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TI1K UKK: OMAHA. MONDAY, JANl'ARY 120. 191.J. .'he- (Jecg cne agazirvp f)a Disparity in Age The New American Beauty, Reine Davies, Thinks This Advertising By WINIFRED llliACK Well, my dear. what do you want me to say. and I'll say It, for really you are going to do just ft you wish about It after all, aren't you' And why should!) t you, pray tell? Tou love the man and he lov.es you. He Is able to take good care of you, You are unhappy away from him and he wants you with him. What is there for you to do but marry him and so no mora About it? Six years older than he? Is that the objection? Not half such an objection as I If be wore Just the ' right ago for you and drank, or If he wore dishonest, or If he likes one kind of I life and you like another. There Is al ' ways something, but this matter of a few years difference in age Is not one of the really serious objections to marriage, after all. The most miserable woman 1 know married a man just five years older than sho was. She Is as pretty as a plcturo and aa Rood as gold. But the man Is dead In love with an elderly widow, and I the wife's heart Is broken. Sx years older, are you? In years you mean, of course; but how much older ar.i you In all the things that count? Tear ore such deceitful things. They mean less than almost anything else. So mo women are old at 30 years, some are young at 0 years. Borne men are boys at SO years and some boys are men at 20 years. "What sort of woman ure you and what kind id the man you love? Another woman I know married a man four years younger than herself. Ho looked ten years younger, for the woman had much responsibility, much care and much sorrow in her life. nn... . .... i, . i . tt4iii wiej- ivfr? marncu an ino men said "He's making a mlstnke," and all the women said. "She'll live to regret it." As a matter of fact. It Is turning out to bo a much hnppler marriage than some of the marriages made by the people who criticised It as "unsuitable;" The man and woman who started four years apart are Just about even now, for tho woman Is a vital sort of person, strong, full of life and energy, active and fond of all that living means. .The man Is quiet, gentle, fond of rou tine. He'd rather stay at home every evening of the week than to go to the finest piny that ever was acted. The woman would rather go to the play than do anything else. They compromised by oing onco a week, and the man stays ftt homo and reads in comfort the other six, while the, woman entertains herself with her own friends In her own way-. So It has all turned out far the best. Tho womamwho wasfour years the oldei on the wedding day Is ten years tho younger now. Simply a matter of dispo sition and tremperament, that's all. She's the sort that stops growing old at 3rt years; he's the sort that stops being young at 33 years. And there they are very comfy, thank you and highly amused nt tho Idea that there could bo anything uilsultabio about their marriage. "When a man falls In lovo with a woman he Isn't thinking of her age he's thinking of the woman nnd of himself, and ago hasn't a thing in the world to do with It. Brains, character, taste, education these are far mpre important than a mere matter of a slight dlfferenco In age. Ella Wheeler Educating Mothers is the World's Best Work By ELLA WHEELER AVILCOX. This p&thetlo letter, unsigned, holds s, world of unwritten sorrow in Its few pages, and & whole sermon is to be read between Its lines. It should set every woman who believes herself to be a friend to her sex thinking, and It should give every ardent suffra gist a moment of self-analysis to dis cover Just -what her attitude Is, or would be, under similar circumstances. Here Is the letter: "A girl that is an unmarried mother Is a social outcast, whether the cause was from Ignorance or a false lover. Only those who have ex perienced this know the obstacles placed to hinder such a girl living a virtuous life. If she ap plies for a portion, or wishes to Join a church, a social society or a sewing cir cle, or anything leading to a better life, Sprains Sloan's Liniment is excellent for sprains and bruises. It stops the pain at once and reduces the swelling very quickly. SLOANS LINIMENT is penetrating and antiseptic. Mr. S.T lUOTT.of SOJCedsr 8 1., Chat. tanoo6a,TDn.,ty: " I Drained my an. kU.tt pained mevtry tnueh anil wj badly swollen. After a few applications of Blosn's liniment iny snkle w relleTed, and is now entlrtly wtll." 1UO iulm. Trtet K . . il.t. Dr. Earl S. Sloan - Boston, Mass. By MARGARET HUBBARD AYER. Have- you red hair? Nineteen hundred and thirteen great year for red-headed girls. The hair need not be real carroty red, just a suggestion will do, but if you want to be a beauty and a mascot, you must have the tawny gleam and tho redder the hair the more tho luck and the greater the beauty, this year anyhow. The last typo of beauty was the small young person who looked as If sho had just come from Russia, by way of Paris, of course. She is still somewhat in the running, but the real thing Is the red haired, girl. Miss Rclne Davies Is the embodiment of the beauty of 1013. She has nil the at tributes which makes the Titian haired girl particularly lovely, a perfect pink and roso complexion and a neck that artists proclaim the most beautiful In New York. "Why is it lucky to have red hair?" I asked Miss Davies. "I never knew It was lucky until this year, when trie red-haired girl seems to be coming Into her own at last," nnV swered the lady of .the Titian' lockr. "She's been Invited to act as mascot for the christening of battleships, and I bear that a western hotel keeper, who is open ing an annex to his hotel, has chosen a How goes the old rhyme? If he knows not the language of flowers, If he loves not to hear the blast blow. If he dote not on ruins and towers. My own Aramlnta, say no. Nothing about tho ago limit there, you see not a syllable. Marry the man you love if only six years divide you, and if you axe not happy together It will not bo the' differ ence in age that will bring you sorrow. Wilcox Smys: the members may not openly deny ad mission, but they freere her out by be ing bo unsocial. "Brery human being needs living as sociates and friends. If a girl who hus erred confesses her error, and does not try to hide her past, it seems better to me, because it saves her from being found out later; yet when she does con fess, then she meets with much cruelty, Women that are married and are hav ing shameful affairs with .other men, even bearing children by men not their husbands, will frown on a girl who has made a misstep and Is trying to be de cent. "Girls that are Immoral, but have not become mothers, will turn their backs on, the unfortunate unwedded mother who has made only one misstep; and will n every way try to hinder her from being received by respectable people. "So what is Jeft for her but to go on down?" "The writer of the letter adds a p'M, that the matter should be a subject for discussion and says "I believe boys would be helped If It were written about. They need help, too." Tes. "boys need help, too." and mothers are the ones who should be awakened to this need of boys to know moro of the great facts which underlie life and birth. Two boys reared by wise 'and sensible mothers were Instructed at the age o'f 10 years In matters of sex. They were told how human beings were a part of God's wonderful systems of worlds; and how, Ilka the seed planted in the earth. they grew and flowered. They vrrro told how they must never Tefer to the subject save to their mothers, who would explain gradually the marvels of life as their minds unfolded. They were told that ail women were once pure and good; and that each girl and woman should be regared as some boy's mother or sister; and Just as a boy would want to see his slitter and mother Tespected and treated with clean, high honor by all men, so they must treat all women. Both of these boys at 21 years of nge were magnificent specimens of young manhood; both were strong, capable, high-minded fellows, popular with their own sex and admired by women; and both marrlel good girls and carried po the Red-Haired Woman's Year Rcino II. lllfllflHHHlHiliHHI Rcino Davies, II. K.Keith's first star for 1018, who is at R. F. Keith's Or pheuni Theater in Brooklyn this week. red-heailed leceptlon committee for the opening festivities, ns he says that they will bring luck to the enterprise. A theatrical man told me that he was al ways glad when there was plenty of red hair among tho audience, hecuuso that meant that If the piny was any Rood at nil It would go with a-rush. "Bed-haired peoplo have been famouf, but they haven't necessarily been lucky; perhaps In 1913 they are turning over a new leaf. Among the notedly nnlunky one was Mary Queen of Scots, who lost her head and hair at the same time, ami Cleopatra, whose life was full of tri umphant tribulations. "But I think I know why red-halted, people are lucky, and I'll, tell you. Bed dlsh hair Is a sign of vitality, nnd people with great vitality believe In themselves and In their own luck, and that Is half of the- Ranio. No" one ever was a mascot Woe Comes to the Race, Says Dorothy Dix, Because Women Are 111 -Taught About Love a r.r ?r wh,i hns reached tho ane when a woman begins to feel as If sho would like to settle down and have a hus band and a home of her own Is In a dilemma. She has a suitor who comes up to her Ideal, but doesn't fire her fancy. He is everything of which her head approves, but he doesn't give her palpitation of the heart every tlmo sho ratr.hes a cllmrwo of Mill. fin the vounsr woman Is undecided whtw she should marry him or not, and she wants to know If nffoctlon can be cultivated, and If liking nnd respect for a man ever turn Into love. Of course, Cupid Is a tricksy Imp. and there Is no accounting for tits vagaries. Nor can anybody prophesy what he w.111 do. Certainly we do not always love the good and noWe, whom we should love, and we arc often drawn Ineslstlbly toward Uiom who aro unworthy of our affection. So much may be conceded to tho general contrariness of human nature, but It has always seemed to me that thoro Is no subject about which women are so ill taught as love, and that not a few of the woes of the feminine sex may be laid at the doors of those false prophets who preach a fallacious doctrine about it. Every girl, for Instance, is taught that some day she will find her Fairy Prince, and that he will be as beautiful as a dream, and that he will come riding up on a milk white steed, and that he will quote poetry by the yard. .nd woo her In lovely, soulful Booth Tarklngton lan guage, and waft' her up Into the regions of romance. It's too Idiotic to be true, but every girl believes In the Fairy l'rinco Just us unquestloningly at So as she believed In Santa Claus at S, and this childlike faith ends only too often In one of two things. It causes her to be an old maid, or else to make a disastrous marriage. If the girl Is of a fanciful turn of mind she goes about with her Fairy Prince shameful secrets or no hidden diseases to mar their new homes or blight their offspring. At the age of one night, a youth, brought up t))" suoh a mother, came home from his club accompanied by a young girl. To hs mother he said; "Mother, this poor girl Is some fellow's sister; some mother's daughter, tjhn has gone wrong, and she oocosted me on the street. I want you to take her tn and help her to live a good Ufa If you can." There would be no such evil In the land as white slave traffic, If all women were such mothers as these described above, everything relating to these problems lies In the hands of the women today. To educate mothers Is the greatest work suffragists can undertake. And nothing In the world can be ac complished to lift the race or to do away , with the sex evils- and the social sin until or could bring people good luck who didn't absolutely believe In his or 'un certain powers to get tin better of mis fortune nnd adverse clroumntnnee.. "tied hair Is very Interesting; at least, It Is to nie.' Miss Davies went on. "Ho causo It Is so changeable. Tlu color of the hair seems to change with the" degree of vitality. Yes, probably the luck changes, too. so to keep luck one ought to keep one's .hair as red ns possible." "I nm told tho 'henna sprny' Is the latest thing in shampoo," I Interrupted. "Hut that Is the raise red that can have nothing to do with luck, as it has very little to do with beauty. Artificially col ored hair nover looks right, no matter how cleverly It Is done. There nro other ways of bringing back tho natural red gleam to tho hair." Insisted tho beautiful young actress. "Bed linlr grows dark because It lacks halo, fitting It on every man she meets, and sho's Just us apt to slip It nronnd the head of tho first good-looking scoun drel she meets as anybody else. K. on the other hand, a girl Is short on Imagin ation, sho keeps waiting nnd waiting for somebody thnt has the earmarks of a Kalry Prince to como along, until she lets her marrlaReable years slip by and flndB herself stranded In the desert of splnsterhood. I Any number of good men men who could lravo given her an honest affection and the comforts of llfo, have asked her to marry, them, but they didn't como on milk white steeds. They arrived by trolley; they talked plain overyday Jan wore tweed Instead of coats of mall or satin and lace ruffles, and so she didn't recognize any one of them as her Fairy Prince. Girls are also taught that when the right man comes along they will pal pltablc and thrill, and have cold rigors, and tljat they will not be able to eat or sleep fW thinking of tho adored one, rind that every minute away from him will be nn almost Insupportable anguish. For these are accepted signs of being in love. Many a girl refuses to marry the man with whom she would, spend a happy and contented life because when sho searches her system for these Indications of lov she doesn't find them, and she is afraid to marry without them She's very fond of John and thinks him the finest fellow she knows, but her heart Is a healthy organ that doesn't skip a beat when she sees him turn the corner. She enjoys John's society, but she has a very good appetite whetlmr he's around to see her eat or not, arid she knows perfectly well that If John should die she would nov'er even think of. taking a dose of poison, Therefore, she concludes that she ln't in lovo with John, and she never dreams tha,t whut she lacks Is not affection, but hysterlcAl tendencies. mothers are trained to be guides and pro tectors of their children. vVe can not hope much from present day mothers. But we can educate the new generation. Meantime women who claim to be work ers for humanity and to believe in one standard of morals for both sexes must organize some method of helping girls who have fallen, through love or through ignorance; helping them to wholesome so cial life, nnd helping them to become use ful citizens and possible good wives and mothers, Just as young men who have gone astray In early youth become good husbands and fathers afterward, ' There Is so much hysterical talk on this subject, and so little actual work done by women when they face the situation In real life. It la h very needed woik to be done. (Copyright. 1913, by the Htar Co.) Miss Dnvles will ho the licnd liner nt, II. l Keith' Colonial T hunter nevt week. sunshine and ventilation. People with red hair should wear liats us I It t It as pos sible, especially when they notice that tho hair Is beginning to darken. "It's a pity that wo chn't go round with our hair braided down our backs, In the holme at nil events, for hair needs nil the ventilation nnd nlrlng It can get. ob peclnlly since wo have begun tn wear those tlght-flttlug hats and keep them on all day. This Is whnt ruins the color of the hulr, and tho only thing that will bring back tho color Is sunshine and nlr, and !a"U but not least, n cnreful diet. "I don't know whnt the doctors say on this subject," continued Miss DaVles, "but I am perfectly certnlii tlia,l 'the coih dltlon of the hnlr is affected by tho1 i?otl dltlon of the stomach, nnd that people losn their hnlr or see It Krow dnrk nnd ugly because they eat not wisely nor well. It's a pity that women can't realize that we love according to our natures and general temperament. The neurotic woman, who goes off at a tangent about everything, loves crazlly and Jealously. Thn placid woman loves calmly. The fickle woman loves lightly unci Intermit tently. Tho violent woman loves violently nnil the sensible, wcll-polscil woman loves even as she Is made. How foolish, then, for the level-heudnil, self-controlled woman tn expect to be swept off -her feet Into some maelstrom of passion thnt will transform her Into another creature! In Judging of whether sho loves or not sho must first take her own nature Into consideration. Of course. If a woman Is of the exces sively temperamental sort, who Uvea upon her emotions and has to have sentiment served up to her piping hot, she should not marry any man with whom she la not madly enamoured at the moment, be cause she will grow tired of him soon enough, apyhow. But for the ordinary woman, spicere liking coupled with respect for n man Is a good enough beginning of love to marry upon. Tho whole tendency of matrimony Is to narrow a woman's In terests down to a husband and a home, and any normal woman will come to love the man she. Is married to If he Is kind to her. , i Therefore, n woman Is wise If, In pick ing out her husband, she goes by her head more than she does by htr heart. For romance is as fleeting as the dew of morning, Bnd the most sentimental of fairy princes settles down Into Just uti ordjnary mortal onco tho marrige cere mony Is said over him; but a good, comfortable home and a generous shop ping ticket are perennial pleasures that never pall. Also, tho husband who ts more In love with his wife than she is with hlin Is tho husband that Is always on bis god behavior. DOIIOTHV IUX. rr TWO l! II WII.I.IAM I". KIIIK. One' is a woman that wandered Through fields of honey and sin And came to the house of care and carouse. Where they lock tho tnlstukeu In. The other Is watching the outcast And fearing the system's ban. The one Li the fallen womanr- Tha other the rising man The rising man Is a bluccoat, Apd the wholo of his 'manhood shrinks When taking the toll from a fallen soul. But he rises, or elso he sinks. Bo they meet and they pity each othui. I While they tnlk of life's sorrj plan. Tim one is the fallen woman (, The other the rising man "I go about as much as I can tn the open nlr without nny hat at all. Of course, an open-air life manes one reel licnlthy and vigorous, nnd whenever I enn enjoy country life, 1 find that my hair grows a brighter and prettier red, ami that 1 have no trouble In handling it. You know." explained the 1918 beauty. "linlr that won't stny 'put Is sickly hnlr; that means that the person herself Is In bml physical condition. "My advice to tho red-headed girt who wants to keep her luck Is to nvuld heavy millinery, mid If she Is wearing one of those close fitting fur caps. Insist on hav ing ventilation holes in It. Men always have these little ventilators, nnd they don't need them half us much as we do. Then redhead washes her hnlr at least once In two weeks with a plain castlle soup and a little bit of snda. If the hair Is too oily. After (he shampoo, when the hnlr Is unite dry. she brushes the hair for nt least half an hour, using a consid erable amount of brllllnntlne or olive oil, perfumed to suit your taste. ."But don't use hennn or any artificial eoloritg, Take the sunshine cure Instead, sniVstny nut of doors without a hat Just as soon as the weather allows. And If wn keep on having a warm winter like this, you enn get your sun bath any day." rr- Daily Fashions lly l,A HACONTKl B. This effective model of afternoon gown for young girls shows in Its artistic out line the tendoncy toward oriental lines. It Is of white silk cashmere. The blouse Is fastened in front by string buttons of thn same material with an orlKlnal small collar, square In back. Small yoko of Brussels net. The nrmholc Is rather low and outlined b a small silk braid. The long sleove, strlatly fitted from tho elbow, Is finished by a rinall rever and trimmed with five stuff buttons. The blouso Is girded with a sash draped with a soarf bow, sewed rather high In front with a tassel and fringed ends. Advice to Lovelorn. Hy IIKATRICE FAIBKAX. Auk Voor Statlunrr. near Miss Fairfax: A young lady friend of mine sendi me cards, etc., on ' whlfh the stamp Is out of Its natural position; that Is. it Is falling to the left. Home one suggested that It means bad luck, a careless person, etc. Another that i it means love. Is there a stamp language? , if so. Is It printed and for ssle? H'lT T TAX. , ? 4 uutniti v . There is a stamp language, and while your stationer probably has It for sale I advise you not to waste any time on It , A misplaced stamp Is an annoyance to I til poMal clerks, and there are othr and more nfllit'd ways of telling of t e l.itute of one's affection Ml .7m iSSSSBI ' i I vh..", iMm My Kill IE RT IIimilARD. Copyright, 19111. tnternnt'l News Ssrxi I It whs onlly about to) years a-to w.k 1 men were still stalling themselves 1 I'ngland of "the benefit of the clerg Hie word "clergv" menns rlerque I cleric clerk The clergy kept ! the : ecords, lie- .-nuse thej were i the only men who ! were educatedthe or.l men who i coul 1 rend mid , wr t i The iltst .'allege i in A merit's were fcvtld.-.' fur the sole purpose of j tducatlns' clergy mot'. It was the I ideA that a man who could read mitl, write was In prieucssl u of a very superior qual ity o' intellect. Just an In ISTtf we sAid no one could operalo the tvpowrlter wlo did not have the piano touch. The good writer toditv must not b ry much wiser than the reader. Utc ' ntnro Is self-discovery. The things w j like are the things we recognise ns o , own. In order to make a man pleased I with vou. you have to make him pleased I with himself. Tho tioet need no longer storc in garret, getting his living through uuasl mendicancy or the tinfettnln favor of i patron. Advertising has opened up Held for nnv one who can push a pen. shake the literary brush-plies nnd put alt on the tall of ntv Idea. Twenty-five years ago the advertis ing man was unknown. The proprietor of a store wroto his own ads. and of ,,.itv Irtoriln urnvallcd to such a ile- ...x.. . ...j ...... - gree that an "ad" once written was run In the paper until thn type worn nut. The Idea of a new advertisement every day was n thing unguessed. A. T. Stewart wrote his own adver tisements. 11 wrote them In the Im personal style. simply: "Mr. A. T fltewitrt begs to Inform thn people of New York that he has Just received a few cases of Irish linens, especially se lected for him In Belfast. These will be opened on the sldownlk. In front of the Palace of Business, and offered to the first comers nt fully ID per cent below' the figures which the same goods will bring nfter they aro carried Into the stole." To hire a man Just to look after your advertising would have been regarded n rank extravagance at that time. The argument would also have been made thai no man could write about things unless he were an expert In handling them. Wo did not perceive that a few simple rules apply, and that tne om slder often gets a better perspective than the man who Is close up against tho game. Ufe consists either in being In andi looking out or in being out and looking In. And tho man who It outside looking In has a little better view, often, than the man who Is Inside struggling with details, perplexed, aggravated, worn and wondering whether ho will ever get his money bnck. There are now upward tif i.'O.ooo men In America preparing advertising copy. Some of these men command salaries of princely magnitude, say $1,000 a month nnd there are a doren or so whoso figure Is Just an even hundred dollars There U no doubt, however, that thn genius required In writing advertisements has been moro or los .overrated, and thme Is soon o be a swinging back of the pendulum. "VVe must understand the truth that writing Is mote or less of a knack. , , Detn Bwlft said that a good man could write on any subject und make the thorn" Interesting. "Then." wild Stella, "write me an -say on, broornatlck." And strnlghtway the dciin accepted the chal lenge and wrote an Immortal thing itv literature. i Charles Tximb's essay on "Boast Pig'' I Is another example of good writing about nothing In particular. Both Charles Lamb and Dean Bwlft, it they lived today, would be writing ad vortlsemonts for department storeH, an t they would be making a deal more money than they over made in literature. 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