Grief
Continued from Page 7
Williams said.
While it is easy to feel that the
death of a loved one is overwhelm
ing, he said, dwelling on it won’t
help.
“Definitely getting out and doing
something will be more helpful to
you,” he said. “If you aren’t doing
what you used to do, you need to
force yourself to get back into your
regular activities.”
Friends of those who have ex
perienced a loss can help in several
ways, Williams said. One impor
tant one, he said, is physical con
tact, which he described as being
very important to most people at
the time or a deatn or a loveo one.
Another way to help is to con
tinue to express an interest in the
person who has died. Williams said
most people dislike talking about
the subject, which deprives the
grieving person of the opportunity
to express his or her feelings.
“Ifyou are willing to be suppor
tive of that person, you need to let
them know that it is still OK to talk
about it even weeks and months
later,” he said.
Friends should even go as far as
bringing the subject up with the
grieving person, because many who
are grieving don’t want to feel they
are burdening others by talking
about it, Williams said.
“If you’re a friend, you
will bring it up.”
Wyuka
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propeller prop to mark his grave
stone.
Six Nebraska governors are
buried there, also.
The woman who answered the
phone at Wyuka’s office said she
nadn’t seen any ghosts, and she
knew of no one wno’d been killed
while in Wyuka. I felt a little com
forted, but I was still outside the
cemetery.
I felt a little on the edge, as if I
was saying to the grand grim reaper,
“Hey, w’sup? I’ll be sneaking through
your village of the dead for a while,
trying not to recognize your poten
tial power or my own fears.”
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ing. I arrived at the gate and brought
the bicycle inside.
I left my bicycle at the curb and
began walking across the lightly
snow-covered ground. I couldn’t
read many of the plaques in the
cemetery, until I found an unused
pack of matches in my pocket from
a restaurant in Madison, Wis.
A wave ot fear shot through my
spine as I looked around and
thought about all the dead people
I was walking on, so I tried to
picture where they were lying and
to avoid them.
Many of the tombstones were
grouped together by families. “There
lies my brother Tom," I said to my
self, play-acting, “and my sister Mary,
and my brother John." I felt a strange
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graves I was standingjon.
I remembered that there was a
section in the cemetery for infants
with a sign labeling it “Babyland.”
Everything but the trees was
dead, I thought; then I saw a dead
tree. It was cut at eye level and had
several protruding limbs cut at the
base. It looked like a piece of art,
and then I saw that it too was a
tombstone.
It sounds silly, but I felt every
one there was trying to say some
thing, to live one more moment, to
kick his or her tombstone over, to
say to the young: Enjoy life while
you’re alive. Maybe we all have a
dead person inside us that
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disinfectant.
Morticians use an embalming
machine in the process, McQuiston
said. It utilizes pressure to push the
blood out of the body through the
main artery. As the blood is pushed
out, the embalming fluid is pumped
into the body.
After death, the eyes and mouth
remain open, so cosmetic meas
ures are taken to close them, *
McQuiston said. The mouth is
generally sutured shut; and morti
cians employ a type of double
sided adhesive contact lens to shut
the eyes.
As the arteries are pumped up,
he said, the body begins to stiffen
and settle, so the features must be
set before embalming begins.
If the family favors cremation
over burial, two basic options
remain: direct cremation or a com
bination of embalming and crema
lion.
The direct-cremation process only
includes sanitization and crema
tion of the body. The ashes are
then placed in a receptacle of the
family’s choosing. In this case, the
body is not embalmed.
According to health department
codes, the body cannot be refriger
ated for more than 72 hours. After
that time, it must be cremated or
embalmed.
The option of embalming and
cremation allows the family to have
a viewing before the body is cre
mated, McQuiston said.
Cremation is the burning of the
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housed in the basement of the
mortuary and basically is a giant
furnace designed specifically for
that purpose, McQuiston said.
To be cremated, the body must
be contained in a receptacle of
some kind, such as a box or a
canvas bag.
When the burial option is cho
sen, the family has more choices to
make. The deceased must be
dressed; and a casket must be
chosen. The family may bring any
clothes it deems appropriate for
burial. Roper and Sons has no
requirements regarding dress,
McQuiston said.
"We’ve had pets cremated and
buried with the person," McQuis
ton said. J
Casket choices are numerous.
The casket’s bedding covers an
adjustable frame that can be adapted
to the size of the person.
“Generally, everyone can
fit in the same (size) cas
ket," McQuiston said.
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