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How Woman is Chang
ing in Her Attitude to
Women and What
May be Looked for
By DOROTHY DIX.
One of the most Interesting and sig
nificant features of the wliole feminist
movement Is the altered volnt of view
with which wumen regard each other. It
lias not only brought the -women ot tvery
rank ami station
together, but It has
taught them to
It has made JXilla
O'Orady and the
colonel's lady real
Ixo that they were
sisters under the
skin, and It has
made Julia O'
Orady and the
colonel's lndy feel
rcsponal bio for
You see this ex
emplified In the
way in which Tien
women, and -Women
sors, and college Graduates have rallied
to the assistance of tho striking garment
workers In their fitfit for a IIvIiik wage
and decent worklnij conditions.
You Bee It In the fact that every move
ment "that has for Its aim the safeguard
ing of glrlc, tho shortening of worklntc
hours' for women, or Cor the welfare of
women In any way Invariably has .1
bolld backing of the best women In every
You see It In the way In which every
woman who has succeeded In any busi
ness or profession trios to help every
other woman wlio Is starting florth to
begin, her own battle with the world.
Only, a few days ago the papers pub
lished the story of a wealthy woman who
.had commissioned a famous singing
teacher to pick out two poor girls with
fine .voices wltoso expenses she would
pay while they went abroad nnd fitted
themselves to ibecome opera singers.
in these days you never 'flear a woman
say that a woman' best friend Is a man,
and that when she wants a favor she al
ways goes to the. opposite sex
Women know now thut. a woman's best
friend is a wuman, aruil that she's the
only one who never expects to be paid
back for her kindness. Thg old days
when every woman .was suspicious of
every Inther woman, and they were at
eacli .other's throats, like Jlgressps have
xonfi-mterged- lit the if awn" of a 'Be'tfeT era
that is sweet with the nlsterhoiM of
Of- course, being human, there Is .hound
to be a certain amount of selfishness.
And. rivalry and Jealousy.' , The star
actress has not reached the millennium
In which she steps aside and gives the
spotlight to tjio debutante: the woman
who Is at the head of a department does,
not yield her position nnd fnt salary to
a newcomer without n struggle, nor does
the wife resign her husband to an aftln-'
Ity without a protest, any more than men
do uny of these things, but there Is a
more fair and honest rlvnln- tv' rp-
women that there used to be, and a
keener realization of other uu,..riu
A most Interesting Illustration of thin
changed point of view of women, and of
their realization of this sisterhood has
Just como to mo In a letter from a young
girl of 19. She writes that she la deeplv
In love with a man, to whom she Is en
gaged to be married. She has recently
found out, however, that this man has
wronged a young girl, and, putting aside
her own feelings, she has been urging
him to make what amends, he can by
marrying the other woman.
"I feel that this other girl has a far
stronger claim upon him than I have,"
shn writes, "and that If he were any
sort of a man. and hud a particle of
honor or chivalry In his nature, he would
marry this poor, unfortunate girl, who
was a good girl, as he admits, until he
met her. Anvwav, I feel that I could
never be happy with him, because I could
never forget or forgive his treachery to
that trusting girl. Yet I love htrr. dearly,
nnd It breaks my heart to even think of
sending him from me."
Is not this letter and I assure you
I have quoted It literally an illustration
of the new nobility of womunhood?
Yet the writer has no notion that sho
Is an Idealist or an altruist. She Is lust
a plain working girl, without very inut"
education, who sees clearly her duty to
her sister woman, nnd unci nsclously
realises that women must fight eacn
other's battles, shoulder to shoulder,
when they face- a common enemv.
Ten years a;o no woman would have
written such n letter, no girl would have
taken such a position. For ages It has
been the custom to make the woman
benr all the burden of tho wrong dolm:
In such affairs, and to sanl the female
'sinner to Coventrv while you asked ths
male sinner to dinner.
And the chief stoners of the Magdalenes
1 were women.
, wiiim nmk tur hm ui mm nine wont
ing girl who tells the man she loves to
go and marry another woman becauso
the other woman's claim upon him Is
greater than hrs. Is worthy of a Dlacn
J beside that Immortal legend.
It Is a beautiful example of the chivalry
of woman, and that Is something, that Is
new In the history of the world.'
Advce to the Lovelorn
nj- vnKATBICE FAIRFAX.
Walt n While.
Dear Miss Fairfax: 1 am a young
man and have kept company much with
a young lady for the last live years. Re
cently, when calling at her house, she
acted very Indifferent. 1 would like to
",ave. ."' 'ettr and pictures returned.
Would It be proper for me to request her
tP return them upon returning all I have
received ffom bee? A READER,
You have been close friends for five
I -.uuiu rim 1 1 nu uockuic Bile
i our .readiness to accept dismissal Is
auspicious. Do you want your friendship
to .terminate? Perhaps, she was coal be
cause you have been content with mono
polizing her for five years and have said
nothing about an engagement. Think it
You Mnat Overcome It.
Dear Minx T?-o l (. t
nnd??p,y ln lovo ,vltn a young man
r "'"" ' moe my esteem irom
htm una how may 1 know that my re
gard Is returned? ANXIOUS.
You are only 18, and too young to know
what lovo Is. Put all thoughts of this
man out of mind. Jt will mean your
greater happiness when you aro a 'few
years. oloe'T.i '
Vt -" 't '
.She In Unreasonable,
A??2r .Mls," ''rfax: I am 19 and am
deeply n love with a young lady one
year younger When I call at her home
I . am. d,aJneJ until a very late hour,
vihlch Interferes with my sleep and the
consequence Ik that I am frequently late
"J, "I'1'1" at the orfiee. I spoke to her
of this, but she said that If I loved her
as much as J say I do I would not mind
staying late, Would you advise me to
give her up oh this account?
She Is so unreasonable that If you lost
your position because of your late hourr
she would show you no sympathy, nor In
any wa consider herself In fault. Tell her
ou can stay only so late; and stick to
that resolution. I am sure she will agree
rather than give you up.
If Yon iMTe Hint, Yes.
Hear Miss Fairfax; I am 19 and at the
beginning of the season was introduced
to a young man who thought a good deal
or me. but as tlmo went on w had a
misunderstanding and parted. Now he Is
beginning to correspond again. Do vou
think It would be worth while to renew
our friendship? M. B.
That depends entirely on your senti
ments regarding him. If you like him
and can see where the friendship is
worth while to you, you will decide that
the misunderstanding Is too trivial to
keep In memory.
lly UKV. THOMAS 11. GREGORY.
The foumt'tUott of the first real ) -
form school, at Mettniy, France actcnt)
four years au, April "itf. lS.'Ki. marks tu
beginning of one or the most vlla.l
lmiKirtaut IniitltuHons that are at v.ot
among ua at this
time for the upllH
of tho race.
Tho houo-or slim
ing this most ef
for the wi AtU'n of
the young. l'iJ may
well lm callol the
"seed corn" h
inanity, belong;! to
M. de Met A, tit o.ic
time a grvu't layn
In tho Buy capital
Met wt In cm ed the tcmptatlma and I
dangers tti which young boys aid g Is I
wero expound; he enw them 'alhng by
multitudes Into the way of evil, and,
what was nioio to the point, he ob
served that even the worst of the AM n
quontn never qifltp succeeled In totnllj
domoratlslug tlr 'Insclve. and thht moat
of them were, redeumahle If approachtd.
In the right siiltand us"sted ly he
With thU fbnvlrtlon dep wet Ih h"s
mind the eM'ou:isrlor set himself to "the
task of puttl.w; his faith to the tes of
actual experiment. Tutting his hands Into
his qwni pooMts, and Into tho poc '
of as man ot his rr ends as wjk.'d
allow it, Ira soon had a considerable
amount of vash, and upun r round gln
by the Vlcnmto lie I'ourcellcs the refunn
school was bhllt nnd pdt Into operat'en.
The results more than Justified "the
good man's di-enm, and when, some years
later, M. do Metz lav upon his deathbed
ho was comforted with the happy con
sciousness tliat he har bright nobjy ,and
permanently for the humanity he loved,
Tho Mettmy school set the world
thinking, nnd It was not long before litter
countries were establishing similar ti
stltuttons. Oreiit llrltaln, Germany, An-
rm, Italy, the Pnlted mates fell Into
line, and the Idea of -saving the boys and
girls 'from becoming hardened criminals
beenme almost a pnpslov J
Today less than a century after- the
foundation of the school at Mettray the
Institutions for the moral uplift of Jiive
nlle delinquents are to bt: numbered by
tho thousamllH. They have rnmlfled not
only throughout Christendom, but arc to
be .found In the ro-called "Pagan" lands
of the eurtli, where Christianity, as an
organization, Is but little known,
Wherever humanity Is found there In
the midst of It Is the spirit of the Paris
. lawyer which s, Is courc, but u reflec
tion of the spirit of the Oreat flrothhir
.of us all working to save the youth ot
(lie race,, tn redeem fallen boys and girls
from the grip of the destroyer and to re
store them to the ways of decency and
If all the youth who have urn reached
and lifted up to a s'nse of self-respect
and happluctiH by these reform schools
could be got together what a procession
they would make.
Tho temptation Is strong tn ask the
question: Ua: M. de Mets a monument?
Rut how foolish, after all the oufcstlnn
j would be. Ho needs no monument. This
same mighty nrtny of redeemed youth Is
I his monument, and he requires no other.
"HOW MUCH EASIER IT LS TO CIIOOSU A lll'SMAND."
Rbe lm niKht.
Dear Miss Fairfax; 1 am a young man
of is. keeping company with a young
woman two Years my senior. We are
Infatuated with each other, lint mv
mother does not anprove of It for the
simple reason that 1 am too young to
keep company with any as yet.
C. T. H.
A boy of 18 Is too young to pkiy with
love. Give up this nonsense and dervoto
more time to yqur work. If she la he
girl for you this Is not the time, and both
you and she will Improve In the waiting.
By RBATRICK FAIRFAX.
The customer Is weary. That the sales,
girl is also weary Is something beyond
her comprehension. Tho customer Is
also Impatient, but the Balesgtr) Is not.
Patience for her has a pecuniary value,
and Its equivalent Is bread and butter.
Oown after gown has been taken from
the racks and draped on the dummy
models, and tried on those of flesh and
blood. Bolt upon bolt ot goods has been
taken from the shelves and spread out
In a way to give life and color to every
At last, wearied by the multiplicity ot
choice and her own indecision, the cus
tomer sinks Into a chair. The sales
girl, who has never been tired by multi
plicity of choice, and knows not the
luxury of Indecision, remains standing.
"How much earlor," says the custo
mer, "it Is to choose a husband!"
For she knew, as every woman know?,
that that is where shopping comes easy.
That Is a stock line.
There Is no bewildering line of color.
style or texture; no changing of fashions
with confusing rapidity., no vexing doubt
if the purchuse will prove Ix-comlug, and.
iilax for feminine foils, no question If
the purehure will stand the test of wear
.Wearing rose-colored classes that hide
all Imperfections of woof nnd color, u
girl enters this shop while very young,
and proceeds to make n selection. She
has to Ilttlo Judgment that her mother
wouldn't trust her with tho purchase of
a muslin dress thnt Is to Inst one season,
yet she permits her to enter alone nnd
ungulded a shop where she will make a
purchase thut will last a lifetime.
When she returns home with n new
gown her mother examines It for Imper
fertlons, noting quickly If It is worth the
price, and, If not, the girl must take It
Hut It the girl sliops for a husband,
that Is of bo little Importance she shops
unattended. And when she makes a poor
selection her family meekly abides by
Her mother Is often a poor guide. In the
matrimonial market, and her father
shirks tlii task, regarding Ills business
affairs as of more Importance.
"Thut In your piovlnci'." ho says to Ills
wlf, and she hides weakly behind that
sentiment railed "mother love," and
which Ib manifested lu letting daughter
have a dynamite, bomb to play with It
thnt Is daughter's choice.
"Whe loves him," she will say when
daughter bringB home her matrimonial
purchase, "and we must let daughter
have what she wants."
And daughter linn It, and time has a
way of Its own lu working on those, who
buy matrimonially that Is unlike the way
it markn off the days Mind mouths mid
years on those who make less vital pur
chases. The gown shrinks In the wash ami
fades and breaks Into holex and Ih dis
carded. In the matrimonial shop It Is not the
purchase that shows the marlfs of wear
and time; it Is (he onn who buy.s.
The lninlapd may look lust us dapper
oh the duy he wus taken from the coun
ter, but tlm pour tittle customer who
carried li I its off Is faded and worn, and
begins to look like n lust yeur's gown
that was a bud hurgnln to begin with,
and. that proved worse with every day's
She luoliH Hpliitually and mentally out
at elbows nixl down at heels, and the
brlglitnesH of youthful colorings that once
mado her a Joy bus. Iweome prematurely
faded. Sho purchusrd on. the Impulses.
She must wear to the duy of her death!
She must onrry-to the enoSof time a bur
den on her heart thut was never at the
beginning any more than a moth-eaten
"How much euslei," suys the Impatient
customer, surrounded by silks and wools
nnd muslliMr "It Is to choose a husband."
And this rltooslng of a husband Is Nome
thing which mothers and fathers nnd all
KiiardliiiiH of the young must make more
of a ifsiionsnitHtj and less of a whim
or cu price.
liy Lilian laufert-
A line or two
i Of tytiu-fWliJch you
May find some mood In meeting,
And If you chalice
! This wav to glance.
Accept a fnetullv greeting,
, THK I,AUGH.
Uulld for yourself a strong-box.
Fashion each part wltfi care:
When It's strong as your heart ear
Put all your troublos there.
Hide In It all thought of your failures,
And each bitter cup that vou quaffs
Ixick all your heartaches within It,
Then sit on the lid and laugh.
Tell no one else Its contents, .
Never Its secrets share; I
Whim you've dropped In your care and)
Keep them forever there.
Hide them from sight so completJht
That the world will never dream liutf
Fasten the strong-box securel
Then sit on the lid and laugh.
Man Is the only animal that lauelia
drinks when he Is not thirsty, and makei
love at all seasons of the year.-Voftitlre.
Who misses or who wins the prize,
Qo, loso or conquer as you can,
nut If you fall or If you rise,
lie each, pray (Jod, a gentleman.
Bringing Up Father
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