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if he mh JLWjIS: OMAHA, WhlhNivMJAl, Jiiji ;J i.U.J. age Courtesy A Virture All Should Cultivate By ELLA "WHEELER WILCOX " Copyright, 1913, by Star Company. Jl young man employed In one of the jnany places which contribute to the wel fare of the public. In the great new rait Toad station at Forty-second and Park nvenue, new xont, "was asked by a jmtron ot nis ae- . . . . . f llllvlll. nnvuivi I the trains, to New Haven went from' the upper -or lower level. He answered brusquely that he did not know; that she could find out by going to the In quiry bureau on the floor above. HI a department was separate from that, ho said. .The ji-'t r o n tin official (tfiin a few feet of the young man wno lnutcaiea too way. ' 'Tf T nnKWArtd nil t Vin nnfttnna fui1(rl ttie In ajflay," the younp man said, "I "wrjuia nave nq lime 10 atienuno ray own I breath arid energy In being disagreeable 1 than ho tWpuld ,iiavo required in obtaining inormatiori apput au tne trains in tno urana wjurai station. J There .lire.' 'two levels In that sta lion, tno UDner ana the lower. . The Now Haven & Hartford trains and those passing on to Boston are an Im portant line, and almost any youth of orainary intellect, or less than ordinary, would naturally learn In a few days' lime irom wnicn level they started, es pecially If his business Was In sight of ' i i i i Not to possess suoh Information In his ..position betokened a lack of observation and Interest In occurrences crmtlmmitv .taking placo about him that bespeaks ianuro ror tne young man in anything he , undertakes: and If he knew and refused the Information becauso he did not like to be questioned on subjects not pertain ing to his business, then his disposition 'Is one to attract failure, npt success. It took' many words' for him to tell the .lady that. he did not know and that It J'fras not his business to know what she Wished to know. It would have required Just two words to answer her queatlon, had he known, "upper level" or 'lower levol," and, with a smile added, the lady Would have gone her way, thinking what a Pleasant youth he was, Instead of thinking what she did think about him. f Tin ten -years" time this yoWwill "be a man In his full prime somewhere in his thirties and he will be wondering why he ; has not got on in the world; and hu will say he has had no "Influence," no "pull," and that others have been advanced over him through "favoritism," and he will make a hundrod excuses for his failure , to arrive, when the real fault will lie entirely with, himself. The work this youth was doing re quired no great Concentration. He was not absorbed in some difficult math ematical problem, and he had many mo ments when ho was doing nothing at nil eavo waiting for people to serve. There- foro he had no excuse for not using his eyes and ears to learn a small yet im portant fact about the big station; and he had no excuse for not Imparting the In formation asked save a lack of develop ment ot kindness and couretsy. h I ' f ?m t.h8 mo8t menla t0 the most T ,klnAn courtesy are rnost valuable assets for human beings to possess. They are great factor, in ' Observation is another factor; and the habit of using odd, unoccupied moments In learning something that will be of value to ,one:s self, or others laterthat too( Is a habit which leads to the road" of success. It Is a better habit than that ot watch ing the clock for fear of working five jnlnutes overtime. And still another habit Is of vast value on that road-tho habt of smiling and speaking in an agreeable tone of voice In the small dally occurrences of life. Each one of pse. is subjept to.annoy- -iSli, .1,RV,?g PeopI,J a,k wwtloni which,. Jt Is not our provlnco to answer; but when we fall to give the Informa tion desired we can glvo something better fttlmes by the bestowal of a pleasant look and manner. The Base Ball Fan-nie Copyright, 1913, National News Service. By Nell Brinkley Resin ol Resiool for skin health RESINOL Ointment and Res inol Soap stop itching t'n atantly and soon restore the akin to perfect health, in even the wont caacs of eczema, rash, ringworm, tetter or other tormenting, unsightly eruptions. Prescribed by physicians for over eighteen years. Reslnol Ointment Is also a most effective antiseptic, healing dressing for cuts, bums, scalds, braises, blUs, stincs.chsnngs, 4 c Tb DMrmt druyirfit tells lUslnol Olnt mnt(Oeand SLO0)aal RlnolSopQc) or you can try them free by writing to Dept. M-S, Rastaol. Baltimore. Md, for liberal sample of each. Tills is me and I'm with Tnd and didn't ho have to answer a lot of foolish questions, oh! Hut ho never pooped once. What strikes you most about her Is that she makes herself so "at home." Hat off eo the air can keep the top, of her pretty bead cool; her parasol leaned, against tho railing; her own, slouched down In tho mid dle of her back, which health-preachers say Is bad fot ..us, but which Is Hero is a fat, pretty woman I saw at tho game. Iter hankie hat looked llko a postago stamp. Thcso two were at the game, too, but why I don't know they hardly over noticed it. mighty comfortable; in ono hand a fan fluttering hard llko a butterfly the only thing about her that works; In tho othor hand a tall, frosty glass, or a tall, cool bottle the prickly liquid inside it going via a double straw to her lips that only stop drinking long enough to gurglo, "Good boy, Matty!" , , . rr V Mental Virtue By DR. C. II. PAItKiniRST NexUto knbwlng how to behave, the best thing a schoolboy can learn Is how to think straight. The mind Is a machine and of no value to a person unless he knows how to work it. If threo men fire at a mark and only one hits it It shqws that two of them do not know how to shoot. The fault Is probably not with their rifles, but with their not knowing how to handle them. In the same way the fault Is not with our minds, but with not having learned to use them. The mind, every man's mind, Is the very finest sort of a ma chine; It is as deli cate a piece of ap paratus as God ever made. It Is the ap paratus by which wo are able to know things. It we work it right, we shall know things aa they are. If we work it wrong, we shall know things as they are not, that Is, we shall not know them at all, only think that we know them. Knowing what is not so makes out the larger part pf some people's knowledge. We get our minds out of order by try ing to make them think in a way that Is not natural to them, exactly as any ma chine of wood or Iron can be damaged if put to a speed other than that at which It was constructed' to run. We do this when, Instead of' letting our thinking take its easy and natural course, we frame our convictions out of our pre ferences and prejudices and then force our thinking into a track that will lead up to thoxe convictions. We in this way wreck the honest -disposition of our Intellect by whipping it J Into a He, and when we have once made it a liar there is no relying upon what it will tell us afterward. A very considerable part of what wo call our opinions Is nothing more than our desires put in the form of dogmatic propositions. That Is to say that we believe principally what we want to be lieve and then amuse ourselves and dig nify our desires by labeling them our in telligent convictions. And it Is becauso people have different kinds of desires and not because they have Imperfect minds or different klpds of minds that there exists in the wbrld such a wide diversity of opinions. If the matters In regard to which we have con victions were of no personal concern to ourselves, and if It made no difference to us personally whether a certain thing is true or the opposite of it is true, and our minds therefore left to work in their own natural way, and no constraint of wish or preference put upon them, then the con viction which wo should arrive at would be a soundly intelligent one,- and we should all of us reach the same convic tion. Four times six are twenty-four. It makes no difference to anybody whether It Is twenty-five or twenty-four. In this case, then, the Intellect, being left free to run its own course, undiverted by prefer ence, moves straight to the truth; and there is no man, east or west, north or south, that does not come to the same result, provided only his mind has come to itself sufficiently to get into working order. All of this was expressed In a single paragraph by our Lord when He said; "If thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light" X man who has not himself sufficiently under control to be able to think without having his thoughts shaped or colored by his personal preferences might as well not work his mind or have any mind work to work with, so far as the value of his opinion Is concerned, whether in matters of science, politics or religion. r The Practice of Self-Control By MRS. FRANK LEARNED, Author of "The .Etiquette of Now York Tpd'ay." . Tn nny sphere of llfo 'self-control Is an Important element toward silocess and happiness. Control of mind Is , a factor toward overcomlnK the. ,tnderjcy. to be oversensitive, suspicious of ..tormented by imaginary slights. 'Sloping ancT.broodlng over fancied' grievances will never achlevo peace. (Sensitive. people who tako offense easily, are very difficult, to get on with. Wo are never sure "where to find them."' as the saying Is. 'They art constantly making exactions of tholr friends, calling them to account for cer tain delinquencies. Social life often requires tho making of concessions, the common sense not to construe the thoughtlessness of a friend Into an Intentional slight, or absent mind edness Into Indifference. Naturally, we feo) that something Is due between Inti mate friends, but even tn the case of In timates a margaln bf kindly concession must be made. The fear that one is not receiving sufficient attention from others Is an unpleasant form ot egotism. The many demands of social life oblige people not to hold ono another too seriously to account for delay In calling, for Instance. Among acquaintances de lay in calling, or returning calls, need not be taken as an Indication of a wish to be exclusive or an Intention to be neglect ful, Allowances have to be made for the fallings of others on this score. When an acquaintance calls after a lengthy delay It Is an Important courtesy to wel come her cordially, not to allude to any misunderstanding, to hasten to accept, in the kipdest spirit, any explanation which may be offend, not to dwell on the sub ject but pass oi) to other matters and to do this without permitting the shadow of a suggestion that she has been dilatory. It Is wise for the person making a de layed call not to be too profuse In ex cuses. Many reasons for delayed calls may be considered by the sensible person who la willing to make concessions toward friends. Absenco from home, Illness, en gagements, various homo duties, Interests In charitable or other work very absorb ing to one's time moy be among the causes for delay. The wish to have some leisure to pursue personal tastes may be another reason. While tho casting out of fretful griev ances Is of importance in daily life, con trol of temper Is a rule of life to be prac tlced by every well bred person. Jt Is well not to get too excited and to remember to close a door gently. "1 never knew any one who went about hanging doors and playing whirlwind to possess any influ ence whntever," said a wse woman. Thn practice of self control and com posure will havo an Immense effect on one's own manners and will be sure to mako a pleasing impression everywhere. To sit quietly, to keep the hands still, to walk calmly, these little things lend a. oharm to the person who has acquired thr-m. It Is salutary to take stock of ourselves and reoognlio our own shortcomings and try to remedy them. It Is good to get out f oiirseivns, to stop btlng self centered, to giyo up talking of ourselves and our grievances and to Jive In the sunshine of' cheerfulness and the breeze of larger Interests. Advice to the Lovelorn iiy BEATRICE FAIRFAX Let the Mnttrr End, Dear Mlas FVIrfai: I hn,i h ni ...... of meeting a young man at a pubUo dunce. He asked to soe me home and t consented. He made an appointment with ma inni wo uum eiv, vnen ne lett me he failed to set a definite time for & next inruuim, suying ne wouiu iry to visit a piace wnere i irequenteo, wow, ao you think that I should have anything to do with him in the form of writing, etc., or drop him, as I am positive that he never win visit mis piooer ANXIOUS. You are very sure he will not keep any appointments he makes, so why concern ourself about him? Ijpt the acquaint ance drop before It is more serious. Ten Commandments of the Summer Visitor -.J By DOROTHY. D1X. Invito not thyself to thp houso of nn ether, oh, my daughter, for If so be thy friend hungcretti and thlrstcth for thy society she will nrlsa and send to thee n writing bidding theu to como straight way to her abodo. Yea, sho will send for thec swiftly by means ot the telegraph and the night letter, and If so be sho holdeth her hand, tako that for a sign which never falleth that she wanteth thee not. 2 Accept not an Invitation from n man to tarry and stay at his house until It liath been O. K.'d by his wife, for verily 1 say unto theo that no man luitli authority within his own home. no. not so much as to give a bone to a stray dog. It Is the wife and the wife's people, and the wife's friends who have dominion over tho spare bed room. 8 When thou vlslteth cant not the goo- goo eyes at thy hostess son, nor upon hor molo relatives, nor upon her husband, for It Is written that she that snar eth tho fancy of the men of tho household shall bo invited there no more. 4 Forget not to tako In thy trunk thy curling Iron, and thy sewing tools, and thy post age stamps, and thy script for let ters; and all the things of whloh thou hast dally need, for a bor rower la an abomi nation and worse than the pestilence that destroyeth by night. 6 Incline thy heert unto tho amnse- monts that hath been prepared for thee, and make thy countenance mirthful, though thy soul fatntcth within thoo whon thy hostess nayeth, "Itojolco and be glad, for today wo go forth to picnic In tho woods, and to partako of squashed lemon pie flavored with ants." Likewise dis semble thy sorrow when sho trottath thoo to' the church sociable, or nalletir mAISB THEIR OFFSPUINQ, i 1 ammfHmmmmmm INVITia NOT TUYBKLF. DON'T STAY TOO LONG. thro to the card table until thy stotna-Ii turncth In despair and thy gorge rlseth In rebellion. 0 When thou vlslteth cast veracity to the winds, for verily truth hath no placo In u popular houso guest. Bay ot thy hostess' h o u s e. "Truly, this Is a. palace, fit for a king. Tell me, I p r.a y thee, what marvelous architect planned It?" Het upon thy breast and call heaven to wit ness that there was never such a view, though it be but as the view of a fly that Is caught -under a teacup. Fralso the beauty and the wit and the way the off spring of thy hos tess rectteth, and when thou departelh thy hostess shall say of thee, "Surely, here Is a woman of discernment, and will bid thee return again." 7 Conform thy ways to the ways of tho houso that thou vlslteth. Arlso whllo It Is yet night. It It be the custom of thy hosts, so that thou shalt breakfast with them, and give no trouble to the servants, for, behold, a hand-maiden In tho suburbs Is as prerlous as gold, yea, as fine gold, and ns difficult to keep. 8 If thou followoth a diet and eat eth of strange food prepared after an un godly manner, visit not at all, but hi thee to nrl Inn whera thou canst pay for tho t rouble thou glvest. Thus shalt thou savo thyself from being hated by thy friends, 9 Forget not to tip tha hand-maJden who wnltcth upon thee, for the button-hcr-up-ln-the-back Is worthy of hor hlr. 10 And It thou torgettest all of the other commandments of tho summer visitor, remember this, oh, my daughters Mako thy visit Short". Tarry tiot long In thy friend's house lest she be weary ot thee. Qo whle yet she cntreatcth theo to stay with her, for It Is better that th hostess should weep because thou goest than to shed tears because thou stayest. Selalil A Pledge of Spinsterhood By BEATRICE FAIRFAX "I am a youniWnian of 1," writes X Y. 55, "and In love With a girl ot 17 who has signed an. old-mold pledge, about whipu she seems to be serious. I have been pitying- lier attention fpr tho last bIx months, and would like to know whether to con tinue." Following Is the pledge of Bplrwtcrhood which this wise old dame of 17 has signed; "We, the undersigned, vow In all good faith that we shall, for tho convenience of ourselves and the good of tho world, live as old maids. "We, the said undersigned, do ngree that we will work honestly and faithfully until, If our lives aro spared, wo havo accumulated a sum requlslto for pur chasing and maintaining a small house lu the suburbs, whero tho sold under signed shall reside. "We shall have freedom to visit, enter tain, etc., such of our friends as we de sire. There Is to be no restriction, ex cept that wo shall deport ourselves In all mannerr, and under all circumstances. us ladles. "It Is also agreed by the undersigned that whtn we reach tho age of 40, with consent ot the majority, we shall each udopt a child from the asylum. If any of this charmsd and secret cir cle should commit tho grevlous error of marrying, the penalty will be expulsion from the aforesaid circle, and she must hand her fiance this pledge before tho committee to be torn up by the said fiance." The young have no sensa of humor. It requires adversity, humiliation, dUup polntment ond grief to make one philo sophical, and philosophy Is tho parent of wit. If the young had a sense of humor, X. Y. Z. would carry tills pledge about with him that he may have something to smile about whon things go wrong, and the glr who has signed It would laugh herself to death. What does it amount toT Iss than the papor it Is written ont Imagine, If you can, a lot of kittens agreeing what they will do and be when they ura old tabby cats! Conceive, It you can, of the kind of a girl who will deny herself tho frivolities of youth, tho pretty ribbons and feathers and clothes, the theater, the dance, tha love that Is looking her wuy, that she may some day havo a home In which she will enjoy tho glorious privilege of shriv eling up as an old maid! No girl makes that pledge for hersoif, my dear young man. Sho looks at tho other girls, and sees that they are plain, and not so attractive aa herself. "They know they will be old molds," every girls says, "and are making their plops so (hat It will look as It tbey wanted to be. Ot course, I'll sign the pledge. It may pleaso them and It won't hurt me!" And every girl signs, each with the secret Assurance that she will not bo an old maid They agree to. .deny themselves" that they may purchase a home. Thlp Is the storv of every irnod wnnmii'n Ufa. A. self. denial In tho hope that so mo day she may ijwii a name, uui it is a seu-uenioi mai is n joy iieoauHO it lias its origin; in love. A Woman ldves a man and sentences herself to a lifetime of srir-denlal When sho mar ries. She loves hor children, .and there after knows not what tho word "self" nutans. Hhe pinches aud tklmps. ojid scrapes und runkes over with "love's old sweet song" ringing In her ears, and knows neither dlscouragoinent nor regret. Hut can any ono Imagine. tbnt"tho same noblo effort and sacrifice aro cosslbla u.-lin tho goal is a homo where a lot of -splnittars may abldo Jn.abo"' ix nnfch beace as so mauy tabby oatst ruiiovn ,r... .. ; w ...Vf ,iij uyui jwuiih Il'IIIl, J'Olir sweetheart would work harder to sluy cm oi such a place than to enter it. It mo ossnru you that sho would know neither poocu of mind nor rest !f u thought for a moment that a homo with no ono In it but women won to bo her rofugo. If sho thinks so now, It is becauso sho Is 17. When sho Is 27 she will be In a panlo becauso her steps seem to he turn ing that way. Kncourago your sweetheart. It hsr know that whon she is safely whhlu Uio walls of this retreat, you will drlvo by with your wlfo some day and pernor namo ono' of your babies for her. It will prove a euro 'cure. THE ACID TEST BRIGHTS DISEASE 10 grammes Picric Acid 10 grammes Cltrlo Acid. Water to mako ono litre. Equal quantities of this reagent and specimen from case of Uright's Disease in test tube. In H hours, shjiw the percent age of albumen. IMt tho patient on FmI ton H Itenal Compound: Teat every fuw days for twenty, days and you will know to a certainty whother the- albumen is de creasing or not (As the albumen de creases the microscope commonly shows the casts also to be disappearing.) Thus that Fulton's lUjnai Compound lessens tho escape ot albumen and permits recov ery in many cosoa of Urtght'S Disease no one need dpubt. (Usually takes' from ten to twenty days to begirt to show.) Tho new agont Js a mild infusion with out opiates or heart stimulants. The sub stance ot tho formula surrounds each bottla Its action being on Renal degen eration preerriptlcms do not conflict. Commonly gets recoveries alone where there Is a fair heart arid resuperatlr powect ' With failure admitted- in chronic case oiv'lha' orthodox treatment, relatives of patients having Bright's Dlicaso owe It to themselves and tho pailenU to put tha above to tho test, Fulton's Renal Com pound can bo had at Sherman & McDon nell's, 16th and oDdge, 16th and Harney, S4tli and Fariuun and Hotel Loyal For pamphlet on our Investigation Into the curability of Qright'a litseas writs Jihn J Fulton Co., San Frunc'.sco.