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About Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922 | View Entire Issue (April 10, 1914)
THE BEE: OMAHA, FRIDAY, APRIL in im i 1 rf .J Lottery of Love love means In- By DOKOTHY DI.V. A correspondent nsks these questions. "Why should a man or a woman go over all the reasons why he or she. should not love somo one, and ill the o 1 u a 1 1 y forcible other one would be best and wisest for him or her to marry, and while ho. or sho knows that he or sho loves, and wants the undesirable party? in short. why should men and women Jn love be like one who hps a coin 10 de cide a question, and when It, comes down heads abides by the tall .decision any how? Is this subtle thing we reasons why somo can intuition, or tho sixth Strife, a better guide In man our coarse, and by no fallible, reason?"' A general blanket reply to these queries la that men and women love by Instinct, and not by rule. There Is a mj-Etorloua attraction of tho Individual, Just as there Is an attraction between the sexes, that iTiobody can explain. B The wisest and most learned scientists annot tell us why a man picks somo one particular woman out of all tho other women to be his mate, nor why a woman Bets up and follows some one man to tho ends of the world. Nor do the njan and woman know, themselves. The wife and husband a man and' woman have chosen may be inferior In every way to hundreds of other' men ahd women with whom they arc associated dally. The world may wonder at their selection, but to the man and the woman there were world. It la part of tho tragedy of love that tne neaa ana heart do not always ap prove of the same person. nnfl that the ono who fires our fancy f eldom comes up to our Ideal. Thus a man before he U hard hit by Cupid's dart, will tell you that the wo;nan he marries must be Intelligent, . Indus trious, thrifty, domestic, not given up to fashion or folly, and ho will hold up his hands In horror over -the -very Idea of a man choosing for a life's mate a. giddy little thins who. Is as pretty and as Use less as. a .painted butterfly, , , . Nevertheless hero comr's along the little butterfly and the next thing we' know, the sensible man Is breaking his neck dinning after her. Or It may be a woman who. Is. poor, and who hates poverty with ail the ferocious bitterness that a pretty woman fefils. All her life1 the slrl has loathed her squalid surroundings apt) ' the sordid makeshifts that she has'Ka'd, 'fa cdnlrlye. All her life she has longed for luxurious surroundings, for pretty c'lothe's" atid ela and all that would make a. proper frame for her beauty. The sight jot her parents' struggle and her little sisters' and brothers' necessities has wrung her heart, and she has grown up with the fixed resolve to marry money If the op portunity ever comes her way. Finally U does. A rich man, who Is good and kind and generous and steady, on.! who could bo guaranteed not only to glvo her alt that she wants, but to bp n model husband besides, asks her to marry him. She should by the laws of rtnson bless all of her gods for her lurk ana fan up his neck with devotion: lm. alas, her errant heart has gone Its own ay ana bestowed Itself upon somo youth wunoui a penny to bless himself with, unu wno is wild and wayward and noth. Ing that her sober Judgment commends. To marry him will plunge hor deeper Into mo siougn or poverty than over, and yet he Is yie one that her very soul cries out lor. Nobody can explain these things, and nocouy can suggest a remedy, for when the head and the heart espouse different sides In matrimony there Is happiness In following the lead of neither. Tho marriage of reason where a man marrlc.n A woman because she Is suitable, or a woman marries a man because ho can give her a fine establishment, Is a cold-blooded affair that has no moro thrills In It than a Jelly-fish, and that palls on one's appetite like a dinner pf health food. A woman may have all the virtues under the sun, but unless .there Is something In her that quickens a man's blood and makes his throat get 'a little tight when ho thinks about her she will beconio tlw weariness of death to him. A ipan may be a very paragon, of perfection, but .unless ever time sho looks at him a woman sees him through a rosy mist of romance the bondage of her wife hood to him beaomcs Iron .fetters on her that clank In her ears' as -she moves. Nor Is there any way to change this, If men and women were not In love with each other before marriage they do ,not fall in love with each other after marriage.' for matrimony Is not. a pro moter of romantic sentiments. H Is tho fell . destroyer of illusions, when both husband' and wife Inevitably sec each other in their worst lights. There aro bound to be conflicts of opinion, clashes ' of temperament, days of taut nerves and irritability, all the sorry parade of little weaknesses, and vanities, and selfishness that disfigure poor humanity, and nothing else on earth but that Inexplicable and Indescribable something that we call love, and that makes one person's faults dearer to us than anybody else's virtues, ono person beautiful, tp us, no matter how disfigured, that can make the touch of feyer-parched. llp.i sweeter to us than all 'tho kisses Of flower-scented rosebud mouths, can off set all io disenchantment of matrimony. Yet, on the other hand, If one follown tho heart arid disregards the heart, there Is only too often a bitter awakening e.fter jthe first rap turn pf love. lifts spent itself, .for unfortunately life- Is a very practical' affair and romance and .sejitjment are not "legal tender with the butcher and baker pnd candlestickmaker. ' " " j And as Sir. James would "say, "There you 'aro!'' Happy the few whose Juds inents approve their .own choice. . Two Spring Styles and How to Make Them :: By Olivette if- Public School System Conditions Duo to Hlrth Rate Neither Teachers Nor Pupils Have jjii cnance to suow-iniuvMimiiiy hoonsn to Try tQ ,MKe jN People Attend Church In no other dnlly newspaper will you find J up-to-tlato fashions llko these. In Addition, each stylo of gown, lint or blouso that nppenrs hero from i time to time is nl ways fully 'described by Olivette, With this expert instruction, and the elenr, shnrp pictures to help you, it is easy for nny woman who makes her own clothes to be dressed In advanced stylo, are turned into a high pinna clo from either side of tho crown of tho head. For the crown of tho hat several lay. ers of tullo aro massed to gether into a high circle. A draping of net crosses the round on tho right sido, and whorethis touches tho littlo halo brim of straw it is joined by a wreath of white dahlias which cross over to the left sido, a vivid mass of white and green amid tho browns of straw and not. When tho little Watteau Shepherdess" hat, shown at the bottom, is set at just tho right angle over just the right face, it has an effect of smartness and coquetry that is unlimited in its charm. By BEVV C. H. PARKHURST. Much Is published by way of criticism upon our schools and school methods, and there are doubtless many respects In which Improvement Is possible, but It ought always to be remembered that bo long- as children multiply at the- pres ent rate ot Increase we shall, 'be obliged to Be satisfied 'with an educational sys tem 'that falls very far short o"f the Ideal. In the first place, whllo sheep can be driven In droves, children cannot be educated In droves, and that is the only way In which the p u bl lV school can educate- them-as long' as there are so many of them, In the early New England days a good many of us never wept to school tll we were 12 or Id years old. Our parents, though not college bred, were Intelligent, and thought so much of their children that they Introduced a system of home education by which, each child was per sonally and Individually held and molded by the tuition of "father, or' mother, or culture Is lower now than It was then, and In addition to that even those parents that are Intelligent enough to do for their offspring what our parents, did for theirs are many or therti as anxious tp hustle their children off Into the care of FRECKLE-FACE Snn and Wind Bring; Out Ugly.- Spots, Kow to Remove Xaslly, try a remedy for freckles With the guar antee of a reliable dealer, that It will not cost you a lenuy, unless It .removes the freckles;Ywhlle If 1 does git"o .you a clear compfexpn -the expense, is .trifling. Slrapfy; cot an oiinco of othlne double strengtfi'-from the Beaton Drug. Co., or any other druggist, and a few applica tion should, show you how easy It Is to rld'youreelf of the homely freckles and et & beautiful complexion. Itarely is more'ythan "vono oUnce needed for . the worst, "case. ' ' '" " ' 4 Bp -sttre to ask the' druggist fqr the doubio strength ojjilno as this is the pre. crlpUoA sola under guarantee of mdney back If It falls -to-remove freckles.-Advertisement, t someone else as our parents were to re tain them In their own. Tho children, therefore, now aro herded n school rooms, educated In batches, like trackers which come out of the oven with the same bake upon them and pricked with the same stamp. Individuality has to go unrespected. Wfcat is special In each pupil cannot be allowed to count. There Is no time for It. the teacher, however well Intending, has no chance for It. The poor things are rolled over the' curriculum us blank paper Is rolled over tho Inked type 'In a printing; shop, every sheet of which tells the same thing. It results very otten In Ignoring what Is best In the pupil and In cultivating In htm only that which Is commonplace. All of this seems Inevitable and must be borne In mind by those who complain that we get so much less out Of our pub lic schools than It seems as though they ought to yield. This condition of things also prevents everything like Initiative on the part of teachers, They are not In the school room to fit pupils for life, but to fit them for the next grade. Their work Is definitely cut out for them. There is left them practically no room for tho play of originality. I worked, myself, for two years In exactly the same kind of an educational treadmill, and I know what it means. It means doing less for the pupil than ought to be done for him, and it .meaps the contraction and tho draining of the teacher, and accounts, perhaps, for the pedagogical look that teachers generally wear when they have been more than about so long In the service. There sepms to be nn way out ot this while conditions remain as they are and the birth rate continues what It Is, Yet sue) facts. If appreciated, will tend to check to some degree the complaint so much is vogue that on, public schools are failing to render the service legiti mately obligatory upon them. Animal In general, Including men and wonjen. have In them a vein of obstinacy and are made less Inclined to do a thing by being urged to It, ThU Is especially true of children and Is not outgrown by becoming adult. This fact suggests whether there Is not a grain of unwisdom In the urgency which just at this time Is being em ployed In Inducing people to attend church. We could wish that .all our churches and synagogues were filled to overflowing every Sabbath; and we take tho liberty of believing that such a con dition would Indicate a better moral status In the community than exists with sanctuaries only half filled. But people will not go till they want to go, and they will not he made to want to go by belns urged and nagged,. but the reverse.. If there Is given to the public for Its Sunday oocupanoy a comfortable place -J And clevor fingers can ma. nipulato flowors and tullo and a bit of straw into a "porky" littlo hat that the smartest of milliners will be unable to improve upon. Theso littlo hats must be Worn at a curious angle, posed aslant and showing tho hair on the loft side, while tho right ear is almost concealed. The littlo model we show you is of tho "Platoau" shape. It is lifted off tho hair by a bandeau of straw with a band of black velvet and a bunch of dcop-hoartod pink rosos. The crown (which is only suggested) is veiled by a flounce of blaok net caught up by a wreath of wliito jas mine. The undorbrim is faced in black volvet, and where tho roses nestle against this there are two black velvet ribbons which fasten softly about the throat. OLIVETTE. This smart little French model hat shows several of the new ideas that give the spring- and summer millinery of 1914 a definite tendency all of its own. This is the top picture. :,I$ats no longer pull down over the hair with a hoodlike tendency that was of most benefit to the scalp doctors. Hair and cars to gether are to be allowed to breathe this spring. A century ago "Belgian split" straw was used for the Empire bonnets. Today, it reappears with its forgotten ness. turned to newness. Two rounds of this straw it Stairways and Gardens By Ella Wheeler Wilcox (Iteproduced. by permlnslon from Harper's Bazar for March. Copyright, 19H, by Harper's Bazar.) Gardens and Stairways; those are words that thrill mu Always with, vague suggestions of delight. Stairways and Gardens. Mystery and grace Seem part of their environment; they fill mo With memories of things veiled from my sight, In some far place. Gardens. Tho word is overcharged with meaning. It speaks of moonlight, and a closing door; Of birds at dawn of sultry afternoons. Gardens. I seem to seo low branches screening A vine-roofed arbor with a leaf-tiled floor, Where sunlight swoons. . ":o: Stairways. Tho word winds upward to a landing; TJicn curves, and vanishes in' space abovo. Lights fall, lights rise,' soft lights that meet and blend. Stairways; and someone at the bottom standing Expectantly, with -lifted looks' ot love, Then steps descend. , Gardens and Stairways. fThey belong with song With subtle scents of myrrh and musk With dawn and dusk with youth, romanco and mystery, And times that were, and times that are to be. Stairways and Gardens. jjjj 1 - - -1 - - From the painting by .'Max field Varrish. to. worship, and if thct public iv hos pitably received, and trovidud for by the ushers iu thar?, cud a liomlle Ileal and muoloal srvi,'i funiielie.1 tuut la reason' ably adapts-! to the rollHlous impulses of people, and If, fuv all of till, not on penny is exacted hi tltfturn-aiul there are not many churches which do not meet fairly well all. these four conditions- then that Is as far as a church can wisely and with propriety go. Breginr for a congregation will not bring a core.- gallon so long an human nature reman. what It It. It cheapens a service to phuid with the publlo to attend. It Is like a abi)keper begging of his customer to buy. The moro he begs the moro the customer will suspect that his trade Is falling off or that he deals In uhcup goods. If a pleasant sanetuary, un appropriate service, with the whole occasion suffused with an atmasphere of Christian hos pitality will not draw people, they wlll not be gotten there by going out Into the highways and hedges and trying to com pel them to come In, Eighty-nine Kinds of Atopis By EDOAU LUOIEN PARKIN. . Q. "Is the vortex1-theory of matter now held by scientific men?" ' .No. The discovery pf basic electrons made the vortex, hypothesis obsolete. And It had not been widely accepted from the start. A fair Idea of the theory that molecules are made of vortices -may be had by watching ascending rings 0 smoke from the exhaust of locomotive smokestacks. As they rise In the air particles of car ion revolve around tho thickness of the rings, which do not break," but expand until they becomo invisible from rarity. Theso were taught by Kelvin to be pos IWo atoms; and the Interlocking of Hngs In different proportions made mole cules. This doctrine was very complex, and this cumbersome property of rings pre vented IU general adoption. Kelvin waa careful to put It forth as a mere working hypothesis, Electronic baso of all matter: ThU met almost universal approval when ' pub lished by. J, J, Thomson In 1890, Atoms consist of electrons In excessively rapid revolution, singly and separately, each In Its own orbit like that of the planets around the Bun; and not related to each other a they would be In a ring. The eighty-nine different kinds of atoms now known to advanced chemists are rnade up '.of different' numbers of revolv ing electrons, moving with set and forever fixed specific speeds for each elementary atom, at different directions for differing kinds ot atoms, and at varying' distances. Thus number, rates, distances and direc tions of electrons determine what par ticular atom shall appear In cosmic space. Here It l again: .Nothing exists but electrons. I have published this dally In some part of the world since 1S0Q. Little Bobbie's , Pa ny WILLIAM F. KIRK. Thnre was a plcter In the newspanei, last nltfl of a yung man & a BMrl wlch had Jest been married. Ma handed the palper to Pa & sed Isent that a perfeckly sweet gurl? How do 1 know? sed Pa. I do not know the yunR lady & I can't tell from her plcter In the palper. Sho may not eeven half as prltty as this plcter looks, & eeven If sho Is prltty I doan't know wether she la vary sweet or not. Of course you have to go rite at It. splitting hairs, sed "Ma. I I showed yo't a plcter of the Queen, of Bheby you wud be libel to say "Who Is tho old henT t think this yung bride has a butlful & sweet face. I hoap wen Bobble grown up ho will marry a gurl that looks lest like her. If I have anything to say. sed Mo, my son shall newer marry a hoamly woman. If 1 have anything to any, ed Pn, Bobble shall marry anybody that he pick out to marry If ho Is old enuff to know anything wen he makes his choice, T2wcr stneo my father kep mo from marrying n gurl I was fond of. Pa.' sed, I havo swoar newer to butt In on my son'n mnrrlagft arfalrs. Indeed, sed Ma, & so yure stem father kep you from marrying a gurl of yure Choice. It Is too bad that he dldrnt let you have yuro way, sed Ma. Then you wud have been happy If the gurl newer knew happiness aggenn. Deerest. sed Pa, I was only joaklng. You know well nuff that yrm were the first A only gurl I ewer loved. 1 jest cod that to see if you was still kind ot lellus of my affeckshun. No. sed Pa, my dear old dad newer sed a word to mo about my choice of a wife, A nether did my deer Moth. Of course I had to go through the old stall or going & asking yuro dad, sed Ta, but I knew ho wud be glad to see you git so flrte a husband, te tho he acted kind ot grouchy I knew that down In his hart he was tickled to deth. I doant want you to think that for iv moment, eeven at this lato dafe, sed Ma. You cud nower have married, me If It wasn't for deer mother. Sho loved me too much to seo mo. unhappy, so she coaxed dad oaver. Ho alwaya wanted me to murry James Jenkins, the rich yung man that owned tho feed mill at hoam. That Joe, sed Pa. Why, he had a grand flnnlsh, dldent ho? He got to be a county treshurer & went South with the county funds, dldent hoT Hut he wud have been a dlffemt man If he had married me, sed Ma. However, that dosent malk nny dlttorns. I married one ot Nature's nobelmen, Ma tied. My new suit ft hnt Is cummlng tommorraw, I suppoaa so, sed Pa. I newer git a boost from you that thnre Isent sum cum back. Dut gtttlng back to the aubjock of picking out a brldo for Bobble, I hoap you will newer do that. If Bobble happens to fall In love with a plain woman, let him marry her. Tharo was a old Greek flllosofer onst that sed, Plain Wlmme,p. Malk the Best Wives. That was prubly beekaus he happened to bo married o a plain woman hlsself, sed Ma. No, sed Pa, It was beekaus he married fx vary butlful woman. He rote that Dethleas sentence about plain wlmmen tnalklng the best wlfes shortly after hla dutiful wife hod run away with sum yung Oroek geezer. I will newer. run away from yoil. my heero, sed Ma. My new suit & hat ars , perfeckly luvly. Advice to the Lovelorn Dy BEATRICE FAIRFAX. Take Care of Your Mother. Dear Miss Fairfax: I am 20, and am keeping company with a girl and expect tn marry her soon. I am earning UOOO a year, and she wants me to marry her and live with her mother and I have an aged mother to support. What shall I do? TROUBLED. Take euro of your mother. That Is your first duty. 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