fHE BEE: OMAHA, THURSDAY, AUGUST 14. 1913. he (g e c ne fylafa z, i re p)a Dorothy Dix's Article On Vanity of Men They Are and Far More Susceptible to Flattery. By DOROTHY DIX. Hccontly the papers contained the sad Intelligences of the tetloUg wounding of t young man whose throat was cut by hi three-story collar. Tho account of this deplorable ac cident say that the man Is what Is known as "a swell dresser," and that In particular he has a nock butlt upon such liberal and glraffc-llko lines that he can wear a collar of such alti tude that It Is the lespalring envy of all tho other youns men of his ac quaintance. A few mornings ugo, re splendent In all his shining expanse of white linen, In at tempting to get off a street car his foot slipped, and he received a bad fall, as n result of Which the sharp edges of his collar penetrated his neck, Inflicting two gashes that required tho Borvlccs of a doctor. ' This Incident scores one against man for self-sacrificing vanity, for no woman has yet been choked to death by her collar, though many a Bhort-nccked woman has found out what that versa In the Blbio means that Bays, "He, being in torment, lifted UP his eyes." The truth Is that men have talked sol much about women's vanity that we have come to tlilnk that the fair sex monopolizes this Weakness. Far from It. Men are Just as conceited about their looks as women are. Of course, they haven't as good an opportunity to show It, because unkind fate has narrowed them down to a Spartan simplicity in the way of personal adornment, but what they have they make the most of. No debutante, fustlng over her first' party frock, wag ever p particular as ft man about his neckties. Ho doesn't hesitate to consign half a dozen white ones to the scrap basket If he musses them In tlelng or falls to get tho proper bow, while no amount of family affec tion would induce him to wear a home made one. There are places he couldn't be dragged to by wild horses unless ho had on an evening suit, nor could you aell him a hat whose crown was an in finitesimal degree lower or higher than every other man's hat, even If you threw In a chromo with It. Observe the pains he takes to show his fancy socks and note that the crease In his trousers Is never off his mind for a .single, instant. In the theater, In the car. In the parlor, the moment he gets Mated he begins hitching at his trousors. to preserve that raxor edge, and It is worse than useless to attempt to engage his attention until It has been tenderly lettled In place. Nor It is just as awful and heart breaking a thing for a tailor-made frock to bag at the knees as It Is for trousers j but you never see a woman In publlo ! pending her time pulling at a seam In her skirt. Out the most amusing and child-like exhibition of vanity of which men are ever guilty Is when one Is told that he looks 'like some famous man, and goes iround forever after In a ridiculous pose, trying to emphasize the resem blance. Think of the commonplace young men we have all known who cultivated a distraught air, and a pale and melan choly countenance because some indis creet person had detected a fancied re semblance between -them and Booth. . Recall the pompous gentlemen whose principal object In life seems to be to cultivate a pair of whiskers and tell you how they were taken for Chauncey De pen, or tho excessively EngltslvAmeri ean who develops an Ingrowing British accent, and spends his days and nights Imagining he loons like King George. This is a rr.ase Jf vanity that Is ex clusively masculine, A woman's vanity never reaches the pitch of understudying celebrities. Men are much vainer than women about their personal charms. A man's belief In his powers of fascination never wavers, lie never grows too old, nor .too fat, nor too bald to arrogate to him- self admiration that a woman in her palmiest days would hardly dare to claim. The elderly millionaire, though he be the homllest of his sex, can see no reason why he shouldn't fire the fancy, Sequel To Love For Maternal Inttinct Greatly Developed by Teaching Children to Lovo their DolU. The little child's doll Is mother to the most romantic fairy. And In the years that pass, the doll fides Into the petals of a June rose, to erolre the most won drous of all transformations. And now comes a more serious period Joy of real motherhood shouli zi tranquil as best effort can provide. - This 1 accomplished with a wonderful remedy known as Mother's Friend, an ex ternal application so penetrating In it cxture as to thoroughly lubricate every cord, nerve, mnicle and tendon involved. There will be' so pain, none of that taqtea or morning sickness, no sensation or distress or strain of expanding muscles. The nerves, too, will be calm, thus making the period on of restfnl days, of peaceful tights and a source of bipplest anticipation. . The young, expectant mother mutt w care fully watchful lest she become absorbed In those mental distresses which Illy prepare Her for the most important event In her life. Mother's Friend enables her to avoid all sestatlon of dread, worry or pain, and thus 'le is preserved In health and strength to ..".e up toe Joyful task of motherhood. Icu will find Mother's Friend on sale at t,l drug stores at S1.00 a bottle. Do not fall to umi It regularly as directed. Write to-day to Brsdfield Itegulator Co.. 135 Lamar Bldg., Atlznta. Oa. for their most valuable tittle guide book for expectant mothers. su mm j m wm mm 1 be Just as Conceited as Women and come up to tho Ideal of budding six teen. In his own eyes he Is, now and forever, the embodiment of all the manty charms and graces, and he can never bo persuaded that any woman wouldn't huvo the time of her life sitting around looking at him and listening to him. A woman, on the other hand, is taught from her cradle that Bhe may only hope to Inspire love while she Is young and at tractive, and when her glass tells her that this Is no longer the case she looks with distrust on tho man who asks her to marry him. Of course, there have been cases whoro rich did women have married mere boys, but their Insane Jealousy of their young husbands proved that tho women knew that tho men mar ried them for their money. The rich old man, however, who mar ries a young girl is troubled by no such doubts, Ills bride may yawn In his face, and shrink from his touch, but he never suspects that she had any other object in" view than pure unadultreated affec tion In marrying him. A man shows his superior vanity to woman In the way he talks about him self. He thinks nothing of spending an entire evening In a monologue about himself, his business, his amusements, what he said to so and so, and what they said to him, etc. but no woman would dnro to try to talk to a man for thirty minutes about her dressmaker and her affairs. Sho knows that at the end of five minutes he would get up and beat It away from her presence. Men aro much more susceptible to flattery than women are, A woman looks a gift compliment In the mouth, but a man will swallow any kind of a Jolly hook, bait and. sinker. That Is what makes men the prey of the adventuress, and amenable to the tactful wife, who knows how to Judiciously spread the salve. Through their vanities are men worked, and we could better sparo a bet ter quality. It men were not vain but, thank good ness, they arc! Manners in the Home By MRS. FRAMC LKARNED. Author of "The Etiquette of New Tork Today." Parents are conscious of the Importance of teaching their children good manners, but very often they forget that children arc quick to detect inconsistencies. If the parents fall to observe the courtesies they are trying to teach there will be dif ficulty In Instructing children. If parents are careful to thank children for any little attention. If they ask a favor of them always In courteous terms, II they reply pleasantly to their ques tions ond never Indulge In the rudeness of answering In monosyllables, or pay ing no attention to questions, then the children will learn to be caroful In their own manners. Children Imitate their parents In word and deed and are sus ceptible to tho Influence of their looks, voices and manners. The resentment chil dren sometimes feel In being required to observe formulas Is because they find these things disregarded by older persons In the family. Parents, therefore, have to discipline themselves before they can train their children. This may some times require the courage to acknowl edge a mistake for it Is as Important to say "I was mistaken" or "I beg your pardon." as to say "Thank you." Conscientious parents know that there can be no training In haphazard meth ods, or by laylqg down maximums and precepts ana that It Is not by claiming to be infallible that they can hope to In fluence their children, but by showing that they are striving toward high standards of conduct. If the home atmos phere is that of peace it Is sure to pro mote contentment. If there is the every day graclousness of speech and action the Influence cannot fall to foster kind ness and conslderateness. There will not be the mere super-field! politeness, but the true' graclousness of life, a grace which is deep and enduring. Home, in its true sense. Is the training ground for JIfe. The years at home are most important because habits are being formed which will influence the entire future. It la there that we learn to fill Little Bobbie's Pa We got a other new, hired gurl. Her naim la vera. Ma sea u is a prmy nalm, but I think It Is a- funny nalm for a hired gurl.' Hired gurls used to be called Bridget & Nora & thay was good hired gurls, too. But things Is different now. The last three hired gurls we had was Marguerite & Sylvia & Belladonna, & now we have Vera. Bhe is vary prttty. Pa sed she had dreemy eyes & Ma sed It was from sleeping too sound that her eyes was dreemy. Vera Is rltelng a- play. Bhe wuddent tell Pa & ila that she was rltelng It, but she toald me, so I promised her that I wuddent say a word to Pa & Ma. The nalm of the play la Alone In Mlddletown, & It tells about a. bullful yung gurl that fell In luv with a keeper In the Middle town insane asllum. He was a vllyun. The gurl goes to Mlddletown to see him beekaus he had toald her that ho owned a grate big estate. Jle took the gurl to the asllum & toald bar that all the In sane peepul thar was his servants. She beleeved htm at tret and then the hor ribel truth dawned on her. Then she sed In poetry to the y'lyun: You have me at yure mercy here Of that thare ain't no doubt; I think I shall go bughouse, deer. If you don't get me out. I'd rather be a peasant's bride Sc housekeep In a hut Than wed a chump In this here dump & get to be a nut Then Vera told roe. the finished the first act- The curtain goes down wen she Is reading htm lines to the vllyun. The second act is the salm as the first. In the asllum. One of the pashunts thare Isent crazy at all, he Is a rich young man wlch is beelng Uep In thare so his relatives can git all his munny He falls in luv with the poor gurl wlrh Is being held thare by the vllyun & tells her that they will find some way to escape. 8he looked up Into his eyes & reeslteda other peeee of poetry she rote. Vera tonld ipe Vera ed -,at the longer the hero ne stayed In (lfe Lady Constance Stewart Richardson Tho first fig ure is a dainty and simple jxiso, but it works beauti fully into any of tho dance that are so 1-opulnr today, for, as ho nil know, dnnclug Js coming into its own, and 6no of Uio most beautiful and widely neg lected arts is now making a place for itself. By IiADT CONSTANCE STEWART RICHARDSON. Copyright, .1913. by International News Service. When I was a child of 11 I used to go out In the gardens of my English home and study the statues and statutcttes that decorated It.' For hours at a time 1 UBed to copy the poses of those lovely classi cal statues, and I found the greatest entertainment and Joy In trying" to Imi tate those beautiful poses. This was the beginning of my dancing,, and from the taste I acquired for classical pose and movement has come, I feel sure, what ever measure of bodily grace is mine. Dancing Is essentially, feeling, and the expression of that feeling welling up In movement and rhythm. It makes for grace and for strong, healthy bodies as no other form of exercise can, because no other form of exercise Is as univer sally possible,- as entirely within the reach of all, as this natural expression of the poetry wo all have down In our natures. Today I am giving you two exercise that express the Joy of living to a won derful extent and give the body much to rejoice In, for they .make for grace, for lightness and for the universally desired bodily beauty. The first figure Is a dainty and simple pose, but It works beautifully Into any of the dances that are so popular today, for, as we all know, dancing Is coming our place In relation to others; there that wo learn respect for authority and obedlencee to law and order. It Is In the home that we learn In childhood the necessity of' self-control, the Importance of truthfulness, dutlfulness, unselfish ness, sympathies and courtesy. Wo learn to make concessions, to give up Insisting on having our own way, and we learn to look at things from the point of view of ether people. Boys and girls who are taught high Ideals of conduct In the home will not fall to exercise kindness and courtesy toward their companions. As they grow to manhood and womanhood they will feel bound to show their best homo training In their Intercourse with tho world, out of respect to themselves and the dear family life. The home life may be but a memory, distant In the years, but the Influence will never be lost. aailum the moar portey she rote, Bhe looked up Into the eyes of the hero & reesltcd. Oh yes, I will fly away wIthyou And marry you for luv. Ture munny all jean stay with you, I have no use, for It, duv. But what If you mite be Insane & not what you represent? Then to this place I wud return & be sorry I ever had went. If you are reely sane my own. ' Our lives will pleasant be. ,K 'l.!xxnx nlle rd hr you trroan Id hide away from thee. It is a awful, haunting feer To feer one's husband Is dippy. &.!r. Mv1 e you thus III Jump In the Mississippi, The last act Issent finished yet. Veru toald me. She Is prttty .smart for a-hired gurl. She says wen she gits rich I can marry her wen I grow up. Pointed Paragraphs The matrimonial odds are two to one. The talkative man is an automatlo self.entertalner. To try to look . Intelligent is easier than making good. Borne of us might be better husbands If we had better wives, A man never boasts of his will power if his wife Is around. One way to avoid a quarrel Is to be absent at the physchologlcal moment. If a man has too muoh money It's no task at all for him to acquire more. Between two evils It Is better to marry for money than for a chance to get even. Pew men are willing to take good advice if It Is free, also they hate to pay for It The enterprising summer girl has no uha tor the vjunc man who wamIai hii t me kissing her hand FIGURE- TWO. into its own, and one of the most beaut!- (IB) may be learned with the support of ful and widely neglected arts Is now a wall, but It should be worked out in making a place for Itself. This figure such perfection that It can be done with Dr. Montesorri's "Little Other Mother" By ELBERT HUBHARW Not long ago In Chicago I attended a monthly meeting of school principals. On this particular occasion an address was given by Ella Flagg Young on tho subject of "The School." In these schools, Instead of placing so much stress on books and memo risation of rules, the children are simply kept em ployed, and their occupation Is changed from time to time before any one thing becomes monot o n o u s or wearisome. It was found that many of the chil dren were suffer ing from malnutri tion, and It was believed that many of their mental difficulties arose from physical Ills, A luncheon was provided In the middle of the morning, and the subject of dietetics and oral rlghteouaners had close attention, ''Attached to these schools was a super vised playground, and In some Instances school gardens Much of the time was spent out of doors. "It was discovered," said Mrs. Young, "that it required a better quality ot teacher In this work than In teaching children who were normal." Mrs. Young ended her very Interesting talk with the wonder why the same methods, the same care, and the same fine Insight Into the needs of the pupil could not be brought to bear in nil the schools of Chicago, Instead of favoring the children who -were regarded as Unfit. Dr. Maria Montesorrl Is an 'Italian school teacher. Her first business was that of nurse. She held a government position and had the care of defective children. This brought the question of educa tion sharply before her mind. The con ventional methods not being satisfactory for abnormal children, she devised a method of her own. A little later It came to her as a great gleam of light that her method In teaahing abnormal pupils was the best possible plan also for the normal. Dr. Montesorrl has now established In Italy, under government supervision, a chain of schools In which her methods are being carried out It promises to be as big an evolution In school teach ing us was worked out by Arnold of Ilozby -and then died with him J The second figure (211) Js an exercise that must bring to the body the lightness of flying, and fvhon once it in mastered you will find that you have true grace nt your command. Dr. Montesorrl builds on the work of Froebel and Ptsstatoxxl. Pestalozzl was a Bwlss; born In 17 and died in 1UT. Froebel was a German, born In 17S2 and died In 18S2. The work of both of these masters was carried on Independently of the gov eminent, and both were .visited with the hostility of the ruling classes. Froebel and Pestalozzl held to the divinity of the child; and while they did not openly make war an the dogma known as "Total Depravity," yet mbst certainly they never repeated the dictum that the child was conceived In sin and born In Iniquity. Within a very few years the entire civilized world has ceased the whipping and beating of children, and this through the acceptance of the doctrines of Froe bel and Pestalozzl. This Is the way that social evolution takes place ly be ing accepted by those who Successfully fought It. First, we say the thing Is contrary to the Bible. Next, we say it makes no difference one way or tho other. Third, we say we always believe It. Men fight for a thing and lose, and the men they fought take up the Issue that they opposed, and carry It to vic tory under another name. Switzerland and. Germany are now taking the lead In matters of educutlon; and Dr, Montesorrl. Swiss by patronage, and Catholic by birth. Is uniting with the government to bring about the things that the governments of Italy. Switzer land and Germany once fiercely com bated. The primal care of Dr. Montesorrl Is for the health of the child. She quotes Herbert Spencer, "The first requlBlto Is to be a good animal." Bhe recognizes that the child has to pass through the same stages that nations puss through. The child has the savage, the nomadic, the agricultural and the commercial periods. "Happiness," says Dr. Montesorri, "Is the greatest asset In life." Happy people are those who are em ployed In useful and congenial occupa tion, and suoh are always well. The business of Dr. Montesorrl Is her schools Is to keep the children pleasur ably employed. She gives tho child the right to freely explore Its environment. Every baby, as spon as It can creep, begins to Investigate. It testa every thing, tastes everything, tries everything, and makes Itself acquainted with every thing in the room. Then It travels to othtr rooms, It goes upstairs, and per haps rolls downstairs; but again It tries, There Is something up there that it wants to see, Children want to climb ladders climb trees, climb heights. They On How to Acquire a Beautiful Figure Through Dancing -.J nbsoluto poise. It will strengthen weal; ankles and Insteps while it la developing power for grace In arms and legs. Here Is my method of , practicing It; Point the toes of tho right foot straight for ward and balance the weight firmly on that foot. Now, raise tho left leg slowly from the floor, keeping the foot almost at right angles to the other foot. I.I ft the arms slowly, keeping the right arid held In one continuous line, while the left Is curved at tho elbow and raised at the wrist. The fingers aro held lightly and well apart. The whole body inclines lightly toward the left Whrn the left arm and leg are expressing theygreater amount of action, and when the weight falls In the alternate pose 1 always recommend the body sways to the raised right foot. ThU exorcist, like all othsr dancing movements, must express lightness and Joy, for dancing is dancing only when It comes as an expression of & happy spirit. In this, ns in so many danc ing move ments, the figure must be pofseVl lightly on the ball , of the foot. It must express personality and yet con form to true Ideals of grace and beauty, and thus In time It will bring the body to grace and beauty, too. The second figure (IB) Is an exercise that must bring the body the lightness nf flvinr. and when once It Is mastered you will find that you have true grace at your command. In this, as in so mnv dentins movements, ths figure must bs poised lightly on the ball of the foot. Just such simple movements as poising the body lightly on the toes nr hall of the foot will help avoid civili zation's arch enemy, flatfoot. and will help In the acquisition of a light, springy walk. rntid thn limlv llehtlv on the right foot, with a aeneral Inclination toward the rioht. Stretch the right arm up and out and droop the left arm from unouiuer to Just below the waist In. one long curve. Even while the body Is swaying in thl. nnaltlnn. lift the left leg from the hln and away It backward from tne xneo, making one lino from knee to toes ana brlnirlnr the foot almost on a level with the knee, Now stand on the left foot and .. 1 .... - , .. .1.1. t n miAm Thts exercise la by no means easy to mmter. but there Is no movement of which I know that can be more abso lutely counted on to bring the figure Into the long, graoeful, undulating- lines we all so much admire. want to see the top of the house, as well as the cellar. This natural bent of curiosity and desire, to know, to see, to understand, la the basis ot education. Dr. Montesorrl uses a negative except ln,'oases of positive vice or present dan ger. She never rebukes a child for rudeness or Impoliteness. If tho child Is doing the wro'nK' thing, she gently en courages it toi do something else. If the child wants to- stand on a chair In order to see out of tho window, by all means she lets the child work out hi own problem. If thoro Is. a band playing on the street all of 'Iter children get up' and run to see the band and hear the music The Impulses to know what 1b being done, to be familiar with your surround trigs are elements of power. In a Montesorri school, the children work, talk, play, prepare their meats , ,"V . T 1 . . - . .11. , , inane wimr piunn, lunrii iu wuiu inci dentally and accidentally through desire and not through compulsion. Dr. Montesorri takes children from years old up. She utilizes the service of the older children In caring for thq young thus carrying put JToebel's idea of the' "Little Other Mothers."' .This' Is the natural way, lit a big fam lly where tlie.ro are no servants, for there the older chldrn care for the younger ones. Thus they get an educa tlon out of their work, at thoir work. which Is thi natural way, after all. Advice to Lovelorn By BEATRICE FAIRFAX Make No Such Effort, Dear Miss Fairfax: I am 17 and deeply li- love with a man three years my senior. Will you please let me know' how I can gain his love? p, M, M. I am concerned with your happlnes when I Insist that a girl ot 17 is too young for love. And though you were older, I would give the same answer to your question. Man's love Is won without effort. Tht, girl who tries to win a man Is seldom so skilful she conceals her purpose. Th man" who sees he Is pursued is both Mat ured and disgusted. And seldom cap tured! Trent Hint tun Hume. Dear Miss Fairfax; I am x, and have been keeping company for about eight months. We bad an argument and separated. Now for about two months we have been reconciled, but he seems rather distant. What would you advise me to do? . GWENDOIA'Iy. Evidently his wrath Is still smoulder ing, which Indicates a sullen, resentful disposition. Don't worry, my dear, if you lose him. It will prove a gain in the end ' Suns and Electrons 1 -.J By EDGAR IjUCTBN IiAItKIN. Measuring the distance from the earth to the A star, finally accomplished In by the great astronomers Bessel and Henderson: Uessel measuring the dls tnnce of the star slxty-ono cygnl In the northern, and Henderson the star Alpha. Centavrl In the southern hemlsphero. , from that year until 1910 was oonsldered by all of the scientific men of the world as tho greatest work of human mind and hand. Then In 1910 Mllllkan wrought a mighty work that at once took ranis with the achievement of measuring stellar distances. This was the claaslb artd forever historic work of Isolating 1 and weighing one electron. The three famous men handled trillions; for thai one, cygnl are twenty-flvo and one-half I trillion, and forty-four trillion miles re spectively. And It man could forco eleo- Irons Into contact, an Impossibility. since they repel, then a,, row of one Inch' long would contain twelve and three' quarters trillions. For billions are al most Ignored by modern researchers. Sun earth's orbit, and two posi tions of the earth at Intervals ot six months. 8 Is the star whose dis tance from tho earth Is sought. I made a very crude attempt to out lino the process ot weighing an electron In The Bee several weeks ago; and will try to .slva a faint trace of an account of how tho distance of a star woo finally measured after centuries of most diffi cult work. All know that a surveyor desiring to measure the distance of o tree, house dr mountain peak, without going to them, must first measure s straight line and also tho angles or di rection of the distant object from each end, of bis base line. The object, say s summit, may be a nundred miles away In modern work, and the distance mca sured with great precision. But stellat distances are so enormous that astrono mers discovered they had no base line of anywhere near sufficient length. The diameter ot the earth was so minute that It was almost exactly zero, and could not be of use. Then after w hundred years of trial the distance of th" sun was measured, and this line, 92,682,000 miles long, was eagerly neleoUd as a base. Then they took twice the sun's distance, that Is the entire diameter of the earth's orbit or path around the sun. Too short, so minute that It was al most Impossible to measure It in com parison with tho distance of ib, star, by means of the most accurate micrometers'. That Is, as In the cut, two lines draws from opposite ends of the diameter of the earth's orbit were parallel on every star they attempted to measure, Year after year the plan waa adopted, and no measurements found. No te-lemU crometer could detect any conveyance 61 the lines AX and BY; that Is, the dis tance from A to B, 189,000,000 miles, Is sa short that no measureoble angles could be detected at A and B. Finally a new plan, tluit of trlangulatlan, was devise, or of measuring many angles from theli star a to other stars Immensely mors, remote as the stars C, D, & V and 5. And also from CtoD, D to E, CtoO, V to G and so on, securing an many an gles as possible In the six months, ot while the earth moved around from A ta B, Finally, after years of arduous work; A. Centavrl was observed to be displaced among the' comparison stars l.B seconds' of arc, and 61 Cygnl .82 of one second; or, what Is the same, the value ot 1S8, 000,000 miles A B as seen from thee ntars. In the drawing A B Is 1H-Inch, and' the distance of the nearest star it 153, OM times greater than A 11 In space, or three miles In the cut No wondet that AX and BY should appear to b parallel In any microscope. But this crowning achievement of tin genius of man, as great as it Is, would subsldo Into Insignificance, In compari son, with a discovery of one faint clue to the nature of mind. Lowe Observatory, California, V. S. A Eating Candy Latest Method to Fight Fat (From Weekly Graphic.) When baths, exercise and starvation fall, the over-fleshy are now advised to eat a boronlum jujube aftor each meat. It's the newest way to fight fat From all reports It appears to be a uuocessful. as well as safe and easy method. Thb Jujube, which is quite palatable. Is usod to convey the extract ot a certain alcae found growing, on rocks in the oceari. This extract Is said to have the effect ot removing fatty obstructions and clearing tho natural ducts of oily secretions, Already the demand for these boranlum Jujubes is something remarkable, accord Ing to one ot the leading druggists. It the new fat reducer will do ail that is claimed for It, the German chemist who Is given the credit for this unlquo method will not soon be forgotten. Certain it is that many thousands have been cry l"k for something whirh would really take off flesb, and do this without a lot of work and worry on their par Adver1-tlsement 5 Arc fl i J V I t 1 x ft U & 7 x