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THE NEBRASKAN 57 tlty (Efjancdtor's Column. has really become part of himself. He may not neglect social duties or pleasures ; but his Advice is asked for the young women of indulgence will be moderate, almost to the the University, about "going into society." Point of aceticism. The "good times'" are The tone of the request suggests that the ad- ,uw a"d far between. They have not been vice is expected to be such as to dissuade earned yet ; the future is not yet even reason young women from entering society. The ably assured. The earnest young fellow who invitation is declined with thanks. s striving to achieve, to reach the top, never For two reasons. First, the writer believes Hunks that there ought to be but live working that the social side of life, and of University days in the week and but nine working months life, ought not to be neglected. Second, it in the year; much less does he desire or feel is not understood that young women are in- willing or able to expand these holidays by dulging in "social recklessness" alone. There frequent evenings so spent as to detract from is very apt to be a young man involved, his cfliciency and from the value of the work There is no reason, therefore, why the arrow tne day following. should fly in one direction only ; unless it be The student ought to have much the same that the condition of affairs is such that sent feeling ; and is only reasonably sure of sue in one direction it is quite liable to hit both cess when he finds social demands playing a parties in interest. very secondary part indeed in his life. He It has been more than once asserted in these niay not become a recluse that is as unwise columns that the strength and value of the and narrowing as the other cntremc. But he University lie in the fact that it is not only a W'H surely master his social impulses rather preparation for life, but is the beginning of tluin permit them to master him. It is not, life. Whenever this latter condition is clearly as t is sometimes put, a choice between musty understood and fully accepted, there will be books and midnight oil, and converse with a loss of traditions whose room is really worth one's fehows. It is a choice between contin- more than their company, and of some cus- ll0lls ind wisely-directed activity, and hours toms which are narrowing and hampering of careless and thoughtless existence, rather than otherwise. As to the second question, What shall "so- The questions for each student to settle, ciety" mean to me? it simply implies that therefore, about society are precisely those there is society and there is society. To run which young men and young women must into a neighbor's once or even twice a week settle when they have taken hold of life with for a half hour's chat after supper, and before the earnestness and sincerity which ensure the work of the evening is begun ; a half dozen success. And these questions are, How much persons, or more even, meeting in the same time shall I give to society? What shall "so- easy and informal way once or twice a month, ciety" mean to me? for an entire evening, after athe labor of the s Every young professional man and ever' week is done ; to occasionally (rarely) enjoy young business man knows that if he is to an opera or a play or a lecture by twos or succeed he must work hard, very hard, during groups all this is one thing. But the more the first few years at least. There is a sort formal gathering, notice of which is by cards,, of momentum that can be secured, a reputa- a week or two weeks in advance ; prepara tion that may be earned, that will enable one tion for which occupies time and fills the mind to carryvork easier by and by. But at the and often makes undue drain upon the purse ; start, and that means for the first ten years at the gathering which lasts until far beyond the least, one must study his work carefully, can hours when honest men and women are seek rarely lay it aside, must keep close company ing the rest necessary for honest work on the with it by day and almost by night; until it following day this is another and very dif- HkwuwyuwntfMWwMMHnHHMesaMM WaUAg3MCa2SC JtriUJlJm llWMKiMwttm, jjtj