TIIE BEE: OMAHA, TUESDAY, OCTOBER 14, 1913.
5
rr
Profession
of Marriage
By Nell Brinkley I
The Manicure
Lady
A Lesson in Hands JStt
' . v. Accompanied by a Striking Article by Beatrice Vairfax.
--J
By WINNEFRED BLACK.
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX
A gentleman writing la a woman's
magazine tells" us that bo's never coins
& marry. He's afraid to, he says.
"Marriage Is a profession," says tho
jrntleman, "and so
leyr women seem
U think. It worth
wjille to practice It
s they should. The
ldfafehldned wo
nan looked upon
matrlmnoy -as a
glorious and sacred
state of life and
id jo gave her whole
time and strength
and brain to mak
ing a home for tho
roan -who gave her
nil name.
Nowaday It Is a
rirt of hit or miss
affair. Your wife
nlay look after
jour home, and she may not; It depends
oh1 the way she happens to feel about It
''Til stay single, thank you. I don't
dare take any chances."
ilow enlightening, and, In & way, how
tfuel
TYlfehood a profession, good sir? "Woll.
thin, how about husbandhood, may I
sitk?
The old-fashioned -woman did devote
most of her Umo to home, husband ami
babies, that's true, but she did It know
ing that husband devoted all of his time
outside of business to wife, homo and
babla, too.
jfoii're so1 worried about the- modern
wjjman and the tray she's changed. My
good young man, tell mo this: Your
father pushed tho baby carriage all tho
wfyy'to church every Sunday, sang In
the choir and taught the young me'n's
Bible class In Sunday school. Then ho
ml his wlfo went home together, and
be. helped her get the children ready for
dinner. In the afternoon If any ono was
going to take tho family walking It was
father, and father didn't think It a crime
ti be asked to tie on sister's hat and
pfe that brother's shoes were really but
toned. Would you too these things, think
fU?
(Or, would you run put for a game of
golf early Sunday morning and forget
toset home till nlghtfull, and then won
der why your wife looked Hred and
bored after her 8unday managing a
houseful of ' restless children . alono.
Ypur father never dreamed of fishing
trips' away from homo without your
mother. How about your little 'excur
sions? What .do you wtnt your wife to
be doing whlUJyQurIarjB,,KoneT ii, vr j.
Clubs your father "thought that any
one who belonged to a club' was either
crazy or a wastrel. He couldn't afford
clubs not and take what he thought was
the right sort of care of mother and tho
children.-
When father went walking after tea
It was tea then, wasn't It? mother went,
too. When mother had company father
came home early and helped entertain
them while mother saw that the biscuits
were Just right and that there was
frosted cake enough to go round.
When father played a part In the
church play to raise money for tho pul
pit steps, mother was in the play, too.
Marriage was a profession In those, days,
and evjry 'one .who was In ltf practiced
It according to the code, - too, or was
counted out by public opinion. '
Nobody expscted mother to do. all, tho
marrying, and father'" to be perfectly
frep.1,
When the. new ways came ..In the
men's clubs, the men's vacations with
oth'fr men, the golf and the polo, and
the tennis, and the huntings camps and
all that'sort of thing mother 'didn't say
a woVd she Just went on andlmttated
father, that's all. ' " .
Bho Just stopped looking aty marriage
as a' profession and looked upon It as
an Incident more or lets deeply engross
lig, according to her disposition.
And now father has suddenly awaked
up to find that he doesn't quite like the
new Idea In all ways as It works out.
Wfehood a profession, young man?
Well, so It Is, arid the finest and the
happiest profession In the world, but, It
takes two to enter Into a professional
partnership. Are you who bewail sq bit
terly" the passing of the old-fashioned
ideal quite read to live up on down-
to H on your own, part, I wonder?
Tlf- modern wtma,n does not. rwmt
Mother's Advice
To Her Bai.ghter
A Real Lire Doll to Fondle Is Woman'
Greatest Happiness.
A young woman who sat In a car near
me the other day had neither book nor
baby to occupy her mind, and It straight
way fell back upon herself, and she
showed It by tho manner In which she
moved her hands.
One hand smoothed her hair. The "
other- gave a" tilt to her hat. It then be
came necessary to feel of her necklace,
and both hands flew from there to her
breastpin. Her right hand smoothed a
fold In her dress, whloh reminded her
that It was time to use tho left hand to
pull up the right glove a little smoother.
"Surely," I thought, "her toilet Is com
pleted at last," but a sef-satlsfled look
she cast on her dress, showed that the
tie on her Oxford was not straight Then
It waa her hat again, followed "by the
application of a powder puff to her nose.
I watched'her for an hour, .and 'n that
time her hands were never In repose.
They moved incessantly, Indicating In
every movement that she waa a most
self-centered person, whose sole Joy and
ambition In life centered around her .at
tire tho human dupltcato of the peacock.
An older woman next to her sat with
her hands folded quietly lnher lap'. "They
were hands that looked as If they had'
worked untiringly for others, and In this
labor had lost all beauty of Jahapev,colori'
texturo and proportion. They were strong
hands, tho kind ono associates wllt- those ,
who bear more than their :shareof the
burdens, and I felt ault sure. that the.
better groomed hands of tho younfior wo-'
man that flitted from hat to shoe and
back again, and were never still, would
never be as mutely eloquent.
I .hear frequently from young, men!
"How may I know the manner of 'glrj
who will make a good wifoT
My son, watch her hands.
There was a ttmo when the mark, of
the useful hand was the callous spot on
the palm, but the Invention of 'machinery . .
making household tasks light; and the
employment of many girls - In lines of '
business which leave no sign of toll, have .
mado that teat invalid. '
A well kept hand Is" In a girl's favor, j
but not If It la well kept at the expense
of tho comfort of her family. There Is '
such a thing as spending so much time
polishing one's nails that no time Is loft'
to help mother polish tho pots and pans.
There Is such a thing as putting more
work on one's hands than in them. There.
Is the danger of thinking "What "can i'
make of my hands?" lnsteatt of "What
can I make with them?"
Bjr WILLIAM P. KIIIK.
"Tho Needed Woman, tho Best Woman, tho Most Worthy Woman, is tho Ono Who Consider tho Work Sho PuU in Hor Hands of Moro Itnpor
Uinco Than the Work 8ho luta on Them." BEATIUOB FAIRFAX.
The needed woman, the best woman,
the most worthy woman, Is tho one who
considers' the work aha puts in her hands
of more importance than, the work she
puts on thorn and this is written in due
appreciation of tho Importance of the
work that must bo put on them.
But well kept or neglected. If they are
constantly employed In flitting from
children, you say. Perhaps not, but how
about the modern man?
Does he want them either? Or, when
ho does want them, is. he ready to- take
his shore In bringing them up?
It V.ssn't. so lonesome walking the
floor with the baby when father' took
turns at the work, waa it, grandpa?
But how would yoa like to do that while
you knew that father was. at his club
having a perfectly good time.
Marriage used to be the Important thlni,'
In a woman's life and, in. a man's.
When men began to look upon mar
riage as an Incident women followed suit.
What else was there left for them to do?
Don't look too .hard,' for that old
fashioned girl, Mr. Club "Man. She'd ex.
pect things from yoii .'that you wouldn't
find in. the least ..Interesting, Vn afraid.
I've alway noticed that the man who"
talks most about the coi.y little home, and
the "wee wiflo waiting"; la. Just, the man;
who wants to use that cosy little. home
after everything else Is shut, ,Hut, oh,
misery! In the .trcjhd of the Uines, ."wee
wifle" has got over tho waiting habit.
I wonder who tauxht her the now Idea7
Dr. Parkhurstfs Article
On Punishment as Eeformation Our Jails Should Save tho Convict and Pro
servo His Humonness If They Do Not, Thoy Need Reforming, and at Once
Advice to the Lovelorn
Br BEATWCe! FAIRFAX:
Try UnvlnR Faith.
Dear Miss Fairfax- ram"18 years old
and deeply in.Joye with; a young man of
19 years, "who, I .know loves me. W have
been very great sweethearts, for the last
two and a halt yours. .During that time
he has always been bringing every cent
of his salary to his mother. .Many a time
I haye asked him what he was going to
do when m?ttera git setlous with us,
end-he- tells- me when, the Umo comes his.
mother wilt give htm ell h needs. He
tells we he. expects that to be three or
fouryears front now. BelngJthat we are
not engaged yeW my mother thinks that
we ought not to go out torrether until we
arc. Let me' know what I am to do to
have him make himself boss of his own
salary, so as .to make him begin to mak4
thing' serious so we can at least be n
gaged, F.
His money in his mother's hands Is
safer than In his own, if he la like most
'young men.
Have iv l(t tie more faith,
for the future, and you
He Is. saving
are both so
One of the most important matters abort t
which women concern themselves is their
future status as a grandmother. And she
is wisdom- itself who knows of or learns
of that famous remedy. Mother's Friend.
This Is an external appllcstlrn for the
abdominal muscles and breasts. It cer
tainly has a wonderful influence, allays all
fear, banlihes all pain, is a most grateful
encouragement to the young, expectant
mother, and permits her to go through the
period happy in mind, free In body and
thus destined to anticipate woman's great
est happiness as nature Intended she should.
Th action of Mother's Friend makes the
muscles free, pliant and responsive to ex
pansion. Thus all strain and tension upon
the.'nerrts and ligaments Is avoided, and.
In place of a period of dltomfort and con
lequent dread. It Is a season of calm repose
and Joyful expectation
There is no ntura, no morning alek
ness, no nervous t Pitching, none of that
constant strain known to so many women,
hence Mother's Trlend is really one of the
greatest blesitrgs that conld be devised.
This splendid and certain remedy can be
bad of any tfuggltt at 11.00 a bottle, and
Is sure to r.rov of inestimable value, not
only upon he mother, but upon the health
end futti'e of the child. Write to Uradneld
llrgula'jr Co., 132 Lamar llldg Atlanta,
Co., Ut their book to exptctact mothers.
young the waiting should not prove hard.'
I Don't limit .: yourself to his attentions;
occasionally go -out wth other boys.
. This wll hasten the arrival of lovo surer
than criticism or argument.
I Go to Bee Her.
Dear Miss Fairfax: I am a younr pro-'
fesslonal man' of excellent family, r.nd for
the last eleven months I have been In
love with aofoung lady, and now for 'some,
J time she does not answer tho letters I
I send her. Could you tell me what to do?
! E.'8?
It is postlblo she never vecelved them!
I One hasalways the right to hope in- suqb.
rases. Qo to her and tell hr of your
I love. There can be no mistake In the'
j spoken word. '
'on Unit Forget II Ira.
I Dear' Miss Fairfax: I have known a,
, young man fnrabout ne yerr and hi,
has told m he loves me. Th.'s young
man when he .waa out with me last
'promised to call and. failed to do so. I
!J,.thLa y" dearly, but -would.
' tlrely W ri'wln his ove en.
1, i,kno''' Ks out with pther young
; ladies, and when with m h hii.
1 pet names. Can you heln me out in (hi.
matter, as I am wild ahout him?
PERPLEXED.
I am afraid he has been flirting with
you. The fact that he calls you pet
iiaraes signifies nothing. If he really
loved you he wouldn't care to go with
other girls and he would, not neglect an
1 appointment with you.
j He bears all the earmarks of a flirt,
! and. belfeve me, my dear, a girl is the
gainer by losing such an admirer.
By dr. d. 11. PARKnunaT.
There Is a readable little monthly maga
tine published In the -federal prison .t
Atlanta, Qa. From some unkhown 'friend
Incarcerated there copies of It have for
some tlmo been
comt.iK to me. The
artklfs. aro not
pnly' jWoU put top
g'eh$r, but contain
much' that is Inter
esting and aiao In
structive to those
put of Jail as well
as to those In.
Their special ex
cellence is that
they give the pris
oners' point of
view; and their
point of ylew Is.
liable to be as
nearly oqrroct and
valuable as that Jal
people who have
never been convicts more accurate
probably and more valuable, ftr when
they write about prison' Ufa, Kb effects,
Its Justices. iwA Injustices, - they know
what they are ' writing : about, and that
Is something of whlch othera'';can' have
bnly a borrowed or a theoretical' know!,
edge.
-If some cme sticks a pin Interne "I
Jnow beU'er.',.than 'he how It feels and
how I am-phyelrally affected by it.
And when, instead of being a matter
bf pin pricking, It is -a. matter of pun
ishment' by Imprisonment, the most im
portant thing to know la still how the
ponvlct ls affected by It, and. tbaj is
'ome'.hihg"tHat the convict himself can
pe4k and Write about more appre
blutlvely and Intelllgently'thar. any one
-juteldo sifc Jail or than the prlon keepers
on the Inside.
And how the prisoner "himself Ms af
fected by1 being Jailed by the present
method of Jailing Is a prime' factor in
the solution of the prison problem; It Is
jso If .we are to understand by tho prison
ppbltm .the' question how a convict .can
so be -dealt with as best to correct hi
criminal quality of character. Any and
and object lesi radical than that is un.
worthy of. any civilization, least of all
of . a. Chrlatimi - rlvlIIinMnrv '
7he leading article In' the October issue
oPthe prison magaxine Just mentioned Is
.ehtltred Tlif Vinal Aim of Punishment
iBjiblnstruetnd Direct," and the first
clause VT the" article reads: "Punishment
rJsfUly. lnterjrWl involves the Idea of
saving or reformation." The writer's
way of treating the subjeot Implies that
his own experience- as a prisoner does
not permit of his feeling that reforma
attoh Is 'the natural result' of prison dis
cipline as at present maintained.
.He writes Intelligently and dlspasslon
ately. If would appear that his presenta
tion of the situation should be taken at
Us face value. If It Is claimed that from
the nature of the case his estimate must
be a prejudicial estimate: perhaps so,
but not more so than the contrasting es
tlmate of a non-convict Is a prejudicial
estimate.
It -must be remembered that among our
rgnvlcts there are thousands of people
whose criminality Is not of such a
character as to destroy their power of
Intelligently estimating the matter or of
honestly stating It, and It Is due to our
pelves aa well as to them to lay great
stress on the way In whlo hthey repre
sent It
However It may be with some ponal in
stitutions, the probable consensus of
opinion, gathered from prison experience,
is that a Jail Is a very doubtful school
to which to send a man with a view to
his salvation or reformation.
If that Is so, it Is the Jails themselves
that need In tho first Instance to be
eaved and reformed. It Is that point
Upon which the regards of the publio are
Just at this time rather unusually con.
Cer.trated.
To shed eome light upon that point has
been the object of Mr. T. M. Osborne, In
volnntarlly sentencing himself to n
week's imprisonment at Auburn.
lie was in pursuit of what we have
dust called an Inside view of prison con
ditions, the same view as the one gained
by the ordinary convict
fio faivas he has yet published his con
clusions, hie- experience in Jail would
eom to bear out the testimony given by
,those who have beon sentenced in the
ordinary way, but whose testimony has.
been discounted because they received
their sentence from the court
One very definite statement which he
has made as a result of what ho saw
and underwent at Auburn appears to
touch the sensitive nerve of the entire
matter, namely, "from the first moment
that man arrives In prison he Is made to
realize that ho Is no longer an Individual
human being."
Now, If that la a fair statement and
it Is certainly borne out both by revela
tions of convicts and by official investi
gators made by the governor's commls.
doner some vory destructive as well as
constructive work ought to be done, and
done without unnecessary delay,
The best part of a man Is his human.
ness and his own lively sense of human-
ness, and whatever serves to crush out
that does more than damage tho body,
it sucks the life blood of the soul, and not
only falls of the ameliorating results
which prison treatment ought to yield,
but unmans the convict puts him out of
all proper relation with life, disqualifies
him for the resumption of life's duties,
and upon his graduation i.,n Jail throws
him out upon the world fit for nothing
but to be still more of a criminal and
clapped back into prison again aa a sec
ond or third termer.
Prison Sunday occurs on October 26
and It Is to be hoped that the ministers
will avail of the occasion to deal with
this matter in a manner consistent with
the good of the criminal classes and tho
honor and dignity of the state.
Washington's Farewell Address
j
nr rev. TiioaiAs n. GnKconv,
One hundred and seventeen years ago
September 19,' I7W, Waihlngtdn made
his "Farewell Address" to ihe people of
tho United States.
He waa still pres
ident at the time
the address woe
given. Ilesought on
every hand to re
main for the third
term as the coun
try's chief executive
and refusing to v
so hedetarmtned as
he was about to
retire to private
life, to have a sin
cere word with the
people -who had
such a hold upon his patriotism and af
fection. It Is perfectly correct to say the fare
well address was sincere. Politics hod
auove party, and to see to it that our
laws should be made for tho whole coun
try, rather than for a part of the coun
try.
iie ueggeu us never to grow cold1 In
our affection for the union of the states,
ana never to so dwarf ourselves as to
be willing to sacrifice the common wel
fure for the sake of sectional gain.
He reminded us of the fact that Europe
naa interest in which we had no con
cern and that It would be well for us to
keep clear of, all "entangling, alliances"
wan toreign courts ana powers.
lie besought us to stand firm against
the admission Into our country of any
unamerlcan Influence, any influence that
would tend to undermine our devotion
to democracy and the great charter, the
constitution of the United States, a doc
ument of which Washington bleved to
be the supreme law for Americans.
He cautioned Us against forgetting the
great basto principles of morality tem
perance, Justice, brotherhood-and that
reverence for Individual and national
no place 'In It; policy waa far from It;
all guile and diplomacy were conapleUoUs . rectitude without which both, individual
. . . 1 ... . . ll'a.htnirtkn'. J . I ......
mm imuuu uro lanurea
by their absence. It was Washington a
heart-to-heart talk with hfs countrymen,
as though a father waa talking to his
children.
It Is not time yet to be pessimistic re
garding America, but it may well be
said that, morn and morn, oa the years
roll by, do we perceive the need of listen
ing to Washington's porting, advice.
He Implored us ever to love country
it were well If this address of the
"Father of His Country" were steadily
taught In the public schools, to the end
that the coming citizens might be well
grounded in patrtotto devotion to the
Ideals and alms of their country.
This suggestion Is heartily commended
to the serious consideration of our boards
of education tho land over.
eloquently as the hands printed on. a
breastpin to belt buckle they speak aa
signboard arid the story they tell Is not
In the girl's, favor,, ' .
' She Is vain. Bhe has an Idle mlnfl. She Is
self-centered and selfish. Bhe la concerned
neither with magazines nor books and
hasn't on ambition above her attire. Her
mind flits from face powder to neck rib
bon and her hands move with It telling
of what she thinks a plainly as the
hands of a clock tell the time.
The woman who Is planning, hoping,
thing of others in her Idle moments
doesn't keep her hands flying from, her
hairpins to her belt hackle and back to
her eyebrows.
I want all my girls to pay duo atten
tion to their appearance and having com
pleted their toilet to forget It. Let sett
fade from mind with 'the last glimpse
of the mirror. When ort the cars or train
there Is always something of greater Im
portance to oocupy one's mind than
one's back hair. If a girt can't, for some
good reason, employ her mind In reading,
she can with advantage to herself employ
It In studying human nature.
Bhe can fold her hands quietly In her
lap and think of and for others. She Is
not thinking; I could almost say she is
not using either her heart brain or soul,
when her hands are Incessantly occupied
with her attire.
My son, watch her hands.
"Some of those Paris dolts has a swell
time of It don't thoy, George?" sold tho
Manicure Lady. "I was Just reading
about a Miss Fift Foo-Foo, or some silly
name like that. She Is one of the lead
ing Paris beauties this season, the stories
go, and Is much sought after, Tho piece
I was reading told about one day of her
life, which Flfl goca through something
like this:
"In the morning sho arises and takes
a bath In champagne. Then she break
fasts on a Unity biscuit, three straw
berries nnd the tongues of two Australian
peacocks. After Flfl has ate all she can
for the tlmo being, she reads her mall,
which I suppose Is mostly mash notes
from some of those dear Parisians, ami
then sho rests for an hour while she haa
her nails did and her hair dressed. Then
she dresses for luncheon and after she
has went to the eats onoe more she In
whirled away In a electrlo runabout for
her afternoon drive along the Dots de
Bologna, or some other name that sounds
like a butcher's nd.
"Tho story says, George, that all along
the course of this drlvo sho Is spoke to
by hundreds of tho gayer young and old
men of Paris, and that she speaks back
now and then, and It tells how the poor
simps that she notices nearly swell up
and bust with pardoncblo prtdo. Honest
to goodness, Oeorge, If I was a fullgrown
gent It would take more than a nod" from
some Flfl to make me throw out my
chest but I suppose the French people
has their own way of being amused, po
Tin Is coming Into great prominence, a
cording to tho papers."
"I don't think that she Is half so happy
as a girl llko you," sold the Head Bar
ber.
"If you have got It Into your head that
life Is a aweet song for me you can vet It
right out again," said the Manicure Lady.
I don't see where you figure that 1 am
a chirping songbird, George, I have had
to dig away at noils all summer, barring
a little two-weeks' vacation, and It looks
like a long, hard winter, too. Look at the
difference between one day In the life
of Flfl, the Paris doll, and a day in tha
llfe of me, the beautiful manicure lady,
"In the morning I arise, the same as
She does, but there our roads divulge, an
the novelists soy. I take a bath, but not
In champagne, tfo. George, not even In
domestlo ohampagne. Water right from
tho faucets, any temperature I want It,
to be ture, but Just water. Thon I dress
hastily and breakfast on some American
bread, toasted, an"1 & couple of dainty
pork chops. Then I. am whirled away in
the sibWay to' my office, where nearly
as many- geftts.-sptaks 'tjj, me in a 'day
as speak to "Kfl.' and Just abouOus dippy
gents, too. 1 don't haVo any mall to
answer, much, and If I ever Kot a ride
along- the, B6ls dit Bologna I wouldn't
know how to hold. ny hands. After a
long day listening to simps that don't
know what ocean flan Francisco Is on,
I am whirled away again on the soma
subway, and so home to dinner, where
I usually spend 'the ..'evening iltb. tho
bid folks,"
"You are better off than FUl Just the
same," dectafed the Head ' Barber. "You
haven't got a name like hers, anyhow."
"No," .weed tho Manicure Lady. "I
suppose the neighbors drf talk-'about her
something scandalous." t
Anatomical 'Difficulty.
"John." said Miss Mary to hfcr new
cook, "can you cut up. a chicken?"
"Yaa'm, yaa'm, Miss -Mary, 'deed X
can." ,V
He was left to his work.; Mjs Mary
returned to the kitchen later to see hoyr
things were salna. . '
"Are you retting along all right John?"
"Yaa'm Miss Mary I done cut off the
wings, an' do legs and de neck, but for
de life ob me I can't manage de st'umlch
decently." National Mpntbly
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