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About Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922 | View Entire Issue (May 14, 1913)
arzine m e Do rothy Dix Writes in Reforming Others Women Want to Change EverybodyIt's Born in Them Often a Bar to Friendship Men Seldom Suffer from It. By DOROTHY DIX The other day a culture! woman, of rather sentimental tendencies, asked mo what I thought was the greatest art lu the world. "The art of letting other people alone," I answered, and then I said, "and It's the least un derstood." She stared and then smiled, as If she thought I In tended to be funny, but I was never more earnest In my life. I have suf fered", you have suffered, the whole, world has groaned under a martydrom at, the hands of those who would not let us alone, but who Insisted on regulating outlives according to their own notions, and without the. slightest regard for any prejudices we might have In thq opposite direction. I am loath to confess it. but these well-meaning persecutors are generally women. Men are so busy trying to make both ends meet In their own business they have scant leisure to meddlerln the affairs of their neighbors. A shoe; merchant may do builness for twenty years next door to an Insurance agent without attempting to show him how to. .write, out a policy or to. conduct his office. A woman, on the other hand can never Beo anybody to anything. dlf j . ferently from the way she does It with- I out burning with a frantic desire to cor- j rect them and set- them right. If Mrs. A'ri children wear flannel,, she can do no more help worrying over the " B children having on cotton than' she car, help breathing. Every woman in hr heart believes that she is the only human be ing who possesses the real secret of economy, the true religion. and, on in: fallible gift for managing, and. being scr perfectly convinced of the correctness of h" polrit-ot View, "it seems to fie .actuaJJ) crjmlnal to let, you.-alooe and permit you ty'do your own way Instead of hers. a matter of fact, the passion for re? foj-mlng things s Inherent In the sex We can't help It We were born that way In Its violent and Insane form It imakei dear, sweet, refined and angelic glrlr throw themselves away on disgusting, drunken .brutes, whom they marry, ex. pectlng to reform them and lift them, out of the gutter Into respectability. No woman escapes the fascination of the Idea entirely, and the very first thing a girl thinks of after she gets engaged Is what a perfectly delightful time she Is going to, have reforming her husband Just as soon as' she gets him. Sometimes it's his politics and religion that she means to have him change, sometimes it's merely the Bhape of his collar, or the cut of his hair, but she's always bent on reforming something. If there could be a perfect man he would have to live and die a bachelor. There lBn't a woman living whom he would Interest because there would be 'nothing to change1 about him. Men seldom suffer from this peculiar mania. When a man first falls In love "with. Ooiglrl .ha thinks, that. everything about' her Is absolutely perfect, and by thctlme he gets over It and gets a second view of her, he Is too wise to undertake thoJob of Improving her. He has found out-that there 'Is nothing mutual In a woman's Idea of reform, and that she most emphatically objects to the process being tried on her, and he lets her atone. Women seldom learn that, and so we Resinoi Don't itch! use Resinoi If you have eczema, ring worm, or other itching, burn ing, unsightly skin or scalp eruption, try Resinoi Ointment and Resinoi Soap, and see how quickly the itching stops and the trouble disappears, even in severo and stubborn cases. Pimples. blackheads and red, rough, blotchy complexions speedily yield to Resinoi. Raslnol Ointment and Bsrinol Soap httl ikln humon. tor. UrtU, trorni, scalds, cold -to ret, ehuftngl and plUi. Precribd by physicians for iabteen rwn. All dnurguta Mil RmIdoI Soap (2ic)and Rcalnol OlaUaentteOcsnd J 1). For sample of each writ to Dapt. Sl-8, Rcslcol. Baltimore, tli. J are continually treated to the spectacle of wives who have an unsuccessful war against their husband's smoking for twenty years and who are still hammer Ing away at the same reform. Instead of letting him smoke in peace. It Is doubt ful If tobacco Is harmful. Certainly It can't be as bad morally, physically or mentally as a perpetual argument on the subject. Only fancy what we should think of a man who was forever harp ing on the injurious effects of chocolate creams, or nibbling between meals, or Ice cream soda. Our own especial vices are the only ones that never need re forming. There Isn't much doubt that the great domestic problem Is going to be solved when women make up their minds to lot their husbands alone, a little more to take them as. they are, faults and virtues Included and lndlssolubly mixed. The virtue of letting aloiio is equally applicable to children. What modern children suffer from Is altogether too much attention. We aro bo afraid that they will hurt themselves that wo keep them padded up In cotton wool as long as wo, cah, and thus deprive them of the great lessons experience teaches, and, finally, when they will bear codding and leading Btrlngs no longer, and trioy do make a break for liberty. wo Bit down and bemoan their lack ot filial rever ence and gratitude,. Our theory of doing the best we can for our children Is always to be doing something. We never think that the very highest best if onu may use the phrase Is to let them alone, and let them find out for themselves what they f aro and what they want to be. It Is a piece of monstrous vanity, anyway, to want one's children to be Just like, one's keif. . The art of letting alone never seems so admirable and so unattainable ns when we deplore Its abencc In our associates. Nothing else Is so fatal a barrier to friendship. It Is not possible to be on terms of any sort of Intimacy with one woman In a hundred without her' trying to more or less supervise your entire af fairs. It Isn't enough for a woman tobe satisfied with her own superlative dress. maker and Infallible doctor, She Is miserable until she' foists them on every ono of her friends, and then, when .she falls out with those paragons, she ex pects' you to change with her. All sorts of reasons have been given for the scarcity of friendship between womon. The real explanation (s right hero In nutshell. It sounds like a Joke, but It's the sober (ruth that & woman has to reach the very highest pinnacle of unselfishness and generosity beforo.she Is willing to let others do their own way, and be happy after their own taste, instead of hers, but how charming and delightful, how perfect and Incomparable sho Is In every- relation of life when she does master the art of letting others alone! The Real Truth By FRANCES L. UARSIDE The real truth, children dear, is that Sleeping Beauty slept with her mouth open, and' snored. You are always hearing women talk of the "nameless longing'-' in their hearts, aa It Jt were something beyond the com prehension of mere man. If she Is single this nameless longing Is for a lover, and If she Is married, It Is for money. In the books a woman returns a letter from a discarded lover unread, but In real life curiosity would arouse her from a deathbed, If need: be, to break the seal, In the stories she gives a gulping sob as she leaves the room after a quarrel, and he lo gone out ot her life forever. In real . life she has to go to the shop where he works next day to buy sausage,-and he waits on her. The suffragists In speech and pamphlet tell how wives have,to account to their husbands for every penny they spend. If the men had to. listen to the account of how. their wives spend every penny there wouldn't be Insane asylums to hold them, ! In the books a ' girl's neck looks like white ' marble, .and those who see It are driven to writing poetry. In real life a girl's neck causes every housekeeper present to make a mental note to buy spareribs for dinner next day. In the books a young woman never mentions "the dear old home" without mojst eyes, and In real life she never lives In one home longer than five years. In the stories there ts always a trusted servant, who has been with the family forty years; In reality no servant Is kept as long as forty weeks. In fiction a poem or song about "baby's shoe" will cause a woman to dissolve In tears. In real life. If the stork whispers to a woman that he Is going to give her an occasion for buying a baby's shoe she Is mad enough to bite nails In -twd. The books say a great deal about the "children's hour," a period at twilight when the children climb on mother's or father's knee and listen to fairy storlef. In real life If father Is a farmer, he Is engaged at this noetic period in feeding the hogs And mother. Is doing the milking. Or. If they' lite In .town, he Is hanging, to a car strap and she Is running to the delicatessen. In the books the children gather at mother's knee for their good night pray ers. In the days when every mother be lieved In having her children pray, there were so many children In the family that they couldn't have gathered around her knee unless her limbs were built like those of an extension table. JIHbIbssssssssHHbsbsssssssssI - lHjHsTOssJsiss sUKBsWKBKlMKKBim ,i'mSSKsmssmsssmsssssr mBb D rW A'rAn ff I td ... Miss MnrRticrlto Clurko. These beautiful pictures are tfio latest taken of this charming actress who in tho accompanying intorviqw, tellB how) she finds it easy to rotain the freshness ot youth tnrougn sinipio By LIIiWAN IjAUFEJITY I From "Happylahd" tq Baby Mine"- then on to "Little Snow White;" and now to the part of Raffles-made Amy Herrick In "Are You a Crook?" has dainty Mar guerite Clarke wended her triumphal way In six years of growth In power and. am bition. And yet her face retains a sweet, Childlike, untroubled quality that Is, .very alluring. ' .... , "Where does she find the energy?"-! thought .as ahe went eagerly through the rehearsal of tho third act twice, and thenMuly charming. Now, if you nro painted with unflagging real started' off .on actj and-white, nnd haye shadows II-and "Where do ycu find yoor unfall- Ing enthusiasm?" I Inquired when she came over for a chat In tho .tar corner of the stago of the beautiful new Iongacre thenter, whero I was playing audience. "Oh, I get It outdoors," said tho Jittle star whose- name Just suggests her own sweet daintiness. "I don't need butdoor exercise, because I get plenty of oxerclso on the stage, but I do need the wonderfOI, bracing, soothing, stimulating effects of fresh air. So I walk and walk whenever 1 can to. and from theater, around the block Just so I am out In the air. Sun, rain or wind, I believe In fresh air. ' "I take osteopathy, too whenever I am too tired to exercise myself for that is a wonderful, lazy way of taking ypur ex- erclse so luxurious!" -Miss Clarke laughed In pleased reminiscence. "You see, you" can't' work and give all the energy and force It deserves to your work unless you. keep your energy up; So I go outdoors and get a new-supply ot force. And I get 'on for the longest whiles without vacations. I went twenty whole months once without a bit of vacation Just getting made over 'new each day by the wonderful outdoor .world." "Perhaps you give too much credit to fresh air msyb.'H IsJust your own private supply of energy and ambition that works on unceasingly," I suggested. "I think not Ambition docs keep you keyed up and full of the desire to ad vance. Then you havo the Incentive, and then you must take evei -possible means to make yourself capable of carrying out your ambitions. Every spring I prescribe a wonderful tonic tor myself dear, little, new carrots. I Ice them till they are cold and delicious yes, really delicious and then I Just add salt for a flavoring and eat away. Quito raw. ydu" know. Jurt- try; them and nee how 'good they tssto, and they are good for more than taste, too, They sre a wonderful blood tonic and purifier. They do make your skin nice," dded Miss Clsrke ingeniously. They dp all of tht-for A smoother, more absolutely gulltlesj.of-the-falntest trace-of-powder skin, than Miss Morguer. lte Clarke's you never w'. "Don't you believe In cosmetics pow - der, even?" I asked Beauty Secrets of Dainty Marguerite Clarke Tells means. "Well. I 'have to bo made up on the tSt "U tho time, you know-so between whlle I like to give my skin time to breathe. Absolutely Just that-itlnle to breathe. And besides the skin, I do so dislike seeing powder uncompromisingly betrayed by tho glaring sunlight. It does look sit flaky and faky,, "I have one tittle notion about nd tresses. and I suppose It applies to our whole sex." mused Miss Clarke. "Wo must be veiled In a little mystery to be ,Qne uuer our "J"' "u l" Pbernalla-jof trylng-to-bj-attmctlve, how can you be elusive er mysterious or ct arming,, when there am all the secrets of 'how' laid barb tor the least discerning cj e In e? "In keeping with my Idea of 'mystery I do not go to tho restaurants much. And fiat works out very well, for It keeps me from fating lobster salad at 1 a. pi-., nnd saves health and digestion, and hur ries me along to bed at reasonable hours. "And actresses, of all women, cannot afford to dissipate, you know. Rut then no woman who wants to look her best f.nd to win success In the world can af ford to dissipate, which means waste her energies In any way. You Can't use yourself up In food or excitement or late hours and have any self left for The Manicure Lady Wy WILLIAM' F. KIRK "Gee, but-1 hate mixed crowds!" said the Manicure Lady. "I always was that way since the days when we used to go to the kid parties, where they played postofflca and spin the platter." 1 "I never noticed much whether a crowd was mixed or not," said tho Head Ran. her. "I never went to no parties to speak of, and the fow that I did go to seemed kind of easy running. Ot course there would be some people there with more money than others, and at most ot the parties nobody could tell who would bs tho rich ones at the ond ot the even ing" "I don't mean no poker parties," said the Manicure Lady. "I was thinking Just a minute ago when I spoke ot a party which I was to last night. It was a kind of birthday party for Wilfred, and) mother let the poor boy make out halt ! tho list of guests. You know Wilfred ' always prided himself on being a good 1 mixer, and I guess he must be, Judging I from the different H'tids of guests h Beautiful Women What Simple Rules Will Do Her Favorite worth while things," said the llttlo lady, t-agely. "You hv made a careful study of tnklng caro ot tho precious human body, haven't you?" asked the Interviewer. "Oh, thero U a lot more to It," replied the Interviewed "I nm very earnest about tho Importance ot cleanliness. That hounds almost Insulting, ns If every one else weren't, too. Rut then It people want to preserve the looks they already have or acquire home more, they must think aboue being clenn, clean, clean all the time. Clean means clean from the prown of your head to the tips of your fingers, and to the soles of your little pink feet foo. And It means that every thing you wrar must be Just as sweet and fresh as you are. Somehow When you are all ckun and sweet and rested nnd out of doors, you don't get sick very of too- "That's being In condition, I suppose. asked. The folks that mother and mi Invited was oUr regular crowd,, but Wil fred didn't use no Judgment In his seleo tlon of friends. You never seen such a collection, George. There was a lady poetess among them. The things she had wrote had coma to the attention of Wil fred, and the poor boy got kind of smote on her and Invited her. Borne of tht poetry that, she showed mo was worst than Wilfred's own. "Her escort to the party was a young gent with a blue tie and a red nose. He kept saying 'Take It from me!' and cry. Ing over In the corner because the Yan kees wasn't winning no more games. Then he would tell how he used to go to school with PVank Chance, the leadei of the Yankees, and then he would cry some more and say 'Relieve me!' snd 'Don't- tell me!" Tht wut his speed, George, all evenlngsVTake It from me,' and tears. Tren there was another young gent there that deserves to succeed In life. He could Move his ears and bend his thumb baclKvard till It touched his wrist, and you' should have heard him sing 'In the Garden of My Heart' and What Miss Clarke Says: Sun, rnln or wind, I bollovo In fresh nlr. walk and walk whonover I can. went twenty months without a vacation. Every Spring 1 take a tonic dear, little, now carrots. They aro a wonderful blood tonic and purifier. 1'owdor looks flaky and Is. faky. I npvor go to lato supper Photograph. Why, when I was 'Snow White this winter every one told me that I must be sure to rub my feet carefully In al cohol or I'd catch dreadful colds. I didn't and 1 dldn'tl I never dreamed what a wonderful, free feeling going without thecs would give. I think It must be good to go barefoot occasionally I did feel so splendidly with my feet free to my beloved air. "Rut then I love free, untrammelled motion ot tvtry kind. I don't wear cor f!s off the stage, I don't wear them, nnd I am quite sure they were not thought ot In the original scheme of things. I can't see why we must be alt wrapped up and bound up, and kept hlCden from the air and sunlight, No shoes, no corsets freedom nnd supple ness wouldn't that be ides!? "Women art ngltatlng for w much don't you think they might agitato for theae health and beauty causes, too?" The Fatal Deck of Cards.' Me acted as If he had come there to be the Ufa of th party, and I guess he would have been the death of It If father hadn't put the crusher on him by taking him Into the library and mixing him three cocktails of the Sort he call 'sleep-producers.' The old gent learned how to make them from Dob Klley, and they are guaranteed to silence a pest quicker and with better re sults than chloroform. "There was any number of quaint and curious folks among Wilfred's chosen. but goodness knows I ain't got the mem ory or th time to tell you about how cunning all of them was. There was a pool shark that kept talking about com. blnatlon shots and mlscues, and a ex. Jockey that Pittsburgh Phil uqed to give all his old neckties to, and a soubrette that came with the fellow that would wag his ears. All she could do was to chew gum, and tell how shs was learn Ing the Tango dance. And there was a old fellow there that used snuff and talked out of the comer of his mouth Wilfred asked him because the poor old soul had Just had a run-In with his wife and was afraid to go home. Ye, George, It was some mixed crowd and the birth day party was some weird affair, I won der how many more birthdays Wilfred will have to have before he grows a few brains." Omniscience of Lov ny I1EATIUCK FAIRFAX v 1 A lover sers his swoctheart In every thing he looks at. Just ns a man bitter, by n mud dog, sees dogs In his meat, flogs in his drink, dogs all around him. George Denlson Prentice. A business man with both young mer i and young women In 'his office recently had this experience. "what," he called to a young mnh. U the address of the firm to which vnij made that consignment this mortilhg" The young man looked up absently k from his work and said dreamily, "Made line, Madeline Grey." To n Rlrt stenographer later, the em ployer put this questions "Have ybu fin- isnea me nrsi nuncn or letters ' one i lotiKen a uttio startled ns she replied, "i ' didn't know you wanted to know him. ' Ills name is Paul, and ho Is a clvlWrf ' glneer," 1 In both Instances the employer matM some comment nbout the world going! mnd, and lie would be glad when this, i falling In love hnd gone out of fashtnn. s "Why," be complained to me later. "If T Klve a young man a valuable blue pclni to study, J have to watch htm like- a nawx to Keep him from covering it wn ' . 1 4 .... - n I -l A t I. . i Klri -working for mt who hears the Tlrst j time she Is addressed. She is away oft ' In ome dream Wat with Oeorge or Rift . or John. It Is the omniscience fit love, It Is h sweet Insanity that calls for micwd vigilance from those who aro sane to keep the prosaic (affair or the world moving In thHr right grooves. This employer grumbled, but he rtlKo- laughed, and a' grumble with a laugh un derncath Indicates a sympathy that 4 hut poorly concealed. He knew -what It was from experience. I hope we ftH.pi, To have 'seen one's sweetheart all sroirW ono has n, most broadening effect On the sympathies. It also makes us chartlabl. when suffering the annoyance that this love madness In others causes. The girl In the kitchen fills the sugnt bowl with snti the girl on the car going to work ridco ten blocks beyond hef, destination and Is late; tho girl with V' greater duties than presiding nt pink lea tables sees only with the outer eyes the guests she Is addressing. From the hum, blest walk to the highest everything ii awry, misplaced, lost or forgotten, be cause those who love see the object qi, their love In all around them. The value of concentration Is unknown the necessity of putting one's thought "on the nearest duty and keeping at a aatt distance all temptation to let the rrtlhtl wander, has no place In the consciousness' of those wh6 nre Ih love. A young girl writes to nsk If she Is 'Id be blamed because she thinks so muci,oi, her lover she can't keep her mind oh hop. work. Bless her, no, The blame Is Mot hers. It goes away bnck to the one Invented loving. ,,B On tho shoulders of that great hunwiK Itsrisn thero rests the blame of all thV sweet tolly that beclns with tho day w'Min. a man nnd woman discover they are. in' love, nnd ends when their dream boa( bumps hard on tho shore of thst barteli i-.i.i.. i i a .. . . . ... luumiiH iiiuim uniii'u rnnirimony, Tho bump will Come soon enough, It" will also be hard enough, It will corn-i soon enough and hsrrt enough to sult.f, most unaympathotle nnd unromantle. ,m, And so I say to this little girl, fa ton' dreaming that you see your lover ia.tilf around you. It Is your privilege and yW ' right Advice to the Lovelor h Dy BEATRICE FAIRFAX. ::Js Thnt In Itlftlit. ,.. . Dear Miss Fntrfax: I with a girl about 18, and I am Just 3u,rI seo her every night on my way home and I would no anything to know her;' When I see her I feel llkn tnlklnir to hv but something keeps me back from talking io ner. "DUD. '.a I am glad to hear that. 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