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About Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922 | View Entire Issue (July 9, 1914)
9 The Way to Grace Via the Minuet 4jf B? Mne MlUTay Olivette's Fashions A Charming Paris Creation THE BEE: OMAHA, THURSDAY, JULY 9, 1914. mm TTTC lk If TTk Heady for the Cu'rbioy. Preparing for the Bow. Ilr MA1C MUUItAY. Did you think ttitU the minuet had stepped out, rorover? JVejll, It hasn't, or, It It did step .out for .awhile, whfio the one-step and the tango nna tho msjtlxe Ixximo popular, His coming back to the. ballroom, for Its stately loveliness Is too leutlful to say goodbye to forever. Tho minuet, fs the least heating of any danCo wcLWyo 'or t" reasons. In the first plaoo the partners do not touch each other at all. This Is one of tho rhlof reasons for tho revival of the minuet, for after we have gone to the other extreme, people are beginning to wake up to the fact-that dancing amounts to- more as an art and is far mora at tractive from every standpoint whore the danoors no not touch. In the second place the minuet U popular for summer dancing becauao Its movements are slow and measured; thero Is nothing about It to make ono hot, and It haB so much charm every one admits that. Of course tho steps are really nothing tp learn, tho movement Is simply up and down, the partners hold hands lightly and step forward three steps very daintily to minuet .tempo. Every ono knows, or at least I hopo every one knows, that the minuet hus Its own particular music. At the end of every three steps the danc ers bow or courtsey to each othor, and everything In tho minuet depends on the bow. The bow takes three counts to correspond with the three forward steps, and the minuet Is based on a one, two, threo tempo. Picture ono shows the position of tho feet as the lady curtseys for the minuet The forward limb must bo held rigid for the low curtsey, while tho balance is held A charming rovlvnl of tho mode of tho olgUtxcnth con Miry Is this evening "bonnet" mndo of Hno nlKcr net. The top 1st wldo bandeau, ,-dKcd by two wide ruffleo of net, throiiRli which is n wide nattier blue ribbon. Tills bow la f listened at. the left Hide by a huge bow vtli floatluB iti-cnnicri!. with the back foot. The picture shows only the beginning of the curtsey, for the feet cannot be seen at all if the bow Is deep, as It should be. I Picture two shows tho preparation for j mo uow irom mo siae wun one nana held out to a possible partner. Remem ber that tho minuet Is going to be the standard by which tha grace of a girl !a going to be tested this season. They say that a girl who cannot curtsey does not possess true grace, so practice up and be perfect in the art, for wo never know when the test will be made. i he J ealou s Wife This Trait is Nothing More Than a Dis ease, and Could Bo Cured by Specialists tfy KLLA WHEELER WILOOX. Copyright, 1814. by fitar Company. ''If you will stop and consider the sub ject dispassionately and honestly you wilt find only a handful of married women of, your acquaintance past 35 years who are ii ot mlscrablo be cause of their Jeal ousies. " Every time- the husband of the aver age mldd 1 o a g e d woman ' looks atr a y o u n g o r woman, every time he pays a. meaninHiess cuiu pllmerit, or shows a gallant Impulse, the Is. devoured by jealousy. It Is tho law of tho sex and thVage.. Only women ' who have some ob ject or occupation to widen their horizon, or women who have gallantries of their own, or women who havo settled into a piggish tendency to eat and sleep away arid have lost all sentiment, aro exempt from Jealousy," It was a bVllliant man of wide ex-, Uerlence Snd. large outlook on life, who epoko thus, and the woman to whom he spoke was not able to dispute his sweep ing statement. 'Yet the statement can ba modified, and this can be said with truth of the subject, that where there wero ten women miserable with Jealousy fifty years Ago, tljere Is but ope now. Because woman's narrow boundaries layful Micipatfon of Motherhood There Is apt to be a latent apprehension tf .distress to mar the .complete Joy of expectation. But this is quite overcome by the advice of so many, women to use "Mother's Friend." This Is, an -external application designed to so- lubricate tho muscles and to .thus so relieve' the' pressure- reacting on the nerves, that the natural strain .upon tha cords and liga ments is not accompanied by those severe pains said to cause nausea, morning' sick ness and many local distresses. This iplendld'embroeatlon Is known to a multi tude or mothers. Mai.y people believe that those remedies which have atood the test of time, that have been put to every trial under the varying conditions of age, weight, general health, etc, may be safely relied upon. lAnd Judging by the fact that "Mother's Friend" has been in continual use since our grandmother's earlier years and Is known throughout the t'nlted States' it may be easily Inferred that It is some thing that women talk about and gladly recommend to prospective mothers. 'Mother Friend" is prepared only In our own laboratory" and is' sold by drug gists everywhere., .Ask for a bottle to-day and write for a spec.Ul book for expectant mothers. Address- UradfieKl Regulator t'o., 407 Lamar Pldg., Atlanta, Gt. havo enlarged and her view extended and her occupations have grown more nu merous and her education has advanced Into now fields of thought. Long ago, when a woman's life was bounded by four walls and when her most exciting occupation during an absence of her husband was to lean over an em broidery frame and dream of his return, and whin her mental recreating was in perusing a romance of a decided woman who died of a broken heart, Jealousy was much moro rampant In the feminine na ture than It Is today. Perhaps When divorce was more diffi cult Jealousy was more acute. Tho knowl edge that escape Is possible when a situa tion becomes Intolerable acts as & salvo to the Jealousy wounded hearts of. some types of women. And there can be no question that mental development and varied occupations for the jnlnds are aids to tho cure of 'Jealousy. -Jealousy Is often caused by self depre ciation, Induced by unthinking parents who destroy the peace of mind of a daughter In a crude effort to prevent her from becoming vain. If a young woman Is continually made .to think herself un attractive and to regard others as her superiors In charm, Jealousy is a natural sequence. 'Wise parents, teachers and guardians of the yoUng will endeavor to give a young girl poise by assuring her of and aiding her to tho possession of grace, youthful attractiveness, reposeful man ners and lovcableness, and then direct her mind toward the attainment of all tho mental and moral qualities which complete winsome womanhood. The girl who Is forever dissatisfied with her appearance and who regards herself as plain, uninteresting and with out magnetism. Is sure to be miserable, and suro to overestimate the attractions of others. "When she marries It requires small occasion for her to bo torn with unreasoning Jealousy. A little happy vanity is a wholesome trait for any woman to possess. The Puritan precepts which exalted stern ,vrtilea and excluded beauty as an un necessary and dangerous asset lor owmanhood made excellent fertilizer for the sol) of Jealousy. Women reared with these Ideals are ashamed to cultivate beauty, ashamed to make any effort to keep young and at tractive as youth slips away and middle age approaches, and so they grow settled and sallow and stolid and uninteresting. and when they see the men whose names they bear admiring youth and beauty as It Is man's nature to do whlto a spar of life exists In this mortal frame they suffer untold agonies. It is fortunate for women that an era has dawned where It Is deemed to the credit of the whole sex when any woman leeps herself young In appearance, In thought and In .deportment. An era wh,en the boundaries of middle age have been extended far beyond the fortleai indeed, where there Is little talk of middle-age or old age. and -here women begin at 35 years to cultimate new accomplishments, to take up new ocoupa ttons and to develop 'new powors of charm, An excellent method to escape the mis eries of middle-age Jealousies for any wjfe la to devote a portion of every day to study while she is yet in her youth ful prime, to begin to make herself a musician, an artist, a sculptor, a linguist or merely a well-Informed Aoraan. To read and think and to keep In touch with ' ovory thing which means progress; to tako caro of her oomploMon, to avoid growing- coarse and unwMVy through ovcr-oatlng and under-c irclsc. To cul tivate a religious state of mind eory day to thinking of the Invlil'Jls realms nr.d tho hOBts of spiritual beings who ilw.ll there, and who are ever ready to help to overcome out weakns4s and strengthen our best finalities if we ikK thftni. All these things will old to gnwini In charm, and will cl.roct, her m'nd from petty nnd humiliating jealousies. For to be attractive nnd cntertuln'.ng to all men prevents a woman from being Jealous of one, without cutis at least. With cause the womun who It not cap ablo of Jealousy Is not canal! of love. Jealousy In some natures is a disease Inherited from a mother suffering neg lect during the prenatal period of her child. In one such case the father was- unfaithful to his wife; and she bocame convinced of the fact and hid the bitter ness of her sorrow from the eyes of her relatives and near friends until the birth of the child. Then a separation took place. The child, a girl, Indicated even In her Infancy, the violent Jealousy of her nature. Sho alternated between rage and despair when any other child, espe cially a child of her own sex, received attention from her mother or from any one In whom she was interested. And now, as a young girl, Just budding Into womanhood, she Is the victim of this malady, which will destroy her "whole future unless curbed and corrected by wlee, counsellors. It Is a curious fact that wo have "specialists" for every physical malady of the human being. We havo nerve specialists and specialists for mental dls orders; but the disease of Jealousy which is the most painful and dangerous of nil has received no attention from science. Tet it could be cured were a school of specialists to make It a study. But even parents allow the malady to grow, un checked, until it develops Into a disease which wrecks a home. Let us have a school of Jeatousy spe cialists established by science. The ago demands it. Jealousy Is the ogre standing at many a threshold and barring out happiness. Unless Jealousy Is driven from the home, not only marriage, but life Itself be comes a failure. A little practical application of common sense, and a little dolly use of reason and good wilt and Judgement will accom plish this most desirable eviction of the Intruder In many not all cases. It in natural and right and wise for both husband and wife to have their separate Interests, pleasures and friends. It keeps life richer and wards oft the possible approach of monotony and ennui. The husband's club, the wife's club, the college associations of either or both, should only act as appetisers for the later employment of the pleasures found at tha domestic hearth. When either wife or husband feels a Jealousy of the other's separate pleasures It Is usually the result of the lack of thought. The wise, considerate and tactful bus band will prevent such a state of mind by taking his wife Into his confidence and close sympathy regarding his busi ness or college associations, He will tell her about them, talk to htr of the dlf fcrent members, and Introduce to her such of them as he feels would be agree able and congenial acquaintances. Chic nnd Strictly Up-to-the-Mlnute. Too Many Dutiful Wives Spoil Their Husbands Pleasures That "Wear Well By DOROTHY D1X "You can't," said tho Woman Philoso pher, as she stirred hor ten, "do your duty by your husband or your servants without ruining them. 'Now I never Hy BEATRICE FAIRFAX. Make happiness the direct object of pursuit and she will lead you a wild goose chase. Follow some other object to a goal of ambition and achievement and In your work you probably will find that you have caught happiness without dream ing of 1U Happiness does not llo In a butterfly chase of some dassllng leauty. It Is not the elusive pot of gold at the end of a rainbow. But If you go about looking for Joy you will find her always winging away Just where you cannot reach. We must cultivate our garden," says the old French proverb. And to be happy we must cultivate the garden of our lives. You must not plant your "garden" with delicate wind- flowers that fall at a touch of bad weather. You must sow It with hardy perennials and shady hedges and fragrant, deep-rooted shrubs and honey hearted roses. You must keep out weeds and thorns. Just as you would tend a real garden you must tend the garden of your lite, You must fill your life with "durable sat isfactions if you mean to have It serene and happy and worth while. The pleasures that wear well are not feverish enjoyments or the chase or ex citement, variety and gayety. The "durable satisfactions" of life are those that will stay with you and make life richer and fuller tomorrow because you knew a worth-while pleasure today In books, In music, in all that la a study of real beauty or a cultivation of your mind you will find a lasting pleas ure. In friendship and unselfish affection In lasting Joy. In Improving yourself and making your garden grow In sweet, fra grant memories; In keeping abreast of the times and serving well wherever you are put will find happiness that will out wear all the excitements of a moment of dance and song and merriment He merry but see that your msrrlment slights no one else. Give Joy and you will find your own store ot it Increasing. You never need be sod or lonely, for the world offers you a chance for lasting Joy In cultivating the garden of your own life and In slipping cuts and sprigs of happiness to bring to your neighbors' gardens. Household Hints A little vinegar placed In the rinsing water on washing day will prevent the hands from becoming rough and chapped. For grit In the eye apply a drop or two of castor oil; It relieves the Irritation. If the edges of a saucepan are well buttered the contents will not boll over. havo a good serv ant more than six months at a time, berauae I am a hu manitarian, and strong for the brotherhood, and aim the sisterhood, of mankind, and by the tlmo I have practiced my beau tiful and altrulstlo theories that long upon a maid she is so spoiled that she Is no account, and I havo to let her go and get an other. "'For Instance, having a head and a back that are given to aching, I run al ways looking out for the dull and heavy eyes and sagging shoulders In my maids that Indicate that they also have heads and backs. "Bo I will say. 'Mary, you don't look well today, so take things easy. Don't sweep under tho beds. Don't scrub out the bathtub. Just wipe It up. Give a lick and a promise dusting.' "But does Mary appreciate this? Is she so filled with gratitude for a considerate mlstresa that on the day she does fuel well she polishes up things until they shins like the handle ot the great front door In the 'Pinafore?' Not at all. Mary considers that my letting her off easily on the cleaning up when she Is sick gives her carte blanche to slight tho work ull the time, and she's ruined for a house maid until Dome martinet of a house keeper takes her In hand and knocks my spoiling out of her "And It's the same way about holidays. I realize how monotonous domestic scrv Ice Is, and so I give my maid about three times as many days off as other people do theirs. "But the way they repay this klndnens Is by staying out later and later on their days off until finally they don't come back until midnight, and after I've had to cook o dinner or two I find myself In the employment agency bunting another servant to spoil. Its the hardest and most difficult mistresses and the ones who treat their servants most as If they were mere machines who get the best servants, which Is discouraging to those of us who would like to be llttlo slaters to the poor. "And precisely the same thing applies to husband. The only way to niako a man treat you properly Is to treat him as badly as you can. Men never ap preciate what women do for them, they only appreciate what they do for women, and the more that a woman does for a woman the more value she has In his eyes. Which la a masculine peculiarity that we women never grasp, becauao we are built on opposite plana and specifica tions, "For example, take tho matter of a woman working to help her hunband, If he Is poor that seems to be her duty, but does It pay? Oh, dear no. Far from It There's not one self-made man In a hundred that doesn't get gay when he gets rich, and paes up the toll-worn wife, who has grown old before her time help ing him make his fortune, for some young and pretty creature who wouldn't turn hor hand over to do anything for him ex cept help him Bpcnd his money. "I've never seen a woman who worked hard to help her husband grt even m much os a 'thank you' for It, and so my ndvlce to any woman who feels an Im pulse to put hor shoulder to the wheel Is to restrain herself, because she'll wear ' herself out for nothing. 'Now. when I marrlod, my huibaml was a poor young fellow, and I was aw fully In love with htm and wanted to help him, and be the Ideal wife, and so I started right in to be a model ot Industry thrift. I did all my housework, and In stead ot being down on his knees In gratltudo to mo my husband seemed to think that I had a curious passion for di verting myself with the cook stove and the woahtub. When we goi able to hve servants It was years before I could con vince him that I didn't do the work of two hired women for fun. And because I had dene without geod clothes and pretty things I had firmly established In Ills mind the Idea that I could drcas on nothing a year. I'd spoiled him, you sec, and to this day he has conniption fits over the price of n de cent hat or gown. In those days, too. when we were poor and I felt that he had alt the bur den that ho could stand I made no de mands upon hlra that I could help. He Advice to the Lovelorn By BEATRICE FAIRFAX. worked hard nnd I potted him and cos eotted him, and put him to bed at night so that ho might feel frcah for the next day's atruggle. I never asked him to take me to the theater, or out to a res' taurant, or to go to parties with .me. and ticcaiiso money was scarce I nover Intim ated that I would llko .to havo llttlo treats to go on I rips, or to have him bring mo flowors and candy,, such ns other men bring their wives, or even to give mo presents on anniversaries. "You might think that now, In the faf ears, ho would try to make up for those lean ones, but he doesn't It never enters his head to show me tho attention that other woinon have exacted of their hus bands, and get. Nor does ho ever makn mo a present He was spoiled by my un selfishness; "I have an ainlablo and quiet disposi tion. I never make scenes or lose my temper, or answer back, and that hnn spoiled my husband alao, because he feels that hp can safely Indulge his own temper and roy what ho likes to me, as he would not dare to do to a woman who would tight back. "If I had my llfo to llvo over again I would take tho best of everything for myself, I would force my husband to consider me, and when things went wrong Instead of trying to smooth them over, I would lay on tho floor and kick and shriek. I'd be the spoiled ono Instead of the spoiler, and my husband would have ten times the affection and respect he has for me, and treat me a hundred times better, for as I raid In the begin ning, you couldn't treat your husband right without ruining him, If I was starting out In matrimony again, with my own experience aa a. warning, my Ideal would would not be to be the best wife In the community, but to make my husband the best husband." Talk to Your Father. Dear Miss Fairfax: J am an only daugh ter of 18. My father Is very strict with me. I can hardly get out of hla sight without his accusing me of meeting young men. I havaTbeen going to high school, but I stopped becauso If I was ten minutes late coming home he would vow I had been talking to the boys. He won't let me go to work In an office be cause I would see too many young men, I llko a young man of It years of age. Ho likes me. too, ana wants to Keep com pany with me. Although I haven't men tioned -the aubject to my father. I know he would not ronaent What would you do If you were In my place? I would lovo to krep company with this young man. I don't want to get married, tor 1 am too young to love yet. DOlUS M. Talk this matter over very seriously with your father . Remind him that It Is natural for you to want the companion ship of boys as well as girls, but that you want him to meet and approve all your friends and to realize that you will not make any frlenda who are not worthy of coming Into your own home. Tell him you will alwaya be honest with him, and that now, in fairness to you, you beg ot him to meet a young man whoie friendship you would like to have. Bring all your tact to bear on the mat ter and see If you cannot persuade your father to remember his own youthful In terest In nice girls as well as boys. It la lllirut. CHICAGO. 111. Hear Miss Fairfax; Do you think It la wrong for a Gentile to marry a Jew when tliey have been the beat of frlenda for two yeara, and have proved that they are true to each other? A FRIEND. I think it is right SUPERFLU0USHA1R Lot Me Prove Thai I Can Rid You of i Quickly, Easily, Without Pain or Injury Free Coupoa Below Brians Yoo My Help -i-Tom awp oeip&ir to Jarful aatUtae.loa iu tti change In tax feeling whin I found an uir method to cure- detrtailngly bad growth ot Superfluous Heir. alter nur tallun-e and rrtt4 4Ut polotmenu. 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