TlTi: BKK: OMAHA, "NVKDXKSDAY, XOVF.MIWU IS. 1014.
Men Gossips as Numerous as Women
' It is a Mistaken Helief of Most Women that Men arc Their
H(t and Most Liberal Minded Friends.
By ELLA WHEELEIl WILCOX.
(Copyright, lfiRby Star Company.)
Women have been accused of gosalnlng,
because . the lucked occupation. Man,
with hla manifold duties, ia supposed tQ
be, too busy for gossip. But men gossip
are quite aa nu-
Ml
V
meroua aa those
of the fairer sex.
In men's clubs
many a scandal la
Bet rolling, which
trains momentum
aa It proceed upon
Its way, and
wrecks names and
homes before It
finishes Its course.
Foolish women
risk their reputa
tions by allowing
men to compro
mise them, and be
lleve Implicitly
that their ad
mirer will protect
the whole world.
Yet over a "stag dinner," or over the
club table, the atory of these Indiscre
tions Is. freely told.
The names are possibly, or probably,
withheld; but it is a simple matter for
the listeners to locate the character In
the atory of the play as related by the
proud Lothario.
Under the Influence of wine and "good
fellowship' men who have been trusted
and believed fn by weak women have
more than once shown letters and boasted
of their conquests.
Woman has been accused of being"
jealous In her treatment of her own sex.
The arrival of a new woman In her
circle is suppose! to awaken her to a
sense of rivalry which leads her to do
pe(Uy acta.
But it was a young; man who carried
. off the palm for petty actions at one of
the summer resorts.
Because an attractive young woman
came ro tne piaca without bringing a
detailed account of her past life, the
young man set himself the noble taak
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their names against
of studying the directory of the town
from which she came, and investigating
the history of all families bearing her
name.
Each day he made a new report upon
the possible Identity of the young woman..
Hla listeners were amused; but no one
waa frank enough to tell him how de
spicable he seemed In all eyes.
Meantime the very worthy and tired
young woman, who had left an excellent
position among the world' educators.
and choee to avoid' any thought of her
duties while resting, mas all unconscious
of this esrionage. Liked and respected
by her own sex, she was not prepare! to
find a would-be spy and gossip among
mun.
It Is & mistaken belief of most wimui
that men are their best and most liberal
minded friends.
Men demand more of women In the
way of conventional behavior than other
women demand.
Men are much more critical than
women.
A man will not hesitate to be seen In
public with a woman whose name rests
under a shadow; but he will be very
firm in forbidding his wife or sister or
mother to b seen with her.
That Is not friendship or defense.
A woman has been known to declare
her belief in the Innocence of one who
was the subject of gossip, and at the
same time to announce her intention to
stand by her. And she has been pre
vented by the men of her family. Tet
these same men were regarded by the
victim of gossip at loyal to her, because
they spoke to her la public places, while
women held aloof. '
Men believe themselves to be more
liberal and Just in their estimate or
women than our sex; but they are not.
They deceive themselves.
Women are growing more liberal
minded, more Just and more sympathetic
with each decade- They are growing less
prone to gossip.
But men are keeping up the Average.
When next you hear a bit of gossip,
look up its source. Ten to one you will
find it started with a man.
A House and Its Personality
iWllilsejsjssMiil i piiillfc
By ADA PATTERSON.'
A house has always possessed a strong
fascination for me. It Is, no doubt, be
cause of the deeply feminine instinct for
homcmaklng. Kipling haa said: "No
one knows what a
woman's house is to
her." Whenever you'
see a woman looking
rvlth longing admira
tion at a house you
may be sure that
she i a imagining
herself aa Us mis
trees. She ia fur
nishing it and en
pa King Its staff, of
servants and order
ing its first dinner.
She is peopling it
with her family and
friends. . She Is
breathing her own
plrit Into It. Therein
is the vital fascination of a house.
piques our wonder as to what kind of
lives are lived within it.
Alwaya when a train missed, or be
lated leave rr.e with a quarter or half
hour of my own I spend it not In loung
ing In the Htuffy station with a pink- or
green magazine, or in sauntering about
the shops, btit in a survey of it home.
The splendid - homes Interest me very
little. They are, after all, alike. They
all have stately port cochers and ostenta
tion garage and gardens trying to make
the grounds look more 'like little Italy
than great America.
The goal of my search Is always a
group of the home of the busy, happy
workaday folk by whom the United
States is so plentifully blessed. Among
those home there Is a marked individual
ity. Save for those rows of character
less houses, the many chlldrtned archi
tectural family whose last name Is
Kconomy, that bore the eyes in cities,
ve see the stamp of difference, which is
originality, in those home.
On my daily rides to the city from the
storied simplicity enclosed more than
three rooms, but I longed to see thoae
rooms. It was a low green cottaa
painted such a green as blended with the
ward of tho perfectly kept littl lawn,
such a green a was a background for
the glory of the flower, that changed
from white to pink and yellow to red
and purple aa the summer days melted
Into the autumn. 4 careless owner
would have made the. complaint of the
incompetent." .
"I can do nothing. I have nothing with
which to work."
But he or perhaps she worked after
hours watering and mowing the lawn,
planting flower and weeding them,
shading them from the midday sun by
an impromptu tent. He may have don
without a new suit, she may denied hor-
I self a Kummcr silk, and, a lace hat. to
paint tne houso its fresh green. A care-1
less owner would have said the smoke of
the closely passing trains would soU th
paint and ha would have left the boards
It to warp drunkenly without their cohere-
ing coat of paint. Vigilance, foresight,
pride of and love for home, spoke In
sweet Insistent voice from that little
house and Its garden I'll warrant those
three rooms were sweet with the air of
the out of doors, that their floor war
a clean a toe table that plucked
flowers from the garden brightened them
and that If there were any picture they
were good print or photograph of a
good subject.
As I stroll In communities I visit among
th home I star fasclnately at th
houses. Th wlndown are eye revealing
what is within. The curtain are th
closed eyelid behind which the person
hides with his secret. Tho color of the
hofisc 1 'a person's complexion faded
houses as faces being faded either through
gge or neglect. Houses like persons are
neat or slatternly, quaint or modish, at.
tractive or repellent
It is the live lived In them that counts
as the character of the persons Is what
counts.
Do sweetness and graclousness, strength
seashore last summer, the open car I an1 Industry and high Ideals dwell within !
tnobe nouses.' ir the occupants fall be
low their Ideals do they scramble back
again T Are the houses the horn of
peace, of order.of activity, of conddm.
3 tlon? Do love and tolerance dwelt within
flashed past a wee house that was the
admiration of all on board. A mere bit
of a house. I doubt whether Its on
g Dont Merely "Stop" a
8 8
5 Step k Thing that Caasea It
5 and (be Conga will 8'
jj Stoy Itself
thoa wallst Ar hatred and fil finrf.
Ing. Idleness and choaa banished from
beneath that roof? '
niseiy spoKe one wfio said. "I have
i seen many bouses, but few homes."
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Household
Suggestions
"Your Move, Dan!"
By Nell Brinklcy
Copyright, 1014. lntern'l New Bervioe,
Danny, dear chap, gmack your littla hand, stiff with cold, down
on th brava strings to finish off, snd come on in by the fire! Tour
nose Is a delicate blue with a shine in the middle; your ears are as
red as flannel; there Is no summer now; there's a high walling wind
that sounds like snow; last night the frail-stemmed Japanese flow-1
ers, the pretty ones who always just miss summer, were frost-bitten;
the moon Is of Ice and sliver; the leaves are flying thick, the fading
treasure of dead summer's wealth; winter's voice Is crying through
the strings of the bare branches and serenades are out of order!
It's a pity, dear chap but you'll .have to give up, put your music to
sleep, bring all your doll-rags, and your weapons to the hearth and
the hickory-log! We're frozen out, Little Fellow now. It's your
move, Dan. NELL BRINKLEY.
Value of Moral Muscle in Fight for Happiness
Marriage On
$3 a Day
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX
"Can a man afford to marry on a salary
of :t a weekT I art XI year or ge.
have a (rood position, with a apienam
outlook for the future. The girl I a.1
mlr edoe not appear to be extravagant
still I do not wish to take tho utep un
ite I secure, th advice of aome one who
Is in a position to flgur out If I daro
marry on my prwent salary? 1IBNRT."
t.. - t mnnniiitii Tour fath in ask
ing me If you can live on t a week and
Include in your schedule tne mainienan.
. vif nrf home. But you have como
to th wrong person for advloe. tht time.
The only one who can give you
satisfactory answer Is tne gin youani
to marry. .
Whether you can marry ana n nappy
on pi S week depend largely upon hex.
On general principle. I wut assure you
that a man who la earning your present
salary, and who has the promise of a
bright future, has every right to ask a
girl to ahare his life with him. Hi posi
tion Justlfle him in taking unto hlmse.lt
a wife but It also requires that he Inform
the girl he love of his financial condl- ,
tlon. Unless she is so. Minded by m
r,t inva thiLt she will promise any
thing she will In all probability Stop and
gauge two things her managerial ammr
and her anility to "go without."
Whn woman loves a man In the run
sense or the word, she la generally happy'
tn.k urrtnrea for him. Washing
and baking and cooking and scrubbing
are not drudgery when they are done ror
soma one a true woman loves.
Climbing th ladler of auccea together
brings a closeness of Interest through its
very "togetherness." Going without, soi
that your beloved may hav most of thV
things h want, has In It an element
of happy martyrdom and Is llkety to ap
peal to the great "maternal inatinci
that all women have.
So even an extravagant and worldly
mmmm n maw h wlllln in tnarrv a man
In moderate circumstance and happily
take her place at nia sine aa partner ana
helper and sweetheart and wife an ideal
companionship, truly.
And then thera are the prospects of a
"brilliant future." What woman would
not glory In a chance to hav some part
In making her husband's dream of sur
ess come true and In feeling a It did
not come true that he had done better
with rer at hi aid than he could other
wise hav managed to doT
Tou must not selfishly go In search of
pleasures while your wife is at home
stretching both ends to the meeting
point Tou mut cheerfully Veep up your
end of the hurdem and not feel that when
you "provide" to.th best of your ability
you hav done your share.
By all means marry on $31 a week
and prospect and ambition" and deter
mination If you bring to reinforce them'
love and patlenoe and unselfishness and
common sense and understanding and
mutual forbearance. But If you have
this sextette of aides, your marriage will
not go astray no- matter what th con
tents of your pay envelop. -
By POKOTHY DIX. ,
. Among my acquaintances are a number
of dear, delightful women, who are In
moderate financial circumstances. They
hav good home, good clothes, good food,
all of th luxuries
Si
A couh is reallf one of our beat
friends. It warns us that there is in
liammatiou or obstruction la a danger
ous place. Therefore, when you Ret a
bud cough don't proceed to dose yourself
with a lot of drujrs that merely ."atop"
the cough temporarily by deadening the
throat nervca Treat the cause heal th
inrtamed membranes. Her is a home
made remedy that gets right at the cause
and will make an obstinate cough vanish
more quickly than jou ever thought pos
sible Put 2H ounces of Finex , (50 cents
worth) in a pint bottl and fill the bottle
with plain jfranulaled suifar syrup. I MJ
give vou a full pint of the nuwt pleasant
and effective couirhemedy you ever used,
at a cost of onlv 64 cents. No bother to
prepare. Full directions with Pinex.
It heals the Inflamed membranes so
gently and proinptlv tliat you wonder
In. j. u k i infill a Hrv. hoarse
or tight eongh sod stops the formation ol
phlegm in th throat and bronchial tubes.
thus ending the persistent loose euugu.
Ptnv tiltrtilv ennrentrated ton)
pound of Korwav pine extract, rich '
(ruaiacol. and is famous the world over
for its healing effect on th membrane.
Te avoid dUappelntment. ask .your I Tt" V, red VhU, n ihe .7.7 B,
druggist for "IV, ounces of Pinex." sod P " f? Z .1 A .
..1 .r.Thln .W A irnarante having it covered thua the ataam will
of absolute satisfaction, or money prompt- prevent the meat from becoming bard
lv refunded, goes with this , preparwu. anj ary, and th joint will get hot
TB riaax Co., r"t. vyne, ma. through la lea time.
of lire, but they
ar not wealthy.
Bo far they
are Individually
jtconcerned. these
women are not
discontented with
.their lot n lite.
To keep cheese from moulding or from .They can walk
drying, wrap It In a cloth damped with happily and se
vinegar and keep in a covered dish. ! the llmouwlnes of
! millionaires roll
To store silver while on holiday place pMt without a
In a cardboar box a layer of ordinary p4ng 0f envy, but
flour, 'then lay th forks and snoena upon wtiere their hll
It, and eovr thickly with flour. They jren are Involved
will remain quit bright for any length thy let covctou-.
of time. Ines polsou their
' !, n I & xlatcnC--
cijici n i m uui in use snouia
have small piece of thoroughly dried
yellow soap scattered in the fold when
they are put away. This will keep moth
out.
To olean white enameled furniture, us
a solution mad by dissolving on table
spoonful of baking soda in a plat of
warm water. Hat u rat a soft cloth and
wash th furniture.
The beat way to warm up a Joint I
to wrap it in thickly greased paper and
ii7
irlwrabl
because
and they make
themselves utterly
their children can't hav averythtrig that
th rich children about them havt.
The another wall ceaselessly to me
that It I Just terrible bex-ause their Bil
lies can't have ballbearing ateel roller
skates such a) littl Billy Rlchman has,
or that their Johnnies have to ride their
old wheels when Johnni Duughbaa ha
a 19U modal; or their tarns can't go to
Harvard when Ram Croesus is going; or
their Mamies haven't got teal nana em
broidered petticoat as Mammic Bullion
has; or their Sadies can't go oft to
a llv-Uouand-dollar-a-yar finishing
school a Sadl Caahaway doe; or thoir
1mX ha t rid lb atrt cars In
stead of having an electric runabout as
Louise Orsblt hasj.
Worso still, these mothers pour their
lamentations over the hardship their
children endure Into tho tiied ears of
their poor, overworked husbands, and
thus goad the family beaft of burden on
Into making the last tlesperato effort
that breaks th heart and kills many a
man who 1 already working far beyond
hla atrength to provide foolish and un
necessary frills for his children.
It la the pathetlo phiise of the situation
that these women, who are so filled with
I bitterness Itecaun they can't give thulr
children everything that millionaire
give thelra, have such Fhort vision that
they cannot se beyond the moment. Kor
if they would look a few yeara Into the
future they would see that tho very
things that they count aa miffortunes
now ar what make for the real stability
and success of a life.
j Of course, there I 'he dire and desd
i tning poverty that crushes all but the
j strongest, but the moderate poveity that
1 merely, leaves one with unsatisfied de.
alrs U the greatest nlmul'is that there
la to effort and ambition. No man goes
afur things ao fiercely and with such
Invincible determination a the man who
ha wanted things In hi youth and been
unable to get them.
"How did you come to get tirhf" I
enne asked a trust mugnato. "Htcause
when 1 started to school I wore a little
Jeans coat that my mother made me, and
a rich boy laughed at nie. I wasn't but
I years old, but I swore to myself then
that I'd be a rich man when t got grown
and hav all the fine Clothes in the
world," th millionaire laughed.
"What wonderful advantages you've
given your son," somebody once aid to
Don Cameron. "Yea." replied the wlao
old man, "but I haven't been able to give
him the greatest advantage of all pov
erty." '
Little o these foolish mothers renjlxe
It .the poverty that brings with It the
need to work, the need of self-control.
the need for each Individual to Mand on
his or her feet, and rise' or full by his
or her own efforts, Is the greatest' ad
vantage of all. It it what develop In
itiative, and spurs on ambition, and
forma charftoter.
It iake hardships and a struggle and
self-deulal to make soul muscle, Just aa
much as It takes exercise and work to
make body muacl. Nobody Is Idlotlo
enough to train an athlete for a prize
fight by ludui'lng him to loll about on
allken cuaiilons and KOige himself on
chocolate creams. Everybody would
know thai the man who had followedj
such a regiment as that would go down,
like a feather bolster at the first tap of
his adversary.
Yet women are mad enough to think
that they can pamper and indulge their
children and shield thvm from every
cure and hardship, and that they will
still be able to aiuud up and' make a good
fight In the battle of life. No wonder w
have so many wrakllugs, so many m
bezxlers, so many divorces, so marry
women that take the easiest way to
gratify the extravagant taste bred In
them. They have had" no moral muscle
developed in them. How should' they
have the atrength to stand th grulllng
teata of life?
Tiui great sacrifices that parents make
fer thoir children are generally heroic
mistakes. If saeriflce are to be made,
it la far better to let the children par
ticipate in thcr If work is te b dona,
far better let the children har In It If
anxiety Is to b borne, far better let th
children shoulder their part of the care.
Keaponalblllty I the greatest ' steadier
In the world, and the knowledge that
omebody depend on him or her, that
somebody need hint or her, and that hi
or her work and counsel count In th
family, will do more to keep a boy or
girl straight than any other Influence.
You can develop moral stamina In the
young Just a surely a you can develop
physical muscle, and the pity ot It I
that these poor, grieving mothers, so dis
tressed because their children can't hav
motor car and diamond Ilk th rich,
have not wisdom enough to se that their
buy and girl hav something Infinitely
better than anything that th young mil
lionaire have.
Also and I say tht for their comfort
In the shifting of fortunes In this country
It I almost a choice of whether you
would rather b poor when you ar
young and have plenty when you are
ml Idle-aged, or be rich when you are
young nd poor when you are old.
Advice to Lovelorn
a asavarcra rAxsruc ss
Slarrylngc ai Flirt.
Deisr Miss Fairfax I I am V and am
engaged to a girl four years my Junior.
When we go out to any publiu affairs I
have to watrh her continually, for aha
la Incllnod to flirt with any whose at
tention she can attract. I knew that she
flirted a little before w were ngaged,
and after we were engaged aha promised
to give that up, but aa yet ah haa failed
to do so, and she made the promise eigh
teen month ago. I brok off my engage
ment with her some time ago, and have
since become re-engaged to her, but she
still persists In flirting. Hhe tells me I
in Jealou when I Break to her about It,
but It I not that I have a good posi
tion and am very well respected and that
1 th reason 1 want her to stop.
KllANCIS W.
A woman who I engaged to one man
and insist on flirting with other doe
not seem to b th one who would keep
her marriage on the proper plane of
dignity; Her husband might b uo
Jeoted to sham and indignities through
her lack ot respect for him and her own
modest womanhood. Perhaps th fact that
you watch your fiance fairly nags her
Into continuing her folly. Why not put
her on her honorT Tell her that she Is
grieving you terrlbly-and that you want
her to promts not to put you In a posi
tion where other men will think scorn
fully of youbecaue ot your Inability to
hold your weetheart's attention. Ask
her to promise to act differently and to
keep her word. And then don't watch
her suspiciously trust her and see It she
will not b worthy ot your faith.
Hare am Vnderataadiagr.
near Mis Fairfax: I have been going
out with a gentloman for about, a year.
and although h tella me ne lovea me,
does not speak of getting married yet.
because hp baa not enoush money. He
make $23 per week, and alway says
that when he earns mor he will get
married.
I can have engagement with other
men, but he' doe not wish It, and says
that If I go out with anybody else he
will not come to see me. We are not
engaged. I Ilka hi in very much, and
think that If he waa earning more would
marry him; . but Inasmuch aa I have
given him a year ot my time think he
should ao slmethlng definite In thr
way of becoming engaged. Am I right?
W are both 20 yeara old.
We do not get along very well together
at times, aa h wants all the liberties of
an engaged man, and I resent such ac
tions. VERDA 8.
A man of 20 year I too young for
marriage. But I think It unfair that a
a girl be asked to giv up her friend
ships with other men by any but tho
man who means to marry her. Don't In
sist on an engagement that urging. It
1 decreed by convention, must coma
from th man. On th other hand, dont
allow a man to whom you ar not en
gaged to make love to you.
36c andehbilt 3)ofc
ctdurto-y&riA cOW east atdfcri tV&oiuA
' irtmr vnotr iiTV
n . aVUUa laYV.
An Ideal Hotel with an Ideal Situation
WALTON H. MARSHALL. Manage
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