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"Stolen Away!
By Nell Brinkley
Cop) right. 1DH. tntern'l News Bervlce.
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As They Did It Long Ago, and as They Will
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THE BEE: OMAHA, SATURDAY, JUNE 20, 1914.
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Long ago whon knights rodo with a -flower In their teeth and a
lady's colored scarf wound round their helms, looking for trouble, and
finding It in every wood and cove eloping was a thing pf two on a
great grey stallion's back thundering hoofs sounding up tho perilous
road to tho wall of tho mountains clanking armour and a wake ot
dust flying brocado and hair and behind, down in the Inner sholl
of a caatlo islandod away from tho rest of the green country on a gaunt
The Art
By DOROTHY DIX.
A writer In a contemporaneous maga
zine, In discoursing upon the art of suc
cessful dinner giving, asked.
"Why should not preparations on tho
part ot a hostess In
clude serious thought y rfcrawsm
n, tn VL'hnt turn thft I .iBStfSssV
conversation shall
take, Just as much
as It Includes serious
thought as to the
dishes to be served?''
Because, gentle and
artless author, spon
taneity Is tho soul of
conversation, where
as painstaking fore
thought Is the basis
of good cooking. The
happiest epigram is
the one that Is
dashed off on the
spur of the moment,
but the best dlih Is
the one that has
been hours In the cooking. The rehashed
story Is flat, stale and unprofitable, but
the rechauffe of yesterday's roast is fre
quently better In Its second estate than
It was In Its first.
All of us like to go to a carefully
planned dinner, but there's no human
being left with enough of the martyr
spirit In him to offer himself up as n
victim to carefully planned conversation
not If he knew It in time to be taken
suddenly til. The very Idea ot taking
part in a gabfest that has been previously
mapped out by the hostess Is enough to
strike terror to the heart of the boldest
monologtst
The suggestion that a lot of people
who have been assembled together should
be forced to discuss some subject that
has been decided upon by the woman
who Is feeding them, lacks something of
hospitality. She Is making them pay for
their eats, and tho most of them would
rather pay Fifth avenue cafe prices than
do It, for It Is a strange thing how bored
most of us are by the topics that are of
burning Interest to our neighbors.
Above everything else we desire to
select our own topics ot conversation.
and tell our own stories, and make our
own Jokes, and woe be to the misguided
lady who thinks to the contrary, and
who believes that she can evoke spark
ling repartee by hurling her own toplss
on the table.
Conversation to be Interesting hss to
be like the dictionary, where one word
leads on to another, where one good
story suggests another good story, and
one witty sally brings forth an answer
ing sally. The minute talk becomes cut
In Olden Days.
of Upholding a Conversation
and dried, the last savor has gone
from It.
The only way a hostess can help out
the conversation la by being an expert
showman, and having enough tact and
skill to bring out the beat that Is In her
guests, and to do It so discreetly that no
one can see that she Is pulling the strings
that make them dance.
It Is up to her to say something that
will start A. off on his best story; to
make an allusion that will cause It to
seem perfectly natural for B. to relato
some amazing adventure that he has had,
and to start something that will make hs
opening for C. to put his wit through Its
paces. And above all, she roust be a
gifted listener, one who apparently hangs
breathless on the words of the speaker.
The real secret of good talk Is havintf
a good listener, and It's because goofl
llateners are so rare that there are so
few good conversationalists. No one can
turn out a real, first-class, workmanllko
Job of conversation when he is speaking
to a lot of Inattentive people who mlsa
the point of a story, and fumble a
Joke.
As for the ordinary Individual prepar
Do
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX. , A man who signs hlmsolf "Heart
"Should a gentleman steal a kiss f rom I broken" soys the girl he loves calls at
a young lady?" writes a man who wonts' his office every evening and kisses him
some authority for yielding to tempta
tion. A. E. C. writes that she Is in, and a
young man asked her to give him a kiss
and she refused.
A girl of 18 says a young man who
takes her out occasionally always wants
to kiss her; she refuses because she
knows he kisses other girls, and her re
fusal makes him so mad he neglects her.
Another girl In her early teens says
she Is not engaged, but that she and a
boy havo pledged each other their
eternal love. Her problem Is: Shall she
show her love by hugs and kisses?
D. 8. Is In love with a girl of 17, but
has never kissed her. Recently when he
was calling on her, she let her sister's
sweetheart kits her good night. "Do you
think," he asks In a burst of Jealousy,
"that that was proper, even If the Is an
Australian?"
A girl of 34 belo'nga to a club of which
both sexes are members. She, alone, re
fuses to b kissed, and the other girls
tell her she will never have a beau un
less she submits. That when tlrls let
boys kiss them by force It Is not tm
pro pes
"pinnacle of rock, folk) waving and
and clanging shields and chain-mail
of saddles on tho backs of side-stopping horses, tho rolling of tho draw
bridge chains and the cry, "Lot down tho portcullis! and aftor them!"
Soon now since mon are taking to the clouds with goggles over
thoir advonture-seoklrig eyes, no colored scarf around their leather
helms, but tho color of their ladles oyes in their hearts perhaps--olop-ing
will be a thing of two in tho shell of an air-craft both in leather
ing himself, or herself, beforehand with
a set llns of talk to hand out to those
be meets, It Is a crime that should be
punished by law under tho cruelty to
dumb animals statute. Alt ot us know
people who are guilty of this heinous
offenso against the peace and happiness
ot the community.
I knew a woman once who had studied
up In the encyclopaedias on tho subject
of "Ancient Persian Poetry." The minute
she'd get In any company she would
begin by asking you If you liked poetry,
and when you replied that you did, or
you didn't. It gave her her cuo to launch
forth in an exhaustive and exhausting
oration on "Ancient Persian Poetry."
Presumably she thought she entertained
people and impressed them with her
erudition, but what really happened was
that everybody would say, "For heaven's
sake, when Jenny starts off on Ancient
Persian poetry, don't Interrupt her. Let
her get It off her chest, and then
we can talk about slit skirts, or what
ever we arc Interested In."
Finally, however, Jenny became such
a transcendent bore that she was left at
home with her Ancient Persian poets for'
You Kiss Him?
against his will, and the next day all his
fellow clerks "kid" him. lie wants to
know how to make her quit It-
"Perplexed" Is In love and engaged,
ond the girl reciprocates according to her
own Ideas, which Is harmony In thought,"
but sho refuses to be kissed, claiming1
that the kiss is not love, but foolishness.
"Can you Imagine," ho asks, "lovo with
cut kissing?"
"I have several times kissed her hand."
walls a young lover, "but she refuses to
let me kiss her sweet lips, though I
offered her a set of furs for the privilege.
When I take her home, we go along a
At the Shore,
"Atlantic City grows more and more
overcrowded. Even the sea breeze seems
to havo a stuffy smell there now."
The speaker was Dr. Henry J. Adeler,
the Denver pioneer of eca-and-aun ther
apy. He resumed;
'Two ladles sat on an Atlantic City
piazza. The first said:
' 'The beach Is all covered with shells.'
"'Oh, how lovely' said the second lady.
" 'lively?' returned the first 'Why. I
think It's horrid to let the excursionists
throw their peanut rubbish all over the
place like that.' "-Philadelphia Press.
shouting, the ring of running foot
being dragged about, tho slapping
I
sole company. And there are plenty of
others like her. Who does not know
men and women who lug around somo
ponderous witticism that they have made,
and that Is llko a set piece of fireworks,
that they explode In every compapyT
They have thought up their epigrams In
cold blood, and they torture the oon
veraatlon until thy drag it around so
that It gives them some sort of an opsn
Ing. And oh! how we loathe those peoplo
who are humorous with malice afore
thought! The truth Is that conversation la like
champagne. It It has any fizz and ex
hilaration to it, it lias to be opened up
on the spot Tou can't get your alk
ready ahead of time and have any vivac
ity and punch In t any more satlsfac-
torlly than you could decant the chain-
pagne the day before.
The chestnut trea Is, aim, only loo
common a table decoration at most 1ln
nsrs, anyway. If, In addition, hostesses
take to serving canned conversation that
has been carefully prepared ahead of
time, we shall all begin dining at qtilck
lunCh "Joints, where It Is not etiquette to
speak while' you are gobbling your food.
secluded street. Would It be right for
me to kiss her by force?"
A kiss either Is a blunder a sacra
ment, pr a crime, nnd when those of
mnturo years err in distinguishing on
from the other It Is little wonder that
ltot-licaded youth makes a mistake, it
Is a blunder when a girl, on the Imrhjlse
of the moment, permits a man to Kiss
her, and regrets afterward that It ever
happened. It Is a sacrament when It
seals a betrothal, and Is given In purest
love, and with a sincerity of purpose.
It Is a crime when given flippantly, per
sistently and Indiscriminately.
A token of pure love and trust and
faith when given In the right spirit and
understanding becomes a mark of moral
laxity when given as carelessly as a smile
or a handshake, and of no value or favor
when bartered In return for such mascu
lino attentions as a box nf candy, a set
of furs, an escort home, or an evening
at the theater.
No man can Imagine love without kiss
ing; every one knows kissing without
love. And overy man knows that the kiss
given lightly is the kiss that degrades
and ehespens the girl who plves It.
And that Is something every girl should
know' for her own happiness and pro
tection. It answers all questions.
As It Will Bo.
and gogglos tho stormy roar of the propeller shattering tho great silent
bubble of the sky tho soft hum of tho breeze in the stool cords llko
remote wind in a plno-wood the wholo trackless waste of the sky to
cscnpo through and behind, down on the terrace of an Itallan-style
country home, a frantically flourishing figure strangoly silent like a
man in a "movie': but woro you down thoro with him you could hear
him cry, "Get out the car, Jim and drive like sin to the nearest
hangar!
Home Making
Copyright. 1914, by the Btar Company.
By ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.
A woman whose perfection of fashion
able attire might have served as a model
for the "Dally Hint from Paris," asked
acquaintances she had made at a friend's
house to call. When
these acquaintances
called they were
surprised to find a
poorly furnished
home, whole every
corner cried of dls
order. Littered
tables; books awry,
and tattered maga
zines on shelves.
Rugs with curling
corners; dust nnd
desolation every
where. No spirit of home
to be felt or seen
anywhere.
Another woman.
whose devotion to
her church was so great that she could
scarcely converse five minutes on any
other subject than her own particular
brand of orthodox religion, and whose
labors In the interests of foreign mis
sions made her a dolleht to that ornan
Ization lived In a house which might
have been Pandora's Box; for confusion
and disorder filled It from cellar to attic.
There were no soft draperies at Its
windows; no feminine touches on tables
or dressers; ngi easy loungfH or chairs;
pnd not one object which pleased tho ejo
6r appealed to the mind or heerl.
teni upon the desert would have
seemed more homelike than this house.
A yo'np woman whose occupation was
srt work, and hor specialty "Interior
decoration, lived In a. home of ugllneas
and disorder, v
All these women believed themselves to
be good women; they would have re -
sented an accusation of immorality.
Yet thsre Is an eternal of Immorality
in disorder.
Order was heaven's first Jaw, we are
tol(1 ,
The Great Creator of our solar systems
must ha,e observed this law with great
exactness, or chaos would reign now.
There can be no real satisfaction In the
assoeatlcn with a woman who Is ills
orderly In her habits and In her home.
No matter If she be a paragon of
I sssssssssssssssssssssM fsmn
virtues, and a marvel of talent, and antha done. Qrder - heaven's first law
angei oi uieiumcss in ner impulses, sue
NELL. BRINKLEY.
Too Many Women Swathe Their Bodies
in Fine, Dainty Rainment, but Leave
Their Bodies in Wild, Squalid Disorder
Is not a thoroughly good woman If her
homo lacks order, cleanliness and com
fort. There Is an element of the crude
savage In a woman who decorates her
person with fashionable and expensive
attire, and who neglects her home. She
Is abut a few degrees removed from the
squaw who emerges from a squalid tent,
nttlrcd in a red blanket, and decked with
bright beads and much patnt. Or th
Bedouin woman, who lives In a cave cut
, In the side of some old decaying wall, or
wno roams rrom tent to tent, driven
forth by vermin, but always swathing
herself in artistic folds of drapery, and
hanging savagely beautiful chains of
strange Jewels on throat and arms.
Unless the home-making Instinct has
I developed In a woman, unless she strives
io man ner noons ciean, neat and at
tractive to the eyd, she Is undeveloped
and uncultured, even though ah be a
Krnduato ot a dozen colleges and an
, oracle of wisdom.
The real homc-maklnr Instinct i h
! most needed quality In the feminine
voi Id today, and It is rarely met with.
There are countless homes which ex
hibit the upholsterer's taste and indicate,
a lavish expenditure of money.
A man recently was describing a horns
which had been prepared for a bride
whose husband possessed large mesns.
"Thero was not one suggestion of a
homo In the house," he said. "It was all
like a cafe or hotel tn Paris or Nw
York "
Orent fortunes are not needed to make
h home.
Much love, some taste, and a little
money will produce a home which Is a
inlnlatuie j'aradlse
The woman who cares enough sbout
her nbode to give It thought can find a
hundred helnful hints in m. ri
monthly and wnekiv r-irii,..i i .i
, land, and with a few slrnDle. lnxnn.K-.
materials, a. few plants, a cautious ap
proach toward color schemes, unit much
! care In order and cleanliness, and a
I prayer always in hor heart that she may
j found a home which Is an expression of
love and peace and comfort for Its oc-
, cupanta the cannot fall.
! 0nCft n "fcniun has established such a
homo she hss found the irt.tr. t or..,.
i ... ---- . .
njcn iib ever neen openen to woman
or efr,wlll be. She has made a success
of her'llfe ,
The disorderly and untidy and uncom
fortable home bespeaks a woman who Is
a failure in llfo no matter what She may
and woman s first duty
Madame, Ise'lell
3cauiy Lesson
LESSON X PAIIT IV.
DreotblnR U Relation to Health
and Ilenntr.
All breathing exercises will havo an
excellent effect on tho development of
tho throat. If the shoulders arc held well
back and the chin up. Most lines In the
neck come from either wearing high,
stiff collars or an Improper habit ot
holding the head, or both. A stiff, high
collar by weakening the muscles Is re
sponsible fot a double chin, and by push
ing up the flesh will often make a little
area of wrinkled flesh back ot the ears.
Tho breathing exercises given In this les
son will holp this trouble and the effect
will bo more rapid If, while the pupil Is
doing them, the throat, the skin behind
tho ears, and any hollows In tho ntck ore
oovercd with a good massage cream.
The exercises by Increasing tho circu
lation and making the skin poreo more
active, put the skin In a condition to
quickly absorb the nutrition In tho mas
sage cream.
When the exercises are finished wlps
oft any surplus cream with a soft cloth
and follow by bathing tho skin with very
cold water.
A woman Is often mortified by discov
ering that sha cannot maka a short spurt,
like running for a train, without sotting
out of breath. This condition wilt always
result from Incomplete breathing, that is,
tho habit of only partly filling tho lungs.
When Increased exercise calls for mora
work from the lungs they aro not able to
respond without discomfort. Anothof
cause ot short breathing Is tho accumu
lation of too much fat around tb
diaphragm. The breathing exercises
will help both ot thea conditions, and
later on, I shall give somo exercises for
waist reduclngi However. I wish my
pupils to "get the hahlt" ot correct
breathing before they commence physical
culture. Deep breathing overy morning
will coon so accustom the lungs to com
plete Inhalation ot air that they will bo
satisfied with nothing else, and deep
breathing will become a habit.
(Lesson X to bo continued.)
Advice to the Lovelorn
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.
First Love,
Dear Mis Fairfax: ...
I ant II years old. aooui rour ysan
ago I was keeping company with a young
man and I loved him very mucn. Througn
certain objections that my mother had
to him I had to give him up, and about
two yeara later na roamcu oiiunmr sm.
Now another young man who makes a
nice salary has asked mo to marry him.
When ho proposed to me I told him to
wait a couple of days for his answer.
Do you think It Is right for mo to marry
Mils lliuu, iifviun . uiiun - .V;.V...
love again? ANXIOUS.
rinn't wast vnur life and lovo on re
membering a man who Is married to
another woman. Girls have a foolish way
of idealizing their first loves. Everything
in nature flowers agaln-why not yo'4r
heart? Don't hurry yourself Into a love
)nm marriage for the man for whom you
can truly care will corns Into your Uto
some day.
Keep Tbla Promise.
Dear Miss Fairfax; I am a locomotive
flrsman and extra engineer, Zi years old.
and have nn angel ot a sister, IT years
old, totally dependent on mo tor support:
also have a sweetheart. 2 years old. I
havo never used tobacco or liquor, and
never gambled till a few days ago. At
tho other ond of the road the boys play
fully accused me of being afraid to loss
a dme. 1 shpt craps for about an hour
to shut them up, but I clenned up about
HO. I took their money and bought each
of the girls a hat, then told thsm
how t got tho money. They both threw
the hats at my feet. Sister has cried
ever since. My sweetheart says sho Is
afraid she was mistaken In mn. and has
given me back the engagement rlpj.
Will you please tell me what to dot I'll
never gamble again. TREED."
Ask the girls not to lose faith In you
because of your one blunder. Tell thsm
that you havo had your lesson and will
never offend again. Jlach. ot them Is
only waiting for you to heal the breach
hat In their first disappointment In thsy
themselves caused.
Don't Plar KIsnIiik Game.
Dear Miss Fairfax: I am a girl It
years of age, and would very much ap
preciate your answering this question;
About a week ago I attended a part)'
given by a girl friend of mine. "Klsolng
games" were tho only amusements In
dulged In. The girls at the party wsre
very angry with tne and said I was not
sociable or congenial because I did not
Play the game (as I was tho only one
that did not), while at the same time one
of the boys told ine after tne party was
over that I did oxaetly right Do you
I canto I refused to allow my etlt-respeet
get away rrom me? do you tninK mat
all the boys thought more of mo tor not
playing? PERPLEXBD.
I trnk yoil are quite right not to forget
! your self-respect and Indulge In such an
unworthy psstimo as "kissing games."
Do not allow yourself to b Influenced
'against your belter Judgment by what
' any silly girl sayo about "sociability "
jMen always admire and respect a girl
i who respects herself.
Yon Mast Reform.
Dear Miss Fairfax;
1 am a young man ot 30. and deeply
In love with a girl three years younger
than myself; some tlmo ago she lift mo
because I had not worked for a long
while, and because of ruy using alcoholic
llouors.
please tell me how I can win her
back as my friend, and oblige,
J. A. It
The only way to regain this girl' a
friendship Is to bo worthy ot It. Tou
must be sufficiently ambitious to go to
work at once and you must glvs up tho
use of alcohol. Don't you realize, my
hoy, that you aro throwing your Uto
away?