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“They’re wandering wi^this
glazed lode on their eyes, saying, ‘Ob,
guy stuff. CooL’”
While fitting men for their tuxedos,
Bedient said, she is noticing more men
discussing traditionally bride-only
issues.
“I’ve heard a lot of times, ‘... We’ve
got flowers at 1 and cake at 3,’” die said.
That kind of concern can take the
pressure off an over-stressed bride, she
said. Yet it’s still the girth day, she said,
and the bride bears die bulk of the bur
den.
“The traditional roles are hard to get
away from,” she said
Brides are more detail-oriented,
Furnas said Many
brides, including
Chesnutt’s new
bride Jennifer, said
they knew what
type of a wedding
they wanted years
before they meet
their groom.
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the token gesture,
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Furnas said grooms’ input should
be used as often as possible, because
their friends and family also attend the
wedding. Also, both the bride and the
groom should enjoy the celebration.
One groomls input into a reception
involved the entire wedding party
boarding the Big
Red Bus and taking
a mp 10 a local oar
for a drink before
the reception.
Grooms also
may have an interest
or talent suited to a
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particular part of the
wedding. For exam
ple, Chesnutt’s
musical back
ground allowed him
to orchestrate the ceremony’is music. It
was performed by a brass choir that
inckided current and past members of
the Comhusker Marching Band
Chesnutt said he also helped choose
the flowers, reception hah and gift regis
tration list
His input on the wedding announce
ments didn’t gp so well, though.
“She asked me what I liked and then
said "That’s not good because it looks
like sometfah^you’d pick out,”’he said.
“I think she’s just being,nice so I feel
involved?’
After working with many cobles,
Furnas said grooms often say, “At the
end of the day, we’re going to be mar
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better resource than his bride-tohe.
Whatever role the groom plays,
Furnas has some practical advice gath
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marry.
T see the guys as framing out the
big picture; they put the frame on the
house ... and the girls decorate the
inside,” die said.
“That’s what marriage is all about
People do what they’re talented in.
Everybody does their part, and the
whole job gets done”
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