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Ella "Wheeler Wilcox Answers
Elva D. Kellogg and Says:
We Must Better the Mothers to
Better the Race
By ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.
Copyright, 1913, by the Btar Co.
A bright woman named Elva D. Kellog
takes me to taBk for some verses wherein
woman as the mother Is accused of fall
ing In her duty.
Mrs, Kellog quotes the final line of
the poem and her
criticisms follow.
" 'Wo must bat
ter tho mothers to
better the race.' "
"Granted, But U
will do na front!
until the fathers
htv became hu
man feelhgu instead
of eretuWee iWr
than ftltil'tnlS; W'.y
not prefteh fet ifca
men dletlyTflijf
not etumli to this
Ifenel'atluni instead
of mere Urjflns the
ine next genera
tion of men what It should be? After all.
a, mother can't do more than half any
way. A mother may bring up a glr)
alone quite creditably, but a father must
have a hand with the son. And fathers
are shirking.
"Another side of the question. Why do
men shirk fatherhood? Oh, I know most
every man wants to have children. But
after he gets them, then what? First, his
Is the sextual delirium, then the pleasure
of anticipation, later real plans and the
Joy of possession, minus the responsi
bility. For the mother, fear, dread, pain,
agony, worry, and ever-present sense of
responsibility can this be offset by the
pleasure of possession?
" 'We mothers orb working alone to
bring up our little men and women. Ever
since the time of Adam, man has shifted
responsibility of everything except the
bread and butter side of the question.
All too of ton the mother has her half of
this responsibility added to the other
cares.
"Yat your cry is for mothers to do their
duty better. What In the world do yo
xpeet of the men? If men had the race
reponlbl.ty laid at their door, the whole
world would undergo"1 a revolution. Men
UN only blir children and they ought to
ba man, Thon they read your pleas to
women and they begin to see whero their
own wife, the struggling mother of u
band of ioven or eight tots, Is deficient,
and Straightway aha Is belittled In their
ma and they put themselves, on the
mk doing tholr duty, Pear knows,
the mste mar in already an egotist, at.
ready a spelled. elid, without anything
ft nate waman can write make him
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"We must betteF the fathers te batter
Hf would )ba sea plead with men
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Pjpi ol$ f3mpotiail 6tirea Colda
fttas XJpAcfs QeatJy,
fm esfl mty end Srippe And brv&ti
HP the west ewm sid either in had,
msU &8ei stswaeh er limbs by taking
& asB ef Psa'n 0ld Compound every
two tieF until thre eonaeoutlve dosm
W8 tsbtfli
It FF&ffiPtir' fetleves the moat mistratu
ie4&ehg, duilfiifiB, hoad nnd noe atuffsd
UPi feVfriSbBptii, BHeeslh?, ROM threat,
)Me9 patarrlml dlHhAFaes, running 0f
ttlt R?i 0fnet.s, stiffness and rbeuma
t(8 twinge,
faiie this renderfu Oempound as 6i
seet&d, withaut interferenoe with your
ysual duUea and with the knowledge that
there la notMnu else n the world, whioh
w(il euro your 0014 er end urlppe misery
as Vomptly and without any other as.
alistajiee or bad after-effeota m a U-oant
paobae pf Pape'H Oold Compound, which
any druaalM pan supui-e.ccept no sub.
stltute-i-centftlna no qulnlnebelonse )n
tftry Bamoi TtM nioe.-vdvertisemant.
THIS WILL INTEREST MOTHERS
otl(t erjf'i aat I-SiwiUm for Chllirm, a
Btomach. Tetthlnf Dliordtn, mora tni rtiuUta
tfc bowtli and daatror ormi. They breai cp'
cnlji la U hour. Thtj ara o plaaaast ta tta
Uata caUdrea " uan urar iu.imi lemmoiuaii.
Uaad br mothsra lor il jeara. Tby narar (all,
fold br all dnilrfata, tlo. Eampta mallad
aanaa, Allan o. urai". nii
Poor Profit
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APOSTLE AND
THEV THINK uc
nrxAjKi utiDc rav.
for better manhood, truo fatherhood, uud
for the subduing of the much abused, too
much Indulged sex element which Is In
Itself a groat cause of unwelcome babied,
and woman's rebellion against mother
hood. We want to plan our babies as wo
would any grand piece of work, and we
cannot do this until our husbands have
become enlightened have learned contro.
along this line. Respectfully yours,
"BIA" A D. KELIXX3."
Mrs. Kellog has evidently failed to read
many articles and verses In this column
which have dealt with the subject she de
sires discussed.
It has often been urged that our pre
paratory schools and colleges for young
men should Include In the currloulum a
thorough course In sex hygienics. In what
Is now known as eugenics; and that mar
ried men and fathers should be compelled
by law to attend lectures on theBe sub
jects at least three times a year.
"Schools of Oood Fatherhood" have also
been advocated. As soon aa a young boy
Is old enough to attend school he tthould
begin his preparation for marriage and'
fatherhood by being taught the sacred
ness of his body, and the necessity of
peeping It clean and strong and full of
healthful vigor, lie should be warned ur
the danger which lies In pbscene conver
sation, vulgar language or habits which
could not be known by his mother and
sisters. Woman should be made an object
of reverence In his eyes, and any woman
who Is not worthy such reverence he
should be taught to pity.
The scientific facts regarding the trans
mission of bad blood, made Impure by
nicotine, alcohol, drugs or sexual vices
should be taught him by teachers prop
erly trained In such knowledge. Vice
should be presented to him from its dan
gerous physical side as well as from the
moral standpoint. And the innate prlrte
of very man feels In producing worthy
descendants should be cultivated In him
from early youth, until ho as naiurauy
protects his unborn sons and daughters
from contamination as he guaras nimseir
from mutilation.
Self control should be taught every child
from the cradle up.
But I disagree with the bright woman
when she says "Tho mother can do only
half In bringing up a child."
A mother's Influence over a child Is
Just as much greater as her part In
creatine the child Is longer in time than
that of the father. It Is not tne mere
sowing of the seed which makes a beau
tiful flower garden.
The caring for the ground In which
the seed Is sown, and the wedding and
fertilizing and training of the plants after
they sprout ore what determine their
vigor and perfection.
For three-quarters of a year before
the human plant comes to the light the
mother Is molding it and Influencing it
with her thoughts, her habits and her
physical condition.
For a year after it is visible Its life
depends upon her, not upon the father!
and Its first language, Its first ideas, its
first habits, are patterned upon the
maternal plan.
This Is a most important part of a
child's life, and too much canpot be said
to make mothers realize their responsi
bility. Mrs Kellog wants the men of this
generation to be talked-to. That Is well
and good; but it Is somewhat late to
make these men what they might have
been had their mothers begun with them
In childhood. A wise, good, broad, whole
some-minded mother can make her boy
exactly what she wants and Is persistent
and tactful In her methods those early
years of & child's life are of such vast
Importance In shaping his mind.
The new science of eugenics (new in
its modern practical application to so
cial problems) will make a great chanjee
In the Ideas of men and women regard
ing domestic life and marriage relations.
The advent of women Into medicine Is
gradually bringing a change of senti
ment, and will eventually do away with
some old 'traditions. Particularly the
tradition that man cannot exercise con
trol over his passions, and that by na
ture he is so constituted that his im
moralities are justifiable on the plea of
health.
Men physicians have fostered this
tradition In the masculine mind. But
It will pass with other worn-out theories,
and a new and higher philosophy will bo
the power of mental sugegstlon and
mothers will be taught to use It with
their children.
We must better the mothers to better
the race.
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Fat Fatal to Beauty; Gaby
Deslys Tells How to Keep Thin
I Ill il 111 IIIIMIst
lly GABV DESLYS.
Almost every woman I meet asks mo
how I keep my figure. Goodnecs knows
I hope It Is not yet a question of keep
ing It that suggrsts a deadly conflict
with fat and old ase. So fnr, I haven't
worried much about It, and I havo no
chance to get fat, working winter unci
summer as I do.
But when I see women and young girls
of the leisure classes, over here In Amer
ica, who have no work of any kind and
whose sole occupation seems to be going
from one eating plnco to another, I nm
not surprised that girls of 3) begin to
think about tho problem of keeping their
figure.
In every hotel that I have been to In
America I see these young women and I
continue to marvel that they look as
handsome as they do, when they seem
to be going contrary to every law of
hygiene.
Such an exlstenco would be fatal to mc,
and If Qaby Deslys succumbed to the
pastry and tea, the rich cooking V.id Into
suppers, on which she Is supposed to
feed, there would soon bo no reason why
she should write about her secret of
beauty, for all beauty would have van
ished. Have you ever thought that It Is an
easy thing to get into the habit of over
eating? One goes about with other peo
ple, men and women, who like good eat
ing, and who have nothing In tho world
to do but Indulge their taste, so one soon
finds that one eats much more than one
really wants merely to bo In pleasant
company.
If you want to bo beautiful, If you
want to keep your figure young and slim,
give up that kind of society. Avoid the
people who eat too much, for you will
surely be Induced to overeat with them.
Just as a man who frequent the society
01 men who drink a good deal eventually
drinks with them Just to be a "good fel
low." The afternoon tea habit Is the foe of
the slim woman, for the 5 o'clock Is
getting to be a regular meal, and tho
appetite has to be stimulated with all
kind of appetizers for dinner, wlilch be
comes an unnecessary meal to the woman
wno has been eating steadily since
lunoheon.
The other day I saw In newspaper.
wiai e. clergyman 1 think it was In
Philadelphia warned wives not to get
too fat If they would keep their hus
band's affections. A commandment like
this always makes a French woman
laugh. Fancy having to be told by a
clergyman not to get fatl We would cer
talnly feel Indignant; for while, of course
there ara many French women of large
proportions, they generally don't let go
or their figures until they have a firm
grip on the affections of husband and
j., uuouij mi ute lamiiy
1 pocneiDO0K Besides.
1 As a rule French women aren't aa
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'ta
Avoid the company of those who
eat and drink too much, so that you
will not fall into their habit.
beautiful naturally as tho Americans, but
they make moro of themselves. Perhapj
they are vainer, but I think they are morn
modest, because they feci they must make
a grcut effort to please.
The French woman, no mattor In what
walk of life. Is seldom found about In th
early morning with her hair In disorder
Even when she Is doing her own house
work sho Is nicely "colffed," and sho
can run out In the .street without a hat
and be conscious that her hair Is per
fectly drosscd. The busy housewife seldom
does her hair up moro than one a day, but
If
The Grape
liy WILLIAM F. KIKK.
"Don't look my way, nor bow to mo, pray!"
Said tho Grape to tho ear of Corn,
"I know no dearth of breeding or birtli
You are common and humbly born:
I grace thlB room with my purpio. bloom
And after my death I am Wine:
Since Babylon'B bowls I havd cheered men's uouls.
Can you boaatof a gift like mlno?"
With a ucornful leer and a bitter uneer
Said the Corn to the boasting Crape:
"I can kill moro souls than your Wine can cheor
I can turn a man to an ape!
Foe after my death I am Whisky see?
Not the Wine that sparkles and cheers,
And for every bubble you show to me,
I -will show, you a thousand tears!"
Drawn
I it Is dom to stay nnd Iho uolffure is gen
I orally rather elaborate nnd very smooth
1 no janitresH of a very modest lodging
will arrungo her hulr rvery 'morning ui
perfectly aa If she were going to a ball
So will tho little shopgirl,, who .ridum
wears a hat, except In winter, and w
sleek llttlo head, with Its pretty coiffure
makes ono of the attractions of tho
French streets during the noonday
hours.
The same sort of vanity, if t is vanity,
keeps the French woman from growing
fat. Botween you nnd mo, there Is but
ono way to keep thin, nnd that Is to
eat enough to live on nnd no more, and
to exercise regularly.
This Is 11 rule which rusts mi money ta
ouoy and which Is ko wine and simple
that It Is generally overlooked.
When you tell women now tu be beau
tlful thoy never want to do (flrnple things,
however. Thoy would rathor bo told that
they could grow thin by rolling 10A tlme
on a hardened floor or taking baths In
epBou salts or wearing rubber corsets
and certainly all these things will holp
some, but tho root of tho trouble In u
great lovo of rloh food nnd phynlcal lazi
ness. and the Corn
for The Bee by
Demon of
IJy WINIKHE1) BLACK.
Dear Miss Black: All my life I have
regarded home life ns the most wonderful
and best thing that could come to a
woman. I havo now becti married five
years to u man I
loved or 1 should not
j liavo married him,
1 but there Is 110 home
life. I am woiklng
for my dally bread
and bo Is worklnh'
1 ton, for a very small
I sulnry You may say
why not make tho
best of what he
makes and have a
home, and let mo tell
you I do not crave
for luxuries, but I
must have sanitary
conditions and on
whut ho makes It
would not 4)0 safe
to try tp live In 0. large city. It would
moan actual privation and living from
hand to mouth. In his work my husband
hac to dress neatly and make a ood
appearance. '
With my nature It aeems almost 'in
possible to live without something to Ionic
forward to, I have nothing. I am a
bookkeeper and find It hard nowadays
to keep my mind on my work.
I wish I wore a more modern woman,
but right down In my heart of hearts I
long for tho good old days when men
provided and women made the home.
J. V. 11
Well, well, J. W. H what a dreadful
time you ara having all by yourself, aid
yet I know many people who are much
worse off than you.
You are not 111, starving, belpluss,
deserted. Thore Is nq little child beg
ging you for food you con not give.
Neither are you In deep dlsgraco and
no one that you love better than your
own Ufa Is In desperate trouble.
None of these things nils you, thon
you need not bn too desporate, for thous
ands and thousands of woman stagger
along with all of these troubles at once,
11 ml live through them, and make others
happy at that.
It never pays to worry about trouble.
Hither get out of the condition that galls
)ou so, or stop thinking about It Imme
diately. '
Are you ready to do that, or do you
Just want to sit down somewhere with a
good, clenn apron over your head nnd
1 lmv', 11 lllce cmnfy cry over K allT That
1 1"n't s,lch 11 bad ldel1' elt1""'- " you'i
! Ket th, Cry'"K 0Vr Bn?done wl'h Rt
once. But are you willing to do any.
thing besides cry?
You wunt a- home life, How badly do
you want It? What do you call "sanitary
conditions?" How "Inefficient" Is your
husband? How do you know that he Is
"Inefficient" at all? Maybe you are the
one who Ih that,
Hnw much does he get a wook any
how? Less than anybody else on earth,
or do the men In the same office with
your husband get the same salary he
does? How do their families live on it
nnd bear the life?
I know people who aro poor with $76 a
week to spend; others feel rich when
thoy havo $15; which class do you be
long to?
How do you know you'd love home Hfe7
Huvo you ever tried .it? It sounds ro
mantle, but did you ever wash dishes and
clean out the sink, and feed the cat, and
dress the baby, and sweep the kitchen,
Advice to Lovelorn
By UUAXUICU FAUtFAX.
Ilorute Ilia Invitation,
Dear Mica Fairfax! I am sixteen and
couilderad vary pretty. Recently I mot a
man of U through flirtation, and be haa
nnked me tu go to a ball where all my
friends nro tu bo. X know nothing of hit
character. ANXIOUS.
lou must not go, of courso, uud I am
disappointed, because you made hie ac
quaintance through a flirtation. You did
not know hi character then any mora
tlitui you hnow It now. X'leaae, I beg of
you, )t this bo the last acquaintance
tv.bdo In thla doubtful way.
Certainly Not.
Dear Miss Fairfax: I am 17 years old
and deeply In love with a young man two
years my senior. I have been keeping
company with him for" the' last six
mpuths. During this time he haa con
fessed his love for me, but of late he
bus been actlner 'very coolly toward me
and it Is breaking my heart. Would yon
advise mo to speak to him? P. R. T,
If his love Is cooling, reproaches will
not warm It.
I am sure that If you show an lndlf.
ference to him he will take a greater In
terest in you. But don't reproach him.
11 will make him too sure of you-
"Bud" Fisher
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Discontent
and dust the living room, and shako
down tho furnace, nnd put nway the
milk all baforo 10 o'clock, and then feol
"rested nnd protected?"
Home-making Isn't funi ll'n work, nnd
hard work at that, and tiiern Isn't a
cent of money n It, not n oent, How do
you know you'd ho an In love with It,
after nil?
Bo you long for tho "geod old days
whan man provided and women made the
homo." I've heard n great deal nbout
thorte days, I wish I'd seen noma of
them.
I naked an old, old lady about them
tho other day and oho ealdi "I reckon
there have always been no aeeount men
and ohlftless woman es long an the world
hnq baon made," and I rather reckon
with tho old lady,
Mnybo all tho cave men were Juat
right thing In the v.'ny of ''providers,
nnd pnrhapa all tho cava women had ta
do vn t alt oi a limb and wait Ti'i'
husband to drag home u deer or so f i
simper, but If human nature haan't
changed a whole lot ulnea 'Mem days,
there wore tv good many of tho oavi
wnmpn up at dawn looking for dear them
aelvoa, and penning It, tee, for a husband
with "a mloary" n his back, or a km
nehe, or something that made him "In-
efflnelnt" quite In fho Inhdeln fashion,
Wo mown too much filia over thlhff
thtaa daya, it Beams to me, A man doeen'l
mnke a much money as he might, nnd
bla wife thlnka olio'a "mlamatad," A
woman forgetu to eond tho laundry to
tho wnali nnd the buaband grinds his
teeth and goaa out looking for an affinity,
Whut'H nil thla fusa about, nnyhuw?
..re wo getting so sensitive that wo
to havo everything perfect or we can't
live at all?
Think It nil over, J, W, H think It ut
over, What'e really at the bottom i.f
your wiialo ory for help? Are you tlrwl
of your huabandT Ara you aahnmed f
hltnf Ho yeu feel that you are cleverer
than hu la? Ho you really lovo hint a.
all? If you did, do you think these "Ideal
enmllllona'' would ba en vital to you
Mayba you Ara III nnd tired and woi 1
nut nnd need a change, Do you know
what t would do? I'd talk It all over
with husband nnd oeo what can b duu.i
fop you both,
(Jo awuy unmnwhorni go now, this vs'v
Week,
Where? Oh, just around the comer l(
you can't do any bptter. (Jo downtuM
Into the foreign part of things nnd board
With apmii Italians a while and see now
little Mother Italy managea with nie
huabajid'a ieanty wagon, Find a plana
to live with Bomo frugal flunnan family,
gu out of yourself, got nwny from bun.
band, do It all In tho friendliest faahloi.,
and let time sen what time can do, Tlnu
nnd absence, and rest and quiet.
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