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The
Moral Value of EtiQuette
Sunday
oodrormJKix
By Mrs. Frank Learned,
Author of "The Etiquette of New York To-day."
MME. CATALIERI nrrote last Sunday
an extremely able and raluablo
article on tbo skin and complexion,
and next Sunday she will bare another nr
tlclo In her Instructive and entertaining
scries. But there aro matters of Impor
tnnco to well-bred persons -which are not
touched by Mme. CaTallerl and -which may
be profitably discussed. Matters of good
form, the appropriateness and the "eternal
fitness" of things, the cultivation of charm,
the graces of agreeable manners, and tho
By Mrs, Frank Learned
Tarlous manifestations of good taste In
clothes, in habits, in speech, tho relations
of hostess and guests all theso and many
other similar topic trill be dealt tilth in
a scries of articles by Mrs. Ellin Craven
Learned. Sirs. Lcarncd's articles Trill be
published every second Sunday, alternat
ing with Mme. CaTallcrl's beauty articles.
Mrs. Learned Is a member of New York
and Newport society and Is the author of
tho well-known book, "Tho Etiquette of
Tiott York To-day'
THE true meaning of etlquotto, or
good form, may bo defined brlofly
by stating that it Includes tho
whole rango of good manners, good breed
ing and politeness. The essential thing
to understand Is that courtesy, considera
tion for others and unselfishness aro tho
sources from which good form springs.
True politeness comes from a kind heart,
a ready sympathy, an Instinctive tact, a
wish to pleaso, an unwillingness to hurt
another's feelings and a desire to put other
people perfectly at ease.
Although a kindly nature and an un
selfish spirit are never lacking in cour
teous behavior, a thorough understanding
of tho conventionalities of society help to
give a finish and completeness to the wholo
personality. Tact and natural refinement
count for much in one not accustomed to
society, but cannot supply tho want of
knowledge of what Is tho correct thing to
do under all circumstances.
We hear much and see much of tho
decadence of manners in tho present day.
In the haste and rush of modern existence
wo are in danger of losing many of tho
graces that .make life pleasant and har
monious. Wo are told that there 1b llttlo
time to practlso politeness and that tho
finer qualities of behavior have disappear
ed, or they are hidden beneath a mass of
characteristics which may be very practi
cal and useful but do not beautify life.
Many persons seem to imagine that it is
a credit to themselves to appear to be
always in a hurry, very busy, and that to
be leisurely is either old-fashioned or in
dicates a lack of engagements. They for
get that to take time to be polite is ono
of the requirements of good breeding.
Some personB say that mannors are now
"moro frankly selfish." This statement is
an absolute avowal of retrogression. Self
ishness always destroys progress of any
sort. Most persons are striving to Im
prove. Even the self-seeking should ro
member that good manners are an ele
ment of success in every career. Care
lessness in manners leads rapidly to rude
ness and soon tho careless person offends
others and becomes unpopular.
The optimist declares that although man
ners are less ceremonious than in the past
and are "somewhat hasty to match our
rate of motion," that the right prineiplo
remains, because good manners aro from
the heart and the hearts of the present
generation aro in the right placo. This
is a hopeful view. It may serve to re
mind the thoughtless that tho graces of
courtesy are tho outward and visible signs
of the inward graces which no one can
afford to lose.
Those who have advantages of genera
tions of transmitted culture, will, as a gen.
eral rule, be found to be courteous, affable,
and with a true simplicity of manner.
When one attempts to describe the charm
of a certain person it is something almost
intangible, vague and delusive. The per
son may not bo remarkable for beauty,
for brilliancy in conversation, or for great
Intelligence, but there 1b a rare graclous
ness in manner, a lack of self-consciousness
or effort, a conslderateneas and
thoughtfulnosa In overy word or action.
Social life has evolved necessary con
ventionalities. The present codo of good
form has been constructed from the cul
ture and refinement of years. Society at
lto best Bhould offer a high standard of
excellence and encourage an improvement
In mannors. If we aro to Hvo in harmony
and unity society must be made overy.
where a pleasant thing, and this is pos
sible only through obedlenco to tho laws
of that etiquette
which governs the
entire machinery and
keeps every thing
running along
smoothly and com
fortably. Tho dig
nity of the individual
and the comfort of
the community is the
object of these laws,
where each ono Is
treated with respect
and each ono Is too
b elf -respecting to
neglect social duties.
Those who disregard
these things show
that they aro not in
the ranks of the most
highly cultivated of
their time. Those
who are rude and
self - asserting pro
claim by their bad
manners the lack of
training as to obliga
tions which aro con
sidered binding on
well-bred persons.
P retentlousness
never deceives one
who Is well-bred.
The Celebrated Earl of Ches
terfield, Whose "Letters to Hi
Son" Are the CUnlc English Au
thority on Politeness. He Laid
Down tho Rule That "Manners
Must Adorn Knowledge and
Smooth Its Way Through tho
World."
Mrs. Dolly Madison, Now Fa
mous as the Most Graceful and
Courtly Hostess the White Houso
Evar Had. Her Manners and Ponu-
d esPp manert H
who recognize no His Second Term as President
distinction, or no
distinction worth noticing between good
and bad manners, aro themselves losers.
"Manners aim to facilitate life," writes
Emerson. "They aid our dealing and our
conversation. These forms very soon be
come fixed and a fine sense of propriety
Is cultivated with the moro heed that It
becomes a badgo of social and civil dis
tinction." ,
Thero is a right and a wrong
way of doing everything, no
matter how trivial this thing
may seem to be. The writing
of a note, the wording of an
Invitation or a regret, the man
ner of bowing, the way w
-walls In tho street, enter a
room, greet a guest sit at ta
ble all indicate the degree or
tho absence of good breeding,
tho knowledge or ignorance of
good form. Forms, ceremonies
and observances nre necessary,
therefore, not only to tho well
being of society but tho hnppl
ness nnd peace of mind of each
individual. Good manners and
good form may be acquired by
the constant practise at homo and in
society of the many small courtesies and
acts which will enable ono to gain a habit
of doing the correct thing.
Society in New York undoubtedly in
fluences the customs in other places and
is regarded as a representative source
of information. An increased value is bo-
Madame Recamler, the Most Charming Woman In History. By Attracting a Host of Brilliant
and Influential Friends She Aroused the Jealousy of the Ungallant Napoleon, Who Exile
Her, but She Triumphed Over Him, Returned to France, and Enjoyed More Influence
Than Ever After HI Downfall. Above Is the Photograph of Mrs. Frank Learned, Wh
Writes on Manners and Social Etiquette for This Newspaper.
The Gallant Sir Walter Raleigh, Who Won
the Confidence of the Great Queen Elisabeth
by the Grace with Which He Threw His Cloak
Over a Muddy Pool, and Lost His Head Un
der a King Without Manners or Heart
lng placed on otlquotte, or the proper ob
servance of social customs. Many peoplo
In our groat country havo boon occuplod
In making fortunes nnd they wish to know
what is oxpootod of them in their now
conditions. They wish to loam tho various
conventions about vlHltlng, leaving cards,
noto.wr'iting, travelling, customs at tho
table.
Thero is a growing domand for true
oducatlon in the hearts of men and wo
men all over tho land. They wish to
train thomsolvos and their children in a
wise and liberal spirit, to be guardians of
law and order, and they recognize that
manners and morals are closely connected;
in fact, that manners aro an expression of
morals and morals aro an expression of tho
law. They aro convinced that it Is only
by obedience to ovory small detail of law
in llto that a fine character can be do
volopod and that tho concroto -expression
of manners, that Is to say. In character,
Is tho crown and completion of every
life.
It has boon very beautifully said bj
the late Archbishop of Canterbury, In f1
lottor to a son at school, "Good mannerf
give tho laBt grace and finish to conduct
They are when perfect, tho vislblo fluwel
and bloom of inward excollenco which hat
bo taken possession of tho man as to per
vado his wholo being and color the
minutest details of Ufo. Thoy sweeten,
social intercourse and cohtrlbuto to hu
man happiness boyond all proportion U
tbo effort of solf-dlecipllnq which they
cost. The true man will remember every
moment of his life tho Scriptural precept
'Do courteous.'
cHan Irwin's
Making Sure.
THEY were on parade when the
Irish drill - sergeant stopped
dead In front of the newest re
cruit and eyed him steadily from top
to toe before ho burst, oat:
"Arrahl an' here's a nice state of
affairs. How dare ye come here and
stand before a dacent man lolke me
self covered In dust from head to
foot? Answer me when I spake to
ye I"
With knocking- knees tho now thor
oughly wretched' recruit endeavored
to squeeze In a few well-chosen
words of explanation, but his at
tempts were rudely overborne by a
further torrent of words from tho
sergeant who fairly bellowed:
"Ye would answer me, would ye?
Spake at your peril! Now, tell me, ye
spalpeen, what have ye been doln' to
ycr nice new unlformT"
Again tho bewildered recruit opened
a capacious mouth as a preliminary
to speech, but the violent voice 'of
his superior broke In once again:
"Take care!" he shouted. "Ol can
hear ye. If ye answer me when I
spakos to ye. I'll have' ye arrested for
Insolonce. An' If ye don't answer when
I spakes to ye, I'll send ye to the
guard-room for disobedience. So
molnd. I'll have ye both ways."
An Eye o Business.
"Prisoner at the bar," declaimed
the learned judge, "your offense Is of
such a nature that If you plead guilty,
I will let you off with a fine."
"Pardon me," and tho prisoner's
counsel popped suddenly up from his
seat. "Before we plead guilty, It
will be necessary for us to know ex
actly how much the fine will be."
"But this Is unprecedented, sir!"
exclaimed the Judge warmly. "You
cannot bargain with tho Court."
"Welt U may be a tittle unusual.
Your Honor," replied the lawyer,
"but I am sure, when you learn the
full circumstances of the case, you
will entirely agree to my proposition
You see, the prisoner Is in the pos
session of HO; my fee la ISO, and so
we cannot afford to plead guilty If
you Insist on flnlng him more
than flu
Thoughtful Santa Claus.
JjENRY was a little boy of six, which
Is the age of Inqulsltlveness, as
his mother was beginning to discover.
"Mamma." he said, embarking on
the two hundred and thirty-seventh
question of the day, "does Father
ChrlBtmas get his sleigh on Christmas
Eve and drive to all tho houses of the
little boys and glrlar
"Yes." answered mamma.
"And does he Btop at each chimney
as he goes along and leave tho right
things T'
"Yes." answered Henry's mamma.
"Isn't ho pretty quick to visit all
the little boys and girls in one
night?"
"Yes."
"Well" here Henry reached tho cli
max "do you know, I believe he
plans ahead and does some work be
forehand." "What makes you think thatr
asked mamma.
"Why," answered Henry, "because I
noticed he's got all my presents put
away In one of the cupboards already."
Her Only Comfort.
She was the new charwoman, and,
because of the fact that her new
mistress was young and Inexperi
enced, she was expatiating on her
manifold woes.
"Yes; an' would you believe it,
mum, there's me 'usband done no
work for six years, an" 'ad an ailment
for the last fourT An' I've two chil
dren to pervldo for. 'Course, one's
sixteen, though the other's only a lit
tle 'un."
"But" interposed the young mis
tress timidly at last, "doesn't Isn't
the elder one a great helpT"
-You're right, mum," declared the
garrulous one. as she wiped her
streaming eyes with the corner of her
apron. "She's a real comfort, she Is.
She often sits down an' cries with
mel"
Judge and Justice,
Her Witness You know that Jus
tice Is blind.
Fair Defendant (adding the finish
ing touches to her toilet) I know
that Justice In i . rhutik k-xvi
By May Irwin,
the Best Cook on the American Stage.
WHEN, you are tired of tho
routine breakfast or when
vour husband, father or
brother complains of Its monotony.
Introduce the Innovation of tripe and
oysters. It will fit nicely Into this (
breakfast
One goblet of orange Juice.
(Baked apple, rhubarb or apple
sauce, If you prefer It).
Tripe and oysters.
Muffins.
Coffee.
Tripe and oysters are a delicate
and delicious breakfast dish when
well prepared. Cut tripe into small
pieces. Scrape well, taking all the
bits off. and boll three hours in Bait
and water until the trlpo is tender.
Drain the water through a colander.
Then plump your oysters. Plump
ing your oysters I stop here to ex
plain to the young or inexperienced
cook consists In stewing the oysters
for five minutes In the same liquor
in which they were brought from the
fish market, until tho oyster swells
to nearly double its size. Put the
tripe into a porcelain-lined vessel
until it comes to a boil. Add two
tablespoons of butter and ono of
flour, creamed that is, beaten to
gether1 and flavor with paprika, a
dash of Ved pepper and salt to taste.
Add the oystors and one-half cup of
sweet cream. Servo on thin, crisp,
buttered toast made of stale home
made bread.
C My favorite muffins are made of
two cups of flour, two eggs, one cup
of milk, one teaspoonful of flour,
baking powder, sugar, one heaping
teaspoon of baking powder, one-half
teaspoon of salt, ono tablespoon of
. the. Hour jaalti baking
Javorite
Miss May Irwin at Her Cooking Table.
powder and sugar together; boat the
eggs until very light add them to
the milk, then bIU tho flour and
other ingredients into the milk and
eggs. Melt the butter and add it to
the mixture Put Into the muffin
tins and bake for twenty-five min
utes In a hot oven.
Here is a variant of the routine
breakfast menu:
One goblet orange Juice.
(Or stewed fruit, If you prefer
say, apricots.
Oatmeal.
Chicken hash.
Southern corn pone.
If you Insist upon your fat-forming
(though strength-making) oat
meal, at least cook it in a double
boiler, letting it simmer all of the
day before serving, and do not crush
it to destroy the form of the grain.
There Iq no more palatable break
fast dish than chicken hash when
properly cooked. Improperly
cooked, It is as palatable as sawdust
or the tasteless dry toast so regu
larly recommended by the diet doc
tors. Tho chicken should be cut up and
dropped into cold water and cooked
slowly until tho meat falls from th
Recipes
bono, using very little water. Strip1
the meat from the bones. Cut ft up
in a fine chopping tray. . Add green
poppers, chopped finely, and Spanish
peppers to taste, also chopped fine;
ono small onion so small, that you
hardly know it's there at first; cold
boiled potatoes, also chopped in a
bowl ; paprika and a dash of nutmeg,
black pepper and salt to tasto. Into
an old-fashioned frying-pan put tho
liquor left from the chicken. Crop
the bits of chicken into the liquor.
As soon as the liquor bolls up, add.
one cup of thick cream, a llttlo bub
tor, and flour stirred in to slightly
thicken.
For Southern corn pone, take two
cups of yellow cornmeal, one cup ol.
flour, two teaspoons of baking pow
der, two cups of milk, one table
spoon of lard, one tablespoon of but
ter and two eggs. Beat tho eggs and
add the milk. Sift the flour, salt
and baking powder together, add the
milk and eggs, and beat well. Bake
in a moderate oven.
One goblet orange Juice.
Frizzled beef.
Short bread.
Coffee.
Get best smoked beef. Slice Quan
tity desired into small, thin pieces
and pour over these boiling water
for not longer than a second. Four
through a colander, draining the
water thoroughly from It This re
moves the brinelike taste from the
beef, leaving it a softer, more deli
cate flavor. Put the beef into a fry
ing pan together with a tablespoon
ful of flour, a lump of butter at
large as a walnut, and halt a tea
cup of cream. Add one and a half
cups of milk, salt and black pepper
to taste.
For short bread, use one quart k
flour, two tablespoons of lard, oni
tablespoon of butter, three tea
spoons of baking powdor, one tea
spoon of salt. Mix the flour, baking
powder and Bait together. Rub the
buttor and lard well Jnto tho flour
and mix with cold milk to the con
sistency of biscuit dough. Bake on
a griddle on top of the stove. X
often use this recipe for strawberry
shortcake. Splitting the crust and
buttering It generously makes it st
delicious basis for any shortcake.
This, like the foregoing, 1b a sub
atantlal preparation, for a har.d day4
work:
One goblet orange Juice.
Ham and .
Griddle cakes. ;
Coffee.:
For "ham and ," njix a cupful
of finely chopped ham, -halt a cup o9
bread " crumbs, one teaspoon of
chopped parsley, one teaspoon oS
butter, a quarter of a teaspoon of
fresh mustard, and enough hot milk;
to make a smooth, soft paste. Spread
this in buttered scallop shells, break
an egg into each shell and sprinkle
with buttered crumbs. Bake in a
quick oven until the crumbs are
brown and the white of the egg firm.
This is an appetizing way of using ai
little leftover ham. Also its econ
omy recommends It My "Ham and
" does not include beans,
For my favorite griddle cakes 9
use three cups of flour, one and a
half pints of milk, one teaspoon 08
salt, two teaspoonfuls of baking)
powder and three eggs. Beat thej
eggs and add to the milk. Sift to-!
gether the flour, baking powder and'
salt Add to the milk and eggs, and
boat w-J'
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