THE HKKi OMAHA, THURSDAY. NO VEMHKK 1U. ' 0
Should Wives
Always
Confide
in Their
Husbands?
Luncheon and Galling Frocks
(Republished by Speciul Arrangement with Harper's Bazar)
By A YOUNG WIPE.
"If I marry, my husband won't be
bothered about domestic worries, nor will
he hear' about household affairs that
have gone wrong."
Sometimes a girl makes a remark like
that Well, she isn't going to be very
happy In married life, that la all I can
ay. for I am quite certain that If things
go wrong In the home. It Is a wife's duty
to tell her husband.
I know that loma women have the idea
firmly fixed In their heads that men hate'
to hear about domestlo worries. Stuff
and nonsense. To hear about domestlo
worries annoys no real man; he rather
appreciates being taken into full confi
'dence and, if he Is a shrewd individual
at all, he may even be able to suggest a
remedy If things are not going so
amoothly as wlfle would like.
It la perfectly true that some' couples
before marriage agree that the men shall
attend strictly to his own side and the
wife to hers, and that they shall in no
way Interfen? with each other In a word,
each agrees to act independently In his
and her own particular field. Believe
me, that Is a very bad arrangement, and
it Is not at all conductive toward peace
and happiness existing in the home. I
think that where real affection exists
there will be complete candor and frank
ness, and not one item wilt be withheld
on either side.
Obviously, a husband has every right to
know what is taking place in the house
hold; It Is a wife's duty, to keep him
posted upon all matters, except, of course,
In the case of a man who very plainly
Indicates that he will not tolerate being
primed up on the latest happenings In
the home during his absence at business.
Very, very few husbands are like that;
most husbands are delighted If wives
' ta them into the fullest confidence and
relate all their grievances, worries and
vexations. And what is more calculated
to lighten burdens than confiding all
about them to one you love and who
loves you In return?
Surely it must lighten a wife's burden
to hear the sympathetto words of a hus
band; and may It not wonderfully aid her
if she sees that he Is willing to lend
assistance in the solving of domestic
problems which have worried her dread
fully? Moreover, what Is a wife to do
when In domestic troubles If aha does
not go V her husband and tell him all
about It? Must she brood over the mat
ter alone and perhaps end up by mak
ing herself perfectly wretched and mis
erable, or go to an outsider and be
Vaughed at all over the neighborhood?
A husband and wife agree to share
troubles as well as Joys, so it la but
right that. If any matter connected with
the home la tormenting a woman and
it is a common occurrence she should go
to the one who has promised to share
all with her her husband.
WJien big things annoy a woman she
always goes straight to her husband, but
It is not the big things which worry the
life out of one most', it Is the little, nag
ging things which seem almost too trivial
to mention, and those are the very things
a woman should go to her husband
about .
I certainly can counsel all young women
who may be thinking of getting married
to resolve that, granted they get hus
bands, these husbands will be told all
mark the word "all." Nothing should br
kept back concerning domestlo affairs
which have gone wrong. And. of course,
this bit of advice extends' to everything.
Nothing should be hidden from a hus
band if peace and happiness are desired.
Moreover, two heads are better than one,
and any day a husband may b able t
show his wife that she waa a little silly
to be bothered about such and such a
thing and may point the way out of her
difficulty in a moment.
Yes, it la right that a husband should
be told all about domestic trouble. What
would a wife say if a husband hid bus
iness troubles from her, and disaster
happened a a result maybe? She would
declare that he ought to have confided
In her.
Well, there la no saying how any do
mestlo trouble might turn out in the
end, so It Is best to be on the safe aide.
Let the husband be told and be will not
have any reason for grumbling and fret
ting later on about being kept in the
dark when he might have solved the
problem, for, really, men nr. not tha
stupid creatures women believe them tj
be. It is astonishing the grasp some men
have of domestlo affairs.
Youth's Place in Evolution
By Living Youth Too Soon Into Manhood We May lie Go
ing Against the Current That Una (liven Man His
Superiority in the Animal Kingdom n
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Ily OA It RETT- 1. 8KHVISS.
The babies have had th-lr turn this
lat summer In New York, and a" very
good turn It has been. It b to I hoped
that thousand, of them will now live
w h 6 might have
died but for the
special attenllc
..... it."
a-His. x i
Tiie next turn
ought to bi-lnng to
the old people. 'They
have had a good
irany things to dis
courage them lately.
There is, for In
stance, the doctrine
hlrh has been as
criled to Or. Osier
(though Incorrectly,
It would appear,
slnre he protests It Ixn't hln) that a man
Is not of much mkc after 40 or GO years of
age. becoming an obhtnictlon that ought
to be gut out of the way. lomthnw.
Whoever msy be responsible for this
opinion, It certainly has Its advocates.
We are loudly and brusquely told that
this is the ''age of younjt men," Old
men are too slow for Twentieth Century
ideas, and too conservative. They
ought to step aside and make room for
youthful blood and brawn. Just where
they aro to step to Is a neglected detail
that doesn't concern the Impatient cham
pions of the right of the cadets. Borne
savage tribes who hold the same doctrine
are more practical and thorough, as well
as moM prompt. They frankly put the
old people to death. Modern civilisation
has more than winked at putting children
to death, in many different, and often
hypocritical, ways, hut so far It has
hssltated to lay violent hands on the
aged. In that respect the latter still
have an advantage.
Tat it cannot be denied that at the
present time men and women who are
rearing the natural term of life and still
have to earn their living, feel their anx
ieties increasing, beoause of tha growing
pressure from the eager, youthful throng
that is striving JLt take their places. And
one of the cauavs of this Increase 'of
pressure upon those who are advancing
In Ufa Is tha tendency of our educational
system to shorten the period of youth
by cutting down the preparatory stage
and hastening i.n the assumption of the
labors and rriponslMllllea of manhoixl.
Now. it la a ery Interesting question
whether. In these things, we are not go
ing counter to the rurrent of evolution
that haa carried man so far above the
condition of his brute ancestors of an
cient geological time.
In abbreviating the youthful period we
are striking at the most distinctive fea
ture of human, as contrasted with lower
animal, development. In the vertebrate
kingdom the higher the order of life the
lonser the period 'of childhood ami youth.
Charles Dnrwln thsnked John Flske for
having explained clearly a most Impor
tant element of human evolution whlilt
he (Onrwln) had not sufficiently em
phasised, vli: the effect of the prolonged
adoleseense that characterises tho de
velopment of the human being.
Vreooolty Is not a murk of, racial super
iority, but rather the contrary. The smart
little monkey Is brighter than the human
Infant, probably exceeds It, for the lime
being'. In practical Intelligence, but It la
old and wise too quick. It never gets
above the level that Its ancestors struck
ages ago.
In a few days, or at the most weeks,
after emerging Irom Its shell the young
bird .has learnd all that Its parents
know. If we go lower down In the ani
mal scale we find creatures that have
no childhood or youth at all. In such
rases there cen be no progress. Ani
mals that spring Into existence virtually
In the adult slate have no room for de
velopment. The more the youthful stage
Is prolonged the greater the Msaih)ltt(es
of advancement. .-
Should we gain anything by making
human life Intenrer and shorter? That la
perhsps a fair subject for argument. It
wa crowd out the old from active life,
and continually lower the limit of age,
can we Invent a practicable', method of
giving a satisfactory existence to those
whom society has commanded to stand
aalde? Can an) body see, a present, a
social and Industrial system under which
everybody can, accumulate enough at 40,
or at the most 60 years, to be Indepen
dent for tho rest of his or her days?
I Wo all get old. and we all want to get
i old, since nobody wishes to die young.
That being tha case, we are all Inter
ested In seeing that age gets Its rights
as well ss youth.
Madame Ise'bell
Say "Exatcit Every Day to Car
reef Ef acts at Fathi nal Walk
Kn tha Body Straight
WhUaSaapmg"
There are so many hnhtts that tend in
make the body lose its elasticity that
there Is little wonder that towards middle
ge or before we find the shoulders droop
ing and the
waist line grow
ing bigger and
higher. The fig
ure seems to
become settled,
and to need to
be stretched out
to give It any
thing approach
ing the light
some lines of i
youth.
The new fash
Inn of 'standing
and walking
will be ruinous to figures If It Is not
corrected dally by sorr.e form of physical
extreme. My attention has been called
to a series of physical exercises the
grent advantnue of which, the originator
clnlir.e. is that they can be done while
lying In bed.
Physicnl cxt-rolec-s should not be made
loo easy. They are for the purpose of
rxerclaing at first a certain amount of
effort, and even discomfort. Later on
they iM-coinc a physical pleasure, and
when this step Is resched the subject
should know that she hns gone a great
step towards equalising the muscular
strength of the body.
Certain stretching exercises are well
done in bed, before going to sleep and on
awakening. The following for example:
Hold the arms above the head. If possible
grasping the top of the bed post; stretch
the right lofl as far as possible, then the
left, relaxing the right, and continue,
first right and then left, moving tha hi
muscles ns you work.
W hile it Is true that the muscles should
be velaxed'for restful sleep. It Is unneces
sary that the shoulders should be com'
pletely dropped and the knees drawn
chlnward. as Is the' common custom.
TVs attitude during sleep encourage
the stooping and drooping In at the waist
line thai threatens so msny figures. It
Is simply a matter of habit. It la quite
easy to accustom yourself to sleeping with
tho shoulders held back and limbs ex
tended . and this position will have a
most corrective effect on the figure. 1
.-$rt&J&
When Cherult wishes a long coat, she makes
a very long model, extending almost to the bot
tom of the full little akirt which it covers. From
the new beige colored whlpllne she baa devel
oped an unusually good-looking garment, the
front and back' panel laid in unstitched inch
wide plaits. ' The belt, marking toe low waist
line, is of sable the fur belts being a fancy
with this couturlere and harmonizes with the
close-fitting collar and cuffs.
This blue and magenta colored checked vel
vet frock has the characteristic Cherult features
In the straight, long waist and skirt hung in a
sloping line from the front to the .back. The
deep flat yoke, slightly curved, over the bust, is
another' new note. Though not new, the quaint
little lace collar and lace cuffs, also the bow of
dark blue grosgraln ribbon in the back are typi
cal of Cherult's creations.
Turn Hair Dark
WithSage Tea
Grandma kept he locks dark, glossy
and thick with a simple mixture
of Sage Tea and Hnlphur.
Tha old-time mixture of Sage Tea and
Hulphur for darkening gray, streaked
and faded hair is grandmother's treat
ment, and folks are again using U to
keep their hair a good, van.cvlor, which
is quit possible, ea we are living la an
aga wh'. youthful appearance Is of the
greatest advantage.
Nowadays, though, we don't have the
troublesome task of gathering the sage
and tha tniusry mixing at home. All
druar stores sell tha ready-t-uae product
cabled "Wyetfa's Bage. and Sulphur Com
pound," for about SO cents a botUa. It Is
very popular because nobody can dis
cover It baa been applied. . Simply
moisten your comb or a soft broaa with
It and draw thia through your hair, tak
ing on small strand at a Urns; by morn
ing tha gray hair disappears, but what
delights tha latliea wfta TCystfe'a Saga
and Sulphur la that, beside boa Ml fully
darkening the hair after a lew applica
tions, ft also produces that anaTt turner
and appearance of abundance which is
so aamxirt; beakiwa premcts dandruff,
Itrhaog aJtip wJ faSliig hah-. Adver-llMmqit.
& Cupid's Great Problem &
ave me aster jjssiEa
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Pleasure and Profit Combined!
By MADGE ARTHUR.
Engagements ehould they be long or
short? is is a mooted question whose
answer depends upon many conditions.
What constitutes the wisdom of wait
ing In the case of a pair of lovers who
have formed a boy and girl attachment
and become engaged before their united
ages reach 40 would be aheer folly an I
waste of precious time In the. caae of a
man and woman who have each reached
two-score years or more, and .who have
fully considered tha question and made
up their minds that they will be happy
as man and wife
Such, a couple are far more likely to be
certain concerning their choice than a
couple of ygounger lovers who, with the
Impetuosity of youth, have rushed Into
an engagement and are anxious to let
nothing Interfere with them marrying in
hot basts. s
Such a couple, too, often live to find,
to their everlasting regret, that there is
more than a grain of truth In the ol.l
saying about repenting at leisure
In a case like this, an engagement of'
a couple of years, or even more, will be
a most valuable safeguard. In tha firit
place the pair are young enough to af
ford to waft: In the second, a long en
gagement may prove a most valuable
preparation for marriage, inasmuch aa
tha teat of time may only help to show
them that they are Ideally suited to one
another. A long engagement may also
help to enable young people to cultivate
tastes In common, which' In their turn
promote that companionship of pursuit
that Is such an essential factor In estab
lishing happiness after marriage.
On the other hand, many an engage
ment of long standing haa practically
demonstrated that two natures attracted
to one another at first sight are In no
way suited to one another. v
Unable to bear the fret and worry of a
long engagement. It la hardly likely that
they will gt on any better In double
harness. Unfortunate ant) uncomfortable
aa a broken engagement undoubtedly is,
nobody will deny that It is better to
have an opportunity to discover the dis
agreeable truth that the couples are u re
sulted to each other before marriage
rather than afterward.
Although there are always exceptions
to every caae. It will be generally ad
mitted that as a rule long engagements
re a mistake, not only so far as the
young couple themselves are concerned,
but. as regards tha families of both
parties, they are gt tha beat or times
arrre-wwartns, tedious affairs. , y
Lore's young dream that drags Itself
sr after year, with no proepeet of mar
ri4 Tor a long ttra to com. Is apt to
(ink to prosaic levels and luoe much of
the charm and romanoa that -"-'U sur-
lound the days of eaartstitp; wsile mar
riage ItMii, wntn It dues comav Ulster
(such circumstances loses a great deal of
Its Ideal bliss by reason of a too familiar
: and prolonged Intercourse resulting from
a lengthy engagement.
I Far. far better marry in the ardor of
' tin love than let your romance grow
stale and spoiled in the early days of
matrimony by reason of a dragged out
engagement for prosaic romance is a bal
thing to start wedded life on.
Feme one once said that "To be Ideal
an engagement should be Just . long
enough to enable the couple to study
and understand1 each other's characters,
but not so long that they grow away
from each other In taste and feelings."
I This Is all very well In caaea where
prospects are good, and where the couple
know something about one another be
fore hand. In many cases when a couple
of comparative strangers meet and be
came engaged tha test of a long engage.
ment la not only wise, but almost Im
perative, a the risks of matrimony are
increased fourfold, for not only tempera
ment, but environment plays no small
tart In contributing to matrimonial bliss.
Also, trying and nerve-wearing aa It
may be for Edwin and Angelina not to
be allowed to start housekeeping on
nothing more substantial than bread anl
cheese and kisses, but to bo kept waiting
by ths mundane considerations of pro
viding themselves with enough to live
upon, a long engagement Is Infinitely
better than a too hard struggle for ex
istence in the early days of matrimony.
For, whatever the novelists and senti
mentalists may say to th contrary In
this every-day world of otirs, which s
ruled by money. It Is very hard work for
love not to yield to the temptation of
slipping out of the window when poverty
comes in at the door. .
Advice to Lovelorn
. y SXATSioa liiariz 1
Very Wrosig.
Dear Miss Fairfax: I am a young girl
of 20 and have been receiving much at
tention from a gentleman of nearly 60.
He la quite wealthy and has asked me
aeveral times to become his wife. I do
not love hliu, but he has offered me a
good home, together .with all the luxur
ies of life. Please edrvlae me and tell me
whether I am wrong in marrying a man
who la so much older than myself and
whom I do not love. DOUHTFUU
You will make a grave blunder If you
marry this man. A good home and lux
uries are hot substitutes for love. And
some day you are sure to meet a man
for whom you can care. Would it not
be horrible If this happened when you
were th wife of a man almost old enough
to be your grand (at hart Tou will wreck
two and possibly three lives If you per
sist In making this cold-blooded and cal
culating match for marriage it will not
b.
Go, ay All Ilea as.
Dear Ulss Fairfax: Is It proper for a
young man to spend the week-end at the
horns of a young lady upon the invitation
of hr mother? Th young man Uvea at
some distance from th girl's home and
Is able to visit her only at long Intervals.
PCZZLdi.
It is perfectly proper to avail yourself
of an Invitation that cocoes from a girl's
mother. Sh Is showing bar daughter's
friend a kindly courtesy.
! Vat rrfSj Ke Yana B lira I.
Dear Miss Fairfax": About two months
ago 1 met a young man whom I grew to
oars very much, and k'j aifertkm like
wise nmtn4 centered on m. HomelMiw,
through a complicated matter, be got a
bad impression of me and orated to mil
en tra. It pains me btttuty ! aoow that
dls opuib'n of torn fc sum wa Mt
snwuui not iiks to appruasta lam tn re
gard to th matter, and. atX i am. xy
anxious to make up with him. TVIU you
please advise me how I am to convince
him of the truth and at the same time
keep my dignity? PEKPL.KXED,
Writ him a not telling him that you
value his friendship and your own pride
too much to allow him to remain under a
false lmpretsion of you. Explain the
matter that baa given him cause to think
aa he did. And rest content' In the
knowledge that you owed it to your dig
nity to set yourself right In the eyes of
any friend who has com to think badly
of you.
Don't Hesitate.
Dear Miss Fairfax: Pleas let me know
If it would be proper for me to1 attend a
wedding with my brother-lo-law alone,
as my slater cannot attend? My parents
and sister urge me to go without her (my
sister), as circumstances won't let her go,
CONSTANT READER.
Certainly you may go, sines both your
parents and your sister approve.
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