Image provided by: University of Nebraska-Lincoln Libraries, Lincoln, NE
About Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922 | View Entire Issue (March 14, 1912)
THE BEE: OilAIIA. THURSDAY. MARCH 14, 1912.
SILK HAT HARRY'S DIVORCE SUIT
His Honor Remembers Faces Well
Copyright. 1M National New Asea.
Drawn for The Bee by Tad
mvji-jome ) , uo.y Liv pouc u v-v .y v-- ry .Qfrii
Some of the Trifles in Marriages
that Go Toward Making Tragedies
By VIRGIMA TERHVKE VAJf DE WATEIt
The tiny rift in th lute, th poet tell
os, will make th music mute. And the
teemingly tiny lift In th peace ot mar
ried life . will change the harmony of
hone Into Jangling, discord. Then be
nri of the seemingly-little breaks!
'The small things In marriage, and
home-making are what wear me out."
exclaimed a housewife. "I can atand
komethlnt that la-bis enough to lay
huld on, bat the trlflea cet on my
She voiced a common experience
one that le ao universal that the heart
Aches.ln thinking of It- Somehow when
the big 'crUea eotne., moat people bring
to l4r upon them all their strength
of character and win out." or die-and
that la the. end of the rat .trouble.
But with the trlflea, especially In mar
i Uge. one flnda that the laat atraw
breal the back of one' patience. The
woman who could forgive a wrong of
which her hueband repented would
find heiseir out of temper with hlra It
he forgot to wipe hi feet before .he
came Into the hone from the muddy
Were he ill, ahe could do all klnda of
thing for him, but ahe I Irritated be
yond, relief when he leave hie cigar
ashes and "old aoldlera" In the drawing
room for her to throw away. The noise
that he make when he alp hi eoup.
hi way of putting the wet end of hi
Mustache la ihla mouth after taking
liquid, exasperate her to the verge of
madnets. At least eh think they do
when ahe let heraelf eoiulder them.
Tfcot I where the mistsk cornea, In
letting; one' self consider them. .And
that 1 where women make their fatal
error. Their life, their training In the
little duties of the home, which are quite
Important after all, had taught them to
notice detail, to place great significance
upon them. And the woman, whose duty
it is, to see that every bit of sliver Is
properly polished, who most be careful to
notlc whether or not the rungs of the
chair are dusted, who I responsible
for the unrepaired tip In the family
wardrobe and must plan for the use of
very;' particle . ot food In th cupboard,
'cannot fall to place too much stress on
smalt nutters. It require heroic ef
fort on her part to get away from the
tyrrany of trifle. But If she would be
a happy wife ah must do It.
When the husband drink his coffee
with a round that I neither pleasant
nor appetizing sbe cannot help hearing
It. but fhe can help speaking of It then
and there. That Is where her wisdom
should manifest Itself In waiting for the
right time to apeak of thlnga. For the
right time will come, th time when the
Irian is not tired, or In a hurry, or cross.
Then she may suggest tactfully and
Kintly that there to a little habit that
he ha acquired, and that ahe (eel It
only fair to mention It to him. as she
Woujd .want hm lo mention to her any
unfortunate trick of manner of which
she wa unconscious, but which an
noyed him. Then she may tell him of
the disagreeable habit he baa formed.
Me may take It gently; he may laugh,
and say It la her Imagination; or he may
even be vexed and recent It. Bot ahe
will have done her best. and. In any case,
the man will probably remember th ug.
gestion sb has made and break himself
of the habit In question. If only to
prov to his wife that he hasn't got It.
If be doe not, then let the wife pay no
more attention to It. After all. she is
nut responsible for bl bad manners,, al-th,,ugh-poor
soul-eho (eel that she I.
We women, need to look at thlnga to
tlioir right perspective.- I hare said this
to often that I fear my reader will
think that 1 am a bit "touched" on
that subject. Perhaps. I am. At all
events, I fel and believe that much of
our happiness or misery depend opon
our aeeme things In the proper propor
A young wife told me of a quarrel with
t.cr husband that ended to bitterness ad
misery for both, "And it all began with
such a little thing," she confessed. "Don't
laugh at me when I tell you that what
started It all was because Ned would
smoke In th tathroom every morning
when he went In for hi bath. I dislike
th smell of smoke before breakfast. I
told him so and for several days he
stopped, then started again, lighting his
cigar In there eacb morning."
"And what did you dor' I asked.
I spoke of It and he remembered just
one day, and then smoked again in there.
Ton see he had done It ever since he took
his first cigar in his college days, for his
mother did not mind It. But I hate It."
"And the ir' I queried, Interested. ,
"And the-., when I spok to him mer
about It and told him that If he loved
me be would do a I asked him. and that
wade him angry, and from that Urn on
we began to quarrel. Oh, life and mar
riage are not a bit what I thought when
I wa engaged they were going to be."
She (topped and looked at me curi
ously. "You," she said, "hav such queer and
unoonventlonal view and theories about
marriage I wonder what you would hav
I did not wish to advance my "queer
views," aa ahe termed, them, unless
urged, so I only ' smiled and held my
; nimsicai u Dservauons
' -i eye doctor cannot eurv egotism.
- Icelanders, w presume, are people
. ., i .Te.
is better to mend your waya than to
.r.u your luck.
he only man w can ataad hot-air
:: n Is the Janitor.
t doesn't take a fast man long to ver-
It U not flattering to find that a man
w'.-.o does nothing baa done you.
The trouble with the airship Is that It
is o apt to bs out of Its element.
The man who quarrel with hi bread
and fcurtee ts r.kely to nave a scrawl
Please,", aha begged, tH me what
you would hav done if you had been t.
and married to Ned who will amok In
th bath room every morning. I am un
happy, and I want another person' Idea
on th subject."
And then I spok th truth. '1 hope,"
I said, "that after having asked Ned sev
eral time not to smoke, and finding that
he forgot not because he did not love hi
A Ml HaM( ru
P0 CAmTVM u. Ted 16N0. LKrO
FrOL 0 CrWTtt, Ai
'"TO a pfXavMS AtTO.V
M i teUAUom iN--sccxr
TlTJ$L6 rJMvTM TXuclMfr
SAHstaTD UiTlM fUit iit.f
MTOl An IS SrVtMCO
ymt Gii-T TTVii jVNCruM
yncK ho lcahco omck ano
AlKfD- IF A MeMVe. JMltS
H KNBff CAP UXOOLO IT BE
Bit Papa o m am m a.
Mix. te pfiio-(vt at ruts
0 iT wal Tuar uesn nr ne-
Ml taEMffD D Mtrtrt,eo MHlSr
SS9M worn MOST Moseo t ' M -CeTDos'
arr jams MOMBrr
OteAVOves Mro wsat feKT.M.
C.AJ IsTMimO Trie fit. 08 1
10 WAS mi hiMBea ANDxff 8f?T
A OoAfJWa A6Vir A Halt rWM-
HffOMAn IT k Ho-iF0 ruff
OOrestl OA'CAMC A CurtC Of
to cx - ite toouro Ar rxe
IFA SVH CRlEO VMOUUD r
JTVtO Back, eoys A0 MAttT
f00M PoR ftAvt-i
iw sipOii rvy a cNAugptu.
"ov.-ti.g.a rr ioPT
lCTLf AT w rUC tvtl
COuv, Ct-tA U IMC
COWAhO TWA HOAtff
TMN I TKXM. CTACM OA
ooie$ ( Rioi r
PfrtMCA, TC I ragi M
tail IH PRO. NfeN tOCMCUJC
I ACT At Hit
jmow a mo wr aouno
A AXUAL AIU) AfTtJL
(VrsW,0vC wTltrH J
feA AAwaWS IM PEP
l'rW' tXUXK Jhaa.
TtMH wok KuBScO a
vii o wer back iq me
F'Uow t MdMnruM ....
iOOO ot-0 r-orXCH. CArVf m
7ZT,Z wFN0 m0 folate
Loo4r up AMD '
'Aift 3 A MA. tstuu rviA.
..-u iflx9 pifrvie Mouiei
lOOrVT kmOw IiHN turn ttLita
Give me vovfl-HANO St&
I ocu c we VOUKK AN
wtfa, but becauM he loved to smoke I
would hav remembered how many big
thing he waa good about and would hav
reflected that th smoking was, after, ail,
a very little thing."
"But suppose be took his bath before
you took your every day," she urged,
"and smoked the bath room up so that
when you entered an hour later It gave
you th qualm and nausea r'
"Then," I (aid, "I alo hop that I
would have arisen five minute earlier
than wa my habit, or as soon aa he had
vacated th bath room, and opened the
window long enough for the room to be
well aired before I went In I. myself,
returning meanwhile to my comfortable
bed until th desired Mat of freshnesa
In the room wa reached. That would
have been a simple solution of th prob
lem." "But It would hav been such a nuis
ance to do their she protested, but with
signs of yielding In fact and voice.
"Not nearly a much of a aulsano."
I reminded her, "a quarreling and heart
ache are , Child, don't you see that It
is all a matter of proper perspective and
proportion?" ' ;
And I wondered If. when she wa first
married, her of proportion had been
right, ah and Ned might not today be
as happy aa they once expected to be 7
Copyright, UU, National New
By Nell Brinkley
la"1 r i T'L
Sue holds up a "phony bear! for poor litUe Daa to shoot' at whilo fbe claspa ber owa loving heart safe ia be bosom,
Failure to Provide Against Want in Old
Age as Dishonest as Purse Stealing,
Bjr DOHOTHV D1X
Th other day, In this city, a man com
mitted suicide because be had lost his
Job. he was out of money, and had
passed that dead line In life after which
a man flnda It practically Impoeslble to
get a good new
sllustlon In bust
A sad rase, truly.
but In thl par
ticular incident th
pal hoe Ilea In th
tragedy wa wholly
that th man
brought bl mlf for
tunes on hi own
head by hi own
lack of providence.
For thl man waa
not on of thoe
plteou one who
are forced to work
tor a little wage.
and wke atrlv a
I hey may, can
never do mer than keep th wolf a
lew Inch away from their door.
He had been tor many year a travel
ing salesman for a big concern, and had
drawn a tarta salary, enough. If bs had
used even reasonable economy, to have
provided luxuriously for hi old age. and
ts hav mad him Independent of em
Instead of looking ut, however, for a
rainy day he and hi wife had occupied
aa expensive apartment In a faehlonabla
street; they dress; d handsomely; they
entertained lavishly, and Indulged them
eelvea In (very amusement they fancied.
They lived up to th last cent of their
Income, and when the Irtcom suddenly
stopped they found themselves pauper.
and were plunged In uch despair that th
man killed himeslf rather than endure It
I wonder how many hundred of thou
sands of people who read the newspaper
account of this suicide saw In it the hand
writing on th wall for themselves, and
who will b warned by ltf How many
other married couple are spending every
cent they make, and who would be left
In a similar plight as this man and hi
wlf war, If solas teturday night the
husband should get th blue envelop
that told him that hi service wore no
longer needed T
It I appalling te think of the) number
of people who sport with such dissster
for the sake of gratifying .their vanity
or their tov of pleasure. The woman
like clothe and th man lovea drink;
they both lev th theater, and they want
lo go with people who are better off than
they are, and so they live up to the last
cent of their Income and generally a lit
tle beyond lu They shut their eyes to the
future. They refua to consider the
haxarda of buslnes. They Ignore the cer
tainty of ag and sickness.
Hut the catastrophlrs of life come to
them, aa they com to other, and be
cause tbey hav not hd the prudence
and th foresight to prepare for them,
they are annihilated. The Improvident
always flatter themselves that they ax
th darling of th gods, and that some
miracle will be worked by which they
will be preserved from misfortune, but It
never happens- Tbey reap aa they sow.
and they go down Into the deepest slough
of poverty and dependence.
I confess that 1 have scant sympathy
for th waster and the apeader who
come to went through their own ex
travagence. It seem lo m nothing
short of dishonesty for people not to
provide for their old age, or for sickness,
or for lack of employment, site If tbey
are not able to supply their own needs,
somebody els ha to do It for them.
Old ag I not an accident thai may op
may not befall one. It I a certainty.
Illness la not a chance. It Is also a aura
thing. No man la so stupid as not to
know that In thl day of strenuous
competition every year put an added
handicap upon him and Increases hi
chance of losing hla lob. Ala be know
that employers. Justly or unjustly, hsv
fixed a definite ag limit for employee,
and that after a man has croeetd that
fatal boundary th day of fat aalarle
are over for him, and he I lucky If b
I nut turned out Ilk an old work bora
Old age, sickness, th uncertainty at
being able to get a new iltuatloa ehould
h lose th old one after he le H or at
year old, the are the fact that con
front every man who works aa a salary.
On would think that they were grim
enough to make th most brainiest Idiot
on earth stop and aak himself what la
to become of htm If be doe not lay up
something In the summer time of hla IK
for that winter that ia bound ts soma to
him, as It doe to every other bumaa be
ing. But ther are multitude of men that
go blithely along, spending every cent
that they mike, and then when disaster
overtake them somebody els has ts
support them and their Wa are for
ever being called upon to chip la and
bury some good fellow who should have a
tack of government bonds, but who baa
died without a penny to hla name, or to
contribute to the rapport of hi widow
who has been accustomed to spend tort
thousand a year and is left without M
oents; or te- pay for th hospital ex
penses of com man whose cJgara bar
cost half aa much aa our living, or ta
tak car or a bunch of poor relative)
who hav lived up to a fortune.
These people, who could hav provided
for themselves it tbey hadn't been too
self-indulgent to do so, ar just as much
robber a If they put their hands In our
pocket and stole our purses. They hav
no right to our hard earned money, the
fruit of our labor and self-denial, and
Instead of regarding them with pity tbey
should bs held up a subject of acom
The man and woman who ar living up
to every cent of their Income, do well
to consider this case of th man who
committed euicUIe because he had penb
everything he made as he went along
and had nothing with which to face th
rainy da)-. Their hour of misfortune
will also come, and then their fata will
depend on whether they hav aom
money In bank or not.
The difference between a happy, Inde
pendent old age, or one of miserable
sycophantic hanging on to other and aa
acceptance of grudgingly given ajma, de
pends on how much you have saved out
of your Income.
Costly Veils and Vestments
When, early In Kit, the baby Lord
Jdilton. th heir to an Income of S1.SW.0M
a year 4f rumor speaks true was chris
tened, among other Infantile habilmenta
the heir of th Fltxwllliam wss wrapped
In a veil, or scarf, which belonged to
William the Conqueror. It was given by
him as a speck-a of Guillaume cross to an
ancestor of the family for conspicuous
bravery at the battle of Hastings.
Every male member of the house is In
turn wrapped In the famous veil. The
charming custom of using th bridal veil
of th child' mother, ao frequently
adopted In distinguished families. Is not
followed in thl family, saving perhaps
ia tb case of baby girl who flsst see
th light at the largest pilvate residence
In the kingdom, Wentworth Wooihouse,
near Rotherham. Yorkshire, where a
large number of the Fltxwllliam acre
lli.3 acre ta number ar situated. .
When Mia Shonts married the Due do
Chaulne early la IM. the veil she wore,
and waa almost lost in. of Brussels
pulnf d'algullle. wa worn In the first
place by Princes Stephanie, daughter o'
th late king of th Belgiana, cn the oc
casloa of ber marriag to tb Crown
Prince Rudolph of Austria. To be mar
ried In a royal veil Is a distinction that
doe not often fall ts the lot of a com
moner., for the simple but sufftcent rea
son that it la very unusual tor the same
to leave the possession of their original
owners, saving in the ease of presentation,
to the church.
When, a few years ago. Colonel Noye
died suddenly on his honeymoon, his
grief-stricken widow sent her bridal robes
to the nuns of St. Katharine's convent.
Bloomsbury, to be converted Into an altar
frontal for tb Church of St. John'a.
Norwich. For, many month tour skilled
embroiderers were engaged on the work,
and in due course they evolved from th
materials sent a magnificent frontal 8
feet in length and 4 feet in depth, th
design InctudtnK a number of furores th
features of Colonel Noyes, whose anna
and motto were also Included In th
Mrs. Noye Is not the only widow who
har presenteu her wedd.n, drea to th
church to be converted Into vestment.
She had a very illustrious precedent la
the Empress Eugenie, who had ar wed
ding robes converted Into white vest
ments, which ar used on the occasion of .
the great festivals at the Church and '
Abbey of St Michael, Fam borough. Th
piety of the empress baa also caused her
to embroider a fine chasuble of red wa
tered itlk for the same order of brothers,
wbiie the magnificent purple vestments
they sometimes don originally formed iha
famous pall which covered the late em
peror's coffln. . ,
- ' 5-
Powered by Open ONI