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About Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922 | View Entire Issue (Nov. 18, 1914)
TlTi: BKK: OMAHA, "NVKDXKSDAY, XOVF.MIWU IS. 1014. Men Gossips as Numerous as Women ' It is a Mistaken Helief of Most Women that Men arc Their H(t and Most Liberal Minded Friends. By ELLA WHEELEIl WILCOX. (Copyright, lfiRby Star Company.) Women have been accused of gosalnlng, because . the lucked occupation. Man, with hla manifold duties, ia supposed tQ be, too busy for gossip. But men gossip are quite aa nu- Ml V meroua aa those of the fairer sex. In men's clubs many a scandal la Bet rolling, which trains momentum aa It proceed upon Its way, and wrecks names and homes before It finishes Its course. Foolish women risk their reputa tions by allowing men to compro mise them, and be lleve Implicitly that their ad mirer will protect the whole world. Yet over a "stag dinner," or over the club table, the atory of these Indiscre tions Is. freely told. The names are possibly, or probably, withheld; but it is a simple matter for the listeners to locate the character In the atory of the play as related by the proud Lothario. Under the Influence of wine and "good fellowship' men who have been trusted and believed fn by weak women have more than once shown letters and boasted of their conquests. Woman has been accused of being" jealous In her treatment of her own sex. The arrival of a new woman In her circle is suppose! to awaken her to a sense of rivalry which leads her to do pe(Uy acta. But it was a young; man who carried . off the palm for petty actions at one of the summer resorts. Because an attractive young woman came ro tne piaca without bringing a detailed account of her past life, the young man set himself the noble taak I : i their names against of studying the directory of the town from which she came, and investigating the history of all families bearing her name. Each day he made a new report upon the possible Identity of the young woman.. Hla listeners were amused; but no one waa frank enough to tell him how de spicable he seemed In all eyes. Meantime the very worthy and tired young woman, who had left an excellent position among the world' educators. and choee to avoid' any thought of her duties while resting, mas all unconscious of this esrionage. Liked and respected by her own sex, she was not prepare! to find a would-be spy and gossip among mun. It Is & mistaken belief of most wimui that men are their best and most liberal minded friends. Men demand more of women In the way of conventional behavior than other women demand. Men are much more critical than women. A man will not hesitate to be seen In public with a woman whose name rests under a shadow; but he will be very firm in forbidding his wife or sister or mother to b seen with her. That Is not friendship or defense. A woman has been known to declare her belief in the Innocence of one who was the subject of gossip, and at the same time to announce her intention to stand by her. And she has been pre vented by the men of her family. Tet these same men were regarded by the victim of gossip at loyal to her, because they spoke to her la public places, while women held aloof. ' Men believe themselves to be more liberal and Just in their estimate or women than our sex; but they are not. They deceive themselves. Women are growing more liberal minded, more Just and more sympathetic with each decade- They are growing less prone to gossip. But men are keeping up the Average. When next you hear a bit of gossip, look up its source. Ten to one you will find it started with a man. A House and Its Personality iWllilsejsjssMiil i piiillfc By ADA PATTERSON.' A house has always possessed a strong fascination for me. It Is, no doubt, be cause of the deeply feminine instinct for homcmaklng. Kipling haa said: "No one knows what a woman's house is to her." Whenever you' see a woman looking rvlth longing admira tion at a house you may be sure that she i a imagining herself aa Us mis trees. She ia fur nishing it and en pa King Its staff, of servants and order ing its first dinner. She is peopling it with her family and friends. . She Is breathing her own plrit Into It. Therein is the vital fascination of a house. piques our wonder as to what kind of lives are lived within it. Alwaya when a train missed, or be lated leave rr.e with a quarter or half hour of my own I spend it not In loung ing In the Htuffy station with a pink- or green magazine, or in sauntering about the shops, btit in a survey of it home. The splendid - homes Interest me very little. They are, after all, alike. They all have stately port cochers and ostenta tion garage and gardens trying to make the grounds look more 'like little Italy than great America. The goal of my search Is always a group of the home of the busy, happy workaday folk by whom the United States is so plentifully blessed. Among those home there Is a marked individual ity. Save for those rows of character less houses, the many chlldrtned archi tectural family whose last name Is Kconomy, that bore the eyes in cities, ve see the stamp of difference, which is originality, in those home. On my daily rides to the city from the storied simplicity enclosed more than three rooms, but I longed to see thoae rooms. It was a low green cottaa painted such a green as blended with the ward of tho perfectly kept littl lawn, such a green a was a background for the glory of the flower, that changed from white to pink and yellow to red and purple aa the summer days melted Into the autumn. 4 careless owner would have made the. complaint of the incompetent." . "I can do nothing. I have nothing with which to work." But he or perhaps she worked after hours watering and mowing the lawn, planting flower and weeding them, shading them from the midday sun by an impromptu tent. He may have don without a new suit, she may denied hor- I self a Kummcr silk, and, a lace hat. to paint tne houso its fresh green. A care-1 less owner would have said the smoke of the closely passing trains would soU th paint and ha would have left the boards It to warp drunkenly without their cohere- ing coat of paint. Vigilance, foresight, pride of and love for home, spoke In sweet Insistent voice from that little house and Its garden I'll warrant those three rooms were sweet with the air of the out of doors, that their floor war a clean a toe table that plucked flowers from the garden brightened them and that If there were any picture they were good print or photograph of a good subject. As I stroll In communities I visit among th home I star fasclnately at th houses. Th wlndown are eye revealing what is within. The curtain are th closed eyelid behind which the person hides with his secret. Tho color of the hofisc 1 'a person's complexion faded houses as faces being faded either through gge or neglect. Houses like persons are neat or slatternly, quaint or modish, at. tractive or repellent It is the live lived In them that counts as the character of the persons Is what counts. Do sweetness and graclousness, strength seashore last summer, the open car I an1 Industry and high Ideals dwell within ! tnobe nouses.' ir the occupants fall be low their Ideals do they scramble back again T Are the houses the horn of peace, of order.of activity, of conddm. 3 tlon? Do love and tolerance dwelt within flashed past a wee house that was the admiration of all on board. A mere bit of a house. I doubt whether Its on g Dont Merely "Stop" a 8 8 5 Step k Thing that Caasea It 5 and (be Conga will 8' jj Stoy Itself thoa wallst Ar hatred and fil finrf. Ing. Idleness and choaa banished from beneath that roof? ' niseiy spoKe one wfio said. "I have i seen many bouses, but few homes." j Household Suggestions "Your Move, Dan!" By Nell Brinklcy Copyright, 1014. lntern'l New Bervioe, Danny, dear chap, gmack your littla hand, stiff with cold, down on th brava strings to finish off, snd come on in by the fire! Tour nose Is a delicate blue with a shine in the middle; your ears are as red as flannel; there Is no summer now; there's a high walling wind that sounds like snow; last night the frail-stemmed Japanese flow-1 ers, the pretty ones who always just miss summer, were frost-bitten; the moon Is of Ice and sliver; the leaves are flying thick, the fading treasure of dead summer's wealth; winter's voice Is crying through the strings of the bare branches and serenades are out of order! It's a pity, dear chap but you'll .have to give up, put your music to sleep, bring all your doll-rags, and your weapons to the hearth and the hickory-log! We're frozen out, Little Fellow now. It's your move, Dan. NELL BRINKLEY. Value of Moral Muscle in Fight for Happiness Marriage On $3 a Day By BEATRICE FAIRFAX "Can a man afford to marry on a salary of :t a weekT I art XI year or ge. have a (rood position, with a apienam outlook for the future. The girl I a.1 mlr edoe not appear to be extravagant still I do not wish to take tho utep un ite I secure, th advice of aome one who Is in a position to flgur out If I daro marry on my prwent salary? 1IBNRT." t.. - t mnnniiitii Tour fath in ask ing me If you can live on t a week and Include in your schedule tne mainienan. . vif nrf home. But you have como to th wrong person for advloe. tht time. The only one who can give you satisfactory answer Is tne gin youani to marry. . Whether you can marry ana n nappy on pi S week depend largely upon hex. On general principle. I wut assure you that a man who la earning your present salary, and who has the promise of a bright future, has every right to ask a girl to ahare his life with him. Hi posi tion Justlfle him in taking unto hlmse.lt a wife but It also requires that he Inform the girl he love of his financial condl- , tlon. Unless she is so. Minded by m r,t inva thiLt she will promise any thing she will In all probability Stop and gauge two things her managerial ammr and her anility to "go without." Whn woman loves a man In the run sense or the word, she la generally happy' tn.k urrtnrea for him. Washing and baking and cooking and scrubbing are not drudgery when they are done ror soma one a true woman loves. Climbing th ladler of auccea together brings a closeness of Interest through its very "togetherness." Going without, soi that your beloved may hav most of thV things h want, has In It an element of happy martyrdom and Is llkety to ap peal to the great "maternal inatinci that all women have. So even an extravagant and worldly mmmm n maw h wlllln in tnarrv a man In moderate circumstance and happily take her place at nia sine aa partner ana helper and sweetheart and wife an ideal companionship, truly. And then thera are the prospects of a "brilliant future." What woman would not glory In a chance to hav some part In making her husband's dream of sur ess come true and In feeling a It did not come true that he had done better with rer at hi aid than he could other wise hav managed to doT Tou must not selfishly go In search of pleasures while your wife is at home stretching both ends to the meeting point Tou mut cheerfully Veep up your end of the hurdem and not feel that when you "provide" to.th best of your ability you hav done your share. By all means marry on $31 a week and prospect and ambition" and deter mination If you bring to reinforce them' love and patlenoe and unselfishness and common sense and understanding and mutual forbearance. But If you have this sextette of aides, your marriage will not go astray no- matter what th con tents of your pay envelop. - By POKOTHY DIX. , . Among my acquaintances are a number of dear, delightful women, who are In moderate financial circumstances. They hav good home, good clothes, good food, all of th luxuries Si A couh is reallf one of our beat friends. It warns us that there is in liammatiou or obstruction la a danger ous place. Therefore, when you Ret a bud cough don't proceed to dose yourself with a lot of drujrs that merely ."atop" the cough temporarily by deadening the throat nervca Treat the cause heal th inrtamed membranes. Her is a home made remedy that gets right at the cause and will make an obstinate cough vanish more quickly than jou ever thought pos sible Put 2H ounces of Finex , (50 cents worth) in a pint bottl and fill the bottle with plain jfranulaled suifar syrup. I MJ give vou a full pint of the nuwt pleasant and effective couirhemedy you ever used, at a cost of onlv 64 cents. No bother to prepare. Full directions with Pinex. It heals the Inflamed membranes so gently and proinptlv tliat you wonder In. j. u k i infill a Hrv. hoarse or tight eongh sod stops the formation ol phlegm in th throat and bronchial tubes. thus ending the persistent loose euugu. Ptnv tiltrtilv ennrentrated ton) pound of Korwav pine extract, rich ' (ruaiacol. and is famous the world over for its healing effect on th membrane. Te avoid dUappelntment. ask .your I Tt" V, red VhU, n ihe .7.7 B, druggist for "IV, ounces of Pinex." sod P " f? Z .1 A . ..1 .r.Thln .W A irnarante having it covered thua the ataam will of absolute satisfaction, or money prompt- prevent the meat from becoming bard lv refunded, goes with this , preparwu. anj ary, and th joint will get hot TB riaax Co., r"t. vyne, ma. through la lea time. of lire, but they ar not wealthy. Bo far they are Individually jtconcerned. these women are not discontented with .their lot n lite. To keep cheese from moulding or from .They can walk drying, wrap It In a cloth damped with happily and se vinegar and keep in a covered dish. ! the llmouwlnes of ! millionaires roll To store silver while on holiday place pMt without a In a cardboar box a layer of ordinary p4ng 0f envy, but flour, 'then lay th forks and snoena upon wtiere their hll It, and eovr thickly with flour. They jren are Involved will remain quit bright for any length thy let covctou-. of time. Ines polsou their ' !, n I & xlatcnC-- cijici n i m uui in use snouia have small piece of thoroughly dried yellow soap scattered in the fold when they are put away. This will keep moth out. To olean white enameled furniture, us a solution mad by dissolving on table spoonful of baking soda in a plat of warm water. Hat u rat a soft cloth and wash th furniture. The beat way to warm up a Joint I to wrap it in thickly greased paper and ii7 irlwrabl because and they make themselves utterly their children can't hav averythtrig that th rich children about them havt. The another wall ceaselessly to me that It I Just terrible bex-ause their Bil lies can't have ballbearing ateel roller skates such a) littl Billy Rlchman has, or that their Johnnies have to ride their old wheels when Johnni Duughbaa ha a 19U modal; or their tarns can't go to Harvard when Ram Croesus is going; or their Mamies haven't got teal nana em broidered petticoat as Mammic Bullion has; or their Sadies can't go oft to a llv-Uouand-dollar-a-yar finishing school a Sadl Caahaway doe; or thoir 1mX ha t rid lb atrt cars In stead of having an electric runabout as Louise Orsblt hasj. Worso still, these mothers pour their lamentations over the hardship their children endure Into tho tiied ears of their poor, overworked husbands, and thus goad the family beaft of burden on Into making the last tlesperato effort that breaks th heart and kills many a man who 1 already working far beyond hla atrength to provide foolish and un necessary frills for his children. It la the pathetlo phiise of the situation that these women, who are so filled with I bitterness Itecaun they can't give thulr children everything that millionaire give thelra, have such Fhort vision that they cannot se beyond the moment. Kor if they would look a few yeara Into the future they would see that tho very things that they count aa miffortunes now ar what make for the real stability and success of a life. j Of course, there I 'he dire and desd i tning poverty that crushes all but the j strongest, but the moderate poveity that 1 merely, leaves one with unsatisfied de. alrs U the greatest nlmul'is that there la to effort and ambition. No man goes afur things ao fiercely and with such Invincible determination a the man who ha wanted things In hi youth and been unable to get them. "How did you come to get tirhf" I enne asked a trust mugnato. "Htcause when 1 started to school I wore a little Jeans coat that my mother made me, and a rich boy laughed at nie. I wasn't but I years old, but I swore to myself then that I'd be a rich man when t got grown and hav all the fine Clothes in the world," th millionaire laughed. "What wonderful advantages you've given your son," somebody once aid to Don Cameron. "Yea." replied the wlao old man, "but I haven't been able to give him the greatest advantage of all pov erty." ' Little o these foolish mothers renjlxe It .the poverty that brings with It the need to work, the need of self-control. the need for each Individual to Mand on his or her feet, and rise' or full by his or her own efforts, Is the greatest' ad vantage of all. It it what develop In itiative, and spurs on ambition, and forma charftoter. It iake hardships and a struggle and self-deulal to make soul muscle, Just aa much as It takes exercise and work to make body muacl. Nobody Is Idlotlo enough to train an athlete for a prize fight by ludui'lng him to loll about on allken cuaiilons and KOige himself on chocolate creams. Everybody would know thai the man who had followedj such a regiment as that would go down, like a feather bolster at the first tap of his adversary. Yet women are mad enough to think that they can pamper and indulge their children and shield thvm from every cure and hardship, and that they will still be able to aiuud up and' make a good fight In the battle of life. No wonder w have so many wrakllugs, so many m bezxlers, so many divorces, so marry women that take the easiest way to gratify the extravagant taste bred In them. They have had" no moral muscle developed in them. How should' they have the atrength to stand th grulllng teata of life? Tiui great sacrifices that parents make fer thoir children are generally heroic mistakes. If saeriflce are to be made, it la far better to let the children par ticipate in thcr If work is te b dona, far better let the children har In It If anxiety Is to b borne, far better let th children shoulder their part of the care. Keaponalblllty I the greatest ' steadier In the world, and the knowledge that omebody depend on him or her, that somebody need hint or her, and that hi or her work and counsel count In th family, will do more to keep a boy or girl straight than any other Influence. You can develop moral stamina In the young Just a surely a you can develop physical muscle, and the pity ot It I that these poor, grieving mothers, so dis tressed because their children can't hav motor car and diamond Ilk th rich, have not wisdom enough to se that their buy and girl hav something Infinitely better than anything that th young mil lionaire have. Also and I say tht for their comfort In the shifting of fortunes In this country It I almost a choice of whether you would rather b poor when you ar young and have plenty when you are ml Idle-aged, or be rich when you are young nd poor when you are old. Advice to Lovelorn a asavarcra rAxsruc ss Slarrylngc ai Flirt. Deisr Miss Fairfax I I am V and am engaged to a girl four years my Junior. When we go out to any publiu affairs I have to watrh her continually, for aha la Incllnod to flirt with any whose at tention she can attract. I knew that she flirted a little before w were ngaged, and after we were engaged aha promised to give that up, but aa yet ah haa failed to do so, and she made the promise eigh teen month ago. I brok off my engage ment with her some time ago, and have since become re-engaged to her, but she still persists In flirting. Hhe tells me I in Jealou when I Break to her about It, but It I not that I have a good posi tion and am very well respected and that 1 th reason 1 want her to stop. KllANCIS W. A woman who I engaged to one man and insist on flirting with other doe not seem to b th one who would keep her marriage on the proper plane of dignity; Her husband might b uo Jeoted to sham and indignities through her lack ot respect for him and her own modest womanhood. Perhaps th fact that you watch your fiance fairly nags her Into continuing her folly. Why not put her on her honorT Tell her that she Is grieving you terrlbly-and that you want her to promts not to put you In a posi tion where other men will think scorn fully of youbecaue ot your Inability to hold your weetheart's attention. Ask her to promise to act differently and to keep her word. And then don't watch her suspiciously trust her and see It she will not b worthy ot your faith. Hare am Vnderataadiagr. near Mis Fairfax: I have been going out with a gentloman for about, a year. and although h tella me ne lovea me, does not speak of getting married yet. because hp baa not enoush money. He make $23 per week, and alway says that when he earns mor he will get married. I can have engagement with other men, but he' doe not wish It, and says that If I go out with anybody else he will not come to see me. We are not engaged. I Ilka hi in very much, and think that If he waa earning more would marry him; . but Inasmuch aa I have given him a year ot my time think he should ao slmethlng definite In thr way of becoming engaged. Am I right? W are both 20 yeara old. We do not get along very well together at times, aa h wants all the liberties of an engaged man, and I resent such ac tions. VERDA 8. A man of 20 year I too young for marriage. But I think It unfair that a a girl be asked to giv up her friend ships with other men by any but tho man who means to marry her. Don't In sist on an engagement that urging. It 1 decreed by convention, must coma from th man. On th other hand, dont allow a man to whom you ar not en gaged to make love to you. 36c andehbilt 3)ofc ctdurto-y&riA cOW east atdfcri tV&oiuA ' irtmr vnotr iiTV n . aVUUa laYV. An Ideal Hotel with an Ideal Situation WALTON H. MARSHALL. Manage 1
