for me to ak him when I will . him
again? IlfcLEif M.
Aak your friend to oa.ll upon yeu at
your own home. It la probably tot this
little courtesy that h la watting.
The untler dross of gray blue chiffon
n nas a green satin sash and a
la made enormously full, being thirty yards around the bottom.
By WILUAM F. KIRK.
Thare Is no use 'talking, sed Ma. the
wimmen Is glttlng moar & moar Inde
pendent every day. I ' have Jest been
reeding about a bralv woman who left
her husband went out Into the wurld
to ern her own living as a saleswoman,
leeving her welthy husband to think It
oaver. . .
Was he crule to her? sed Pa.
I ehud say he- was, accordin to this
artlkel. . sed . Ma. The artlkel. says that
he wuddent lei her ware a purpel wig .4
ome kind of a new ' Paris gown which
she had bought to please htm. ' '
. Did she leeve him for that? sed Pa.
That's what she did, sed Ma, & I glory
in her spunk.
Tou can call It" spunk, if you want to,
sed Pa. but I call It bunk. Aa soon as
she find out that the v. hole wurld lsent
craxy to taia ner part & give her a
ewell posslshtm stimware she will be back
at the old hoinenled, re.ldy A willing to
git along with the hair wich'Nater put
on her hed. "satisfied to w are gowns
moar iiko the- kind her mother wore bee
foar her.
I doant bjeleVe she will ewer go back
to him, cd Ma. Till artlkel says that
until he sends her apurpel wig fc a gown
like the one he wuddent ler her ware,
A tells her to put them on cum back
to her lonesome husband, she will stay
away. & he will cum around & do- It,
too, sed Ma.
If he does he Is a simp, sed Pa-
A what? sed Ma.
A simp.' Pa sed: a boob, a bonehed. a
su-ker. Why, sed Pa, if I had a wife ,
like that I wmd be eo glad to have her ;
stay away that I am afrads I wud get .
foollah luffing from sheer Joy.
Then you do not think that a husband 1
shud yeeld to his wife. In a seerus case j
like that? sed Ma.
lie ought to die first, sed Pa. Why.
he sed, 1 was reeding Jeet the oher day
about a wmoan wlch put on one of them
new Paris gowns wich was so tile around :
the bottom that wen ahe tried to take a '
quick step toward the stairs she fell '
down V broak her neck. j
I doant see anything Vary humorous
about that, sed Ma. j
Nor me, sed Pa, it is tragic. It 1
awful to think that wimen are sitting o j
loony .about Pari fashuns that they can't i
keep thnre American necks and there '
husbands fromy getting brr.ke. Jt isent
funny, goodness knows, sed Pa.
Well, sed Ma. to Vet back to this lady
wich went away, it only shows g) hat the
time la cummlng wen women ahall no
longer be under the yoke of man. Thare
la a time cummlng wen the wimmen ahall
help the men rule the wurld, wen thay
hall vot like th men, hold office like
worn under the costume to the
bunch of lavender flowers. The
the men, be as well abe to govern as
the men. You doant doubt that, do you
.! Ma. '
No. sed Pa. that time 1 cummlng, I
guess," out wen It does cum, the wimmen
will not be waring Paris gowns V cullurd
win. Thay will not.be style craxy and
tuiiKo craxy. Thay will be moar like the
wimmen now ded & gone, sed Ta, moar
like our mothers & grandmother. After
thay have passod- thru thare present
loeny stngc, calm back to erth. Pa sed,
any time thay want to vote all thay have
to do is to lop the men a line. That is
all I have to Bay. sed Pa, excep that If
that man talks that wife of hla back the
way she want., him to, he is a sucker.
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