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The Stage as a Mirror of Fashion
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Why America Should Now
Lead in Beauty Culture
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Flirting With Married Men
By IlKATKICK FAIRFAX.
A letter has recently come to me from
a friend who la a deep student of human
nature and human problems. It deals with
tho sad fact that the world Is Infested
with numerous married men who are a
menace to young womanhood, a shame
to manhood and a sorrow to the women
who have married them. I am going to
quote today a yart of what T. K. M.
says on the subject and then I will add a
few words of my wu on this sad prob
lem. "I think It Is a sad thins; that a girl
does not realize what devoted attentions
from a married man must Inevitably
mean. She does not seem to become a ware
of his Intentions and purposes until she
la entirely under his Influenre and in his
clutches. And then It Is always too lato.
Innocence is a detriment In this case.
"Most girls seem possessed of the Idea
that the mere fact of a man's being mar.
rled la their safeguard that, being mar
ried, he Is necessarily harmless.
"Again, many girls are Imbued with the
absurd and fallacious Idea that should
they succumb to temptations, the mar
ried man can and must afford them pro
tection against publicity and Its conse
quent scandal."
No word of what'T. K. M. writes Is ex
aggerated. No pretty girl can afford to
toss her head and say llghly: "Oh, well,
It might be dangerous for some girls to
have much to do with married men but
I can take care of myself."
How can a girl rely on her strength of
character to save her from going to de
struction through a friendship that Is so
dear to her that she hasn't the strength
of character to break It off when warned
against It, but has to excuse herself and
take refuge behind the excuse that she
can take care of herself?
No young girl can be sure of taking
care of herself In affairs with unprinc
ipled men. Innocense Is attractive to some
devils In human guise, and they make It
a business to play on that beautiful qual
ity 'which they wish to destroy.
Innocence Is not aware of danger In
emotional affairs and enmeshes Itself.
When a worldly wise public sees a
young girl associating on terms of affec
tion and friendship with a man who la
married It concludes that she Is offering
her poor little best and It deprives her of
setting a higher value on herself.
No one ever believes In the purity of a
Advice to Lovelorn
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Simple Pleasures.
Pear Mies Fairfax: I am keeping com
pany with a young lady I love very
dearly, and know that my love la re
ciprocated. The only thing I have against
her Is that she would always like to go
to a theater or some other place of
amusement- As my salary la not very
large, I can hardly do myself justice to
Pleasing her. Can you advise me what
U do7 . IM. O. T.
Be frank as to your finances with the
girl for whom you care. There are many
Inexpensive methods of amusement, and
It you are thoughtful of her you can
plan little surprises that will take the
place of more expensive g-ayeties. A
walk through the parka la a pleasant
way of spending a Sunday afternoon. .If
vou can afford to spend a dollar or two
n your sweetheart and divide it Judi
ciously between moving pictures, street
car rides, an occasional soda and a few
flowers, you can manage to give her
many pretty little attention each week.
friendship between a married man and
young girl. It Is not evtlmlndedness that
prompts this attitude. It is experience of
the world and Its wsys.
Why should a married man turn for
companionship to a young girl? Why
does he not count on his wife for that?
Why does he continue to remain the hus
band of a woman ho Is willing to discuss
with a girl who Is a comparative
stranger?
Ask yourself these questions, girls, and
then add one more. "If a married man
will talk disparagingly of his wife and
hia relatione with her to me, what right
have I to suppose that he will not equally
lightly discuss mo with her or with tho
next woman to catch his roving fancy?"
We ure all creatures of habit, and no
matter how our hearts roam for a tlmo,
they generally kcomo home at last Be
tween a man and his wife there Is the
bond of common Interests, home ties and
family communion. If this temporarily
ceases to hold him, can any young girl
who gives herself unpledged hope for
loyalty?
Each day we read of grim tragedies
based on mistaken love. For an unhappy
wife who Is betrayed by husband and
newer sweetheart, the world has sym
pathy and oharlty. For the girl there Is
the outer darkness. She Is despised by
the world and deserted by the man, who
leaves her at the first breath of diffi
culty and discomfort with even more in
difference than he deserted his wife, be
cause bo had begun to tire of sober dom
esticity.
Some men are born faithless. If un
true to his wife, to whom he Is bound
by solemn obligations, why should any
woman deceive herself Into believing that
a man will be true to her after he begins
to be bored.
Don't t-tart an affair with a married
man. If you have a handsome young em
ployer, come Into his office as a pert of
his business machinery don't think of
yourself as a girl to be wooed, and don't
encourage the man to consider you ex
cept as a factor of his business.
There Is probably a social gulf between
you don't try to bridge It. You will prob
ably only create a wider gulf that will
yawn between you and all girls who are
properly discreet and careful of their
reputations.
If a charming young man comes to
your town and you know nothing of him,
don't permit yourself to grow Interested.
He may have a wife and babies at home.
and you scarcely want the price for a
few months of harpy Intimacy to be the
loss of reputation for you, the loss of
happiness for his wife and the loss of
a father for his children.
An affair with a married man does not
spell happiness for any one concerned.
Don't you want to be a happy wife some
day, you little silly girl who throw away
your chances of Joy so lightly? Of course
you do and you don't want another girl
to steal your husband, -even If the theft
will leave her poorer than It found her.
Ldo you?
Well, then, don't set fate a bod ex
ample by stealing another woman's hus
band. You will "serve your term" for
It, if you do and this Is what you will
pay: Unhapplness, sha.Tje, a broken repu
tation, the guilt of spoiling some one
else's life, the scorn of women and the
sneers of men. There will be no per
manent gain only everlasting loss. Is It
worth chancing?
Don't be a married man's sweetheart
that Is one of the surest roads to un
happlness and to lasting remorse coupled
with undying disgrace.
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Prefeinnklng, as we umlerstand It to
ilny, grew up In France under tho Em
press Eiitfenle. an! the first grand cou
turier was the orlplnntor of the present
famous V a r Is
houc of Wot th.
The first
Worth was a
young Kngllsh
man, the son of
an K n g I I s h
draper, who
ramo to 1'arln
, to learn all that
he could of hs
father's b u s 1 -
ii. 3. w tin iMig-
llsh acumen he
eraaped tho Idea
o f furnishing
the complete gown, that Is. he conceive
the plan of scllln.- pot only me gooas
nd trimmings, but the compter cosiumo.
built up under hi" tnrecnioii.
The Km press Kugenle found ine young
Kngllshman s lileas to ner
ma.le him court dressmaker, and in spue
of tho fall of the second empire
rivalry of other countries who se.i up es
tablishments on the same lines, tnis nouse
has endured up to present times ana nmu.
leadership for certain very elaborate and
formal costumes.
It has become entirely French m us
afflictions. When the wsr nroae v.
first of August the Alison Wortn ciosea
Its doors and turned Its big workroom
Into sewing atteliers for Jted Cross work.
All the men under years or age.
whether members ol me urm or em
ployes, left to loin their regiments at the
frontier. ,
The output of the dressmaking business
In 1'arls of late years has reached a
colossal proportion; It would be difficult
to estimate It Curiously enough, whlls
the French' men and women engaged In
this Industry are rarely able to work to
good advantage outside of France, the
heads of many of these establishments
are foreigners, the Austrian and Dutch
being largely represented. There are sev
eral Kngllsh firms In Tarls and I know of
una American.
A certain number of these and to a cer
tain extsnt all of them cater directly to
Ihe American trade. A certain proportion
of their models are designed to please the
American woman and anyone at all fa
miliar with Tailslan gowning knows that
these are far from being the models that
achieve success In Paris. From this fact
It Is simple to produce th srgument that
American women, while they wish their
models crested In Paris by no means ac
cept the Paris designs. They Insist or
something made up for them personally
that will become and adorn their racial
and ecullar type.
What has been the reason that up to .
now Americans have been obliged to go to
Parts for this?
(To be Continued.)
The South African monkoy has offered
his pelt to Miss Julia Sanderson, the
dancing prima donna of "The Girl from
Utah" at the Knlckergocker theater.
This offering appears as a border to the
wide band of black velvet 'on the skirt of
the white chiffon frock and again In
scalp fashion finishing the . flat wide
girdle. Also ornamenting the girdle Is a
large Jet cabochon with pendants. The
simple little corsage of the chiffon Is
almost childlike in its simplicity, crystal
beads being ths only trimmings.
Chiffon and lace lend a mlstv outline
to the evening gown worn by Miss Paul
ine Frederick In "Innocent." They tall
In lung, sinuous folds, veiling! but not
concealing, the aheath-llke foundation of
satin, swathe the neck and shoulders l"lk
a lovely cloud and are draped In back to
form one of the new pointed trains. A
length of the satin Is wound around the
waist and hips, giving the walstless sll-
houete now so much desired.
Domestic Diplomacy.
A young married man was talking to
an old married man yesterday, and was
complaining that he could not vet his
wife to mvnd his clothes. "I asked her
to sew a button on my vest last night
and she hasn't touched It." And then his
older married frlond remarked: "Never
ask a woman to mend anything. When I
vent a shirt mended I take It to my wife
and flourish it around a little and say,
'Where Is that ragbag?' Then my wife
says. 'What do you want of the rakhag?'
'1 want te throw this shirt away, it's
worn out.' 'l-et me see that shirt,' my
wife says. Of course, I pass It over and
she examines It. 'Why. It only needs'
and then she mends It. Chanute (Kan.)
Tribune.
Trae Moarnlnar.
Dear Miss Fairfax: Will you kindly
advise me through your paper whether it
is right for a working girl whose wealthy
swetheart died to etay home only on the
day of the funeral, or should she have
stayed home all three days, as her friends
claim she should have done? Also should
she dress In mourning, when she cannot
afford It? I am this girl, and I stayed
home only one day, that was the day of
the funeral, and am not wearing mourn
ing, and my f lance s friends say I should
have done both the above things. Your
kind advice will be greatly appreciated.
MAY D.
True mourning Is not based on the
wearing of black or observing penitential
days. It is quite right of you to stay at
home on the day of you fiance's funeral,
since to have acted otherwise might have
been a mark of disrespect. But you
would be very foolish to involve yourself
In the expense of buying mourning. You
know the loyalty of your own feelings,
and the criticism of your friends does not
matter.
Being; Fair to m Girl.
Dear Miss Fairfax: I have known a
young lady for two years. During that
time we have become Kreat friends. She
Is very popular, but this summer she has
refused all Invitations from other young
men. Naturally, 1 confined my alten-j
Hons to her. I do not want to marry tor
four years. In fact, I am not sure
whether she is the only one for me. I
want to treat her honorably and do the
right thing by her. Along what lines
should we continue our friendship? We
are both 23. W. U B.
State your case clearly to the girl who
cares for you. It Is much better to be
honest with her and inflict a quick, sharp
wound than to permit her to go on from
year to year giving you her love and at
tention and then at last wake up to the
hopelessness of her position.
The only honorable thing to do la to
tell her exactly how you feel.
Ask for an Explanation.
Dear Miss Fairfax: I have been keep
ing steady company with a young man
for about four years. I have very good
reasons to know this young man loves
me. There Is only one thing that bothers
me, and that la sometimes when he says
he will call on me a certain evening he
fails to come, and then I don't see him for
maybe a week or two afterwards. 1 never
say anything to him about it, so he won't
think I care so much, and w hen he conies
again he is Just as loving and acts Just
the same as usual. I have tried a couple
of times to be away when he calls, but
it did no good. PALL.IXE.
Beit-respect demands that you should
not permit anyone to Ignore engagements
with you. Ask your friend why be Is so
careless sbout keeping engagements he
has made. Do ntt fear that he will over
estimate your love because you are on
your dignity.
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