Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, December 29, 1913, Page 8, Image 8

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Bcing the Adventures of a Golden-Haired Heiress
Fairweather Friends
in i in .I .1 n.
The
Mother-in-law
and the Wife
Answer l n Woman Who
Says Thnt Slio Is L'n
hnppy In Her Son's Home ,
It Is SiikrcMoI Thai Hho
Pnck Her Trunk nml Move
Awny Inuncdlutcly : : :
By Stella Flores
The Gold Witch
Copyright, 1113. International Nwa Smlea.
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By DOHOTIIY MX.
To my mlml the most tragic thing on j
e arth Is the unnecessary troubK- ihal vc
Ioor, foolish mortals make for ourselves. !
It wontd iecm thnt tliero are enough uti -,
nvnldable griefs
death, sickness,
,-Kiverty. I o a s to
tear like vultures
at our hearts
without our coins
cut of the way
t o manufacture
for ourselves ti
million torments
that flay us alive
nut no. V court
sorrow, and out
of conditions of
life that should
be filled with noth
ing but Joy mid
fladnesa wo make
misery and tears
for ourselves and
those nearest to us.
The best Illustration of this mine
countable human weakness Is to be found
In the rclatlons-ln-lau problem, where
pcoplo who should dwell together In
peace and amity seem to tnko u riandlsli 1
delight in quarreling ' and bickering, al-!
though by so doing they ruin their own i
happiness and muko life a hell on earth !
for all about them.
It la literally true that not drink, nor
gambling, nor Immorality, nor any vice
whatsoever, brings a thousandth part of
the misery to humanity an does the In
ability of relatlons-ln-law to he friendly,
or oven treat each other with decent
rolltcncss, for pitiful nnd petty ns n
family quarrel stems somewhere In It
there Is alwnys a broken heart.
lit the course of a year I get thousands
of letters from women on this subject
Sometimes It Is a daughter-in-law who
Is victimised by n selfish and tyrannical
rnd quarrelsome mother-in-law who feels
that she has a perfect right to run her
sou's homo and who Jealously resents her
son's affection for his wife and tho
money ho spends on her.
More often tho letter Is the pitiful wall
of some poor old mother who Is made to
'eel that her daughter-in-law begrudges
her the very bread she eats, or a daugh-tor-ln-law
who sets herself deliberately
to wenn her husband from tho mother
who bore him. Today I havo another
such letter as this. It Is written by u
lovely, cultured, gentle lady, full of tact
and kindliness, who asks for help In solv
ing a problem to which no wisdom has
jet found the key.
This woman has n son to whom she Is
Ovoted and a grandchild that she adores.
She would gladly love her daughter-in-law,
too, but the daughter-in-law re
pulses her at every turn. She Is not even
ilvllly polite to tho mother-in-law, hut
criticizes her nnd sneers nt her. and
maintains toward her an nttltudc f.iot la
a covert insult In Itself.
The man loves his wife, but ho loves
Ms mother also, and he la made so mis
erable by his wife's conduct toward his
mother that It has seriously affected his
health. The mother fear that ho will
die la the atmosphere of such an un
happy home, and she asks what I think
fee had best do.
My advice to her la to pack her trunks
and leave her son's house Immediately,
fortunately, this woman has plenty of
money, but even if a woman had to go
to the poorhouse from her son's house I
should still urge her to go rather than
stay la a home where she was a bone of
strife and tho source of discord.
This may seem a hard saying. Hut
when does motherhood ever flinch from
the cross when, by sacrifice, it can
secure the good of those it has borno In
travail of body and must so often cherish
In travail of spirit?
And It Is the wonder of love that
whtoh we give we keep, Tho woman
who stays In her son's home, making
perpetual friction there for htm, may lose
some et his reverence and affection, but
the mother who sublimely renounces all
jor n nappiness remains forever a
revered saint to his vision. It may seem
hard to her to go away from one aho
loves so dearly, -but In another house
he will be nearer to him than she would
be under the same roof with him, with
a. spiteful daughter-in-law always Inter
posing her watchful suspicions between
them.
Unhappily there Is no panacea for
changing a selfish, narrow. Jealous
daughter-in-law Into a broad and noble
woman who Is capable of appreciating
Boforo her father's will is road tho groat newspapers print pages about the Gold
Witch tho world's greatest hoircss. People who hitherto have greotcd her in
differently sue her for friendship, Beautiful Helen Van Burg, the proudest girl in
society, runs over before sailing for Europe to say good-bye and to vow undying
friendship. Tom alono standB aloof. , -
When tho will is read, all but $500 is left not to the Gold Witch, but to her
guardian. Stunned at this strange outcome, she congratulates herself on at least
having so many friends. But she finds out that tho penniless orphan is quite a dif
ferent person to her wealthy friends. Cut to the heart, she takes refuge in the con
servatory, where she tries to realize that ho is really alone in the world. No, not
quite alone. For Tom, whose pride held him away from the-heiress, hurries to sym
pathize with tho forlorn little maid.
sympathy toward a fellow woman as to
Want to separate her from the child that
she has suf feted for, sacrificed for, and
who Is tho very bono of her bone and.
flesh of her flesh. Vet you see mothers
with son of tholr own treating their
husbands'' mothers as they pray God no
other woman may ever treat them.
The second thing that is strange la
that any woman could be fool enough
to take suoh a risk of alienating her
husband from her ns to be cruel to his
old mother and drive her out of her own
son's house. A man would havo to bo
the lowest dastard on earth not to resent
that with every fibre of his being, and
although he may, for the sake of peace,
let his mother go In silence while sho Is
being mistreated, It is something that he
never forgives hla wife. Sho has lnld
the axe to the root of hla respect and
affection for her.
Remember that, you young wives, when
you make your husband's mother unwel
come In your homes. Ten million beauti
ful sirens could not wean your husband
from you bo quickly, and so effectually,
os your unklmlncss to that poor old gray
I'caded woman going with wet eyes and
an aching heart from her son's door.
Carpenter's South American Letters
The Bee la glad to announce a Berlus
of letters on South America to be written
during 1914 by Mr.1 Krank O. Carpenter.
Mr. Carpenter started on his trip from
New York somo weeks ago, and he Is
now on tho South American continent
where he will be traveling for somo
months to come. f
Ills first investigations will bo on the
Isthmus of I'anamu, where he will
dt-scrlbc the completed canal, or how our
creat dllch looks aa the ships go through.
From Panama, Mr. Carpenter will make
his way down the west coast of tho
continent, going Inland from port to port
and climbing In many places to the tops
of the Andes, lie will travel for several
months upon those cold highlands,
tiivcrslng tho Andean system throughout
Its wholo length and describing tho
strange' features of life and industry
there, lie will also go over the South
American desert. Kvhlch runs for more
than 2.0110 miles along tho west coast, and
will give us some letters about the Strait
nf M .-..1 1 Ik. n.tl.l nr Ibt.Pilhln
ni io ner own mother' !n cna-rn South America. Mr I'ar-
t-cr husband mother Is the woman whom 1, venter will take up the new developments
U Is her duty most to love and cherish, i now Bj,1B ln Argentina and Uruguay,
YOU cannot make a silk purse out of a nml th utrnnue features of life anil work
oWa ear. nor can you convert a stingy, ' n the coffee lands and rubbei lands of
venomous, little woman Into a big and 'Uracil. He will make explorations In
generOUB one. ! p&rnirllav nnil the Pat-linn valtrv nml
Bo the only thing the mother-in-law can will go Into tho Gmn Chaco, between the
do under such sad circumstances is to Paraguay rlvor and Hollvln. cnd'nr his
llmlnate herself. That saves her eon, at travels In some of the countries of north
least, from perpetual nagging from hls.ern South America along the Caribbean
wife, and the sorrow of seeing his mother
uuer numiiiauona and Insults from j This tour will be more than on. of mere
which he Is powerless to protect her. ' travel and doseilptlon. It will ttwtist of
oomeiimes when the friction of dally life Investigations along the line at the news,
together Is removed It is posslblo to ea-' and regarding movements and measures
tabllsh a truce with the daughter-in-law. j which affect tho bus ness and cost of
o that It makes it possible for the son 'living of every United States ol'lzen.
to visit hU mother ln peace and without ; The epenlng of the Pnnnma canal has.
i, i I " row.juui aiwayn landed South Amtrira right at the bentn-
,, f0r tho tno "mnen not 'lpg of Uncle Sams front door yard. It
dwell under the rame roof, and wise has mac It the frontier of the United
are those who never ronke the foolhardy Ptates. the El Dorado of the young
xperlmcnt- I American capital. It Is also to be a
Tnerc are two strange things In this i (treat field for American trade,
WELL KNOWN WRITER WILL
VISIT SOUTH AMERICA.
Another field of Investigation which
will bo taken up during this tour will be
the possibilities of the various South
American countries ln the reduction of
the high prices of food stuffs In tho
United States - markets. Argentina and
Uruguay are now shipping frozen beef
nnd mutton to the great cities of Kurope,
and London lives largely on frozen meat
from Australia and New Zealand. Hun
dreds of thousands of American dollars
are being Invested in the meat Indus
tries of South America, and it is said
that tho bread possibilities may be
equally great. Argentina nlone has
wheat lands big enough to feed the
world.
The Uro thinks also that there should
bo a reduction In tho price of the coffee
we drink, us well as of other ataple ar
ticles, which come from our sister con
tinent. The Agricultural department Is
sending experts to South America to
examine Into these matters. The Omaha
Heo correspondent has been Instructed
to report as to'what they are doing and
at tho same time to give us the results
of his observation, without fear or
favor.
Other matters that will be treated of
will be the changes in South America
likely to be made through the opening
of the canal, tho opportunities for In
vestments In the various localities, tho
chances for young Americans, the de
velopment of friendly relations between
the two continents, as well as the human
Interest features relating to the even
dm life of the people and those things
In whiiii the various countries differ
from oura.
Mr. Carpenter is well fitted for such
1 an undertaking. For tho last twenty
i five years he has been "going- to and
I fro in the earth and walking up and
mmmmmmmmmmmmm I down In It" and his chief business has
I lieen to report upon what ho sees to the
Secretary Redfleld of the Department rhlldren of men. Tho most of his ob
of Commerce has usked congress to give ; serrations have been published in The
him $100.W to send expeditions to South j Omaha Bee nnd somo of them have after-
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Club and Club Women
Frank 3. Chrpenier
niBEonniic nuituuo mat so many
women take toward their husband's
mothers. The -flrf la the tncomprehen
iWllty of any woman having- to little
port altcady amount to upwards of a
thousand million dollars n year, and its
0,000,040 iHople have wants that oiii
factories and other Industries can supply.
America to look Into these trade posst
buttle'. This fund Is not large, but The
Its ex-; Bee wilt add to It by the Investigations
of Mr. Carpenter, which, through his
trained powers of observation, cannot
but be of enormous value to every busi
ness man atnoc our readers
ward gone Into books nnd found their
way Into our schools, where they are
now currently used. Indeed It has be
come a common saying, not only with
the every-day reader, but with the qx-
perlenced educator as well that "Reading
V Carpenter Is seeing the world.
By ADA lATT13KSON.
The president of tho Dixie club, an or
ganization of southern women, has re
signed' her offlco because Bho says a
Woman cannot be president of two clubs
and give as much
time to her homo
and husband aa
they descrvo. Her
reward for the
resignation Is a
country home on
Long Island, which
she would havo for
feited otherwise,
her husband de
claring that she
would not have
time to enjoy It
unless she gave up
the gavel.
The news has
stirred to life the
old discussion as to
whether a wife's membership In n club
Is a good or bad force ln the home. Vovf
of tho pleas on either side would havo
been entertained for thirty seconds ln a
compefont court of law because they were
fragrantly beside the point. It was quite
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lost sight of In the warm, If somewhat
empty debate that tho retiring- president
specifically stated that a woman could
not bo president of two clubs nnd glvo
merited attention to her household. Mark
that she said "president" and "two
clubs." Though Mio specifically ''an
nounced that sho would continuo to be
tho president of the club that represented
her native fitnto In New Ynrk. Tin nnn
' seemed to hear, or heed.
The presidency of two largo and active
clubs situated In tho metropolis Is r heavy
task Involving much correspondence,
much conference with committees, much
planning and execution, and a great deal
ot anxiety about the ever accumulating
mass of details.
Resigning from one of thete would di
vides a woman's club cares by two and
still permit her enough of the club con
tact for mental stimulus. That Is qnlto
, what tho woman in question did, proving
her possession of a practical mind, us
; well as the fealty to home which every
j normal woman has today ns surely na
j her grandmother had fifty years ago.
Her resignation had no more slg
, nlflcanco than a woman's going- to tho
I theater ono night and staying homo the
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The Many
By WILLIAM V. KIRK.
Why should I worship a perfumed king
Who was born and must die, like me?
Why should I bow when his praises ring
Over the land and the sea?
On the Reaper's day ho will fade away
With all of his Kneeled pride.
To put him there on his puppet chair
Millions of bravo men died.
Why should I worship tho monarch Gold?
His boots are licked right well
In every land by the llttlo-soulcd,
Though his scepter points to hell.
By wars and crimo he has made bis climb,
Through cities and lands despoiled,
And to keep this drono on his selfish throna,
Millions of brave men toiled.
I worship the many of Now and Then,
And the many yet to be;
They wero, they are and they shall be Men
On God's great charted sea.
Brave and true, as they dare and do,
They shall work the Master's will,
Till kings are dust and the world is just
And tho many have scaled the bill.
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next, although she was Invited for both
evening.", her doing so being in thr
economy ot the household happtnes?. It
tho elemental principle of knnwJnc
when you have enough of anythjns. Tho
matter was of no especial conac piem-n
to anyone save the overworked president
herself, but the. few remaining' relics of
that tlmo when women's clubs were re
garded as an evil, chose tho circum
stance as a hook upon which. to hang a
few feeblo' surviving objections to
woman's clubs.
Membership In a club' of serious pur
pose nover hurt any woman, and It hat
helped thousands. It I tiio best means
t know for continuing the education of
women, except the necessity ot eurnlnqr
her llvlnir. It sharpens: lcr wits. It
broadens hor vision. It softcni her hcnit.
It la what education Is discipline ac
quired through gaining knowledge.
Last month I had occasion to ni'.-t
many members of womon's clubs. Thcro
was revealed to mo with a nearly
blinding light how clubs had oducat 'l
women In the last five years, educated
them to quick perception of a situation
or a need, trained them to Instant iirtloii,
cleared their vision of petty prejudices
and tho dust of personalities.
I had seen a child dying in a hospital
because the driver ot an ' automobile
truck had been huirylng to catch a train.
An accident caused tho club's president
to ask me to tell the club of the acci
dent. I described tho child's sufferings
told how the "accident" had happened
told them that nearly 300 persons haj
been .needlessly killed by careless driv
ing In New York within tho year.
It was as though somo one had applied
a torch to a house. The club caught fir
A committee was appointed to discus
means to stop theso atrocities In th
name of fast driving. It met two days
later. Ignoring- the fnct that that vai i
holiday. It organized a permanent com
mltteo for the prevention of careles
driving- and street accidents.
It held a mass meeting. It called on
the mayor. Some of tho women arrane-i
a dinner at which ways and means w i'
discussed. Two plans were followed
The promoters of each wished the otiin
godspeed.
"There can't be too many efforts to
stop the slaughter." they said. Mi i
looked on applauding. "When t'l
women get Interested something hai
pens," they said.
They are organizing a bureau for the
prevention of street accidents while j
write this.
The moral of which Is that effielepry
In dealing with public question, and tho
Irresistible force of concerted a tit, 4
among tho beneficent results of y, u men s
clubs.