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About Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922 | View Entire Issue (April 26, 1913)
niK BKK: OMAHA, SAinlA Al'lill, mi 13 e a g -e .( Sisters Under Their Skin How Woman is Chang ing in Her Attitude to Women and What May be Looked for Eventually Where By DOROTHY DIX. One of the most Interesting and sig nificant features of the wliole feminist movement Is the altered volnt of view with which wumen regard each other. It lias not only brought the -women ot tvery rank ami station together, but It has taught them to stnnd tORether. It has made JXilla O'Orady and the colonel's lady real Ixo that they were sisters under the skin, and It has made Julia O' Orady and the colonel's lndy feel rcsponal bio for each other You see this ex emplified In the way in which Tien and fashionable women, and -Women college profes sors, and college Graduates have rallied to the assistance of tho striking garment workers In their fitfit for a IIvIiik wage and decent worklnij conditions. You Bee It In the fact that every move ment "that has for Its aim the safeguard ing of glrlc, tho shortening of worklntc hours' for women, or Cor the welfare of women In any way Invariably has .1 bolld backing of the best women In every community. You see It In the way In which every woman who has succeeded In any busi ness or profession trios to help every other woman wlio Is starting florth to begin, her own battle with the world. Only, a few days ago the papers pub lished the story of a wealthy woman who .had commissioned a famous singing teacher to pick out two poor girls with fine .voices wltoso expenses she would pay while they went abroad nnd fitted themselves to ibecome opera singers. in these days you never 'flear a woman say that a woman' best friend Is a man, and that when she wants a favor she al ways goes to the. opposite sex Women know now thut. a woman's best friend is a wuman, aruil that she's the only one who never expects to be paid back for her kindness. Thg old days when every woman .was suspicious of every Inther woman, and they were at eacli .other's throats, like Jlgressps have xonfi-mterged- lit the if awn" of a 'Be'tfeT era that is sweet with the nlsterhoiM of woman. Of- course, being human, there Is .hound to be a certain amount of selfishness. And. rivalry and Jealousy.' , The star actress has not reached the millennium In which she steps aside and gives the spotlight to tjio debutante: the woman who Is at the head of a department does, not yield her position nnd fnt salary to a newcomer without n struggle, nor does the wife resign her husband to an aftln-' Ity without a protest, any more than men do uny of these things, but there Is a more fair and honest rlvnln- tv' rp- women that there used to be, and a keener realization of other uu,..riu righU.1 I A most Interesting Illustration of thin changed point of view of women, and of their realization of this sisterhood has Just como to mo In a letter from a young girl of 19. She writes that she la deeplv In love with a man, to whom she Is en gaged to be married. She has recently found out, however, that this man has wronged a young girl, and, putting aside her own feelings, she has been urging him to make what amends, he can by marrying the other woman. "I feel that this other girl has a far stronger claim upon him than I have," shn writes, "and that If he were any sort of a man. and hud a particle of honor or chivalry In his nature, he would marry this poor, unfortunate girl, who was a good girl, as he admits, until he met her. Anvwav, I feel that I could never be happy with him, because I could never forget or forgive his treachery to that trusting girl. Yet I love htrr. dearly, nnd It breaks my heart to even think of sending him from me." Is not this letter and I assure you I have quoted It literally an illustration of the new nobility of womunhood? Yet the writer has no notion that sho Is an Idealist or an altruist. She Is lust a plain working girl, without very inut" education, who sees clearly her duty to her sister woman, nnd unci nsclously realises that women must fight eacn other's battles, shoulder to shoulder, when they face- a common enemv. Ten years a;o no woman would have written such n letter, no girl would have taken such a position. For ages It has been the custom to make the woman benr all the burden of tho wrong dolm: In such affairs, and to sanl the female 'sinner to Coventrv while you asked ths male sinner to dinner. And the chief stoners of the Magdalenes 1 were women. , wiiim nmk tur hm ui mm nine wont ing girl who tells the man she loves to go and marry another woman becauso the other woman's claim upon him Is greater than hrs. Is worthy of a Dlacn J beside that Immortal legend. It Is a beautiful example of the chivalry of woman, and that Is something, that Is new In the history of the world.' Advce to the Lovelorn nj- vnKATBICE FAIRFAX. Walt n While. Dear Miss Fairfax: 1 am a young man and have kept company much with a young lady for the last live years. Re cently, when calling at her house, she acted very Indifferent. 1 would like to ",ave. ."' 'ettr and pictures returned. Would It be proper for me to request her tP return them upon returning all I have received ffom bee? A READER, You have been close friends for five I -.uuiu rim 1 1 nu uockuic Bile secme,d Indifferent? i our .readiness to accept dismissal Is auspicious. Do you want your friendship to .terminate? Perhaps, she was coal be cause you have been content with mono polizing her for five years and have said nothing about an engagement. Think it over. You Mnat Overcome It. Dear Minx T?-o l (. t nnd??p,y ln lovo ,vltn a young man r "'"" ' moe my esteem irom htm una how may 1 know that my re gard Is returned? ANXIOUS. You are only 18, and too young to know what lovo Is. Put all thoughts of this man out of mind. Jt will mean your greater happiness when you aro a 'few years. oloe'T.i ' Vt -" 't ' .She In Unreasonable, A??2r .Mls," ''rfax: I am 19 and am deeply n love with a young lady one year younger When I call at her home I . am. d,aJneJ until a very late hour, vihlch Interferes with my sleep and the consequence Ik that I am frequently late "J, "I'1'1" at the orfiee. I spoke to her of this, but she said that If I loved her as much as J say I do I would not mind staying late, Would you advise me to give her up oh this account? VICTOR Q. She Is so unreasonable that If you lost your position because of your late hourr she would show you no sympathy, nor In any wa consider herself In fault. Tell her ou can stay only so late; and stick to that resolution. I am sure she will agree rather than give you up. If Yon iMTe Hint, Yes. Hear Miss Fairfax; I am 19 and at the beginning of the season was introduced to a young man who thought a good deal or me. but as tlmo went on w had a misunderstanding and parted. Now he Is beginning to correspond again. Do vou think It would be worth while to renew our friendship? M. B. That depends entirely on your senti ments regarding him. If you like him and can see where the friendship is worth while to you, you will decide that the misunderstanding Is too trivial to keep In memory. IT1 11 Saving Humanity's ''Seed Corn'1 lly UKV. THOMAS 11. GREGORY. The foumt'tUott of the first real ) - form school, at Mettniy, France actcnt) four years au, April "itf. lS.'Ki. marks tu beginning of one or the most vlla.l lmiKirtaut IniitltuHons that are at v.ot among ua at this time for the upllH of tho race. Tho houo-or slim ing this most ef fective propaganda for the wi AtU'n of the young. l'iJ may well lm callol the "seed corn" h inanity, belong;! to M. de Met A, tit o.ic time a grvu't layn lu I'arls. In tho Buy capital Met wt In cm ed the tcmptatlma and I dangers tti which young boys aid g Is I wero expound; he enw them 'alhng by multitudes Into the way of evil, and, what was nioio to the point, he ob served that even the worst of the AM n quontn never qifltp succeeled In totnllj domoratlslug tlr 'Insclve. and thht moat of them were, redeumahle If approachtd. In the right siiltand us"sted ly he proper cnvLfninvnt. With thU fbnvlrtlon dep wet Ih h"s mind the eM'ou:isrlor set himself to "the task of puttl.w; his faith to the tes of actual experiment. Tutting his hands Into his qwni pooMts, and Into tho poc ' of as man ot his rr ends as wjk.'d allow it, Ira soon had a considerable amount of vash, and upun r round gln by the Vlcnmto lie I'ourcellcs the refunn school was bhllt nnd pdt Into operat'en. The results more than Justified "the good man's di-enm, and when, some years later, M. do Metz lav upon his deathbed ho was comforted with the happy con sciousness tliat he har bright nobjy ,and permanently for the humanity he loved, so well. Tho Mettmy school set the world thinking, nnd It was not long before litter countries were establishing similar ti stltuttons. Oreiit llrltaln, Germany, An- rm, Italy, the Pnlted mates fell Into line, and the Idea of -saving the boys and girls 'from becoming hardened criminals beenme almost a pnpslov J Today less than a century after- the foundation of the school at Mettray the Institutions for the moral uplift of Jiive nlle delinquents are to bt: numbered by tho thousamllH. They have rnmlfled not only throughout Christendom, but arc to be .found In the ro-called "Pagan" lands of the eurtli, where Christianity, as an organization, Is but little known, Wherever humanity Is found there In the midst of It Is the spirit of the Paris . lawyer which s, Is courc, but u reflec tion of the spirit of the Oreat flrothhir .of us all working to save the youth ot (lie race,, tn redeem fallen boys and girls from the grip of the destroyer and to re store them to the ways of decency and peace. If all the youth who have urn reached and lifted up to a s'nse of self-respect and happluctiH by these reform schools could be got together what a procession they would make. Tho temptation Is strong tn ask the question: Ua: M. de Mets a monument? Rut how foolish, after all the oufcstlnn j would be. Ho needs no monument. This same mighty nrtny of redeemed youth Is I his monument, and he requires no other. Snapshots. i "HOW MUCH EASIER IT LS TO CIIOOSU A lll'SMAND." Rbe lm niKht. Dear Miss Fairfax; 1 am a young man of is. keeping company with a young woman two Years my senior. We are Infatuated with each other, lint mv mother does not anprove of It for the simple reason that 1 am too young to keep company with any as yet. C. T. H. A boy of 18 Is too young to pkiy with love. Give up this nonsense and dervoto more time to yqur work. If she la he girl for you this Is not the time, and both you and she will Improve In the waiting. By RBATRICK FAIRFAX. The customer Is weary. That the sales, girl is also weary Is something beyond her comprehension. Tho customer Is also Impatient, but the Balesgtr) Is not. Patience for her has a pecuniary value, and Its equivalent Is bread and butter. Oown after gown has been taken from the racks and draped on the dummy models, and tried on those of flesh and blood. Bolt upon bolt ot goods has been taken from the shelves and spread out In a way to give life and color to every thrrad. At last, wearied by the multiplicity ot choice and her own indecision, the cus tomer sinks Into a chair. The sales girl, who has never been tired by multi plicity of choice, and knows not the luxury of Indecision, remains standing. "How much earlor," says the custo mer, "it Is to choose a husband!" For she knew, as every woman know?, that that is where shopping comes easy. That Is a stock line. There Is no bewildering line of color. style or texture; no changing of fashions with confusing rapidity., no vexing doubt if the purchuse will prove Ix-comlug, and. iilax for feminine foils, no question If the purehure will stand the test of wear and time. .Wearing rose-colored classes that hide all Imperfections of woof nnd color, u girl enters this shop while very young, and proceeds to make n selection. She has to Ilttlo Judgment that her mother wouldn't trust her with tho purchase of a muslin dress thnt Is to Inst one season, yet she permits her to enter alone nnd ungulded a shop where she will make a purchase thut will last a lifetime. When she returns home with n new gown her mother examines It for Imper fertlons, noting quickly If It is worth the price, and, If not, the girl must take It back. Hut It the girl sliops for a husband, that Is of bo little Importance she shops unattended. And when she makes a poor selection her family meekly abides by her bargain. Her mother Is often a poor guide. In the matrimonial market, and her father shirks tlii task, regarding Ills business affairs as of more Importance. "Thut In your piovlnci'." ho says to Ills wlf, and she hides weakly behind that sentiment railed "mother love," and which Ib manifested lu letting daughter have a dynamite, bomb to play with It thnt Is daughter's choice. "Whe loves him," she will say when daughter bringB home her matrimonial purchase, "and we must let daughter have what she wants." And daughter linn It, and time has a way of Its own lu working on those, who buy matrimonially that Is unlike the way it markn off the days Mind mouths mid years on those who make less vital pur chases. The gown shrinks In the wash ami fades and breaks Into holex and Ih dis carded. In the matrimonial shop It Is not the purchase that shows the marlfs of wear and time; it Is (he onn who buy.s. The lninlapd may look lust us dapper oh the duy he wus taken from the coun ter, but tlm pour tittle customer who carried li I its off Is faded and worn, and begins to look like n lust yeur's gown that was a bud hurgnln to begin with, and. that proved worse with every day's wear. She luoliH Hpliitually and mentally out at elbows nixl down at heels, and the brlglitnesH of youthful colorings that once mado her a Joy bus. Iweome prematurely faded. Sho purchusrd on. the Impulses. She must wear to the duy of her death! She must onrry-to the enoSof time a bur den on her heart thut was never at the beginning any more than a moth-eaten sentiment. "How much euslei," suys the Impatient customer, surrounded by silks and wools nnd muslliMr "It Is to choose a husband." And this rltooslng of a husband Is Nome thing which mothers and fathers nnd all KiiardliiiiH of the young must make more of a ifsiionsnitHtj and less of a whim or cu price. liy Lilian laufert- A line or two i Of tytiu-fWliJch you May find some mood In meeting, And If you chalice ! This wav to glance. Accept a fnetullv greeting, . , THK I,AUGH. Uulld for yourself a strong-box. Fashion each part wltfi care: When It's strong as your heart ear make It. Put all your troublos there. Hide In It all thought of your failures, And each bitter cup that vou quaffs Ixick all your heartaches within It, Then sit on the lid and laugh. Tell no one else Its contents, . Never Its secrets share; I Whim you've dropped In your care and) worry, Keep them forever there. Hide them from sight so completJht That the world will never dream liutf Fasten the strong-box securel Then sit on the lid and laugh. -Se!eetri. ' Man Is the only animal that lauelia drinks when he Is not thirsty, and makei love at all seasons of the year.-Voftitlre. Who misses or who wins the prize, Qo, loso or conquer as you can, nut If you fall or If you rise, lie each, pray (Jod, a gentleman. Selected Bringing Up Father Drawn for The Bee by George McManus L 1 tess35 MMvyi . HAVE J CALLEOTOAa J "U FOR YoijR t ClHTER HAND I t-OVg HER-. I J AM f F i-r I .... 1 For uhf. S OH. rniiMi- Yntl Ukum uv . w. I JJ ASK My HuSfcAND I HUBBX - DEAR 1 VOULD LIKE TO "bEE "TOO A MIMUTE' i LH ( TOUR 'UbOAjso ) I f -A 1 'Dpofofr, TWEET1 wiiH to be Vs t. U -IsSsWWv y g?v bTwoEt, rn -jf x 5 IrliOfcKx-COUNT -N ita rr u. . . i ni HUSBAND VJILU MOT ABLE. 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