Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, May 04, 1912, EDITORIAL, Page 19, Image 19
19 THE BEE: OMAHA. SATURDAY, MAT 4. 19V2. The e eg J-jn jVaf a z i re f)a SILK HAT HARRY'S DIVORCE SUIT i r . i v iuiAr 7 1 i Nn j mir mciui 'Viwy i x - i i The Pitiful Strcggle Between the Husband's Mother and His Wife for .His Undivided Love-Heaven Help Both By VIRGINIA TERHINE Heaven help hart That Wsa the thought that flame uppermost to my mind when I wrote thla title. 8ome readers may add: "And heaven kelp her lUtufhter-Inlaw!" To which I Kay "Amen!" but not aa fervently aa to my own petition. I fairy there are few relatione more trained than thoae that fxlat between a mother-tn-law and daughter-in-law. I do not except those of the mother-in-law and hoa-ln-bw. to the latter raaa the daughter. If she be worthy of the name, will not cut off entirety from her mother, although her huaband and ber parent may not get on very well together. Tm a woman holde fael to her own family, even when she sympathises with ber hus band and love him. In her case blood Is certainly thicker than water, and -she seldom Uvea tip her own kinfolk, no matter how uneosgeoial they and her husband may b. Not o with the man. When ha mar ries ha goes over to hla wife's family. The "going over" may be cradual, but It la aura. Each year lessens the In fhienee that hla own people have over Mm If hla wtfe Wishes to lessen It. men the Influence of the husband's mother .Is strong, the wife unless she be a very kuce-heared. broad-minded, honorable woman resents It I suspect that at the bottom of thla resentment la sex-Jealousy. The man Is hers, and with the Instinct of set she rebels against seeing him under the sway of any other woman. On the other hand the aex-Jealousy Is quite aa strong tn the mother herself. The man la her eon, aha brought him Into the world, aha trained him, ahe made him what ha Is. and her heart swells with pride as aha looks at htm. No wonder she think that hla wife loves htm! He Is all that a man should be. and has been her boy, her darling, her blessing and comfort! She determines for hla sake to love the wife that he has chosen. It seems easy at first, when the girl Is nnosed to the new conditions, and when there has been no reason for eonfllot of wills. But when the wife be gins to teal Jealous of her liege lord's frequent absences from home and hla presence at hla mother's house, when he finds that the son and mother still have sweet confidences together, she be comes resentful. She does not know that she kj Jealous, and would deny It posi tively If ahe were told" the truth. But he thlnka that she la "lonely" and flhl Is a favorite excuse) that Jack'a mother never will love her! She telle Jack so. Whereupon Jack demands angrily re member he is a new and rapturous bride groom still what his mother has said to his dear little sweetheart to make her think that? Then hla "sweetheart" ac knowledges that It Is not what his mother has actually said or done that has hurt her. but what she has left un done. "She hardly ever asks me to ac company you when you go to aee her," she remlnda him. If she sheds a few tears when she says It the effect la much more fetching. "I knew that ah doesn't care for men and that she resents your love for ma, aha moans. And the poor man. harried and distressed, will suffer lesa If he believes his wlfe'a complaints than If ha continues to be hla mother's Intimate confidants. The reault la only what might have been expected. The husband goes leas often to see his mother, and when he dose go Insists that his wife accompany htm. and the mother, noticing the change In hie manner and remembering what her boy was before hla marriage, lays the fault at the door of her daughter-in-law, and says. "He was a devoted eon until he was married!' Then Jealousy on the mother's part asserts Itself and she suf fers fn tensely. What wonder that she finds ft Impossible to love the woman who Is. ahe feels, the cause of her loss of her boy? As feeling 'tn Infectious, the mental attitude of the mother-in-law affects the daughter-in-law and vice versa. It Is all a sad. bad condition of affairs, so pitiful aa to be almost tragic. The chief sufferer la the elderly woman. Her son has his wife and his new pom: the da ushtar -SB-lew aas the husband who. muses the mother. Is lovable enough and good enough to sattery any woman, while he, the boy's mother, la left In her borne without Mm, with the sad conviction that a years pass hla wife will lead him more surely from her who bore htm. I acknowledge that the mother-in-law Is not perfect, and that there are times when aha Is a very exasperating piece of humanity. Nevertheless I lay most of the blame for the existing condition of affairs at the door of the yourg wife. Can ahe rot be more generous, can she sot be foUMiig, csnraot she look forward to the VAN DB woman, a woman whom she may long to have love her a a daughter might? Why may, she not behave to her husband's mother as site would have her son's wife to behave to her. Or suppose she haa ho children of her own. yet surely she must have some pity for eld age. She could make her husband's mother fond of her If she would try to do so. The elderly woman may he suspi cious, ahe may be a bit censorious, but It must be a very hard and hitter heart that gentle, eonaderatlon cannot melt. I believe that In a vast majority of the oases of unhspplneas between men's, wives end mothers the weight of the responsi bility tor the misery may be ktld upon the wife. She has all to gain and little to lose. The mother who loses her son loses one of the chief Joys of her life. "If I would know whst kind of a wtfe a man has, I observe how she trsata hla mother," aald a sage student of human nature. Tee, If a man who has been a good ion before marriage neglecta his mother, the fault la usually with the wife. She may not ha able to love her mother-in-law. but she can, at least. Insist that her husband shall show his mother the same love that he showed her before he married. If she was worthy of that love when he was a bachelor, ahe Is none the lesa worthy of It because he has taken unto himself a wife. The Manicure LadyJ There's no use talking George." said the Manicure Lady, "thla here town haa went baseball mad. I never seen any thing like It- There has been seven gents In here this morning to have their nails did, and all they can talk about Is Matty and Marquard or soma such firm. I don't know how much money Matty and Mar quard has Invested In baseball. George, but I don't - think two people I never heard of la worth so much talk." 'You don't mean to tell me that you newever heard or Matnewson or atar quard?" asked the Head Barber. I might have heard of them." ad mitted the Malcure Lady. "I got a great memory for faces, George, but I km pank when It comes to remembering names. Faces la something that I never forget. I shall never forget brother Wil fred's .face the night that he came home with one of hla favorite poems, -which bad been refused. And I shall never for get the old gent'a face) when he came home after having an argument with republican. Tou see. the old gent Is kind of strong for Champ Clark, and there was some republican gent that aald something about Champ Clark. Then father tied Into that republican, and star ted to treating him something shameful nntll retribution had to come. Father's face looked kind of pensive after that ar gument, pensive Ilka Hamburger steak. But getting back to baseball, George, I think It la shameful the way brainy people keeps thinking about the pas time. The only customer I have had for a week that Isn't all the time drooling about baseball la Archie Guns, the ar tist, and be keepa up the average talk about cricket. "Wilfred Is clear oft his head about baseball. He Is writing a series of base ball poems for one of ths leading maga zines, and as soon ss they come back from the editor I am going to show them to you. One of them I remember sow, George. If you want to hear It." -All right." said the Head Barber, re signedly, "shoot It." "It goes something like this," said the Manicure Lady. "What's the greatest game on earth? . Base ball! What game proves. Its sterling worth? Base ball! fears may come and years may go. Worlds may wabble to and fro. But I toast one wondrous show! ball! "What made Honua Wagner great? Baas ball! What brings fortunes through a gats? Base ball! When we aU to heaven go lf we don't go down below. What will we all play? I know- ball! "I dos t fancy ths lines." aald the can did Head Barber. "Tou don't fancy nothlaaT." assarted the Manicure Lady. "There ain't nothing refined or faaey about you, George. I'd rather talk to one of my orange sticks. OCX THe PftrVftrE WAtlrmf WLA AA04-6 Hit 'UTTLE COw7.&a(.. TUg-Jo M vsac SETTt& ArVT 3ourtof6 Jam - po wr rWi MOWiCKeR-yKM JAD AfXO iONeOME - oTVJr A WrMffOV HM IN fffp MS" SJTW oh a meUOW K.0CK Amo Tuirreo hi 4 isowev UfiJCi - THEN THCtE CAMC A LOW M0AV- ME. U '7S7D A. voice -Goita-ceo. CfxX-0 A (UNO VIA rAAi WtOVE'OH 'flMT &&KT1 DfWTHAT WNrBAM&rs vinrDo yoo khw AJOCT MACHlNER-? HAIA I'M A HOKSG TMdrsrarW-TuMPWfrTO ArfV fW-X DW RACE M. I "-? AT9AM fACJC THt? I KATBrt MAoPI Luff)- MIOst 4 THErCM affeUTrVA DOWV : r" ThZPCPg Helrloosas. 'And Is this an heirloom, too?" asked the visitor, picking up brick that lay on the center table. "Tea." .said the lady of the house. That Is the brick my mother threw at the prime minister." Ah. Indeed, how very Interesting," said the visitor. "And whose portrait la that on the well?" 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The only man who la a good husband la the one whose wife knows how to manage him. It's very unmaldenly of a girl to let a man kiss her against her will with such a loud smack folk can hear it In the next Maybe when the woman vote thsytl a pretty girl-wife Haggling close more eould any mia aikt New Amiu - S Trial ecT "TrHr A 9 oof ft TWA rtUSrt. rrwNA jmotsm tOt SuStWE WAi GOKS eaCAUrTfrVlO LOVQC rsaorsor VirVrtoX in rfOguy a mono,- ON bay a umsg. c Arvta. . irwAi oww a i-ive . lux rrwHofA o$Txwe OW.'.'ft iMAI IN iriHAw9 AfD MlrffvA WAJ A tJcOO AI THX JJtff. SmtUSHEb OVeUTOlrVC tCtonm TXJH7 ,m me C0crTO0K am 0 AJICGT) 7ME rAAW NAfrrAr IT fA0 HE ADjUiTET fttf CHCAffpU AH9 WlC A itrANT AT rrTrC' W AB. rfi AiJkOV fAtU Oft A Jut? M3V RAwBMEKT wiuue sinmer cusa N07M(f j IDMTta. I fl limtcLai have just as hard a time making their husband go to rhe polls with them aa they now do to teaa. Which would appear to Indicate that II Imagines chorus girt shows ckn be run without audiences.-' Experience le very useful to a man to teach him la Isn't sny use to him, be cause It doesn't leach him anything. The way a man thinks he Shows hew much more he knows In an argument than the 'other 'fellow Is to get madder than he does -New Tork Press. By Nell Brinkiey amid freaa-cloadt of unoke what 1E) VOtrUrl A tuCKV GoV J 4 Drawn for The Bee by Tad Among All the Perils So Unconquerable Br QARRKTT The terrible fate of the Titanic haa called attention, aa It was never called before, to the awful menace of the tee ners that sail the Atlantic main, the merciless, voiceless, spectral pirates of the sea. Those thai threat en the Atlantlo liners nearly all have their own home ports whlrh. they never see after their launching among the fiords of western Green land. The shipyards In which they are built are the vast glacier streams of that strange, frosea continent, which la hurled from shore to shore under a sheet of solid Ire thst must. In many places, attain a depth of a mile or more. From the lofty central plateau the glaciers flow towsrd the sea on all St dee. moving aa they near the cast, from fifty to tm feet per day. Where they mart the aea they are sometimes from I.Ms to I'M feat deep. Huge tnaesea are broken off by the action of the waves and then they float away, lowering np, sometimes to a height of y feet, but with 'klght-nlnths of their mass sunken beneath the water. The total tonnage of the Orwentand'a try fleet, annually launched Into the aea haa been calculated at not lesa than a thousand millions tons. Many single monsters belonging to this fleet no douht weigh a million tons. All the battleships of the world combined eould not swcoessfully contend with one ar these white iveadnougnta, which gleam In the moonlight or loom tlrremrh a fog with ghostly lights and soars of tottering Ice. Among all the perils of the deep, none la so dreadful, so unconquer able, so absolutely unapproachable aa a great Iceberg. If all Its upper part could be shot away the berg Would elm ply rise mysteriously out of the depths and be as formidable aa before. Sometimes thous ands of tons of Ice are discharged from the aides of the melting berg, but It only shskes Itself or roll over, churning the ocean to foam, and there It rowers again. more frarful, perhaps, than at first. The only way In which the peril of the Icebergs could be removed would be by destroying ths Ice aheeta of Greenland. Aa the bergs are launched from the wes tern coast they are caught In the Labra dor current, flowing southward along the American shore on the landward allds of the gulf stream whence the Labrador current Is often called "ths cold well" snd then they begin their career of menace and destruction by steeling d. recty acrosa the lanes followed by the ocean liners on their shortest and quick est way to northern Eurpoe. Every mar iner who enters that part of the ocean Good Things XMM-V. -J ' Ve.V- i J By BEATRICE There may be among the women snd girts who read this column such a rush of necessities during the day that when night comes they are too tired to look for tbat In the books ahich will be of great help to them. For such as Ihese I have taken the privilege of getting together a few things that are good to remember. The most Interesting of modern novel, enthralling from beginning to end, con tains not within all Ita pages put to gether ae much of good as this front Eplctetus: "In s word, neither desth, nor exile, nor pain, nor anything of thla kind la the real cause of our doing or not doing any action, but our. Inward opinions am! principles." f aid Cowper: "An Idler Is a watch that wants both hands. As useless if It goes as If It atsnds." "He prayeth best." said Coleridge, "who lovetb best sll things both great and small." And was there ever In snx ef ths fic tion which causes ths reader to forget the cares that Infest the dsv anythtng at as great worth aa this: In llfe'e email things be resohits aac great To keep thy muscles trstned: Know "St thou when Fate Thy measure takes, or when she'll say to thee. "I find thee worthy, do thla deed for meT" It was written by the much-krved Lowell. He also wrote: "One thorn of experience la worth a whole field of warning," a saying seldom appreciated by thoss who have missed the thorn. of the Deep None is as the Ireberg. P. BKRYTB8. . 1 la the season when the fresen fleet fromj Greenland eeta out. knows well the kind of asnger he has to face. Those who srai cautious keep away from It those who are seeking a "record" sometimes take the chance and brave the danger. Once launched there la no way la which man can destroy an Iceberg; only the slow action of the sunshine and the aea can do that. It ranaot be blown hp. It can not be broken to pieces. It cannot be steered Into another course, it cannot even be approached with safety. Its Im mense frosen mass china th air and tht water, and In thli way The thermometer may reveal Ita presence even when It haa concealed Itself from alght behind the curtain of mist and cloud created by It own cold breath. Icebergs often cruise la company, and a ship may find Itself suddenly Involved In ". whole fleet of them, some with towering "fighting tops," snd some running almost entirely submerged, like a flotilla of monstrous submarines. Rome of ths reports Indicate , that ths Titanic went down tn th midst of such a Squadron, that wag widely scattered over hundred of Square mile. , There I no regularity tn th setting out of Greenland's destroyers. In some seasons the Icy cruisers are relatively few and small; In other seasons they some flocking down by thousand. Re ports from ships furnish practically the only source of warning to mariner. If It wars practicable to establish sbservtnrl stations In th - north, mors effective warning might be given. Greenland la a mystery. Ths existence of so vast a mass of Isnd, completely burled In Ice, at so great a distance from th pot, Is Unparalleled. It Is got only by it annual fleet of Iceberg thai Greenland interferes with the affairs of happier and aunnler lands, for It Is probabla that the relative coldness of ths eastern part of America la largely due to the Icy presence of Greenland. Remove It or strip It of Its frosea burden, and a rise ef severs! degrees In th mean temperature of thf part of the world would, most likely, he sxnerlsnced. There Is evidence that Oreenlsnd has not al ways been buried by an lea sheet, but We do not know through precisely whit con melon of natur Its Ones, congenial oUV mate was lost. 1 W hare to accept these things aa their srs. w know thst th Ice king who now rules Greenland will continue annually until a aew gsofogle ag begins to launch his terrible fleet, and the only wlsg course Is to steer clesr of It; or, If we will fees lis dangers, then to be prepared With the means of saving every life that sur foolhardlneas endangers. When A faster ship la built It ought to be th boast of Its owners, "TV can how taka you across ths ssa, by safe route, la the asms time that the other shlpa re quire In running the gauntlet of the Ice-, bergs.'' to Eemember FAIRFAX. To go back to Eplctetus: . ' "Let not ' another's disobedience tk nature become an 111 to you: tor you were not born to be atipnustd and un happy with others, but to be happy with them. And If any one kt unhappy, re member that he Is so for htmself; for God made all men to enjoy feUclty and peace." There Is a great deal In that. A good, long sermon for those who think It their duty to be solemn and long. faced be cause their friends sre melancholy. In all the "good things to remember." written by wise men since the world wsa young, there Is none that equals thoss to bs found tn th oldest book of all: Though I hare all faith, so that 1 could remove mountains, and hare not charity, I am aethrng." Another: "Whatsoever tftngs sre true, whatso ever things are honest, whatsoever thins are Jut. whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are love!, whatso ever things are of good report: If trier bs sny virtue, and ft there be any praise, think so these things." Masts a f aa OM RbotI. i Trouble always asks for henna whoa you, resolutely Ignore him. Never a stranded ship nor man wouBt float h? the tide were not always turning. We'd rather a flat broke and twenty five than have a few meesley bone tucked sway la the bank at forty-one. The fact that opoortunlry Is always h a hurry doeea't causa her to bee sine re sentful when she la grabbed around tssj waist. We have a parlona hard time of n try tng to convince ourselves thst we're "overworked." though tbat stuff Is easy to get away with at home. New Tors World. ' .J