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Many tasks to be done
Plan ahead for an easier wedding
Many things have to be taken care of
before a couple is ready to walk down the
aisle. The following is a partial list of things
that the bride and groom will need to ac
complish before the actual ceremony and a
time-table to schedule those tasks.
Enlisting a friend -- or two - to help plan
the wedding can ensure that nothing is left
out.
BRIDE
9 to 12 months before the ceremony:
• Select a wedding date and time.
• Set up a preliminary budget.
•Reserve ceremony and reception location.
•Decideon size ofguest list; compile names
and addresses.
•Select attendants.
•Select caterer, photographer and florist.
•Pick out dress and bridesmaids’ dresses.
•Announce engagement.
•Decide on officiant (minister/judge/pricst).
4 to 6 months before the ceremony:
•Some religions require pre-marital coun
seling. If this is necessary, schedule it now.
•Make final ceremony arrangements with
any contract or deposits.
•Order invitations.
•Check legal requirements.
•Shop for wedding rings.
•Start planning for honeymoon.
•Select and order wedding invitations.
•Decide on final menu for reception.
•Choose flowers to be carried, flowers for
church.
3 to 6 months before the ceremony:
•Plan music for ceremony and reception.
•Address invitations (mail four to six weeks
before wedding).
•Order cake.
•Make rehearsal dinner arrangements.
•Register with bridal registry.
1 month before the ceremony:
•Have final fittings of wedding apparel.
•Have blood test and get marriage license.
•Be sure all accessories are purchased (in
cluding extra pairs of hose, etc.).
1 week before:
•Give final count of guests »o the caterer (or
w hoever is supplying food for the wedding).
•Give photographer a list of desired pic
tures.
•Send change of address cards to the post
office, if moving.
•Release wedding news to local papers.
•Give musicians list of music desired.
•Pack honeymoon suitcase.
•Have rehearsal and rehearsal dinner with
participants.
The day of the ceremony:
•Be sure to eat something before the cere
mony.
•Have music start one half hour before the
ceremony.
•Have guests seated.
•Have groom’s parenLs seated five minutes
before ceremony.
•Have bride’s mother seated.
GROOM
6 to 12 months before:
•Purchase bride’s engagement ring.
•Discuss date and type of ceremony with
fiancee.
•Choose best man and ushers.
•Start planning honeymoon.
4 months before:
•Shop for wedding rings.
•Complete guest list.
•Select and order men’s formals.
•Finalize all honeymoon plans.
2 months before:
•Meet with officiant to finalize details.
•Assist parents with rehearsal dinner party
plans.
•Discuss floral arrangement (expenses are
traditionally the groom’s responsibility).
1 month before:
•Make sure attendants have been fitted and
formals have been ordered.
•Get wedding rings, make sure they fit.
•Take care of legal aspects.
2 weeks before:
•Gather necessary documents with fiancee.
•Arrange transportation for wedding day.
•If moving, give change of address card to
post office.
•If not, make room for fiancee’s belong
ings.
1 week before:
•Discuss final details with fiancee.
•Pick up wedding attire and try it on.
•Reconfirm honeymoon arrangements.
•Attend rehearsal and rehearsal dinner party.
The day of the ceremony:
•Eat something in the morning.
•Start dressing one hour before ceremony.
•Give best man the bride’s wedding ring,
officiant’s fee and marriage license to hold.
•Have best man and maid of honor sign
wedding certificate.
Marriage values
mirror changes
in social conditions
By Lisa Donovan
Senior Editor _---—
Although Americans consistently view
marriage as an important societal institu
tion, marital attitudes seem to reflect the
social and economic conditions of the times,
one UNL professor said.
Craig Johnson, University of Nebraska
Lincoln sociology professor, said, “Society
is moving toward a liberal swing that may
have consequences for marriage and fam
ily.”
Students and non-students alike are more
aware of social issues, Johnson said.
According to Johnson, society is seeing a
‘ ‘swing away from the ‘rneism ’ of the ’80s.”
A long time ago, Johnson said, economic
stability of the family took priority to happi
ness, because it was necessary to survive.
“The economic centrality of the family
has declined,” he said.
With the changing roles of men and
women, Johnson said, “society is more
individually oriented.”
Johnson said if the economy took a plunge
and job opportunities were tight, people
would have to rely on each other a lot more.
“If there was a depression tomorrow, 1
think that the family unit would become
stronger,” he said.
But as couples venture into married life,
there are several signs of the times.
Johnson said as people move away from
the materialism associated with the ’80s,
they are less willing to do things like “blow
big bucks on wedding rings.”
On the other hand, people will continue
to have big traditional weddings.
And following a trend of the 1980s,
Johnson said we will see more and more
couples waiting until they’re a little older
before getting married.
Many couples want to fulfill themselves
individually, before they can make a good
and happy life with one another.
Although qualifying a good marriage is
subjective, Johnson said he thinks there are
a few things he sees as prerequisite.
Sharing common interests as well as the
same educational background can produce
a healthy and happy marriage.
Research indicates that people w ho pur
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