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Ignorance as a Cause of Divorce Failures Are Due to Parents
A young woman, who comes of a, rich
and prominent family, and whow
huaband la autns bar fur divorce makes
thla pathetic pita for herself. Bhe aaya:
"Nobody ever taught me anything about
duties or respon
sibilities or selt
control. 'I had an
allowance of P60 a
noiti for p t n
money, and I apent
It all and more. No
body held me ac
countable for It. If
T bad been taught
differently. If I
had only known
even that one value
of money, 1 W0UJ4
have been able to
guage the valuta
of other matter!,
and herhapa I
wouldn't be aued
and suing for a di
vorce today."
t.Thlg hspless creature, who hu made
bavoo 'of her life before he la twenty
one, haa probed through her own sad
experience to the very heart of the di
vorce problem.
Learned soclaloglsts and hlth-browed
moralists puaaled their wlta over why
marriage la a failure, and wjty there la
ao much divorce. Thla girl has anawer
the queatlon. It la because parents don't
train their children for marriage. They
dent teach them anything about Its
trlala, Its difficulties. Its hardships.
They let an Ignorant, untaught, un
disciplined boy and girl plunge Into an
experience for which they are totally
unprepared, and then when the young
creaturee come to grief, who so sur
prised aa their parent a! Tet they might
as welt be astonished at a nun who had
never seen salt water, and know nothing
of navigation, running the IjUsltmt& on
the rocks If he attempted to pilot her
acroaa the Atlantic.
In the vast majority cf ces it is the
parents who are responsible for the un
happy marriages in the world. It la the
parents who are the flrat aids to dl-j
vorce, beoauaa although they know that'
their children are practically certain to
marry, they do nothing to fit them for
From the time a girl Is born she Is
taught directly, or Indirectly, to look
forward te being married aa the career
most desirable for woman. But her
mother never teaches her that marriage
is the hardest Job on earth, the one be
set with the most difficulties, the one
that requires the most self-restraint and
skill to Oil worthily.
On the contrary, ahe la led to believe
that it la a sort of fairyland. In which
she will live on ehocolate creams, and
do nothing but listen to her husband
chanting her praises. What marvel
then, when she bumps Into theetern
reality of matrimony, and finds out that
It means rrd work, and poverty ahd a
husband who Is grouchy and unappre
dative, that ahe lacks the strength to
endure II T
Who ever hears of a ,-iother teaching
her daughter sense of responsibility
because some day that girl la going to
marry, end the welfare of ber huaband
and children will depend upon her ap
preciation of her duty to them and to
the community T
Who ever hears of a mother teaching
her daughter to use money wisely be
cause some day the girl will be married,
and her husband's prosperity will de
pend upon her thrift and economy T
Who ever hears of a mother teaching
her daughter tact and diplomacy, be
cause some day the girl will marry and
she will need the flneete of a Tallyrand
In petticoats to hsndls a husband and
get along with hire In peace?
Who ever hears of a mother saying
to her daughter: 'My dear, you must
learn to control your temper and your
tongue, because some day you will be
married, and your happiness and your
family will depend upon your ability to
bite back the angry words, and return
a soft snswer under provocation that
would vex a sslntr
Is It not true that the average girl
who marries has never had the handling
of any money; that site has been petted
and Indulged and spoiled; thst she has
been taught that the most Important
things on earth are clothes and dressing
'herself up. and that everybody and every
thing puat minister to her pleasure?
Isn't It true that the majority of girls
marry without even having been taught
the elements of housekeeping, or bow to
make a comfortable home? .
And as for boys. Isn't It true that not
one thing la taught them about what
they must do to be good husbands?
Isn't it true thst a boy raised up with as
little Idea of his responsibilities In mar
riage aa If marriage was something that
was as unlikely to happen to him as be
ing struck by lightning?
Do you evor hear of a father teaching
his son that he muat be gentle and tender
to women, because some time be will
marry and his wife's happiness will de
pend on his attitude toward her?
Do yon ever bear of a father teaching
his son that It Is a' terrible responsibility
for a man to aeparats a girl front her
borne and family and to take ber life
Into hla hands, and that before a man
does thst he should be very sure that he
can make good to her for all that she
gives up for llm?
Do you ever hesr a father tell tils son
whst a cowardly and despicable cad a
man Is who abuses his wife, and swears
st Iter because she Is too weak to knock
him down for the things he says to her?
Do you ever see a father pointing out
to his son what a man can make hla wife
suffer through his stinginess, his vices,
his lark of understanding and sympathy?
Never. His parents do not hold them
selves responsible for the kind of hus
band their son makes, nor for the sub
sequent divorce If he is a bad one. Tet
ninety-nine times of of 109 they could
have saved the catastrophe it they had
tried to.
There la no other thought in the world
more appalling than that parents could
stop domestic misery If only they would
raise up their children with the Idea ot
becoming good husbands and wives, and
that they don't do It.
Good Stories of
Famous Folk
Sir Thossas Llvtea.
Many years ago glr Thomas Llpton,
having secured a large contract In con
nection with his growing business, ad
vertised for assistants and derided to In
terview them himself.
On the Monday morning the plainly
dressed young business man arrived at
his office to find a long line of applicants
waiting outside.
"Ha, Ha! I chuckled" (Sir Thomas
tells ths tale himself), "aa I pushed my
way te the door. "Oood. strong, able
bodied men, all of 'em. Just the fellows
for '
" 'Bssh!' I waa hurled across the pare,
ment, hit a lamp post and found myself
In the gutter. And then a deep voice
"'Wots your little glme, eh? Ton line
up be'lnd an' tike yer turn!' "
Aa4rew Caswearle.
Andrew Carnegie tells a tale about tak
ing a German financier traveling In
America on a visit to Nlsgara Falls.
The millionaire, accustomed to bursts
of wonderment and enthusiasm, waa not
a little aatonlahed to see hla Teutonlo
friend stand and gaae stolidly minute
after minute upon that roaring cataract
without evincing the faintest emotion.
Finally, unable, as he admits, any
longer to coneeal hla chagrin and disap
pointment, Mr. Carnegie turned te his
companion and asked:
Don't you think that's a wonderful
"Vot?" asked the German.
"Why, ' that glgantlo body of water
pouring over that lofty precipice."
The gentleman from the fatherland
stood for a few seconds longer, until he
got the Idea digested, then looked up
blankly and asked:
"Veil, vot'e to hinder It?"
New Woman's Club and What It Aims to Accomplish
Nellie B. Van Bllngerland has organ
ised a very Interesting club with ths
following objects:
Anti-dust and germ extermination,
methods. Inventions.
Antl-lnsanlty, pre
vention, restorstlon
and better laws.
A n 1 1 - contagious
diseases, methods.
Anti-court case de
lays, laws enforced.
Anti-smoke meth
ods, Inventions.
Anti-death penalty.
Antl - marriage
lawa for defectives.
si s rr leges of the
healthy to be en
couraged by lawa
and otherwise.
Educating the
young to avoid pit-
falls. .
Educating the young to prevent dis
eases. Educating the young and mature to
solve the sex problem.
Board of health lawa, 'to uphold and
Purs morals, pure hlood.
Pure food, purs drugs.
Inebrlste. defectives, criminals, pre
vention, restoration, etc.
Longevity taught.
Co-operation, arbitration, encouraged.
Ita officers are Mrs. Augustine J. Wil
son. Mrs. Fannie Garrison Vlllard. Mrs.
Mary B. Thomas, Mrs. Nellie B. Van
Sllngerland, Mme. Louise O. De Quesada
and Dr. Cslestla P. Messenger.
The work undertaken by these good
women Is colossal, but It Is work emi
nently fitted for women to do.
Too many centuries hsve gone by In
which women believed their work con-
Admiration Versus Criticism
f Daysey Mayme and Her Folks
"Daysey Mayme Appleton dressed with
her corset on and took a survey of her
self In the glass. Then she undressed,
took off her corset and dressed without
It. looking again In the glass.
'I look." she said, "ss It the washer
woman bad forgotten to put starch In me.
"However, If the equal suffragists have
derided that the progress of the race, the
betterment of humanity and the sacred
ne ot the home - and fireside depend
upon the abolition ot the coriet I will
sot be one to let my unstarched looks
stand In the way.
The corset." she said, throwing, ths
fervor Into her voice one always bears in
the tones of a Woman who has a Mis
sion, "has always been a whalebone ot
contention between the sexes. When
women suggest that smoking, or drink
ing, or gambling, or any ot the pastlms
of the men, are wicked and dangerous
they retaliate by pointing to the corset
"Every ill a woman is heir to Is laid
on the corset. If a man beats his wife
to death the coroner's jury brings In a
verdict that ber death was due to tight
lacing. If she sneeses, if she coughs, it
ber corns hurt. 'Why.' the men wBl ask,
'does she persist In wearing a corset T
. "They apeak with Indignation about
the woman witb the form of an hour
glass, snd. though they don't know the
locations of their own lungs and livers,
they talk wisely about bow this squeea
Ing has misplaced A. crowded B out of
snaps, destroyed C and made B look ss
It It had gone through a coffee mill, giv
ing words for these letters that are long
enough to wear for a watch chain.
HTet the woman with a shape like an
hour glass passed over the hills of time
thirty, years ago, and no woman these
days wears her smart half as tight as a
young man wears bis collars.
"It Is this opposition of the men that
makes women wear eoreeta Phe fought
ao long In pure stubbornness that the
fight became one for principle her righta
were Involved. And the corset flourished
and grew amaslngly with every woman
fighting for It. till It haa developed from
the hint of a wide waistband of a few
years ago to a garment ot many hooks
and eyes and steels snd laces, reachU.g
from the imu to the knees.
"The price has grown with It Indeed,
the price has grown faster than the cor
set, and man's opposition caused the
"Ths average corset after It hss been
worn three weeks looks when hanging
over a chair at night as if it would cost
at least tl.Mt to get a new one. At the
Meat of us have the habit of criticism.
snd It Is one of the most disagreeable and
at the same time one of the cheapest that
can be cultivated. The veriest Ignoramus
snd vulgarian can criticise, or find fault
not always Intelligently, Jerhaps, but
Intelligently enough to ault slmself.
When one meets a stranger who has any
decided personality one cannot avoid
forming some opinion of the new ac
quaintance. One must observe something.
and what that something will be depends
largely upon the trend of mind of the ob
It Is strange thst so msny people should
seek points to censure rather than quali
ties to admire in thoss with whom they
are thrown In contact. It Is much plees-
anter to regard agreeable things than dis
agreeablethen why accent the latter
clan by paying special attention to them?
When I was a girl I cut from a cal
endar and pasted In my scrapbook the
the bard
end of sis weeks it beetns lit look Mm if
sll corset factories had failed, or that ! surKestlon. "Strive to learn
l!ie wearer had nude a vow not to buy
s n-r one till a democrat was elected
president It is not their beauty which
makes us bold on to them.
"I do not know what will become of
the women of feather-bed architecture
when the eorret Is abolished. Their hus
bands may hsve decried the corset long
and loud, but they will bunt up some
woman thin as a rsil with a natural
straight-front for promenade purposes.
No man admires a woman who hss lost
her waist
"So far as I am personally concerned,"
sis said la conclusion. "I will sacrifice
the two. supreme Joys la woman's life
when I give up my corset-the iov of
lesson of admiring rather than critlslo
ins " I do not know who wrote the wise
bit ot counsel but I wish to thank the
writer. The words stuck, not only in the
book, but In my mind, and hsve said
themselves over often when I have been
tempted to pass what some one calls "a
snap-shot Judgment." It ts surprising
when one fallows the advice contained In
that single sentence how many delightful
people one meets and how many admir
able traits one notes in almost every ac
qaintance. For It Is a trlusm thst In our Inter
course with ethers we usually see
the characteristics for. which we are
searching. And, if we would consider
defying the men and the happy, blessed i the matter simply from the stand'
sigh ot relief In taking It off at night"
Maffta. EaskrelderT.
Mats, footstools, cushion covers, tea
cosies, book covers, shopping baga, belts
and cuffs are among the many usefu'
articles suitsbie for raffia embroidery.
It Is easily and nulckly done. Involving
no strain upon the eyesight, while the re
sult Is refreshingly uncommon.
point of personal comfort, we would
appreciate that we would be much hap
pier If we looked only for the good things
In our friends snd acquaintances.
Then, too, the absence of erlrJenmi
mak.a one much more acceptable as
companion and guest Does nut each
of us know some person who Is so crit
ical that we dread to have her meet our
friends? Of course, the critic herself Is
at all that ahe btamea others for not
being, but she has grown accustomed to
looking for defects rather than for
Note how quick soms women are to
detect the unfashionable touch In a
costume, to remark that a aleeve Is of
last year's cut or thst a certain hat
la no longer In style. And, all the time,
the dress that Is under fire may be of
an esqulalts material and the colore on
the hat really artistic Then why not
look at those features, and If one must
make any eomment let It be of appre
ciation of these pleasing things?
The lesson of "admiring rather than
crttlriaing" may be a hard one to learn.
but the converse that of criticises rsther
than admiring can be acquired with
Painful facility. And It Is a habit that
grows until It makes the poeeeasor post
lively disagreeable ss an aasootste. We
all keoome afraid of her. and then, of
course, we do not enjoy ber presence
anywhere or at any time.
What a difference the view-point of
those we meet makes! A woman was
ready to go walking with a friend when
the friend remarked ths she Intended
stopping for a few minutes at the bouse
of a certain acquaintance who waa not
very well. "It will cheer her to see us,"
she added.
The pair were on their way te the
front door when thla remark was made
The other woman hesitated for a minute,
then turned back.
"Where are you going? asked her as
tonished friend.
"1'petalrs to chsnge my dress. This
one Is all very well for the causal ob
server to see, but It cannot stand the
scrutiny and merciless criticism of Mrs.
Blank, opon whom you propose calling.
It was made last year and she would
know that It was."
Does not sack of ua understand how
the wearer ot the year -old-costume felt?
Has not each of us been fairly comfort
able until suddenly brought face to face
with some censorious person? Then the
dress we thought was fairly presentable
appears shabby aad we remember that
the skirt never did hsng Just right; we
cannot talk with ease sny longer; when
ever we speak we Imagine that our!
voice, language and manner are being
criticised. We sll know that there are
some women snd a few men In whose
presence we "feel like fuols." and '"have
nothing to say." I sometimes wonder If
It Is not bssauss some subtle Instinct
tells us thst the person In question eon.
aiders us fools, and Is sitting In Judf
ment sn our speech and bearing.
And yet none of us wishes her sc
qualntances to feel uncomfortable In her
presence. Then do let us look for the
pleassnt things In those acquaintances.
'"Isn't Mary sweetr' said one woman
to her huaband ot a friend of whom ahe
was fond.
"Khe nobody's pretty child. Is she?"
was the rvjoiner.
How could tho wife help feeling vexed?
Or how could another husband avoid
allowing temper when, to hla enthusiastic
cniark to the effect thst "John Blsnk
Is a fine fellow." his wife replied wlth
"Tes, but t do wish his table manners
were better."
What was the ue of either of these un
kind criticisms? And one cf the Ironies
of the situation la that the very people
wbo are niost critical have certain char
scteristlcs thst could be criticised cruelly
If others were ss unmerciful as they. If
we could see ourselves ss others see us
we would talk often and volubly about
our friends' good qualities In the hope
that by so doing we could keep them from
noting our bed ones. Tet one of the
homeliest women I ever knew was most
scathing In her unfavorable comments of
other women's appearance. When one
tried te forget ber unattractive face one's
thoughts were drawn forcibly to It by
her censure of the features of each per
son she met Khe made the practice of
the admiring habit very hard for all
of ua
The criUc Is seldom popular with any
one except himself. If ws want te bring
out the best that Is in ethers ss well ss
In ourselves we have to shew apprecia
tion of the good that we know exists
and shut our eyes to detects which, per
haps, strange as It may seem, may make
the possessor more uncomfortable than
they caa possibly make ui
elated In marrying "and no question!
asked" regarding the moral nature and
physical fitness of the men they married
to become husbands and fathers, and In
bearing children and leaving the educa
tion of these children entirely to schools.
Not ons mother In one thousand ever
considered It her duly te talk to ber
boys and girls regarding the emotional
phases ot life, or to arspare them for
an understanding of the world before
they wars thrown Into the maelstrom.
Ignorance was misnamed Innocence, and
sorrow, sin. Invalidism and life-long trag
edies havs resulted from these mistaken
methods of the old-fashioned mother.
Thsre Is Just as great a difference be
tween the old-fashioned type of mother
and the mother who haa new come upon
the scene, with her mothers' clubs, as
there Is between the old-fashioned broom
and the vacuum elsensr.
One raised a terrible dust with much
hard labor and filled the lung cells of
everybody In the home with flying germ.
The other takes the dust away without
allowing it a chance to do anything or
anybody harm.
And with one-tenth the labor.
The old-fashioned mother prided her.
self upon her skill In making with her
own hands the most appetising and In-
dlgsstlbls condiments and creating a fam
ily of dyspeptics with her loving labor.
Ths moment one of the children was
ailing shs proceeded to stuff It with
more food, and ahe believed a good.
hearty appetite a sign of health.
The modern mother studies the chem
ical value of food and knows that no one
ever took cold savs from an ever-loaded
stomach. And aba proceeds to teach her
children to fast when they are 111 and I
avoid overrating always.
The old-fashioned mother gloried In a
"big family."
If one waa halt another blind, another
deaf, another afflicted with sptnai
trouble, (be called It the "will of Ood."
The modern mother know that Just ss
the field, however fertile, must have Ita
seasons of rest In order to produce good
grain, and the orchard trees cannot bear
good fruit every consecutive year, so no
woman can bear a child every year or
every alternate year during her whole
maternal period of life and gtv the world
desirable cttlssns.
Therefore, quality, not quantity, I now
the mother's pride In presenting children
to the world.
The old-fashioned mother believed all
dlseass the "wUl of Ood.''
The modern mother knows It to be the
result of BRXAKINQ OOD'S LAW And
she busies herself In studying ways and
means to educate men and women te
understand the lawa of health and to II vq
It will require several generations be
fore the best results will be observable
from the efforts of these "new women."
Great, glorious and wonderful results.
Let every man aad women who hae
lime and heart to give to It take an In-"
tercet In that saw league.
The Laws of Motion
Q Jn making circuit of a vertical loop
by a bicycle It as maintained by soms
of us that the force gained by going down
the Inclined plane and the resistance
above offered by the loop keep the ve
hicle from falling, while others hold that
the velocity of the bicycle exerts a cen
trifugal force created by the shape of
the loop. Please settle the argument
A. -Were It not for the material loop
or circle a bicycle starting from A In the
annexed drawing would go to B, reach
ing B with great velocity. At B the
wheels strlks the Inner curve of the cir
cle. Were the curve Incomplete, say at
A-S Is to secure momentum sufficient to
carry the machine to I, where grstltattori
Is again utilised. Now Imagine thla cut
to represent the son, C In Infinite space,
snd that the ball at A la a world not yet
drawn Into a solar system. Let It be
moving on the straight Una A-B. Then
when It reaches K, at a right angle te a
line drawn from K to C, If It has acquired
ths exact quantity of motion te keep K In
a circle h) will' thereafter make revolu
tions la aa orbit a true elrole. It not
It will move on some orbit differing from
a circle.
A loop on the earth's surface, as In the
problem. Is a device to use momentum
X, the cycle would fly out on the line
X-F. This lines Is called In geometry a
tangent to the curve st X. Should the
curve end at G. the cycle would fly on
another tangent out toward H against
the earth's gravitation. The momentum
aeulred hy the machine end rider In
descent from A to E enables tbe outfit
to rise.
Momentum means quantity of motion
stored within the moving mass. This
has been called centrtfucal force; an
error, sines there is no ncn Inherent
force residing In matter. Centrifugal ten
dency Is a belter term. The remarkable
fact In nature Is due te a full esedleace
to Newton's first law of motion, whtek
is: "A body moving In free space on a
straight line will move thereon forever
with constant speed unless some external
force retards, accelerates or draws It
The object of having the Inclined plane
acquired by a body asewlng down aa ta
crine. Tbe shape ot the loop does not
originate momentum: that ts due to de
scent down tbe plane A-aV Nor does re
sistance of the loop. This la a complica
ted case is 1
Q. Please give velocities of bodies fall
ing through several serwndn, .
Velocities at end of each second.
First .. 21. t feet per second
8roend Si t feet per eeceod
Th-d M-l feet per second
Fourth lts.4 feet per second
Fifth ..WS i feet per seaoad '
Sixth hit feet per second
Seventh feet per second
Tenth 131.1 feet per second
Q. What la the speed of slectiltUiT
A. lMjm miles per second this of as
electric spark in air or vacuum or of a
apace wave, as fa win less telegrapbyi
m wires a f taction slower, denqpdmg; on
metal In wire.