Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, January 16, 1913, Page 9, Image 9
0 -The ee'g ne. Uasfaziry f)a Outside the r How to Treat ny WINIFRED BLACK. You don't llko "his" sister and "his" ulster doesn't like you. nnd lie takes sides with sister against you, and what shall you do? Nothing', honey, do n-o-t-h-1-n-g nt all. . Sister may not 'like you, but that Isn't a heinous crime after all, Is it? One of the women I admire most In the world hntcs tho sight ot me, and I guess from her point of x lew she's perfectly right, but I don't Want her executed for her likes and dislikes. And you don't like sister. That's more important. It really Is hard to bo much with people you don't like, dread fully hard, even if tho reason you don't like them Is because they go to church at 10 In the morning and you go at 6, or she does her peaches pound for pound and you do yours half a pound to a pound. 1 ' I'd move to a ,shed and live on bread 'and water before I'd live In the house with .any one I really disliked, even If I had tho tiKc nf a motor and a. butler . thrown In for my pains. But listen. Isn't there something about sister you can like somehow? Maybe she's the sort of pel-ion who can't like anyone who doesn't like her and she knows how you feel. Can't you dis guise your feelings from her and see what will happen? Ten chances to one she'll fall dead In love wllh you and bore "him" to death telling him he Isn't half good enough for Sou. So. Just try this way just for fun. The next time there's an argument be tween "him" and "her." and from what sou say both of them love to argue, take sister's side, pay her some compliment, something perfectly unexpected, and watch tho tide begin to flow your way. Hypocritical? Oh! I dont know. There must be something decent about her. mcthlng her friends see-can't yon see It? And besides this Is a serious fight for you n fight for your life's happiness. Why don't you realize that and use a little Btratcgy? I know a woman whose husband s sis ter and mother Joined In at attempt to make her home unhappy. The wlfosaw th whole situation, and she Invited hus band's mother and husband's sister to visit. Then sho called. In all her hus band's friends, the ones sho. knew her husband liked and the ones sho knew her husband's mother and sister didn't like, and then she sat back and watchud the llttlo comedy. Ukc her husband's friends. Why, of course, what a question! And she didn't hip anything wrong In husband's liking them. 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Mother's Friend Is jold at drug stores. Write for our free book for expectant mothers. ERA0F1ELD REGULATOR CO., AtlaaU, Go, I v I 1 ; 1 j . . i 1 1 I .1 I II II II I Asylum I NO' 1 WANT I H Sunt: J ) AMD 0WT I fOBe "iHOE ) " 1F WE an "In-Law" husband come home ut night and what n fuss she' made over him, when he had a headache, and sister made fun of him ' for giving way to it so easily. And he- fore tho visit was half over husband was counting tho days when he and wlfcy could bo alone again and happyx You're a woman, use your woman's wit and outwit this sister who Is trying to make your life a failure. Don't try to settle the thing In a quar tel. you can't. Your husband Isn't the right sort of fellow or ho wouldn't let anyone on earth come between you ami him. But he's what you have; make the best of hlrn and of yourself, and fight sister with the weapons of wit and clever management, and you'll win hands down, see If you don't. Think out the right way nnd you'll be surprised to find how easy It Is after nil. Try It and see and let us know. You aren't the only one with sucli a problem to. solve. Tell us how yon solve It, and help somebody else out of an unpleasant situation. Advice to Lovelorn, Ily HEATItlCK FAIHKAX. Are- You Snrp of Vniirxrlff Dear Miss Fairfax: I am IS, and some time ago J went with a gentleman whom I liked very much at tlmt time, nut gave him up for a friend with whom I had been going about seven years ago. I now feel that I would like to renew my friendship with this gentleman, but don't .know how to go about It. This gentleman lives quite a dlstancn from me, and I have heard through friends that he still likes me, but he is going with another girl. 1 wouldn't like, to mako any advances, because I don't want to give him the Idea that I am run ning after him. a. J. If. Aro you quite sure that your desire is prompted by love for tho man. or Jealousy of the other girl? The two sentiments aro so much alike It Ib sometimes difficult to dlstlnsulsh between them. If you offended, you must be the first to apologize, even at the risk of being misunderstood. But don't play fast and loose with your friends In this fashion. It Ortnlnly la. Dear Miss Fairfax: In riding; in the elevator of an office building Is It not the proper thing for a gentleman to re move his hat when a lady is riding on the same elevator, even though he Is not arqualnted with her? KTIQUKTTK. Thank you for asking tho question. It furnishes opportunity for making a state ment I hope many men will read A gentleman always removes his hat when riding In an elevator with a lady whether he is Acquainted or not. tr- Beautify Your Own Ily ELIjA WIIKELKIl WILCOX. Just what subjects are worthy of dis cussion in literature or In print? In prose or verse? In newspapers or books? A score of people questioned on this matter might give a score ot answers. An erudite man ot my acqalntance thinks one should write only of clas slcal subjects, lie thinks Greek lit erature and hist ory and mythology hold talent. He be lieves It Is neces sary for the uplift ing of the taste of the modern man and woman to get wholly away from the sordid present. A bright youth, on tha contrary. sneers at this dic tum, and says; "Oet clear away from that highbrow stuff; nobody wants It. It Is for old fossils; Homer and Virgil and Shakes peare did It to death. Say something modern: something with red blood In It.' Another believes In allegories: In fairy tales; In the elusive and the mystical, "Avoid all things being obvious." he tays, by which he means try and be hard to understand. Still another says. "Amuse people. Make them laugh. Turn their faces away from the serious side of life. Instead of portraits give thorn cartoons; Instead of life pictures glvo thorn caricatures.". One man believe Irt making fine ( phrases; he thinks llterorv talent Is slm jp1 a b-isli In the hand of a painter, and j should be. used to mul e tomethlnar bc'iU- BIEb&ksbtH CopjrlRht. Ull. National New A Suffragist's Claim to Life By FKAXCKS GAHSl !;. "Why does tho suffrugist make the best wife?" Iou Rogers, the cartoonist of the suffrage movement, said the words after me thoughtfully, laying her pen down by a half finished cartoon. "The suffragist," she said slowly, "makes tho best wife and mother ami always will make the best wife and mother, because she Is the thinking woman of the world today. "The thinking woman Is always the life woman, tho Interested and interesting woman, the Imaginative, growing, feel ing, understanding, sympathetic woman. "The suffragist is looking her domestic life squarelv in tho face. She Is realiz ing that it Is stupid and criminal to do n thing a certain way Just becausu. uer mother did It that way. She Is under standing that the ways of doing things should change with the change of condl tlans. Sho thinks nbout her home and what sui rounds It. She thinks about her husband and children, what tiny wear and where it conies from, what they eat and where It comes from, md how to get It to them. She thinks about where her children play and what effect the place has upon them mentally and morally. "She sees clemly that the American homo Is no longer sot apart by Itself, as It was 10O ears ago, producing nearly everything It needed, from light to sho and hats. "She understands that her home nnd every home In tho fnltcd States Is a center, around which a million mighty trades and Interests revolve. Great fac tories make the clothes her children wear. If sho would protect the health of her children she must tegulate the health of tho factory' workers. "She realizes that the bakeries that supply her with bread and pastry, the factories that handle the thousand and one table products must be adequately Inspected, else her family must suffer. Sh.e understands that the care of the fodd has always been her care, and al ways will bo her care and that she must bo given every power known to modern science arid government to do her task properly. "She knows that she must care wisely, for tho recreation of her family, that tho cltv must be made to supply sortie other playgrounds than the streets If It would produce citizens and not criminals. She believes, with all her big wholesome soul, that she should be ac corded the traditional dlgtnlty ot a El hi "Wheeler "Wilcox, Discussing Present Day Needs. Bays: Home Life Before tlful and urtlsttc. It does not matter to him what l' expressed In a sentence; one Idea is as good as another If only it Is phrased exquisitely, Opinions and Ideals are lost sight nf once the color scheme of words enters his mind. Another would bo realistic or nothing. He would lay bare every evil thing In the world with his pen, and then ask the world to come and seo and hope that future generations might cover the tin pleabant dclMs with flower gardens. A man asked a literary woman why the wasted her time In discussing such themes as love, marriage, home life and rearing of children, There are so many objects more Important, he said. "What are they?"' asked the lady, "Well, political matters, reforms, econo mics, religion, morals, etc.," he replied. Hut are these subjects more Important than those designated as domestic; "Political," Webster tells us, "Is the RATHER WARM FOR COMFORT 1,1 ml I of Human Endurance Ileai-brd hr Mlokera nn Ocean Strainers. So terrific Is tho heat In the boiler and engine rooms of the new oll-burnlug steamships on the Pacific coast that tha men cannot put their hands on any metal part and need planks to stand on, lh thermometer ranging from 115 to It5vd grees, said Patrick Plynn of San Fran Cisco In testifying before the commerce committee on the seamen's bill, Mr. Flynn represents the firemen's union and presented affidavits showing temperatures ranging a 'high as 148. He said the men after looking Into the whit glare of the furnaces, as they had to .1) to 1 ecu lute the flrer, oul4 not w-e ttu T1I10 BEtt: OMAHA. THURSDAY, .1ANTAKY 1(5, 10.1,1 Am's, t'O tKt TO Vl rtis jonev i.ou direct voice In the solution of the domestic problem of recreations. In sliort. there, s not. a hIijkIo Inter est of her family life that sjiefdocn not rtalleo Is a complete pnrt of the com munity life. And .with fearless, search ing, earnest mind and devoted energy. she Is minding the business of the family. Trying to Beautify science of government; that part of ethics which has to do with the regula tion and government of a nation or state, the preservation at Its safety, peace nnd prosperity; tfic augmentation of Its strength and resources nd Im provement of their morals." 1 Now, upon what foundation does a nation rest? Upon Its homes, The moment the home life of a land Is destroyed or undermined, that moment the degeneration of the nation begins. We have but to glance, back over his tory to know that. And for what pur pose do nations exist? Why do peori form a government, band together Jn a country? Merely to establish nn otdc which they believe wilt be conducive to happy, moral home: life. So It seems to me when I turn my tlm and talents to any dlsousslon which will help men and "women to be better hus- hands of an Indicator until five mlnuUs later. Sometime the ventilators wee turned away from windward because the air pressure was too great for the fires. On board coal burners under the Hough ton .forced draught system, he said, the average temperature In tho fire room u 100 degrees. Citing the Queen, running from Ha'l Francisco to San Diego, as an oxs'inpie, he said the temperature In its flrerooin under normal conditions was lis, 4nd when cleaning the fires 140. The steam ship President, he said, showed the same temperatures. "Among the Asiatics one in every llf teen firemen. dies from bnccmlpg over heated In the fire room, or, coming up on deck, deliberately Jumps overboard n1 commits suicide." gald Mr Klynn'. 't would run about one In twenty-three f r white men." San Fraiteison Call Drawn for VMVT KH ONE.XPtc.-TCD Al I HEN'T HMO THE to DHt3 MO lOmN' PIC1 too Partnership nooHim "She will never test until hIio has gained adequate power to handle her business of wife 'and mother as she knows It should he hnndlnd. ;Tlio suffragist will moke the best wife, because she will always be faith ful to th woman's age-old traditions of service to her husband, her children and humanity. the Whole World J bands and fathers, wives and mothers, friends and lovers, that I am working wisely for tho ultimate welfare of my country. The same argument applies to reform. "Where does all the true reformation be gin? It must begin nt home. The bad husband, the bad father, the bad friend ran never Institute a lasting reform for humanity. We hove too many shining lights In the political socfat and artistic firmaments, who are orbs nf darkness In tho domestic sky. Domc&tic life s the foundation upon which the world of society rests. And .without a flrpi foundation the most beautiful structure falls. The critic suggested morals as a topic worthy of discussion In literature. nut what are morals supposed to make? Xot angels, for angels are presumably already moral. Oood men and women are needed In the land today more than angels are needed In Paradise. Whatever subjects can be discussed that aid men and women to thinking along ways which develop character, and nobility of action; whatever can be writ ten that gives courage to the despond ent, hope to the downcast, strength to the weakling, ambition to the indolent, and wakens a sense of responsibility In the Idle these are the Important topics of the world In any and every age. And any man can develop such quali ties who Is a thoughtless son, an Indif ferent husband, n miserly citizen and a selfish father. Men and women must begin to be worthy where they are before they can be worthy In any other position In life. Rautlfy your home life before you try to beautify tho world, foypilght. Ml. by the Star Publishing Cotnpuii; . The Bee by George McManus THREE When Romance Runs Riot Ily HK.VrniCK FAIIU-'AX. A young woman who has learned so little from the experience of otheis that she needs a guardian writes, me; "I nm a young Isdy. and am very ford or children. How may I get Into correspondence with some widower with the view of matilmony? I am nil atono in tho world." This young woman has romantic visions of making herself the Idolized of some widower's home. Sho pictures herself In on nrmchalr In the, evening with the widower's children on her Up, and their rather sitting opposite beaming In happi ness at such nn Ideal scene. She dreams that they love her as much us If she were their own mother, and In this beautiful dream no vision of the first wife's relatives ,or friends obtrudei. yhe sees no question of her rights or authority hi ho vision. She Imaalnes no rebellion Inspired by zealous relatives In the breasts of her stepchildren. If she marries a widower with children, she will wake up before the honeymoon Is over. Some one must mother the motherless, but the task Is 'made so dif ficult by relatives and friends of the dead mother that the bravest heart has reason to shrink r.rom the task, ' And as for voluntarily seeking it r Thla young' woman Is so Ignorant of whtt such 11 situation Implies that sho needs a guardian. No man. my dear, ever picks out his second wife with his children's best good In mind. He nmrrlejd the first time a Will "who sultod hint; he marries the second tlrnti for the same teason. Ho Is thinking solely of self. If his .second wife makes a good mother for his children, he takes nil the crodlt to him self for having made such a choice. If .hr Is a poor mother, and they are neg lected, he blames her, or the children Tnder nn circumstances does he blame himself. He thinks so little of his children's ned when ho goes courting the second tlmo that If an official appointed by the gov ernment for that very purpose were' to lino up all the women with mothers' Girls and By KDOAR 1.UCIEN LABK1N. I have received a letter from an anxious mother. It will be unnecessary to print It, for what I am going to write in an swer will tell thousands of fond .parents what was In the letter. Here Is my an swer; Your daughter Is. In a precarious mental state. You ask mo what to do, and I gladly reply. Hum her algebra; or far better, let her tear out the leaves and cast them one by one Into the fire, and then the cover. Toko her out of school, and go with her to moylng picture shows. Take her to the country, glvo her the harasred and tired mind a rest. Never let her eyes look upon an algebra again. Neither she nor any other girl has or over will have any use for algebra. Upon recovery of her mental poise, return her to the public school. Then, If any attempt Is made to force the toiture. of algebra upon her, take her qut and send send her to a private school, where differences, yes, differences, between minds are allowed for In Instruction. Do anything, teach her yourself, or em ploy a private teacher, anything to pre vent her fine mind being seared and withered for life by the horrors of dlf. floult equations for whlcK she never can have any earthly use. Teach her things A. WOMAN'S WISDOM. The worried mother wakes up to bear her baby's heavy breithmis. HrtU cough perhaps the croup or wboopiag couth. S& eloes not want to send far the doctor when perhaps the trouble does nol amount to muer. Finally she thinks of that medieal book her father gave her, Tba Coaaaoa Seme. Medical Adviser, hr H. V. Pieree, M. D. She says "just tbe thiol to find out what is the. saatter with the little dear." Two million households in this country own one add it's to be had for only 31c. in itsnips 1,000 pages la splendid cloth binding. A toed family adviser in any emergency. It it for titktr ttx. This is what aaaay wo bo en write Dr. Piercein respect to his " Favorite Prtsorifetiop, " a remedy which has msde thousands of melancholy and miserable women ceacrful and happy, by curio " tbe painful wximanly diseases which undersalae a wdajta's fccalOl d. streniis). MMv desire la tn writ a few Unas tn let you know what Has. Zubjmt amo Bxtx. to nil my friends." 9 f e YEARS LATER . hearts In their breast, and who would be to his children all that death robbed them of, he would go past the line with unseulng eyes, and pick out some woman whom the government official would de clare most Unfit for all motherlmj pur poses. The writer of this letter complains she is alone In the world. No one Is alone In the world. Xo.one Is alone In the world who recognizes th big tie of kinship that binds us. One need not sit down' with folded hands and pine because One Is alone when there Is some' one next door who needs sympathy and companionship. A woman who loves children Is not compelled to seek correspondence with some widower to -ratify that outpour of Affection. There are orpans' homes In every town with llttlo waifs In them whose future depends upon adoption by some good woman. If the writer of this letter does not want the burden that an adoption ot a child means, how cun she seek the greater burden It means to become a. stepmother? Jt that craving for a child's love must be granted and there Is no lovo that is inoie wholesome or doew more for A woman's spiritual development and wel fare, than love for a child let the writer ot this letter volunteer her services In helping her sisters and friends take care of their babies, Let her become a home missionary, coins; .Into homes and spending the day there caring for fretful babies while their mother has a day off. Ist her give her friends the assurance that when the baby Is sick they can rely on her to help care for It. Let her jrlve up an occasional day to sewing for ths ,c,hldre.n, to nursing them, to play with them, I,et her find an outlet for this craving for the love of chlldrtn that Is independent of the fact that their father has, or has not, a wife. I am sure that on this round of really helpful labor she will enqounter many a dWcotiriged, heart-sick, tlre4,stpmother, and that the day spent In' assisting her will forever cure this aspirant for a widower's heart and hand ot all such usplratlons. , Algebra that she and every other girl ought to know. . Now, here are rigid mentologlcal facts', and from teaching- I know whereof I speak. The minds of girls and boys ara decreed and tot by nature at such wide differences that they may b retarded almost as different beings or personal His. It is useless to deny this. Co education Is the limit of absurdity. Teach girls facts that they ought, by de mands of nature, to know. Also boys, but not In the same school. Eyen the two buffings should differ In almost every way In plan and design. And th minds of the teachers of boys should be so very different from Vthose of girls that comparison can' scarcely be made. It is almost Infinitely better for a girl to be thoronghjy taught how to cure croup, sudden asthma colds, fevers, burns, scalds, cuts and broken bones how to treat and care- for children, then to know an mathematics higher than "household mathematics," consisting ot adding up grocery bills. Almost dally I see children n the ca-i on their way to school, and girls are laden with useless algebras. Now, hers Is the law; Any study loathed by any student Is a positive and In multltudci of case a permanent Injury- to mind nnd brain. your valuable medicine has done, for me." writes Mm. Makoarbt Zuzbert, of 333 a Bentalon StrMt, Baltimore, Aid. 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