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Ella "Wheelef Wilcox on
Married Flirts
Men Have No Excuse for Such Action, for
Their Attentions Can Bring Nothing
Good to Anybody Concerned.
d'op.vrlsht. 1913. by the Star Company.)
A question has arisen for animated I
discussion between a man and his wife- j
...... . ,H'
n hr man contend, that there Is no proof .
or dieioyHiiy on mo pa' t or a nusuann I
who admires the
upposilc sex to
such an extent that
he hid u I per; in
harmless flirtations
with them, and
cen bestows a
arp.R now and
then.
Ife loves, his ulfe
no less for ' such
dttle diversions.
The wife thinks
no man could
really love his
wife who ron
ducted himself In"
this manner.
She Is confident
rile could not flirt
with other men and Indulge In familial I
ti" apd slIM care for her husband.
Tlje hu.band. of course, argues that 1
man's ' nature Is different from that of
woman, and what would he disloyal and j
undignified In her would be quite harm
less on his part.
This Is very old-fashioned reasoning
nnrl rmlta mil of rintf. Kill, ntltllnc the
merely marital question aside (of what
is right or unright In the matter), an
other question must obtrude Itself upon
the mind of any man with common sense
M hat is his Influence upon the woma i
with whom ho indulges in these passing
fill tatlons.
Who are thse women?
If a single woman or girl penults h
iiirrfl man to be familiar and to pay
hf- attentions and to enrcs her, surely
she must lose her standing among all dc
'eiit. people.
-'he cannot retain the respect of single
men: for nothing so quickly tarnishes the 1
reputation of a slrl as to have her name j'
linked with that of a married man.
It does not matter how Innocent she j
ma be of all wrongdoing: the world :
ha a right to question her modesty, her (
good sense and her moral nature If she ,
allows a. married man to compromise her '
I.-, his attentions.
!-'he must lack good taste and a kind
hr.irt. fur otherwise alio would not do
w bat is turtltss and what will give pain
to Mime other woman the man a wife,
if the woman with whom this married
Uoi. Juan fllita Is another man" wife,,
the situation is jut so murh worse, for
thii tharc "arc four pf ople to be. consld
e.ed Instead of three.
The wfs who penults another man to
tarnish her good name by his attentions
ln.Ks all tho qualities which make 'JP
veet. wholesome: and noble womanhood i
There Is ulways a time when she must
know that the man Is patting the "boun
dan Una between honest friendship and
the attitude which leads to the core
spondent. Sh must know, tor, that a jnun who
iaing her loverllUe attentions Is try
ing to test her good sense and her, self,
.le.poct, .or ejee ho In a weak man. bent
i amneinriit and distraction without
' jughl -ot the consequences.
Tticirforc it "seems difficult for the mar-
iltd man who has tried to convince , Ills
wife that hi flirtations arc harmless to
buns forth one argument to substantiate
liM asseitions.
i'her If still another type ot woman
he may lm flirting with-thut 1 tho
w ,mau of the half-wurld. whose business
,t to ensnare mn
jjut he would hardlv argue with a
good. Pro wl lliat Mu attentions to
men n woman were harmle-.
such masculine arguments nr- as
. mpty as they arc selfish. The married
nan who canles on flirtations with other
wmien harms these women, harms Ms
wife and harms himself.
There U nothing Jn It but weaknehs,
,e f.lndulgencc vanity and the folly that
le -ds to every phase of crime.
The habit of sex conquest Is like that
of strong drink or the use of drugs. And
ofttlmes is the result, or cause, of one of
Vr. habits.
scx attraction Is a powerful and beau
tiful emotion, given to men and women
for the greatest and best uses. ,
The appetite for sustenance t Is a
natural right to partake or. food and 10
sustain th body. But this does not
m . -T-nnTiJ uevour all the xooj
I 'cee ,'M UVJCKV ! AT UAVr f IT BR.FAt aV HG-SR.T To I f it BKK e-v HEAY '"'' I ffESjl
.') im aocm'a'sn.WpooctvjR.k UeaTHrsu& lYHM MCft lp To su. thmucit hm. " MIVIOHII
' I '""l ' ... ICuJC ?AKILW PteWPR. EUG fe a nccu D.Ar our. " - - - iliJBHHI
fife. "feTT. womsmnun r fBs?- BT fe, l" PSr , fflnTOHl
on a liotel nifnu. or rob our neighbors'
larders, and cull It harmlena nmusernent.
, T',"c ar," Kr?1 "'!d wonderful thlmw
Ilfo to do and think nbout: and ono of
lh(j Krviil,Bt lim, nl08t beiuult, Hnn nlo,t
wonderful is to bo a olouli. wholesome
and honest wlfo or husband: to keep the
home the center of happy, moral life; to
protect it from eVcry shadow of evil, and
to contiol the Impulses (which come to
every human bclnff at times) for Indulg
ing In weakness or folly by the will,
which Is like a rudder to the ship.
The married man who has been arguing
with his wife is showing himself to boa
very common type of selfish, weak man.
I.ct him til" Jielnsc uncommon' and living
a life that will benefit the world and
help all women who know him to respect
him. '
Daily : Fashions
rMS JTBVK Kt VltMM
Ily IjA HACOXTEUSE.
Evening wrap of satin, mote-gray with
"motifs" of "vulour Frappl."
Without arm hole with the iame width
In the upper part and the lower one, It
Is caught up at the bottom by a band of
black ostrich feat hern finished' by a silk
fringe with small nllli. balls.
Two broad revers trim the front. The
neck and sleovos aro bordeied with u
band of ostrich feathers. - ,
rr-
Not a Singer
lord Macaulay, passing one day thiough
th Seven Dials, bought " handful of
ballads from noma street folkB who were
bawling out their contents to a gapbiK
audience. Proceeding on his way hoim
he was aftJiilslHMl to find himself fol
lowrd by half u -xore of urchins, their
Inlets beaming with expectation,' "Now
then, my lads, what Is It?" said he. ,
"On. that's a good 'un," teplied one of
the boys, "after wVvi name all this way."
"But what ar ou waiting for?" said
the historian, aatuuishfd at the Ind'
familiarity
"batting fui' Vh mi. I m i k..inj io
Wmrnm
Rugs in Turkey
rvrurk xk-. p i ,K'eS8rr .mbwhw
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! What Do You Think of It? For "Whom Do
"Women Dress? Asks Gaby Deslys
By GABV UESIA'S.
Oh, oh, oh! the letters I have received
answering my last article with Its ques
tion addressed mainly to my own sex
For whose benefit do you wear your
pretty frocks? Kor men or for women?
I had no Idea I should put my head Into
a regular hornet's nest of indignant
argument, or that Irate husbands would
take the opportunity of airing their
troiibles by writing to me. nut the worst
of It Is that some of my Correspondents
seem to think that I nud other artists
of tho stage are responsible for their
wives' extravagant dress. Now- Isn't that
absurd?
DrcBS. is the advertisement of the good
actress, It" Is the entire career of the
others.
nut 1 assure you that the elothei that
I wear In every day life or If I were
playing a part In n modern domestic
drama like the life led by the wjf of
"Dlsgnster," for Instance, who has not
a single drop of Galllo blood In her veins,
for 1 can assuro you that no French
woman neglects her appearance at home
to the extpnt which she Is described as
doing. Here Is his letter and I cannot
help but feel sotry for him:
'Pe&r. Afadanr, Dq women dress to
please men.?' Emphatically hot. The
American woman spends her husband's
hard earned Income on clothes, hats
and the hundred and one other things
: that are called accessories In order that
j she may Impress. her women friends or
j Inspire envy In the casual w'aman who
i passes her In the street. This Is proved
tiy the fact that a woman wears her best
' clothes when she goes out of her home
( nrtrt t.n-,a nl.1 " -1 1 1 . .
for use when she Is with her husband
and family.
"I provide my wife with everything
that she can wear. She has good clothes,
but she only puts them on when sho
goes out and I get ftie benefit of old
wrappers In the morning and shapeless
Rnpmla nf .. .).....- ,
.... "v utcssvn tuai nave
! seen their best days In the evening, un
j lejs we go out somewhere.
"Berore wo were married she dressed to
please me. .Now she dresses to pUssc
others, pot other men. but other women.
Hy her clothes sho shows all her friends
she has not picked a matrimonial lemon
and this edd to her Imnortnnce lit her
woman's world. But It's rough on the
man who foots the bills, DISGUSTED."
Tha,t certainly Is a difficult situation
and one that no outside person can ad-
I vise on. As I have said, no FVench woman
woum i careless enough to let her hus
band notice that she no longer dresbes en
tliely to please him. She would have too
much vanity to let any man sec her when I
she was not looking ner best.
If sho wore her good frocks only when
she wept out the average French, hus
band would become suspicious, but of .hat I
rr
Dorothy Dix
By DOROTHY" IMX.
It is one of the tragedies of Ilf ttiat ''J
many are never ablo to collect the dl i
dendt qn their virtues, They are every
thing that Is noble and good but some un
fortunate peculiarity of manner
perament of char
acter prevents thum
from ever recel
Ing the. Just re
ward of their good
ijeeds.
Thep heap bene
fits upon us, and
wo hats them for
tie favors we re
ceive at their hands,
They sacrifice
themselves for us,
and we would
gladly see them
j consumed In the
.fires of their own
altars.
j The family circle
i offers the most
2aF
continuous and
piteous Illustration of this unappreciated
merit, for It seems to be the lot ot those
who do the moat for their husbands or
wives or children or parents to get tho
leait love and thanks for It,
The family doormat Is always trodden
upon. The family martyr Invariably seta
more kicks than Imlos. The -most adored
wives and the rpoit worshiped husbands
are not those who aid the models of
domesticity. TJie black sheep son and
daughter still nave the fatted calf slain
in tin ir lionui . while not evon a brcado.1
. al Chun goes to th devoted children
have also eu l h mf. uud toll.d to,
there la never a question In this land ot
women's clubs, women' luncheons and
women's teas, where men are never seen
It Is an entirely new situation and ono
which cannot bo measured by foreign
standards of propriety.
Hero Is another letter and a hit at me
"Dear Madam Women, as it rule, want
anything that they see another woman
wearing. When actresses like yourself
come from Paris, tho land of beautiful
clothes, and parade In gorgeous costumes,
It makes the feminlno port of the audi
enco wonder how to buy them thlngH like
that. They want to satisfy their own van
Ity first and then got all the admlriitlor
they can from both men and women. All
this adds to the cost of high living, and
almost every girl wants to dress above
her station In life.
"I think that the stage Is to blame.
Women don't dress for their own pleas
ure and to gratify their own vanity.
"HUSBAND AND FAT1IKU."
"Do you know, I think that this man,
who evidently has a very expensive fam
ily on his hands, Is light. Women gen
erally dress to please themselves. But
still, If It were that alone, would they
wear tight shoes, tight corsets? Would
they make themselves absolutely uncom
fortable? No. probably not, for no one
ever heard of a woman who did not slip
Say
It lb iwit jMlfillfrli fit-
kindness; nc miiM al
the money to lift the mortgage that has
been put on the old home to pay the
prodigals out of trouble.
This vagary of hunfan nature seems
strange, but the explanation la really
very simple. It is that It Is not enough
to put people In our debt for kindness.
We must know how to collect the debt
And duty Is a bad collector. In order 13
leotlve the reward of th"lr efforts the
virtuous must appeal to something In ui
(-xtept our sense of. obligation. To b
loved one must be lovable, and ula.
merit and attraction do not always walk
hand In hand.
Do you not know some woman whose
devotion to her husband Is so absolute
that it actually pitiful? She never bin
a thought that doa. npt .venter in him.
fhe burns licref to a cinder over tho
kltMien stove cooking the dlslien he llkns
to cat. She slnves and saves ID help him
along. She would cheerfully be cut In
I'ttle pieces If it would do him uny spod.
you would say that no man Could lie
grateful enough for such unselfish, affec
tion, ar.d that a husband should hc Hown
n his knee's before sucli wife returning
thanks to heaven for hli 'blessing. In his
soul the husband probably also feels that
he should value h)s treasure as It de
serves, but for tho life of him he can't.
He knows Just how wonderful and film
such affection as his wife' is In tho ab
stract, but all that he can remember s
how she nags him about little things,
how foolishly jealous she Is, how she op
presses him with her domestic tyranny.
So the woman loans alt the reward of
her devotion Just because she doesn't
know how to collect her debt of love from
her husband,
And do we not know Just the sai.ie tvp
of husband" lhe man who n.'n'cr loik'
Drawn
"Women generally dress to please them
selves, but still. If it were that alone.
would they wear tight shoes and tight
corsets?"
off all these fashionable toilueuts the
moment, she can shut herself up In her
own room. So you can sen we have not
yet solved the question, For whom do
women Indulge in the latest fashions? To
pleiiso themselves, their husbands, 01 to
excite the envy of other women?
lit to put. people In our debt for
m Icnrn how to collect that debt.
at another woman thin h! wife, who
tolls like a dray horre to give her every
luxury, who Is a model husband so far ns
performing his conjugal duty is concerned,
but who Is cross and yiirly or grouch v
and silent at home, nnd who never show
his wlfo any tenderness 01 affection.
Of course, when mi many other men
arn chasing around after pulchrltuillunus,
peaches about twenty years younger and
forty pounds lighter than their wlvon,
woman should be thankful enough to
Iiiiwj a husband who Is true to her, no
matter what his Usosltloii. Somehow,
however, she can't remember his virtues
when he Is knocking everything she does
or sitting by In a frozen silence, and so
the nun get neither thanks nor love for
his sacrifices, Hd loses nut because he
cjoexn't know how to collect tho dlvldclidi
on his good q'ualitles.
Then, how many cases do we know of
pa rents who make pirfeot martyrs of
themselves for their children and who get
tin return In appreciation or affoctlon. It'
I the custom to blnipe the ch.lld.reu. but the
1 fault Is not so often theirs as that of the
fathers and mothers, who do not know
how to collect the reward of their devo
tion. I think now of a father who Is liter
ally, killing himself by Inches In ord-r
to give his children the advantages that
he did not have In Ills own youth. He
is not n rich man, nnd to bend his boys
to college ami to give his gifts pretty
clothes that tliey may be a well drejwd
as their companions means a dally and
houily effort and self-denla on bin part
that Is nothing short of heroic.
He works almost yeaselessly, with
none of the breaks and rests In his toll
that he needs lie stays at homo w'hlle
M.i family goes forth to enjoy them
for The Bee by
Shall We Burn South
trial Progress Exhausts Present Supply?
Captain Honltl Anmntlhrn Sn) Ant met It Continent Uji arcnteat Coal
I0misI(h on Knrtli, but .to Uct. nt Thrm In nn UntlcrtnklnR
SccinliiRlr SurpnsMiiK Human Ability.
Ily MAKKKTT J. HKIIVISS.
Captain Itoald, Amundsen asserts that
the Antarctic continent contains the
greatest coal deposits known on enrth.
With that In mind, consider this other
fact
Foi tuans ear
scientific men have
been repeating the
warning that mod
ern Industrial pro-
gross Is making so
greai hii ninmu
upon the coal
mines that within
a period of two or
three centuries
there will not bo
enough coal left
to supply more
than a small frac
tion of the demand.
Tutting these two statements togother,
and supposing, them both to he accurate.
It Is evident that our not very remote
descendants will have to do one of two
things! Hither they must discover some
other source of heat and power than coul
or they must conquer the Antarctic con-
selves, He has always the shabbiest
clothes In the household.
The only thing that could repay this
man for all that ho does and sacrifices
for his children would be their Under
standing of It and their love and rever
ence for him. hut his chlldren-as he
sees himself with bltterness-really cure
nothing for him. They never make him
their confident. They never even sit
down nnd talk to him. They rarely even
approach him of their own accord unles
they come to nsk for money.
The father thinks the fault Is entirely
the children's, but It Isn't. It Is his. Ho
has nnvrr taken the trouble to got ic
qualnted with his ohlldren. He hai
never been a pal with one of them. He
has scarcely evn spoken to ono except
to criticise him or her, and tho result In
that the children are afraid of him; thc.v
are constrained with him; they look for
no sympathy from him. All that ho has
done for his children goes for nothing, so
far as he Is concerned, because he hasn't
known how to collect the dividends on
his paternal affections.
It's. a. great art to know how to collect
tho debt of love and It's worth learning.
Advice to the Lovelorn
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.
Call nt Her Home.
Dta, .Miss Fairfax: I had betni going
with a girl for two years when she sud
denly left me for reason I do not know.
I love her ver; much and would llkn
to keep company with her longer. I wroto
her and asked her to meet me, but she
will not. Till rr.e what to db, for I do
not think I can stand It any longer, ai
I love her very trtuch. , J. W. U
1 am slad she did not meet vou. It
looks so much bet'er 'or ft boy to osll
at his sweetheart's home.
.Make a ce.'lapd ak her what Is the
matter. That, at least. Will pnLan end to'
the suspense which Is proving so Intoler
able. Who Was to lllnme.
Dear MUs Fairfax: 1 am 21 years old
and deeply In love with a young man
two years my senior. I was. engaged tp
him, but there has been a misunderstand?
In.
I still love him and can't forget.
lllCAItTHIlOKICN.
If you were to blame, writo him ex
pressing your regrets. You would owo
lilm that much If you were only friends
and no enagagement existed.
If he Is in the wrong, make some little
frltndly overture, 'showing that yoq
cherish no resentment, nnd I am sure ho
will make the advances your heart longs
for.
Ilnrr a Little I'ultli.
Dear Mies Fairfax; ! am 18 years of
age and have been keeping company with
a young man for a long time. I am
deeply In love with hlni and I know he
cares a great deal for me. Now where he
lives ho gets to meet many pretty hIiIh
and I am In doubt whether he takes any
of these girls home. How eau I find out
what he does after leaving this place?
My girl friend goes with his fellow
friend and she Is In the same predica
ment. ATRl.'K ItHADKH.
Make no effort to find out. Vou are
jnot engaged arid haven't the right to
question tils movements.
If you want to win him, a better way
would be to find some consolation !: the
wKlety of other frltnds,
i
"Bud" Fisher
Polar Goal When Indus
tiiieut and make Its vast stores of coal
available for their use.
Now. on the face of things, It would
nppear that the Industrial conquest of
that continent would bo an undertaking
surpassing human ahlllty. it lies almost
wholly within the Antarctic circle, whire.
for six mouths at a stretch, unending
night prevails; It Is entirely surrounded
by vast fields of floating Ice, nnd edged
with gigantic Ice Imrrlers which rise Into
precipices hundreds of feet. In height, It
swells up from Its frosen sea bordcts like,
a vast dome, having the loftiest mean
elevation of any land on the globe, and
buried under a deposit of Ice thousands
of feet In depth. liven to reach Its
borders, men must toko their lives n
their hands; lind what It means to mar It
over Iti wind-swept surface. Intersected
with crevnsscs. Interrupted- by mountain
chains, and subjected (on account of th
elevation) to a very low temperature even
during the six months thnt the sun shine
contlnunlly upon Its Jillndlng, landscapes
the stories of the experience or Cnptn'n
Ainundson and Mctitonant Shiickletoti
sufficiently Indicate.
Hut the coal deposits that have been
found on the Antartlc continent He near
Its borders, where tho rock can, In spot ,
be uncovered. Danger must be faced and
hardship encountered In order merely to
rciib them; to work them nmld the con
dltlons there prevailing, and to cnry
their products over the stormy and Ice
choked sea which separates thorn from
the. Inhabited lands of the globe, wobld
demand tho exercise of n degree of skill,
cotirago nnd endurance ot tho very high
est kind.. Nobody has yet asserted that It
chii bo done; some regard It as Impossible-,
but Captain Amundsen, Inspired by
tlmt unconquerable resolution which car
tied him to the pole, says that he "hopes"
that these Incalculable riches of the great
southern continent may eventually be
renilTcd avallnble for the uses of man
kind. It Is only n hope; but many" of
.our greatest achievements have begun
with nothing better to rest upon.
There Is another aspect of this ques
tion which may have some bearing upon
the future availability of the treasures ot
the Antartlc. thoiiEh not within any
mensurable distance of time. How .and
when were tho coal beds deposited around
the south polcj?.
Captain Amundsen expresses the opin
ion that they were formed untold thous
ands of years ago (nnd one should rather
sav millions of years), when a tropical
cllnnte prevailed in tho far south, At
first glance this would seem to be evi
dent, for we know that coal Is formed
from vegetation, and there Is now no
vegetation on the Antartlc continent, But
recent Investigation shows that the cli
mate need not have been tropical, or
even "sub-troplcnl." In order that coal
producing plants might flourish In those
latitudes. It has been proved that coal
is i ven now In process of formation In
Alaska and Labrador, and It baa also
been shown that many of the carboni
ferous plants I. e.. those from which our
con' wns formed-lndlente, by their strue
ture. that they were adapted to live In a
cold rather than a tropical c 1,1 mate.
.This- being so. It Is clear that the coal
of the Antarctic continent may lime
been formed from plants which grew
under conditions of ellmnto pot vc'-
different from those that now prevail 'n
Alaska. Anyhow. It absolves us from the
necessity of assuming that the South pole
once glowed wtli tropical hent, nlthoug't
wo are still forced to believe that the
temperature, nt least around the borders
of the Antarctic continent, was formerly
much higher than It Is at present Bi.t
the change may be assumed to have ben
far less thnn would he Implied by the
existence of n truly tropical climate.
Then, the story of the rooks tells ns
that In the past changes or climate hnse
occurred In recurring periods, or cyder
The pieclse caucus of thero nre not
known, hut we seem to bo warranted 'n
supposing that similar changes man' uc
clir In tho future. It Is within the rans
of posstbllltv, thou, that nt some time
no doubt Immensely remote the Ice ba:
rlers of the Antarctic continent may be
so far removed by change of climate that
vegetation can again flourish on Its bor
ders, and In that ease It might become
easy to delve among Its ancient riches.
But, long before that time, mankind
will probably have passed beyond 'ht
coal age, and, If our more Immediate
descendants are forced to avail thrm
selves of Antarctic coal, they will huf
to depend upon themselves to get It and
not upon nu alteration of riimato to
place It within thulr easy rem-h.
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