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Copyright. 1912, National Nes A'n.
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The Unwelcome Wife
I pet a great mnny tearful letters from
women who say that their husbands aro
a-weary of them, and wish to be rid of
them. These wives wrlto that their hus
bands are brutally frank, Bind tell them
to their faces what
burders they nre,
'how they hato
them and how they
long for death or
On of the. women
writes, "My hus-
baml says that ho
must c e r t a Inly
have been drunk
when ho picked
me out fOjwlfe,"
Another .woman
nays that' her hus
band Is1 always
w o n d erlng why
some kind friend
didn't put him 111
a lunatic asylum
when he announced .that he was going
tb marry her. Still anoUier says her hus
band Is' always saying that If ho hadn't
been .fool enough tto tie up' with nor he
could' marry a rich widow.
After relating thcs,o' Insults, and tell;
Ing hdw tK'ey aro" neglected and mis
treated jby1 their .husbands, these women
t wind up" tliejr letters by saying; "What.
' lhall I dqYJIShall I leave mV husband or
: not?" .y'
That depend! on whether a woman has
the soul of an upstanding human being
ar of a dogs To any woman wun one arpp
jt free. Independent blood In her veins,
or one shred of self-respect In her char
acter there) should bo no such question.
She would, have packed her trunk and
left at the very first Intimation that her
husbaVid no longer wanted her and felt
her a burden upon him. Ono can no more
understand a woman lingering along as
a palpably unwelcome wife than one can
understand a woman continuing to re
main at a ploco where she knows herself
to be an unwelcome guest.
That a wlfo would stay on with a hus
band who Is tired of her and who wants
to be rid of her Is the more strange, be
causeshe'.Is in sucha bad situation tnat
nothing could bo worse. Whatever Ills
she might fly to would be more endur
able than thoso she suffers.
Certainly to a, sensitive woman there
can be no torture worse ttm'h to live In
the cloBe relationship of marriage with
30 Million
Pounds of
used in Germany
last year.
It shouldn't be
'necessary to say
another word
about it in our
is a self-acting
Oxygen washing
compound for all
laundry pur
poses. Persil
saves Time, La
bor, Clothes
at your grocer's
a man who hates her; to be forced to
note his averted glances; to know that
he begrudges her even the very bread
she eats and the clothes upon her back.
Her only chance for happiness, or oven
peace of mind, under such olrcumstances
Is to go away where her heart will not
bo stabbed dally by cold looks, where
she will be free of Insults and reproaches,
and where sho can live her life In quiet
and self-respect, as she cannot do as an
undeslfed wife.
If a man has money the law will force
htm to provide for the wife he wishes to
discard, As a maUer of fact, he will be
willing to pay out good money to get
rid of her, and If the woman is wise she
will put aside sentiment and come down
'to brass tacks and drive a hard bargain
with him. If he Is poor and has no money
with Which to pay for his freedom, she
does well to go anyway, for there Is no
other laborer on earth who works so
hard and gets so llttlo pay as a poor
man's wife. Her only reward Is the love
and appreciation of her husband, and If
she doesn't get these her labor is profit
less Indeed.
There Is no woman of ordinary sense
ami .health who can't make a living In
these days and be treated decently In
the . bargain, and so there Is no reason
for a wlfo remaining with a husband
who tells her how tired hels of her and
reproaches her yith being alive, except
that', she wants to stay.
Unfortunately there are 'Plenty of wo
men who Justify the old adage, "a wo
man, a dog and a walnut tree, the morn
you. beat them the better they be." Such
women simply thrive on Ill-treatment, and
the more they are kicked and Insulted,
the tighter they cling to a ma'n.
Nobody need waste any sympathy on
them, for they are having the time of
their lives, when they are bedewing your
parlor carpet with tears, and taking up
your time telling you how their hus
bands neglect and llluse' them. They are
spaniels that crawl back to the hand
that Bmltes them, and they are subjects
for our contempt rathor than our pity.
Nothing can be done for these women
except to leave them to enjoy their
misery, and to revel In whining. They
are spineless creatures, worms of the.
dust without enough backbono In them
even to turn, but tho woman who has
few sections of vertabrae, enough to
make her resent being an unwelcome
wife, has Just one chance to get back
her lost hanplness.
And that Is by leaving her husband
and giving him a chance to find out
that the blessing he has despised is
more necessary to his wellbelng than he
has realized, Nothing makes a woman of
such value to a man's eyes as to be un
attainable. Also nothing makes a man
so Indifferent to a woman as for her
to be always Sally-on-the-spdt. The chief
reason that men make negligent hus
bands Is because they cherish the Idea
that a wife Is something you can't lose.
Therefore, a wife's one and only chance
to win back her husband who frankly
tells her he Is weary of her and sorry
he married her. Is to go away and leave
him. and give him the opportunity to
find out how much he misses her, and
how much she Is necessary to his happl-
jiefisr K.H cares for her at all, absence
win quicKen love, ana ne win come nacK
to her -repentant and a chastened hus
band. ' .
If he doesn't come back, If he really
docs loatho her, as .tie says, then the
sooner she knows It, and can set about
making a life of' her own, the better
fey hef.
Ruey the FrtL&e head w;Noora
at me P01HT vvweic-e thc
"IF O r)f)N STtCK
John! feed the kitjv!
Cf you tc?l t r4e why me,
t-itce ft U&l NESS RROFOSt 1
irrnz&L otu tor- no bomcb
fN mKLz ft lot!!
Tfe LiH?oe Gc)HeKrS DRtr.V
wci-o&c ne, t-wrf6oT up on
THE Pu mrWM to ftfinouHOil
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WOWi-D TO fl&X- 17 &
When is a Lie Not a Lie?
"Often Justifiable to Live a Lie," Says a Psychologist
Too Ilrallstlo an Imitation.
The- occasion was a choice little tei
party on the lawn, and the hoitess was
beamln Band busy among her guests.
"Yes," she remarked, "my little girl U
very clever. She can Imitate almost any
"She can, my dear," echoed the host,
delightedly. "Come. Alice; show what
you can do. I'retehd to be the house
maid. The little girl, eagerly enough, cama
forward and bowed, to one of the guests.
"Will you take some more tea
ma'am?" sho asked politely. Then she
turned to another guest,
"May I move your chair, madam? The
sunlight Is very strong."
At this the guests were exceedingly In
terested and asked for more.
Backing away from her father, Alice
exclaimed. In a terrified tone:
"Sir, let me go.. Don't touch me, sir.
Give you a kiss. Indeed. Supposing tho
missus was to hear you?"
Then the clever little darling was
wafted away suddenly, New York Sun.
Too Much of a Good Thing.
Kberton L. Wlnthrop, at the end qf
one of. the meeting of the Board of
Education in New York, said, apropos
of severity In the schoolroom:
"These over-severe teachers always re.
mind me of an over-severe parson. He,
at a dinner party durlnir Int. xalrl in
I one oi in buchib, a lamous raconteur.
My dear sir. as It Is Lent and a
Friday to boot would you mind If I
asked you to confine your efforts ex-
' ihislvely to Hull stories?" Boa top Her-
When Is a lie not a lie 7
AIlss Vlfla Faulkner Page was Just dis
missing a class of women who had come
In the pouring rain, many of them from
out of town, to propound their individual
problems and solve them with Miss Page's
As the last of the problems swept out
Into the dripping night I put my ques
tion to the psychologist.
"Iet me see, what is the corroot defini
tion of a He? A statement with Intent
to deceive, Isn't It?" said Miss Page. "I
have a right to deceive people under cer
tain very limited circumstances," she an
nounced boldly.
"For Instance, a writer of promlnenco
wonted to study the problems of the
working alrl. Sho disguised herself, lived
and worked with a class of girls whose
salaries aro among tho smallest In the
city. She wished to Investigate the con
ditions of the boarding houses, homes and
co-operotlvo Institutions where thtse
girls live In order to Improve them.
"She was living a He, but that He was
"In another case, n sick womon had a
friend who was dangerously 111, and who
eventually died. Tho friends of the first
woman told lier that her friend ws get
ting better in order to save her a shock
which might have caused a relapse of her
own illness, Again tho He was Justifiable.
"Queen Kllzabeth snld 'a Ho Is an In
telligent way of getting out of a dif
ficulty.' In tho Infinite complexity which
comes of our modes of living there Is
often occasion to withhold the truth, and
people use that way of doing It.
"You often have some knowledge which
you are not free to give to others, or the
meaning of which it is not in the power of
the other Individual to comprehend. in
such cases the evasive answers is a
sign of tact, and Is necessary In fact.
"The telephone has become the easy
means by which many of a certain typo
of person not only endeavors to find out
what does not concern them, but tries to
get others to do their work for them,"
"It is said, Miss Page, that the tele
phono Is conducive to more lying than
any other agent of modern life. Do you
consider that true?"
Miss Page avoided a direct answer.
"People try to shift their work on the
shoulders of others, using the telephone
to call up for advice or Intelligence
which they are not going to ubo, or are
too lazy to get for themselves, and on
the other hand, people are not fraplc
enough to say straight out that such
and such a thing Is not the business of
the, person questioning. The persons who
ask too many questions do not feel that
thny aro transgressing, and for myself I
would not hesitate to be quite frank and
outspoken. 1
"One of the most serious phases of
this question of lying Is the attitude of
parents toward the Imaginative child.
Now a child has no notion of lying, be
cause It Is that which Is In your heart
that makes the He. The pure-hearted
child is like Billy, who told hi mother
that a big black bear had eaten the
chocolate cake, that was In the pantry.
"Billy couldn't be persuaded that It
wasn't a bear, and that evening when
father came home, Billy's mother In
formed him, with a long, sad face, that
Billy had told a dreadful lie.
"So Billy's father questioned the boy,
and Billy repeated his story with beau
tiful elaborations changing the bear to a
cow, But all to no purpose. The father
tried to persuade him that he was lying,
but Billy wouldn't give up, and only won
dered what was the artistic point lack
ing In his story Poor Billy was whipped
i,v hu no renin and still he Oulin t see
Babes from the Woods
Here are three letter written by babes
who Imaglno they are In love.
"I am keeping company with a young
mull of my Jige, which I 17 years. He
calls on me fnvrry night, but he does nut
show any loVe to me. What, can I do to
make htm show his Joy?"
"I am IK years and In luvo with h girl
one year my Junior 1 think she doesn't
pny me the attention she ought to, I
love her, but she has never told mo sho
loves me. ( would Ilka to know a plan
by which I could find out It she recipro
cates my love for her."
"Is It any harm for a boy and girl of
IS years (o keep steady company? Some
people say that at the hko of 18 years
children Hhould nev,r thluk of tho op
posite sex."
Boy ond girl love, called calf-love by
thosf who have survived Its nttneks with
out lasting scar., may develop Into some
thing fine, but every chance In the world
Is against It.
In tho first place, children of that age
don't know their owni minds, They are
In love with love, and think they are In
love 'with the boy or girl who at that
moment plenses them best. In six weeks,
still In lovn with love, fhl mushroom
offspring of s romantic brann'l attached
to some other person. Indeed, given op
portunity mid environment', the oujert
of one's undying lorn when one Is 1(1
year changes ns rapidly ns tho scene In
a moving picture. '
This love Is serious while It last. It
takes time, Is n waste of emotion mid Is
fostered and encouraged when one's
Judgment In hasty nnd Immature.
Therein the danger lies. '
Youth Always swings too far bdth ways.
Ono Is uncontrollably happy, or danger
ously depressed. Iaivc, never an off
spring of reason, behaves as If of Insuno
parentuge when those under Its swuy aiu
ndrr 16 years.
Time that should be spent III making a
valuable storehouse of the brain Is de-
ated to making that valuable part of
the anatomy a lumber' room filled with
seless odds and ends of romance, 1
Wlin one Is 16 years' old the brain l
strong and active and Impressionable..
ml lessons are easiest to master and
rastrt to retain. H Is a harvest time.
ml It is more than a misfortune It Is a
tragedy If girls nnd boya at this period
uf their lives moon around like half-sick
calves and think, sing and prate of love
what was the mutter, and, as hu lay sob.
blng In his little bed, after the ordeal, he
called his father and said; "It wasn't a
cow, It was a angnl that ato the cake,"
having no Idea what the punishment was
for ond what It was all nbout."
"How would you deal with un Imag
inative child of this kind, Miss Puge?"
"I nxjuld enter Into the spirit of thu
story," said tho psychologist and teacher
of psychotherapy "I would let Hilly tell
mu the story and elaborate to his heart's
content. I would go Into details about It.
Oh, I have done it a great many tlmcic,
and know that It's ioslbIe, und In a
little while he would admit that he had
helped the bear eat up the chocolate
cake', and so the truth comes out, at
last, and tho child can be made to under
stand the difference.
"Many grown up people continue to
live In the Imaginative realms of child
hood, and deviate from tho truth, like
children. They are the people who al
ways exaggerate, who never maku mi
absolutely truo statement of facts, and
whove live In a vague, negative condl-t!on-the
condition bred of untruth; these
deviations weaken and degenerate and
undermine the character, showing tljo
pernicious effect of lying.
"In themselves such people huve the
childlike temperament that refuses to
grow up and to learn the difference be
tween truil, und untruth, and the habit.
that will not live longer, than tomorrow
1o the writers of these three letters I
urgest ft careful perusal pf K. J, Hardy,
wno s.i is;
"Precaullousness In love-maklnr Is a
great mistake.. It prevents the enjoymsnt
of youthful years, which should be free
rrom anxiety and leads to cntanirlemeiUs
and hasty attschments which cause much
uisiross thereafter. We. do not ad't
girls to put off matrimony until they Kra
MO year? old-whleh was, I believe, the aga
of the daughter of Knoch when she on
tcred that statebut wo think they do
not consult their best Interests In allow
ing thoughts of lovo and marriage to oc
cupy their minds Jn their 'salad days,'
when they nro greon In Judgment."
Head this quotation ugaln:
"It prevents the enjoyment of youthful
years, which should bo free from nnxlety,
and leads to entanglomenls and hasty
attachments wjilch csuho much distress."
The writers of theso letters, one. Wo
and three, will find no nrgumont fayqr
Ing calf lovo that can offset this argu
ment against It.
So I urge tho writer Of tho first letter
to make no attempts to get a boy of U
years to show his love, but refrain from
showing her own, and try to overcome It.
1 want the Ii6y who. wrote the sacoml
letter to put an jnuch worry Into his les
sons at school at' he Is putting ln(o' a
precocious love,, and I want tho writer! of
the third letter to take the quotation
from Hardj' foi nh utisWer.
Don't regard this opportunity to lorn
and bo loved a" the last!
And don't, If lit or 20 years of ag, ir
older, look upon the present as all tier
r m future. I.ove will coma when
you are reody for' It. ,
And Ijito trove's even sweeter
Thsn First Iive's tender dream.
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A Ilnehelar'j) Hrtleqtlona.
A man believes In principles so' as. tt
argue ubotit them.
Thu only time a clrl nnlrstnnd hn.e
ball Is at u foot ball game.
No bed could ever be built big enough:
to' keep cold feet' out of reach.
a woman's idea or a successful hat la
If It looks to her husband aa If It cost
fi and to her frlonds KM,
The most extreme instanlty Is being 4n
gnged, hut a sure cure for It Is marriage.
j i n man can niuion nis wire up the
back ItV proof to .her now smart he mOt
no in nusinrss.
The thanks a man gets for paying rot
ducks for his family Is he also gets thl
Jolt of carving them.
of exaggerating and lying beepmes like
at drug, to which they ure addicted and
which they cannot do without. j
"Characters llko thesu und they often
belong to tho seemingly pleasant and I
amiable people, ate destructive to so
"Many of tho people who come here to
inn to have thujr troubles analyzed and
get at tho root of the matter, can trace
their misfoi tunes to such people, and It
Is for that reason that tho training of
the imaginative child who does not know
the meaning of a He, and does not In
tend to deceive, must be undertaken by
the tuctful, Intelligent person who can
correct tho tendency to untruthfulness
tiy showing tho child what It really Is
without Intimidating him by punishment.
In a child of this kind a He Is not a He,
but the child is father to the man and
to him a Ue Is ii lie Indeed."
Tt'HchliiK Ibr Youiik Idea,
A keen-eyed but obviously scantily edu
cated mountaineer led his gawky, over
grown son Into a country school house.
"This here boy's urter larnin'." he an
nounced, "What's yer hill o' fare?"
"Our curriculum, sir," corrected the
schoolmaster, "embraces geography, phy.
slology, arithmetic, algebra, trlgonoma-tr-'
"That'll do," interrupted the father.
"That'll do. Iood him up heavy with
triggrrnometry He's the only poor shot
n ti rauilly, V-A'outh'a Companion, I
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