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r ) Tf . Jeff Was Scared Until He ' Dorothy Dix's Article on Matrimony Man Should Be Able to Support a Wife in Her Accus tomed Ease Before She Promises to Love, Honor and Obey., y DOROTHY DIX. Do you think a young man should mention marriage to a girl before ho Is able to provide for u wife? Suppose a girl Of 19, who has not finished school, receives an offer of mar laro from a worthy younir man of 24 whom she thinks she loves, hut who has not the means of es tablishing a homo or supporting a wife, what advice would you give her? I am asked to answer these two questions. Person ally, I am strongly of the. opinion that the ganie of lovo should bo played according to the same ethics that rule In other gam bling games, and that a either put up or shut up; man should For -his' own-sake, no less -than that of the girl, the man who has no way of supporting a wife should keep out of mat rlmoplajy entanglements, both present and future. Ho has no more right to as sume the obligations of love-making, without being able to make good for them, than be has to buy an automobile without havjng the money to pay for It. In either case he Is getting goods under false pretenses. The long engagement Is one of the most blighting, and wearying, and wearing of all human experiences, and it nearly al ways turns out badly. It Is a drag on a man's ambitions, a fetter to his liberty, a continual expense that he generally can't afford. If he and the girl live In the same community they rub the romance off of their love by Jar and fret, and jealousies, and misunderstandings, because they are in an unnatural relationship where each claims the authority of a husband or wfe over the other's actions, without having the jurisdiction that matrimony gives, If the man lives In a different city from his betrothed and sees her only occasionally, absence almost Invariably does Its deadly work and slays love, and he goes about dragging the fetters of a long engagement, dreading the day when he must marry a woman of whom ho Is already tired. For the girl the long engagment is even more disastrous. Her position ! Drive away germs with GOLD DUST The modern surgeon care fully cleanses hands and in struments before and after every operation; ho realizes the danger both to himself and his patient of any cling ing germs. Germs thrive and multiply wherever they can find a lodg ing place in grease and dirt, and where things are scrupu lously clean they find it hard to live. The easiest and surest way to keep things clean lies in the use of Gold Dust washing powder. Gold Dust goes deep after dirt and routs out every germ and hidden impurity. It is the sanitary :leanser. pa Gold Dust ! sold in 5C size and large pack ages. The Urge package meant greatereconomy. "Ul tho COLD DUSTTWINS doyouT wor" ni n nlmost intolerable, because she has no official place In society. She Is neither maid, wife nor widow. She has the privileges of none of these estates and the drawbacks of them all. She spends her time waiting, watching, hoping for a happiness that Is always Just without her reach. Before asking a girl to marry him tho man who lacks the price of a wedding ring should bear In mind that so far as a woman Is concerned her youth Is her capital, not only sentimentally, hut financially. It Is the love time of life for her as It for a man, but It Is more. It Is her marrying time. A man may marry anywhere between the cradle and the grave. It doesn't make and dif ference with his prospects whether he Is slim nnd lithe and with ambrosial curls, or bay windowed or bald headed. But the ten years between twenty and thirty practically constitute a girl's op portunity, for making a good match. Her tlmo Is short, and she must make hay while the sun of her beauty shines. Therefore, if a woman la to have a hUB band and home of her own. sho rnust secure them while she Is young. This puts It up to a man's honor not to selfishly bind a woman to his own for. tunes unless ho has some assured way of repaying her for the sacrifices he asks of her and the risks he .forces her to take. It Is, of course, a nice point of honor that a man may) not be heorlc enough to practice, but It's certainly the chivalrous thing for the man who Isn't ready to ask a woman to name the wedding day to keep away from sentiment and sensa tional talk until he can afford tho luxury. As for a girl of 19 engaging htrrsolf to a man who has not the means of estab lishing a home or supporting a wife, sho Is a silly gooso to do It. She should say to such a young man, "If I am worth huvlng. I am worth working for. Prove your love by the way you hustle, apd when you have got enough money to lurnisn a nice nttle flat, and Insure us bread and butter, come back and ak again. me real test of love Is what we are Milling to do for another, nnd no man can glvo a better proof of his devotion to his lady love than the day In whloh he rolls up his sleeves and sails Into his joo ior ner saKe. The lackadaisical lover, binding a girl to an Interminable cnii. n.ent, while he sighs around because ho can i mane enough money to support her, Is one matrimonial proposition. The fellow who works overtime and who puts all of hi strength Into every punch, because every livk brings him that much nearer to his wedding day, who wniecii looaccfi and heer to put the money Into furniture for the little nest he Is fixing up 'for the girl he loves, s another watrlmonlaj proposition. And It doesn't take any female Solomon to see which one Is the preferred risk. It's a great pity that girls are taught that love Is the only thing to be consid ered In marriage. U Isn't. A man's ability to support a ramlly and to get alone in th Just ns much to do with his wife's hap piness as tho state of his affections. 1 litre isn't much love talk gofng on In a house where the ever present conun drum is how to pay the bills. or tnese, and a million nth-,. that every alrl's father will point out to her If she will listen to him .h. maiden will wait until a youth has shown that he has the ability to stand on his own feet and play the game of his own bat before she ties, her life to his. And she won t promise to wait for him. She will agree to mairy him next month. In other words, she will bestow herself as a re ward upon the victor, not hand h.if over as a consolation prise to the failure. Advice to Lovelorn By BEATRICE FAIRFAX. It Ortnlnly Would. Dear Him Falrfnv i.nu. ... made the acnualntnnn. nt u i,,.,,.. i. i.. at the seashore, with whom I have lie. ?hueJeirLmuch Infatuated. I have taken this girl to several places of amusement and as yet have not declared my love, but when In company I alwayi how by my actions that I prefer this young lady. I ro ll years of age and do not Intend mi Bin iimrricii ior rive or mix years, at least. Do you think that thi. v. tSwKrPme?1 X th'B yoUn PHRPLKXED HARVEY. A long engagement Is always an in justice to the girl, owing to the faith fulness of her sex and the fickleness of yours. Don't ask it of her. and for your own sake put thoughts of lovo out of your head until you are better fitted to tarn a wife a living Key to the Bituation-Bee Advertising. THE BEE: - W8 Found It IT OUGHT TO BE ftR.OUNt HR. SOfAC PLACE. T AIN'T OP T-HGR.'C AT "Women Take Ily ADA PATTERSON. "The greatest trouble with women Is that they take themselves too seriously!" "Then you don't think wn are the frivolous sex?" "Women are the frivolous sex, and that I the reason that they have done the serious work of tho world." So began a chat with the woman who has, according to repute, "more women friends than any woman in New York. ' Mrs. Minnie Nye. well-to-do widow and charity worker, and. In a not too ex treme sense, oltib woman, Is a "woman s woman." She Is self-appointed missionary to make women like each other better and she admits it Is not an easy task "Tho reason men have such good time together Is that tlicy really llko each other. A man who lives In this club apartment has an amalgamating spirit He started with four or five men whnt he calls an open table, in a short tlmo all tho men In tho club house belonged to that open table and the women are puzzled and furious. 1 have been saying to In em: 'The reason tho women don't get together and have Just as good times as men Is that they don't like each other well enough. They are not Interested In each other.' " "And don't trust each other." T amended. "Not where a man Is concerned yet," returned the woman who lias more, women friends than 'any woman Jn New York. "Women could enjoy life so much wore. not to mention doing their part in the world's work vastly better. If they would only learn to like each other." "Can that be learned?" "Yes. by self-tralnlng. Every woman can shame herself out of the cave wo man Idea that every other woman wants tho man she cares for. or the man sho might care for. This Is a thinking age and It Is time for women to get rid of tho primitive Idea which makes them see in every other woman a man-taker. Wo can train ourselves to think of every wo man as a woman, a creature with ten derness and sympathy, and fineness of sensibilities that no man on earth can possess or ever will possess. We should think of every woman we meet as hav ing some of the qualities that make our mothers tho most beautiful person, or memory, In our lives. That Is the way to begin to like a woman. But what arc we Inclined to do? What have wo for centuries been doing? A woman contrasts or compares every woman with herself. She meets a woman who has done some work In the world. She doesn't think of the woman In connection with her work. No. She regards her In comperl- son with herself. Sho sees that sho Is wearing sables, fcnd she says to herself or to others: 'Now, where did you get tnose sapies, i naven t any sables!' or she looks searchlngly at par and says: 'I'll bet she's sji -old n .1 nm. If nnt older.' We areJ'iicIlned'Tiways to make ourselves the standard of comparison. "We make tfi mistake of taking our selves too seriously. Why do men get on so well together? Because they are not weighed down with self-reverence. Have you ever heard men who are good friends call each other names? In a discussion one will say. 'You insuffer able Idiot, can't you see this?' Or 'Lis ten to, that dub's opinion!' And they will laugh, throw tielr arms about each other's shoulders, unashamed, and go out toge.ther for a drink or. smoks. It women talked to each other so frankly there would be tears, maybe hair pulling. And they're ashamed to admit that they are such good friends as they are. They think it Is 'mushy or silly to have a gen uine sisterly affection for another woman. The first year of my widowhood a friend sent me every day a reminder thaf sho was thinking of me. It may have been only a cheap post card when she was in the country. Or'she called me up by phone to ask me If I had seen an article in a magazine that she thought would Interest me. But for a whole yaar no day passed that this friend did not let me know that she thought of me in my sadness and loneliness. Don't Imagine that she was some woman of leisure who could spare the time.' She was one of my working friends. She was supporting myself and herself and others, but she was a friend. But women are coming to like each other better!" "What signs do you see of this change?" "I see it In their getting together more and more, for social and philanthropic work. They show that they feel the need of each other and the power of getting together. Charles Reade tells a won derful story of a prisoner who hated the world. He loathed humanity and he came Into prison an enemy of all man kind, A beautiful character approached him and thrust his hand through the bars of the prisoner's cell In greeting, The prisoner turned his back. All night the kindly character kept his hand through the bars, untlj his arm became numb, until It ached, until It was nearly -w OMAHA, TTKSDAY. FKBRUARY If. 101ft. 4. s lvi - e - - s r t co .sav MOT THfVT T CR.C ALU ,QUT X WONDGfl, Selves Much MRS. MINNIE NYE. paralyzed. Toward morning he felt faint apologetic clasp. That is what some women aro doing toward many wo men today. Tho prisoners of littleness must turn about. They must ttiko the extended hand." "Perhaps since man was the cause of their not liking each other, as fewer women marry and those who marry do less hero worshipping, the -cause Is In a way removed?" "Yes, but that Is a menace I am sorry to see grow. Women are thinking less of men. They are growing more self. sufficient. And what Is going to become of the race? That Is my fear. I should like to see women adopt men's code In friendship. A man's code Is 'stand by.' If a friend tells him anything In confi dence he would be torn to pieces before he would tell it. When women learn to keep each other's secrets they will be better friends. "But I have great hope in the growing sense of humor in women They are gradually learning to take themselves more humorously, feeling as men do, that they and their problems are more or loss of a Joke, and they are gradually developing the ability to laugh, or at The Other Uy REV. TIIOMA8 U. GREGORY. It was February 11. 1810, 103 years ago. that Simon Bolivar, at the time a young man of 17, received his colonel's commis sion from the ruvolutlonary Junta at Cuscacas, Venezu ela. It was thi' be ginning of a ca- nn r that was us noble as It was brilliant, and with p e r f o c t Justice Bolivar stands forth In history as the South American Washington Born at Caracas in I'tbo, of a noble and wealthy house, Bolivar, after re ceiving a thorough education, devoted j conslderablo time traveling, visiting among other lands, tho United States of America. While in this country he had his eyes opened to the blessedness nf free Institutions, ami upon getting back to his native Venezuela he heartily Identi fied hlmtelf with the cause of Independ ence. The sword that was given him by his countrymen h wielded In such way as to make him forever famous as a war rior The campaign which endd with the victory at Bajaca stamps its organ Drawn OH ,YH6p.t , it is ! Too Seriously" aleast to smile at them. Formerly every woman was a more or less doveloped tragedienne. In her own nffulis. Now alio Ib developing comedy gifts, Women are welcoming the advent of a sense of hu mor In women, Every man will gladly do anything ho can to develop it In a woman If she shows a spark of It In her. "There Is need of women liking each other bettor. It will makn them better wIvcb and housewives and mothers, es pecially mothers. Men are at beHt merely an Incentive to tho duty of motherhood. They Impress upon women that It is their duty to rear future presidents of the United States. How the Whlt house would bo crowded If a millionth of the children who were urged to be president even tried itl But women help each other to be good mothers by exchanging Ideas and showing each other how." "How can this better era be brought about?" "By taking themselves less seriously and selfishly, by regarding every woman as a woman, not a man-thief; by keeping each other's secrets, and by clubbing It within reasonabln bounds. Men hate womens' clubs, but clubs within reason are the friends of households.' Washington izer as a military genius of the first order. With many handicaps he fought the trained veterans of Spain with his raw levies and beat them oftouer that he I was beaten. When disaster came he bore It with un , discouraged fortitude and with amazing skill and daring, and when the enemy was lenst expecting It. turned the defeat Into victory. No misfortune was able to put a damper on his courage or clip tho wings of his splendid hopafulnesu. Uko our own Washington, ho managed to sco a star In tho darkest night time of dls. aster und to wring some sort of sub stantial success from the most discourag ing situation. Uko our Washington, again, ho was proof against ull guile and till corruption. In deep gratitude and full confidence the i people ho had freed from tho Spanish voted him "Perpetual Dictator." and his largo powers he used with moderation, with klndneis und with Justice. There was not a drop of dishonorable blood on his Hword or a smirch of evil report on his administration of civil affairs. Bolivia, amitlier country that he freed, invested him with the dlctorial power and voted him a grant offl.OOO.OOO. De clining the princely grant, Bolivar ac cepted the dictatorship and used It Bolely for the betterment of Bolivia's Interests. It Is wrltteh of this rmarkablo man that he oxpended nearly all of a splended patrimony In the service of his couxitry( for The Bee by EartKs Rotations All Clocks; Should They Stop We Wouldn't Know Time JJy OJARRHTT 1 MEHVIHH. A correspondent asks for Information about thn vurltius ways of nuiasurlng time that man Imvo Invented. This Is of Interest to everybody, for not only Is tlmo our most prec ious possession, but upon its accurate measurement o u r whole civilization is largoly based. Tho greatest, old est ii ml best clock Is tho rotating earth, which makes the heavens appear to turn round us llku a movablo dial. If the e-irth stood still on Its axis wu should havu no clear Idea of time, such as wo now possess. Hut It takes an astron omer, with his instruments, to read this clock. Tho first measuri) of tlmo that men employed was tho length of tho day, bo twecn sunrise and sunset. Hut when they tried to dlvldu It Into twelvo shorter periods, or hours, they found out two things first, that If they would keep the same number of hours for the measure of n day they must mnlcn them longer in summer and shorter In winter, and, sec ond, that If they wished to havo the hours always of oqual longth thuy, must count more of them In a day In summer than In winter. They might have divided (as they did eventually) the wholo porlod of one day and one night Into hours nf equal length, whoso number would novir vary, but tho first men wore not astrono mers, and had no means of accurate ob servation of the stars. It was tho day light hours that were Important to them. In ordor, then, to get an unvarying measuro for short periods of time they had to use their Inventive faculties, and contrlvo somo kind of a olork. Tho oarll est devices of this kind wero elepsydras, or water-clocks. A water-clock in It simplest form, "consists of nn upright ves sel with a small hole In the bottom to let tho water gradually escape, and marks to show how far the water has descended in a given time. But here a difficulty was encountered Immediately. Tho rapidity of the out flow varies with the depth of the water: .consequently the water will descend far ther In a Klven tlmo at the beginning than at the end. To avo'd this cither tho distance between the marks must be carefully varied, or else the vessel must be made In the shape of an In verted cone, smaller at tho bottom than at the top, so that as the pressure dimin ishes tho quantity of water that must and although he had for a long time un limited control over tho revenues of three countries Columbia, Peru and Bolivia he died without u shilling of the publio money in his possession. He won tho Independence of three states nnd called forth a spirit in tho southern portion of the New World that can never be extinguished. Ho purified tho ad ministration of Justice; ho encouraged tho arts and sciences, and he Introduced other countries to recognize that Inde pendence which was In a great measuro the fruit of his own exertions. Thn "Liberator" died at San Pedro, De cember 17. 1R30, In his forty-seventh year, worn out with his twenty-year tussle for human liberty. He died young, but he lived long enough to win the fight for democracy, and the great work, that he did can never be undone. His clean fame Is secure, and equally secure arc the foundations of freedom laid by him In the South American lands. ML AN AND THE SOIL. Or, II. V. Pierce of Buffalo, author of Medical Adviser, says " why does not the body as lie treats tho land he cultivates. lie puts baok in phos phate nhst he takes out in eroDS. or tho land would row Door. The farmer should put back into his body the vitsl elements exhausted by labor, or by ill-health induced bv some chronio diiea.o." Further, he says, " the great "icrce s Golden Medical Discovery is in its vitalizing power. It give strength to the stomach and purity to the blood. It is like the phosphate which supply nature with the substances that build up the crop. The far-reaching action ol Doctor Pierce's Golden medical Discovery it due to it effect on the stomach and organs of digestion and nutrition. Dl caiea that begin in the ttomsch aro cured through the stomach. A bilious spell ii limply the result of an effort made by the liver to catch up wben over-worked and exhausted, I have found the ' Ditcovery ' to be unturpasscd a liver reg ulator and rich blood-maker," Miss Lottik ITsibelt of Perth. Kansas, says: "I will here add my testimony if tho efioetlvoness of your r:medy upon myself. I was troubled with lndlgeailon for two year or more. Doctored with three different doctors beside taking numer ous kind of str-cullod stomach cures but received no permanent relief. Iwa run JoWn, could not sloop at night with the pain In my chest, caused by gas on tho stom ach. Was weak, could eat scarcely anything although I was hungry nearly all th time. About one year and a half ago I began taking your ' Golden Krbdlcal Discov ery,' and after having taken several bottles am nearly cured of stomach, troubla, C'-in iiut eat without distress and have gained fifteen pounds In weight. I thank vou for your ruiueJy and wish you sJl success In your good work; -:rr "Bud" Fisher X TnouCrHT THE I ARTIST VORGOT HlS 5IGNVTUB- J the Greatest of flow out In order to lower the surface equally In equal Intervals is proportion ally dtnilnshcd. The ancients succeeded very well In overcoming this difficulty, and they madn elepsydras of many Ingenious forms, which could even bo cmploytd for astron omical observations. The hour-glass Is n kind of elepsydraa In which land takes tho place of water Alfred the Urest Invented a candle clock, He had his candles to propor tioned that they would burn down three Inches per hour. Pinto, tho philosopher, Invented an elep pydra which caused a flute to play at th end of every hour, so thnt the time could ho told at night. Haiounal-al-RaacId sent to Charlemagne ns a present a slepsydra In which the falling water opened a little door at the end of every hour and caused a number of balls, corresponding with the number of the hour, to fall upon a brass drum. At noon and at midnight twelve mlnature horsemen pranced forth and shut all the doors for a new round. After the olepsydras came the gravity clocks, In which a weight Is made to turn a system of wheels which move tho hands over the dial. It was only after this Invention, the dato of which Is not known, that It became possible to measure accurately such small Intervale as seconds. It Is known that such clocks began to bo used in Europe In the four teenth century, and some think they were In use several centuries earlier. With the gravity movement It became posslblo to Invent still more Ingenious clocks than those made on the clepsydra plan. Evorybody who has been at Stras burg knows the famous clock in th cathedral, which towere up to the hetght of a Bmall house, and Is populated with automatons thatmarch In procession and, perform many curious evolutions con nected with the passage of time, while the movements of the planets and ot the sun and moon are also Indicated. The next step after the Invention of gravity clocks was the use of a pendu lum to regulate the motion. Oallleo dis covered the laws of pendulum motion, and determined by experiment the length of a pendulum that would tick seconds, but the first application to a clock was made by Huygens In 16S6. Tho Invention of colled springs to drive the clock movement also appear to date baok to the fourteenth century, and It led to the contrivance of pooket clotsks, or watches. Tho old city of Nuremberg was the carlst center of this Industry, The first watches were called "Nurem berg eggs," becauso they were egg shaped, But the Inaccuracy of the early watches Is strikingly shown by an anec dote of the Emperor Charles V. after hts retirement to a monastery. Ho had a large number of watches of the best make, ami he used to spend hours trying to make them keep time together, It la said that he once exclaimed: "See what a fool I have been to squander so much blood nnd treasure trying to make men think alike, when I cannot even make a few watches keep step together." It has required all the science of the nineteenth and twentieth centuries to produce the perfected watches and chron ometers of today, but even they are so variable that they would soon be of no uso If they were not constantly corrected by astronomical observations. AIbh has come back to the point where he began In the measurement of time. The rotating earth Is his only standard, and the entire time system of (he globe Is based upon tho tireless watching of the astronomers, who time the passage of the stars over the meridian to the traction of a second, and, by electricity. flash the news that seta the watches and clocks o( the civilized world. the Common Sens farmer trest his own value of my Doctor