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freshmen's first semester
By Cynthia Hutchinson
Staff Reporter
Some freshmen experience home
sickness in the beginning of the year,
while others feel it toward the end of
the first semester. But almost everyone
must cope with homesickness.
"Any student is subject to it," said
Vernon Williams, director of the Coun
seling Center at Seaton Hall.
"The big thing is the change from a
fairly stable environment that you know
about and you know how to cope with
to one where there are a lot of new
things," Williams said.
Everyone is a likely candidate for
culture shock, he said. The question
seems to be who will suffer the most.
Deb Mullen, in her second year as a
UNL residence hall director, said she
suffered from homesickness because
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she was from a small town.
"Students come to me and say, 'I
can't believe how big this place is.' I
say, 'it's probably bigger than where
you're from,' " said Mullen, who has a
master's degree in counseling.
Jennie Schnoor, a former UNL stu
dent assistant and currently a graduate
student at Syracuse University, said
people from large towns have an advan
tage because they usually know people
at UNL.
Mullen said popular students who
were involved in everything in high
school sometimes suffer the most.
"They come here expecting that sort
of notoriety," she said.
Ron Cantor, a UNL residence hall
director, has several years of expe
rience in dealing with homesickness.
He said freshmen aren't used to their
new independence and new opportuni
ties at college. They may not be comfor
table with new friends, he said.
'You go into a fresh
man's room and it's
like stepping into
their high school
prom.'
Deb Mullen,
residence hall director
Men and women suffer culture shock,
but as Mullen said, "You don't see men
crying."
Cantor said men sometimes will look
for attention by doing things they oth
erwise wouldn't do.
Crying is one of the more obvious
symptoms. Other symptoms include
calling home every day and constantly
eating alone.
Mullen said homesickness also can
be detected when "you go into a fresh
man's room and it's like stepping into
their high school prom."
Williams said a typical sign is "feel
ing lousy like the flu." Students actu
ally can make themselves physically
sick, he said. "The sickness (of home
sickness) does describe some of what's
involved."
Schnoor said homesickness is rela
tively easy to spot. "A lot of times peo
ple withdraw or talk about home and
how much better it is," she said.
Like all student assistants, Schnoor
received homesickness training before
the beginning of the semester.
"Most of the SA's are upperclassmen
and forget what it's like to be home
sick," she said.
The fact that homesickness for some
people occurs later in the semester
surprised Schnoor when she was an SA.
"When things go hectic or when a
vacation looks a long way off they
would come to me," she said. She told
them that many people feel the same
way and encouraged them to "hang in
there."
But Mullen said things also can get
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rough during finals or if a student
misses special events at home.
Labor Day, the first 'Vacation," causes
problems for homesick students. Home
looks good after being at school for a
week that some students do not return
to school, Mullen said.
Mullen said students who return
home are in for a "shock."
"They discover the ranks closed
behind them somebody else has
taken their place on the football field
or on the cheerleading squad," she
said. "They can't go home in the sense
they want to."
Schnoor said one can't prevent peo
ple from leaving the university because
of homesickness.
"But you can talk to them about it
and make sure they know what they're
doing," she said. "With most cases you
hope it goes away."
A student has to make an effort and
students have to help each other. But
Williams said the parent has the most
important role.
Mullen said that what is worse than
students calling home every day is par
ents calling their sons or daughters
every day.
"Some don't let go," she said. Par
ents can say 'get involved' or 'come
home'," she said,- but parents are often
just as lonely.
She recommended the student and
parent work together. Either they can
talk about it or parents can encourage
their sons or daughters to get involved
or talk to someone at the university,
Mullen said.
Students are ashamed to admit
they're homesick, Williams said, and
that's probably why students rarely go
to the counseling center or the Univer
sity Health Center.
Mullen said about 15 students came
to her last year. She recommended that
homesick students should try to talk to
somebody they know.
Upperclassmen can do a lot to
"buffer" homesickness, she said,
because they've been through the stages
and know how to get involved in activi
ties, which is important in overcoming
homesickness.
Student assistants are told to
approach people who appear homesick
and ask them to get involved in partic
ular activities and tell them about dif
ferent groups on campus.
Both Mullen and Schnoor said most
students eventually learn to cope with
homesickness.
Mullen said students realize, usually
after they get involved in something,
that they can build a life of their own at
college. During the first semester, she
said, some students cry because they
miss home, but in May they'll be crying
because they'll miss their friends over
the summer. '
"A lot of times they go home over the
summer and are uncomfortable. This
(college) has become a way of life,"
Mullen said.
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