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About Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922 | View Entire Issue (May 5, 1913)
8 THE BEE: OMAHA, MONDAY, MAT 5, 1913. he ee' rr To an Expectant Mother: By KJiTiA WHEELER WIIiOOX. Copyright, 1913. by Amerlcan-Journnl- Exnmlner. To an expectant mother: You telt mo another child U coming; und that you are worried; and sorry for yourself. It does not seem to enter your mind tl-nt you are form- Inn tho nature ot your child by your rroods; nnd that you have an obli gation resting upon you to use will power, self control lirayer and faith whits this helpless being Is being car ried under your heart You are bu'.ldlnit something which will mean good or etfl for tho world for time and eter nity. Vou are bringing Into existence u human being. Such a colossal thought ought to take ouch complete possession of you that nothing petty, nothing gloomy, nothing elfish, nothing less than greatness and Blory could enter your mind. That child now under, your heart has lived many times beforo on earth. It will como with many Impulses and tend, encles brought over from old Incarnation, and many others from ancestors of your own and the ancestors of tho father. Dut greater than all theso Impulses and tendencies Is the mind of the mother to mould mid shnpo that' child Into what It Mill l. If you t-eallxe how wonderful Is the work given to do, and how far reaching will be the results of how you do It, a great awo will fall upon you, with a ttetat exaltation. You will fall on your Knees, and lift your faco to the Invisible Helpers and cry out; "Creator, God, and ill holy Friendship, "Did you hear him say that ho could have shed his heart's blood for mo?" "Do you .want onv blrtcrt shed for ynu" replied his friend with considerable Irri tation. "Dues he shed anything for you that ydu do want Does he shed em ployment for you, Instruction for you, pocket money for you? Docs he evsn shed legs of mutton for you In any de cent proportion t potator and enrdon Bluff? -MARTIN CHUZZLKW1T." By BEATRICE FAIRFAX. A young woman writes that she would like to know how to make rircnds, Tho queetlon is easier of n-ply than if she had asked how one may keep them. She writes that she Is lonely; that tho finds no Joy In books, art, music, enter tainment, or walks. She cannot enjoy her associates because she flndi atnontf them.no "real friends." She Is young. Therefore. I gather that by "real friend" she means some one to whom she may pour out all her llttlo hopes, ambitions and sorrows, and bo as sured of encouragement, sympathy and silence. 8ho wants, in other words, to find some one who is a sofa pillow on the surface and a steel vault underneath. She would lay her weary head on such sdfa pillow and pour Into tt all that her heart holds and longs for, believing lifer confession wilt seep, through to tho tcel vault, there to He safe and sacred till the end of time. x You poor little girl' You havo yet to learn that so many are sofa pillows on the ..exterior and as porous ns spongea underneath, and that a confession poured Into them seeps through, not to a safety vault, but Into the ears of others. You have yet to know the difference between a sympathetic car And an In quisitive one.' You have not reached that rage in the book of experience on which this motto is found: "Thy friend hath & friend. Thy friend's friend hath a friend. Therefore beware!" The craving for friends is natural, but Jn youth one exaggerates .the need ot friends. Just aa one exaggerates the value of friends when found. It is a realm where nine-tenths of the coin in circula tion Is counterfeit, and whore tho young make a collection of counterfeit coin, and Jingle it proudly. "Look," they ay In effect, "See how many friends I have! I have mora than anybody." In the same realm, the old clutch tenaciously to the genuine; some with only one or two coins in their hands, And many are empty handed! ) You would make friends, little girl? Make a foundation of the word sacrifice. On it build every friendship! Put self In the background. You may "Cascarets" Best Bowel Cleanser No lyilousncs. Headache, Sick, Boar Stomach, Indigestion, Coated Tongue or Constipation. Furred Tongue, Bed Taste. Jndlges tion. Sallow Bkln and Miserable Head ache come from a torpid liver and clogged bowels, which cause your stoni ach to become filled with undigested food, which sours and ferment Ilk garbage in a awill barrel That's the first step to untold misery Indigestion, foul gaaea, bad breath, yellow skin, men tal fears, everything that Is horrible and nauseating. A Cascaret tonight will Kive your constipated bowels a thorough cltatwlB; straighten you out by inrl. They work while you sleep a l-ct koi from your druggist will keep yw eUng good for ninths, Mil lies of man and' women take a Caa caret bow and then to keep their atom acfa, liver and bowel regulated, and never lwow a miserable moment. Don't fersjet tfee chU4rn their little lnaldo need a fpod, gentle cUanrirtg, too. Ad- r ; : ; I How to Make-Friends , J Such a Colossal Thought Should So Possess You That Nothing Petty, or Gloomy Could Enter Your Mind. : angels and Intelligences In the worlds and systems of worlds about and beyond me, help me to be Worthy of this mighty mission of motherhood with which I am Invested, endowed. Thrill me, .stir me, enlighten mo with wisdom; give me the light and guidance, and show mo the way to glvo to the world a perfect child." ThU prayer will be from tho depths of your being, and It will bo repeated every day, and you will fall asleep at night with the words on your lips. Then you will guard yourself from all evil thinking or speaking, from gloomy or depressing thoughts; because you wilt know that one who so respects tho mis sion entrusted to her, and who so be lieves In her great responsibility will be . guarded and helped over alt the hard places by tho Dlvlno Guides, who aro ever about us. You will avoid looking at tho ugly, the deformed or tho repulsive things of earth. You will rend no talcs of crime and allow no one to talk such things to you, because you wilt not want to Pass on to your unborn child anything but the beautiful, healthful and Inspiring things of life. You wilt read good books, books or biographies of noble lives, books ot brave and noblo deeds, and you will listen to sood music, and go Into churches and galleries, and see boautlful pictures, or walk In woods and fields nnd look at beautiful nature. And always will there be the prayer and faith In your heart that brjngs tho Invisible) Helpers near. You wilt believe that a great soul Is coming to earth through you, a soul that will be helpful, and happy, and that will bring the best Joy Into your own life that tt has evor known. And with all your heart and mind and mental and spiritual powers you will lovo this baby hidden away under your heart; and you will be brave and courageous and know that all must be well with you and It. For such Is tho kingdom of heaven, long to talk; keep silent that your friends may' enjoy their voices. You may havo opinions that aro not llko theirs. Iltrtu them, for a difference ot opinion mean.i an argument, and an argument where there Is friendship becomes a dispute, and disputes nro fatal, You must team to bear and forebear. You must sympathise with little woes, and forget your own nro greater. You must make no demands on the tlmo of others, but be willing to glVa up all your own. You soy that you find no enjoyment in books: Make friends, and tho tlmo will come when you will wish you could givo one hour a day to the books you nro now neglecting. lie avreeablo; silent when silence U demanded; vivacious when others seek vivacity; be discreet. And this 1 bog Of you: When by alt of these you have attracted others to you, that you muko your selection among them with wise, wtdo-opencd eyes. Take care that you do not choosy so many that you grow confused among them, and forget who are your best ones. Be sure that your liking is based on a liking for the one you choose, not be cause he or she likes you. Be satisfied that you aro not building a friendship with B because you and B agree In despising C, Be friends always with yourself. And you cannot be an honest frlepd of your self when you have won the friendship of another with any act ot hypocrisy or deceit. Advice to the Lovelorn By BEATRICE FAIRFAX Go Oat More, ' Dear Miss Fairfax: I am a vounr ladv IS years of age, but have never had a sweetheart yet, although am considered good looking and educated. I am a girl who likes to stay at home and not go out much. Pleas alri cm ii my wwr w come even it 1 stay at noma, ANXIOUB. You must go out occasionally. How would you meet him otherwise? Dorothy Dix lijr DOROTHY DIX Another man who began life humbly, and who has achieved fame and fortune, has divorced the wife of his youth be cause he has outgrown her. "I have gone the way of men, the better way," he says frankly, "It la the better way, be cause it la the way ot progrstf. A roan of talent and am bition must go on. It his wife turn mulish and balky It is inevitable that their way part. The man gives tho woman a chance. If she refuses to take It and to keep pace with him. It is her own fault that she see him disappearing In a cloud ot dust. "I gave my wife a chance to develop, witn me. J provided enough money for leisure for her to study and Improve her self, to keep house better, to dress bet ter, to mingle with people who are help ful and stimulating. Bhe refused to take advantage of any of the opportunities I offered her. Hers was a case ot arrested The Charm of Naturalness ttZJAH Eg HISKKI CSM ' her ns her natural self- . Jiy TjTMjTAN LAtJFKRTr. All you pathetic little pink and whlto would.be beuutlcs who march up and down Fourth or Fifth avenue of a sunny spring day don't you want tp know how to be really pretty? Don't you want to bo not a "gaslight" belle hut a sweet girl who can bravo Old Sol's bright rays in the calm assurance that he is reveal ing beauty, not betraying beauty secrets? Well, then be natural. Naturalness does not seem to be the tod ot this mo ment, but It will have Its day soon, I think,. for we have a wonderful exponent ot natural charm and the charm of naturalness prominently before us now. This is Miss Valll VuJll of "The Purple Road." - Aa Wanda,, the little maid of Vienna, who lovod Napoleon wisely it too well on the Whys and Wherefores development. Bhe stood pat where she j was and wanted me to stay with her. I couldn't. I wouldn't No man can when ho feels the ability within himself to go on. "1 am sorry that my wife would not go with me. I would have preferred that she vhould, but the inevitable has hap pened. I had to progress, and she would not keep step with me so I have left her. That is all there Is to it Divorce In such cases Is as necessary aa surgery is In some physical diseases." This successful man has stated a brutal truth In a brutal way. It is the tragedy ot achievement that so often spells do mestic misery, for among those who sit in th; grand stand and cheer the viator us he wins the race, there is seldom his wife. She. poor, dear lady, has been left far. far behind, somewhere In the first quarter stretch. America leads the world in the number of Its divorces and the amount ot its domestic infelicity. Undoubtedly one of the reasons of this is because we have no fixed classes, and Such "wide" oppor tunities that the man who bt;liu at the ' lowest rung of the social ladder not In- ! frequently ends his career on the top of ii This makes It Impossible for him to know Just What qualities he will need in a wife, and hence adds to the dangers ot matrimony. Abroad people atay more or less consistently in "that station ot tar tit esoprioaf-i VaJK YfclE tr tea rr QTffrttir. fi9othy-coDBpeCas' Hum. "HOw do you do it?" I asked. "How do you hold all ot us throbbing and wait ing, as you stand in your simple gray frock on the grand staircase in Na poleon's palace, while all around are magnificent women In imperially gorga ouo clothes?" f "Naturalness and feeling," began the girlish star, and then broke off: "Oh. do I hold you like. that? I went to so I son co jtladV And thee, wc bota latosbod at the urotndled eiMWUnu of l pet "nalHaJnRm." "Ah. but I da bettera tat Eaxsnalaeas everywhere. Look natural, he natural; and thon the great feelings can find ex pression through you." The dainty singing actress had perched life to which it has pleased Heaven to call them," aa the prayer book saya.1 Also, aa a general thing, they marry t accordingly. If a man Is a duke he mar- ' rles a woman of his own social status, ( and who understands the duchess bust- j nrss. on the contrary, it be is a brick layer -he expects to be a bricklayer all tho balance of his days, and he espouse another bricklayer's daughter and they live humbly and peacefully ever after. But in America the man who began life aa a bricklayer or on the slag pile. and who married a woman designed by ! nature to be a bricklayer's or mechanic's wife, not Infrequently comes to occupy a seat in the senate or even the presi dential chair, or he becomes a multi millionaire with the power of a king, and more than a king's way of -Hying. And Mrs. Wife stays Just where she was She would still be jin admirable washer woman or patcher of trousers, but she Is utterly unfitted to be the wife ot her husband as he Is at present Nor la she to be blamed for this. We talk glibly "about sueiTa wom&n' keeplng1 up with such a husband. Wa might, with equal Justice, blame" the.honr st Percherpn draft horse for not keeping up with the Arabian race horse, or the domestic hen for not soaring with the eagUs. Because nature endowed a man with genius it does not follow that It also supplies talent to Ids wife. Nor can a man at SO be blamed for not having enough of the MISS VALLI VALLI IN TWO CHARMING POSES. In tho small picture on the left, England's exponent of natural beauty shows an attitude of effectation which she de pletes and continually guards against. The other pose shows her as her natural self. herself fearlessly under the glare of tho low-swung incandescent lamp that re vealedbut found nothing to betray. A true "crowning Blory" is her coronet ot copper-toned brown! hair, so plenti ful that it is ' quite sufficient dower of beauty without the addition ot a soft pink tlushud skin and great gray eyes. And later she told ma her simple, ef fective method ot caring for hair and skin; true beauty secrets till you know how! "Kllen Terry taught me to 'mnke-up.' I don't use pink or white glaring high. lights, but tho bronze, brown-red tones' tho men of the stage employ. This Is so much more like the tones of the human akin. You see, to look natural on ;he stage one has to use make-tip as the extra ounce ot emphasis that counter acts the glare ot the lights. That is not needed on the street though I must con fess to a very earnest affection for my powder puff. As a finish .to dust off the little shine from the active oil glands of a healthy skin powder Is Invaluable, I -think." of Marriage Incompatibility spirit ot prophesy to know the sort ot a wife he is going to need at SO. That a gifted husband should outgrow his commonplace wife is very sad. It is also very sad when a gifted woman outgrows her commonplace husband. Yet the one happens as often as, the other, and there is no more significant difference between the sexes than the way In which men and women meet this catastrophe In Uielr lives. ' When a man realizes that he haa out grown his wife, that she no longer speaks his language, nor shares his thoughts, and that It is as tedious to explain things to her as it is to a child, he Is at first impatent and then contemptuous of her. Then he begins to neglect her. and seek the companionship of women who be long to the new world Into which he has passed, and which he knows his wife can never rtally enter. It he Is a man with a "high sense of duty he tries to make up to' her .for his lack or etfection by giving her money. If he has the courago of .his desires he pen sions her and divorces her. But in any case she is really as dead to him as if the sod covered her face. The woman who has outgrown her hus band suffers all that the man does who has outgrown his wife, and more, because a woman loves to look up to htr husband, she loves to admire him, and when the Urns come that she can no longer do ..J "But how keep the skin healthy when grease, paint and rougo must be applied so often?" I asked. There was a low-throated little English laogh. "I know a wonderful skin food or tonlo or whatever you call It over here. Soap and water. The best of soap and plenty of water. "Grease, paint and rouse have been going on my face since I was 7 years old, tor then little Vain doubled the first name she had been given In honor of a dear uncle and good Bt. Valentine, whose birthday was Just three days from hers and went on the stage. I have been put ting stage make-up on for sixteen years." "Soopl On your face?" I exclaimed. "Ratherl Heaps of it, I scrub and scrub and then I go after any stray dust or rougo with a bit of good cream and then water, water, first quantities of hot and then-a dash or two of cold." "You are truly a "water baby,' aren't you?" said the lntervfower, making a mental note to acquire Just, such a skin If water plus soap could do It. "Indeed, yes. My hair, too I wash it once every week, and I don't crimp or wave. I briiBh and brush till every hair Is alive and then, since it's all soft and clean It looks well." And It looks marvelously well sisters of crimps and marcel waves and monthly shampoos. It Is fresh and clean and natural and vital, In ' keeping with the wholesome girt whose small, well-posed head It crowns. "Of course you add fresh air to water as a' tonic since you're English," said I, sure of my ground here. "You're quite right; I do. I love out doors, alt outdoors and gardens. "Ah I that la the one thing I miss over here, You live in hotels and apartments. At homo we have houses and gardens and so I may havo flowers and dogs and the healthy, homey things I low." And she said It with the sweet natural ness that makes this charming little fresh air, soap and water English girl even prettier off the stage than on it. so, hers Is the agony of the worshipper whose Idol is shattered and whose God has proved -to have feet of clay. But she hides her loneliness In her own heart. She keeps her 'dull husband from finding out how he wearies her, she velln his Imperfections from her friends, and keeps her children from suspecting that, she is their father's superior. Sheanimater the clod without the clod even guessing whence comes Its power. More than that often and often, she refuses to run tho race because she knows that her husband cannot keep the pace with her. There are untold brilliant women who turn their backs upon glori ous careers because it. would mean the wrecking of their homesT" It Is only In rare cases that the woman who outgrows her husband seeks solace for it In the society ot the man who Is a fitting mate for her maturer intellect She . deliberately fills In her life with Interests that bring her nearer to her husband, Instead ot taking her farther from him, and she stays her footsteps to his slow gait so that they can Jog along together. It Is always a trdgedy when either husband or wlfo outgrows the other, but when It happens the man usually sacri fices his wife, while the woman offers up herself on the altar. Flowers in the City I By GARRKTT V. SERVIS8. I count sixteen backyards from the rear window where I sit writing, and in only one of them do I sec any flowers, and that Is one of tho smallest and least favorably located. Yet Its owner has managed so skil fully with the clothes lines that ho has plenty of room to cultivate his plants. At pres ent most of them are only shoots and ehrubs, refreshing by their greenness; but I know that a month or two later they will be all In bloom, sending their perfumes up into my open window at every stir of tho breeze. If all his neighbors would do what this man does, those sixteen backyavdB would bo sixteen flower gardens whose beauty would call all the Inhabitants of the block to sit, by preference, at their rear win dows, enjoying them. Hie air would be sweetened, the sight delighted, nnd tho weary stateness of city life for at least 100 personB relieved. The soil In that -particular yard is natur ally no better than In tho others. But the lover of flowers, at a very slight cost In dollars, has fertilized it. He has taken away all the rubbish. He has laid out walks In an area only twenty feet square, set a flower urn in the center, run bands of cultivation round nil the sides, drawn green triangles with floral perimeters In the middle space, and the effect Is to make tho area scorn twlco as cxtonslvo ns It did before. He has dealt so persuasively with tho soil that It bears plants right-up against tho brick walls on two sides, and tho board fences on the other two. Not an inch is lost.- I know, from .experience, that by Juno that little backyard will be an ambrosial garden which Italy might envy. Mornlnfr after morning I see the creator nt work In It, beforo he goes to his bread-winning labor elsewhere. On Sundays ho works there with a beaming face, which shows how his tired brain revels In such recreation. Flowers were not made for man, but man was made for flowers. If he shuts his nature against them he descends In the moral scale. There was once a man, driven to desperation by hard fortune, who scaled a fence at night and stole, ontlp-toe, with a case-knife in his hand, toward the "side windows ot a costly residence which he had made up his mind to enter and rob. He persuaded himself that his necessity Justified his transgression. But as he cautiously crept across tho plots and along tho paths a little night breeze arose, and borne upon it there came to him from all sides tho dellcato odors of many kinds ot flowers. Ho stopped llko one thunder-struck. Ho threw down his knife and thanked God that chance had led him into that garden before crime had- stained him; for with the fragrance of the flowers there re turned to him the memory of his mother, and he. saw her again tending the rosea that grew under his window when he was a boy. For a few minutes he breathed the perfume, and then; with mind cleared and heart strengthened, ho retraced his steps to face the world in a better mood. Everybody can becomo a cultivator of flowers who has the least bit of soil at his disposal. If you cannot live In the country in the summer, you can, at least make flowers bloom in a city backyard. But If you have a llttlo suburban garden you may on a small scale Imitate Luther Burbank himself, making flowers obey you by taking the hues and shapes that you prefer. April Is the time to begin. It Is the morning of the year. Failure in flower raising is due prin cipally to two things first to neglect of the soil, which needs enriching and fer tilizing and, second, to neglect of the noxious insects, plant lice and various kinds of bugs that devour the buda and blooms. All Insects are not lnqurtous, and many are the best of friends to your flowers, without whose ministrations they could hardly exist By cultivating a little gar den of flowers you will learn, with ease and pleasure two sciences botany and entomology which you cannot learn from books. It Is for their Insect friends, naturalists say, that the flowers make themselves beautiful and odoriferous. Exquisite but terflies, pf more kinds than you thought existed, will fill your little garden with the flutter of colored wings, drawn there by the flowers. Watch their method of getting nectar, but do not drive them away. The nectar was poured into the flower cups for them. Bees will come, on the waves of the air, which they alone know, making a busy; humming mart of your garden, and fertilizing the flowers by bearing golden loads of pollen from blossom to blossom on their powdered legs. Once in a while a Jeweled humming bird will pay a -swift visit to the place, darting from blosBom( to blossom, and hanging suspended on misty wings, while It dips its long beak into the rich chalices. Your garden, however small, will be a little world astir with so much life that you may grow wise In studying It It will be worth to you and your children a thousand times its cost. 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