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The Way to Grace Via the Minuet 4jf B? Mne MlUTay
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THE BEE: OMAHA, THURSDAY, JULY 9, 1914.
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Ilr MA1C MUUItAY.
Did you think ttitU the minuet had
stepped out, rorover? JVejll, It hasn't, or,
It It did step .out for .awhile, whfio the
one-step and the tango nna tho msjtlxe
Ixximo popular, His coming back to
the. ballroom, for Its stately loveliness Is
too leutlful to say goodbye to forever.
Tho minuet, fs the least heating of any
danCo wcLWyo 'or t" reasons. In the
first plaoo the partners do not touch
each other at all. This Is one of tho
rhlof reasons for tho revival of the
minuet, for after we have gone to the
other extreme, people are beginning to
wake up to the fact-that dancing amounts
to- more as an art and is far mora at
tractive from every standpoint whore the
danoors no not touch. In the second
place the minuet U popular for summer
dancing becauao Its movements are slow
and measured; thero Is nothing about It
to make ono hot, and It haB so much
charm every one admits that.
Of course tho steps are really nothing
tp learn, tho movement Is simply up and
down, the partners hold hands lightly
and step forward three steps very daintily
to minuet .tempo. Every ono knows, or
at least I hopo every one knows, that
the minuet hus Its own particular music.
At the end of every three steps the danc
ers bow or courtsey to each othor, and
everything In tho minuet depends on the
bow. The bow takes three counts to
correspond with the three forward steps,
and the minuet Is based on a one, two,
threo tempo.
Picture ono shows the position of tho
feet as the lady curtseys for the minuet
The forward limb must bo held rigid for
the low curtsey, while tho balance is held
A charming rovlvnl of tho
mode of tho olgUtxcnth con
Miry Is this evening "bonnet"
mndo of Hno nlKcr net.
The top 1st wldo bandeau,
,-dKcd by two wide ruffleo of
net, throiiRli which is
n wide nattier blue ribbon.
Tills bow la f listened at. the
left Hide by a huge bow vtli
floatluB iti-cnnicri!.
with the back foot. The picture shows
only the beginning of the curtsey, for the
feet cannot be seen at all if the bow Is
deep, as It should be. I
Picture two shows tho preparation for j
mo uow irom mo siae wun one nana
held out to a possible partner. Remem
ber that tho minuet Is going to be the
standard by which tha grace of a girl !a
going to be tested this season. They say
that a girl who cannot curtsey does not
possess true grace, so practice up and be
perfect in the art, for wo never know
when the test will be made.
i he J ealou
s Wife
This Trait is Nothing More Than a Dis
ease, and Could Bo Cured by Specialists
tfy KLLA WHEELER WILOOX.
Copyright, 1814. by fitar Company.
''If you will stop and consider the sub
ject dispassionately and honestly you wilt
find only a handful of married women of,
your acquaintance past 35 years who are
ii ot mlscrablo be
cause of their Jeal
ousies. " Every time- the
husband of the aver
age mldd 1 o a g e d
woman ' looks atr a
y o u n g o r woman,
every time he pays
a. meaninHiess cuiu
pllmerit, or shows a
gallant Impulse, the
Is. devoured by
jealousy. It Is tho
law of tho sex and
thVage.. Only women '
who have some ob
ject or occupation to
widen their horizon,
or women who have gallantries of their
own, or women who havo settled into a
piggish tendency to eat and sleep away
arid have lost all sentiment, aro exempt
from Jealousy,"
It was a bVllliant man of wide ex-,
Uerlence Snd. large outlook on life, who
epoko thus, and the woman to whom he
spoke was not able to dispute his sweep
ing statement. 'Yet the statement can ba
modified, and this can be said with
truth of the subject, that where there
wero ten women miserable with Jealousy
fifty years Ago, tljere Is but ope now.
Because woman's narrow boundaries
layful Micipatfon
of Motherhood
There Is apt to be a latent apprehension
tf .distress to mar the .complete Joy of
expectation. But this is quite overcome
by the advice of so many, women to use
"Mother's Friend." This Is, an -external
application designed to so- lubricate tho
muscles and to .thus so relieve' the' pressure-
reacting on the nerves, that the
natural strain .upon tha cords and liga
ments is not accompanied by those severe
pains said to cause nausea, morning' sick
ness and many local distresses. This
iplendld'embroeatlon Is known to a multi
tude or mothers.
Mai.y people believe that those remedies
which have atood the test of time, that
have been put to every trial under the
varying conditions of age, weight, general
health, etc, may be safely relied upon.
lAnd Judging by the fact that "Mother's
Friend" has been in continual use since
our grandmother's earlier years and Is
known throughout the t'nlted States' it
may be easily Inferred that It is some
thing that women talk about and gladly
recommend to prospective mothers.
'Mother Friend" is prepared only In
our own laboratory" and is' sold by drug
gists everywhere., .Ask for a bottle to-day
and write for a spec.Ul book for expectant
mothers. Address- UradfieKl Regulator
t'o., 407 Lamar Pldg., Atlanta, Gt.
havo enlarged and her view extended and
her occupations have grown more nu
merous and her education has advanced
Into now fields of thought.
Long ago, when a woman's life was
bounded by four walls and when her most
exciting occupation during an absence of
her husband was to lean over an em
broidery frame and dream of his return,
and whin her mental recreating was in
perusing a romance of a decided woman
who died of a broken heart, Jealousy was
much moro rampant In the feminine na
ture than It Is today.
Perhaps When divorce was more diffi
cult Jealousy was more acute. Tho knowl
edge that escape Is possible when a situa
tion becomes Intolerable acts as & salvo
to the Jealousy wounded hearts of. some
types of women. And there can be no
question that mental development and
varied occupations for the jnlnds are aids
to tho cure of 'Jealousy.
-Jealousy Is often caused by self depre
ciation, Induced by unthinking parents
who destroy the peace of mind of a
daughter In a crude effort to prevent her
from becoming vain. If a young woman
Is continually made .to think herself un
attractive and to regard others as her
superiors In charm, Jealousy is a natural
sequence.
'Wise parents, teachers and guardians
of the yoUng will endeavor to give a
young girl poise by assuring her of and
aiding her to tho possession of grace,
youthful attractiveness, reposeful man
ners and lovcableness, and then direct
her mind toward the attainment of all
tho mental and moral qualities which
complete winsome womanhood.
The girl who Is forever dissatisfied
with her appearance and who regards
herself as plain, uninteresting and with
out magnetism. Is sure to be miserable,
and suro to overestimate the attractions
of others. "When she marries It requires
small occasion for her to bo torn with
unreasoning Jealousy.
A little happy vanity is a wholesome
trait for any woman to possess. The
Puritan precepts which exalted stern
,vrtilea and excluded beauty as an un
necessary and dangerous asset lor
owmanhood made excellent fertilizer for
the sol) of Jealousy.
Women reared with these Ideals are
ashamed to cultivate beauty, ashamed to
make any effort to keep young and at
tractive as youth slips away and middle
age approaches, and so they grow settled
and sallow and stolid and uninteresting.
and when they see the men whose names
they bear admiring youth and beauty
as It Is man's nature to do whlto a spar
of life exists In this mortal frame they
suffer untold agonies.
It is fortunate for women that an era
has dawned where It Is deemed to the
credit of the whole sex when any woman
leeps herself young In appearance, In
thought and In .deportment.
An era wh,en the boundaries of middle
age have been extended far beyond the
fortleai indeed, where there Is little talk
of middle-age or old age. and -here
women begin at 35 years to cultimate new
accomplishments, to take up new ocoupa
ttons and to develop 'new powors of
charm,
An excellent method to escape the mis
eries of middle-age Jealousies for any
wjfe la to devote a portion of every day
to study while she is yet in her youth
ful prime, to begin to make herself a
musician, an artist, a sculptor, a linguist
or merely a well-Informed Aoraan. To
read and think and to keep In touch with '
ovory thing which means progress; to
tako caro of her oomploMon, to avoid
growing- coarse and unwMVy through
ovcr-oatlng and under-c irclsc. To cul
tivate a religious state of mind eory day
to thinking of the Invlil'Jls realms nr.d
tho hOBts of spiritual beings who ilw.ll
there, and who are ever ready to help to
overcome out weakns4s and strengthen
our best finalities if we ikK thftni. All
these things will old to gnwini In charm,
and will cl.roct, her m'nd from petty nnd
humiliating jealousies.
For to be attractive nnd cntertuln'.ng to
all men prevents a woman from being
Jealous of one, without cutis at least.
With cause the womun who It not cap
ablo of Jealousy Is not canal! of love.
Jealousy In some natures is a disease
Inherited from a mother suffering neg
lect during the prenatal period of her
child. In one such case the father was-
unfaithful to his wife; and she bocame
convinced of the fact and hid the bitter
ness of her sorrow from the eyes of her
relatives and near friends until the birth
of the child. Then a separation took
place. The child, a girl, Indicated even
In her Infancy, the violent Jealousy of
her nature. Sho alternated between rage
and despair when any other child, espe
cially a child of her own sex, received
attention from her mother or from any
one In whom she was interested. And
now, as a young girl, Just budding Into
womanhood, she Is the victim of this
malady, which will destroy her "whole
future unless curbed and corrected by
wlee, counsellors.
It Is a curious fact that wo have
"specialists" for every physical malady
of the human being. We havo nerve
specialists and specialists for mental dls
orders; but the disease of Jealousy which
is the most painful and dangerous of nil
has received no attention from science.
Tet it could be cured were a school of
specialists to make It a study. But even
parents allow the malady to grow, un
checked, until it develops Into a disease
which wrecks a home.
Let us have a school of Jeatousy spe
cialists established by science. The ago
demands it.
Jealousy Is the ogre standing at many
a threshold and barring out happiness.
Unless Jealousy Is driven from the home,
not only marriage, but life Itself be
comes a failure.
A little practical application of common
sense, and a little dolly use of reason
and good wilt and Judgement will accom
plish this most desirable eviction of the
Intruder In many not all cases.
It in natural and right and wise for
both husband and wife to have their
separate Interests, pleasures and friends.
It keeps life richer and wards oft the
possible approach of monotony and ennui.
The husband's club, the wife's club, the
college associations of either or both,
should only act as appetisers for the later
employment of the pleasures found at tha
domestic hearth.
When either wife or husband feels a
Jealousy of the other's separate pleasures
It Is usually the result of the lack of
thought.
The wise, considerate and tactful bus
band will prevent such a state of mind
by taking his wife Into his confidence
and close sympathy regarding his busi
ness or college associations, He will tell
her about them, talk to htr of the dlf
fcrent members, and Introduce to her
such of them as he feels would be agree
able and congenial acquaintances.
Chic nnd Strictly Up-to-the-Mlnute.
Too Many Dutiful Wives Spoil Their Husbands
Pleasures That "Wear Well
By DOROTHY D1X
"You can't," said tho Woman Philoso
pher, as she stirred hor ten, "do your
duty by your husband or your servants
without ruining them.
'Now I never
Hy BEATRICE FAIRFAX.
Make happiness the direct object of
pursuit and she will lead you a wild
goose chase. Follow some other object to
a goal of ambition and achievement and
In your work you probably will find that
you have caught happiness without dream
ing of 1U
Happiness does not llo In a butterfly
chase of some dassllng leauty. It Is not
the elusive pot of gold at the end of a
rainbow. But If you go about looking
for Joy you will find her always winging
away Just where you cannot reach.
We must cultivate our garden," says
the old French proverb.
And to be happy we must cultivate the
garden of our lives. You must not plant
your "garden" with delicate wind- flowers
that fall at a touch of bad weather. You
must sow It with hardy perennials and
shady hedges and fragrant, deep-rooted
shrubs and honey hearted roses. You
must keep out weeds and thorns.
Just as you would tend a real garden
you must tend the garden of your lite,
You must fill your life with "durable sat
isfactions if you mean to have It serene
and happy and worth while.
The pleasures that wear well are not
feverish enjoyments or the chase or ex
citement, variety and gayety.
The "durable satisfactions" of life are
those that will stay with you and make
life richer and fuller tomorrow because
you knew a worth-while pleasure today
In books, In music, in all that la a
study of real beauty or a cultivation of
your mind you will find a lasting pleas
ure. In friendship and unselfish affection
In lasting Joy. In Improving yourself and
making your garden grow In sweet, fra
grant memories; In keeping abreast of
the times and serving well wherever you
are put will find happiness that will out
wear all the excitements of a moment of
dance and song and merriment
He merry but see that your msrrlment
slights no one else. Give Joy and you will
find your own store ot it Increasing.
You never need be sod or lonely, for
the world offers you a chance for lasting
Joy In cultivating the garden of your
own life and In slipping cuts and sprigs
of happiness to bring to your neighbors'
gardens.
Household Hints
A little vinegar placed In the rinsing
water on washing day will prevent the
hands from becoming rough and chapped.
For grit In the eye apply a drop or two
of castor oil; It relieves the Irritation.
If the edges of a saucepan are well
buttered the contents will not boll over.
havo a good serv
ant more than six
months at a time,
berauae I am a hu
manitarian, and
strong for the
brotherhood, and
aim the sisterhood,
of mankind, and by
the tlmo I have
practiced my beau
tiful and altrulstlo
theories that long
upon a maid she is
so spoiled that she
Is no account, and
I havo to let her
go and get an
other. "'For Instance,
having a head and
a back that are given to aching, I run al
ways looking out for the dull and heavy
eyes and sagging shoulders In my maids
that Indicate that they also have heads
and backs.
"Bo I will say. 'Mary, you don't look
well today, so take things easy. Don't
sweep under tho beds. Don't scrub out
the bathtub. Just wipe It up. Give a
lick and a promise dusting.'
"But does Mary appreciate this? Is she
so filled with gratitude for a considerate
mlstresa that on the day she does fuel
well she polishes up things until they
shins like the handle ot the great front
door In the 'Pinafore?' Not at all. Mary
considers that my letting her off easily
on the cleaning up when she Is sick gives
her carte blanche to slight tho work ull
the time, and she's ruined for a house
maid until Dome martinet of a house
keeper takes her In hand and knocks my
spoiling out of her
"And It's the same way about holidays.
I realize how monotonous domestic scrv
Ice Is, and so I give my maid about three
times as many days off as other people
do theirs.
"But the way they repay this klndnens
Is by staying out later and later on their
days off until finally they don't come
back until midnight, and after I've had
to cook o dinner or two I find myself In
the employment agency bunting another
servant to spoil. Its the hardest and
most difficult mistresses and the ones
who treat their servants most as If they
were mere machines who get the best
servants, which Is discouraging to those
of us who would like to be llttlo slaters
to the poor.
"And precisely the same thing applies
to husband. The only way to niako a
man treat you properly Is to treat him
as badly as you can. Men never ap
preciate what women do for them, they
only appreciate what they do for women,
and the more that a woman does for a
woman the more value she has In his
eyes. Which la a masculine peculiarity
that we women never grasp, becauao we
are built on opposite plana and specifica
tions, "For example, take tho matter of a
woman working to help her hunband, If
he Is poor that seems to be her duty,
but does It pay? Oh, dear no. Far from
It There's not one self-made man In a
hundred that doesn't get gay when he
gets rich, and paes up the toll-worn wife,
who has grown old before her time help
ing him make his fortune, for some young
and pretty creature who wouldn't turn
hor hand over to do anything for him ex
cept help him Bpcnd his money.
"I've never seen a woman who worked
hard to help her husband grt even m
much os a 'thank you' for It, and so my
ndvlce to any woman who feels an Im
pulse to put hor shoulder to the wheel Is
to restrain herself, because she'll wear
' herself out for nothing.
'Now. when I marrlod, my huibaml
was a poor young fellow, and I was aw
fully In love with htm and wanted to
help him, and be the Ideal wife, and so I
started right in to be a model ot Industry
thrift. I did all my housework, and In
stead ot being down on his knees In
gratltudo to mo my husband seemed to
think that I had a curious passion for di
verting myself with the cook stove and
the woahtub. When we goi able to hve
servants It was years before I could con
vince him that I didn't do the work of
two hired women for fun.
And because I had dene without geod
clothes and pretty things I had firmly
established In Ills mind the Idea that I
could drcas on nothing a year. I'd
spoiled him, you sec, and to this day he
has conniption fits over the price of n de
cent hat or gown.
In those days, too. when we were
poor and I felt that he had alt the bur
den that ho could stand I made no de
mands upon hlra that I could help. He
Advice to the Lovelorn
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.
worked hard nnd I potted him and cos
eotted him, and put him to bed at night
so that ho might feel frcah for the next
day's atruggle. I never asked him to
take me to the theater, or out to a res'
taurant, or to go to parties with .me. and
ticcaiiso money was scarce I nover Intim
ated that I would llko .to havo llttlo
treats to go on I rips, or to have him
bring mo flowors and candy,, such ns
other men bring their wives, or even to
give mo presents on anniversaries.
"You might think that now, In the faf
ears, ho would try to make up for those
lean ones, but he doesn't It never enters
his head to show me tho attention that
other woinon have exacted of their hus
bands, and get. Nor does ho ever makn
mo a present He was spoiled by my un
selfishness;
"I have an ainlablo and quiet disposi
tion. I never make scenes or lose my
temper, or answer back, and that hnn
spoiled my husband alao, because he feels
that hp can safely Indulge his own temper
and roy what ho likes to me, as he would
not dare to do to a woman who would
tight back.
"If I had my llfo to llvo over again I
would take tho best of everything for
myself, I would force my husband to
consider me, and when things went wrong
Instead of trying to smooth them over, I
would lay on tho floor and kick and
shriek. I'd be the spoiled ono Instead
of the spoiler, and my husband would
have ten times the affection and respect
he has for me, and treat me a hundred
times better, for as I raid In the begin
ning, you couldn't treat your husband
right without ruining him,
If I was starting out In matrimony
again, with my own experience aa a.
warning, my Ideal would would not be to
be the best wife In the community, but
to make my husband the best husband."
Talk to Your Father.
Dear Miss Fairfax: J am an only daugh
ter of 18. My father Is very strict with
me. I can hardly get out of hla sight
without his accusing me of meeting
young men. I havaTbeen going to high
school, but I stopped becauso If I was
ten minutes late coming home he would
vow I had been talking to the boys. He
won't let me go to work In an office be
cause I would see too many young men,
I llko a young man of It years of age.
Ho likes me. too, ana wants to Keep com
pany with me. Although I haven't men
tioned -the aubject to my father. I know
he would not ronaent What would you
do If you were In my place? I would
lovo to krep company with this young
man. I don't want to get married, tor
1 am too young to love yet. DOlUS M.
Talk this matter over very seriously
with your father . Remind him that It Is
natural for you to want the companion
ship of boys as well as girls, but that
you want him to meet and approve all
your friends and to realize that you will
not make any frlenda who are not worthy
of coming Into your own home. Tell him
you will alwaya be honest with him, and
that now, in fairness to you, you beg ot
him to meet a young man whoie
friendship you would like to have.
Bring all your tact to bear on the mat
ter and see If you cannot persuade your
father to remember his own youthful In
terest In nice girls as well as boys.
It la lllirut.
CHICAGO. 111. Hear Miss Fairfax; Do
you think It la wrong for a Gentile to
marry a Jew when tliey have been the
beat of frlenda for two yeara, and have
proved that they are true to each other?
A FRIEND.
I think it is right
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