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10 TELE OMAHA DAILY BEE : SUNDAY , SEPTEMBER 20. 1880. TWELVE PAGES. TRIALS A8D TOILS OF WOMEN A Short Seiinon on the Moral Latitude of Both Sexes. THE BATTLE FOR BREAD. Xlio Lady's Mnn of To-Dny , nnil the Three lilttlo Mnlds Fancy Work ami Country Court ship Feminine Notes. Tlio Demi Worker. font hnnrtal fold them over ever her breast , So hard , so brown , so cold I They Imvo ilotio their work and Imvowon thi'lr rest , Tho' they won 110 cold. Tlii-li-s was a battle for bread , How they struKh'lcd and grappled and blcdl 1'oor Imndsl fohl tlicm trcntly. for they Onoo Iny In a mother's breast All dimpled , and pink ami cozily As hi ids In n nest. And a molliei's hrart once leapt As in her bosom they crept. 1'oor htuids ! jrlve them flowers to carry Down Into tliu ( jrnve , for they Were too wmk-worn and too world-weary To piuisu by the way And plitr'k them ; brine lilies mid roses And till tlio stilt nngeis with posies. 1'oor feet ! when the way was cold And winding and netile-strown. Wu pasted them by with only a slRii I'ortho bloud prints under the moon ; Now that the iH'o blood in froze , Jiiinictlu ; warm suite.8 and hose. 1'oor ryes I close them too how they stare Nay I place no gold on Hint brow. It was lark of that made the lurrows there , Shu needs none now , .She Koi's to the mansion whoso lloor Is paved with the costliest ere 1'oor eyes I no leisure they had To look up at tin : hky And see 1C 'twas blue , as the poet s.iid , lint now they see. Tinliiy tlmy are not so dim Hut that they will opuiiou him. Men Given IMoro Latitude Tlmu WOIIKMI , Fedora , In Plttsbnrg Dispatch : Can you toll whv Jnon uro given so much JMoro latitude than women ? No doubt you know , but will not toll. It la well known that men indulge in ninny things Unit women dare not under penally of social ostracism , if not the \os \ of their souls I believe that some reli gionists hold thul n woman's soul is much easier lost than a man's. If they do not teacli it they nt least believe it. If common reports nroto be relied upon there are very few men in this city , or any other , wiio are not guilty of ollcnses which woulil mnko an outcast of a wom an , but the men do not sillier. Indeed , it seems to mo that a man who has the reputation of being a little tough is more popular among all classes , woman in cluded , than one known to bo pure and good. You know that some of the most popu lar society men get drunk , play cards for money , and go on larks , yet they are welcomed into the very best families. I know instances whom men , noted for being fast , have married lovely girls , and \vere thought to bo excellent catchers. Am I saying too much ? I don't think I am. To my mind there is too much dif ference between the standards of mor ality for men and those sot up for women. The Uiblo sets up but one standard for both , and wo are taught that both will bo Jrdged by the same law in the last day. Then , by what right do wo sot up a. dif ferent standard for men ? You will understand that I do not want the standard for women lowered. Jf any thing , let it bq raised , because the hope of tho. null on lies in the purity and virtue of ou'pwomon. What I do want is to huvofa higher standard for our brother man. ' At least lot him too the mark ho ha * made for us. If ho will do that wo will let him oft. Another thing I would have him do , and don't see how he can consistently re fuse , is to give Ins sister women the sumo opportunities for regaining lost reputa tion that are given him. She forgives and forgets again and again. Why should bo not do so too ? Some may do BO , l > ut I fear they are too few in number to save ns when wo fall. But , worst ol all , those whoso load wo follow and whoso honor wo trusted are first to turn away and last to extend a helping hand. On you wonder that I complain ? Now , can you recall an instance where a girl , who was reported to hivvo indulged too deeply in wine , or who had taken in the town , or staked her pin money on a base-ball game , was not tabooed ? It is quite probable that some very nleo ladies have done all these , and possibly more , without snil'orlnK any ill ofVcots , but if so it was not found/out. If caught in n flir tation a girl is liable to be hauled ever the coals , and may oven go to her grave with a Htigmn on her character. Don't understand that J am asking that women bo allowed those privileges , I merely ask that men be hold up to the same moral standard. Ycnrw and years of exemplary life will not atouo for n sin committed by a woman Othat would not be thought of if committed by a man. 1 know men who nro looked m > to in the social world , and regarded as pillars in the church , whose escapades are notorious , or at least are generally known and freely commented oiiv As far as I can discover they are none the wor.se either morally or other wise. wise.We We all know good men , or those who nro accountably good , who were notori ously bad in their younger days. They reformed , nid were given a great deal for so doing. When was n reformed woman over taken into the arms of .soci ety or Into the bosom of the church ? It is not improbable that an applica tion from a nsfurmu'i woman for ine'm- bnftihln In , omo of our fashionable church ' would bo voted down by men who have been much lower than she over was , und poisibly no better when they cast the votes that send her back to the gloaming. Women Who WorJc. St. Paul Globes It is a very curious reason that a youug man who lias evi dently rend hisGloboto good advantage ndvaiK'ns as an explanation for the over- increasing mimbor of bachelors , Ho ungallantly - gallantly n * erl.s that by entering Into competition with men for employment nnd nsoriiug her willingness to work at last tlr.ui tliu usual rate of compensation lovely vromun hnsRo Intruded upon occu pations anottnily- regarded ns exclusively muftcnlc and has luwored the standard of Wftgra to Mush a liegren that the young men oil her riud themselves without occu pation or in H position ilnancir.liy where nw'iuga is as fur IKS the North Polo. The unohiviilroufl youth fuUhnr alleges tliKt vromun'tt proper sphere is to stay at horn * and acquaint herself with house- heM duties , tlint she may become u lov ing a'ul car.r.blo Wife , lostoud of entering ihu SJeli ! of labor in ofliocn and ( shops , ivhero * hu Is n ; > t to aoqulr * a doubtful re ; > u- ( ion , ano wher-J enc < i eftublUhftd.Mie must relinquish all hopes of uiarriige , The argument * of our itcnriBn-hst petulant voung frlcn.l urn very poorly founded , iHo forgot * thnt it U not wfUila th power of all women to remain quietly In the en joyment of a comforuble home. Many , lee many , of thuni are compelled by stern nercssily to light tingle { mnded. tba ba ! n for bread , and , like tint good , brave girl.1 ! they are , they m resolutely about } t , Ktcktnyvlinfover honest ompbyniunt inr.y come to l.ar.d. If in the contest tlwy enter upon a , Held hitherto e.xclu- nively occupied by innn , and mainuhi a footing tiicr < i. to the hitter's I'.Jv po much the more credit is due them for their persistence. There is no law of na ture or of man that gives the laUer ex clusive right to existence or prescribes the manner by which it may be procured. The women have just as good a right to make the light as the men , nnd if the lat ter are crowded to the wall It is a state of things which merely tells of their weak ness. The world Is broad enough to give all a living , and tlm man who assorts that his is being taken from him by the infusion of female com petition in his chosen calhnc it very apt not to be deserving of it. 80 far from the competition of women lowering the wages scale , it is a notorious and dis graceful fact that women are paid much less for the same work than men , and often milch better performed than it is by tholr masculine competitors , who nov- orthlcs-s reet'ivc , beeau.so ot an inexplica ble prejudice , the higher rale of pay. The consideration which should actuate an employer .should be neither sex or prejudice , but capability alone. The slurring intimation that a girl with dilll- unity maintains her reputation free from ( . alum n V when serving behind the coun ter or in the olliee Is innyorlhy of an American youth at all gifted with the power of observation. 'lite. experience of all employers has dnmonstrati'd that virtue and self-respect are as apt to bo found clad in the. calico gown of the shop girl as with tlio silk and satin whose glimmer and show make bright tlio fash ionable drawing room. The young man who doesn't marry through a base fear that feminine competition is overcrowd ing the ranks of his fellow workers is probably uU'onling some girl a lucky es cape. Tlio Iiuily'w 3In.ii of To-day. Hrooklyn Kaglo : The modern lady's man is radically dill'erout from the old- timer. Not very long ago the term lady's man suggested a gushing sort of a chap , who limbed foppishly , displayed n ten dency to sport sky-blue neckties and nH'cct olleminato manners , squeezed his feet into small boots and went to a vast amount of pains to render himself objec tionable to other men. lie chatted about dancing , was full of small talk , loved to carry a fan or a bouquet , bowed perpet ually , daintily and on the slightest provo cation , and was altogether a. useful sort of a _ fellow to Imvo around luncheon , sowing and commerce parties. Occa sionally he had a violent rival in a lady's man of the Major Magstoek type , who was as masculine , dashing and abrupt as the oilier was the reverse of it all. One seldom sees an old beau of the dashing military type now , however , and the gushers among the male sex are not pop ular. Ladies' men have changed amazing - ing their manners are subdued , digni fied , and exclusive , they seldom dance , their brows are heavy , and they only smile after due deliberation and with a high regard for ellect. The most solemn , earnest and appar ently abstracted man of my acquaintance is a tremendous masher whoso sway is acknowledged from one end of New York to the other. He wears loose fitting clothes of an unconspicuous pattern and cut. makes no pretensions to foppery , and is not particularly handsome , lie is exceedingly careful of the small courtesies ' sies of lifo.'his bill with florists averages $1500 a month , ho is continually making inexpensive but interesting presents , and lie is the soul of discretion. Kvory where lie goes he is besieged , but his sallow faco'nover lights up , and ho pursues the business of subduing the feminine heart with analytical care , determination and skill of a chemist conducting a series of dangerous and important experiments. "Three kittle Maids. " & < / < , TICK MA1DKW OK ( JISTKIU.Y IOVJ5. Thy maidens fair , oh Quaker Town , li'en those of low degree , Arc nt their best when talking of Their lengthy pedigree. . Well , this one's strong on man v points , Hut especially Is skittish , When you can get her harping on Most anything that's ifntisb. YR nOSTONKSB I.ASS1R. 'Twouhl take four columns to put down On what this lady gloats , But she'sa dazzler wlien she speaks 'Bout Buddha , Beans and Uoats. KJfVOI. Hut they are all nice girls. Too Much Time Wasted on Pnncy AVork. Boston Glebe : The term "fancy work" la at times only too truly descriptive of the things to which it is applied , for they often .seem to have been made under "tho light that never was on sea or land. " i When tliesft objects are worshiped by their makers , as is frequently the case , no sin of idolatry is committed , for they do not come under the bunds momtioned in the commandment , since they are not , whatever may have boon intended , tlio imago of anything in the earth , in the heavens above , or m the waters under the earth. Besides being meaningless they nro absolutely useless ; and under the head of useless articles it is not in tended to include those which nro purely ornamental , for "beauty is its own excuse - cuso for being , " and tlio beautiful is use ful in the highest sense. 15 nt what possi ble nso or beauty Is lo be found in the straw or isinglass "air castles , " for in stance , whioh were so popular a short time ago ? Or in the worsted or feather llcworc , which are at best but poor travesty upon nature ? Or in a dozen ether things of the same general character which will at once occur to the reader ? 1 1 is enough to make ona weep some time ? . to see women putting hours , days , yes , oven weeks , of precious time into Borne bit of useless nnnsenso of this sort ; ephemeral "fashion" of the moment which in a few months will bo worn outer or cast aside as iis&lesH. American women do too much fancy work. The tendency among too many of them , especially unmarried ladies nnd young matrons whoso household and family duties are light , Is to spend honrn over Komu "fascinating" piece of work , which had far better bo spent outdoors in rid ing , driving , or walking , playing tennis or croquet , rowing a boat or praotieing archery , geologizing or botanl/clmr , or oven In reading. .Fancy wort should bo not the main object and occupation of life , but merely un "incidental divertisse ment , " s the oporu programs ray. Much can bn accomplished by having some light , prut ty work on hand , into which one CHII work the odd , spare momenta which would otherwise run to wasto. Only remember that oven these moments of lime are far too precious to bo put into anything that doesn't "pay. " nnd cheese your wt-ri : wircl'ully , that they bo not wasted. for tlio Fair Fliicrf | ) . Finger rings are again worn in Inreo numbers b.y Indies , The largo b.ill rings now worn in Paris will 1m ready huro lor thn full trade. The piuxln ring iJ ! Platinum and teohl continues fashionable , while the ram's head leads iho style just now iu rings for gentlemen. In gem earrings thn solitaire rings con tinue to take the lead , baing at ouco the most cfTi'ctivo nnd costly. IJnt there are nlso earrings whore the gonw are set in clusters. A ctanun ! | fancy In rings is the one that employs three vary light , slender , und eepanvto gold shanks sol with sjnlo stones. These nra worn on one linger , so that the stones slip past each other and appeal like a sin jl ling sot with tbroo&euis. The fancy for line gems set in a uilviir or platinum ring , aspeoially among gen- tloir.on who pojsess a great jearnmg after English styles , continues too lim ited extent. A usual arrangement la that of a hoop with one or thruo. gcir.s im bedded In it. Occasionally one sees a gem set high in these rings. A now ring is that in which the ends of the shank pass with closing. These ends turn In opposite ways and are set with different stones. One seen contained a sapphire and a diamond. Not only \a \ the result pleasing , but as the ring is not closed , it will lit any linger without being cut or soldered. The marquise ring is In favor. Now examples seen recently were made with slender shanks and in medium sizo. One ring had an opal for a center gtonc , the remainder of the setting being filled Vtith rose diamonds. Very pretty etVects are gained in marquise rings sot with small gems of uniform sixc and color , small as diamonds or rubies. Occasionally the gems are made to go partly around the shank , so that no gold shows , and the ring appears to be made entirely of gems. A It lira I Courtship , Ti < i ntti. "Sweet lady of the rural grove. Whose eheek allures , whose smiles attract , O wilt thou let ' " ' , me swear my love' And the goose quacked. . "These sylvan shades have grown most dear Since here thy spirit mine enthralli'd : Wonldft tliou a lover's ple.ullng hear' . " ' And the cow bawled. "The love awakened in my breast Can never , never be concealed : O , wlltthoti spuru It when confessed ? " And the pig squealed. "Ileneath these soft , unclouded skies Aly strolls with thee have made me clad : O , wilt thou hear and heed my Highs ? ' * And the c.ilt b.ih'd. "The city's turmoil called for me. Hut licio my hi art my steps delayed Ah I woiildst thou grieve if I should lleci" And the mule brayed. " 1 ne.'er have mot so fair a face. Nor with a sweeter angel walked : How can 1 leave this place ? " And the hen squawked , "The roses all of these proclaim , Hy limpid stream or wludinir road : All .sylvan sounds they bieathe thy name. " A rooster etowed. "J hear a voice In whlsperlne airs About these landscapes fair and broad : My heart doth pave thy mth with prayers. " Anil the crow cawed , "O , maid of rural haunts divine , bo lar above all mille or erall , Wilt thiiit not promiM ) to b mine ? " And the Ilirt laughed. I'll ( I H null Uralds. Detroit Free Press : "What are the la test kinks in relation to the dressing of our wives' ' , daughters' and sweethearts' hairY" asked a reporter for the Free Press of Mrs. Allen who hail just returned from yew York , Boston and'Philadelphia. "Well , one of the most noticeable facts of the hair market at present is that the demand for cheap qualities of hair has ab solutely and entirely disappeared. Noth ing but the best gra'dcs ot hair are called for now , and those dealers who a few years ago made a specialty of Chinese hair , jute and other cheap substitutes , have either failed in business or have left it for some other occupation. " "Why is that ? " "Ik-cause the fashion of wearing vast quantities of hair lias become obsolete. It used to bo th.it cve.rybody were pull's , braids , 'rats' , coils , frizzes , and so on ad lib. Then the poorer classes of people , bound to keep in stvle , were forced to use the cheap substitutes. " "What are the fashions now ? " "They are not definitely settled yet , be cause the latest styles in bonnets nro not yet announced. Styles in hair are governed by styles in bonnets. If the now bonnets call for more hair than has been worn recently , then styles of dress ing hair to match the bonnets will be do- signed. If the bonnets say less hair , the hair-dressers will follow the suggestion. There is one style already fixed , however , and it's a pretty one. It is called the Rus sian or V bung. " "What's that ? " "It. is dressing the bangs high and free from the temples and down in a V-shapo over thn brow. The pompadour pull'will 1) * worn in the .samo outline also. The Dutch braids , too , will continue in style , more so , perhaps , than ever before. " "What are Dutch braids ? " "Small braids of hair pinned close to the head in coils and other forms. This style is particularly adopted to well- shaped heads , and has proved quite popu lar. There is a feature about the pres ent stvlc of hair-dressing which gives those ladies who are not able to spend much money an equal chance with their wealthier sisters. 1 have observed dur ing my years in the business that the poorer classes have the most luxuriant hair. " "How do you account for that fact ? " 'I think it is because the wealthy people ple , as a rule , are invariably experiment ing with their hair combing it too much , washing it with this o > - that mixture , and in various ways trying to force the growth , increase the quantity or change tlio color. The poorer girls and women let nature do its work without interrup tion. With the present style of wearing a moderate quantity of hair the poorer people may shine equally with the wealthy " thy "ones iii that respect. " "How about hair ornaments ? " "Shell ornaments are to bo most pop ular , I think , and the old-fashioned combs of tortoise sholl'ctc. , are coining in favor again. " "Is it tlio proper thing for ladies to 'shingle' ' their back hair ? " "Not now. That was an English inno vation , which served well for hot weather and seaside resorts , but it does not last in favor , except with actresses , for whom the style iskijgreat convenience in nutting on wigs , traveling and the like. 1 believe - liovo tlio Canadian ladies are still shing ling their baek hair , but after all it is a style which suits only small girls or ladies with peculiarly childish faces. Woman of Oio Worlrt. Mine. Mary Soso , the original Solikn in Meyerbeer's "L'Afrieaine , ' has retired from the stage nnd will devote herself to touching. Mrs. Leland Stanford Is about to build a handsome and well-appointed hospital for old men nnd women in Albany iu memory of her parents , The Idea of placing export typo-writers in hotels to attend to the correspondence of guests originated in the fertile brain of it woman. 11 bids fair to become an institution , A large library could now bo gathered of works written by women. It is stated that Count Leopold Ftirri , an Italian , who died at Padua in 1817 , left a collec tion of ! 52,0X ( ) volumes written by women , Miss Stanley , n Dakota girl , spent the summer entirely alone , without oven a cvt ; for company , on her claim four miles from Wateronry. film had ton acres of grain , a line garden , and n watermelon pnloh. The employment of women In naviga tion is looking up. Kllen Maguire , n California matron , has been gianted a franchise running a term of ton years to maintain a steam ferry between Yullojo and Mare Island. One of the largest mail contractors on the Pacirio const is Mrs. I , 1) . McClain , She has accepted this year some twenty- three contract * , and her stage lines none- tralo Idaho and ninny parts of Washing ton Territory , According to the reports of the savings banks , workingwomen save more money than men similarly situated. As they are paid little more than half Iho wages re- ooiycd by men Iho fact I * generally to the credit of women , The National Nursing association , of London , provides trained nurses for the sick poor at their homes. Several phi- Jauthropiu women of this city have or- canixcd n chanty of the same sort. Let ilium have duo encouragement. Mrs. ilarioa Lousbury , at Lagrange , , lias 10,000 silk worms and many thousand cocoons qt good silk that are marketable at the rate of $3 per pound. The worms were produced from eggs about the first of Slay. For the reeled silk she will receive $8.75 per pound. It seemed n little too bad that after nil these years Mrs. Washington was known to have been a shrew , and the Father of his Country a hon'-pecked husband. Nev ertheless , ho never lost his dignilled per sonal bearing with all Ills curtain lec tures1 , and Mrs. Washington was cele brated for her wit , beauty and high breeding. The query , "Who introduco-l pink Hunting coats ? " which has been agitating London society , reminds one very mueh of the old ptizzo of childhood , "Who killed Cock Kobin ? " Mr. Yates' World gives the credit to Lady Hcsketh. the fair California ! ! , but Ijlfg antedates it by sev eral generations , and awards the palm to one of the daughters of the celebrated Duehess of Ciordon. It has leaked out that the position now occupied b.y Miss Hose Eli/.abeth Cleve land as editor of a Chicago magav.ine was not first oll'ered to Miss Klla Wheolor- Wilcox , as has been stated. The owner of the muga/ino did indeed oiler Mrs. Wheeler-Wileox charge of one of the de partments , and held out to her as a tempting bait that she woulil thus have a medium through which she could deal with her litorarv enemies. To her credit , bo it sald.she promptly declined the oiler. As long ns 450 years ago Jewesses praetjcci ( medicine m Frankfort. They especially devoted themselves to ophthal mia. A t'omali ! oculist who practiced In M58 ventured to reside outside the Sudeiigasse. and believed she could claim exemption from taxes on account of her profession and the general esteem in whieh she was held. But the municipal authorities ordered that she and all other iJewish female doctors should leave the city or pay taxes like other Jews. In HIM , however , the tax was remitted in one instance to the immense advantage of the Indv. Olio of Chicago's many successful women artists is Marie Koupal-Lusk. Horn and bred a neasant in Hohemia she began lifo in this country as a scrub woman in a Chicago boarding house. Hero her taste for drawing was by acci dent discovered b.y a boarder in the house a female iirtist who nncouraged her by kind words , and introduced her to a brother artist who was able lo give hoi- more practical encouragement. A few years later Marie Koupul had saved money enough to unable her to go to Paris and study there , Now she has a picture on exhibition in the Salon of the French Capital. FARMER JARBOE'S WICKED SON. A Quaker Kuther Mving in Mortal Four ofllls Unnatural Son. Across the hills in tlio Radnor district , Io.iinh Jarboe , a Quaker farmer , aged sixty-live , goes about the township heav ily armed for a most unusual reason , writes a Miller.stown , Pa. , correspondent of the Now York Sun. Two weeks ago Friend Jarboe sold out his 225-ncre farm and rocking-chair and basKet factory , with his line barn , stock , outbuildings , etc. , and with his good wife went to board at the village inn. Jnrboe's entire life has been one of peace , quiet , and respectability. His wife , Plia-be , is an amiable , Christian lady , aged fifty-six , kind and charitable , ana , with her nusband , has the love ami respect of the entire neighborhood. They have been thirty-eight years mar ried. One chilli , a son , now twen ty-five years old , was born to them. For the past live years Jonas Jar bee , tlio bon , notwithstanding the best of bringing up , has proved to be a terror to his parents and to the neighborhood. Up to the time when he reached his majority he was a faithful farm lad and obeyed his parents. A peddler came along , how ever , and told Jonas all sorts of cow boy stories , and induced him to become a tough. Jonas left home and studied crime for two years in Chicago , and shortly afterward appeared on his father s farm and "tore up" the neigh borhood. His father gave him a nice horse and carriage , ' but Jonas did not settle down. He did no work , got spending money from his mother , and wasallowoil to sleep ns long in the morning as he wished. One morning he got up at 11 o'clock nnd compelled his mother to send two of the maid servants in all directions among the farmers to hunt up a whole SDongo-cako ; for his breakfast. Ho raved and swore 'tor ' an tionr before they came back with the desired cake. Then ho went out where his old father was cutting down n willow tree that was an obstruction. Ho objected to the cut ting down of the tree , and then raced his fattier around the fjrm : , a butcher-knife in his hand. The elder Jnrboo had n narrow escape , reaching the house first and locking the door. These and many other outrageous acts on the nart of the son linally determined the father to conquer his boy. Ho gave him a last lecture in kind words , but m vain. Then one day , when the insolent son ordered away a steam-thrasher that the father had engaged , the old man caught his ollspring by the back of the neck and rushed him to the barn , where ho had all things prepared in advance. The old man Is strong. Ho tied his son with ropes to a big ladder , and with his blaeksnake cart-whip whipped him within an inch of his life. That night ho put bread and water near the young man. but still kept him tied. Next day old ' Jarboe triced the boy up again nnd'gave him such a severe Hogging that his howls were heard in the house" . The mother wanted to interfere , but the old man sternly commanded her to go to the kitchen and interfere no more. For four days the Hoggings were continued , and nt the end of each day's whipping thn young scapegrace swore to kill Ins father. All the whipping did as little good as prayer and kind words had done , nnd when the young man was finally liberated his spirit was unbroken. Old man Jarboe was broken-hearted. Afraid that his son would burn his prop erty , ho sold it all and wont to boarding witli his wife at the inn. The son de parted. Where ho wont is not known , but before he loft ho said hn would take a few months to study up the most horrible , cruel and diabolici't punishmentand then como baek nnd mete it out to his father. Farmer Jarboo said : "It is too bad , too bad. I wanted my boy to bo a minister or a lawyer , but ho would not go to school. Wo made a pet of him , gave him everything , Hn was our idol , our hope , our aft. Wo expected so much of him. Now 1 llvo in constant fear and dread. Wherever I go I constantly think of my boy , and the probability that 1 must kill him on sight or sillier death myself , Probably when I meet him I will just stand still nnd let him do his worst. I have instructed the slienlfto arrest him , but ho will evade the olllcials , 1 know. I never go out at night , and wo never have a light burning in our room , Wo change our room often , and I never sit at the windows at night for fear of being assas sinated from without.11 Old man Jnrboe always goes armed. The local constables have several war- runts for the young man , and , as thoj' believe ho will turn up when least ex pected , they are keeping close watch for him. When the weather is cooler Mr. Jarboo and wife wjll go to California to escape theirson. Ho Got Thuro. Somerville Journal : "Shay , conduct'r , " shouted the intoxicated passenger on the L road , "Why don't ' you call tli' stations plainer ? How d'you bhposo I'm goin1 to know where J'uiagoin'lf What 'uhucxt station now ? " "Police station ! " proclaimed the con ductor , in stentorian tones , as ho landed the Intoxicated iwssonger on the plat form. And as there happened by some strange chance to bq a policeman there , it Was- . < MISFITS IN MATRIMONY , Ties Thnt Bind and Slip Knots in tlio Do mestic Harness. KISS OF THE WIFE THAT'S TRUE. Thoughts on Mnrrlngo nil it tlio Mnn- ngcmcut of HiiabnudH AVniiien AVIio Deserve to bo Hon ored nml Jlcspcctcil. Hiss of the Wife That's True. Xew y'v > h Mail dim BJTJJWH. Tlioie's the kiss pressed on the lips of the child , Of lovers when p.utlnc at nleht ; The kiss of mother our sorrow beiMillcd , Miiklnc tuo lace cherry and bright ; The kiss so silly ot ptiN who meet , Whoso bllsslessly kiss In lieu ; Dm the kiss that lasts and makes life sweet , Is the kiss of the wile that's true , Kls < of In kinds aseountle as sands Of liieiidshlp , betrayal , deceit ; 1 lie kis < on the eyes , tin * forehead , the hands , The kl.ss tlmt Is nwkwniil and ne.it ; The kiss that Is given the one we steal , The kiss that awakens ns all throucli ; Hut the s\\octest kiss that lips can feel , Is the kiss of the wife thats Hue. There's Hip klssofyontliaiidthe klssof years , And the kiss we lay In iho irrave ; The kiss wo pioss in sunshine and tears The kiss tor the blow of the brave ; Hut Hie kiss that is the kiss of lite. To him whom the gamuts run tlinnifrh That brim ; surcease to aiiL'ulsh and stufo , Is the kiss ot the wife that's true. The Sucoessl'iil Wife. Philadelphia Kecord : It is a foregone conclusion thnt the chief cud of woman is to marry. And it is no less true that the question of marriage is one in which Iho women of the world are more nearly interested than in any other. This being the ease , the wonder grows that there are , o many ill-sorted marriages and un happy homes. The cause for many mis fits Is readily accounted lor , It is true , in the innumerable manages de conven- ance which are contracted every day , but there .still remains a vast number for which no reasonable excuse can be found. Let us peremptorily exclude all such marriages as arc made from policy , or from any motives other than pure ami unqualified affection. It is to be pre sumed that the girl loves the man she marries , or at least thinks she does , which at the outset means very much the same thing. And it is to ue presumed the man loves the girl he marries. The mat ter of choice being so much on his side ho is far less likely to deceive himself on that point than the maiden , Avho waits for the coming of Sir Galahad , and who generally is so eager for hi ? coming that she is pnmo lo error in his identity. The knights of old Europe made a special business of protecting women , es pecially such as had no natural pro tectors , and as a consequence devoted a largo share of their time to love-mak ing. Some of the exploits of these amor ous cavaliers , ns recorded in hlstorv , seem to us in these latter days to be tlio extravagance of folly. For instance , one lelKs how he never sees his lady-love's face without crossing himself. Another burns lamps and taper.s before the altar of the virgin that his mistress' heart may be softened. Another performs penance , and says a hundred masses a any to tno same end. One turns preacher , and in the pulpit recites Hie praises of ins lady , the listeners mistaking his rhapsody for a tribute to tlio virgin. One turns pil grim , and walks barefoot and bareheaded through Europe ; another curses himself , wishes that he may fall from his horse and never rise ; that his helmet may wear n hole in liis head ; that his bridle reins may bo too long and his stirrups too short , and that his horse may trot forever if his lady is not the most beautiful woman in the world , and so on through innumerable extravagance. The days of such chivalrous wooing are no more , but there is no record to show that tlio lover who/indulged / in such hyperbolical lovemaking - making was any more devoted or affec tionate as a husband than ho of modern times who sets about winning his wife in a less exaggerated manner. Neither is is there any reason to suppose that the words of knightly courtiers were any more endearing than the simple phrase's now whispered into maiden s ears. At all events the result is the same. Doubtless one of the greatest errors made by young persons is that blindness which glorifies the objcot of their all'ec- tions into a supernatural being. Many a girl has had her whole life-happiness destroyed because she obstinately chose to form her estimate ot the character of a lover exclusively b.y his behavior to ward her , and by his professions of devo tion rather than by hia conduct toward others. It is a pretty safe rule that a man whose whole lifo is but an oxampli- lication of selfishness will not for any Icngth'of time continue generous in Ins bearing toward his wife. Character is rarely revolutionized by marriage. And men sillier as well as women by marry ing an ideal. The girl of his fancy may bo pretty , bright and entertaining , but if she is not possessed of those qualities which lit her to bo his companion , conlidant and friend his chances of happiness with her as his wife are very meagre. Alittlo common sense in matrinonial ufTnirs. al though it may despoil the eftiirting days of something of their romance , is a very good thing. But courting dayp , no matter how de lightful , cannot last forever. The young people are married ; alack and ulasl that they are not more often mated. They go with the blessing of the parson and the good wishes of friends , nnd begin like the birds , to gather twigs and construct the homo. The woman , being naturally the more romantic , builds little air-cas tles for her hero. All the joy of the now life nnd the power to do for him comes with a force which is almost absorbed in buying and selling , scheming and plan ning. It is at this lime that the woman runs the greatest risk ot her life , endan gering wnat is loveliest in her by being too liberal with it. Man , of nil animals , is the most sus ceptible to creature comfort. A loving heart nnd u caressing hand are very allnri.ng , but they lose some of their enchantment if they forget to .son.son the soup and show and utter disregard for shirt buttons and sock hoels. J.ovo , oven when bound by the enduring chains of matrimony , is very rmioh sub ject to external influences , nml thn ma chinery that governs the domestic econ omy must be kept in portent running order. A man has nil eye for beauty in his wife , Ho notices the solt wave of her hair and tno lit of her grown with a wort of pleasurable pride , oven after time nnd trials have dimmed the glamour of lirst love , The successful wife must repre sent to her husband all the virtues- , must bo sympathetic and at the samu time sensible. She must be bright , uutortuiii- ing and agreeable at homo as well as abroad , and she must know how to pre serve silence when it is desirable to hold her tongue , oven though &he is ready to burst with Indignation. If she does not possess these qualities lot her cultivate them most assiduously. And inwrn is no trait that is such a powerful factor In household harmony as luslmllntlon to become one in thought and purpose , lo have kindred tastes and kindred wishes. The theory of tliu nfllnity of oppo = ites was hopolcstdy exploded long ugo. The picture of a petite blonde Deidemoiui clinging to a swarthy Othello Is very pretty , but if Othello's mind is out of tune with JJcsdemoun the afliuity cannot A woman's natural impulses lead Qlier to cheese a ruler ami guide in her husband. Very few women duslro to rule the-man to whom they link their destiny. The inio.wif * tfivos lo her husband her heart's beat gift ; she re joices in him , is proud of him nnd wishes the whole world ( o bo In sympathy with her. Hut let her notcrr In thinking that her love can bold his. The love whieh prompts nnsellishness , thotightfulness and consideration Is very good , so far as it goes ; but It must bo tempered with common sense so that in Its absorption it does not neglect the comfort of the holiso and forget to be agreeable and dainty. The women who live for the sake of home and happiness will lind in this the secret of success , nnd the women who want to rule may thus become rulers in the best acceptation of the term , and with no fear that their lords will bo called hen-pecked. A Few Thoughts cut ? larrli\e. ! Health and Homo : Thinking people who have at heart tlio besl Interest-s of society recogni/e a growing teiiileuey among \vhat is termed the middle class in this country to shirk thn duties and re sponsibilities ol married life. They deplore the evil consequence as r social and national misfortune. Nations are composed of individuals , and it goes without savin- ; that ns a rule the man who is boitntl by family ties is more patriotic and more willing to render as sistance in tliu hour of his country\s need than he who has no home of his own to defend , Marriage is also a divine insti tution , and a duty every one owes to nature. Hut notj only is celibacy on the increase , but U is strongly asserted that as a pcoplo wo are degenerating physi cally. Many causes contribute to this latter result , such as ignorance of mil lire's ' law nml improper living , while the former is due in a largo measure to the fnko ideas of the times in regard to connubial Imp- pinei.s. Formerly , among the happiest class , those with "neither noverly nor great riches , " it was customary for n young couple commencing the voyage of life to work together , tlio wife doing her own housework , cooking , mending , etc. , while her husband provided the nifan.s. Tims mutually helping each other , the daily tasks became a pleasure , expenses were at a minimum , thn founding ot a home was the object and the family cir cle the shrine at whieh they worshipped. Sweet homo. "Where the treasures are , there the heart will be also.1 Siieh lives were not failures , oven though fortune knocked not at tlio door ; but , if per chance it did , and success rewarded thi-ir cllorts , and the goal for which they had striven was reached , that , was the crown ing glory of it all , and they o ild allbnl to t'ike life easier. Hut now all that is chanced. A young man is expected to accumulate enough before marrying to support a , wife in idleness and In.Mtry. She is not to bo a helpmeet to him , but a sort ot dainty pet. dressed in line and costly raiment , waited on by servants , constantly in pursuit of pleasure , and without any conception of the .sterner realities of life. She may speak Frciich and German fluently , but she has no practical knowledge of house work ; paint on china , but has no culi nary skill ; and , although she plays diili- cult imiMi : , cannot darn a stocking , nor does she know what economy menus. Not that the so-called higher accom plishments are undesirable , but they should not take precedence in rank over the more useful ones. Otten no attempt is made to establish a home at all ; they simply board at some hotel. The young man is afraid ho cannot fiiipportTso expensive a creature , and is it any wonder he hesitates to assume the responsibility ? Is there a remedy ! Yes. Teach young ladies tno importance of thoroughly understanding domesiio du ties and putting them in practice. Let them remember that the greatest em ployment does not arise from the pur suits of pleasure , but in having some definite aim in life and realizing that they are Hearing its object ns time elapses , and that woman's first duty is to her family. Further , one sees on every hand girls belonging to the intelligent working-class , who , from necessity , have been compelled to learn at home the useful art of housekeeping and other domestic duties , who , moreover , are blessed with physical health in a high degree , induced by their more simple mode of lifo and abundance of exorcise , and many of them possessing withal at least equal beauty with their more del icately reared sisters. Men are naturally attracted by female beauty , and if they find intelligence , re finement and true worth associated there with they do not care for one's ancestry , whether they were oankcrs or literary people , -working men and women , knowing that worth is the result of indi vidual conduct and not of royal blood. But , alas ! the majority of the class of girls referred to are of limited education and uncultivated manners. Veritable diamonds in the rough. Why can't they appreciate the situation , and with the ad vantages afforded by free schools , public libraries and the general freedom of so ciety polish up , think less of dress and shovr , and any man whoso attentions are worth having vyill entertain more respect for them than for the butterflies of fash ion. Many an independent , sensible , high-minded merchant , professional man or others well-to-do would bo only too glad to got such a girl for a wife. Women Who Should lie Honored nnd Ki-spcotiMl. Miss O. Y. G. , in Piltsburg Dispatch : In your recent article on matrimony yon say : "Women have an idea that there is nothing in this world for them but to marry. They are brought up to think KO , and are so raised that they dare not feel independent , but are constantly harassed by the thought that if they allow a chance to go by they will bo left to grow up and die old'maids. , ' Now I should like to ni > k who is to blame for women holding this idea but the men. Where are the men that although they may in their own minds honor a girl who is bravo enough to defy the opinion of the world and undertake to make her own Hying in place of sitting idly down and wailing for the "coming man" will oomo out boldly and say soy No. the majority of them eny Unit woman stops outside her coiuimj.s of iier own homo for the purpose of enrniup money In ono of Ihu many avenue- ) open to her shu loies all her del- icnoy and womanliness. And yut such men claim that women look forward to nothing in life but marrlngo. I deny tlm assertion , as I know there are plenty of bravo , trite women , who , although they would posftihly accept Iho love of a bravo , noble man , M he cnmo "up to the .stand ard , " and they could give their own love in return , do not ooiiaidur it the solo aim of their life to "oaloh a Iniiband , " nnd accept the. lir.sloirorlo.st | Ihey be left lo die old maiiU. Why do not the men who wish women to think of something uho besides marriage ns ilmir destiny come forward with their help and xympnthy for tlio.-o who have tlm murid courage lo enter the busini'.sj rmm of life , iimeud of calling them strung niind- ! l women , and who would do all they could to keep them in the background rather than lend a lulr > ing haiul , or extend to them their sympathy in bravo , ohom-iii } ? words'/ Oh , no , tlio nii.n oi to day woii'ul latlier SOCK fur vmo. mid frlonds fiino'.ig tho.io who have no will of thenown. . and whoso I'igheit ambition is to drc.v , flirt , and iliiaiy ! accept a "jjuoii catch , " lest they should become old iniiidi , or be cause it i * ju.st what thij.v i ris e.'qwtod to do. Let the men show ! h t thuy honor ami respect llm womou who are coisragd- OILS oiiou h to ! lfht ilu'ir own iiMtlcs w.th DID vorlil , and many who v.snd baok for four of what vi.o i\on < ! win s .y will 'jomo forward amJ i\Xa : \ their : > i-\ : < :3 nnioug the ra l ; > ol lh.s uar.ue-.t , tr.ui huiiruid Vf'oniun wlmaro 'o-day littng bravely fo win Ulevislnnd PlaimliiaU-r ; A m-vn of position nnd wealth Is not always a pleas ant follow about the house. I have a friend , a lovely , intelligent woman , who has an elegant homo and wearing ap parel , but I happen to know thnt she dare not invest 50 cents without consulting the lord ot the mansion. Another , the wife of a millionaire , as she has no purse of her own , gets what she wants and solids the bill to her husband to storm over at his leisure. And Hello , do you know I believe Kve nto the apple bceause she wanted it and she liked il just as well ns Adam did , only she had too mueh honor to slip around and throw the blame on some one elsn. It is the lover's place tn manage to gel the girl he loves for n wife , and if both are what they should he them will bo no more cll'ort in that line needed to live happily together ns long n.s life shall last. No , we did not promise to manage our husbands ; neither do many of the present generation promise to obey. My lover spoke to the minister himself , saying ho wished that word lufloiit , fis he was mar rying a woman , not a child , and 1 assure you it has always been my delight to please him in every wav I could. He- sides , I believe there are few women nowadays , if they liml themselves bound to a stake with n log chain , but would he glad to liberate themselves with a .sly lib it they could. Then I don't believe' thai husbands have more care than wives do. 1 think these things are generally very fairly balanced , and if trials must come they should be borne by both unllineli- ingly. Yes , let us make home bright as po.sible , and with happy , sunshiny tem pers keep ( ho gray hairs out of both our heads , that is , if we don't like gray hairs , but 1 for one do nnd "lady sav let them como. There is ono thing Soloman eau remember--nearly every innn who Is worthy of a crown gets it. How is it , dear Pauline , that at the end of that stirring appeal should conic in the just and natural but blttur ery against the laws that man has made ? l > oe.s that hus band you reverence .so mueh believe that a woman who must obey the laws .should hi\e : a voice in makingthemy If not he needs a little managing. A Clint About Shopping , ( ! oed Housekeeping : A fmili. not so mueh of form as of substance , in ( shop ping is that foDlish. inconsiderate , indis criminate purchasing that gets a poor return for money expended. Probably no feminine fault in .shopping is so glaring as this one , where it is found atall. Some women are conspicuous for constantly buying something , and ye.t for having little at homo to show lor it. Their pur chasing is ill-directed. They buy a gown or some other article of dress , but tlm selection is made so incompetently that the color soon fades , or the fabric falls to pieces , or the garment is unbecoming. If this housewife does the marketing Mio will get sueh pieces of meal as aiie does not know how to eooli economically , or she will buy vegetables that somehow or other are considerably wasted. If blio gets perishable articles "she will buy too largo a quantity of them , so that a per tion must spoil. There will be a want of discrimination as to quality ami the mer chant will succeed in selling to her goods of inferior quality , whieli are duueptively prepared , and which the good shopper i * on her guard againsl. The best shoupors in this country nro found among the middle classes , who live in comfort , without mueh luxury. They commonly stiow an ample equivalent for every dollar expended. The largo ma jority of the winion of thi.s class are ex cellent shoppers , and the men , too. Among more wealthy people there are associated both extremes in execssivu form. The trails that , nave made a per son wealthy are quite likely to bo tlio same that make a skillful buyer ; his pos sessions may represent wealth saved as well ns wealth acquired. On the other hand , the riches may have been got by good fortune by n person iv'io 'i.-us.foiv . of tlio characteristics that toll in wiw hhop- ping , and hence the other extreme. The shopping of the wealthy is either the very best or the very worst. The poorest classes do much to keep themselves in poverty by their almost in variably uneconomical shopping. Among both men and women imuroyidenco shows itself on every hand. The house wives of these families are generally in- tiustcd with the duties of purchasing the family supplies , and they make a specta cle 01 misdirected oH'orls. There is no idea of the fitness of things , of dill'er- enees in quality , of long use. It Is a least at times , to bo followed by long depriva tion , ju.st as members of the lower races Indians , aboriginal Mexicans and the like when they have earned a few dollars lars , will foafit on canned oysters ami other delicacies , and then go on short and poor rations for weeks. A Broe/.o to Order. Doslon Record : A fresh-looking west ern man , who siid : ho was from Feorin , III. , and was on his way back from the White mountains , stopped at the ollicu of the 1'all ' River line , in the old state house ; v * the other afternoon , uiut tiitid : * * FI "I want a stateroom on the steamer for day after to-morrow night. " Ycs , sir. " 'I want an outside room , up stairs. " 'Yes. sir. " 'Por'nrd ' end of the boat. " 'Yes ' , sir. " 'Wiml'nrd side. " 'Windward ' side of the boat ? How do wo know ; which will bo the windward fide of the boat ilny alter to-morrow . , night ? " Jb ' * "Can't help it The nights arc hot , and if 1 can't get a room on the wind ward of the boat I'll ' go on Hie train , " said the western man. "Ah , very well. " snid the olr.rk . , "I'll wire right on to Washington and have a northeast breo/.c onlorml for you for day after to-morrow night , Mire.1' The Peoria man bought his slalo-room ticket and went away perfectly ( satisfied. ttlail IFoWiiH N'ol In Kntolllnu Hull : "Na illoviteli"nild czar of liu sia t a servuni the other morn ing , "have you looked under the rarpot- for nitro-giynerino , and examined Ihn Hair brush for dynamite bombs , and tested tlio eoll'ee forMrychninu , and made the cook eat part of tlm rolls , and looked down cellar for barrels of gunpowder , and sent orders for all Iho Mispiuinun ar rested around the place last night to be hanged V" ' 'Yes , most noble sir , " answered the at tendant. "Then help mo on with my wow rilcfil-link ulster , and call the plr.loon r > polici ) to escort me across iho Jiall to the dining room. Thorn is not mueh enjoy ment in this kind of n life , but 1 llmnk heaven every day now that I dun't liyoln Chicago. " II U Texas Sifting. ? : Tiit wlfo of Deacon McL-cliin wiisa purfccl virago. Khonmdu life n unnui nil : Imnlrn to him. He was a mild , good man , ami hn frequently told hih friendwliun ; ! they suggo U'd that ho commit Kiiii-idn or make hU cscupo lo soiiiii foreign country- "Wis all have our oros-sus to boar In this world. She is my cross -ind I iiiu&t bear It pal'eiitlv. ' " Athiit lie took nick and a elurgynn'.n cnlKd to coiHulo him iu hi.s in .it hours. ' .tin ; good man didn't know Gvcr.ythin # , for I m naked M urchin if liu was prcprued lo die. The truth was , lie had been ach ing lo die for years. Now York .Sun ; "I dash oil' thosa . , little t'riig-i ncrj ODD ) in a whU' " . sutd S ; uh , ! 'i'.i-r ' ' periPtratit | ! : ; uu nin.ticui m. , " < < > ilc.-'iou * , ftiu't it ? " " 1 jinvu-11 : ' r-i.i-iric. : . ( " 1. " \Voli , I notlco yo'.n Incnd ) ' . ite.'ienil'y da | i oil' wlun yoi L'pii. . . ( looi ! luoniing.1'
