Marrying for Fear of
Being an Old Maid
By DOROTHY DIX.
A young woman, who is earning a good
salary with a better one In night, writes
me that her parents consider It a dis
srae for a girl to be an old maid, and
that thoy contin
ually urge her to
marry an- ody she
can get In order to
be Rb'.e to write
"Mm." before her
name.
The girl does not
want to marry
unless she can bet
ter her condition
in life, nor does
she wish to marry
without love. None
of us, however, can
shake off the su
perstitions that are
hied In us, and the
things we are
taught at our
mother's knee, und
so she wants to know If It Is n reflec
tion on a girl and n humiliation to her
family for her to be an old maid, and If
the had better marry any sort of s. stick
of a man than to remain single.
No. A thousand times no. The poorest
trade that any girl ever make is when
the exchanges a sixty-dollar job for a
forty-dollar husband, and nothing on
earth can Justify such folly except for a
woman to he so madly In love she has
taken leave of her sense. That any girl
should make such a bad bargain when
she's not In love and merely for the
sake of bolrt;? married Is a piece of
Idiocy that would be past belief If wa
cldn't sea It done so often.
Nobody will deny that a happy mar
riage Is the most blissful estate In the
world, but there can be no happy mar
riago In which the woman does not love,
admire and respect the man to whom she
is married. Nor Is there any happiness
in a marriage in which the husband Is
not ablo to support the home in decent
comfort.
For a woman to he married to a man
whom she docs not love and honor spells
misery for her. For her to be married
to a man who cannot make a com
fortable living means wretchedness.
There is no other Blave on earth who
works bo hard as the wife of a very poor
man. The girl who works In factory, or
store, or office has her hours of labor
determined by law, beyond which the
most cruel taskmaster cannot drive her.
She has her pay envelope at the end of
the week, and. generally speaking, she
has no anxieties beyond providing tor
herself.
The poor wife and mother tolls from
dawn until far Into the night at tasks
that are never done. She receives no pay
for what she does, and she has her heart
continually torn to pieces with anguish
over the deprivation her children must
suffer, and the fear that the time will
come when she will not be able to even
give them bread.
Nothing but an overwhelming passion
for ome man that makes a woman feel
that she would rather starve and slave
at his side than to ride In automobiles
and feast on terrapin and champagne
away from him should tempt a girl to
give up a good position in the business
world to marry a man who is mak
ing less than she does. A great love
can gild the hardest lot, but without lovo
the sacrifices a poor man's wife must
make eat Into her very soul, and make
her curse the day she was fool enough
to marry him.
It Is a eruol thing that parents should
be willing to jeopardise a daughter's
happiness by urging marriage on her,
but they do. If the girl is dependent on
them It leaves her in a peculiarly help
less position, but when the daughter is
a working girl, who earns her own liv
ing, she ha a perfect right to tell them
that as long aa they do not have to sup
port her she will do as she pleases In the
matter.
We do not stop to consider the sig
nificance of the thing morally, but this
Is the first generation of really virtuous
women the world has ever known, be
cause for the first time In the history of
the world women have been able to
marry for love alone, and not forced to
marry for a home, and between the
woman who marries Just to get some
man to provide her with food, and rai
ment, and shelter, and the woman of the
street, there is no whit of difference.
If, a girl can many well. If she can
marry the man of her heart, and the man
with whom she can take an upward step
In the world, by all means let her enter
the holy estate. But to marry when she
doesn't love and Just any sort of a
make-shift of a man Just to be marrying,
and to keep from being an old maid. Is
not only a crime, It mean the wreck of
all happiness In her life.
What is the Color of Your Eyes?
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.
Eiack, blue, brown, gray er hazel;
granted they are one of these colors so
far as your mirror disposes, are they jiot
nlso another' color which is not always
c.pparent on the surface?
Are they not sometimes, not often.
Lut JiiBt sometimes, a little green?
reny it and you deny that there la any
jealousy in your makeup, proclaiming at
the tame time that you have a heart
thut is encrusted In snow and hung In
Icicles". And you deceive no one, for
every one knows that the little green
eyed god has at some, time Occupied a
thrine In every human heart.
It is second nature to love, and it is
Doy cr Girl? !
Great Question!
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During the period of expectancy It 1
applied to the abdominal muscles and la
designed to soothe the intricate network
of nerves Involved. In this manner It
has such a splendid Influence aa to Justify
Its use in all cases of coming mother
hood. It has been generally recom
mended for years and years snd those
who have used It speak In highest prais
of the Immense relief It affords. Partic
ularly do these knowing mothers speak
of the absence of morning sickness,,
absence of strain on the ligaments and
freedom from those many other dis
tresses which are usually looked forward
to with so much concern.
There Is no question but what
"Mother's Friend" has a marked tendency
to relieve the mind and this of Itself In
addition to the physical relief has given
It a very wide popularity among women.
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cate the nerves, muscles, tendons ani
ligaments involved.
Tou can obtain "Mother's Friend" cX
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It is prepared only by Brad Held Reg
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MUCH HAIR FROM LITTLE
third nature to be jeaioiis. It is the part
of wisdom to conceal this Jealousy, but
the beginners at the came, those who
take love most seriously, and who re
gard it not as an incident In life, but
all of life Itself, are never wise In play
ing their parts. They love without re
straint, they are Just as uncontrolled
in tho fear, hatred nnd resentment of
Jealousy. The man and woman who are
Jealous, and show t. defeat their own
happiness, but the objects of their adora
tion and suspicion hav the satisfaction
of knowing it is not a love that has
bloomed before.
A young girl writes me that she has
every assurance of her sweetheart's
love, but
"There Is a girl that cares a lot for
him and she puts herself on him every
.time she sees him, and if we are at a
party she hangs around him an that r
never can have a pleasant consersation
with him. Ho says he doesn't care for
her, but I hear he Is at her house when
not at mine." ,
Another girl tells a story of jealousy
as follows.
"He admits he writes to her, but says
he never goes to see her. I scold him
about It all the time. He calls on me
every night in the week but one. and I
am very suspicious. Do you think he
goes to see her the right he Is not with
me?"
Another girl, with as convincing proof
of her sweetheart's love. Wind in Ifnnw
how she can find out what he does the
two evenings a week he is not with her.
"It would break my heart,'' eh writes,
"to find he calls an another girl."
The writers of these letters are very,
very young. If they were older they
would k now that no man's lov is held
by nagging; they would have learned
that jealousy is a flattery a lover soon
resents. Pleased at first because of Its
display, since It shows the girl loves him,
ho grows very ansgry when It exhibits
Itself In nagging, suspicion and distrust,
and if he is a wise as his fathers he
transfers his heart to a harbor of lov
that Ih more peaceful.
It Is third nature to be jealous, but
It is possible to get such control of this
very human weakness that it takes to
Itself all the strength of Indifference.
The lover Is longest the lover who Is
kept guessing; he is truest who has the
girl to win, and every murk of Jealousy
is proof that she Is already won and re
gards him as such a prize she lose all
pride In her desire to keep him.
Green eyes, girls, are never the eyes
that keep a lover.
You have noticed the prevailing hair
styles, which tue Par.sian, make It Im
Iuia:l!e to use false hair because of the
aluipli: lines which conform to the natural
shape of the head. It therefore becomes
necessary to make your own hair look
as heavy as possible. This is not a dif
ficult task If you are careful to keep It
perfectly clean. In washing the hair It
U not advisable to use a make-shift, but
always use a preparation made for sham
pooing only. You can enjoy the beat that
is known for about three cents a sham
poo by getting a pacaage of canthrox
from your druggist; dissolve a teaspoon
ful in a cup of liot water and your sham
poo la ready. After its use the hair dries
rap,dly with uniform color. Dandruff,
biccei oil and dirt are dissolved and en
tirely disappear. Your hair will be so'
fluffy that it will look much heavier thaal
It is. Its luster and softness will alsol
delight you, while the stimulated scalp
gains the heath which insures hair
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Advice to Lovelorn
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.
To Pre.veat Blashlaar.
Dear Miss Fairfax: I am 18 years old
and have an annoying habit of blushing.
I go out to buslneaa and meet many peo
ple and still sometimes I'll sit in the
house for days for fear I might meet
somebody. Even In the house when I
talk to my brother I blush. If you could
please write how to prevent It, I'll be
grateful to you for the rest of my days.
From a discouraged Brooklyn girl.
T. B.
My dear girl, there, is no sweeter, more
modest sign of youth than the blush. I
know of no cure for It, but age and
sophistication. Do not be discouraged
about th mantling red that colors your
face so prettily. Go out and enjoy your
self and rest assured that every time you
blush some on admires your girlish
sweetness. A blush always suggests
dawn flushing th sky. Maybe some day
you will wish you could color up as pret
tily as you do now.
" 'Ware My Heart!"
By Nell Brinkley
Copyright, 1S14. lnternl News Service.
Watch where you step and dance lightly, oh, girl who dances all the l "Ipi
j strange, and queer, and lovely, and amaelng things christened musical, 1 "y
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Little Bobbie's Pa
By WILLI. M F. KIRK.
I was reeding a book last nlte wlct
was tailed Orate Lines from th Poets,
and I saw a line which sed
I herd like the eternal .
Sussurus of the sea,
I sed to I'a, what Is a sussurus.
I doanl know until you tell me how II
la used, sed Pa. A the way It Is spelled.
Then I spelled sussurus for Pa sed
Sussurus of the sea.
Oh, I see, sed Pa, of the sea, er, la
other words, of the oshun. What was
the nalm of the man wlch rote th lineal
sed Pa.
Ills nalm was Wis Carman, I toald
Pa. Now what dous Sussurus of the Be
mean?
I take It that Is sum kind of a fish.
Pa sed, like a sucker or a shark. Now
that I think of It. sed Pa, there Is a fish
down In the South Sea Islands wlch IS
Called a sussurus. It Is good to eat 41
has a savage nature.
You doanl say an, sed Ma.
Oh, yes, sed Pa, I remember In th
old days we used to catch quite a lot ol
them. They bit on a spoon, the salm a
a mackerel. The plurel is sussaii, Pa
sod.
You donnt know what you are saying,
sed Ma. How often have I toald you not
to fill up little Hobble's bed with a lot of
nonsense like that. I think from looking
at the poem that sussurus must mean
sumthlng like the word Murmuring or
sobbing of tho rea. or sumthlng like that.
It cuddent mean a fish anyway. Ma sed,
beekntis. It says Tho Eternal Bussums A
a fish can't be eternal.
I doant see why not, sed Pa. Sucken
ar eternal suckers are fish. Wen on,
surker dies another Is born, wlch is th
salm aa eternal, A I suppose that whei
on sussurus breathes Its last thru lb
worn old gills another sussurus Is bo mi
or maybe two aussurt, Pa sed.
You are foolish tonlte, sed Ma. Whj
do you try to explain big words that yofl
do not know?
Why does a poet dare to use a word
that llttel Hobble doesnt know the meen
Ing of? sed Fa. If Bliss Carman men!
murmur, why dldent he say murmur!
Mister Shakespeer newer used the wor,
sussurus. Pa sed. Neother did Ird By
ton or George Cohan. They used word!
that eeven llttel Bobble cud understand)
& that Is the true test of a rlter.
I think It is a hurtful poem, sed Ma,
It means so much that th common mind
cannot understand It. It isent yur fault,
dear husband, sed Ma, If you have a
common mind. It sounds Ilk a butlful
line to me.
You are jest like the rest of th wln
men that reads potrey, sed Pa. Do yoo
reememher the other nlta yur frend MUM
Berenice Bunklngton red them lines oj
her poem
The room swam with a strange perfumi
A then I knew the Swoon of Doom?
Dldent you all say that Bwoon of Doom
was a butlful frase? sed Pa.
It is, sed Ma.
All rite, sed Pa, then I throw up mJJ
hands. It Is.
Watch where you step and dance lightly, oh, girl who dances all the
strange, and queer, and lovely, and amazing things christened musical,
tongue-tlckllng names from South America for my heart Is there, right
there, on the boards at your feet. Tennis girls and gran'mother girls, and
girls who dive and ride my eyes get a fishy blankness whenever I turn
to you for your candles fade and die beside the lightening of the dancing
girl with her feet of blowing thistle-seed, her arms like blowing foam, her
face like a happy flower! Oh, tread lighter than if you were dancing on
the Icing of a lemon pie, for there's my heart at your slipper-Up! NELL
BRINKLEY.
Do You Know That
In Los Angeles there Is th smallest
horse In the world. It is twenty-two and
a half lnehea high, teven years old, and
weigh seventy pounds with Its shoes on.
According to a report of the Clrector
of the United Htates bureau of census,
miles of telephone line were la
us In th United States during 1912. This
represents an Increase of Sill per cent
during the decade. Th estimated num
ber of message for th year was)
13,?3S,5I,24&.
Th African possessions and protector,
atea of th European powers now at
war are more than three times as largei
as all of Europe now engaged In hoa
stillties. Th largest Individual holder of
African territory la Francs, with 3,812,000
square miles, more than l.SOO.OOO of which
Is the Sahara desert. England control
S.01H.24S square miles; Belgium, with th
Congo a its sol possession. 802,000
square miles, and ' Germans, l,O8S,0K9
square mllca
I
Russian, Customs Contrasted
with Those of English
By MRS. FRANK LEARNED.
An entertaining chapter, "Silhouettes of
Everyday Life," is in Madame Jarint
soff's recent book. "Russia, the Country
of Exti ernes." In it the author, who has
visited much In England, tells of the dis
similarity between certain Russian and
English customs.
Very frankly she criticises the care-i.-.n...
nf ltuuian parents In not teach
ing children how to behave at th table,
and she considers that J.ngllsh writers
who have visited Russia have been gen
erous In "not having mentioned our
manners at th table."
Although th Russians learn good man
ners with th natural growth of polite
ness and good taste, there exists nothing
Ilk the English code of manners at the
table which children are so carefully
taught
For instance, the reader Is surprised to
learn that "no Russian has ever heard
that drinking tea from a spoon or leav
ing th spoon In the cup Is bad manners,
and he does not pay the slightest atten
tion to th relative position of his cup
and bis plate at the table." Furthermore,
it Is startling to be told that "be uses the
butter knife for buttering his own slice
of bread, after which he puts It back as
Innocent of hi crime as an angel."
The author says that she can well
Imagine that English readers will be
shocked at these descriptions of conduct
at the table and of other things, which
she very delightfully acknowledges, "Jar
upon the nerves of even us Russians
when we have lived In England for some
time."
Although she hopes that ber book makes
It clear tnat universal respect for women
Is expressed In many ways in Kusvia,
she observes that boys and men have
not learned to get up and open a door for
a lady simply becauae she Is a woman,
nor are children taught to stand aside to
let ladles or visitors pass through a door
way first.
Our customers are, as a rule, the same
aa in England and It strikes us as
pecular that among Russians, when at
d.nner, the men when they have finished
a course, often "get up and take a walk
up and down the room." Another thing
Is that when dinner Is over it Is not cus
tomary in Russia for the women to re
turn to the drawing room and leave the
men, but all stay and talk aa much as
they wish.
Madame Jarlntsoff tells of some of the
polite customs among Russians which
mean much to them by way of consider
ate feeling and good taste. They never
finish a meal without saying "Thank
you" to the hostess. They always greet
every one in a room or when meeting
them first in the course of th duy, and
when saying goodby or leaving a room
they do not lgnoro any one of those
present. While she admlt that polite
ness in this is perhaps overdone. It Is
better than coldness or discourtesy.
As a final summing up of contrasts In
manners the author cannot resist a play
ful little thrust when she writes, "We
never touch tani with a knife It sets our
teeth on edge." And she is positive that
"indigestion," as a topic of conversation,
is relegated from Russian dining or
drawing rooms. When she first came to
England, she admits that she blushed
each time at the sound of that word.
Russian boys and girls, she tells us,
are gifted and clever but often laxy, self
willed, offhand and noisy to an extent
that would upset and English household.
Even at the risk of offending her own
compatriots she slates that their children
are spoiled, while English children seem
"born with perfect manners."
The things which strikes the attention
of a visitor to Russia that Is, before tho
sudden war brought its changes are the
gaycty, th pleasure seeking, th chic of
smart society, the open-hearted hospital
ity, the general Interest In education, art,
science, dancing and talking talking un
reservedly of everything under the sun.
except tti weather. t
Do You Know
the Delights in a Cup of
Old Golden Coffee?
The fragrance, fullness of flavor
and aroma, give a satisfaction to every
one who drinks it. All this goodness
is the result of over forty years of
painstaking effort by Tone Bros, to
give to the lovers of good coffee a
cup that pleases.
Experts select the best of the green
coffee berries from the world's crop.
Careful attention is given to the
aging under proper conditions and
preciseness in blending and roasting.
Put up in one-pound packages and sealed as
a protection from air and moisture. The grocer
sells it ground, steel cut, or in the whole bean
for those who prefer to grind it themselves.
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