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About Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922 | View Entire Issue (Oct. 28, 1913)
TI1E BEE: OMAHA, TUESDAY, OCTOBER 38, 1913. t .Missionary "Work That is Left Undone The American Mother Need It '" m Much as the Chinese Mother Who Olrcs Atvny Hei Girl Uahlcs A Reproach the ' Chyrches f7 l4Amsl?MAo' 4-, I ,rrl Some Interesting Facts from 1 I Ulfll llUlllCllliCdd IV AuUVCIUlCdd Charminx Julia Dcane By ELLA WHEELER WiLCOX L Copyright, 1913, by Star Company. Much home-missionary work Is done by churches all gye,'r -our land, yc.t that much la Itjf 5 untlono which cou'.il be done, and that time any money spent In . largo part of the oreign mission work :ould be better .em ployed at home, Is painfully true. The world Is God's house, and In house cleaning good work ers know they must distribute their In born over the svhole mansion a n it not Iea4 any part of It dn.tldy. . ; So' In missionary work; It Is wisclatid well to send tollers and money to -teach, the people Ih-. dls Inl land il ' m. llglo'n which Includes hygiene and which helps women and- children to be freed from the bondage of unwholesome super stitions and traditions. Only In this way. can the world he swept "and Bar nlshed, and the race made safe from pestilence. ' At the same time, vast. sums of money aro -used In foreign mission work 'which might be put to the most Important ends here ut home. There Is a youth con demned to Ufa-Imprisonment who was brought up lnan American town brlstllmt with church; spires, and who llwd In sound of church- bellsy yet no man or woman made tlie slightest effort to lead thl lad Into rhjhji'ways; no one exerted any Influence .to - better his wretched home conditions;-nib one nave him h thought save -ta..spoak of him ns an Ignorant and wayward and wild youth. Ills 8tepfather-ahd- mother were known to be' drinking-, Immoral people, and when the boy became- -involved In a family fight,' which ended'ln his killing his step father, a highly rribral Jury quickly con demned him to life1 Imprisonment At. the same time, members of churches and In good standing, they had helped pay. tho expenses of foreUn mis slonaries who were trying to bring light and knowledge .Into heathen lands and minds. The town tuhrii. th iiiMmM. nrldjq Itself J&brfkndlng tho largest, fund to the mUsfe-narles of any town in tho tyate. ; -V " When askedijy no missionary effort had been mad. in. behalf of the wretched American boy; twho Jived within a stone's throw, of Its church, a Christian woman replied, "Why wo never thought about jouik anyimng ior him or his famllv." i Hiit she and her fellow church member I naa tnougnt about doing a great deal for th,e Hottentot and the Chlnnman. In 'China It hns for centuries been tin habit, of many poor people to destroy or J Kit v away .ineir gin Daoies. Christian missions have rescued many thousands of these babies and cared for and edu-' raaed them. A large percentage In one Christian 01 tltutlon In Chlntrts composed ofchtldren Jlther mentally or physically defective. The letter whlph Is appended makes cue POnder On thtf.'AvfavA unit whar.fnra n. our .'American: methods of charity and;. "i-iiD.uirutr. air. ieiier came as a re ponse to an article in this column, which poke of the rampant sin everywhere pre valent In civilised . lands of wilful "race lutclde" In the i destruction of unborn children. The Chinese mother waits until her unwelcome child Is born before she de ftroys it; the Christian American mother In Christian lands. Is quite as -much !n need. Of missionary work as tho Chinese woman: and hef' helpless offspring are even more In need' of a crusade for their salvation. Margaret Murray Dow, who wrote the following letter, was asked If she .would consent to Its publication before It was herein, presented. .Therefore, lis rather severe accusation's of sins of omission on the part of American Christian clergymen and church members must be regarded as authentic; .. "For fourteen flpng years I have been voluntary missionary to the men 'of the 1 A Fashionable Winter Cloak H$ Fully Described by Olivette .ll that was demanded ot the summer ovontng wrap was grace and color. The evening; c6at of summer must bo a fleecy cloud. But winter winds demand a more, useful gar ment but with genuine warmth, and utility boautj may well bo outlinod. Ilohold hero a wonderful velvet garment that sounds a now note In tho remarkable way it la sleeved. Violet velvet, gold laco and skunk fur, with Its Hooray! Baby To Rule the House No Longer Do Wosoen Fear The Great ' est of A'l Human Blessing. . Two Portrait of Miss Julia Deane. lJy -MUDR MILLER. Are you a beauty?' Have. you any hope of becoming bea.uty?'Qri lotions and Jure and lingerie 4 notwithstanding, are you doomed to be 'forever igly or worse still, merely 'plain? ' ' Come, little Miss Hopeless, Julia. Deane 7-delIghtful Miss Deane, who Is Mary of he desire for "Her Own Money," up at the Comedy theater; 'has a word for you. between her exits and entrances In a, most amusingly inakes-you-slt-up-and-tako-no-tlce play. "I've been brought Up on a diet 'of re membering that even my own loving and admiring mother doesn't call mo a beauty now and docH confess that I was once a 'homely little kid,' " began Jifss Pcane, who maybe right In her Insistence that she Isn't a heuuly. She may he right. Cut Julia Douno has a sofi-eyed, soft haired rfittrotth'eness. plus magnetic Charm; she possesses a vivid personality and an alert Intelligence of manner and rxprosslon that make her .what little brother calls "mighty easy to look at." "Well, In spite of not belnc a nihum,. She will tell vnu now M r .n,k h. I "'"niaws-uhrlsty-FIagg girl, I've never , r,wi ;.-.,' M"'. "u ":.im,!n a wan-nower and you may acquire and cultivate if you jiave brains. . Have you a sense of humor? An In terest In humanity? JDo you want to be charming? Fascinating? Popular? The combination will mako you a super betiuty. So Just listen to the little talk I had with Miss Deane out In the wings jUn,fled States marine' 'corps. In every way. I have tried, as a Christian woman, to guide them aright," Left alone as thoy aro, neglected and wthoiit the Influence ,p .Christian women 'arid .men, save for my gospel meetings and my home, It Is no wonder they go-away from 'mothers' prhyers.' T "The 'street woman'; hounds them to the very gate ot (he barracks; Walts for them in the back room-of the miserable saloons on the avenue. (Flushing and Sands street). Every temptation that can be presented lfe before thorn. . "Not a church goes out ot its way to save them. Not a minister imt the Rev. T. B. Griswold ever comes to help the meetings, , "About- twenty-five ministers of this great city have been Wrl.tten of -the work, with the one response; 'Thp big salaried ministers have no time for such small (?) Unknown work.' "In this service It has been my aim to help the lads as a mother would to warm them against the surroundings at the garrison, to get them' to' churches and to be a friend to them. - "Women need not down men for a dual life. They have only to regard their at titude to the marriage law In the light of the Almighty's keen eye to know they are worse than the men when they sin against His law. , "A nation. Is Judged' by the standard of Its women.! Let America take care of how it lowers the standard at the awful pleasures of women. -.j' 'MARGARET MURRAY DOW. 'tis Putnam Avenue. Brooklyn, Y.'' The Girl Without Beaux It Is a Joy and comfort to know that those much-talked-of pains and other dis tresses that aresald to precede chltd-bear- lnr may easily be'aToIded. No woman need ( fear the slightest discomfort if ahe wlf joruijr nersen-wnn in weii-tnowirt aao. time-honored ttmedy, "Mother's Friend," Ibis li a jnost grateful, pesetrattBgJex?. tcrnal application that at once softens n4 makes pliant tii abdominal muides and ligaments. Tbey naturally expand without the slightest strain, and thus not , 9017 bcnlsb all. tendency 'to nerrous, twjtctilng pella, but there is an entire freedom iroa samta, discomfort, sleeplessness and .dread - that so often Itare their Impress upon-.ths 1 babe. ' ' ; The- occasion Is therefore one of un bounded, Joyful anticipation, and too much atress can not be laid upon the remarkable inSuence which a' mother's happy, pre-natal disposition has- upon the health and for tunes of the generation to come. Mother's Friend If recommended only tat the relief and comfort ot expectant mothers. thousands of whom have used and recom mend It You will nod it on sale at all drug stores, at $1.00 a bottle. Write to-day to the ' Bradfitld Regulator Co., 130 Lamar Bldg., Atlanta, Ga., for a most inatruetire book oa tits greatest of all subjects, motherhood. By BEATRICE FAIRFAX Dear Miss Fairfax: I am a young lady of 17 years and attend amusement places quite seldom. But wherever 1 go the gentlemen I meet always admire me, and still neve,r ask to call. It has been on my mind quite a good deal lately, and I would like you to tell me why this Is. B. P, M. Why you dear, aweet, funny little girl you why are you so anxious , to have them ask to qa.l? You want a few scalps at your belt, do you? I suppose that's It You don't seem to care particularly what sort of chaps they are whether they arc clever or stupid, good looking or ugly", fine or ca'irmonpfa.ceC.jut so they, ask to call. Don't ypu. 'iPP2e that, that's 'the rea on the-dot oskf.to call?'. Y4u are-'toQ eager, about It I Oe it fnto your .head, once an,d for all. (iUlr sister, that a man is. a hunting anlmtU. ' . TTaven't. you ever se'enfone. of your brothers or cousins, or perhaps your father, get reaqr for a hunting trip? i He .takes days, packing pis'-woods' bag r-plek out every Jlttle1 article qf dresa wltlj the utmpst Yarp- Must have Just such a gun and exactly such ammunition and then he "disappear, into the woods. He's gone hunting. What Is it that be hunts-It doesn't make the least particle of difference. What he's after Is not the game, but the fun of running after it. If a herd of deer should come down to town and stand at the gate waiting to be shot who'd want to shoot them? If you could stand on the bank of a stream and call the' fish up out of the water, nobody on earth would ever want to go fishing. Don't be so eager to be caught or you'll never get Any one to run after ybu as long as you live- Seventeen! You sureV are not thinking of getting married at that age, are you? Why, you're hardly out of short dresses yet. Look around you at the married woman you know and at the girls. Which Is the mfppleat. which In tho lightest hearted? ' Stay single as long as you can and get married when you simply can't llv an other day without the man who's really In love with you. Beaux why of course! No girl is a girl without betttix. But don't be'too eager for beaux. They are timid creatures and they'll run If you look at them too earnestly. A man Is, after all, a .kind of helpless freature-where women are concerned, Uf knows it and It scares him almost to death to have a girl act as If she had picked, him out for her own special prop erty. He's afraid she'll get him Into some corner somewhere where" he can't escape. Be a .little more ' reserved, a llttlo quieter, a little less anxious to please end be pleated to see how that will work. Advice to the Lovelorn By BEATRICE FAIRFAX. Let Tluir Help Yon. Dear Miss, Fairfax: I mat a girl some time ago. and, from the first, have been strangely attached to her. I find now .that J, have fallen In love with. her, and c,an't shake the feeling off. She has r.ouwa iub, ana irom wnat 1 nave learned and notjeed. I believe she cares for me, too. However I have not the nerve to go over and tell It to her. M C. S. Don't think about telling her. Just remember how much you love her, and be with her all you can. Somewhere, some hrw and sometime, much sooner than you dream, the story will tell itself I've manaceil in kci on in me world. "Rule 1 Dress your hair well, and take care of your complexion and tho lines of your clothes. But If you are not a nat urnl beauty, why compete wth beauty on her own territory, cultivate one thing that few beauties havo or think worth while striving for brains. "Beauty- may risk being Indifferent, lackadaisical, slow to see a Joke, stupid even. She may but watch her lose friends, popularity, position, lover, hus band even, do In for brains. Is my nyes. aago to the beauty seeker. Make tho most of yourself. Learn to talk. Be In tereettng and cultivate a sense of humor. "Humor will make you react from tragedy and sorrow. It will give you a perspective view of life. It will keep you sane and balanced.. It will help you value your own emotions and those around you-, u will make you capable of looking boyond storm to sunshine. Brains and a cense .of humor flrat. Then learn to make the most of your good points. If you have only one- dainty ankle-a shell-like ear a long, white throat-a white taper fingered hand -don't undervalue it. But use this one little physical charm as a foil or a bit of extra weight to all the mental "charro you "are cultivating. "Brain. Humor. A bit of beauty like a red leaf to decorate chill November, and then learn to talk. "Cultivate the charming and little known art of conversation. "No human being, no matter, how good a dancer, could do the tango without learning it. On must learn to develop a gift and then to use It, according to the laws of the world. "Now some people talk glibly or at tractively by instinct But Jn conversa tion, as in every art, study, practice, an Infinite taking of .pains, are needed for advancement- "The gome of conversation cannot go out, of fashion: It will be Important as long as you retain the gift of speech. Talk conscientiously as well as possible to all sort of people. Adapt" yourself to their moods and characteristics. Learn to converse with peoplo of different ages and Interests. "Make It your business to say what you are trying to convey in a manner that will carry your meaning to the person you address, whether he Is wise or foolish. Be clear. Bo simple. Don't talk like a prig or a pedant or a good little girl In a Sunday school atory.. Don't talk like a walking dictionary of slang. Don't talk about yourself. "Learn to Ulk so well that even a dull mind will roll a bit at your voice! Make It. your business to Jind out what others can talk about. Draw people out in self forgetting conversation. Please yourself by seejng how well you can manage to please a dullard who could never man age to please you! "Read, study books and human nature. When you don't know, manage your ignorance as you do your good and bad points in your appearance. Make a virtue of necessity and be frank about the vir tues you can't hide. And when you get through see If people don't say, 'Mollle Jones la the moat Interesting girl and Isn't she attractive- looking?" j W B .lH -W3sBS1BS1BS1BS1BS1BS1B laaaaaasaaaaaaaaaaacsaaaaaaiBiaaaaaaBaiiaiBiaaaiBaaaaaaaaaamaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaasv' -k. - a l I sMlUMlllWII i IIP HsslEllBjHIHC velvet own natural black and whlto markings, are com bined for richness, elegance and usefulness. A wide yoko of Jho laco appears bolow tho fur collar. It finished by a rucho Tyotfrf6f6mmo, or llttlo folded box njca'tlnga . ( , .', From this top erjiDlpcement to the heels tho falls In lone, classic lines. Tf iUfStlHlEsi f It folds Unci:, u bit In front and ends In a long round train at tho back.. The-enormous slooves art draped to tho line of the -yoke and fall in Ions "angerypolnts, terminating In a great tassel. . -OLIVETTE. Sweet Sixteen and Her Stepmother mm M 3 By WINNIFRED BLACK. Your wlfo is good, true, kind, gentle, sweet and considerate. And your daugh ter hates her Just because a),i is her stepmother? Bhe Is 'Impudent, cross, stubborn, sullen ' and dis agreeable In every way and you don't know what to do, Well, now, In the first nlace. how 'old is daugh ter? 'Seventeen I thought so the meanest, most conceited, m o st self-centered ago on earth. Talk about sweet 16 sour 16 would be better or silly 1, I'm afraid. Up to ihat age a girl Is a little girl easily managed, tractable, affectionate, a thing to be loved and petted and cared for. But after that till she's 20 or so she's Just about the most foolish crsaturo In the world. I'd say the most foolish If she didn't have a brother. When fie gets to be about 20 he'll show sister the road to Foolvtlle, and not, even try very hard. It Isn't the girl who's cross' It's her age and what she thinks she ought to be. She's hard about stepmothers since she was born, and not one good word has she ever heard about them. She feels about that Juat as you'd feel If some body brought a nice, amiable, weU-mean-Ing rattlesnake home to board and then was lighted to meet and greet him. Billy of course It Is silly so many things are but they are to be reckoned with all the same-silly or not. Tfce average stepmother Is not as fond of daughter as the average mother-how can she be? But I don't believe she's any such ogre as popular fiction makes ber out to be. rice here! What If you were In busl acas somewhere, and ou liked the busi ness and the mail you worked for, and he liked you and ho .'thought you very clever and Interesting and couldn't get on without you at all. And all at onco he brought a now man to the shop a man not so clever as you and, from your point of View, not half so Interesting and you saw your place In the business gradually absorbed by the new man would you love him madly Just because somebody told you It was your duty to do soT Your home, your house, your heart haa been your llttlo girl's business for some years. She's been about everything there was on earth to you. And now all at once here'H tW newcomer taking her placo at the table, telling her what to Wear. Her the great wonder of-the age who knows everything better than any one else could even dream of knowing It units she was sweet 16 and her fath er's only daughter, too. "Bossing" her about her clothes, "ad vising" her about the'way to do her hair, "misunderstanding" - Jier 'friendships, not "realising" iter ambitions,1 entiling when she ought to sigh, frowning .when she ought to laugh. Why, it really Is very hard for sweet 16 when you come to think of It, Isn't It? And then tho mother' 'who's ' gone don't you love the tittle girl Just a little for being Jealous Of things on her ac count, too? See things from your point of view? Now she wouldn't be 16 If she could do that, would she? Sho'd be um, welt, say 40 odd, and a whole lot of things wilt look different to her when she's 0. She'll realise then that memory Is poor company and that tears are an unwhole some drink for any human being. She'll see the roses bloom on the grave ot the one she loved best In the world and stop a minute for the gentle tribute or a sigh and nothing more. She'll understand then that W is hu man as much as 16, and that 40 needs companionship, sympathy, appreciation and love. Of course, she thinks that word too silly for anything lot 40. But she'll get over that some day, some time when pho's 40, too. And then she'll look back and see how selfish and foolish and cruel she was when she was sweet 16, and' fried to still the hot Jealousy In her teart by xarcaslio smiles at poor step lather's 'little timid attempts to appease her. Then she'll know fiow self-centered she wo and be sorry. But after all you know (his ,1s the very time of life when, she would have been the very center -of home if rnother had lived. Daughter's gowns, daughter's friends, daughter's hopea, daughter's ambitions, those would have been the whole thing, and now she's Just a side issue. Just a second fiddle and she wouldn't be hu man If she didn't resent it Just a little. What shall you do? Be patient, be wise, ' bo sympathetic to both these women. They both belong to you, and some day It will all straighten itself out. You can not cat your cake, dear man, and huvtt It, too, you know. Though, somehuw, that's Just what we poor mor tals are always trying to do, aren't we? Falling Hair Means , Dandruff Is Active Save your If air! Get a 25 ceat bottle of Dandoriho right now Also ' stops Itching scalp. Thin, brittle, colorless and scraggy hair Is mute evidence of a neglected scalp; of dandruff that awful scurf. There Is nothing so destructive te the hair as dandruff. It robs the "hair ef Its luster, its strength and its very life; eventually producing a feverlshness and Itching of the scalp, which If not ' remedied causes the hair roots to shrink, Joosen and die then the hair falls out fast A little Danderlne tonight now any time will surely save your hair. Oil 1 B cent bottle of Knowlton's Danderlne from any drug store pr teljet counter, and after the first application your hair will take on that life, luster and luxuriance which is so beautiful. It will become wavy and fluffy and hare the appearance of abundance; a is, comparable gloss and softness, ut what will please you most will be after Just a few weeks' use, when ypu will ryetuattjsj see a lot of ftn. downy hair mw sslr : growing all over the scalps